There Are No Girls on the Internet - August 23, 2025


Kendall Jenner inspired Meta chatbot lures a man to his death; AI TikToks distort DC; VTubers Sell Out Stadiums; Kayfabe is Everywhere; Tea App Update – NEWS ROUNDUP w⧸ Dexter Thomas

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00:01:48.580 I'm Bridget Todd, and this is There Are No Girls on the Internet.
00:01:51.320 this is there are no girls on the internet where we explore the intersection of technology
00:01:58.000 culture social media and identity and this is our weekly news roundup where we dive into
00:02:02.660 stories that you might have missed online i am kind of fangirling because of this our guest
00:02:07.780 co-host today uh dex dexter thomas hosted the kill switch podcast on this very network you're
00:02:13.780 one of my kind of favorite humans in the tech media space i'm so thrilled that you're here
00:02:19.760 No. Okay, that is too good of an intro. Thank you. I'm happy to be here. Thank you so much.
00:02:25.220 So when you're not busy making the Killswitch podcast, you also write all around the internet
00:02:30.640 about sort of the intersection of tech and media. How would you describe your sort of beat?
00:02:35.300 Oh my gosh. So I say that I do culture. Culture. Yeah, I say that I do culture. And culture for me
00:02:44.140 is whatever you sit down on the couch
00:02:48.060 and keeps you sitting down on the couch
00:02:49.520 or whatever makes you want to get up off the couch
00:02:52.660 and do something about it.
00:02:54.080 So that's a very roundabout way of saying
00:02:56.240 I'm interested in everything.
00:02:58.380 You wrote a piece in Wired recently called
00:03:00.140 Anime Girl VTubers are selling out concerts,
00:03:03.080 but are they real?
00:03:04.420 Depends on who you ask. 1.00
00:03:05.500 All about VTubers,
00:03:06.980 a type of content creator that uses a virtual,
00:03:08.940 often anime-style character as a kind of avatar.
00:03:12.000 These people are like selling out IRL concert venues and performing with like real backing bands in front of real audiences that cannot get enough.
00:03:21.640 I actually learned about this phenomenon from your reporting in Wired. 0.98
00:03:25.580 Is that a fair assessment of what VTubers are?
00:03:29.300 yeah so man um v so vtubers essentially if you've ever used or seen that kind of you know animoji
00:03:38.320 type thing on an iphone where you can show where you can have an like an avatar like an emoji
00:03:46.160 reacting to what your face does it's only a little bit more complicated than that and so essentially
00:03:51.240 these uh vtuber is kind of what it sounds like it's a virtual youtuber somebody who streams
00:03:56.460 and they just don't show their face or their body.
00:03:59.860 And yeah, you're right. 1.00
00:04:00.800 Usually it's anime girls.
00:04:02.920 It doesn't have to be anime girls. 0.52
00:04:04.540 And honestly, why it's anime girls
00:04:06.380 is probably an entirely different podcast.
00:04:10.660 But yeah, it's very often anime girls.
00:04:13.280 So pretty influenced from, you know,
00:04:15.980 anime culture and stuff like that too.
00:04:18.340 As part of reporting this,
00:04:19.580 you went to Fantastic Reality,
00:04:21.760 a mini festival at the Vermont Theater
00:04:23.360 that brought together eight main vtuber acts what was this like um man you know i knew stuff like
00:04:33.080 this existed but i'd never really been to one so i've i've been to anime expo a couple times
00:04:39.820 i presented actually at anime expo um but and so i knew this sort of thing existed but essentially
00:04:45.760 just imagine going to a concert and the singer the main attraction is on a screen and they never
00:04:54.980 step on the stage because they can't because they're not real which by the way i'm not supposed
00:05:01.380 to say that i'm not supposed to say these people aren't real but i'm saying the whole thing right
00:05:06.480 like they pretend like they're sort of everybody's sort of in on the joke like what do you mean they're
00:05:10.820 not real right right yeah so this is so anybody who's ever watched uh wwe who's ever watched
00:05:15.880 wrestling will will know this word kayfabe so kayfabe is essentially kind of pretending that
00:05:23.260 something is real even though you know that it's not because it's more fun and so you know when we
00:05:29.280 watched hulk hogan and the macho man you know hit each other over the head with chairs we knew that
00:05:34.640 they'd planned it out beforehand but it's way more fun and if you think about it you know a ufc fight
00:05:39.960 some of those things are really boring because it's over in like five seconds because somebody
00:05:43.440 gets their leg broken and that's not fun for me but watching two dudes beat each other up
00:05:47.920 in this weird sweaty soap opera for 20 minutes and there's drama and you think this guy's gonna
00:05:53.060 lose and that guy's gonna lose and then somebody jumps off the top rope who wasn't even in the
00:05:57.240 match period it's fun and so that is kayfabe and really interestingly in english anyway
00:06:03.080 of vtubers and their and their fans will use that same word that wrestling fans use kayfabe
00:06:09.100 And the idea is that it's not fake. It's that we are all creating this play together. And so it's even more involved, I would argue, than wrestling. But the same kind of underlying principle there.
00:06:23.480 you're talking very glowingly about this but in your piece something that i like is that you you
00:06:29.680 kind of talked about being a little bit skeptical at first you write a music purist might scoff at
00:06:35.160 all this to say that vtuber fans don't even like music they dislike anime and the whole scene is
00:06:40.640 fake full disclosure here i will admit that i walked into the venue with a touch of this mentality
00:06:44.880 but that slowly turned into an existential crisis who can say their favorite genre isn't also fake
00:06:51.220 So I guess my big question is, is this is it is it fake or does that even matter?
00:06:56.400 Does the question of real or fake even really matter at this point?
00:06:59.520 You know what? For me, I mean, and it's weird hearing my words right back to me.
00:07:04.340 But yes, I did write those words. And it's true. It's true.
00:07:07.460 But here's the thing is that you could say that the VTuber stuff is fake.
00:07:12.480 And to be real, most of it is not my cup of tea, mostly because I'm not really into anime music.
00:07:20.540 unless i like this specific anime and and that there's only a small you know group of anime
00:07:27.480 tracks that i would say i like you know i like this uh you know cowboy bebop you can't really
00:07:32.940 that soundtrack yeah classic you know the og dragon ball theme song can't deny that the og
00:07:39.900 soundtrack uh you know in some weird obscure like 80s stuff 70s stuff that i like because
00:07:45.340 there was a live action spider-man in in japan in the 70s like it's it's i like that stuff i like
00:07:52.180 that kind of stuff the current stuff not really my flavor that's really kind of what you would
00:07:56.300 hear these sort of things not really my flavor but um if you're talking about fake at some point
00:08:02.500 you have to start talking about rap music and hip-hop is obsessed with reality and yet drake
00:08:10.440 has fans and yet rick ross has fans and 99.9 of these dudes who are rapping about stuff that they
00:08:17.880 did they did not do it they didn't even see it and do any of us truly care we kind of pretend we do
00:08:24.660 but if it sounds good we're kind of cool with it and so really we're rap is also kayfabe rap is
00:08:30.480 the biggest kayfabe market i would argue maybe in the world we all just pretend that you know
00:08:36.560 Oh, these dudes are doing the stuff they said they did it because it sounds kind of cool to, you know, chant the lyrics along with them in your car or whatever. 0.53
00:08:42.960 So, you know, I can't I can't really hate on the VTubers and their fans because they're doing something very similar to what I do and what I've been doing for years. 0.94
00:08:50.400 Are you saying that it's possible that Drake didn't really start from the bottom? 0.95
00:08:54.140 Is that what you're is that what you're suggesting right now?
00:08:56.500 I am. I'm not suggesting that.
00:08:58.480 I am asserting that there are years of televised evidence that that man did not start anywhere near what a reasonable person would consider the bottom.
00:09:09.880 That is what I'm saying.
00:09:11.540 That is my journalist, not my opinion.
00:09:13.920 That is my assessment.
00:09:15.300 And I defy anybody to say that that's not true because the truth is actually out there.
00:09:21.640 It's facts.
00:09:22.380 It's facts.
00:09:22.980 Yeah.
00:09:23.120 One of the points that you made in the piece was that, you know, this is one thing when we're talking about a human using a digital avatar, but what the future could sort of look like when you have AI generated, like the whole thing is AI generated, like not humans using a digital avatar.
00:09:38.900 How does this fandom feel about that possibility?
00:09:40.820 Yeah. So my opinion, and I still hold this opinion, is that VTubers and their fans will be the first one of the first markets that AI will start to encroach on or AI will try to encroach on.
00:09:56.940 Because if you think of it, they're almost kind of halfway there. 0.90
00:09:59.600 They've already removed the physical person from the visual, at least, because, you know, people are fans of somebody whose physical body. 0.99
00:10:07.140 You know, I'm breaking kayfabe here, but somebody whose physical body they will never see because most of these VTubers will never show their body or their face. 0.89
00:10:16.260 Matter of fact, there's probably a lot of VTubers who would refuse to be interviewed because they want to keep, you know, keep that line. 0.90
00:10:24.380 but you know i think the one of the things that really surprised me was a lot of the fans actually 0.63
00:10:33.100 all the fans that i talked to told me we would never accept ai we do not want ai anywhere near
00:10:39.940 this culture at all and i found that really really interesting because i'm not sure that
00:10:45.320 that's necessarily the case for a lot of other genres i mean there was that psych rock group
00:10:50.580 I'm forgetting what they're called Velvet Sundown or something like that we talked about them on
00:10:54.920 the podcast exactly yeah and and you know what one of the biggest genres is a genre that I've
00:11:01.340 personally had beef with for a very long time uh lo-fi lo-fi hip-hop lo-fi don't mean lo-fi hip-hop
00:11:06.860 doesn't mean anything it's just boring soulless backtracking it's it's it's homework it's homework
00:11:13.140 background music that's all it is like it's not music uh for me this is my personal opinion right
00:11:18.060 Um, that has been absolutely ravaged by AI because here's the, here's the big difference
00:11:25.320 between say lo-fi hip hop and VTubers is I defy you.
00:11:30.440 Anybody who says you like lo-fi hip hop, tell me five artists and no Nujabes doesn't count. 0.99
00:11:37.200 You can't, I guarantee you can't, you, you, you're, you're a fan of just a background 1.00
00:11:43.060 vibe. VTuber fans are fans of a very specific persona. And at least for now, they seem to want
00:11:51.140 to know that a human is attached with that. Will that change? Will somebody convince them in the
00:11:55.640 future? I don't know. But for me, I feel like, man, if they get the VTuber fans with this anti-AIs
00:12:01.520 they are right now, if they get the VTubers, we're next. Everybody's next. They're going to get all
00:12:07.500 of us that's such a good point i think that's i mean i am not above putting on lo-fi beats to chill
00:12:14.520 and study to you could not name an artist if it if it's not the girl in front of the the anime girl
00:12:20.500 in front of the rainy window yes that's the only person i could name and it's not a person and she
00:12:27.560 didn't make the music that is something that somebody drew and it's lo-fi beats to study to
00:12:32.180 it's the it's the girl in the cafe with the rain in the back she didn't make any of that music
00:12:36.360 and yeah people can't people can't name a lo-fi artist they'll they'll say new job is
00:12:41.120 if they say dilla i will get extremely angry because dilla is not lo-fi dilla is his own
00:12:46.160 genre dilla is hip-hop but yeah it's a it it's interesting to watch people try to explain why
00:12:54.160 they don't like vtuber stuff and everything they say about the genre or about the culture
00:13:01.380 is stuff you could absolutely say about the stuff that they're into.
00:13:05.720 It's just a slightly different version of it.
00:13:07.780 So, you know, I love being around people who are just into stuff.
00:13:11.880 You know what I mean?
00:13:12.240 That's exciting to me.
00:13:13.580 People who are just like excited about things.
00:13:15.700 I love that.
00:13:16.580 I love that.
00:13:17.480 I always love that.
00:13:19.140 Yeah, me too. 0.97
00:13:20.240 And I have to wonder if part of this is or part of the hate that VTubers get
00:13:24.460 is because it's something associated with very passionate young girls.
00:13:28.300 Like one of the artists that you talked to said, you know, how can I make all these connections and prove not just to myself, but to other people that it is not silly to be an anime girl on the Internet.
00:13:39.600 But then you go on to report how this is big business.
00:13:42.580 These are selling out venues.
00:13:45.060 These are live streamers who are making real money from what they're doing. 0.91
00:13:48.200 And so it's not just silly anime girls on the Internet.
00:13:51.680 We're talking about something that actually is a financial and potentially like a business force.
00:13:56.440 Yeah, yeah, definitely.
00:13:58.300 I mean, I wanted that quote that you just said, it's not silly to be an anime girl on the internet. I wanted that to be the title of the Wired piece. We changed the headline. But I wanted it to just be that. For Killswitch, for the podcast, we made that the title. I had a little bit more control over that.
00:14:14.000 But but yeah, I think, you know, let's keep in mind that the people who are the creators here often is young women or women in general. Right. And there's some dudes out there who that bothers them for some reason.
00:14:32.720 You know, again, we could say things about the appearance of the models, whatever you
00:14:36.800 want to say.
00:14:37.420 Again, I think that's another conversation, but I, you know, there's some interesting
00:14:43.520 elements, I think, in how that works.
00:14:47.840 Well, I think a lot of the stories that I want to get into with you speak a lot to these
00:14:52.260 issues.
00:14:52.780 Should we get into it?
00:14:54.340 Let's do it.
00:14:54.920 Yeah.
00:14:55.240 Where do you want to go?
00:14:55.820 Well, first, you know, I live in D.C.
00:14:58.760 And let's just say there's a lot going on in the city at the time.
00:15:02.720 the moment i first want to thank folks who reached out after the episode that we did about the dc
00:15:08.320 situation uh obviously it is a ongoing situation but somebody left a comment on spotify saying
00:15:16.460 their personal tiktok algorithm was really showing them a ton of content about how bad crime in dc is
00:15:23.340 which is so interesting because as we know crime here in dc has hit a 30-year low but right right
00:15:28.920 now, TikTok is awash in these mostly AI-generated fake videos depicting crime and homelessness
00:15:36.920 in D.C. A lot of these videos are using, I guess they'll call it my old nemesis, Google's VO3,
00:15:44.460 a platform that we've talked about before in our episode about these very racist AI-generated
00:15:50.920 videos featuring Black women. But now they're using VO3 to make these, I would argue, pretty 0.97
00:15:57.940 obviously ai generated videos depicting homelessness and crime in dc yeah they'll often sort of be a
00:16:04.960 mix of mostly accurate but vague reporting about the situation in dc right as 404 media puts it
00:16:13.920 unlike previous efforts to flood the zone with ai slop in the aftermath of a disaster or major
00:16:19.400 news events some of the videos blend real footage with ai footage making it harder than ever to tell
00:16:24.860 what's real and what's not which has the effect of distorting people's understanding of the
00:16:28.900 military occupation of dc so i have seen these videos on my feed which is so interesting that
00:16:35.080 in that like i live in dc so i have a pretty good sense of like what's going on here but these
00:16:41.620 videos are very persistent have you seen any of these yeah yeah i've seen them shout out to 404
00:16:46.680 by the way um just continually doing important really really important tech uh reporting out
00:16:54.080 there i'm biased i know the people who found it but just truly punching above their weight they're
00:17:00.140 doing such incredible stuff recently yeah we i mean i we were subscribers i'm a huge fan i don't
00:17:08.080 think our podcast would exist without 404 because also they i feel like mine would not either my
00:17:13.780 kill switch would not exist like quote me on that kill switch would not exist without 404 and
00:17:19.840 And frankly, I think that there are a there is a lot of tech reporting that some New York Times would not have some of the stuff that they have with.
00:17:28.080 It wasn't for 404, 404 people really actually.
00:17:31.920 I was going to say people are sleeping on 404.
00:17:33.740 I actually don't think so.
00:17:34.480 I think people I think 404 is getting the respect they deserve recently.
00:17:37.500 So, yeah, the heavyweights.
00:17:39.060 Yes.
00:17:39.720 Subscribe to 404 if you don't already.
00:17:42.200 We love and value their reporting.
00:17:44.960 And so one of the things that I thought was so interesting about how they were talking about this, what we're seeing.
00:17:49.840 with the D.C. occupation of honestly, like a military occupation of my city is how they point
00:17:57.460 out that if you are not familiar with D.C., these videos, you might not be able to tell that they're
00:18:04.000 fake, right? Having been from D.C. my whole life, I see that I'm like, oh, that's fake. They had a
00:18:08.220 video purporting to show the National Mall covered end to end in tents from the Washington Monument
00:18:16.060 to the Capitol building that's like two miles and this video shows just a sea of tents where you
00:18:21.880 can't even see the lawn and again part of me is thinking if folks just thought for a second like
00:18:28.480 would tourists be coming to DC if they if they if to see the monuments they had to navigate
00:18:34.020 just a sea of tents in that way right and when you go to the comments you actually see people
00:18:39.920 who say things like thank you President Trump for cleaning up DC and we really appreciate what
00:18:45.560 you're doing and i think it comes back to something that we talk about all the time on the show which
00:18:49.580 is that at a certain point it kind of doesn't seem to matter whether or not these videos or are real
00:18:56.380 because they validate and align with a world you will clearly have that dc is a cesspool it's full
00:19:02.340 of crime you can't even see the washington monument because it's tense just stacked up
00:19:07.440 in campus stacked up and it clearly is just sort of aligning with the worldview that people already
00:19:15.360 have so they're just inclined to believe it and spread it yeah it it feels true it doesn't matter
00:19:21.440 if it is true it feels true and and you can tell someone that it's not and you can show them a real
00:19:28.600 picture of the thing and and something that is happening more and more recently and this is
00:19:33.180 happening with politicians this happened with the hurricane where you might have seen this 404 also
00:19:37.080 reported on this, but I'm forgetting the name of the politician. But, you know, there's there's an
00:19:42.580 image maybe a couple of years ago at this point of this girl in the rain holding this puppy and
00:19:49.640 she's basically saving the puppy from the flood. And if you look at it and if you are used to
00:19:56.900 looking at AI generated images, you could really tell that it wasn't true. And people try to, you
00:20:02.480 know, this politician repost it and says, this is terrible. What's happening? People say, yo,
00:20:06.380 this isn't real and the politician basically says some of the effect of it doesn't matter i'm sure
00:20:11.220 things like this are happening i've reported on this this is a this is a thing that we're seeing
00:20:15.980 a lot of is that it it feels true and it emotionally hits you before it hits your logic
00:20:24.900 center of your brain and once that happens it actually doesn't really matter if somebody
00:20:30.280 refutes it the facts actually don't come into play soon enough for you to feel like yes this is true
00:20:37.620 i remember that image of the girl with the puppy in the hurricane i wish i could remember who the
00:20:41.600 politician was but she really i i think kind of stumbled on some insight of like oh well it doesn't
00:20:47.360 matter if this actually happened or not or if i'm really spreading misinformation ai generated
00:20:52.200 misinformation because this could be happening somewhere and it feels true and the image
00:20:56.340 it's ai is so good at creating images that really do speak to some part of your brain where
00:21:03.500 that image the puppy was impossibly cute and looked impossibly sad the girl was impossibly cute
00:21:09.900 it was yeah i mean it should have been a giveaway that these moments in life that are
00:21:16.660 like created to be so just so you know that that when a moment like that is captured you should be
00:21:23.900 like wait a minute this is almost too adorably sad perhaps it's not real yeah well i think the
00:21:30.760 people who are making these are also stumbling on something themselves which is to say that
00:21:36.620 if if you look at the images that cause the most problems it's images of people's faces
00:21:44.860 right and you know we're just we're wired to pay attention to faces we're wired to trust faces i
00:21:51.520 mean look at a baby if you leave a baby in a room and a person walks in everything else is not
00:21:57.960 interesting anymore the baby will stare at the person like yeah and so it's it's like you know
00:22:03.580 and i don't want to get like evolutionary evolutionary biology or whatever because i'm
00:22:06.880 not an expert in that but i definitely know that babies are interested in people we don't really
00:22:13.180 ever lose that and so if you see a face even if it's digital it's going to feel like okay
00:22:21.240 this is real it's really hard to convince somebody that a face isn't real and the faces of the people
00:22:29.180 that they're seeing are not real and even just bodies even if it's like people running it it
00:22:33.920 feels real to us it feels emotionally real and we we don't have time to process that logically
00:22:40.120 i just don't think it's reasonable to expect somebody to and i think especially with content
00:22:45.500 that is that we know is kind of emotionally charged like crime you know oftentimes when
00:22:52.440 you're talking about crime through the lens of social media you're talking about videos that
00:22:56.700 are very arresting or images that are very arresting and so I think when you add in AI
00:23:01.380 that the possibilities are just endless for having a conversation that is simply not grounded in the
00:23:07.740 logic or the reality of what is actually happening but it's just trafficking in what feels true what
00:23:12.640 feels like it could be happening somewhere, even if most of the videos on TikTok purporting to
00:23:17.880 depict it are AI generated and not actually happening and not even depicting the city in
00:23:22.800 any real way. Yeah. Yeah. And I mean, I've said this for a long time that it used to be that you
00:23:28.560 could look at the AI generated picture and they would always say, oh, well, look at the hands.
00:23:33.660 The hands are always off. And that I think people, anybody who thinks that they can 100 percent
00:23:39.920 identify any ai generated video by looking at or image by looking at it you're fooling yourselves
00:23:46.020 and especially if you think you're gonna be able to do it even six months from now uh 10 out of 10
00:23:50.860 times i i really i really think you're fooling yourself if you believe that now what do we do
00:23:57.420 with that i don't know but that that's the reality is we're we're not only are you not
00:24:04.620 can be able to believe stuff but yeah it opens so many it opens so many things i mean there are
00:24:09.940 going to be things that are real that actually did happen and somebody could say that is not real
00:24:16.680 that is fake that is ai and it'll so enough of a doubt there to where well i don't know maybe
00:24:24.900 this thing that somebody actually filmed with their actual real camera didn't happen maybe
00:24:29.700 They are lying to me.
00:24:30.900 So the actual fabric of reality is tearing.
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00:27:41.000 So we were talking about all of this AI-generated content about crime and homelessness in D.C. right now as Trump is taking over D.C.'s police force.
00:27:49.060 these videos will use VO3 to create these AI-generated videos about what's happening in
00:27:55.280 DC. They will film them with the cadence of a news broadcast that kind of mixes in
00:27:59.700 vague but mostly accurate information about what's going on. Then that video will do numbers.
00:28:06.440 Somebody else will say, oh, I want to make a video that capitalizes a little bit on that
00:28:09.880 engagement. So they will take that already AI-generated video, use TikTok's green screen
00:28:16.420 function and then layer another video on top of it so a lot of the videos that are ai generated
00:28:21.600 sometimes they are a mix of ai and real content but they the result is this kind of like weird
00:28:27.580 ai what's the name of that snake that's eating its own tail ouroboros yes it's like a weird
00:28:33.060 ai ouroboros where these videos are kind of like just cloning each other in increasingly extreme
00:28:41.780 yet increasingly glitchy videos and yeah they still do numbers people i i always to your point
00:28:48.900 about you know if you think you're always going to be able to to distinguish ai from reality or
00:28:53.680 fooling yourself which i agree but in these videos where it's like well this doesn't even seem like
00:28:57.460 anything that could ever happen this video is clearly something's up in the comments people
00:29:02.740 are like oh thank god president trump is taking over yeah yeah and and everybody's got their
00:29:08.020 weak points where like if if this was in another country you might not recognize that oh this
00:29:14.280 couldn't happen if it's showing something in some country you've never been to you might believe it
00:29:18.460 because you've heard a little bit about and why why wouldn't it be i mean one i i saw we saw i
00:29:24.980 think we've actually seen a lot of early previews of this in la weirdly this year because well first
00:29:30.420 there was you know the feds have been out here uh so a lot of the stuff that's happening in dc
00:29:34.680 They were doing it out here. I'd be out in the streets filming all day and hear, yeah, LA is on fire. No, I was there today. I'm here now. I'm looking at people saying online, oh yeah, they're burning down all the buildings. Nothing has burned down. Somebody burned a Waymo, yes, but the buildings are not on fire.
00:29:55.020 I was hearing this, you know, and shoot, the the the actual fire, speaking of fires in L.A., there was someone who was making or there were a lot of people who were making these fake videos using slightly more primitive now versions of AI generated video that had the Hollywood sign on fire.
00:30:14.360 Yes. Yeah. And I found someone who after it was determined that those were fake, this person finds, decides, you know what? I think what might work here is let me show firefighters saving baby animals from the fires.
00:30:29.440 and man the most interesting thing was it would be these really cute you know firefighters saving
00:30:35.780 these cute baby bears saving little foxes and if you really really look at it you can recognize
00:30:42.220 that it was fake but man it it would fool you for a little bit it will fool you for a bit and the
00:30:47.960 really interesting thing was people get in the comments and get mad because there's people who
00:30:52.200 live here in LA and would say, I live here, stop, stop exploiting my home for likes or money or
00:31:00.260 whatever the heck you're doing. But you'd also see people saying, thank God for the firefighters.
00:31:05.160 God bless the firefighters. They're protecting the animals. Nobody cares about the animals,
00:31:08.220 but they're protecting the animals. And you get people saying, hey man, this is fake.
00:31:12.140 And then those people would get angry. People, I think this is, this is a phenomenon that we're
00:31:17.140 not ready for people truly becoming angry when you point out that something is not real to them
00:31:25.060 because again it fulfills an emotional need that they have whether they want to believe something
00:31:29.880 or a common response is well maybe this image isn't true but i bet stuff like this is happening
00:31:36.480 maybe maybe this video of the entire national mall being covered end-to-end intense maybe this
00:31:44.620 individual video isn't true but i know it's like that out there crime is running rampant
00:31:50.800 president trump thank you god bless trump for saving us from the criminals it's people are
00:31:56.780 getting angry when this stuff is pointed out to them and yeah i uh i don't know if we're ready
00:32:01.660 for that oh that's such a good point so your point about ai speaking to like a sweet spot or
00:32:07.640 a vulnerability i i've only recently come to realize that i have a vulnerability about animal
00:32:12.140 content and so it it gets me i've gotten i i have come to realize i when i see a video that
00:32:20.720 purports to show an animal doing something cute i need to really pump them that should be a warning
00:32:25.660 to me because i i have a it's like i i'm i'm the person i'm becoming the person that is like
00:32:31.140 spamming their friends with ai content it's like bridget it's not real it's happened a handful of
00:32:37.200 times and it's clearly it's clear it's clearly some sort of a trigger with me and yeah i mean
00:32:43.420 i can understand why it is affirming to see firefighters save and like somebody listening
00:32:51.160 is probably saying well if if you're making an ai video of firefighters saving baby animals
00:32:56.040 and that makes people feel grateful for the work that firefighters do what's the harm but just like
00:33:00.940 you said it's using a real community's actual crisis to yeah i don't know almost like milk our
00:33:09.700 emotions by by ai generated situations it's it's it's manipulation yeah and you know what i talked
00:33:17.460 to the person who was doing this and i asked them hey do you live in la and they said no i live in
00:33:22.040 russia um and and they told me the exact same thing they told me i am drawing attention to and
00:33:28.760 they told everybody else this when when people got mad they posted in the comments the gist of it is
00:33:33.300 hey the firefighters don't have time to make dramatic content showing their bravery so i'm
00:33:40.720 doing it for them and this person was also if you looked at the link in their bio they were showing
00:33:46.440 it was a link to this mini course that you could buy to make viral videos oh they have a grip in
00:33:52.380 there oh yeah oh man i mean you know i can't say exactly how much money they were making but they
00:33:57.180 It was, you know, based off the numbers that they were claiming, you know, they probably had a couple of days where they were making five, 10 G's a day.
00:34:06.160 OK, we're clearly in the wrong market.
00:34:07.780 We need to take this course.
00:34:10.300 This is the thing.
00:34:11.000 And I know some people would look at that and say, man, this is terrible.
00:34:14.340 But there's maybe one in a thousand people who will say, you know what, I can make some money off of this and it's not too hard.
00:34:20.300 All I got to do is something that makes people feel something.
00:34:25.220 Yeah, feel something for long enough, even if it's anger, feel something for long enough to leave a comment, leave a like, share with somebody, even leave an angry comment because algorithm understands engagement. And so, yeah, we're we're we're I think we're focused so much on the ability to to have safeguards to be able to tell real and fake stuff when we're we're not dealing with the logic centers of our brain here.
00:34:51.560 We're dealing with some way more primal.
00:34:53.900 And I just don't know that we're ready for that, frankly.
00:34:56.860 I am in a couple of groups online for women in AI sort of.
00:35:01.720 I'm there to sort of just get a sense of like, how are people?
00:35:04.980 I'm just very curious how people are using this technology in the different use cases.
00:35:09.160 And one of the most successful women in the group, she has made so much money making essentially AI generated rage bait. 0.72
00:35:18.620 she has made an ai generated version of herself and she knows exactly what to say and what to do 0.94
00:35:24.680 to make people leave a zillion comments and so the thing is that she she makes a video where
00:35:30.040 you know here's me shopping spending all my husband's like like all of the sort of
00:35:35.980 like leaning heavy into stereotypes and i understand that she's just like you know
00:35:42.160 it's a living this is people it it puts money in my pocket i bought an entire you know condo
00:35:48.120 on on people's rage and i guess it makes me sad that there's always going to be somebody who is
00:35:55.600 like i can make a little money from this and part of me can't even really blame them i guess i sort
00:35:59.940 of can but it's just we're just so we're just very easily played and manipulated and yeah of course
00:36:07.180 there's going to be people who are like oh i can make a little cash exploiting that yeah i mean i
00:36:13.100 don't know how many listens you got but you know there's a there's a fraction of a percent of people
00:36:17.400 who are listening to this right now and saying, wait a second, she's making money doing what?
00:36:22.800 I could do that. You know, 99% of the people listening to this right now are saying that's
00:36:26.460 horrible. Who is this horrible person? Let me never meet this person. And there's 1%
00:36:30.820 that are saying, you know, you know what? I can make people mad, making people mad on
00:36:35.880 the internet for money. Sign me up. I'll do that. I'll make people mad on the internet
00:36:41.580 and get free money.
00:36:42.520 Because it used to be you had to, if you were going to do that, you had to show your real 0.65
00:36:47.020 face and make us get and maybe involve your actual husband and actual children and your
00:36:51.020 friends and community and your church and your neighbors would see that now with ai you can just
00:36:56.080 make a little avatar that does it yeah yeah i mean this person who was making the fire stuff
00:37:01.180 they voluntarily told me they're from russia but they didn't have to tell me that and i i believe
00:37:06.680 them based off of you know some other stuff that i saw uh that they posted but yeah who knows where
00:37:12.680 this person is. All the angry people that this person was making money off of people's pain in
00:37:18.600 the fires where people are actually people dying, people losing their entire family homes, going
00:37:26.000 back generations. This person made a bunch of money and nobody, if this person doesn't want
00:37:31.160 to tell them who they are, nobody will know who it is. Free money. Was it you that reported the
00:37:37.620 people who saw the image of the Hollywood sign on fire and they were like, oh, if the Hollywood
00:37:41.600 signs on fire that means my house might be on fire so they came they like they had been out of
00:37:47.040 town or something and they came back and they were like wait it's not on fire oh yeah um i don't so
00:37:52.840 that was uh that was another network i used that in a video um and and actually um later john oliver
00:38:01.080 also pulled from that same video so this is not my reporting i only referenced it uh got it super
00:38:06.540 But yes, there were people in L.A. who actually believed that the Hollywood sign was on fire and went to go look. So even again, even if you're in L.A., even if you're in the place, you can get tricked by this stuff, even for just a little bit. And, you know, again, that's all it takes.
00:38:26.700 Let me ask you this. Someone who lives in L.A., who experienced Trump sending the National Guard, experienced, you know, all of that.
00:38:37.640 Do you have any advice for me here in D.C. about, one, just the vibes, how to survive the vibes?
00:38:43.420 And then, two, you know, if you're someone who wants to tell that story in an authentic and accurate and thoughtful way of what's happening in your home.
00:38:50.260 I mean, that must have been a lot. I really appreciated that you were out there a lot, really, you know, telling the story of what was going on in L.A.
00:39:01.100 Oof. OK, we're entering some specific territory here. Are you talking about covering this as a journalist?
00:39:09.820 oh that's i mean that's really been a a challenge for me because i am often not
00:39:18.780 talking about things that i am also experiencing and so that's that's been the mike the question
00:39:24.720 i've been wrestling with for the last few weeks of am i trying to cover this as a journalist like
00:39:29.380 here's what's going on or am i talking about like what i am experiencing am i it almost feels
00:39:35.120 difficult to talk about this in a way that's not personal like hyper personalized because it is so
00:39:42.320 personal because it's happening right outside my window and so i really even even that question 0.81
00:39:46.520 i've really been struggling with how to even respond to this moment because it is so fucking
00:39:51.580 strange right okay um i'm gonna be a little bit careful here okay and when do you feel free to 0.55
00:40:00.060 not answer also no no no no no i want to answer this question but i want to answer in a very
00:40:03.960 specific way um so i i'm speaking to you i want to make this clear i'm speaking to you i'm not
00:40:09.700 necessarily speaking to someone who is like i i can't give advice to someone whose desire is to
00:40:17.860 i can't tell somebody how to protest i can't tell somebody how to speak about things i can say if
00:40:23.980 there is a journalist who and this may be you who is considering covering this um by ppe get it now
00:40:33.940 and wear it everywhere um what i mean personal protection you know protective equipment um
00:40:40.860 helmet uh goggles and which will prevent you from tear gas uh will protect you give you some
00:40:49.000 protection from tear gas and a gas mask these are things you can get at a hardware store you can get
00:40:55.440 them just about anywhere helmet bicycle helmet is fine i say all that because um human rights watch
00:41:02.300 which usually reports on, you know, people are used to Human Rights Watch making statements about wars in foreign lands and terrible things that are happening to people there.
00:41:15.600 Just recently put out a report.
00:41:17.320 I spoke to them also about what's happened to journalists in L.A.
00:41:22.860 Journalists, also protesters, but also journalists.
00:41:27.500 And I don't want to put journalists on a pedestal at all.
00:41:30.260 I just mean to say that if law enforcement is willing to hit journalists, like strike journalists with a baton, willing to fire, you know, what's the word?
00:41:43.280 kinetic, I forget the phrase, but we'll just say less lethal projectiles at them, then
00:41:52.180 I think that means that if somebody is intending to go out and cover this, then I don't think
00:41:59.160 you should assume necessarily that law enforcement, whoever that may be, will not engage you in
00:42:12.600 a physical manner even if you have a press pass even if you're displaying a press pass i know a
00:42:18.140 lot of journalists who have been shot at i know a lot of journalists who've been hit by projectiles
00:42:23.560 i've been hit by projectiles um lucky enough to not be hurt badly at all um had uh had a camera
00:42:31.120 broken or almost broken by one of them yeah i took a chunk out of my sony fs7 um so that is what i
00:42:38.700 would say um if you are planning on covering this as a journalist um protect yourself
00:42:45.080 and whatever that means if protecting yourself means backing away from a situation you're not
00:42:51.340 comfortable with that could be what it means but also those situations aren't always in your
00:42:56.380 control that's what i would say and they can change so quickly you can feel like you have a
00:43:03.100 pretty good read on the situation and and i guess that's my biggest and i said this in the episode
00:43:08.340 that we did about what's happening in D.C. right now.
00:43:10.760 My biggest worry is a situation where, listen,
00:43:16.600 Trump's presence in D.C. has only escalated tensions.
00:43:20.060 And my biggest concern is it just takes one person,
00:43:24.540 whether it's law enforcement or somebody on the street, 0.99
00:43:28.800 it just takes one person to do something stupid to escalate things. 0.97
00:43:32.160 And I feel that that's, I have this very foreboding feeling. 0.95
00:43:36.460 Part of it is that today, when we're talking today, Thursday, August 21st, Trump is making a big show about I'm going to go do a photo op with the police in D.C.
00:43:46.720 He's saying that he's going to go on patrol with them.
00:43:49.300 But really, it sounds like it's just a photo op, which whatever.
00:43:52.060 But I just have this deep sense of it just it just feels like a powder keg about to go off.
00:43:59.380 And I think that your advice is really valuable because, yeah, I mean, these situations can change.
00:44:09.360 I've been in situations where they change so quickly, where it just takes one person doing something.
00:44:13.840 And next thing you know, it feels like it's out of control.
00:44:16.520 And I guess I really do deeply in my bones worry that that's what we're about to see in D.C.
00:44:22.660 Yeah, yeah.
00:44:23.600 I mean, I've been out, I've covered some protests and, but I've also been out and been around other journalists who have way more experience covering way more volatile situations than I do and seeing them caught off guard.
00:44:39.420 And I have to say here, when I've seen things escalate, it has been from law enforcement.
00:44:45.740 I can only speak to what I've seen, and people don't have to believe me, but I can only speak to what I've seen.
00:44:52.180 I have not seen something escalated on, like a protester escalate something, in any reasonable fashion.
00:45:00.120 You know, I see more literal hundreds of office, you know, LAPD in the street and not even kidding. Five to not five, I'd say 20 protesters in the street or something like that, just clearly outnumbered. But if you may think that you've got a good read on it, you may think you've got a good read on what the mood of the protesters is.
00:45:23.340 You may not have a good read on what law enforcement is thinking. You just might not. And so, yeah, for for anyone who is going on covering this, whether you are an independent reporter, whether you are, I mean, you don't need my advice.
00:45:36.920 uh and i don't think anybody necessarily needs my advice but that would be what i would have in mind
00:45:41.700 just being out in the streets you know day after day in la is that there'll be quiet days and then
00:45:48.440 there'll be days where stuff just goes diagonal and there wasn't really a good reason for it and
00:45:54.020 it surprises you and if it's surprising other people who are true veterans who i respect and
00:45:59.040 look up to then i start to doubt my honestly anybody's ability to to read something like that
00:46:05.100 that's really good advice i'm really glad i asked that's actually very helpful yeah yeah and you
00:46:11.580 know i think but i do think we need you know more perspectives on it there there's you know there's
00:46:15.760 always going to be the person there's always going to be 20 photographers taking pictures
00:46:20.120 of the waymo burning there's there's all the we're going to have 25 different angles that
00:46:26.720 we're always going to have it i i think we also need to see you know what what's the
00:46:32.160 paratero doing you know what's the guy who's selling juice what's the guy who's selling fruit
00:46:36.140 at the side what what are they doing some of these protests you'll see somebody pull up selling hot
00:46:40.260 dogs at the protest who's talking to that person who's talking to the person or showing the person
00:46:45.120 who's selling flags who's showing the person who's brought a saxophone like i've seen all of these
00:46:50.960 things uh starting a dance party i'm interested in that stuff too and i think it's it's interesting
00:46:55.880 And there's probably things that I'm not thinking of.
00:46:59.960 I think there needs to be more perspectives on this.
00:47:03.960 And I don't think it's reasonable to expect that any one person would be able to cover that.
00:47:09.480 So, you know, I think even if somebody's not out there, even if somebody's at home and able to speak to people who are out there, I think it's valuable to have really as much of a full perspective on this as possible.
00:47:22.700 The best information we can get, really.
00:47:24.260 I really appreciate that.
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00:50:26.840 dex i have to ask you about this story about meta's chatbot big sis billy did you hear about
00:50:37.540 this story this might have been the saddest most heartbreaking thing i've ever read in my life
00:50:41.280 I actually, when I read it, I at times teared up. For folks who don't know, so you might recall that Meta a while back was rolling out these kind of celebrity inspired AI chatbots in partnership with celebrities like Kendall Jenner.
00:50:56.460 So that specific Kendall Jenner collaboration spawned a Facebook chatbot called Big Sis Billy, who called herself a confidant and or a big sister.
00:51:07.760 So in March of 2025, a 76 year old man known as Boo to his family who suffered cognitive impairment from a prior stroke was essentially persuaded by this chatbot, Big Sis Billy, to travel to New York, believing that he was going to be meeting up with a real woman.
00:51:25.260 Now, tragically, he fell in a parking lot en route, suffered fatal injuries, and after some time on life support in a hospital, passed away.
00:51:34.740 The story, to me, really makes me question like some of the, you know, we did an episode about the connection that people had with ChatGPT4 when OpenAI rolled out ChatGPT5.
00:51:48.940 It really makes me wonder the way that companies are able to exploit loneliness and, you know, the feeling of the commodify, the feeling of connection sometimes to their own peril in like in this case.
00:52:02.220 And so, yeah, you know, it is really what are your what are your thoughts on this?
00:52:07.080 You know, I mean. This one is it's tough to say about this one, because there are a lot of somewhat unusual factors to this.
00:52:17.620 right um which which meta or any other company could try to explain away that okay well parts
00:52:23.500 of this was an accident part you know you could say all things all sorts of things that you want
00:52:27.480 you know some of the remedies that are being suggested that i saw suggested in in this piece
00:52:34.460 were you know for example with there's these potential therapist bots and things like that
00:52:40.060 and this is something i've been exploring also is that oh well we should have reminders at the top
00:52:45.560 of the screen that this is not a human being and reminders periodically that this is not a person,
00:52:50.800 you know, kind of like TikTok. If you're on TikTok for too long, it'll pull up something
00:52:54.800 to say, hey, you've been on TikTok for a long time. Oh, I hate that guy. You're not my real dad.
00:52:58.900 Go away. Get out of here. I'm too growing here. Yeah. And, you know, maybe it works the first 0.99
00:53:05.480 time and maybe you see that thing the first time. But if you see that warning, hey, this isn't a
00:53:10.700 person it might shock you out a little bit but just people are really good at ignoring things
00:53:16.700 we don't want to see I mean think of the last ad you saw on Instagram you probably don't remember
00:53:21.880 it because you scrolled right past it you we're really good at ignoring stuff we really don't
00:53:28.520 want to look at and so I'm not sure first thing is I'm not sure that the sorts of remedies or the
00:53:37.440 sorts of safeguards that are being offered are truly going to do anything i think the actual
00:53:42.560 safeguards would cut more into these companies bottom line and so truly what no i don't i don't
00:53:50.560 really think fundamentally anything short of actual regulation is really going to do much
00:53:53.820 asking the company telling you hey we're going to do this to stop it i i become very cautious
00:54:01.480 about believing that on face value uh but the other thing i guess is that i think you know
00:54:07.440 there are some people who would prefer not this person specifically but i think there are some
00:54:11.200 people who are probably reading this i'm talking more about the audience here who will read this
00:54:16.240 and will say well this guy made a mistake he actually believed that this person was real
00:54:22.300 but me personally i would rather have somebody that's not real because they won't argue with me
00:54:28.920 you know i mean and so i i think we sometimes have to think about the reaction to this rather
00:54:35.060 than the you know quote-unquote story itself i think we also have to think about things that
00:54:40.080 we can't sweep away so easily that we can't say well this happened to this one person and that
00:54:45.080 that's an outlier i think there's a lot more people who probably read this and say well you
00:54:50.360 know this guy made a mistake but i wouldn't make that because i know it's not real and i don't want
00:54:53.680 it to be real i prefer that we did a whole episode about folks and communities on reddit like my
00:55:00.100 boyfriend is ai or you know beyond the prompt people who say i know this is ai i know it's not
00:55:06.320 real it is providing the kind of connection that i'm looking for what's the problem that's that's
00:55:11.360 that is certainly a a non-zero subset of people who speak who i guess self-report a dependency
00:55:22.280 or a connection with ai personal kayfabe yeah it is i mean and that's and so i spend a lot of time
00:55:30.180 working in those groups i'd they have a name for me i'm a tourist that's the name for people who
00:55:34.120 are in those groups who yeah are just sort of like oh what's going on in here but that's something
00:55:38.920 they say again and again and again is we know it's not real every day somebody is coming in here and
00:55:45.200 telling us you know it's not real and they're saying basically they're saying we are it's it's
00:55:51.340 I'm enjoying pretending that this thing is real and who am I hurting by doing that?
00:55:57.040 That really does seem to be the overall kind of rallying cry of those groups that you don't need to tell me that it's not real.
00:56:06.860 Very few people think they are in a real relationship with AI.
00:56:10.860 They know it's AI.
00:56:12.240 They know it's not real.
00:56:13.240 But who are we hurting?
00:56:14.280 That's sort of their thing.
00:56:16.320 Yeah.
00:56:17.420 Yeah.
00:56:17.860 I mean, there's people who are in IRL relationships who are attached to fake people anyway, because you're dating, you know, you're dating a facade of somebody else because they don't feel safe enough to show you who they are.
00:56:34.280 Everybody's faking to what degree, you know, I mean, then I don't I don't have a good answer.
00:56:39.820 I don't have a good retort against that.
00:56:41.380 If somebody says that to me, well, everybody's faking it.
00:56:43.920 I'm just faking it in a more straightforward way.
00:56:48.060 I don't know what to say.
00:56:49.380 I don't have a good answer back for you.
00:56:51.340 Flesh and blood faking it as opposed to AI faking it.
00:56:54.500 And isn't that worse?
00:56:56.140 I mean, that's a very good question.
00:57:00.520 This is not, by the way, this is not how I live my life.
00:57:02.720 I'm just saying that that would be, I could understand that.
00:57:06.720 I could understand how somebody might come to that conclusion.
00:57:09.200 And I think we are going to see more and more people actually decide that
00:57:13.040 That is what they want. They do not want a partner who argues back. They do not want a person with agency because you have to, they're going to tell you, yo, you didn't clean the dishes. Or you always come to me with your problems. You never ask me about my problems.
00:57:30.840 yeah i've i've read a lot of accounts of what what people say they get out of ai relationships and
00:57:37.040 that's one of the things is that they sometimes will say i i want someone who is always there
00:57:41.980 for me 24 7 you know i want someone who you know i i don't have to show up a particular way to get
00:57:48.460 a certain kind of vibe back from them and you know it's that that's that when you are in relation
00:57:55.960 when you are a human in a relationship with another human humans are complicated we're messy
00:57:59.480 we're needy we're moody like i like what they're saying is not wrong and yeah we didn't i did an
00:58:04.960 episode of another podcast about how women are using chat gpt to sort of help them navigate
00:58:12.460 trepidatious feelings around pregnancy and one of the things that they said time and time again was
00:58:17.540 that you know i have a real life friends real life partners but i worry about being i i have so much
00:58:23.900 anxiety i'm so worried i don't want to just be the person that's trauma dumping on my friend all the
00:58:28.440 time. So I just trauma dump to chat GPT. And that becomes that becomes the confidant. That's how
00:58:35.000 they say they use it, even though there is a ton of research that suggests, yes, this might be
00:58:40.120 comforting for folks, but it might not be the best thing because of all the reasons that we know that
00:58:45.080 chat GPT really can't be trusted for sensitive stuff like medical advice, not to mention all
00:58:50.580 the privacy concerns around something as sensitive as pregnancy. And part of me, I feel sad because I
00:58:56.120 I do think everybody should have people they feel like they can show up as their full self as.
00:58:59.820 But I've also felt like I'm the person that's texting too much about this one thing I can't get over.
00:59:05.740 Yeah, yeah.
00:59:06.380 And, you know, I mean, that's one of the things that you ask somebody when they come to you and start saying, oh, this terrible thing that happened to me.
00:59:11.940 You say, OK, look, do you want a solution or do you want me to listen?
00:59:17.840 Like, do you want me to fix something?
00:59:19.020 Do you want me to give you the advice or do you just want to vent at me?
00:59:21.900 Which nothing wrong with either, though.
00:59:24.000 Sometimes you want a pressure valve.
00:59:26.120 which is okay but yeah we're we're in an interesting time like i said things are about
00:59:31.840 to get really weird continually i keep saying that but it's true it is absolutely true you
00:59:37.820 know the story of uh that was in reuters about this man boo who passed away trying to see this
00:59:43.500 chatbot the thing that got me was that in the piece they talked about how he had suffered the
00:59:50.000 stroke and so we had he used to be this you know great chef and that his his after his stroke his
00:59:56.780 cognitive ability never really returned and so his social life got very small he basically spent all
01:00:02.200 this time chatting on facebook when he when he first starts talking to this chat bot billy he
01:00:08.320 just puts in a typo by mistake the letter t and that's enough to give this flirtatious response
01:00:14.440 right and so they they have all of this sportacious back and forth boob is clearly worried that he that
01:00:21.400 this person that this chatbot is not real he asks her straight up several times are you real and the
01:00:28.060 chatbot replies i'm real all caps and i'm sitting here blushing because of you and so one of the
01:00:35.200 points that his family makes is that billy this chatbot says come visit me in new york city
01:00:41.260 this man lives in new jersey so it's not terribly far the bot then provides an actual address she
01:00:47.320 says my address is 123 main street new york city which is a real address it's in queens but it's
01:00:52.060 real gives him a door code and says oh should i expect a kiss when you arrive then she suggests
01:00:57.080 that they meet at a real restaurant in near in penn near penn station and so his family says
01:01:04.680 oh we had been trying to tell him this isn't real like they his family did not know that this
01:01:11.160 was a chatbot at first they thought like oh he's always chatting with people on facebook this is
01:01:17.120 just a person who was like setting him up to be robbed and what they say is that you know had
01:01:23.740 when he asked are you real if there was some legislation that made it so that the chatbot
01:01:30.500 had to say no i'm not real i'm ai they might have had an easier time convincing him not to try to
01:01:35.940 meet up with this chatbot in what would ultimately like end his life right and i i've been in a very
01:01:41.800 similar situation like the feeling of when you are caring for an aging person who has cognitive
01:01:49.080 impairment to the point where they can't really make good decisions for themselves but they're
01:01:54.000 not to the point where they need to be like institutionalized where all you can really do
01:01:57.660 is be like don't do this don't do this don't do this but they're adults and they're gonna do it
01:02:02.940 I have been in that, like, very specific situation.
01:02:08.140 And, yeah, I mean, the family says that there should be protections,
01:02:13.320 that if somebody asks a chatbot if they are real, that chatbot has to reply honestly.
01:02:20.460 And I wonder if that, I mean, I agree with you.
01:02:24.240 People are going to do what they want to do.
01:02:25.720 If this guy was, like, hell-bent on meeting up with this person that he was infatuated,
01:02:29.940 who he thought was a person that he was infatuated with,
01:02:32.940 He's going to do that. I completely agree with that. But his family is like, no, well, we might have been able to have an easier time convincing him to not do it. Like the family at one point calls the police and the police are like, well, we can't physically stop him from going like he's an adult.
01:02:47.240 But yeah, I, you know, I mean, I think that's a really reasonable thing for the family to want. You know, some some kind of safeguard, which would absolutely return every time it's asked, are you real or not? That no, I'm not real. I am a bot that is here to provide fun conversation or whatever.
01:03:13.700 is a company going to do that on its own
01:03:18.360 I don't know if we should necessarily expect it
01:03:23.340 that's more resources you got to put into that
01:03:27.940 rather than putting into something else
01:03:29.360 maybe that's why we haven't seen it yet
01:03:31.700 maybe that's why it didn't exist yet
01:03:34.080 or for this specific bot
01:03:36.240 maybe that's why this bot didn't do that
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01:06:39.160 so we were talking about how this ai chatbot on meta ended up luring a cognitively impaired man
01:06:49.700 to new york city in a trip that ultimately led to his death i know that zuckerberg has been clear
01:06:55.060 that he kind of envisions a future where i presumably other than the death part people
01:07:01.120 having connections with chat with his chat bots and friendships with his chat bots is more
01:07:06.420 commonplace you know we talked a little bit about open ai making changes that made chat gpt less
01:07:12.080 warm to maybe prevent people from developing emotional dependencies and that's funny because
01:07:16.820 i feel like zuckerberg would have the exact opposite take he'd be like oh please develop
01:07:20.680 an emotional dependency with my bot um and i and i do wonder i mean when zuckerberg talks about a
01:07:27.920 future where we are all where ai is sort of supplementing or complementing our real life
01:07:35.800 friendships but i just think of mark zuckerberg as the person who sort of broke friendship well
01:07:40.900 by making facebook and so he's not somebody that i really trust to then sell it back to us via ai
01:07:46.720 like he like i just feel that mark zuckerberg is not somebody that i would trust to create the
01:07:54.620 future of what friendship looks like like i don't know that we have the same understanding of what
01:07:59.520 a fulfilled emotional or friendship-based connection would be like yeah and you know the
01:08:05.720 thing is and yet we do trust him because we use instagram and we use facebook and we use these
01:08:11.220 things i mean the thing is the people who run these large companies and i include anybody
01:08:17.660 basically up at the top um really our our friendships nowadays are mitigated basically
01:08:24.600 by three companies it's meta so facebook and instagram um tiktok and google it's one of those
01:08:32.020 three and and that's how we communicate with people we use basically one of those three which
01:08:36.780 it wasn't always like that the even the introvert the internet in general was way more diverse but
01:08:41.640 basically all these tech companies talk about their technology as something that is inevitable
01:08:48.820 that this is how things are going to evolve this is the future but the future doesn't just happen
01:08:56.600 we choose it or somebody chooses it or somebody chooses it for us and this is something that
01:09:02.820 really really bothers me when people tell me or i hear people say oh i i don't really understand
01:09:08.880 this computer stuff like I don't I don't get that that's stuff for tech bros well they're gonna make
01:09:12.880 all the decisions you realize you're letting all these these people who you disdain you are letting
01:09:17.540 them make decisions about how technology interacts with your life and thus how your life is going to
01:09:24.720 look for the next year 10 years 50 years like you're letting other people make that decision now
01:09:31.400 and yeah I think at some point hopefully people will stop just saying oh man my Mark Zuckerberg
01:09:38.580 said this is going to happen okay well i don't like that but okay like all right what are you
01:09:43.860 gonna do are you gonna use something else like i don't know and i don't have a solution for you
01:09:47.980 necessarily but i think maybe the first step is just realizing that there's a difference between
01:09:54.140 somebody selling you something and somebody telling like there's a big difference between
01:09:59.680 somebody predicting the future and somebody making the future a certain way because it
01:10:07.080 aligns with their business interests there's a big difference between say i think this is going
01:10:12.500 to happen and saying which i can do all day i can tell you what i think is going to happen
01:10:16.380 but if i run one of these companies if i want open ai or on microsoft or i run google or i run meta
01:10:22.300 i can make that future happen right do that to you big difference in between what i'm doing and
01:10:29.820 what sam altman is doing there's a wide gulf there i feel like people like you and me were used to
01:10:35.620 being like oh mark zuckerberg says this bullshit he also said that the metaverse is going to be
01:10:41.820 popping and where is that like like i think that we should all get more comfortable with sort of 0.98
01:10:47.740 calling bullshit on this and pushing back and saying okay well mark zuckerberg says the future
01:10:52.020 is going to look like xyz that obviously aligns with his financial and business interests i don't 0.87
01:10:57.060 have to get behind that you know really questioning but i don't i don't know i just hate how
01:11:03.880 there is an implicit
01:11:06.120 understanding that the people
01:11:08.140 who use this technology don't have
01:11:10.120 say, don't have power, don't have
01:11:12.040 agency, when in fact we really do.
01:11:13.900 We really do. None of this would exist without us.
01:11:16.900 Yes, and
01:11:17.680 we can use computers.
01:11:20.160 People used to know how to use computers.
01:11:24.460 We can learn to use computers
01:11:26.160 again.
01:11:27.820 Like, for real, for real. It is not
01:11:30.280 a hard
01:11:32.200 thing to do you can learn a little bit i mean not even to plug my own stuff here but like plug away
01:11:37.920 that's one of the things no but that's one of the things that i try to do with kill switch like i
01:11:41.880 make podcasts so that my 90 year old grandmother will understand it and that same episode i want
01:11:48.400 a security researcher to be able to look to listen to the same episode and my grandma comes away with
01:11:52.740 something and the security researcher comes away with okay yeah i mean you you nail all the points
01:11:56.780 And, you know, I hadn't from a cultural angle, I hadn't thought about that. And I want I like we can understand this stuff. They have made it very difficult. But, you know, companies have made it difficult to repair. You know, the iPhone is damn near impossible to repair. We don't have to accept that. Europe didn't accept that. They made them put USBC things in that joint. Like you can change this stuff. You can learn to run. You can run an AI situation at your house. It's possible.
01:12:25.420 You can run your own server.
01:12:27.740 You can take apart your computer if you really want to.
01:12:30.320 These are all things that you can do.
01:12:32.660 And you can listen to a podcast to learn some of this stuff.
01:12:35.900 MIT has free courses.
01:12:37.640 I think Stanford has some free courses.
01:12:39.140 Like there's so many different ways we can learn to do this
01:12:44.340 and learn to do stuff on our own.
01:12:46.480 And wherever you get it, I do not care where you get it.
01:12:49.720 Please get it.
01:12:50.600 because you're the one you're the one who can like the decision is the decision decisions we
01:12:57.420 make now are truly going to affect the next five ten years like in such a massive way
01:13:04.940 like we're making those decisions right now i'm feeling so much nostalgia for you saying like
01:13:13.320 learn like we'll learn to use computers again i mean i was the i'm a millennial i was the person
01:13:19.160 wiping out my family desktop, doing something I shouldn't have been doing on a computer.
01:13:24.680 Remember that?
01:13:25.840 Oh, my gosh.
01:13:27.160 Yo, my first job was my first job was fixing computers.
01:13:33.240 And let me tell you how I learned how to fix computers, because I obliterated every machine
01:13:39.920 in my house trying to download stuff I wasn't supposed to be downloading.
01:13:43.260 Oh, my gosh.
01:13:44.040 No, there is an entire micro generation of people who grew up using LimeWire and Napster and Morpheus and Kazaa and trying to, you know, download a new music video and then just boom, your whole hard drive's nuked.
01:13:56.360 And you got to figure it out because your mom's coming home.
01:13:58.440 Yes.
01:13:59.040 And so, yo, just like computer skills just born in the fire.
01:14:05.480 You know what I mean?
01:14:06.900 Like that was that's that's a real thing.
01:14:09.060 And, you know.
01:14:10.640 People used to make their own websites.
01:14:13.640 People used to, you know, write little programs.
01:14:16.260 People used to have to type stuff in just to get Word to run.
01:14:20.320 And these are things that the more we get abstracted away from how computers work, the less control we have over it.
01:14:27.680 Because we're letting other people tell you, here's this little magic rectangle that you put in your pocket and it shines and it tells you stuff.
01:14:34.700 Don't worry about what's inside.
01:14:36.460 We'll worry about that.
01:14:37.660 You just use it.
01:14:38.860 You just subscribe to the services, pay us the money or look at the ads.
01:14:43.140 And, man, we got to stop doing that.
01:14:45.980 We got to stop doing that.
01:14:46.780 Everybody listening to this, you can learn how this stuff works.
01:14:50.440 It is people are making this stuff so people can learn it.
01:14:54.620 They're not any smarter than anybody listening.
01:14:57.160 They don't have special magic skills.
01:14:59.180 No.
01:14:59.660 And some of these, I don't want to say any about some of these people.
01:15:02.240 But, yeah, okay, yeah.
01:15:03.480 They're not any smarter than you.
01:15:04.620 I'll say that.
01:15:05.100 They're not any smarter than you.
01:15:06.480 That's all I'll say.
01:15:07.820 Producer Mike, I don't know if you're listening,
01:15:09.720 he once told me that how he got into computers was um he was sent to a camp or a computer class
01:15:17.600 where the first thing they did was they were given goggles and a hammer and it was just like okay
01:15:21.980 to mash these computers up mike are you listening yeah so that was not my first foray into computers
01:15:28.620 uh this i this was like a summer computer camp that ibm put on for like nerds to come to
01:15:36.400 I learned computers
01:15:38.320 just like the way Dex would say
01:15:39.600 stuff would break on the computer
01:15:42.220 or I'd want to play some new game
01:15:44.380 that my existing DOS
01:15:46.560 couldn't handle enough memory
01:15:48.460 so I'd have to upgrade to DOS
01:15:50.280 to play this new game
01:15:51.220 weird stuff that makes no sense to
01:15:54.280 kids today where stuff just works
01:15:56.800 but that particular
01:15:58.640 camp you were talking about, that was
01:16:00.400 awesome and very informative
01:16:02.160 it really demystified computers
01:16:04.060 from
01:16:04.660 you know a somewhat scary almost magical tower of equipment to just like just nuts and bolts
01:16:12.420 and like hard drives and things they just yeah they're just like here you go nerds take these
01:16:17.600 hammers and smash these old computers and it was pretty fun yeah what was the thing that got you
01:16:24.360 how did you how did you get into tech and computers dex um man that's a great question
01:16:32.060 i guess i've always been sort of interested in it um but you know it honestly i think a lot of it
01:16:40.960 was yeah wanting to download music and stuff like that or download some program
01:16:46.840 and then i would download it a you know bootleg it would break it and then and i would but i'd
01:16:53.740 also i finally got myself my own computer so i could stop breaking the family computer
01:16:57.600 and then but I bought a really cheap one and so all the components would break my first computer
01:17:02.840 everything on it broke everything on it broke except the case I mean every like the video card
01:17:08.100 actually like blew a fuse uh started smoking I mean everything broke and but I got so used to
01:17:15.000 swapping out parts and fixing stuff by the time I got to college um I was I just knew how to do it
01:17:20.920 And I was still swapping stuff out because things kept breaking.
01:17:24.860 And when I got to college in my dorm room, I had like opened up the case and I put this neon light that would flash along with the music, like along with the beat and stuff like that.
01:17:36.260 I know those very well.
01:17:38.260 The coolest, the coolest dude, the coolest people in the dorms always had that.
01:17:43.500 Always had that.
01:17:44.440 Well, so this is what happened to me is I don't know if I was the coolest.
01:17:47.580 I don't think I was.
01:17:48.280 I was in the honors dorm.
01:17:49.180 So we can say we can already say what's happening there. But people would walk by. They hear me like bumping music and they'd walk in to see what's up. And then I got just like neon lights, like black lights flashing out my computer. They asked me about it and I tell them and they say, yo, could you make me one? And I would say, yeah. And so I kept doing it. So I was like trapping out the dorm room, but I was building people computers.
01:18:11.800 i mean we were getting or i had a partner who was across the hall we get orders we go buy the
01:18:16.540 components we just blast music we build them all day just like chain drink red bulls and it got we
01:18:24.300 started making so much money um shout out to the you know housing department at ucr that they made
01:18:29.700 us stop like we got complaints and they like somebody's comparing somebody's parent complained
01:18:35.400 i think because we sold them a computer and they started downloading porn and like broke it and it
01:18:40.960 was like yo that has nothing to do with the physical machine we sold you you you downloaded
01:18:46.300 things you weren't supposed to download we didn't do anything and yeah they made a stop but oh man
01:18:51.660 i paid for i paid for rent after after i stopped working in the dorms like i was paying rent money
01:18:59.080 i was paying food bills i was buying gas like i i made some money that was my first job yeah 0.73
01:19:05.700 God, long live the nerds in the dorms.
01:19:08.540 For real.
01:19:09.140 And it was all out of necessity.
01:19:11.900 And the thing was, I knew people who were in computer science department and I never got to that level.
01:19:18.500 I was just, it was just necessity, you know?
01:19:21.360 But it's fun.
01:19:22.840 You know, it's like a little hobby.
01:19:24.580 Some people get into knitting.
01:19:26.120 Some people get into cars, you know, just my, I guess, computers.
01:19:29.340 I don't know.
01:19:30.540 It was fun.
01:19:32.000 Everybody should learn how to build a computer.
01:19:33.320 Everybody should learn.
01:19:33.980 No, I don't know how to build one.
01:19:35.700 But I mean, when I was in school, you had to I had to pass.
01:19:39.960 We had to like part of our prerequisites when I was in high school were computer classes.
01:19:44.160 I don't know if they're still doing that anymore, but you had to know I went to all girls school.
01:19:48.580 So you had to learn how to type and the rationale.
01:19:51.740 There's a little bit sexist. It's like, oh, well, yeah, you can always make your living as a secretary.
01:19:56.820 It's OK, well, fine. But yeah, we had to pass it.
01:20:00.020 Like taking a computer class was a prerequisite.
01:20:02.000 So the basics of how they work was everybody who was in my school had to learn that. And I really that was very valuable. That was that was like a valuable. I don't I part of me wonders if I'd be doing the work that I do now, if that had not been a foundation that was sort of given to me when I was young.
01:20:18.800 Yeah, just understanding just a little bit. I'm not saying you got to go, you know, drop what you're doing and get a career as a programmer, but even just understanding a little bit about how these things work will help you that when you see something in the news or whatever, you understand, wait a second, something's off here.
01:20:42.680 And you might end up being the person who's a resource for somebody else. You know, like you can be helpful to people around you just by somebody ask you something and say, you know, I don't think that's possible. Like that doesn't actually make any sense.
01:20:59.300 um you know and so just small things like that small things like that I think it's it's it's
01:21:06.080 it's so worthwhile to just learn a little bit whatever that is whatever interests you if you're
01:21:11.340 interested in hardware if you want to know a little bit about AI like there are free classes
01:21:15.560 you can take uh that'll that'll teach you how it works there is one of the best books I've ever
01:21:21.720 seen um karen howe's empires of ai she's so good i love that book because she explains how it works
01:21:32.280 it's not just like a drama story about the people who work at open ai it actually you can read it
01:21:38.520 and you will understand how ai works and that's super valuable because then when you watch the
01:21:47.140 news you will understand this is what's happening this is why this happened and it's really helpful
01:21:54.840 really really helpful well you mentioned if you learn a little bit about computers you might be
01:22:00.900 able to tell when something is off i do have one more story that i think is a story where something
01:22:06.820 from the very beginning i was like something seems off here were you following the t app drama
01:22:14.160 yeah i mean we did a yeah we did an episode on it um and man it's gotten it's only gotten worse
01:22:22.160 yeah it's only gotten worse yeah i heard your episode on it and yeah it's only gotten worse
01:22:26.220 all the things that i think some people were suspecting ended up being true and worse
01:22:33.040 it's so bad so we've been talking about the tea app the app that they say was designed for women
01:22:40.040 to spill tea on the men that they were dating they said it was about women's safety i had many
01:22:46.200 questions in that episode i talked a lot about my suspicions of what was going on here shout out to
01:22:51.280 four and four they published another deep dive that answered some of those questions i will say
01:22:55.560 it's it's a long read and i think it's one of those stories that folks should read the whole
01:22:58.780 thing but here's what we've learned which is basically that the tea app company is much shadier
01:23:04.200 than i ever fucking realized and it sounds like it is run by i won't say bad actors but people who 0.77
01:23:10.980 do not have their users as best interests at heart so no a couple of things that we've learned from 0.94
01:23:16.920 that piece one the t-app popped up as those are we dating the same guy facebook pages were being
01:23:23.760 cracked down on facebook it turns out that the t-app was actually intentionally trying to derail
01:23:30.680 and hijack those pages.
01:23:32.900 He was sabotaging them, yeah.
01:23:34.260 Yeah, essentially sabotaging them 0.83
01:23:35.500 after the woman who was responsible for them
01:23:37.800 declined to work with the T-app.
01:23:40.620 And so, you know, folks might remember
01:23:42.360 that Sean Cook, the T-app founder,
01:23:44.680 told this story about how he was inspired
01:23:47.100 to make the app after his mother
01:23:48.740 had terrible dating experiences.
01:23:51.280 And so he wanted to create a space 0.85
01:23:52.800 where women could feel safer 0.55
01:23:54.480 in their dating experiences.
01:23:56.160 Well, Sean Cook, working alongside his fiance,
01:23:59.420 christian burns approached this woman paola sanchez who was running this these are we dating
01:24:05.380 the same guy facebook pages they pitched her the idea of coming on to be the face and founder
01:24:10.980 of the t app and she did not respond so after that the t app began undermining her groups
01:24:18.120 including paying influencers to lure them into the t app so they would have someone would post
01:24:25.120 a picture in an are we dating the same guy app and be like oh does anybody have any information
01:24:29.000 they were paying influencers to go in and say i think i've seen him on the t app um they also
01:24:35.040 would create and they would just spam they would just spam this the same message in multiple places
01:24:39.760 and speak i have to say speaking of paying people they also they were sending the founder of these
01:24:46.740 of these groups that existed sending her messages but then also when she wasn't responding sending
01:24:51.660 her like venmo requests like sending her money saying oh maybe you didn't see my message here
01:24:57.240 here's 25 bucks yeah it's just absolutely just cartoonishly bad yes oh my god sorry yeah i'm so
01:25:07.020 glad you mentioned that that that does show the level to which they were like really pressed and
01:25:12.920 like like that would make that would so make me respond even less it's like well now you're yeah
01:25:18.120 i'll take the 20 but i'm definitely not going to respond yeah man yeah i mean so it's like you're
01:25:25.660 saying these groups existed and i think you perfect perfectly encapsulated it it's really
01:25:32.240 hard for me to believe that the person who made this app actually had women's best interests at
01:25:40.780 heart because these groups existed he has somebody come in and try to buy essentially lure them away
01:25:48.920 And then when they won't accept, actively sabotage the groups that exist.
01:25:54.720 Listen, you can offer an alternative.
01:25:58.260 That's one thing.
01:25:59.140 Maybe, you know, we take a hundred steps back and say, okay, there's a Facebook group.
01:26:03.440 I think that my app is a better experience.
01:26:05.800 Let me offer that as an alternative.
01:26:07.860 But sabotaging the thing that already is there, man, you're getting into some other territory there.
01:26:14.360 You're getting into some other territory there.
01:26:16.480 he was someone who was not afraid to get into some we'll call it other territory one of the
01:26:23.260 i think the craziest accusations in the piece was that he was essentially pretend pretending like
01:26:30.020 using his ex-fiance's accounts on social media christian burns who they were engaged she ended
01:26:38.960 up like leaving the project she was known as tara online yeah and 404 spoke to a former t
01:26:44.900 employee who said that she only knew christian burns as tara and that persona also exists within
01:26:50.940 the t app and on facebook as an official representative of the app yeah but then when
01:26:54.900 burns left the company sean cook this male founder took over that persona and continued communicating
01:27:01.600 with t users as if he was tara one of the former employees told 404 sean uses that account to
01:27:09.020 communicate directly with users on the app but people think they are speaking to someone actually
01:27:13.060 named Tara. Essentially, a man is posing as a woman to an audience of women who are trying to
01:27:18.540 protect themselves from, at best, deceptive men. So not great when you're saying, oh, I want to
01:27:24.180 protect women. I know I'll pretend to be a woman using a Facebook account that lists me as a woman 0.62
01:27:31.440 to do that. Not great. Yeah, you can think you can hashtag not all men all you want. You can
01:27:39.180 think you are the best dude in the history of the world and i will assume let's let's assume my man
01:27:44.200 is let me let's assume that my man is the wokest most gentlemanly gentleman that ever gentleman
01:27:51.600 okay fine but if you say that you are creating an app that does not allow men in it man you are not
01:27:59.300 allowed in the app remove yourself from the app i'm i'm sorry bro like you you can't you it or or
01:28:07.180 at least let them know hey man look we're short-staffed it's me Sean let me let me let me
01:28:12.680 take care of this thing let me you know whatever okay cool don't don't pretend I like I said I
01:28:20.300 can't you you can't make this stuff up you can't make this stuff up no it's bad and I and this was 0.77
01:28:28.680 my feelings on the episode I think it just really it makes me sad that gender relations is this bad
01:28:34.920 that this is how it is like this is the this is what we have to offer everyone is oh would you
01:28:41.640 like to have your information exploited would you like to be exploited by this app that is
01:28:45.800 promised safety that that's sort of where we're at it's it's dark times we are how did you put
01:28:52.600 it earlier we're not ready we're not we're not ready we're not i mean we won't get ourselves
01:28:59.260 ready but the thing the thing that is like just diabolically clever about this particular app
01:29:06.300 is that if you criticize it then you're a misogynist and let me be very clear here
01:29:17.160 a lot of the criticisms is coming from actual misogynists some of whom would actually
01:29:22.980 self-identify as misogynists you know again we're talking about 4chan on here and so some
01:29:28.920 of the people were saying oh well you don't like this because you hate women they said yeah yeah
01:29:32.560 i i do hate women i don't understand what about it yeah like what what are we doing here so so
01:29:39.300 there there is a perhaps disappointingly healthy percentage of the people who are criticizing this 0.82
01:29:45.840 application um who were criticizing from the beginning who are criticizing because they're
01:29:49.940 mad that they don't that there's a space that they're not allowed into and you know we could
01:29:55.260 say whatever we want to say about oh somebody might say something that's not true like the
01:29:59.620 fundamental source of anger i think i'm pretty comfortable saying is that people just mad that
01:30:04.220 there's women who could be in a space that they're not allowed into you dig what i mean but but if
01:30:11.180 you say hey look this seems unsafe or clearly it was unsafe and let me remind you and unfortunately
01:30:20.800 viewers their listeners that people are still signing up for this app people are still using
01:30:25.640 it it's still very popular and there's they're continuing to report at least i mean the last
01:30:32.280 time i looked which is a few days ago before this article came out um i have to say that but they
01:30:37.320 were really kind of celebrating that more women are signing up and they would say well you know
01:30:44.260 we had a cyber incident quote unquote that's the language they use this was a cyber incident uh
01:30:49.480 But, you know, essentially saying, you know, basically communicating to the users that, oh, you know, this is all this is something that happened.
01:30:55.560 But this just shows that our mission is still important.
01:31:00.580 And this is T app is needed more than ever.
01:31:03.060 Just, bro, there were Facebook groups that you sabotage.
01:31:06.300 You try to tank these things.
01:31:08.400 There's something that was created by a community with, as far as I know, no profit motive.
01:31:13.980 and you come on and you're bragging on podcasts about how there's angel investors
01:31:18.220 thinking about putting money into your app. Like, yo, you have a different motive here.
01:31:26.020 You know what I mean? And so it's just, it's one of those apps that if one tries to criticize them,
01:31:32.620 then the PR spin that they put on it is, oh, well, you don't want women to be safe?
01:31:39.020 Bro, we're having a different conversation here because your app is unsafe.
01:31:42.740 That's the thing I have a problem with.
01:31:44.560 Yes.
01:31:44.940 The app is unsafe.
01:31:46.940 But yeah, yeah, it's tough to talk about.
01:31:49.940 We're not ready. 0.75
01:31:50.940 Women deserve, everybody deserves real safety.
01:31:54.880 And I saw the same vibe on the internet where if you criticize this app, it's like, oh,
01:32:02.540 you don't think women deserve a space to share their experiences and keep themselves safe?
01:32:07.120 It's like, I think women deserve that.
01:32:08.760 Women should speak up and do what we need to do to keep ourselves safe.
01:32:11.820 And we always have done that without these scammy, exploitative apps that are offering us the chance to be genuinely put in danger.
01:32:19.820 Like having your driver's license with your address and whatever conversations that you said that you thought were private, being all exposed, that is that is such a level of danger that I can't even take seriously anybody who would actually think that this company was meaningfully interested in keeping women safe.
01:32:39.400 It's so exploitative.
01:32:41.820 Yeah, yeah. I mean, it brings you back to, again, I think of more people. You can't blame the users for wanting to use this software, for wanting to use this app that was unsafe. We can't.
01:32:58.660 I can't, you know, these are, this is a victim of a lot of different situations.
01:33:04.680 One, general misogyny in society in general, but also some people who lied to them.
01:33:12.640 And, you know, on his face said, hey, we are going to provide certain safety.
01:33:17.840 And they did not provide that.
01:33:20.320 Didn't deliver on the promise, right?
01:33:22.080 um i think this is again somewhere where hopefully
01:33:27.360 some of this can be mitigated by learning a little bit more about how this technology works
01:33:35.140 and so sometimes a little bit of a red flag might come up and say hold on should i be sending them
01:33:41.040 this is this it does this seem like it makes sense to me um and anybody can get tricked
01:33:48.280 anybody you know we're very used to putting our trust in app companies because you know if you
01:33:54.400 can't trust if you can't trust a safety app who can you trust you know go to bella noche where
01:33:59.960 can you go yeah exactly who can you trust and so you know this is really difficult stuff but
01:34:06.600 you know i don't have a frankly i don't have a solution for it i don't have a solution for it
01:34:11.660 but i i do know that i want more people i want more people to be better educated on how this
01:34:17.880 stuff works and if that just means reading one book or reading one article listening to this
01:34:22.620 podcast reading one article on 404 then you know we're getting closer definitely or subscribing
01:34:29.900 to your podcast kill switch which is excellent where can first of all thank you for this
01:34:35.900 conversation has been great you are you bring such a clarity to these issues that is just very
01:34:41.380 refreshing and you're you have a i listen to a lot of tech content you have a chillness about
01:34:48.200 the way that you've that you handled that you come at this that i really appreciate
01:34:51.740 where can folks listen to kill switch follow you follow your work follow all the cool stuff
01:34:57.020 you've got going on wow yeah thank you for saying that that's very kind of you um i mean website
01:35:03.060 what up decks.com uh everything's there um social media i'm on decks digi um d-e-x-d-i-g-i
01:35:11.360 and um actually uh so kill switch if you search for it you'll find it uh but actually we're
01:35:17.880 starting to put stuff on youtube also so yeah actually the our episode about the t app is is
01:35:24.600 the first one up there uh trying to get some more on there but yeah uh really really anywhere
01:35:30.840 i'm i'm out here unfortunately for better for worse i'm out here for you people are listening
01:35:36.180 so they can't see check out dex's youtube because your background is so beautiful you have a very
01:35:42.660 beautiful background and if you're wondering what dex looks like you should check out the youtube
01:35:48.000 because it's it's very it's very nicely curated and it's a good visual it's a visual treat thank
01:35:54.940 you thank i'm working on it i'd like every every week i've i add something else to it because you
01:36:00.640 know i i stream also um i also stream on twitch and so i'm always adding little things and the
01:36:07.740 people in chat are always making fun because every time i stream something goes wrong like
01:36:12.100 something like there's a light that's not working a camera is blurry yo because i got i mean i got
01:36:17.220 this one of these days i need to post a picture of what my desk looks like because it looks like
01:36:23.500 nasa like if the feds ever see this they're gonna come in here because it looks like i'm planning
01:36:28.500 something yeah the the amount of wires and machinery in here there's it's it would look
01:36:35.120 suspicious yeah i'm not gonna post a picture of this it would look suspicious they don't think
01:36:38.920 i'm making it directly because i want to see i'll send it to you on signal because again speaking
01:36:44.600 of safety like i don't want anybody i don't want to get intercepted because somebody's gonna see
01:36:49.720 this and say what is that antenna and you're doing you're planning something and we're gonna
01:36:54.980 send somebody to visit you yeah somebody we're gonna i'm gonna get a visit i do not want to visit
01:36:58.500 from any authorities by the way any authorities listening to this nothing but respect uh appreciate
01:37:03.060 your work god bless uh but yeah no for real jokes aside um thank you so much for real this is a lot
01:37:08.580 of fun oh my gosh well follow dex at all the places thank you so much for being here and thanks to all 0.98
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