In Bed With The Right - December 17, 2024


Episode 49: The Second Annual Cursties, Part I

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00:00:00.480 The more likely a place is to, like, tell me to kill myself or, like, issue a rape threat, like, the more authentic and vital it is as a reflection of American discourse.
00:00:10.420 Like, as much as it hates me personally, that is directly correlated to how real and how American it is. 0.99
00:00:15.920 Have you ever considered, Moira, that maybe the pussy is in bio? 0.99
00:00:19.660 Maybe you need to open yourself up to new ideas. 0.99
00:00:26.080 Hello, I'm Adrienne Dobb.
00:00:27.820 And I'm Moira Donegan.
00:00:28.720 And whether we like it or not, we're in bed with the right.
00:00:33.000 So, Adrian, today we have our second annual installment of everybody's favorite tradition, which is the Kirstie Awards.
00:00:41.980 Do you want to tell us about the Kirsties?
00:00:43.440 This is a long-running tradition in the sense that we made it up last year.
00:00:47.220 So we're trad wives in that way.
00:00:50.160 We're celebrating and upholding and vigorously defending tradition that we invented not 12 months ago.
00:00:56.320 We used to be a proper country. Return.
00:00:57.940 That's right. Return. And this is our award for the most cursed discourses having to do with gender and sexuality in 2024. We anticipate recording for about 45 hours because there was a lot of them. There was a lot of them. Just no way around that.
00:01:16.200 But helping us sift through it is a man who is perhaps the Leonardo or the Galileo of cursed tics and also a person who's recorded three shows like this probably.
00:01:28.220 This is all I do now.
00:01:29.560 This is my whole life.
00:01:30.840 Michael Hobbs, welcome back.
00:01:32.600 Hello.
00:01:33.300 I wanted you guys to do like Adrian, Moira, what do you know about the most cursed discourse of the year?
00:01:38.880 And like steal our intro?
00:01:39.940 Oh my God, we should.
00:01:41.380 I would love that.
00:01:42.540 All right.
00:01:43.120 Do you want to get into our nominees?
00:01:44.580 Because we've got a lot.
00:01:46.100 We've got a lot on the plate.
00:01:47.700 Yeah.
00:01:48.160 The way we usually do this is we each nominate three takes or three cursed discourses.
00:01:54.280 Last year, I feel like we all operated at a pretty great level of remove.
00:01:57.700 I have to say that for myself, that wasn't true this year.
00:02:00.300 I kind of ended up, I went down a couple of rabbit holes and then I was convinced myself
00:02:04.700 that those rabbit holes like actually said everything about our present moment.
00:02:08.120 That's what I did too.
00:02:08.820 And I do think that the election kind of brought a whole lot of stuff into focus for me.
00:02:13.580 I did that too, where it's like, this is not a bad take.
00:02:15.800 this is like a canonical bad take yeah yeah this is symbolic of a broader disease yeah when we are
00:02:21.480 selecting nominees for the kirsties what i try to do is think about okay what is reflective of
00:02:29.460 a bigger trend right like which conversation which controversy which misconception or like
00:02:37.680 new enthusiasm that people are showing really reflects uh something significant and bigger
00:02:43.840 Right. What's part of a bigger trend in the culture or in politics that can tell us something about our time that's important, which is why what I choose is always the stuff that pissed me off the most personally.
00:02:56.600 Right. There's always the stuff that annoyed me the most, because that is really what's an urgent emergency.
00:03:02.900 Oh, yeah. Telling us something important about our historical moment.
00:03:06.460 Dead voice teenagers on Instagram. Boom.
00:03:08.400 people who are a slightly different kind of feminist than me is like really like 1.00
00:03:16.260 really burns my gears yeah really burns my cannoli 1.00
00:03:20.640 uh and i think you'll see in our selections of the kirsties that our bugaboos our irritations
00:03:29.440 are really what's most historically important yes pet peeves whatever we got people listening
00:03:34.920 to Bluetooth speakers
00:03:35.660 on public transit
00:03:36.400 is actually a national crisis.
00:03:38.860 It's a sign of a social breakdown.
00:03:40.900 Yeah, that's a bad example
00:03:42.140 because I do actually believe that,
00:03:43.720 but I'm sure I can come up
00:03:45.280 with a better example
00:03:45.980 of pet peeves that aren't actually,
00:03:47.600 that don't have social import.
00:03:49.180 Yeah, it's about our retreat
00:03:50.500 from the public,
00:03:51.260 the way we privatize everything now.
00:03:53.420 Yeah, see?
00:03:53.840 The Bluetooth speaker
00:03:54.300 is the parking space of,
00:03:56.700 oh man, I'm cooking.
00:03:58.020 You're almost being given
00:03:59.200 a New York Times op-ed
00:04:00.320 columnist position right now.
00:04:01.660 Ooh.
00:04:02.320 So who wants to go first?
00:04:03.520 Yeah, first nomination.
00:04:05.480 Adrian, I think you should do the honors.
00:04:07.240 Yeah, give it to us.
00:04:08.840 So I'm going to start with my, it's cursed, but honestly, like, is it maybe closer to the Bluetooth speakers than to like incipient fascism?
00:04:18.160 Okay.
00:04:19.040 Possibly.
00:04:19.480 So this is my most Andy Rooney take this year, which is a kind of cavil about the hand-wringing of a certain class of Twitterati over people leaving Twitter for Blue Sky.
00:04:33.300 Oh, God.
00:04:34.200 You know, this idea that people were retreating from the public sphere, you know, no leftist snowflakes, don't leave the agora, the modern encyclopédie, the central repository of the world's knowledge. 0.99
00:04:45.920 And also the place where there are my tits in the bio, right? 0.57
00:04:50.340 The sudden attachment to Twitter as this like space where you encounter other people's ideas, where those ideas are 99% of the time Holocaust denial and or my tits aren't in bio, right?
00:05:02.120 As a guy who, you know, also wrote a book on tech discourses, this has been Twitter's pitch for a long, long time.
00:05:10.440 And it was a sales pitch, right?
00:05:12.640 Like, it is just so noticeable to me that the kind of pundits that then roll out these kinds of, you know, people are withdrawing from the public sphere and going back into their little bubbles.
00:05:22.440 Basically, they were parroting back what Jack Dorsey had been, like, desperately claiming at shareholder meetings for years and years in order to excuse, like, how little money Twitter made.
00:05:32.880 It's just amazing if, like, you're using a company's, frankly, delusional sales pitch as, like, a basis for your politics and then think you're the kind of adult in the room.
00:05:42.620 It just, it had everything for me.
00:05:44.060 Was there, like, a canonical take or just, like, a general overall discourse?
00:05:48.160 I mean, there were a ton of these pieces.
00:05:50.060 I must say I stopped reading them at some point.
00:05:51.720 I have in my notes here one from Daniel Steinmetz Jenkins that I just thought was kind of funny.
00:05:57.120 It's a tweet.
00:05:57.860 We're witnessing in real time a social media version of liberal white flight.
00:06:02.240 And you're like, OK, sure. 0.62
00:06:04.260 That's good. 1.00
00:06:05.600 That's the good shit. 1.00
00:06:06.640 Starting to post on Blue Sky more is exactly like not wanting to live in an urban area with black people. 1.00
00:06:13.620 Yeah. 1.00
00:06:13.800 Completely.
00:06:14.400 Exactly.
00:06:14.600 I will say, like, what kind of blew my mind about this is, you know, framing Blue Sky as a bubble that is insulated, not the real world, reflective of a cowardly refusal to engage with opposing ideas.
00:06:29.300 Right. This proposition that Twitter is the public sphere.
00:06:35.060 Adrian, you are right to point out that this was a marketing tactic of Twitter.
00:06:38.400 Right. Yeah. But it also is like a really dependent on Twitter's perceived political affiliation as a platform.
00:06:44.360 Right. Because back in the 2010s, I'm old enough that I've been on Twitter for like an embarrassingly long time.
00:06:51.320 And I remember when Twitter was a really important piece of media infrastructure.
00:06:57.800 Right. It was how you shared your work.
00:07:00.520 It was how you got jobs as a journalist or as a freelance writer.
00:07:03.640 Right. It was how even like other kinds of, you know, public facing intellectuals like academics could like promote their work.
00:07:09.980 Right. Back then, the line on Twitter was Twitter is not real life.
00:07:13.280 Twitter as an echo chamber for these lefty weirdos, right? And now that Twitter is dominated
00:07:20.820 by a conservative political tilt, suddenly it is real life. Suddenly it's actually a vital source
00:07:26.520 of the, you know, the free exchange of ideas. I think that's exactly right. Twitter became
00:07:30.560 an Ohio diner. Yeah. Right. Like the place where you try to get a reactionary take that is supposed
00:07:36.340 to be more natural and less coastal than your own, you know, homo opinions. It's like you now 1.00
00:07:42.740 go to Twitter rather than to the Waffle House. The more likely a place is to tell me to kill 0.98
00:07:48.860 myself or issue a rape threat, the more authentic and vital it is as a reflection of American 0.85
00:07:55.040 discourse. As much as it hates me personally, that is directly correlated to how real and how
00:07:59.880 American it is. Have you ever considered, Moira, that maybe the pussy is in bio? Maybe you need 1.00
00:08:05.420 to open yourself up to new ideas. It's like you're cutting yourself off. But it has this funny
00:08:12.020 kind of instant nostalgia.
00:08:14.040 I think Fortune had a headline
00:08:15.600 that I remember retweeting, right?
00:08:17.320 People are fleeing X for threads and blue sky.
00:08:20.400 Welcome to the era of social media fragmentation.
00:08:22.700 And it's like, what are you talking about?
00:08:24.860 Like, as Maura's saying,
00:08:25.880 like you've been spending 10 years
00:08:27.160 telling us Twitter is not real life.
00:08:28.740 Yeah.
00:08:29.140 Which is also true, right?
00:08:30.460 Like in 2016, we all found out that like,
00:08:32.920 what we were seeing on Twitter was one thing.
00:08:34.760 And then like, all our uncles 0.99
00:08:36.120 were getting radicals on fucking Facebook, 0.98
00:08:37.920 which we'd all left, right? 0.99
00:08:39.420 Like social media has been fragmented.
00:08:41.460 Also, yeah, you follow people who have similar ideology to you, so even if you're on there, it doesn't feel like it's that big of a change qualitatively.
00:08:48.840 Also, I feel like it's really frustrating zooming out to like throughout the course of our lifetimes, I would say the biggest political story is the radicalization of the GOP, right? 0.84
00:08:58.240 We didn't have people saying and doing deranged shit in public constantly in the 1990s. 0.70
00:09:02.540 Whatever you thought about like the Reagan era, like the sort of H.W. Bush conservatives, it's like it was a very different party back then. 0.97
00:09:08.980 And yet all of our kind of moral panics around this keep trying to repackage it as like a bipartisan issue, right?
00:09:15.340 So people have written all these books about like polarization.
00:09:17.260 We're in this era of polarization even though the Democrats haven't radicalized anywhere near what the Republicans have.
00:09:23.360 The echo chamber discourse feels like a similar attempt to do that where it's like it's not really about the fact that platform after platform gets taken over by like open Nazis and these weird like trad bring us back site like full on psychos.
00:09:37.100 that's not really the problem. The problem is that we're not hearing from each other enough.
00:09:41.080 And like, I just don't think empirically echo chambers are really like the problem that
00:09:46.760 everybody thinks they are. I think it's an attempt to talk about radicalization without
00:09:50.520 naming it for what it is. And we just keep getting these distractions. And I think,
00:09:54.960 I think we just need to acknowledge that the main problem in American politics is the
00:09:58.280 radicalization of the GOP and the fact that like 30% of the country is just completely
00:10:01.880 unmoored from reality. And I don't think that I have to hear from these people more.
00:10:07.020 Well, also you hear from them.
00:10:08.540 They control the White House, the Supreme Court, and Congress.
00:10:11.540 Like, if there were a voter bloc that wasn't represented, right, which is I think where this entire sort of language game started from.
00:10:20.260 Oh, the GOP is actually not that extreme, but some of its voters are very extreme, right?
00:10:25.280 But by now, this is what the GOP sounds like. 0.95
00:10:28.040 I can just turn on fucking CNN or C-SPAN and I get to hear from them just plenty, right? 0.98
00:10:33.160 Yeah. I'm not sure why I need to have Twitter user, you know, Adolf 18, whatever. 0.98
00:10:40.660 1488. Adolf 1488. Yeah.
00:10:43.840 I wish I didn't know that, but I do.
00:10:45.220 Give me his rationale for, you know, mass deportations and concentration camps.
00:10:49.400 Like I can just listen to the Speaker of the House do that for me.
00:10:52.440 Right.
00:10:52.940 For free.
00:10:53.400 Also, like, something I have noticed, the comparison of dislike for racial ideology to, like, opposition to the black liberation struggle.
00:11:04.600 Like, why is that always the way these reactionary centrists want to, like, smuggle in their scolding to the left?
00:11:11.720 Yeah.
00:11:12.300 It's like, no, I'm sorry. 0.85
00:11:13.260 It's not like white flight, right?
00:11:15.040 Because actually I'm trying to get away from the people who are opposed to, like, a racially pluralistic democracy.
00:11:21.500 What if this good thing was actually bad?
00:11:23.400 Have you considered that it might be bad?
00:11:24.840 What if it was bad?
00:11:25.580 What if it was different in a way that made it bad?
00:11:27.400 And I mean, like, it's not even getting away.
00:11:30.100 Twitter had a use.
00:11:32.080 You used it for certain things.
00:11:33.820 Yeah.
00:11:34.160 I left Twitter not because of anything Elon Musk did
00:11:36.820 other than to make it unusable for me, right?
00:11:39.680 I don't see what I gain from people
00:11:42.560 who are clearly engagement farming 1.00
00:11:43.900 because they have blue checks and can monetize that shit. 1.00
00:11:46.620 Jesus Christ. 1.00
00:11:46.960 I don't know what I gain from reply guys
00:11:49.520 who are clearly AI generated, right?
00:11:51.440 My dream as a social media user, as for many people who freelance in media, is for someone to be like, that's a clever take.
00:11:59.940 What if he writes that for us as an article, right?
00:12:01.780 And then I make $500.
00:12:03.060 That is the use case. 0.99
00:12:04.580 As Moira was saying, if the use case is someone's like, you should go kill yourself.
00:12:08.920 I may be being a snowflake, but above all, I'm also just a participation in a marketplace of attention and ideas. 1.00
00:12:16.140 and I find this product just dog shit 0.99
00:12:19.720 and I don't see why I would do it, right? 0.99
00:12:22.000 Like I don't go on 4chan with a take
00:12:23.860 and hope that like the New Republic comes calling, right?
00:12:26.740 They're like, we saw you on 8chan, dang me, man, right?
00:12:30.180 Like it's not gonna happen.
00:12:31.620 So like, I don't know, like we're going about our business.
00:12:34.420 We're portioning our time, our creativity as we see fit.
00:12:38.640 And then we're being kind of badgered and moralized
00:12:41.400 into somehow surrendering our time of life 1.00
00:12:45.040 to these idiotic exchanges, right? 1.00
00:12:48.200 I mean, I'm hearing myself say it now. 1.00
00:12:50.080 This is cancel culture, isn't it?
00:12:51.480 Like the entire thing about cancel culture discourses
00:12:54.180 was that like you owe these people this attention,
00:12:56.580 like withdrawing it, being like, 1.00
00:12:58.340 fuck it, I'm done listening to this fucking person. 1.00
00:13:00.720 Like the novels were okay. 1.00
00:13:02.840 I too was Hufflepuff, but I'm just done listening.
00:13:06.840 It's just, the books go on forever.
00:13:08.620 The tweets keep coming.
00:13:09.620 Like, I'm sorry.
00:13:10.780 I'm just, I'm off the train.
00:13:12.000 and be like, oh, how dare you not follow
00:13:15.380 the collected works of J.K. Rowling? 0.99
00:13:17.680 This is the same fucking thing. 0.98
00:13:19.240 Like, I'm sorry, I will not, you know, 0.99
00:13:21.340 follow the collected works of Adolf Lover.
00:13:24.140 What is it, 1488?
00:13:25.440 Yeah.
00:13:25.800 You sweet summer child, you don't know 1488, Adrian.
00:13:28.840 This is because you're too sheltered
00:13:30.760 and not spending enough time on Twitter.
00:13:32.480 I know.
00:13:33.260 So that's the thing.
00:13:34.120 The fact that me and you know it 0.98
00:13:35.800 is a sign of like how fucking toxic 0.96
00:13:37.960 all of these platforms have become. 1.00
00:13:39.760 I should know this shit. 1.00
00:13:40.820 I shouldn't know what it stands for. 0.99
00:13:42.760 I also think it's so funny over the course of the last two years, right, to watch a deranged billionaire buy this, like, relatively useful and okay, if problematic, social media platform and slowly turn it into a platform for, like, AI slop and right-wing propaganda and then cast the people leaving as, like, the problem.
00:14:01.900 Like, do you guys know people are leaving this platform?
00:14:03.400 It's like, well, the guy who completely just ruined it and is a fairly open white supremacist at this point, that's not worthy of condemnation.
00:14:10.020 But the people who are just like, I don't want to spend my day like this.
00:14:12.280 Yeah, that's the problem.
00:14:13.960 OK, I actually find the fact that Blue Sky is so lefty, just like a little annoying.
00:14:19.080 Yeah, I think it is kind of like a hothouse atmosphere where like everybody ends up getting like push maybe seven percent further to the left than they should be.
00:14:27.160 It's like, OK, I wish there was a broader range here.
00:14:29.400 But also, it's not like there's some non-echo chamber social media platform available that all of us are choosing not to use. 0.99
00:14:36.780 It's like I'd rather have annoying lefties than like literal Nazis and a bunch of fucking robots from Macedonia. 0.98
00:14:43.120 And every single platform creates its own use cases, right? 1.00
00:14:48.380 Like we are shitposty on Twitter.
00:14:51.760 We are reflective on Tumblr. 0.98
00:14:54.040 We're horny on Instagram, right?
00:14:55.500 Like these things generate their own tones and their own rhythms.
00:15:00.540 And if the rhythm is no longer what you were using it for, right?
00:15:04.360 If like, if you were getting information from a platform and now it's no longer giving you information, I don't know how you get to a point where like you owe that platform anything, right?
00:15:14.120 Friendster didn't get to like, Browby does like, you know, you guys are leaving for Facebook.
00:15:18.360 You know what that means?
00:15:19.180 You're leaving the agora, right? 1.00
00:15:21.200 It's so fucking dumb. 1.00
00:15:22.460 Yeah. 1.00
00:15:22.560 And this is why I think that all these Musk stans, like, love this fucking discourse. 0.99
00:15:26.580 Because they had to cast themselves as a hero and other people as villains or snowflakes. 0.98
00:15:29.980 And the idea that, like, consumers owe their consumption to the producers.
00:15:34.920 I feel like this is a discourse that has really taken over with Silicon Valley.
00:15:39.360 It sort of started, I feel like, with the recording industry, which was like, oh, the only reason people aren't buying our albums is because of piracy.
00:15:45.140 It's like, well, also, like, you could also interrogate your offerings and how you're getting them to people.
00:15:50.540 But like, sure, it's the pirates.
00:15:52.920 But this has been the logic of Silicon Valley all this time, that like there's something preventing us from breaking through.
00:15:58.920 And it's pure pitch speak.
00:16:00.680 It's not primarily how they communicate to you and me.
00:16:03.200 It's how they communicate to their investors to explain why, you know, the company is still not profitable after 10 years of runway, right?
00:16:10.040 But it kind of moralizes our attention in a way that they otherwise like run away from screaming, right?
00:16:16.520 Like every time we're like, well, people should be confronted with true facts.
00:16:20.400 It's like, oh, but you tell people what to think.
00:16:22.800 And then they're like, but you're not watching my garbage fire. 0.91
00:16:26.240 Watch my garbage fire, everyone. 1.00
00:16:28.700 These people can't handle a woman with three breasts saying, how do you open? 1.00
00:16:32.980 Posting photos of herself constantly. 0.88
00:16:34.520 You guys just can't handle it.
00:16:37.960 What's your first one, Moira?
00:16:39.580 Yeah, I'm interested in like how our first Kirstie was about Twitter because Twitter also gave us,
00:16:46.380 I think many of our Cursed Discourses of the Year, including my first, and this is kind of a big umbrella of discourses that I like to term, fellas, is it gay to be heterosexual? 0.99
00:17:00.660 Oh, I love this shit. 0.99
00:17:02.200 The thing, you're gay for dating Taylor Swift? 1.00
00:17:04.600 Yeah.
00:17:05.060 That was one of my favorite things all year.
00:17:06.440 So this is, like, declarations from right-wing men, particularly, like, MRA, manosphere influencers, but also sometimes just, like, Republican gadflies.
00:17:20.560 And these are, like, about casting heterosexual pleasure, like, playfulness, affection, companionship, any kind of, like, liking the woman that you as a cisgender man are dating.
00:17:33.040 That does sound pretty gay. 0.89
00:17:33.780 Well, it's a sign of your insufficient masculinity, right? 1.00
00:17:36.280 Like, if you're going to fuck women, you should really hate them and, like, not spend any time with them or, like, enjoy their company at all. 1.00
00:17:46.180 Just listening to her talk? 1.00
00:17:47.480 You, like, know things about her? 0.94
00:17:50.160 Feels a little like the loafers.
00:17:52.480 Yeah.
00:17:53.500 So, like, remember Matt Walsh?
00:17:55.760 He's, like, a—
00:17:56.180 Oh, Jesus Christ.
00:17:57.400 He's a bespectacled, bearded guy who I think hates divorce because, you know, everybody he's ever looked at is, like, I want a divorce right now. 0.98
00:18:04.840 i want to marry you just so i can divorce your ass he he has like a youtube show where he talked 0.99
00:18:13.160 about back in january he's like i heard somebody was getting his wife a valentine's day gift 1.00
00:18:20.780 already and he's like getting a valentine's day gift for your wife a month in advance 0.99
00:18:26.100 that's fag shit it's like you like your wife too much and therefore you are under suspicion 1.00
00:18:34.380 of homosexuality 1.00
00:18:36.760 or at least insufficient heterosexuality, right? 1.00
00:18:39.300 That's what gay people say all the time. 1.00
00:18:40.720 Once you like women too much, 1.00
00:18:42.400 you're one of us. 1.00
00:18:43.420 That's why people become gay. 0.98
00:18:44.760 We liked women. 1.00
00:18:45.800 We flew too close to the sun. 1.00
00:18:47.240 I just love my wife.
00:18:48.500 That's what happened to all you guys. 1.00
00:18:49.320 I'm having sex with a guy. 0.99
00:18:50.560 Like, man, I don't like my wife. 1.00
00:18:52.520 It may have been a little bit more withholding.
00:18:54.180 I mean, so given that this is once again 1.00
00:18:56.340 an all-gay panel, yes. 1.00
00:18:58.660 Listening to your heterosexual life partner 1.00
00:19:00.980 is definitely gay. 0.99
00:19:02.560 We're leaning in. 1.00
00:19:03.760 Absolutely correct.
00:19:04.920 It's definitely true.
00:19:06.440 Anything short of low-key poisoning each other's dinner while you glower at each other, kind of fruity. 0.75
00:19:13.020 This, like, principle that, like, liking your wife or girlfriend too much is gay is getting really invested into the MAGA perception of sex itself, like the sex act itself, right? 0.80
00:19:26.920 Yeah, because what do they even want? 0.98
00:19:28.580 Whenever I watch, like, Andrew Tate or whatever, I'm like, you just want people to be miserable.
00:19:32.120 speak of the devil michael because the devil he doth appear i'm gonna read you a november 30th 0.53
00:19:37.880 tweet by mr tate who says a two-minute intercourse is more than enough time for a husband to 0.99
00:19:45.840 inseminate his wife any more than that is vice perversion and socialism yes is it gay to have 0.99
00:19:55.740 sex for three minutes i love it also like can we just pause to say like again as an all socialist 0.99
00:20:02.560 panel yes having sex for more than two minutes does make you a committed socialist and you should 0.97
00:20:08.100 vote accordingly yeah that's how it happens if you're like this feels good boom marxist this 0.68
00:20:13.480 has also been such like a mask off year for the manosphere you know they they claim to be like 0.60
00:20:19.020 helping men you know date women or like things that sound kind of reasonable like here's how
00:20:22.720 you should work out here's how you should like maybe try to get dates or whatever but really
00:20:25.940 like they're selling this like Christo fascist ideology and also like they just want you
00:20:31.180 miserable they want you to think that you're doing it wrong constantly and this is why the
00:20:36.140 sort of we need a left-wing Joe Rogan this is another discourse that has kind of bothered me
00:20:40.540 is that you can't really have a left-wing Joe Rogan because the whole manosphere thing is like
00:20:47.480 making you unhappy and telling you there's like some weird trick to get women or whatever the
00:20:52.240 actual key to getting women is like try to be nice to them it'll work out with some people
00:20:55.660 won't work out with other people like try to take care of yourself dress well it's like really
00:20:59.540 boring advice but you can't sell that in the marketplace to sell something in the marketplace
00:21:04.020 you have to be constantly giving them these like life hacks and shit like it used to be like wear 0.99
00:21:07.980 a fucking top hat and do like close-up magic and shit black light attack exactly it reminds me a 0.98
00:21:12.720 little michael of like the logic of diets that you guys talk about on maintenance phase like 1.00
00:21:18.020 the diet is a like receding horizon of self-discipline and acceptable like virtuous
00:21:26.320 behavior right and if you fail at it if it doesn't work for you it's because you didn't do it hard
00:21:31.820 enough right totally and masculinity is kind of the same scam right you're never masculine enough
00:21:38.720 it's a very insecure like gender position right it needs to be proven all the time
00:21:43.300 and therefore its standards of achievement can continually recede beyond actual acceptability
00:21:50.340 but like i do want to dwell for a minute on how miserable these people are in trying to
00:21:55.900 pursue them they seem so miserable because what made me draw my attention to this is something i
00:22:00.540 just sent it to you guys in the chat which is a video of maga influencers isabella and josiah
00:22:07.140 moody who appeared on the youtube talk show the grudge the grudge seems to be like a kind of like
00:22:12.840 lefty to nonpartisan YouTube talk show that, to be honest, I don't really know much about
00:22:17.500 it.
00:22:17.720 It seems like it's geared towards men under 25, of which I am not one.
00:22:23.040 Anytime I hear lefty to moderate, I think fascist.
00:22:26.960 Yeah, I know, I know.
00:22:27.780 It's like, poke a little bit under the surface and it's just going to be like deranged.
00:22:32.940 It's just going to be a crypto scam and like weird eugenics.
00:22:36.060 Yeah.
00:22:36.780 But the show, they have these influencers on the show.
00:22:39.660 They apparently have their own following.
00:22:41.280 They're a married couple.
00:22:42.840 And they talked about how they only have sex for reproductive purposes and have excluded pleasure from their sex life.
00:22:49.680 Or at least Josiah, the husband, talks about this. 0.99
00:22:52.100 He says, as soon as we're together, it's like no birth control, nothing, because I'm not going to have gay sex. 0.99
00:22:58.440 And like gay sex is more than just like another man and a man. 0.99
00:23:01.600 It's just like the idea of looking at sex is such a materialistic thing and just like, oh, well, we just have an orgasm and that's fun or whatever. 0.99
00:23:10.240 No, like, dude, sex is about having children.
00:23:13.300 It's about having babies. 1.00
00:23:15.000 And look at his wife's face.
00:23:18.020 I am now. 0.98
00:23:21.280 Because she looks like she just wants to die.
00:23:26.480 The tweet that you sent, the text is, 1.00
00:23:28.380 Trump supporter doesn't want to have gay sex with his wife. 1.00
00:23:32.240 Gay sex with his wife is just such a fascinating phrase to me. 1.00
00:23:35.300 Yeah. 1.00
00:23:35.820 I can't tell whether her glance says, I really need an orgasm stat.
00:23:40.240 Or whether it says like, oh, I've been getting busy with someone else.
00:23:43.560 Yeah.
00:23:44.060 She's actually more disdainful, it seems like to me.
00:23:46.300 It is not the stare of like enraptured affection.
00:23:49.380 You know, it is a look of appraising somebody and finding them wanting.
00:23:56.900 She's like, oh, you're the guy from the last time you were in me for two minutes.
00:24:00.620 Yeah.
00:24:01.860 It's any more than that is socialism, guys. 0.52
00:24:04.320 To me, it seems like a side to like a suspicion or like paranoia about the corrupting influence of closeness to women. Right. Yeah. Like if you like a woman too much, you might start thinking of her and maybe even other women as human beings. Right. I don't know if this is actually a danger of heterosexuality based on what I see of it. It doesn't seem to happen. 0.54
00:24:26.840 people manage it reminds me of this wild radical feminist like lesbian separatist from the 70s 1.00
00:24:33.400 marilyn fry who has this assessment of male heterosexuality so she goes to say that straight 1.00
00:24:40.180 men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage with sex fucking exclusively with the 0.99
00:24:45.500 other sex i.e women all or almost all of that which pertains to love most straight men reserve 0.99
00:24:51.380 exclusively for other men.
00:24:53.520 The people whom they admire,
00:24:54.960 respect, adore, revere,
00:24:56.800 honor, whom they imitate,
00:24:58.280 idolize, and form
00:24:59.060 profound attachments to,
00:25:00.460 with whom they are willing
00:25:01.200 to teach and from whom
00:25:02.320 they are willing to learn,
00:25:03.480 and whose respect,
00:25:04.340 admiration, recognition,
00:25:05.660 honor, reverence,
00:25:06.420 and love they desire.
00:25:07.600 Those are overwhelmingly
00:25:08.860 other men. 0.88
00:25:10.280 So wait, you're circling
00:25:11.340 back around, 1.00
00:25:11.840 this is kind of gay. 1.00
00:25:13.340 Yeah. 0.99
00:25:16.120 These guys spend more time
00:25:17.980 trying to look good
00:25:18.880 to other men than I do.
00:25:20.380 Yeah.
00:25:20.700 This is this whole thing. 1.00
00:25:22.000 It is kind of gay. 0.93
00:25:23.500 Because your masculinity can only be affirmed by other men and women's bodies are like an instrument for that performance, right? 0.86
00:25:31.540 Yeah. 0.53
00:25:32.060 Dude, I don't know if you had this experience, Adrienne, but like after I came out, like all my buddies in high school were like straight dudes and I was like the first gay person they'd ever known.
00:25:40.660 And this was like late 90s, early 2000s.
00:25:42.200 So we were all kind of working through it together.
00:25:43.880 I had this like late night drunken conversation with one of my straight friends where he's like dealing with my homosexuality.
00:25:50.100 And he's like, bro, I think I'm gay, too.
00:25:52.780 And I'd known him for long enough to know.
00:25:54.500 I'm like, why do you think that, man?
00:25:56.540 And he's like, I haven't had sex with a woman in six months.
00:26:00.120 I'm like, bro, what are they telling you? 0.91
00:26:03.300 Man, you don't.
00:26:05.200 I'm like, have you ever been attracted to a guy?
00:26:06.480 No.
00:26:07.040 You don't lose your straight card at some point.
00:26:09.320 It's like people are in this miasma where they think they're doing it wrong constantly.
00:26:13.700 Yeah, I am.
00:26:14.180 And that this is like this threat. 0.98
00:26:15.220 Like you can lose your heterosexual status and become gay. 1.00
00:26:17.960 And these fucking grifters keep telling them like, oh, no, you're doing it wrong. 1.00
00:26:22.360 You're doing it wrong. 0.99
00:26:22.920 Like you brought up diets, Myra, and I feel like it's so similar to the diet stuff where it's like the actual diet advice is like try to eat fruits and vegetables.
00:26:30.100 Try to move around.
00:26:31.000 It's like really boring stuff.
00:26:32.360 But you can't capitalize on that.
00:26:34.140 You can't write a bestselling book on that. 0.99
00:26:35.740 So every year we need a new fucking superfood. 1.00
00:26:37.960 There's some new fad diet. 1.00
00:26:39.200 There's some new paradigm for this.
00:26:40.860 It's like there has to be something new that you can sell to an audience.
00:26:44.060 And it's the same with these guys.
00:26:45.120 It's like how to be a man is all like pretty boring, pretty boring and basic advice.
00:26:50.320 How to pick up girls is like just be friendly, nice, whatever.
00:26:53.480 But like you can't sell that. 0.89
00:26:54.900 So you need to keep moving the goalposts. 0.97
00:26:56.760 You need to keep changing the definition so that you can make a fucking video about it. 0.98
00:27:01.680 Like the grift is so central to this that, again, this is why we can't have a left-wing Joe Rogan because it's fundamentally a grift, all this manosphere shit. 0.99
00:27:11.020 Heterosexuality is a pyramid scheme. 0.99
00:27:13.080 You heard it here first. 1.00
00:27:14.540 And it's also gay. 0.95
00:27:16.240 And that's my first question. 0.87
00:27:20.020 The funny thing is the myth about gay men for so long has been like, they're recruiting you.
00:27:23.600 It's like, it's the straight guys recruiting you, man. 0.84
00:27:25.380 The straight guys are telling you you're gay. 1.00
00:27:27.100 Gay people don't give a shit. 1.00
00:27:28.620 Yeah. 1.00
00:27:28.900 Like, we don't want them.
00:27:30.300 Yeah.
00:27:30.800 Stay over there.
00:27:32.060 Yeah.
00:27:32.360 Yeah.
00:27:32.660 And what are those pants? 1.00
00:27:34.460 We're like ready with like bitchy remarks. 0.78
00:27:36.480 I mean, what it does remind me of, one of the funny kind of through lines of anti-gay discourse in the 90s and early 2000s was how easy it seemed for conservative men to imagine that they would be tempted into it.
00:27:51.060 And you're like, are you a straight man?
00:27:53.900 This is very similar to the trans discourse now where it's like if we tell kids that trans people exist, like they might be like, oh my God, I'm trans.
00:28:00.620 In a way that like if you grew up as a cisgender person just doesn't make any sense.
00:28:04.120 It's like if you're not transgender, the idea of dressing up in other clothing will not appeal to you.
00:28:08.660 I feel totally safe dressing up in women's clothes because I don't feel anything when that happens to me.
00:28:13.420 That's most people.
00:28:14.180 It's fine.
00:28:15.080 It's like the sort of the strength and weakness. 1.00
00:28:17.500 Like this is always cast in fascism as like the minorities are too strong and too weak at the same time. 0.98
00:28:22.420 It's like this is this like totally horrible way to live and it's so immoral. 0.89
00:28:26.460 But also if a kid puts on like his sister's dress once, he's going to be like, I'm trans now forever.
00:28:32.380 Yeah.
00:28:32.520 Everything has to be, like, vulnerable all the time.
00:28:34.420 Like, everything has to be under threat.
00:28:35.900 Yeah.
00:28:36.360 That kind of brings me to mine, actually.
00:28:38.340 Yay!
00:28:38.680 Ooh! 1.00
00:28:39.380 This year has really been the year of, like, the mainstreaming of anti-trans garbage. 0.99
00:28:45.180 Like, stuff that used to be, like, beyond the pale is now just, like, completely mainstream and, like, appears in, like, USA Today and shit. 0.99
00:28:51.580 Like, this is the year when all this stuff went completely mainstream.
00:28:53.880 And so you could have picked any article for this.
00:28:56.180 But the radicalization cycle that people have gone through and that like people are quite sort of openly describing themselves like joining hate movements at this point in like please have sympathy for me sort of way.
00:29:07.740 So I found this is relatively obscure, but it just feels kind of like canonical or symbolic to me.
00:29:13.660 This article on this lady's substack called I Pretended to Be Non-Binary to Expose a Medical Scandal at Kaiser Permanente, which sounds a little bit like a dog took my face and gave me a better face to change the world.
00:29:28.120 The Celeste Cunningham story from 30 Rock.
00:29:31.020 But this is the story of like this woman who she gives some background later in the article, but her daughter came out as trans and she basically like rejects this. 0.53
00:29:41.720 She's like, no, you're not trans.
00:29:43.340 And then she starts going online and getting radicalized.
00:29:46.500 She eventually just completely like loses the relationship with her kids.
00:29:50.900 So her daughter goes and lives with their husband.
00:29:54.620 There appears to be like a divorce that goes on.
00:29:57.000 Like, this really broke up the family, essentially her radicalization, but then she blames it on her kid being trans.
00:30:03.420 And then this whole article kind of claims to be, like, I said that I was non-binary and, like, look how easy it is to get hormones and surgery.
00:30:12.180 I mean, I should say that both Moira and I have Kaiser, I believe, and easy to get surgery is not the first thing I think of.
00:30:19.280 No, Jesus Christ.
00:30:19.900 It is not easy to get anything from Kaiser Permanente.
00:30:23.700 They vaccinate pretty consistently, I have to say.
00:30:25.700 Like I've been able to walk in, but like anything more than that, come back in May.
00:30:29.900 So the opening paragraph of this piece is, she says, on September 6th, 2022, I received a mail from Kaiser Permanente reminding me of a routine cervical screening.
00:30:39.540 The language of the reminder stood out to me, recommended for people with a cervix ages 21 to 65.
00:30:45.400 When I asked my OBGYN about the strange wording, she told me the wording was chosen to be inclusive of their transgender and gender fluid patients.
00:30:53.140 Based on this response, several thoughts occurred to me.
00:30:55.700 Could I expose the medical scandal of gender-affirming care by saying and doing everything my daughter and other trans-identifying kids are taught to do?
00:31:04.500 And so she then goes through this whole thing of, like, I emailed back and told them that I'm non-binary and I want new pronouns.
00:31:11.980 And, like, within an hour, they were like, okay, we've updated your chart with your new pronouns.
00:31:16.260 And, like, this is, like, she's casting this as, like, a scandal.
00:31:19.100 Like, they didn't even check.
00:31:20.340 They just changed my pronouns on my chart, which, like, completely seems fine to me.
00:31:25.700 She then says that, like, she's 52 years old.
00:31:28.340 She has been experimenting with a non-binary identity for a while.
00:31:31.920 She is firm in this identity.
00:31:33.660 She then gets a series of, like, mental health assessments.
00:31:38.220 I believe there's two different mental health assessments.
00:31:41.180 There's then, like, a physical risk assessment before they prescribe her anything.
00:31:45.400 Like, these are potentially the side effects.
00:31:47.640 She goes to an endocrinologist.
00:31:49.520 It takes four months for her to get a prescription for testosterone.
00:31:53.140 As a 52-year-old woman, she says that this is too fast.
00:31:55.700 She never takes the testosterone, but she says that she's taking it.
00:31:58.540 And then she eventually gets scheduled for gender-affirming surgery.
00:32:02.520 And the crescendo of the piece is, she says,
00:32:05.640 in fewer than 300 days, Kaiser Permanente's esteemed multidisciplinary team of gender specialists
00:32:11.040 was willing to prescribe life-altering medications and perform surgeries. 0.61
00:32:16.000 Okay, can we talk about how funny it would be if people's spite transitioned?
00:32:20.280 there are all these chirps you're suddenly like like it's like yeah okay congratulations i guess
00:32:28.080 you own someone i'm not sure it's the libs this'll show them is the premise supposed to be that they
00:32:35.620 were supposed to detect that she was lying to them well that's the thing all of these articles are
00:32:39.860 like this is rushed this is too fast and when you actually get to the timeline it's like oh there
00:32:43.660 were like numerous mental health assessments people asked her about like previous trauma they
00:32:47.400 asked her about social transition they talked to her about all the side effects of whatever
00:32:51.020 medication she's going to take there's really no process breakdown anywhere here like i don't know 0.62
00:32:55.700 what really went wrong here other than you think trans people are fake like all you're really
00:33:00.220 saying is like they said i was trans because i said i was trans well some people are trans i don't
00:33:04.300 know what to tell you yeah they only believed me because i made a month-long effort to deceive them
00:33:11.220 and also like what exactly are doctors supposed to do right if you go to the doctor and you say
00:33:16.820 like, oh, I'm having suicidal thoughts. Are they supposed to be like, prove it? It's like,
00:33:19.780 these are mental health assessments. Jump off a building now.
00:33:22.060 Yeah. People aren't auditing like your actual life or something. If you say like, oh, I have
00:33:26.100 insomnia and it's interfering with my work life. Like, we're going to have to talk to your boss
00:33:28.900 about that. No, I mean, everything is kind of based on trusting the patient. So I don't know
00:33:33.200 what another system would be. And then as usual, she describes, quote, fewer than 300 days as some
00:33:40.040 kind of scandal. And she didn't get surgery. She just got a referral to the surgeon in 300 days,
00:33:43.780 which, if anything, is too slow.
00:33:46.660 It's almost a year to get a referral to a surgeon
00:33:51.000 for somebody who, according to her own testimony,
00:33:53.560 has been firm in this identity for a long time.
00:33:56.160 So what exactly went wrong here?
00:33:58.460 It's like every single one of these articles,
00:34:00.760 once you break them down, there's no actual scandal here.
00:34:03.980 I'll tell you what the scandal is. 0.84
00:34:05.540 Some weird Gen Xer deprived a bunch of people of tea
00:34:09.020 they could have used themselves.
00:34:10.320 Yeah, exactly.
00:34:10.860 And wasted a whole lot of time, which probably makes my insurance premiums go up.
00:34:16.020 Oh, Kaiser emailed her, like, about this.
00:34:18.260 Yeah.
00:34:18.560 Can we get our $5,000 back? 0.99
00:34:20.600 Because what the fuck? 0.99
00:34:21.520 And also the pride with which she describes, I chose this ideology over my relationship with my child. 1.00
00:34:28.040 Yeah.
00:34:28.480 This is actually, like, a really sad story of somebody self-radicalizing and falling down this weird rabbit hole.
00:34:33.680 And, like, imagine hating your kids so much that you do this year-long charade to, like, prove that they're lying about the thing that they told you. 0.97
00:34:42.880 It's like, like, I wanted to own my kid by transitioning. 0.53
00:34:48.060 It's like, wow, you really won the argument with your own child who no longer speaks to you.
00:34:53.040 Wow, this is very healthy behavior.
00:34:55.800 So that will be the worst Thanksgiving of all time, I have to say. 0.96
00:34:58.440 If the parent shows up and has just transitioned just to own their kid. 0.96
00:35:04.160 Gotcha. 0.98
00:35:05.880 It only took me a year and a half to do this.
00:35:08.220 Like, yep.
00:35:09.120 Yeah.
00:35:09.820 It should probably be faster.
00:35:11.320 But so here's a question.
00:35:12.400 Maybe this is because Warren and I just talked to Matt Bernstein about right-wing grifters.
00:35:16.380 Like, do we think this is just about ownage or is this someone?
00:35:19.880 Because there's also the bachelor who fake transitioned as well. 0.61
00:35:23.220 Oh, that was awful. 0.99
00:35:24.420 God.
00:35:25.120 It's like people were nice to me.
00:35:26.980 Owned.
00:35:27.420 somebody fake transitioned on the bachelor or like a previous bachelor contestant said i'm
00:35:33.220 transitioning and then he would appear in public with like a wig and kind of like bad makeup and
00:35:37.220 then he would say like i'm early in my transition and like he got lots of support people were really
00:35:41.140 nice they were like okay great like it's good you're on this journey like people were super nice 0.80
00:35:45.060 and then later he was like i was lying and i fucking owned all of you and like i don't know 0.89
00:35:50.100 what that was supposed to prove like yeah people are nice people were nice to you how terrible and 0.99
00:35:54.320 And, like, actually you are a secret dick the whole time. 0.98
00:35:57.800 It's like you did prove a point but not the one that you think you're proving. 0.99
00:36:01.200 As in most of these pieces, right?
00:36:02.860 You're like this is a real societal phenomenon. 0.99
00:36:04.940 But, like, the actual kind of rapid onset scary thing that is happening to people is these people going online and getting radicalized against their own fucking kids. 0.99
00:36:13.540 Yeah. 0.99
00:36:13.840 Based on this insane ideology.
00:36:15.900 There's no evidence behind it.
00:36:16.920 And even when they attempt to gin up evidence, like, look how fast the surgeries are.
00:36:21.920 300 days.
00:36:22.660 They can't find evidence for it.
00:36:24.440 We just went through for our trans kids episode.
00:36:27.000 We went through the 2018 Jesse Singall article about how, you know, kids are being rushed into transition.
00:36:33.060 And then his actual own reporting is him talking to a lot of clinicians.
00:36:36.060 We're like, I mean, this takes a lot of time.
00:36:38.700 People wind up with various different outcomes.
00:36:40.620 You know, we really try to think through it all.
00:36:42.420 And it's like he cannot create a scandal.
00:36:45.560 So he just like casts it in this ominous language that is completely belied by the evidence that he himself is presenting.
00:36:52.980 You know, it's nuts.
00:36:53.740 You'd think that an article about kids transitioning too fast would include an example of a kid transitioning too fast.
00:36:59.760 10,000 words.
00:37:00.640 You'd think you could find one example of this actually happening.
00:37:03.500 But I don't know.
00:37:04.480 These are just my weird standards for how journalism should happen.
00:37:07.140 Yeah.
00:37:07.820 So I think that brings us back to you, Adrian.
00:37:09.740 What is your second Kirstie nominee?
00:37:12.540 So things are getting a little lighter. 0.73
00:37:14.240 I think 2024 was a banner year for somehow people who are being very hot in a very cis way portending the death of woke. 0.74
00:37:23.220 So this is the Sidney Sweeney boobs discourse, in other words. 0.99
00:37:27.280 I guess we should talk about like whether the death of woke discourse around Sidney Sweeney's boobs has now been counteracted by all of gay Twitter losing its shit over the health care killer. 0.99
00:37:38.920 And like everyone's like thirst trapping this killer. 0.99
00:37:42.260 Maybe woke's back.
00:37:43.040 The spike in I can fix him searches must have been profound.
00:37:47.520 But then I don't even understand this. 1.00
00:37:48.860 This was like maybe also a story of online radicalization because it's like you see a beautiful woman with big boobs and you're like, take that, gays and feminists. 0.93
00:37:58.480 But why? 1.00
00:37:59.280 Why can't you just be like, nice boobs? 0.99
00:38:00.940 I don't know. 0.96
00:38:01.680 There was a tweet by noted public intellectual Richard Hanania.
00:38:04.740 Oh, God.
00:38:05.540 His first bad take.
00:38:06.320 Wow, interesting.
00:38:06.900 Of secret white supremacist pseudonym fame, right?
00:38:10.400 Yeah. 0.99
00:38:10.540 So what had happened is Citi Sweeney hosted SNL on March 2nd, and basically a very specific part of the internet lost its goddamn mind. 0.96
00:38:17.940 Among them, Richard Hanania. 0.97
00:38:19.440 He tweeted out a picture of Sweeney at the kind of curtain call they do at the end of SNL, where she thanks everyone, et cetera, et cetera, in which her boobs— 0.99
00:38:27.740 Her tits are out. 0.98
00:38:29.260 They are pushed up, like, to her, like, chin. 1.00
00:38:31.160 Yeah. 1.00
00:38:31.600 I tend to not notice women's breasts, and even though I was like, whoa, okay, there they are. 1.00
00:38:35.320 They are prominently featured. 0.99
00:38:36.940 Me and Adrienne can take it from here, Moira. 1.00
00:38:38.600 We can describe women's breasts. 0.99
00:38:39.720 Sorry, we can, look, you're sitting with two premier experts on the shape and feel of women's breasts, so.
00:38:46.340 Yeah.
00:38:47.320 But, and then, and then his commentary was, wokeness is dead.
00:38:51.580 Is that the whole tweet?
00:38:52.720 That's it?
00:38:53.280 Yeah. 1.00
00:38:53.580 Just like a woman with her boobs existing and he's like, wokeness is dead. 1.00
00:38:56.320 I think if he looks at them too long, he becomes gay. 1.00
00:39:00.300 Yeah, I wonder. 0.99
00:39:01.160 Then I found another one of these from the National Post in Canada.
00:39:05.740 Wokeness is no match for Sidney Sweeney's undeniable beauty.
00:39:08.820 You're like, okay.
00:39:10.760 We've been pressured into pretending everyone is beautiful except for those who actually are.
00:39:15.400 I'm sorry, have we?
00:39:16.440 Oh, that's like a whole anti-body positivity thing. 0.99
00:39:19.380 A lot of this shit is like disguised fatphobia. 0.99
00:39:21.960 Yeah. 1.00
00:39:22.280 That some people are like, yeah, if you're fat, you should be able to like go on Instagram. 1.00
00:39:25.000 And like some people think fat people are hot as shit. 1.00
00:39:27.280 And then this is somehow like a refutation of that. 1.00
00:39:30.000 It's like, well, some people think Sydney Sweeney's hot.
00:39:32.700 Some people don't.
00:39:33.440 Some people think Lizzo is hot.
00:39:34.600 Some people don't.
00:39:35.240 People have different tastes than other people.
00:39:36.680 Nothing challenges my wokeness about this. 1.00
00:39:38.820 I will I will like be the annoying feminist and say that this is like a Mia Srinivasan's point in her famous piece, The Right to Sex. 0.99
00:39:46.880 It's like, no, our desires are constructed by politics. Right. And they do have political content and ideological content. 0.97
00:39:53.280 And I think that there's something like avowed about the right wing like dog barking response to Sydney Sweeney's appearance and her body that like does. 0.98
00:40:04.620 OK, well, this is a highly cisgender person who has exaggerated secondary sex characteristics, let's say it is the breast and not the rear end.
00:40:16.360 Like, the fetish object or the fetishized body part in the late, like, 2010s, I want to say, was, like, the Kardashian-style, like, big rear end, which was obviously, like, a sort of appropriation or mimicry of, like, black women's bodies, right?
00:40:31.480 Like, maybe nodding to, like, a different sexual politics, and that seems to have really gone the way of the dodo bird now.
00:40:38.960 The body trend is like hyper thinness, you know, like Ozempic is a big thing, like eating disorders are back in vogue to like put it in crude terms. Right. Like women are underfed again in a way that does seem aligned with a right wing politics in which like they're not supposed to be having undisciplined bodies or fulfilling their own desires. Right.
00:41:02.880 Yeah. So like I do see what they're going for. I just think it's really weird. Right.
00:41:09.420 It feels in keeping with the like moving the goalpost on heterosexuality thing where it's like, is it gay to be attracted to people who aren't Sidney Sweeney? 0.94
00:41:16.740 It's like it's not only the way that you're supposed to have sex with and treat women. It's also like the kind of women you're supposed to be attracted to. 0.79
00:41:22.540 Yes. Yeah. It just seems like they're they keep redefining like ways in which you're doing it wrong. 1.00
00:41:26.720 Maybe I'll quote briefly from that National Post article, because I think it's kind of picking up on what you're talking about, Moira, but it is also way dumber.
00:41:34.120 I think you're kind of steel-manning it here a little bit.
00:41:37.820 Exactly how this led to a cultural cataclysm over beauty and wokeness can be summarized as follows.
00:41:43.380 We spent years being chastised for desiring or admiring beauty, because beauty is rare and exclusionary, and to exclude is to hate, or so we've been scolded to accept by today's diversity, equity, and inclusion fanatics.
00:41:54.920 We aren't supposed to admire Sweeney's beauty, but we've done it anyways.
00:41:58.440 The times, they are changing, aren't they?
00:42:00.980 It feels very similar to, like, the attack on feminists.
00:42:04.180 It's like, feminists don't even want you to stay home and raise kids. 0.98
00:42:07.280 When the actual feminist ask is that people would have more options than just the one thing. 1.00
00:42:12.580 And it's the same thing, too.
00:42:13.400 I don't think anyone is saying that you can't get a boner when you see Sidney Sweeney.
00:42:16.740 It's like, we should just let people get boners to whoever they want to get boners to.
00:42:21.380 It's not narrowing the options. 1.00
00:42:22.460 And like no one is telling you you're a piece of shit for like thinking of, I don't know, Victoria's Secret catalog is hot or whatever. 1.00
00:42:28.200 Like you're allowed to think conventionally attractive hot people are hot. 1.00
00:42:30.940 No one gives a shit. 0.98
00:42:32.220 I think, Michael, you're onto something in that like the actual complaint is not like the absence of desire or some sort of like imagined public prohibition on desire for women who looks like Siddy Sweeney. 0.99
00:42:45.000 It's the like a vowel or option to express desire for women who don't, right?
00:42:50.720 Like, I mean, Jordan Peterson, I think this was this year, over the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition.
00:42:56.960 And, like, I think we as feminists should aspire for things beyond, like, a more broad-based project of objectification, right?
00:43:05.160 But there was a swimsuit model on one of the covers of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition, which had, like, a bunch of covers.
00:43:11.840 And one of them was, like, I think she was, like, of the Aoki clan.
00:43:15.920 I think she was like one of the descendants of the guy who founded Hibachi Grill.
00:43:21.680 Like there's he has a bunch of like hot children and grandchildren and nieces and nephews and things like that.
00:43:26.080 I think she was one of those. 1.00
00:43:27.160 And she was like a plus size Asian model. 1.00
00:43:30.000 Yeah. 1.00
00:43:30.460 I think her name is Yumi Nu.
00:43:31.660 Yumi Nu.
00:43:32.300 Yeah.
00:43:32.600 And then Peterson had a meltdown.
00:43:34.520 Yeah.
00:43:34.860 He was like, there's a hot girl on the cover, but she's not my preferred kind of hot girl.
00:43:38.460 And I need this institution, this, like, commercial enterprise to be catering to my specific tastes sexually and nobody else's.
00:43:47.400 And when they don't or when they have, like, a different vision of the erotic ideal, that is oppressing me.
00:43:55.000 It's, like, very strange. 0.95
00:43:56.800 You've stolen my boner from me. 0.79
00:43:58.460 Yeah.
00:43:58.800 I think he called it authoritarian tolerance. 1.00
00:44:01.280 He was like, no amount of authoritarian tolerance can convince me that this woman is hot.
00:44:05.920 And like, I don't know, you're allowed to find people hot or not hot for any reason. 0.99
00:44:09.280 I don't really give a shit. 0.97
00:44:10.760 I mean, that's the thing is like the tiniest bit of representation for kind of different forms of beauty. 0.99
00:44:16.660 These people fucking melt down, but it's not really like replacing anything. 0.93
00:44:19.820 Like there were still normal models. 0.99
00:44:22.340 Yeah, there's a lot of Kate Uptons in the world.
00:44:25.240 I mean, I feel like I never feel like more of a lesbian than when the Internet has a boyfriend, right?
00:44:31.400 Like Barry Keoghan, the little Irish guy, I was like, that's a swamp creature.
00:44:35.920 And everybody around me was like, oh, he is so – but, like, what if I was, like, me having to come across pictures of Barry Keoghan on my timeline is actually oppression? 0.66
00:44:48.180 Yeah, exactly.
00:44:48.540 This is authoritarianism that you other people think somebody is cute.
00:44:53.740 And I'm like, I just – I don't really – I'm not that moved by it.
00:44:56.780 I don't know.
00:44:57.200 Yeah, imagine going through life that way if you're, like, a furry.
00:45:01.440 None of these swimsuit models are wearing fur at all. 0.98
00:45:05.920 where are their whiskers i don't know i just don't feel owned by sydney sweetie's tits i just don't 0.69
00:45:12.860 i'm just like they're out there that's fine that's cool for her and cool for all of you 0.99
00:45:17.260 yeah hollywood starlet is conventionally attractive hold the fucking presses i'm so 0.93
00:45:22.800 owned by this i mean one other way to read this is of course to think like i think this was a lot 0.98
00:45:28.460 of conservative men not knowing who she was until they saw her on snl yeah and like wanting to
00:45:34.300 communicate the fact that they thought she was hot, but they can no longer just say like,
00:45:38.220 I like this, but they have to sort of cast it in culture war language, right? Like,
00:45:43.340 I know I'm going to offend some people by retreating to my bunk with this picture I've
00:45:48.660 just found. It's like, I feel like that's between you and your left hand, man. Like, it's just...
00:45:52.280 Just tweet va-va-voom. No one gives a shit. Just bring va-va-voom back. 0.99
00:45:57.740 This is a sign that conservatives need to watch The White Lotus because she was great on it and
00:46:02.460 And it's a beautiful show.
00:46:03.920 It's a perfect show.
00:46:04.620 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:46:05.560 I think it's coming back.
00:46:11.220 All right.
00:46:11.960 With that, we're already at the end of the first half of an award show that at this point rivals the Oscars in sheer lack of discipline.
00:46:20.040 I like that at this award show, the Kirsties, nobody wins, but we all lose, you know?
00:46:27.720 What's that tagline in Aliens vs. Predator?
00:46:30.860 Whoever wins, we lose.
00:46:32.100 But if you guys want even more, we've got part two coming to your podcast queue very soon.
00:46:41.360 So thanks for coming along with us on this dark, dark journey.
00:46:45.480 You've witnessed the predator of cursed discourses.
00:46:49.300 Wait for the facehugger of absolute crappitude that is coming at you in part two of the Cursedies. 0.57
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00:47:05.860 our producer is Katie Lau