There Are No Girls on the Internet - August 18, 2020


Going Boldly with Blair Imani

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00:02:09.660 When you think of the future, what does it look like?
00:02:13.000 In 1966, Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry imagined a future where the multiracial crew of the USS Enterprise
00:02:20.160 worked together to explore the wonders of space.
00:02:23.900 And while they were at it,
00:02:25.320 they also explored race, disability, and gender.
00:02:29.440 Star Trek has long been a vessel
00:02:30.820 for people to imagine themselves in the future.
00:02:34.000 When Nichelle Nichols, who played Ahura,
00:02:36.200 wanted to quit the show to pursue a career on Broadway,
00:02:38.940 it was Martin Luther King, a Trekkie himself,
00:02:42.240 who convinced her to stay on 0.85
00:02:43.760 so the world could see a Black woman 1.00
00:02:45.480 as commanding and capable.
00:02:47.580 Here's Nichols describing the historic encounter.
00:02:50.160 When I'm looking at Dr. Martin Luther King, he said, you can't.
00:02:57.480 And I couldn't.
00:02:59.500 And I've never regretted it.
00:03:02.280 I didn't leave.
00:03:04.000 I couldn't leave.
00:03:06.620 The rest is history.
00:03:09.140 Is it any surprise that MLK was a Star Trek fan?
00:03:12.460 In order to be an activist, you have to be able to imagine a future that's better than the current reality.
00:03:18.120 and believe in the promise that the future includes people like you.
00:03:23.680 Blair Armani is an activist, historian, and author.
00:03:27.200 Like MLK before her, she's a huge Trekkie,
00:03:29.820 and the show helped her imagine a future where people like her aren't just included,
00:03:34.260 but where they can also live long and prosper.
00:03:37.060 Last year, Blair went to Comic-Con in California.
00:03:40.000 She cosplayed as Geordie LaForge, the Enterprise's chief engineer played by LeVar Burton.
00:03:45.360 The character was a nod to George LaForge, a quadriplegic fan of the show.
00:03:50.580 Geordi is blind, and a device called a visor gives him the ability to see.
00:03:54.800 And if you're anything like me, you spent your childhood mimicking the device with a headband on your face.
00:04:00.580 Blair wanted to dress as Geordi, but also add her own spin to it.
00:04:04.640 I have always believed that Geordi LaForge of Star Trek is a Muslim because he's born, I think, on February 16th, 2335.
00:04:13.760 not I think, I know, in Mogadishu, Somalia, which is a Muslim majority country. And in 300 years,
00:04:20.420 it'll probably still be a Muslim majority country. So odds are that Geordi La Forge is a Black Muslim. 0.99
00:04:25.400 So I thought, oh, how fun and wholesome it will be for me to bring my religiosity and myself to
00:04:29.880 this space. I did not anticipate it would go super viral. I did not anticipate pissing off Islamophobes.
00:04:37.120 I mean, I kind of always anticipate that, but not in the Star Trek fandom. So it kind of turned into
00:04:42.560 like some fun thing I could do. And of course, like most things, it became a political statement.
00:04:47.780 You can find a link to Blair's outfit in the show notes, and I definitely suggest checking it out. 0.58
00:04:52.680 Her feminized, Islamicized take on Jordi LaForge with the hijab went viral.
00:04:58.500 I had this beautiful robe from Elhoffer Design, which is based in Los Angeles,
00:05:02.480 created by Katie Elhoffer. So woman-owned business, love that. I had the Jordi LaForge
00:05:06.920 visor, which is his seeing device because Jordi LaForge is not sighted. He's blind, but he uses
00:05:13.680 this vision device, visor device, in order to be able to see. So I had that. And then I put a nice
00:05:18.380 black hijab on top of it. Blair said only three people asked her about cosplaying as a version
00:05:23.640 of Jordi who presents as a woman. But it was the addition of the hijab that really riled people up.
00:05:29.980 Some of the responses were really pedantic, like one Twitter user who said a hijab would violate
00:05:35.360 the Starfleet's dress code so Blair what was the reaction like online you would have thought that
00:05:40.700 I had like I don't know lit a holy book on fire the way some people were reacting so you have the
00:05:46.720 one group of folks who um well actually I wouldn't have even photographed it if it wasn't for my
00:05:51.560 friend Kalen Borowski who like he's my photographer like primarily and he was like you need to get
00:05:57.880 photographs of this and I was like okay fine let's do it before I go to Comic-Con and I just posted
00:06:02.000 it for Juma, which is, you know, Friday, Friday prayer day. And I was like, you know, Juma Mubarak
00:06:07.200 to all the Muslims across the galaxy. And the pictures came out super iconic. And so I posted
00:06:11.500 them. And it was wild because cast of the Star Trek franchise, like Will Wheaton and, you know,
00:06:20.860 LeVar Burton himself and Michael Dorn and Brent Spinner saw the post and started sharing it
00:06:26.000 themselves, which was like super duper validating. I was like on top of the world. And then of course
00:06:30.480 the fans started to see it and then of course star trek.com itself started to see it um and so
00:06:36.260 there was like this outpouring of like what is this the the the most exciting and kind of like
00:06:41.580 I guess surprising aspect was that people thought I was a new character on the show Picard
00:06:46.560 and I still get emails from people who are like when is your episode coming out I'm so excited
00:06:52.840 so some people really liked it and some people really hated it but Blair couldn't understand 0.63
00:06:59.580 why her using Star Trek to affirm that the future includes Black Muslims like her was so shocking,
00:07:05.000 particularly given that Star Trek was meant to show a vision of the future that includes everybody.
00:07:09.860 It was really polarizing. On the one hand, as far as like social media went, it was like folks who
00:07:15.400 were really excited or thought that I was a new character. Then you had folks saying things like,
00:07:20.200 Gene Roddenberry didn't intend for Muslims to be in space. Muslims aren't in Star Trek. And I'm 0.98
00:07:25.800 like, first of all, Star Trek is fictional. Second of all, yeah, he did, because, you know,
00:07:30.280 Gene Roddenberry, he believed in infinite diversity and infinite combinations. And Star
00:07:34.840 Trek was a beloved show of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., who actually encouraged, you know, Uhura,
00:07:41.620 you know, the woman who plays Uhura to, like, continue on the show, and Nichelle Nichols.
00:07:47.480 And so, like, not only is Gene Roddenberry not this like, you know, like anti-diversity, anti-PC dude, he was the reason there was the first interracial kiss on television between Captain Kirk and Lieutenant Uhura.
00:08:02.820 And so that's huge, you know. 0.95
00:08:05.240 So when people are saying there's no Muslims in space, I'm like, actually, I have evidence to back it up.
00:08:09.780 But also, this isn't even a real universe.
00:08:11.460 If you hate Muslims so much, maybe you should just say that instead of trying to use either, you know, your own fandom or something else to hide behind that.
00:08:20.780 There's a rich tradition of activists finding inspiration and being able to see themselves in fictional worlds.
00:08:26.600 It's one of the reasons why MLK wanted Nichelle Nichols to keep showing that kind of representation.
00:08:32.860 Civil rights icon John Lewis was one of my heroes.
00:08:36.860 And my favorite fact about him is that during Comic-Con,
00:08:40.040 he cosplayed as his own younger self,
00:08:43.000 crossing the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma during the Civil Rights Movement.
00:08:47.680 At Comic-Con 2016, he wore the same coat and carried the same backpack
00:08:52.540 that contained the same things he brought with him back on that fateful day in 1965.
00:08:58.180 An apple, a toothbrush, and a comic book.
00:09:01.700 All the things you need to survive a night in jail.
00:09:04.780 At the convention, dressed as his own younger self,
00:09:08.360 Lewis led kids on a little march around the convention
00:09:10.320 to help them visualize that anyone could be a hero, even them.
00:09:14.860 He was there to promote his own comic book,
00:09:17.360 a graphic novel retelling of the March on Selma called March.
00:09:21.320 Here is the late John Lewis at Comic-Con 2016,
00:09:24.820 advocating for a new generation to create good trouble.
00:09:28.300 The March, book one, but also book two.
00:09:33.920 And when book three came out, it would inspire another generation of young people and people not so young to stand up, to speak up and speak up and get into trouble.
00:09:46.800 It might sound strange for a civil rights icon to be talking about comics at a convention, but John Lewis says that he was first inspired to join the civil rights movement from reading a comic book about MLK called Dr. King, Martin Luther King and the Montgomery Story.
00:10:03.920 I think it really shows that civil rights leaders and activists are real people with real interests.
00:10:12.740 They're not just sort of like someone that you read about in February for Black History Month or like a picture in a book.
00:10:18.440 They're real multifaceted people.
00:10:21.820 And I do think there's this connection to science fiction and other nerdy interests and civil rights and activism,
00:10:29.040 because you have to be able to sort of imagine and dream that different worlds are possible to
00:10:34.320 be an activist and to fight for the kind of change that you fight for. I keep making the
00:10:38.520 connections between religion and sci-fi because it is the idea of a different world. Dr. King
00:10:44.920 spoke about the mountaintop, but we can also look at that as imagining Afrofuturism and imagining 0.83
00:10:51.520 ourselves in a different realm and this whole idea that we have to get beyond the limitations
00:10:55.500 of our own imagination. And sometimes for, you know, religious folks such as myself, it means
00:11:00.240 trusting that, you know, Allah or God or Yahweh has the ultimate plan. And that is beyond our
00:11:05.840 own understanding because we have a finite, you know, ability to understand in our current
00:11:10.040 system. Or it could be to use, you know, graphics and art and illustration and comics and books
00:11:17.300 and video and film and podcasts to, you know, imagine what that looks like and transport us
00:11:22.740 to a different place as a reprieve from the difficulties of the world. But it's also crucial
00:11:28.360 to understand that, you know, these are tools used to transport us, but they're still being
00:11:34.220 created by people. And because of that, there's going to be limitations. I mean, the example I
00:11:39.100 keep giving is that, you know, in Star Trek, they have people giving painful, you know, traditional
00:11:43.520 birth, you know, via the birth canal. And I'm like, okay, well, if you can like zap somebody
00:11:50.020 healthy with like a laser gun then why can't you just like teleport the baby out of the womb you
00:11:54.960 know like there's the limitations you know or the idea that we haven't surpassed this idea of you
00:12:00.680 know pain during childbirth etc or just you know is there an incubation pod like it you know because
00:12:07.360 star trek the next generation was created at a specific time in history even the things that
00:12:11.360 they make as a futuristic interpretation of a current technology it's going to be based on
00:12:18.380 that current technology. But the other cool thing is that so many technologies are then based on,
00:12:23.300 you know, the imaginings of previous sci-fi writers, even like Jules Verne, you know,
00:12:29.060 people as they imagine are also limited by the imaginings of each other. And so with John Lewis,
00:12:36.380 I was actually able to meet him while he was on tour during the first March book created by
00:12:43.640 himself and Andrew Aiden and Nate Powell. And I spoke to him about why he decided to do this
00:12:48.780 format. And it was because he wanted to reach as many people as possible. And so Andrew Aiden
00:12:54.400 and John Lewis, they both love comic books. And that comic book that you refer to is called Dr.
00:12:59.900 King, Martin Luther King in the Montgomery story. And it's beautiful because it shows how much of
00:13:08.780 a Superman, Dr. King was made to be. Not only is it an educational tool, but these are
00:13:14.820 representational materials of things that are happening in the present moment. I think today
00:13:20.000 we get caught up in conversations about this activism is performative. You know, if you have
00:13:25.200 an outfit to show up to a protest, you're being a shallow activist, completely ignoring the fact
00:13:30.380 that like the Black Panther Party didn't just wake up with perfectly symmetrical afros,
00:13:35.040 excellently tailored slacks and turtlenecks and berets they didn't just roll out of bed like that
00:13:40.140 it was all intentional and performance and art and illustration and the conveyance of information
00:13:47.200 requires intentionality and that's going to deal with aesthetics so it's not to say we have to
00:13:52.520 choose one it's not to say one should overcome the other but that we can have both of these
00:13:56.960 things in tandem and that sometimes we limit ourselves um we being kind of like the broader
00:14:02.200 community or you know people who uh just you know we as a people often limit ourselves in what tools
00:14:09.380 we uh grab on to because if you've only seen tweets or tiktoks that cover surface level you
00:14:16.920 know material if the only way you've come into contact with sci-fi has been at the surface level
00:14:21.540 way then you're probably not going to understand the fact that you know during the time of a crack
00:14:26.140 epidemic, the Star Trek universe decided to tackle addiction. You might not understand that TikTok
00:14:33.020 is being used to educate young people and people across literacy and language. And so it's all
00:14:39.800 about how we use the tools. And that's why I find comics and film and TV so exciting because yeah,
00:14:48.580 it's a different world. Yeah, it's not real life, but it can totally be a proxy for our real life
00:14:53.480 and it can be a reprieve from our world,
00:14:55.400 but then it's also very important to make sure
00:14:57.880 that we check our own biases when creating that work.
00:15:01.540 Fiction, comic books, cartoons, TV shows,
00:15:04.380 all of them can be tools to help us better understand ourselves
00:15:07.180 and the world around us.
00:15:09.800 Blair is also an author.
00:15:11.480 Her books, Modern Herstory and Making Our Way Home,
00:15:14.700 use colorful illustrations to help introduce audiences
00:15:17.480 to the concept that marginalized people of the past
00:15:21.000 weren't just two-dimensional historical figures.
00:15:23.480 They were complex.
00:15:25.160 And the cover of both of her books kind of looked like comics.
00:15:28.780 Fun fact, full circle story, is the reason why I'm an author is because of LeVar Burton.
00:15:33.800 So one, LeVar Burton made me an enthusiastic reader via Reading Rainbow.
00:15:37.740 And two, I thanked him for that.
00:15:39.860 He started following me.
00:15:41.180 And when I was trying to get a publisher for the book, he shouted me out and literally said,
00:15:45.280 somebody published this woman's book.
00:15:47.080 And like, out to two million people who are probably in literacy to some extent.
00:15:52.360 And that paved the way for me, not only getting my first book deal, but my second one with the same publishing house. So LeVar Burton's amazing. And so I, you know, couldn't relish the fact that I that, you know, imagery and things like TV and film shaped my own understanding as a reader and as, you know, an informed person.
00:16:11.240 like you might remember Jimmy Neutron like they actually snuck in a lot of very important
00:16:16.820 scientific and you know engineering information into that show like even Spongebob talks about
00:16:22.720 things that like make sense in real life and so and the fact that Steve Hillenburg who created
00:16:28.440 Spongebob was a marine biologist and wanted to convey that education to young people through
00:16:33.320 his work so I was definitely informed by that and I think growing up in like the golden era
00:16:38.240 of animation really helped me to kind of connect those two things. But I also like the idea of
00:16:44.100 somebody picking up my book because it looks like a good coffee table book. It looks like a light
00:16:47.680 read. And I do make my books accessible at a fifth grade level because most folks read at a fifth
00:16:52.280 grade level and most magazines are written at a fifth grade level. But I like the idea of some
00:16:56.980 sweet grandma who might have, you know, conservative politics picking up the book because it looks 0.98
00:17:01.480 friendly on the front cover, giving it to her, you know, offspring. And surprise, they're getting
00:17:07.520 radicalized, they're getting educated about things that are complex and intricate in a way that is
00:17:12.660 family friendly and, you know, age appropriate, but things that might not be covered until they
00:17:16.920 get to college because of the limitations of the educational system. So especially with my second
00:17:22.200 book, Making Our Way Home, even though there's a gay couple on the front cover in the form of my
00:17:26.720 uncle Lester and a partner we imagined for him, I still get emails from people saying, I didn't know
00:17:32.400 this book was going to be queer affirming. Of course, they don't say it like that. But I'm like,
00:17:36.280 I didn't hide anything, but because it's presented in a certain way, it doesn't detract from people
00:17:43.260 who are already seeking that material, but it also invites people in who might not have
00:17:47.520 otherwise engaged with something like the Great Migration or Black history that covers everything
00:17:54.560 from the period of enslavement to the creation of hip hop. So I try to use imagery to sneak my way 0.81
00:18:01.780 And it's pretty effective.
00:18:03.360 So we know there are Black folks, queer folks, and Muslim folks in the future.
00:18:08.220 Did Star Trek help you be able to visualize that kind of world?
00:18:12.300 Yeah, and it's funny, like, so much.
00:18:14.520 You know, Star Trek has really helped me envision what the future looks like.
00:18:17.960 So often when we look at sci-fi, it's, you know, aliens from a different universe
00:18:23.320 who have a completely different molecular structure,
00:18:25.320 but for some reason they have a British accent. 0.75
00:18:27.220 Like, WTF, you know, like, white supremacy goes hard, I guess, even in sci-fi.
00:18:31.100 And so I'm definitely not like under any delusions about why, you know, certain biases exist.
00:18:37.620 It's because it's the limitations of our own imagination as people.
00:18:40.700 But it's not only helped me understand diversity, it's helped me understand how I discuss religion at large.
00:18:46.620 As a historian, and so often that means looking back in time, it's a really exciting thing to also look at sci-fi as a step towards the future.
00:18:55.140 Star Trek has been fundamental in the identity formation of myself as a black woman and as a Muslim woman.
00:19:00.560 And it's helped me speak about religion just to see how something as secular and something as, you know, low stakes, I guess, as Star Trek can be imbued with the same type of passion and vitriol, but also beauty that comes with religious debates.
00:19:16.300 And I was actually at the School of Divinity at Princeton giving a talk and I was talking about canon.
00:19:23.200 And, you know, today we talk about canon, like your fan, your fan canon, your head canon, things that, you know, to be true, but maybe aren't canonical to the actual franchise.
00:19:32.740 You know, say things like maybe you believe all Pikachus are related in Pokemon, but you don't actually have a basis for things like that.
00:19:38.660 And so I was talking about how in my head canon for Star Trek, Geordi LaForge is a black Muslim.
00:19:46.580 And of course, that's influenced by my own skin in the game.
00:19:49.860 I would also love there to be a black Muslim in my favorite show and my favorite character to be one.
00:19:54.260 So, of course, I'm going to imbue that.
00:19:55.500 But there's also a basis in the fact that he's born in Mogadishu, Somalia, which is canonical to the text.
00:20:00.380 And I was talking about this in the context of religion and how, you know, we can all read the same religious scripture and come to completely different theological interpretations.
00:20:11.820 And people tend to grasp that. But I was talking about how, of course, that happens.
00:20:16.560 Like, I think some people get confused, like, how can we all read the same story of Genesis?
00:20:21.320 And, you know, well, we're not even reading the same story.
00:20:24.660 We're reading different interpretations, different translations, centuries old differences.
00:20:28.300 we're reading uh people imbuing their own biases while they translate all these different things
00:20:34.240 and it was so great because i was talking to this group at this very you know like fancy institution
00:20:38.960 uh princeton talking about how star trek is a case study into why there's so much religious
00:20:45.240 turmoil because if something is like i said low stakes of star trek can start a virtual flame war
00:20:52.300 over what religion is or is not in Star Trek,
00:20:55.880 then of course something as high stakes
00:20:58.100 as our eternal souls is going to spark a bunch of debate.
00:21:02.300 And I tell people this
00:21:03.300 and I think it helps them understand everything
00:21:05.000 from why I feel comfortable being a queer Muslim
00:21:08.280 and owning that and owning God's love
00:21:11.080 to things like why fandoms can be so fraught
00:21:14.220 and disconnected and just chaotic.
00:21:19.860 But the really cool thing to see
00:21:21.240 is how people will use the scripture or in this case the fandom or you know the original source
00:21:27.000 material from the creator in this case gene roddenberry and not god um well you know uh to
00:21:33.400 use that to protect and preserve other people because it was so cool seeing like you know
00:21:40.380 trekkies and trekkers which are also trekkies but they use their own terminology which we respect
00:21:46.400 Kind of defending me, basing this in like not only Star Trek The Next Generation, but Deep Space Nine, the movies, the animated series, all showing a basis for religion in Star Trek from episodes in the original series where there's a Christmas tree to episodes in Deep Space Nine where they totally get into religion to episodes in The Next Generation itself.
00:22:05.540 And I just felt so warm in that. Like, it was like a virtual hug from all these different strangers who were like, we're not only going to protect her as a Muslim woman, but her ability to belong in this fandom. And that's the thing about being a girl or a woman on the Internet is that you constantly have to defend yourself. And it's a relief when other people step in to do it on your behalf.
00:22:27.000 definitely that's something that I I love like one thing I love about being somebody who is like a
00:22:32.440 woman online is people will ride for you people will fight for you they'll speak up for you they'll
00:22:37.420 show they'll shake tables for you they'll make sure that your voice is included and amplified
00:22:41.320 and in those moments just saying yes to that trust falling into your community that has your back
00:22:47.700 those have been my favorite times online oh 100 like I think that when you go to comic con or you
00:22:54.660 go to a convention or any space where you're taking virtual connections and putting it into
00:22:59.260 the physical realm there's always that concern of am I going to be rejected and that really goes with
00:23:03.540 anything you know just like the first day at school your first day on the job am I going to
00:23:07.800 be rejected and then also being in a fandom space and a geek or a nerd space it's that constant
00:23:13.520 feeling of do you even know the material well enough like oh oh you like like you know you like
00:23:21.100 Beyonce name all of her freckles that type of thing you know and it's like come on now like we
00:23:26.260 can all enjoy things at our different levels but just the whole feeling that we don't know our
00:23:31.120 stuff enough as women and that's not just like I said it's not just with Star Trek like you know
00:23:35.940 the assumption that I don't know every character off the top of my head even though I totally
00:23:39.600 bombed at Star Trek trivia recently but it's also the implication that we as professionals as women
00:23:47.000 in the world don't know what we're talking about. So that could be anything that you do. Like I was
00:23:51.580 in the communications field when we worked at Planned Parenthood. And yeah, I would constantly
00:23:56.540 have people telling me not their help, like, you know, thank goodness, but I'd have reporters
00:24:00.440 constantly questioning how I was so young and doing what I was doing, how I was doing this and
00:24:04.420 doing what I was doing. And so it's exhausting to then deal with that in a leisurely space,
00:24:08.620 a recreational space. But it is that beautiful thing where people will just go for you. Like
00:24:13.240 even when you're making an inside joke amongst friends and you're ragging on each other,
00:24:17.000 on the internet and somebody who doesn't know
00:24:18.940 that your friends are like, hey, leave Blair alone.
00:24:21.240 It's like, hey, actually, we're cool,
00:24:23.260 but thanks for having my back.
00:24:25.420 Let's take a quick break.
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00:25:22.380 if your bookshelf and your for you page are equally important to your personality
00:25:26.160 welcome home this is prose society the weekly podcast that's part book club part group chat
00:25:33.680 for thought daughters pop culture obsessives and anyone who thinks pride and prejudice and
00:25:37.940 love island deserve the same level of discourse i'm eli rallo and every week we're connecting
00:25:42.920 the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having.
00:25:47.900 I'm going to have to look up this story. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed. From bestselling authors
00:25:52.540 and your favorite book talk creators to the latest pop culture moments, nothing is off the table.
00:25:57.820 It's like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling characters, then that is a
00:26:04.020 Trojan horse. Whether you're looking for literary deep dives, smart pop culture conversations,
00:26:08.940 or a community of readers who love to think a little too much,
00:26:12.840 you're in the right place.
00:26:14.500 Listen to Pro Society on the iHeartRadio app,
00:26:17.460 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
00:26:20.440 See you between the pages.
00:26:22.540 When I was 14 years old,
00:26:24.800 I was kidnapped and held captive for nine months.
00:26:28.340 I survived, and I've spent my life exploring
00:26:31.020 how other people survive what should have destroyed them.
00:26:34.600 I'm Elizabeth Smart, and these are the Survivor Files. 0.70
00:26:38.240 I just remember this low, taunting voice next to my ear saying, shut up, don't say anything.
00:26:46.840 Every week, I'm with survivors who live through the unthinkable.
00:26:51.100 I knew if he woke up, without a doubt, he was going to hurt me.
00:26:55.660 I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed, and I just started screaming.
00:27:03.080 They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced.
00:27:06.920 But these aren't stories about what's taken from them.
00:27:10.580 They're stories about what it takes to make it out alive.
00:27:14.160 Listen to The Survivor Files with Elizabeth Smart on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
00:27:25.440 And we're back.
00:27:26.980 The future will be intersectional.
00:27:29.760 There will be Black people, queer people, and Muslim people.
00:27:33.100 And people like Blair who exist at these intersections. 0.89
00:27:35.400 But on social media, people tell Blair there's no such thing as a queer Muslim, so she can't possibly exist. 0.65
00:27:42.900 Yet here she is, existing.
00:27:46.000 What's it like to have so many people online essentially saying that because you're a queer Muslim, you can't possibly exist? 0.95
00:27:51.860 It's funny to me.
00:27:53.720 And honestly, you know, I'm so grateful that I've gotten to a place in my heart and in my own personal journey where I can laugh at it.
00:28:01.380 because like in my family if we can laugh at it no matter how messed up it is we've moved on or 1.00
00:28:06.300 at least we were able to like view it in a way that's healthy you know in islam at least we don't 0.56
00:28:11.540 believe that a human being can then tell another human being what their salvation is going to look
00:28:16.620 like not even the prophet peace be upon him it's this idea that you know allah is a law you know
00:28:22.060 deities are deities and humans are humans and so i can be very comfortable in saying when somebody 0.62
00:28:27.420 says, you can't be Muslim. I'm like, oh, my goodness. I did not know that Allah used Instagram.
00:28:31.880 How are you doing? You know, I have people who say things like the devil called. They're waiting
00:28:36.340 for you in hell. And I'm just like, oh, my goodness, you have the devil's direct line. 0.73
00:28:40.420 That sounds like a problem, you know, so I can really have fun with it. But at the same time,
00:28:44.360 it's really breaking down the fact that in my belief, you know, Islam, faith, you know,
00:28:49.660 regardless of the faith that you come from, those things are so deeply personal. And yes,
00:28:55.380 they have accompaniments like religious texts, the Quran, you have hadiths, which are stories
00:29:01.380 passed down from the prophet's time and from other leaders. And it is up to you how you walk
00:29:07.320 into that. And so for myself, I will never let another human being tell me what Allah believes
00:29:13.560 about myself, because as human beings, yes, we can communicate to God through prayer, but it is
00:29:19.100 again, through the limitations of our own understandings and our own biases. So I own up
00:29:25.040 to that. But then I also encourage others to think of that as well, not to say this is how you should
00:29:30.840 do Islam, this is how you should not do Islam, but to say what speaks to you. And so it used to
00:29:37.020 really bother me. I think also it used to bother me was being told that I wasn't a black woman
00:29:40.800 because I am lighter skinned. And what's so frustrating to me is that I so often see lighter
00:29:46.260 skinned black women using that as a reason to perpetuate and continue being colorist instead 0.99
00:29:51.180 of grasping the fact that colorism isn't the same as getting made fun of for being lighter skinned 1.00
00:29:57.460 it's not the same as getting made fun of for having a sunburn it means that as a lighter
00:30:01.820 skinned black woman i have enjoyed the benefits and the privilege that are unearned of living in
00:30:07.280 a society that calls me beautiful at the peril of my darker skinned siblings and you know then
00:30:15.040 understanding that your feelings shouldn't get in the way of you dismantling that.
00:30:19.040 Your feelings, yeah, those are valid, but they should not get in the way or step on
00:30:23.620 the necks of the people who are already being harmed by those systems.
00:30:27.100 So I'm constantly thinking about systems of oppression and systems of privilege and making
00:30:31.400 sure that I'm, you know, quickly and easily discerning when something is from the self-serving
00:30:38.140 interest or input of an individual who wants to do me harm versus when it's something that's
00:30:43.980 worth listening to and being called in. Things like my religion, those are non-negotiable.
00:30:48.220 But of course, I'm going to be, you know, I'm always going to understand things like privilege,
00:30:53.940 class privilege, abled privilege, and be receptive to those conversations. But it is a line to walk
00:30:59.960 between when people are trying to hurt you and when people are calling you on your BS.
00:31:06.220 In 2017, Blair went on Tucker Carlson's Fox News show to discuss the surveillance of Muslim
00:31:11.500 communities. Carlson clumsily tries to call her out for trying to speak on behalf of the Muslim
00:31:17.240 and LGBTQ community. Again, the underlying assumption being that Blair couldn't possibly
00:31:23.860 be both Muslim and queer. And that's how she ended up coming out in front of millions of people on 0.99
00:31:28.860 Fox News. Have you noticed that all identity politics kind of converges in the end? So it's
00:31:33.880 not just about Muslims, it's about the LBGT community, it's about black lives. It's like,
00:31:37.100 you know at some point well some of us like myself exist in all of those communities
00:31:41.980 so okay fun story um i was just feeling really coffee because i had spent the previous year
00:31:50.540 working at planned parenthood uh you know educating folks in all parts of the country
00:31:55.640 about abortion and abortion stigma and doing it to like solid effect where i would have
00:31:59.740 conversations with people where they would come at me and say things like y'all are the devil and
00:32:03.660 And at the end, they'd be like, oh, maybe I can take my daughter to Planned Parenthood for sex ed. 0.72
00:32:07.320 So I was feeling on top of the world.
00:32:08.740 My talking points were working.
00:32:09.820 Messaging was working.
00:32:11.180 I get an inquiry from this guy.
00:32:12.920 It's my last month working at Planned Parenthood because my grant was over.
00:32:16.940 And so I was like, yeah, I can do this.
00:32:18.520 Who is this guy?
00:32:19.560 I was not thinking about like, oh, maybe I should do some counterintel, figure out who he is.
00:32:23.880 I'm going to plan to come out on national TV.
00:32:26.380 Not thinking about that.
00:32:27.460 I still have friends who are in the comms and like PR field who just think I'm a genius who orchestrated the whole thing.
00:32:33.040 Not true.
00:32:33.660 I would like to claim that. But no, I was just correcting him. I forgot that we were on stage.
00:32:37.880 It got to this point where I was so fed up with him dancing around it and and really trying to erase me and pull it, poke and prod at me.
00:32:45.580 Then I just snapped back in a very eloquent way. And I said, well, actually, in addition to being a Muslim woman, I'm a black queer person.
00:32:52.820 And then I immediately realized I came out on TV and I could feel my phone vibrating in my pocket.
00:32:59.780 and I could, you know, my partner was actually on set with me because it was remote. So I've
00:33:04.640 never breathed the same air as Tucker Carlson, Alhamdulillah, praise God. But my partner is like
00:33:09.840 standing there looking at me and I can't totally look off camera because, you know, you got to
00:33:14.360 hold a face and I have a pretty good poker face. But if you watch it with that knowledge, then it
00:33:18.900 kind of becomes apparent that like, then when I stumbled over my words, it was because I had just
00:33:23.160 come out on national TV. And so everything changed immediately. People who were homophobic,
00:33:29.320 but in my life and then found out who I was or, you know, am removed themselves, which I consider
00:33:34.740 to be a blessing, but it still was hard. Sarah Kate Ellis, the president and CEO of GLAAD reached
00:33:40.520 out. And that was awesome because GLAAD basically scooped me up and they will do this anytime
00:33:46.560 somebody comes out publicly, they make themselves a resource. They help you tell your story. If you
00:33:51.320 want to do press, they'll make sure that you get connected. And I really just felt scooped up and
00:33:55.780 embraced by the community. And it was just like a really beautiful thing. For a year after that,
00:34:00.580 I felt like I was like the bell of the queer ball in the same way that I felt like that about Star 0.81
00:34:04.160 Trek. I was like, oh, look at this. You know, I feel popular. And I felt like that after I 0.97
00:34:08.500 converted to Islam as well. It was kind of this feeling of being new in a community and being
00:34:13.000 exciting. And I also learned as I was dealing with, you know, experiencing those beautiful
00:34:19.820 euphoric things, that privilege was showing up because I had the privilege of growing up in a
00:34:25.360 context where I can be myself. Now, it's not to say that these things should be a privilege. You
00:34:30.760 should be able to be yourself in your sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression,
00:34:35.840 regardless of the religious or cultural context you come from. But that is not the case.
00:34:40.200 Blair didn't want to be the Black queer Muslim. She didn't want her story to obscure the stories 0.58
00:34:45.320 of other marginalized people who didn't have the ability to come out like she did.
00:34:48.840 So I wasn't realizing that, you know, people were calling me the queer Muslim, that people were looking at me as the queer Muslim.
00:34:58.060 You know, I was becoming very tokenized.
00:35:00.380 And so once I became awake to that, then I started to really immerse myself within other queer Muslim contexts and start to use my profile or increasingly large profile to help fundraise for organizations like Hedaya, LGBTQ, both in the UK and the US, Muslims for Progressive Values.
00:35:18.020 and start to feel that this wasn't just me on, you know, like the Blair show, but a responsibility
00:35:22.640 that I had to use this newly found visibility for the upliftment of others. Because as I was
00:35:30.940 telling stories that are authentic to myself, and that's important to do, I wasn't realizing
00:35:35.020 how it was harming other people. Like, you know, I was talking about how I've never second guessed
00:35:40.100 myself for being queer in my whole life. But I'm not trying to tell that story in a way that makes
00:35:45.860 others feel bad for going through a homophobic you know queer phobic existence that's not what
00:35:52.900 I'm called to do that's not what my role should be and so now um and I don't think it's completely
00:35:58.660 shifted I've always tried to be very responsible in how I tell my story but it's this increased
00:36:02.340 responsibility so when I have young people reach out to me and they're like Blair how can I be out
00:36:06.680 like you I first explain to them and remind them of the context of the world that we live in
00:36:11.900 And that that's something you have to decide for yourself. And that whether you're out or whether you're not, you're valid. Your queerness is valid. And you're not lying to anyone just because you're unable to share your truth with people. Because it is incumbent on our society and on the people that love you to be able to make space for you. And if they don't do that, that's not your fault.
00:36:32.060 And so I've really shifted from this idea of, you know, come out, have a rainbow flag, all types of beautiful things. Those are important, but that's not all queerness is. The people who are living closeted, the people who can't come out, those stories are important. And if I can help to shed light on those or ease the lives of those people, then I'm absolutely going to do that.
00:36:52.260 So, you know, your books are really about archiving and preserving all of the ways that women and non-binary people and black women in particular, you know, the contributions that we really have made to history and society and to culture.
00:37:06.360 Why is preserving that so important to you? And what can we do to make sure that these voices and these stories don't get overlooked or erased or lost?
00:37:13.740 That is the biggest, most terrifying thing for me, the idea that we will only remember people through the lens of those who remember them, because, you know, we see it happen often, unfortunately, where we'll have someone who was being critical and calling, you know, Representative John Lewis, all types of, you know, besmirching names, then post, you know, a beautiful eulogy. 0.97
00:37:38.800 or you have, you know, idiots like Marco Rubio posting the incorrect Black person with him 0.97
00:37:43.560 while also claiming to honor his memory. If you can't even tell us apart, then no, I'm not going 1.00
00:37:48.960 to trust that you remember us for the work that we did. And we saw it when Elijah Cummings passed
00:37:54.400 and people thought that John Lewis had passed. It's just so frustrating that we are constantly
00:37:58.220 collapsed. So no, I do not trust the institutions that collapse us into one monolith or, you know,
00:38:05.080 sanitize our legacies, like what we see with Dr. King. I do not trust those institutions to do us
00:38:10.560 justice. So, you know, I had made a joke, I think probably a couple of years ago that I was going
00:38:15.120 to write my own eulogy, but I also started to think about how that opportunity is denied to
00:38:19.440 so many people. And that's constantly happening to us as black people, as black women, as, you know,
00:38:24.720 black non-men, non-binary folks, et cetera. And so it's fighting against all of that and really
00:38:31.460 trying to go back to the original text you know like I was able to pour over some of the um you
00:38:37.740 know handwritten letters that my partner's grandmother had um that she corresponded with
00:38:44.080 her husband and finding those firsthand accounts there's all types of things there's pop culture
00:38:49.100 references there's mentions um of just so many minute yet infinitely important things that might 0.98
00:38:56.620 get glazed over because, you know, whatever white historian didn't give a shit or whatever, you 0.76
00:39:02.840 know, academic historian couldn't be bothered with because they, you know, viewed it as not 0.98
00:39:08.980 important. And because they didn't view it was important, it gets erased, which is terrifying
00:39:14.160 because, you know, it is so we have so little power as a people, as black people in this country
00:39:20.340 because of things like enslavement, reconstruction, the New Deal being a, you know, same old, same 0.89
00:39:26.240 old deal that really shafted black folks. I could go on and on, but just all of this inequality in
00:39:32.240 the country. And not only do we not learn about those things, but that just makes our condition
00:39:37.860 worse because we are blamed for what we have endured instead of praised for getting through
00:39:42.600 it while also being held down by centuries and centuries of weight. But we then have to do this
00:39:50.460 whole mind, mental gymnastics of figuring out why our conditions are so poor, while we also see,
00:39:57.600 you know, model minorities and white folks uplifted as evidence that the system works,
00:40:02.000 but we're just not trying hard enough instead of actually learning the context. So it's one of
00:40:06.780 those things where it's a cycle. And the only way we can break it is by elevating the truth
00:40:11.860 and by changing who is telling that truth, because people are going to tell the truth
00:40:18.420 that's important to them and it's going to fall along biased lines especially if the people who
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00:41:24.400 if your bookshelf and your for you page are equally important to your personality
00:41:28.200 welcome home this is prose society the weekly podcast that's part book club part group chat
00:41:35.720 for thought daughters pop culture obsessives and anyone who thinks pride and prejudice and
00:41:39.960 love island deserve the same level of discourse i'm eli rallo and every week we're connecting
00:41:44.940 the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having.
00:41:49.960 I'm going to have to look up this story. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed.
00:41:53.520 From bestselling authors and your favorite book talk creators to the latest pop culture moments,
00:41:58.400 nothing is off the table. It's like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling
00:42:04.500 characters, then that is a Trojan horse. Whether you're looking for literary deep dives,
00:42:09.240 smart pop culture conversations, or a community of readers who love to think a little too much,
00:42:14.540 you're in the right place listen to pro society on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever
00:42:21.020 you get your podcasts see you between the pages when i was 14 years old i was kidnapped and held
00:42:28.400 captive for nine months i survived and i've spent my life exploring how other people survive what
00:42:34.880 should have destroyed them i'm elizabeth smart and these are the survivor files i just remember
00:42:41.220 this low taunting voice next to my ear saying shut up don't say anything every week i'm with
00:42:50.060 survivors who live through the unthinkable i knew if he woke up without a doubt he was going to hurt
00:42:57.360 i started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed and i just started screaming they
00:43:05.320 are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced. But these aren't stories about what's
00:43:11.080 taken from them. They're stories about what it takes to make it out alive. Listen to the
00:43:16.920 Survivor Files with Elizabeth Smart on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you
00:43:22.980 get your podcasts. Let's get right back to it. If Blair has anything to say about it,
00:43:31.840 The future of history won't be nameless or faceless.
00:43:35.520 She's building a future where our stories aren't told carelessly.
00:43:39.640 One of your life mottos is to boldly go, you know, from Star Trek.
00:43:44.260 What is your vision for a bold, queer, Black, Muslim future look like?
00:43:49.280 Man, I mean, it would be great if we didn't have to get surveilled.
00:43:53.220 You know, just basic things.
00:43:54.780 Like, I think, you know, one of the most basic things of, you know, being a marginalized person or historically marginalized person is the ability to direct your own future and to have the resources and abilities to do that.
00:44:09.880 Just basic things like having, you know, Gil Scott Heron says, like, you know, I just want a family and a wife and a food and the children and, you know, to food, some food to feed them every night.
00:44:19.100 and it's just those basic things the fact that there's premiums on water and health care and
00:44:24.400 you know the fact that black maternal mortality is egregious and it's not just because black
00:44:29.220 women can't give birth it's because of the medical system and medical racism the fact that the 0.81
00:44:34.280 Tuskegee syphilis experiments went on well beyond there was a cure for syphilis and these people
00:44:38.500 went untreated until they were called out in the New York Times in 1972 it's it's so many of those
00:44:44.480 things. And, you know, it's nothing's going to, you know, let me not limit myself in my own
00:44:51.100 imaginations. There could be something that changes everything overnight, but there's going
00:44:54.660 to be so many things that need to change. And that the whole goal, I think, is that we can
00:44:58.760 determine our own futures. Not that we have to, you know, endure racelessness or lose our identities,
00:45:03.900 but that our identities and who we are doesn't, because of the systems we live in, inhibit us
00:45:09.460 from living our full futures. It doesn't mean that I want to suddenly live my life as a white
00:45:13.480 Christian woman. No, I like being who I am. I would just like to be able to be who I am
00:45:18.060 without the consequences of oppressive systems and what those systems put onto me.
00:45:23.180 What do you think of when you think of the future? Who does it include? Who feels safe there?
00:45:28.780 Who's supported there? Star Trek helped a generation of activists like MLK and Blair
00:45:33.780 imagine a future that included them and imagine a future where they could break out of the
00:45:39.540 oppressive systems that keep us all from being free. And that is a future worth fighting for.
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