Culture Study Podcast - May 20, 2026


A Big Juicy Gossip Episode

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00:01:22.000 This is the Culture Study Podcast, and I'm Anne Helen Peterson.
00:01:26.960 And I'm Nicole Hill, host and creator of Our Ancestors for Messy.
00:01:30.820 What is your relationship to gossip, and specifically historical gossip?
00:01:36.960 Because we're going to talk about all sorts of gossip today,
00:01:39.720 but part of the reason that I really wanted to have you on the show is because, like me,
00:01:43.940 you are a freak about historical gossip. So tell me all about it.
00:01:49.540 Okay, I really went on a journey because I was very much like, I shouldn't care about these things. We should all care about important things. And I dabbled, of course, in the Vanderpump rules and the housewives of the world. But this was not something that I like, led with. And then during the pandemic, when it was just like, we're all so isolated. One, I found myself really missing, like, I just dove into the housewives like everybody else.
00:02:15.240 just I was a bravo just all the way in but I really miss the little dramas yeah everyday life
00:02:21.380 and like watching my co-worker flirt with my other co-worker and being like what's gonna happen there
00:02:27.160 or like just walking down and always seeing like that lady at the window like with her coffee and
00:02:33.400 then like her partner's there what are they gonna do those were the things I really really missed
00:02:39.080 Yeah. So like, I feel like I was on the search for gossip anywhere I could find it. And then I happened to stumble into some historical time. But I wouldn't say before that I was all that drawn to historical gossip specifically. I thought it was cool. But I don't think I've, I was like, let me seek it out. If somebody had made a podcast about it, I'm sure they did. And I'm sure I listened. But I wasn't like, actually, I know I did. Oh, I'll never remember the name of the show.
00:03:07.060 but it was about historical gossip and there was some lady poisoned a bunch of people and i was
00:03:12.060 like tell me everything were you interested in like the history of stardom or like the history
00:03:17.380 of black stardom in particular i adore old hollywood it is my favorite thing i have since
00:03:23.060 i was a middle schooler so this was this has been my bag and i've always loved and kind of
00:03:29.280 Eat True Hollywood or You Must Remember This.
00:03:34.920 Oh, my gosh.
00:03:35.800 Turner Classic Movies does a bunch of, like, before they would introduce the movie,
00:03:39.760 they would give you a little, like, juice of, like, Umarlin Brando and Frank Sinatra hated each other.
00:03:44.780 So he kept, like, messing up the take.
00:03:46.740 And just things like that I absolutely loved.
00:03:49.600 And I was always so curious about Black Hollywood.
00:03:52.540 Yeah.
00:03:52.700 But one, it was so small and the reporting on it was almost exclusively about their fight for civil rights and like how people had discriminated against them.
00:04:02.440 Or if there was gossip, it was like whenever they interacted with a white person.
00:04:06.300 But I didn't know anything else.
00:04:08.020 Yeah, it was like scandal mongering almost is how a lot of it showed up.
00:04:12.720 But I so my my relation is that I wasn't super into gossip as a kid.
00:04:19.080 At least I didn't think I was. 0.67
00:04:20.560 i mean i love like talking shit like any high schooler but i uh wasn't into like celebrity 0.91
00:04:26.840 gossip and then i found my way there when i started to get interested in old hollywood like 0.94
00:04:33.760 i think a lot of people they understand contemporary hollywood and they think it's
00:04:37.300 kind of interesting but also like in some ways i don't know it's just like so right there but then
00:04:42.200 once you dive into that like treasure trove that is old hollywood and the construction of all of
00:04:48.860 their images and this happened to me in college and it eventually turned into in grad school like
00:04:56.360 my focus for my dissertation was the history of celebrity gossip so so i spent so much time
00:05:04.380 in the treasure troves of like all of the old newspapers and the sort of gossip that
00:05:11.160 that traffics in like the daily columns and that sort of thing but also in the magazines where
00:05:16.400 like there was a lot going on there and I still I have this is before like wide-scale digitization
00:05:24.280 really took hold I have I cannot tell you I have like seven boxes of like magazines that smell like
00:05:30.740 my granddad that I bought on eBay um you're so lucky that's amazing and and I like part of the
00:05:39.540 reason i was so interested in your podcast in particular is that i loved seeing the contrast
00:05:46.920 in the way that the black press covered dorothy dandridge for example and how like life magazine
00:05:54.480 covered her right like what was important the conversations that they were having the
00:05:59.260 descriptions of her beauty like even just down to adjective choice like was so interesting and
00:06:06.540 And even though it's harder to get your hands on a lot of the historical black magazines, the newspapers have been digitized and are so easy to search and to unearth all of this discourse.
00:06:19.360 So once you get in there, you're like, I can't stop.
00:06:23.380 It's so fun. 0.63
00:06:25.000 And they vary in how messy they will be because ultimately the mission of most of the papers I've ever come across is to promote civil rights and is to amplify the sort of like dignified nature of being black because it's being written in contrast to something else.
00:06:43.940 But in order to sell papers, you have to appeal to all the sides of a human being.
00:06:50.100 And so just, oh my God, these columns were there.
00:06:53.300 you know i did an episode about paul robeson yeah and i don't think i've shared this but
00:06:57.520 the reason i did that episode is because i was reading a film review of paul robeson
00:07:02.520 of his like a movie that had come out and they were saying like first of all i mean the writing
00:07:07.740 is so like acerbic and like just like oh cutting and the double entendres and all this stuff is so
00:07:14.040 good but they were basically just like we're really glad that paul finally made a good movie
00:07:17.540 because he is out here just playing himself.
00:07:20.820 The last movie he made was so bad. 1.00
00:07:23.260 He looked like a fool. 1.00
00:07:25.520 He was like a joke. 1.00
00:07:27.260 And so he's redeemed himself.
00:07:28.380 And I was like, you're talking about Paul Robeson that way?
00:07:31.740 I've only seen him in the museum as a perfect, perfect person.
00:07:35.940 Right.
00:07:36.420 Well, and Paul Robeson, such a complicated history,
00:07:39.760 and we can get into this later too, with politics
00:07:42.680 and getting essentially blacklisted out of Hollywood for various reasons.
00:07:46.960 that, like, intersect with his race,
00:07:49.520 but sometimes that was not named as the reason why.
00:07:53.260 I would just actually direct people to listen to your episode.
00:07:56.840 Listen to the episode.
00:07:57.380 He, like, was at his time, and this is the hardest thing to convey.
00:08:01.420 This was a really hard part of writing it.
00:08:03.320 The time that he was alive, he was, like, the most famous,
00:08:07.260 among the most famous people on Earth
00:08:09.840 and in, like, all these different fields of, like, you know,
00:08:15.000 politics and music and theater and film and just like kind of like a look he was just a great
00:08:21.460 thinker like a he would have written all kinds of amazing diatribes on threads or whatever but
00:08:26.860 then he's just like deleted from history yeah and it's really hard to explain when somebody has been
00:08:34.160 deleted that they were like it would like how it would be wild to not know obama's name it would
00:08:39.720 be wild at his time to not know paul robeson's name yeah or like oscar michaud who is like yes
00:08:45.760 such an important figure in independent cinema and in black cinema and so many of the films were
00:08:51.040 lost because they weren't deemed worthy of preservation and there's been a huge movement
00:08:55.720 to like basically reintroduce his films and his contributions into like film canon but also
00:09:04.600 So there's, like, he was messy, as you talk about on the podcast.
00:09:08.380 His history is so messy.
00:09:11.800 I was so worried.
00:09:13.040 I thought his one actually wasn't, like, didn't have enough scandal.
00:09:16.640 But then I get so many letters, especially from film people, people who love old Hollywood, that are like, oh, my gosh.
00:09:22.500 Because I was really drawn to the fact that he is said to have been, you know, so he's like this icon, this legend of independent cinema.
00:09:30.020 And he kind of is the architect of black Hollywood.
00:09:32.840 Yeah.
00:09:32.940 And all these directors, Ryan Coogler and Ava DuVernay and Spike Lee, cite him as a huge inspiration for their work.
00:09:39.580 I watched a bunch of their interviews and them talking about him.
00:09:41.760 And the number one thing people say is, like, he's such a hard worker.
00:09:44.060 He's such a hard worker.
00:09:44.860 He grinds.
00:09:45.440 He grinds.
00:09:45.840 He grinds.
00:09:46.260 He grinds.
00:09:46.740 And then I read his autobiography that he wrote about himself.
00:09:50.360 And he was like, everyone keeps calling me lazy.
00:09:53.820 All these jobs are so hard.
00:09:55.300 I'm going to quit.
00:09:56.080 But it's not because I'm lazy.
00:09:57.080 And it's just this is such a the laziness is such a little.
00:10:00.660 that's the that's the battle of his youth and one of the many battles of his youth and it's so funny
00:10:05.160 because now we just remember him exclusively as like he was just born hard-working and he died
00:10:10.340 hard-working but he had to well and i think this is like sometimes memoir is used as a corrective 0.63
00:10:15.760 of like this is all the shit that you guys talk about me like let me let me show you something 0.62
00:10:20.320 um even that title so our ancestors were messy there's a lot going on inside that title like 0.98
00:10:26.520 trying to say our ancestors are not these paragons of like pure respectability at all times.
00:10:34.080 So can you, how did you come up with the title?
00:10:37.900 I, so there, the show, I've been working on it for a few years. The first iteration of it was
00:10:42.880 actually an episode on my independent podcast, The Secret Adventures of Black People. And it
00:10:47.600 was called The Ancestors Were Messy. And what I wanted to do, I just found the papers. I wasn't
00:10:52.880 thinking about context setting i was not thinking about academic analyses or bringing people into a
00:10:58.120 world i was just like look at these crazy newspapers i found you know yeah um and then
00:11:03.940 eventually it really evolved into this mission to say that these were they were just human beings
00:11:10.940 and they were figuring out what it would mean to be black and figuring out what it would mean to
00:11:14.900 be an adult and figuring out what it meant to be an american and um they weren't gods they just did
00:11:21.000 all those things as mere mortals and they made a lot of mistakes and they sorted it and so I think
00:11:26.000 when I'm thinking my marketing hat it's I mean there wasn't really a big marketing hat it really
00:11:30.300 was like they were really messy and also referring to the messiness of identity and yeah as a
00:11:37.340 storyteller most of my stories are about identity that's the thing I'm that fascinates me the most
00:11:42.800 and so I love the messiness of figuring out like who who you are as an individual but then also 0.84
00:11:49.340 like we're the first generations to be born free in america so like we're going to define blackness
00:11:54.120 and for oscar in particular i loved that he thought being black could mean that we were
00:11:59.300 going to move to one of the dakotas and start homesteads and that is not what happened i cannot
00:12:06.960 recommend this episode enough and also just like the idea too i think sometimes we think like oh
00:12:13.880 our ancestors like got married and then stayed married and like there was no drama and there
00:12:20.520 as the the gossip press evidences like there is there was a lot of shenanigans and it was not
00:12:27.080 ever as straightforward as we would like to think and I think sometimes that messiness gets lost in
00:12:34.240 the way that we tell stories about our families because we are trying to hold up some sort of like
00:12:41.440 understanding of who we are as a family right yeah yes completely and I do think that um when I first
00:12:50.260 started I talked about how it took a few years to make but that was because instinctively I just
00:12:54.680 was like okay if I want to make this show for real I need to delete all that gossip stuff I
00:12:59.140 found and just sort of talk about like the important things that they did but then when I
00:13:05.220 was listening back to it when I was sharing it with people I was like this one this doesn't feel
00:13:11.040 like a person I can relate to I am not perfect so I don't know you know I'm just going to sort of
00:13:16.040 observe this history but I can't engage with it and two it is not true it just isn't true to say
00:13:22.340 that they to talk about the achievements without talking about the struggle and the mess and the
00:13:27.360 mistakes that they made and I think if we do both then we can it's it's the history becomes more of
00:13:34.120 a playbook of how you even you an imperfect person can make change in your life whether that's like
00:13:40.420 starting a film business or starting revolution or finding love. I think you need to know all
00:13:47.760 of it to know what's possible. That is such a good tee up for us to talk about why gossip is
00:13:53.000 important in friendships, workplaces, history, all this stuff. We talk a lot about celebrity
00:13:58.540 gossip on the show, but we're going to talk about it. It's function, I think, like for normal people,
00:14:03.720 but also within communities, like we're going to micro and macro level here. So we're going to
00:14:09.020 start with a question from Zaina. Why does it feel so important that gossip is about real people,
00:14:14.260 even if we don't know the people? When I hear gossip, like on normal gossip or from friends,
00:14:19.380 I don't necessarily expect every detail to be true, but it feels juicy because it actually
00:14:24.560 happened to someone somewhere out there. I'd like it so much less if it were just a story.
00:14:30.480 What do you think? Wow, what a good question. I mean, maybe the first thing that came to mind
00:14:36.780 was what i shared before which is just like if you know that it's about a real person then you
00:14:42.760 can more easily insert yourself into the sheer shoes and be like would i do that would i not do
00:14:47.600 that you know and it's not pure escapism it's more of a choose your own adventure and that's
00:14:53.280 really fun like a low stakes one and this brings me to to like there's been all these books by
00:14:59.120 anthropologists like when i was doing all of my work i always had to like sort through these
00:15:05.380 where it's like looking in like a community in like like a small community and looking at how
00:15:10.480 like the matrons of that community gossip in china in red tent forneo yeah in the red tent right like 0.99
00:15:19.320 all this shit right and it's very clear that gossip is a way for especially women but not 0.95
00:15:24.500 exclusively women but to come up with norms right yeah it's a way that we police norms it's a way 0.99
00:15:30.380 that we expand norms like gossip is a way when something doesn't seem like it's a norm that we
00:15:35.900 should keep anymore that we just like we decide okay this doesn't work anymore have you seen them
00:15:41.960 the movie or read the book women talking oh uh they're shaker they're not menonites menonites
00:15:48.200 yes i have yes i have that is a movie that's just about women getting together and essentially
00:15:54.380 gossiping but also like consensus building yeah about how are we going to handle this thing that
00:15:59.780 happened in our community right and i think sometimes there is this tendency and we'll talk
00:16:04.580 about this more to like understand gossip is frivolous but even when you're gossiping about
00:16:09.420 like housewives right or everything that's happened recently on like secret lives of
00:16:15.540 mormon wives and the bachelorette like all of that we're trying to figure out what it means to be
00:16:20.680 a person in public in society today yes right yes completely totally agree and and then on a very
00:16:28.780 kind of like micro very simple level because we are so separate the things what I decided to do
00:16:36.960 when I was like I need to stop being so stuck up and just like admit I love these shows yeah and
00:16:42.140 when we came out of the pandemic to be able to sit down with people especially because I was in DC
00:16:46.700 and I feel like we were you know DC sometimes we feed into the stereotypes of being very serious
00:16:51.960 But to sit down, I remember my friend's 40th birthday dinner, and we just went so deep into Salt Lake City, the Housewives.
00:17:00.940 That is an excellent franchise.
00:17:03.160 And it allows, when you allow yourself to gossip, I think that you allow yourself to connect with somebody in this, like, it's not as intellectual.
00:17:13.640 It doesn't need to be as intellectual.
00:17:15.160 It's way more visceral.
00:17:16.220 It's way more human.
00:17:17.500 It's way more what would you do?
00:17:19.120 What do you think is okay, person?
00:17:20.840 here's what I think is okay and here are the things that like I know aren't okay but like I
00:17:25.900 think are kind of fine and you get to connect on this like around your norms and your morals and
00:17:32.040 your values in a way that is not heady and is way more embodied and I think that builds a stronger
00:17:39.260 more fulfilling connection than a simple simply being like what we shouldn't talk about anybody
00:17:44.340 else's business because it's only partially about their business it's really about connecting and I
00:17:50.360 will always say that people who say that that we should not talk about anyone else's business
00:17:54.080 are people who are like either they don't want anyone in their business for reasons that are
00:18:00.380 complicated and sometimes straightforward or they are very satisfied with the status quo
00:18:05.800 and they don't want anyone being essentially like uppity what there's there's a line that you've
00:18:14.340 used a couple times in the podcast where you reference the fact that like you went to howard
00:18:19.160 And that at Howard, everyone's like, all the women are in the bathroom, like, talking about.
00:18:24.680 Oh, Jonklin.
00:18:25.700 Yes, she says that.
00:18:28.800 Yeah.
00:18:30.540 Like, talking about, like, liberation and, like, serious topics, essentially.
00:18:34.720 Like, that is the stereotype of a Howard grad.
00:18:37.420 Oh, right.
00:18:37.820 That's Jonklin who says that.
00:18:38.940 Sorry.
00:18:39.800 No, no, no.
00:18:40.440 I remember that.
00:18:41.020 And it just, that to me, like, really keys in with this, what you're talking about, about how, like, gossiping about something like Real Housewives allows us to have these more serious conversations.
00:18:54.240 Like, you're talking about the same issues.
00:18:57.000 You're just not using the same, like, narrative structure of, like, I'm writing a paper, like a five-paragraph essay for college, right?
00:19:05.960 And the stakes are low and anyone can enter into the conversation.
00:19:09.400 So the Socratic, the kind of nature of like now I'm going to philosophize and teach you and sit at my feet and learn.
00:19:16.340 I have like I'm a very visual sort of storyteller. 0.82
00:19:18.820 And so I really don't ever want to be telling stories where your visual would be me on a stage and you all sitting like cross-legged, listening, looking up at me.
00:19:28.680 It's meant to be that we are at the kitchen table surrounded by snacks.
00:19:33.680 And I'm like, girl, like there's the meme or whatever that's going around of like.
00:19:38.720 two girls and they're like clearly gossiping. And this is so terrible. I don't know why I'm
00:19:43.560 going to just try to describe a video to you, but you can't hear any sound, but the girl is just
00:19:47.740 like, and everyone's like, like covering her eyes. That is how I want. That's the kind of
00:19:53.900 storyteller I want to be. And I just love what it brings out in my guests. Yeah. And your guests
00:19:59.420 on the show, they're always like, are you kidding? Like you're telling them this in real time and
00:20:04.140 And they're like, oh, oh.
00:20:06.420 I never tell them anything ahead of time.
00:20:08.780 Especially season one was so delicious.
00:20:11.840 And it's just one of those things I'm always going to miss.
00:20:14.020 But I'm so grateful for the people I have heard and connected with this one.
00:20:17.440 But nobody knew anything.
00:20:18.960 I truly was like, hey, can I tell you a story?
00:20:22.460 And they were like, OK.
00:20:23.720 And they're like, Nicole, what's happening?
00:20:26.820 As we went.
00:20:27.820 And it never went where I expected or anyone expected.
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00:24:45.860 Okay, next question I think both of us are going to be very enthusiastic about.
00:24:50.600 This is from Austin.
00:24:52.480 How can gossip studies, for lack of a better term, be incorporated into proper archival research methods?
00:24:59.960 And how do you think it can and should challenge how historians do traditional archival work?
00:25:06.200 So I'm not a historian.
00:25:08.420 I haven't trained.
00:25:09.400 And so I'm so like conflicted on the way things have been done and the way that I want to do them.
00:25:16.760 So I'll say like I get a little bit self-conscious in this space, but I do have opinions.
00:25:21.720 And I think that when we talk about gossip and we talk about sort of just people chatting about their personal lives, I actually do think that that would be this important and valuable to include in our historical analyses of different people and especially movements because the ways people not liking each other has really tanked a lot of movements.
00:25:51.720 And people being like, your wife did not send my wife the proper thank you, and that tells me that you guys are uncouth and we can't work with you.
00:26:00.580 That has impacted actual movement.
00:26:03.540 Yes.
00:26:04.500 And so I think that rather than just saying, you know, it worked out, oh, it didn't work out, oh, it was just over this, over that, the gossip fills in all the lines in color.
00:26:15.340 And again, if we're looking at history as a playbook, which that is what I believe in
00:26:18.780 doing, you need to know that the interpersonal becomes like, what is it, like the local is
00:26:25.500 national, like these small things become everything between the people.
00:26:30.900 And we keep repeating these interpersonal mistakes and these interpersonal breakdowns
00:26:36.600 keep happening generation after generation in the exact same way, but they don't get
00:26:41.060 written down because it just seems like gossip, but it is actually instructive.
00:26:45.340 And so I do think that including things like that into, okay, well, why did this league survive and this league didn't is so telling and really informative.
00:26:55.740 I think it would be important.
00:26:56.740 My difficulty is sometimes history is so concerned in many cases with figuring out the truth, right, like the historical record.
00:27:06.780 And what I found with studying gossip is that sometimes the only person who knows what actually happened is like the person themselves in a very small inner circle, right?
00:27:16.960 And so what we do know, though, is how people talked about it at the time, which is often very different than how we talk about something now.
00:27:26.360 So an apropos example for this conversation is the story of Dorothy Dandridge, who was an incredible, incredible Hollywood star, was on the cover of Life magazine, so beautiful, so talented.
00:27:42.200 Halle Berry later played her.
00:27:44.120 Yeah. Halle Berry famously played her in an HBO miniseries. And that is how she's understood now, though, is how Halle Berry interpreted, like almost to the extent that I think when a lot of people think of Dorothy Dandridge's face, they actually think of Halle Berry's face playing Dorothy Dandridge.
00:28:03.960 and that like becomes the way that we understand something that happened is how we can like
00:28:11.460 now narrativize it so even something like the constant like the founding of america
00:28:16.000 right or abraham lincoln like i think i think of daniel day lewis's face instead of
00:28:22.600 and the voice yeah that was wild totally sounds like that the example that was really difficult
00:28:32.820 for me when i was writing my book about the scandals of classic hollywood is what everything
00:28:38.240 that happened to judy garland essentially right and it's really complicated it's really sad there's
00:28:44.860 a lot of trauma and there's how people talked about it in the gossip press at the time which
00:28:50.300 was very layered and omitted a lot in terms of information about her suicide attempts
00:28:57.440 and abortions and there is how various biographers have talked about it
00:29:03.660 and then there's also interviews that she's done and the other thing too is that like even the
00:29:09.080 individuals themselves aren't always reliable narrators 100 how did you think about that
00:29:15.600 with like the oscar michaud episode with using a ton from his own autobiography
00:29:21.860 like how did you like did you think of him as a reliable narrator i actually did in a lot of ways
00:29:30.240 there are parts where i'm like okay i know that you are exaggerating here or whatever well i assume
00:29:37.780 because he there are like things that he really does not like his father-in-law and so it's like
00:29:42.580 that i know you're not giving this guy a fair shake so i'm gonna have to do some research to
00:29:46.680 see like what a person who had his beliefs would say in the situation in an argument and not just
00:29:52.880 go off of what Oscar said um I really do like to tell I was hoping to tell the story from his
00:29:59.500 perspective and from his point of view and then what I do is I try to learn as much context as I
00:30:04.920 can around what's happening so that I can paint a fuller picture of the world that he's moving
00:30:11.100 through and you can better understand what he's doing I think without the context let's say if I
00:30:15.700 just focus on the chicago chapter and he is quitting a bunch of jobs maybe my assumption
00:30:20.620 would be he was experiencing racism because that is typically speaking what you would read about
00:30:26.800 in history yeah but if you have the context of he the way he describes himself he's like i don't
00:30:32.700 want to work it's too hot it's too cold it's too early it's too late and then all that his family
00:30:36.760 has said i can add this this context and this bring out his humanity and saying that like
00:30:42.020 Like, this is likely, he's probably a Quidditch house because he's kind of like a lazy guy.
00:30:47.780 So I try to take everything they say with the, allow that to build out a character, let's say.
00:30:54.440 But with my guests, what's really nice and the fact they're not experts is we can kind of speculate.
00:30:58.740 And my guest in that one, Dr. Ray Christian, what was really fun is that he is a person, he's like older and he's lived and has kids.
00:31:08.060 So he was sometimes on Oscar's side, sometimes on the father-in-law's side.
00:31:12.420 He was willing to see it from a lot of different perspectives.
00:31:14.860 So I think in that way, we're able to kind of take this first-person narrative of what happened and question it in some places, build it out in other places, accept it if we'd like in other places like that.
00:31:26.340 But it is tricky.
00:31:27.700 It's tricky to go off of what everybody said about themselves.
00:31:30.760 And I am using a lot of their letters and what they are saying about themselves.
00:31:34.820 And they're all interlocking. And this is going back to our inner our the original question of like the place of gossip in the larger field of history is you have like how the gossip columns are talking about whether or not someone is a good match for someone.
00:31:49.460 A lot of it has to do with like their perceived value within society, which is in turn connected, especially at this time and in the black community to their proximity to whiteness. 0.53
00:32:01.500 Can you talk a little bit about that? That was so interesting to me.
00:32:05.480 So it is, it's, it's, and it really is city dependent.
00:32:09.340 Yeah.
00:32:09.780 But I do think in some cities, you know, there's this expectation.
00:32:12.820 I think I talked about this in the first episode, Stings for Our Enemy, Honey for Our Friends,
00:32:17.060 where it's set in D.C. and it's set in Victorian era, Washington, D.C., where it's immediately after slavery.
00:32:23.000 And we're talking about a class of black people who have achieved some degree of wealth.
00:32:27.000 We may not consider them to be the richest people in the world today, but at the time they are living much better than the average American, black or white.
00:32:34.820 And for them, what success looked like was imitating the things that white people were doing.
00:32:41.520 And then for the larger culture, this becomes this definition of success.
00:32:46.400 There's always a strain of people who are fighting against that kind of thinking.
00:32:51.060 But when the power structure looks a certain way and you want power and you want safety,
00:32:57.740 it's not wild to me to imitate that power structure in hopes that you will be accepted,
00:33:03.360 that you will be safe that you will you know all these things but it creates a lot of tension
00:33:07.540 within the black community which I talk about in the gossip columns because then people are just
00:33:11.060 like they're pretending to be white and they think that this is going to help them and it's
00:33:15.280 absolutely not and that is sort of a like a more fun way to examine this larger sort of liberation
00:33:22.660 debate that's going on within the community at the time of like do we need to fully separate
00:33:27.700 and get away or should we try to integrate by um sort of assimilating to some of the things that
00:33:34.420 we're seeing it's very much sort of the thing of like you come from another country and then you
00:33:37.700 don't teach your child the language because you want them to assimilate that is a little bit of
00:33:42.580 what's happening and some of the gossip columns are just absolutely just dragging people for doing
00:33:48.700 it and other ones are dragging people for not and saying like you're not good enough if you're not
00:33:54.800 wearing the right clothes and your hair isn't just so and your hat isn't this every city had
00:33:59.840 a different theory and I'm really really interested in it but I try not to judge it because
00:34:03.760 a thing that my research producer Chioki Aynsen and I talk about a lot is that there's no way
00:34:10.680 even though they are black and I am black I cannot know what it would be like to be the first
00:34:16.240 generation of people born free in America it just is an impossible thing to know I can guess but I
00:34:22.780 don't know right and how they talk too about like whether or not they were slaves or not slaves or
00:34:28.400 their parents were slaves or not slaves and trying to yeah yeah a big source of shame yeah um but
00:34:37.020 then also sometimes not because if your dad was white sometimes it was helpful it's really strange
00:34:43.640 this is a small anecdote but cleveland i'm i'm learning there was this was a community where
00:34:49.440 enslaved women who presumably, I mean, you know, they had these children by the men that were
00:34:57.720 enslaving them could be sent to Cleveland and have like some semblance of an okay life. And
00:35:02.460 the men would send them money. Um, that's the thing. That's another thing that's really
00:35:06.440 complicated about the past is the relationship, the actual relationship between black and white
00:35:10.540 people. Yeah. I always learned that it was super separate and it's so integrated and messy and
00:35:16.740 there's strange kind of affection and there's strange love and strange envy and strange hate
00:35:22.140 and strange like curiosity and it's all much messier than we've made it out to be but we've 0.67
00:35:27.200 been way more interconnected than we've said and I think it's a lot more visible in the black press
00:35:31.720 than it is in the white press yes yes yes completely they're always talking about it in
00:35:37.980 the black press yes and the white press like there's some stuff that's sublimated but it's
00:35:41.980 not explicit totally yeah so that in and of itself is like a really interesting place to
00:35:48.840 delve into the historical record and look at how the discourse shifts depending on who is the
00:35:54.860 perceived audience oh my gosh you are like speaking my exact language I really wanted to do
00:35:59.780 just like tell a bunch of stories as reported in the white press yes is how they were reported in
00:36:05.260 the black press it's really interesting to see the comparison yeah okay next question is about
00:36:12.480 the different forms that gossip takes and who engages in them this is from katie ann while
00:36:17.580 gossip columns have never been my cup of tea i enjoy reality tv shows and am obsessed with
00:36:24.480 anonymous advice columns to me these are all just different mediums for gossip why is it that no 0.95
00:36:31.460 matter your favorite flavor of gossip these spaces are so femme dominated and why is it that consuming 1.00
00:36:38.520 this media has to be couched as a guilty pleasure so many very smart women love consuming gossip 1.00
00:36:44.500 but society seems to really turn its nose up at it why can't we enjoy it out in the open 0.98
00:36:50.240 yes why can't we let's do it everybody over your windows scream it well and that's the thing is i
00:36:59.700 think that people do enjoy it more publicly now but they don't like to call it gossip right it's
00:37:04.460 like i love the point about anonymous advice columns because that that is absolutely reading
00:37:13.000 someone else's business and then coming to your own opinion about what it is right what they should
00:37:18.120 do what's fucked up about their lives like all that sort of thing there's so many good little
00:37:23.740 stories in there i love to read an anonymous gossip like in the old papers that the first 0.86
00:37:28.240 one that i really came across it was the court of afro relations or maybe it was called the court
00:37:33.340 of human relations it's in the afro-american newspaper and it's just people uh there's a
00:37:38.500 picture of a judge and then it's just everybody's little anecdotes the first i will never forget
00:37:42.740 this one uh a neighbor this is like 1938 they're complaining because they live in a boarding house
00:37:48.220 and then one neighbor has a dog and the dog is so like loud and untrained and out of control they're
00:37:54.000 like they just let this dog do whatever one's sick of this and and the judge offers you know
00:37:59.640 his judgment what you learn from that story is like oh my gosh there are people living in a
00:38:04.380 boarding house with dogs in 1938 and and then the judgment tells you a lot about the time
00:38:11.860 yeah um i why is it so femme dominated i mean i think you spoke to that i actually don't think
00:38:19.140 it's even i think some of the pop culture forums that we are talking about today are pretty femme
00:38:26.740 dominated in terms of like reality television femme or like i know a lot of gay men who are
00:38:33.580 also very very even back in the day too yeah yes for sure and um there were many gossip columnists
00:38:40.780 who were gay men and used the columns as a way of actually like subtly outing who was gay and who
00:38:48.420 wasn't there one of my favorite anecdotes is like there was this columnist mike connelly
00:38:53.240 who was uh the gossip columnist for the hollywood porter in i think the 50s maybe the early 60s
00:38:58.980 and he would report on like who went out to dinner with whom the night before
00:39:05.360 and if it was like two gay men in their beards he would like the way that he would arrange their
00:39:13.100 names it would be woman's name and like the ampersand would connote who was actually having 0.91
00:39:21.760 sex with who and he knew this in part because he was also a gay man and privy to what was going on 0.98
00:39:28.240 um but i think that men gossip about sports all the fucking time 100 percent and they just don't 0.98
00:39:38.360 call it gossip exactly that's exactly that's exactly it i love i listen to this podcast the 0.86
00:39:45.140 town but that's yeah yeah which is fun but i really like um big picture yes and then uh what's
00:39:52.480 the one with chris ryan and andy uh uh the watch the watch the watch yes thank you big picture and
00:39:58.780 the watch these are two of my favorites i love to hear them talk about sports i don't know anything
00:40:02.460 about sports i love to hear them just going back and forth and and it's absolutely gossip and it's
00:40:07.860 Absolutely them being like, if I was in this man's shoes, this is what I would have done.
00:40:11.400 Oh, this is going to impact his game.
00:40:14.160 All of these things.
00:40:15.180 The parts that they care about aren't necessarily the parts that I care about, but the rhythm of it is the same rhythm of gossip.
00:40:20.940 So you get the same kind of hit from it of like, what would you do?
00:40:24.980 Choose your own adventure.
00:40:26.380 It's the same thing.
00:40:27.560 I would actually argue that all of those Bill Simmons universe shows on The Ringer, they are all inflected with this like pop culture sensibility.
00:40:37.140 as a means to describe or understand what's going on in sports.
00:40:41.940 And when we say that, what they're actually doing,
00:40:43.860 like they're mapping celebrity and gossip narratives
00:40:47.320 onto what is happening on the field and off the field.
00:40:52.460 Brilliant.
00:40:53.420 Write a paper.
00:40:54.500 That's it.
00:40:55.420 We got a BuzzFeed.
00:40:56.580 Call them.
00:40:56.940 Oh, no, they're gone.
00:40:57.560 But, yeah, you're exactly right.
00:41:00.500 That is because they have such a formula over there,
00:41:03.440 and that's the formula.
00:41:05.180 And it's incredibly successful.
00:41:07.140 yeah it's really their fun listen and you know what i always wish like i'm having so much fun
00:41:12.560 in this conversation and i always wish that we would talk about podcasts in this way yes in that
00:41:18.460 kind of fun way that they do and not this like kind of stayed sort of like i think this was good
00:41:24.760 or bad but like just have some have a little bit of fun take it a little less seriously i think that
00:41:29.480 that is the way the culture is going as people just want to feel girls just want to have fun
00:41:34.460 Well, this is okay. We're going to get super meta. Don't you think that this is the two
00:41:38.520 like modes of podcasting energy right now are like, let's, let's arrive at some thinking about
00:41:45.560 a large, big, like capital letters issue in our society by extended conversation and consensus
00:41:53.760 building or by heavily produced argumentation. Right. I think you're right. I think that these
00:42:03.760 are the only two modes right now or one person just talking yeah just talking like into the
00:42:12.660 universe that one too for some reason that works um and it's really interesting to me because
00:42:18.780 there is still i think this understanding within the podcast world and you are way more familiar
00:42:24.940 than with this than i am that like the high art podcasts are always heavily produced right like
00:42:32.120 the serious stuff is not conversational in this way. But also I think that those podcasts are
00:42:39.860 struggling. Yeah. Unless they're like a more straight news type of thing. Like even the
00:42:45.160 success of something like Today Explained. Oh yeah. Yeah. And contrast that with something like
00:42:51.020 The Daily, which both of them are juggernauts. But Today Explained is much more like, let me
00:42:57.040 talk with a journalist about how this works like what's happening let's explain it to one another
00:43:04.480 as opposed to a more like this is what what is happening in the world today yeah fascinating
00:43:11.300 it's format stuff you know i so when i was working on my well wait are there more questions
00:43:17.800 there are more questions but keep going on this keep going okay yeah i when i was working on my
00:43:22.260 show you know i was really torn because i wanted to make something that i wanted to listen to
00:43:26.220 yeah and increasingly it's like that bill simmons world that kind of recap world where two people
00:43:33.240 who not are just very knowledgeable but really like each other yeah like have something in common
00:43:39.060 not intellectual but actually something in common kind of in from the heart realm and i think this
00:43:44.960 is sort of this has been a big theme with the show is like can i connect with you emotionally and
00:43:49.180 in your heart and not just your head that's really important for me for this show specifically
00:43:54.240 yeah and so when I was trying to figure out format I ended up needing to do something that
00:43:59.860 is very much not like even though it's so heavily produced and I gotta find some way to do less but
00:44:05.540 it's so in the vein of all the shows that I love but when I was thinking about like do you want to
00:44:11.400 listen to one of the shows that you love tell this story and I was like honestly no I would much
00:44:17.420 rather the dudes at the watch tell me this story and what do i do about that you know and to connect
00:44:24.580 this to our larger forum i've always thought that part of the brilliance of the ringer universe
00:44:31.300 is that he told like he hired people and then he said like hire your best friend
00:44:36.680 like people that were already intentional like if you like chris ryan and andy greenwald were like
00:44:42.240 friends from before right like they like that's part of why they have this chemistry and think
00:44:47.400 about who you have the best gossip with like yeah like you can when you have that intimacy that
00:44:54.780 allows you to like get deep and talk about these issues that matter you can do it whether it's
00:45:01.900 about sports or it's about a new television show or whatever it is like it just yeah you're able
00:45:07.100 to do that and i saw that with you on the show like there is i don't really know any of these
00:45:11.680 people there you you were able to create some intimacy though you know what it is it's like i
00:45:19.280 think i because i spent a lot of time playing with this and i did improv so i know what it is to like
00:45:23.720 put on a character and when you get to it's so funny when you are asked to be the black person
00:45:31.620 and the black authority on something and it's an experience that all of us can share and have had 0.95
00:45:37.620 And so I think that in that way, that's our that's the thing that is our intimate moment where we start to build some is this question of like, what kind of black are you?
00:45:47.600 And then we get to talk about how the world perceives your blackness and how you perceive your blackness.
00:45:53.640 And we get to like laugh at what they're getting right and what they're getting wrong.
00:45:58.420 And then we move through the story as two people who have this identity that is so massive that you walk into a room and people are seeing generations of history before you've even said a word.
00:46:11.820 And you get to play with it and be like, you're totally wrong.
00:46:14.900 I don't or I want to I'm going to go about it this way or that way, you know, and that that creates that connection because that was really important to me.
00:46:21.440 Yeah. And blackness is the thing that we're we're being intimate.
00:46:25.900 That's our Andy, Chris Ryan.
00:46:28.620 I can't believe how much we've talked about them.
00:46:31.560 Should you tag them?
00:46:33.540 Do you think they want to get in on this?
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00:50:43.640 This actually, this is a great team for our next question, which comes from Divya. 0.88
00:50:47.700 I'm curious about gossip in corporate workplaces and how it helps create psychological safety for minority groups.
00:50:54.540 I'm a woman of color in tech and have always had to be really careful about who I can reveal my true politics to.
00:51:00.840 and who I can talk to when I'm being treated unfairly. 0.87
00:51:04.020 I genuinely feel like I wouldn't have survived without gossip from other women slash POC,
00:51:08.960 and now I also have very close friends from past jobs. 0.93
00:51:13.140 I mean, I've been independent for like six or seven years because it's been rough.
00:51:18.500 It's a rough, rough ride.
00:51:21.280 But you know what?
00:51:22.720 The thing, the role of gossip, I just...
00:51:26.500 going to a meeting and having that meeting be absolutely unhinged and just sitting there
00:51:33.760 just like back straight just and then going to the bathroom with people and being like
00:51:40.020 what that is one of the most affirming most like it just feels like an exhale that's the best
00:51:47.080 feeling in the whole entire world and that's gossip but it's like to it's it's information
00:51:51.600 to know like this is what they're presenting and this is what's going on behind the scenes
00:51:56.560 and you're not crazy to be sensing that something is off you're not out of your mind to be you know
00:52:02.860 feeling like that that something went wrong in that meeting we're all on the same page that
00:52:09.220 kept me sane in more ways than you know actually having like some kind of like a growth mindset
00:52:17.240 conversation like it's like we need to talk about the things that are going on that we aren't
00:52:22.120 supposed to be talking about because I need to know what is real and what is absolutely made up
00:52:26.840 yeah it's a real like it combats gaslighting essentially yeah right like if you're not
00:52:32.820 talking to other people you don't know like this is a common experience yeah right this is how this
00:52:38.220 manager behaves with everyone exactly and also like believe your co-workers because sometimes
00:52:43.740 for various reasons like a manager can be one way to you and a very different way to another person
00:52:50.220 right um we had two other questions that were in this vein that i just will quickly summarize but
00:52:56.500 one was about like how all these women at work gossip and like hr kind of is like you shouldn't
00:53:05.140 be doing that that's unprofessional and then another one was about like how much teachers
00:53:11.860 gossip and how like the teacher like the um the lounge the teacher's lounge is like this incredible
00:53:19.640 place for like talking about everything that's going on in the the industry but also with their
00:53:24.680 specific school and that sort of thing and how they use it for like they share their salaries
00:53:29.920 they talk about like you know all this and how again there is this messaging that's coming from
00:53:37.900 leadership that they
00:53:40.280 shouldn't gossip. Of course.
00:53:42.200 Of course. Because it's like it's threatening
00:53:44.060 to the system. What you were saying
00:53:46.240 like you know if you're against it you kind of want to
00:53:48.180 maintain the status quo. I literally was just
00:53:50.180 watching 9 to 5. I haven't watched it since I was
00:53:52.280 a kid. And so I was
00:53:54.180 re-watching that. I totally
00:53:56.200 forgot that everybody thought that Dolly Parton 1.00
00:53:58.080 slept with the boss because 0.99
00:53:59.840 he was spreading that gossip. And then
00:54:02.260 they were spreading it around. But it's like
00:54:04.300 there's a... These
00:54:05.560 these efforts to maintain the status quo, I think you just said it so perfectly in the beginning of
00:54:09.940 this conversation, are what drive that kind of culture, what drive that sort of policy.
00:54:16.600 The transparency is vital to progress. There's no other way. If we don't know what's going on,
00:54:23.700 and we don't know about these discrepancies in pay and in treatment, how are we going to create
00:54:29.060 a situation that's better for everybody? Otherwise, it just stays tiered in that way.
00:54:34.080 absolutely like of course hr doesn't want you gossiping right they want to like take each of
00:54:40.600 your complaints yeah and individualize them yes and make them disappear right like um 0.51
00:54:48.840 hr is not your friend you cannot gossip with hr and like get get shit done like it's not gonna 0.74
00:54:55.060 oh my gosh listen if there's somebody listening i hate when people address listeners but i have 0.51
00:55:00.120 to do this because i feel it so deeply in my soul yeah if you are early in your career and you think 0.80
00:55:04.480 that somebody in hr is your friend yeah don't think that yeah like you guys can be homies
00:55:10.540 but like you just like they have jobs to do and you can't be telling them oh my gosh but i worked
00:55:18.060 at one job where the hr person was the gossip it was nuts it was so bad oh i see that's so juicy
00:55:28.560 at your own like the place where you worked the age yes like the person and this person was a man
00:55:35.720 and the biggest gossip and it was always like such a such a routine of like oh well that person might
00:55:43.140 not be able to handle that right now and we'd be like why they're just going through a lot we're
00:55:49.280 like no what yes and they would tell us well they wouldn't think that they were and that that is
00:55:55.520 unprofessional gossip right because that is actually their task is to hold this professional
00:56:01.720 like personal information yeah it's very different than gossiping about your manager
00:56:06.940 but i will say i some of my friends at hr who like i we are not trash talking hr we're just
00:56:13.520 saying if you if like they are doing their jobs and their jobs are to protect the corporation
00:56:18.060 right it's just exactly understand what their job is um but one of my friends who's in hr
00:56:24.220 I love hearing her stories.
00:56:25.720 She never tells me any sort of identifying information.
00:56:28.560 It would never, like, I don't have anyone to tell it to.
00:56:32.440 But it's just like, oh, my gosh, that's how someone behaves on the job.
00:56:36.800 Yes.
00:56:37.480 I feel you completely because one of my friends is in HR and another,
00:56:41.380 and I'm glad you made that caveat because it's like they are lovely people.
00:56:44.400 We love them.
00:56:44.860 But their jobs are to protect this company.
00:56:46.720 You can't just be telling them all these secrets.
00:56:48.860 But, oh, I had this one friend, and she has the wildest stories.
00:56:53.120 and she won't give me anything even though we are have no we're in different states our industries
00:56:57.840 are so different and there's something about it where I'm like just give me a name like just I
00:57:02.520 just can we please just make up a name and she's like no because she won't even do like any kind
00:57:07.380 of gender identifiers like nothing everything is they and I'm like I just cannot I just want to 0.60
00:57:11.880 visualize I'm trying to create a little scene in my head and she's like absolutely not well that's
00:57:16.600 like in your podcast where you ask the person like you're describing a character and you say
00:57:22.180 to the person that's your co-host for the show like i want who are you picturing in your mind
00:57:27.380 what contemporary star are you picturing in your mind yes exactly idris elba as oscar michaud
00:57:34.780 is very funny to me um but uh the other thing i want to say about like teacher gossip what was
00:57:43.560 it going to be about unionize oh okay this is inside baseball but we're on this podcast and
00:57:50.960 culture study is just on patreon now we made the switch over there's a bunch of people who also
00:57:54.880 came over at the same time there's just like when you switch to any new platform there are always
00:57:59.540 problems and before patreon and i don't have a problem saying with this patreon was siloing us
00:58:07.120 so that like each one of us would communicate to the person who is trying to manage our problems
00:58:12.060 like this is an issue this is an issue this is an issue right but we got a background chat right so
00:58:19.120 like all of these writers and podcasters are talking about the issue and then it's it's not
00:58:25.620 a union but it is solidarity that when we all say this is a massive problem it becomes a bigger
00:58:32.560 force against like the people who are trying to fix the problem right or trying we're not doing
00:58:37.920 as much to fix the problem and to me like yeah that that like group thread is gossip but it's
00:58:45.540 also power it is power exactly yeah gossip is power i think that's a great way to be to look
00:58:52.560 at it you're exactly right because now i'm thinking about all the times that we all got
00:58:55.880 together we were like did you get this email i didn't get that email what's going on and then
00:59:00.400 it starts to bubble it starts to create a collective and now we're moving as uh as one
00:59:05.580 which of course you have so much more power if you're moving as a collective versus as an
00:59:10.140 individual right or i think of like the shitty media man list do you remember this oh i do
00:59:15.760 remember that oh my god i haven't thought about that in so long it was like and again this was
00:59:21.320 meant to be private gossip right and when it became public is when it became libelous yeah
00:59:27.000 sometimes some of these things do need to stay a little bit like in the group chat for a while
00:59:30.840 like you don't want to put everything out there right so i think of it in layers right like gossip
00:59:35.400 is like the way that we like share information and then for something to become like actionable
00:59:41.420 then you have to like it has to be handed over to professionals in some capacity so
00:59:45.900 that could be a lawyer that could be I guess law enforcement or it could be journalists who then
00:59:52.500 do the work of like okay I'm going to interview this person I'm going to interview this person
00:59:56.000 I'm going to get this person on the record like whatever yes but it has to start somewhere people
01:00:00.000 have to start talking about something somewhere that's it that's it exactly right this was so fun
01:00:06.080 this was so fun i've actually been not doing interviews anymore well not until the fall
01:00:13.640 because i'm working on my second season yeah um of my show and i'm deep like that i'm in a different
01:00:19.180 time period than i'm used to and so the gossip is like to understand it i need scholars and
01:00:24.680 interpretation and because it's really like some golden age reconstruction era double on you know
01:00:32.120 like we're speaking underneath the this is what it means this is not what it means um and so i've
01:00:37.760 been really really deep in that um but i'm so glad that we talked this was really wonderful
01:00:46.240 no and like that well first of all we will promote the hell out of it um but that like i i totally
01:00:54.180 get to the like I'm not doing press for that anymore like this is like well it's just like
01:00:59.780 I can't talk to anybody about usually you know what it is I really really appreciate the questions
01:01:05.520 that you're asking me because a lot of times I get asked about the gossip of the show in a way
01:01:11.520 that makes me worried that the larger meaning of what this kind of these kind of conversations are
01:01:18.180 doing are lost and I don't know if you can convey the meaning if I just do a dissertation about it
01:01:23.260 But I think that the things that you enjoy about gossip and the things that I enjoy about gossip are similar.
01:01:29.360 And it could be because of our relationship to old Hollywood and the role that gossip played there, which is, I think, more pronounced and more kind of professionalized and appreciated.
01:01:39.640 It was like we're going to construct a whole image and we're going to give you stories.
01:01:43.140 We're feeding all these things to the press and then we're able to go over here and actually live our lives and do whatever it is we're trying to do.
01:01:49.560 I appreciate being able to talk about the show
01:01:52.200 in that vein because I think that
01:01:53.780 that is the way that people historically
01:01:55.440 used gossip and
01:01:57.680 it gets erased but it shouldn't
01:02:00.520 well and like
01:02:01.640 they will look back on our period
01:02:04.000 of time and think about all of the 0.94
01:02:06.000 gossip like whether it's housewives
01:02:07.840 gossip whether it's
01:02:09.100 members of the cabinet
01:02:11.400 whatever it is
01:02:13.800 like we're trying to figure out
01:02:15.600 our norms we're trying to figure out
01:02:18.040 what matters yes the thing that led me to make the show in the end is that i was in washington dc
01:02:25.860 and the the format decided i'm leaning into the gossip i was in dc during i mean i lived there
01:02:31.840 for years and years and years but i was there during the uh pandemic and i used to go to this
01:02:36.740 park up the street for me all the time and it was up the street from the capital and everybody just
01:02:40.940 always walking around these ratty sweatpants we're all just so miserable what's happened to our lives
01:02:46.140 and then the insurrection happened and the city and we were fully occupied by the national guard
01:02:52.980 it's a terrible terrible feeling so go to the park the way i always had but then everybody now
01:02:58.740 all of a sudden is in like nicer yoga pants and i was like why is we doing that and like nicer their
01:03:04.380 hairs in like a nice ponytail and then i realized there's like these national guardsmen that used
01:03:09.320 to like post up under this tree they had truly nothing to do the insurrection already happened
01:03:12.820 but you know we they were there and people start being like oh hello oh thank you for your service
01:03:20.620 and now they're bringing them food and there was a kind of like this debate in our local blogs of
01:03:25.860 like why are you feeding them they're fed but people are like we have to help them and we're
01:03:30.500 dc is not the kind of city to be like oh let's do all that right and so then that was like the first
01:03:35.740 layer and then the next layer was that people started somebody put out this call and they were
01:03:40.900 like, ladies, here's what you need to do. Go onto your dating profiles, change all your stuff to 0.97
01:03:46.080 conservative, get somebody to admit that they insurrected the Capitol, get a picture, send it
01:03:52.120 to the FBI. And then they ended it with happy hunting. And I was like, this will be lost to
01:03:56.920 history. This has consumed my every day of this pandemic. You will never know that during the
01:04:02.180 pandemic, we decided to do honeypot operations wherever we were. That's important.
01:04:07.400 right well and i think too about like there's what has been digitized in terms of old historical
01:04:15.320 newspapers but think about all of the like we would call them rags like the gossip rags the
01:04:21.120 version of like the local blogs that are lost to history and there is going to be so much that is
01:04:27.940 lost from the glory quote-unquote glory days of gossip of the 2000s that god there is going to
01:04:36.020 be no record and i'm like yeah who will believe me about what happened with fire crotch in 2007
01:04:42.460 oh my god i haven't thought about that
01:04:45.400 no one they'll say we're making it up and it happened
01:04:50.860 it was at brent selton the images are gone because he stole them
01:04:55.220 nicole this has been such a pleasure if people want to find more of your work on the internet
01:05:04.140 please tell us where they can find it
01:05:06.220 yes you can go to ourancestorsweremessy.com
01:05:09.100 there's a website
01:05:09.720 I'm told people don't do websites anymore
01:05:11.720 but I'm from a different era
01:05:13.160 so that exists
01:05:14.400 and then we're all over social media
01:05:16.420 with a caveat
01:05:17.520 I'm doing the best I can on social
01:05:20.520 but if you follow
01:05:21.900 here's why you should follow me on social media
01:05:23.780 because every blue moon
01:05:25.960 when you least expect it
01:05:27.640 there's going to be a post
01:05:29.240 and isn't that fun?
01:05:31.020 well and Instagram will surface it
01:05:32.760 because you haven't posted in so long.
01:05:35.000 Exactly.
01:05:36.260 And then you get to be a part of the kind of like,
01:05:39.160 ooh, the groundhog came out, you know?
01:05:41.860 And that's why I think you should follow me on socials.
01:05:45.280 Oh, and sign up for my newsletter, though.
01:05:46.600 I am starting to do, I'm starting,
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01:05:57.340 Amazing.
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