Unlearn16: Class is in Session - January 28, 2025


The One Where Charisma Carpenter and I Saved The World

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00:00:00.000 class is in session oh guys welcome to unlearn 16 class is in session guys my head's gonna explode
00:00:10.940 i can't sitting with me not actually sitting with me although i would have flown there had
00:00:15.720 she said that was i would have been like new york fine i'll be right there the one and only
00:00:20.720 charisma carpenter i like i'm sweating a little bit hun look at how red my face is oh my god
00:00:28.340 Oh, you're funny. Oh, no.
00:00:31.940 That's so funny because only when the cameras are rolling,
00:00:34.880 it's like you're an actor.
00:00:36.800 It's like all of a sudden you're blushing.
00:00:39.920 She knows how to work the camera, people.
00:00:42.840 She's an actress in her own right, a performer.
00:00:48.680 Do you know that in the Sanford Meisner technique,
00:00:52.520 like there is, I can't remember the name of the actress,
00:00:55.180 but she's a famous actress back in the day
00:00:59.360 that why she's famous is because 0.52
00:01:01.320 while she was in the moment to moment, she blushed.
00:01:06.020 And she believed in this scenario so much,
00:01:09.220 but behind the scenes, y'all, behind the curtain,
00:01:12.100 she was just fine five minutes ago.
00:01:15.240 Listen, I got, look, yeah, it's all acting.
00:01:18.840 I'm not really, I'm not really starstruck.
00:01:22.740 Forget that.
00:01:23.800 Who's your favorite old time actor?
00:01:26.000 Old time, I'm saying-
00:01:27.320 I need this question.
00:01:28.320 They're so hard.
00:01:30.600 Say again?
00:01:31.720 50s and 60s, you know, like that era,
00:01:33.720 like 40s in the vibe.
00:01:36.300 I'm gonna say right off the top of my head,
00:01:38.520 Natalie Wood, because I just saw Spender
00:01:40.640 on the Grass recently.
00:01:42.560 Amazing.
00:01:43.400 And it was such a performance.
00:01:45.680 She was so incredible.
00:01:47.160 Her eyes are so expressive.
00:01:49.280 And she said so much without even using her words.
00:01:53.720 And I loved watching that and her.
00:01:57.600 That's right off the top of my head.
00:01:59.620 Listen, I know that, you know, Buffy, Angel, all of those things, Kendall.
00:02:05.340 But to be honest, I just saw that you're going to go have lunch with Cynthia Erivo.
00:02:11.100 So can we focus on the important part?
00:02:13.760 Okay, hold up.
00:02:15.040 Cynthia, is that, first of all, first of all, my girlfriend, I have this younger
00:02:23.700 person in my life that I call her my fairy, she calls me her fairy God mom. And I call her my
00:02:29.360 fairy God daughter. I don't know her. We're not related, but I mean, I know her, but I mean, I 1.00
00:02:34.140 don't, I don't have like, I don't know how to explain it. I don't know why she wants to hang
00:02:40.020 out with me all the time, but she does. So anyway, she's very, very young and she's in PR and that's
00:02:46.680 not how I met her. But anyway, it's a, that's an interesting story. But anyway, Haley comes over
00:02:51.680 to my house. We're just going to hang out. And then she said when she was looking up to see if
00:02:56.640 one of her clients was still being followed by Cynthia, because they were both performing at
00:03:01.660 the Oscars, I think last year. And so her name is Chrissy from This Is Us. That's one of her
00:03:07.540 clients. And so she was like wanting to find out if Cynthia still followed Chrissy. And so while
00:03:13.200 she was looking that up, she's like, holy shit, she follows charisma. And I didn't know. And I 0.99
00:03:18.980 know how i don't know this i don't always get notified when people follow me it's just too
00:03:24.740 it's just crazy so she comes oh by the way did you know that cynthia follows you and i go what
00:03:31.140 do you mean she thought wait what and i was losing my mind as you saw on my tiktok video
00:03:37.700 just cuckoo bananas and then i said can we do lunch and i'm going to check my dms right now
00:03:42.100 to see if she responded did you imagine it was sent three days ago no word she did just get
00:03:48.180 nominated for an oscar though she might be beside herself you listen look you can be beside yourself
00:03:54.360 and get a you know get some some sandwiches at the same time cynthia come on we're waiting i don't
00:03:59.840 know i don't know i'm gonna give her some grace and some space you know maybe i should dm her on
00:04:04.900 instagram maybe like but she can i just tell you she follows like 37 30 she followed like 30 i think
00:04:12.380 might be the 37th person listen oh my god oh she does that is the power and i'm gonna come i i you
00:04:19.660 know i'm gonna put cynthia oversight and if you ever need somebody to drive to lunch if you guys
00:04:25.580 want somebody to just like i will fly down and whatever you need just yeah i'm gonna put that
00:04:34.940 offer out there but when i read what she wrote and she she addressed cordelia chase yeah when i
00:04:42.060 talk about buffy i sound ins i understand that i sound insane because when you talk about a
00:04:48.380 television show the way that a lot of people speak about buffy um a lot of an angel for that matter
00:04:54.540 a lot of people kind of look at you and you know oh like they they because they don't get it they
00:04:59.900 don't get it unless they've gone through it and that was one of her first statements about how
00:05:05.100 powerful that character was and how powerful you were in that role that's got to feel insane
00:05:14.940 you get the weight of it i mean yeah i do you do it's no cost on me to have like someone of her
00:05:23.740 caliber and her, you know, she's so accomplished and with all the accolades, but also just
00:05:29.720 the unreal talent, you know, just to have talent recognize someone of that caliber with
00:05:36.340 that level of talent to recognize me as a professional actress was, is, is, it's just
00:05:44.960 cuckoo bananas.
00:05:45.560 Listen, no, no, you're missing my point.
00:05:47.660 You thought I meant the weight of her liking you.
00:05:50.360 No, no, no, no.
00:05:51.620 I meant the weight of her liking you.
00:05:53.740 the weight of the power of you in those roles yes and what you brought to this no no no cynthia
00:06:01.020 arrivo is amazing like wicked i can't i cried i can't i don't even want to talk about it i'll
00:06:05.820 blush more but what i'm talking about is that character was so powerful for her and so powerful
00:06:13.260 for so many people for so many different reasons that's the weight i'm talking and the show has
00:06:19.180 been off the air since when almost um well it was 27 years so it's been over 20 years because i think
00:06:31.260 yeah it's it's wild it's so wild and it's really wild when i go to conventions and i meet
00:06:36.140 people that you know were were fans of the show while it was still airing and then to
00:06:42.220 see them with their children and just or tell me they named their dog or their cat cordelia
00:06:47.020 yeah i mean it's really something else it's really very a very special fandom it's a rabid
00:06:54.220 fandom and um and i honestly have a lot of respect for the fans because i know i'm a part of the show
00:07:02.140 so it makes it sound like i'm congratulating myself because i'm on this show i really think
00:07:06.860 that you have good taste if you like buffy and angel you have a really good taste in television
00:07:12.300 and i don't mean that in some like self-congratulatory way i do do truly mean because the
00:07:19.500 show is so witty and the talent behind the screen and like in the office is writing and just the
00:07:26.300 the timing of it and it just so perfectly encapsulated what it feels like to be isolated
00:07:33.420 to not belong or to, you know, the different demands on the youth and people and adults
00:07:44.120 really not getting what true love feels like when you're younger.
00:07:47.220 And there's just so many themes, feeling invisible, that speaks to people to this day.
00:07:55.280 That's what makes it still so special, I think.
00:07:58.340 Absolutely.
00:07:58.560 People relate still.
00:08:00.300 People see me, who's your favorite?
00:08:03.420 right? Who's your favorite? And I'll, and I'll be like, that's the beauty of the show.
00:08:07.880 The show doesn't work. No, no, no. You have to say I'm your favorite.
00:08:14.120 Charisma is my favorite. Okay. Now go ahead. Charisma. Listen, listen, I wasn't going to
00:08:19.160 pull this out right now, but that is the only one of the only Buffy tattoos. So I have Slayers up
00:08:24.780 here, but I do have pieces. We get the pieces. Our job sucks. Right around my wrist. I don't
00:08:31.840 what that means you said it you said it when the judge blew up look i'm gonna really guys when the
00:08:40.720 judge blew up the judge the judge you know the blue guy an angel nope the judge angel was on it
00:08:50.480 before i have to re-watch my show i have no yeah but you don't you don't necessarily sit down and
00:08:57.040 watch it. Although I am fascinated by how many, how many things you really do remember. But it
00:09:03.580 was a fair, like the, the, the guy exploded, everybody says, pick him up. And Oz goes arm
00:09:10.000 and you're like pieces, we get the pieces, our job sucks, which by the way, I think is just one
00:09:16.220 of like, in life, I love the life application of quotes that I can use from that show.
00:09:23.440 um because i think they're so incredibly powerful it was when angel was bad it was in that
00:09:30.240 season two era so why did that resonate with you in real life what's up when did you use it
00:09:36.500 why did that resonate with you so much so that you tattooed it and then two i need to know in
00:09:41.820 what context you've used that in life i think it's it's very much like sometimes when you're
00:09:49.860 doing a job. Sometimes when there's things you have to do in your life, you get stuck doing the
00:09:56.200 thing that you don't want to do. You have no desire to do it, but you do it anyway, because
00:10:02.300 it's handling, and I don't mean this metaphorically, but it's handling the small pieces of
00:10:08.120 life that sometimes feel overwhelming, annoying, disempowering. And you're like, my job sucks 0.98
00:10:15.100 Because I'm going to have to clean all of this up, whether it be figuratively or metaphorically, but knowing full well there's humor in that.
00:10:24.520 Knowing full well that, and that's the brilliance of the show, knowing full well that there's an idea that you have to be a part of it, but you're going to go into it being funny, making fun of it, acknowledging.
00:10:40.040 I don't know why it's such a problem to acknowledge when life sucks and things are hard.
00:10:46.780 Because not everything's, you know, shades of roses and puppy dogs.
00:10:51.480 Like I have a friend who's a mom and she'll talk about how hard it is to be a mom, right? 0.54
00:10:55.680 Sometimes she'll say today sucked.
00:10:57.540 I went to the park. 0.92
00:10:59.060 I was, I don't want, the slide bores me today.
00:11:02.360 And she'll get all these people that condemn her. 0.91
00:11:04.360 You're such a bad mom.
00:11:05.320 Every day is a blessing. 0.82
00:11:06.140 And she's like, no, no.
00:11:08.160 I love my kid.
00:11:09.240 but sometimes things are hard. Things are boring.
00:11:13.740 Okay. I got to interject. Did anybody see that movie with Paul Rudd and Leslie Mann,
00:11:21.740 This Is 40 or something, where she literally goes, God, my kid's an asshole. God, he's an 1.00
00:11:26.760 asshole, right? That's such an asshole thing. You've got to, come on. You have to. This is 1.00
00:11:33.040 not realistic. It's not realistic to be like, oh, my child is the like, of course my son is
00:11:38.480 the love of my life. He is my reason, but also he can be an asshole. Thank you. By the way, 1.00
00:11:44.380 so can I, and I can also fail and I can also disappoint and lose my shit and like, act like 1.00
00:11:51.420 I have my shit together and I have all the answers when I don't, you know, like it's just so stupid. 0.99
00:11:55.940 If you can't be real, I have no tolerance for inauthenticity. I just can't do it. 1.00
00:11:59.800 There we go. And there we go. And that's what really drew me to you. Like listening to the
00:12:04.200 way you speak of sure Buffy and Angel and you know Veronica Mars I mean those shows are amazing
00:12:11.320 but it's the authenticity from which you speak and I also have a lot of respect I mean this show's
00:12:16.980 been off the air for a minute and and the way that you still respect and and honor it I also
00:12:25.540 find impressive because there are some let's say actors or actresses who really want to move on and
00:12:30.880 be like, listen, that was a long time ago. Can we talk about this project? Or can we talk, you know,
00:12:35.040 they're just like, that's not me anymore. Yeah. But you really do. You, you honor the people that
00:12:42.220 are standing in front of you. I, I, I mean, I've met you at Comic-Con before, but you really do
00:12:46.340 honor that. And there's an authentic respect there that I really appreciate.
00:12:51.620 Thank you. I do feel that way though, about the show, because, uh, it was an enormous part of my
00:12:58.080 life. A lot of people go to college, right? Think about how people feel about their college
00:13:01.640 experiences and they remember their professors, they remember their love, they remember their
00:13:07.140 heartbreak, they remember their field tests. Like, you know, this was my college. This was,
00:13:12.020 but, you know, it was 10 years and those relationships were defining and those experiences
00:13:21.540 are visceral. It was so all-encompassing. Being on a set when you're rehearsing lines or you're
00:13:33.520 actually filming and you're on camera, you have to be so fucking present. There's no way to be 0.97
00:13:42.240 anything else but absolutely present in that moment while you're doing that job.
00:13:46.880 And when you're living your life on set, moment to moment, authentically present there, that's incredible to really be present. I love that acting makes me or requires me to be absolutely listening and present. That never happens in today's life, but with all the distractions that exist.
00:14:05.520 But also when you go into life, we are this group of people that are slowly but surely gaining momentum and popularity.
00:14:12.760 And Sarah's on the cover of Rolling Stone and then on SNL and then we're doing talk shows and journalists, you know, TV guide or like, like, what is your life?
00:14:21.520 How is it different?
00:14:22.680 We're also these relationships only is unique to only us.
00:14:27.780 right like it's only our experience and the way that the show is kind of uh molding our life from
00:14:35.380 this day forward it's a very very very unique situation and impactful so to act as if that
00:14:42.920 didn't happen it's not important and it isn't wasn't life-changing life molding would be
00:14:51.820 a hundred and ten percent denying my humanity right right just be like i'm not even human to
00:14:59.080 just take 10 years of your life like that didn't happen you know and oh now i want to focus on this
00:15:04.480 other job right right right i mean by all means focus on the other job it's not that that's not
00:15:09.240 important i that was the the idea that that that in that moment i love this so much that in the
00:15:16.740 moment of acting that you have to be present. All your faculties. Everything has to be there
00:15:24.420 is the most incredible thing that anybody can do in their life. However you do that, right? Like
00:15:33.100 for you, obviously it's acting. But to me, that's the most powerful thing. Like, and I'm terrified
00:15:42.000 of acting. I did a very small, I did a play. I don't believe you. I'm sorry. I've seen your
00:15:48.800 TikToks. I was talked into doing a play because it was post COVID. It was at my school. It was
00:16:00.900 Sweat by Lynn Nottage, which was an incredible play. And the director is one of my best friends.
00:16:06.140 He's like, Joe, if you don't do this role, the kid dropped out, the whole play is going to go.
00:16:10.220 and I'm like, okay, fine, I'll do it.
00:16:12.240 And it kind of happened in a time of my life
00:16:13.960 where I decided I was just going to say yes.
00:16:16.020 And then I realized it was pretty much
00:16:17.920 the biggest role in the play.
00:16:19.840 And I was nauseous and terrified
00:16:23.320 for the entire lead up.
00:16:26.080 Thank God I got called late.
00:16:27.360 The entire lead up, the whole play.
00:16:29.200 Thank God we have video because I have,
00:16:32.080 I blanked out.
00:16:35.480 And nothing was more scary than that.
00:16:40.220 but i'll tell you what i've never been so proud of doing something and what i was fascinated by
00:16:47.660 was that it tapped more into who i am than anything i've ever done why is that because
00:16:56.700 you were out of your comfort zone and it was a demand that required you to um
00:17:04.700 rise to the occasion it was a character defining moment where like you're not used to
00:17:10.220 uh being on stage on the spot you know recalling things that you had to memorize and hoping that
00:17:18.600 you did memorize it and that when you're on stage you don't blink i've had that happen
00:17:22.860 um you know barbara streisand still throws up before every concert she does yeah i do know that 0.52
00:17:30.600 you never get used to it like you know i never i have shit the bed in so many auditions 0.66
00:17:35.940 especially when it's an important one that you really really want like I've literally said you
00:17:41.240 know what I get to start over and you can't you it's just acting has taught me so much about
00:17:47.360 myself as well I just want to just lay into that like I get that like it is and it is about how do
00:17:57.040 you recover how resilient are you how willing are you to go out on a limb how willing are you to be
00:18:02.120 outside of your comfort zone how willing are you to take risks how willing are you to lay it all
00:18:06.680 in the line and you know being an actor is really economically up and down you're you you know it's
00:18:13.160 just it's a huge gamble and you have to go like this is what i want to do with the rest of my
00:18:17.880 life this is what i choose to do you know i'm assigning myself a lifetime of you know just so
00:18:25.320 much so much no yeah so much no we can imagine yeah you know that you you really do find out
00:18:33.160 who you are and what's important to you and i believe those obstacles are in your way for a
00:18:36.760 reason it's to how bad do i freaking want it you know and i just think that's a that's a really
00:18:43.480 good thing to know about yourself what do i want and to what extent am i willing to go to get it
00:18:48.680 um yeah i mean i wonder too i wasn't good charisma like i i i know i wasn't good and and i i know i
00:19:00.560 was so when i do tiktoks and i do those things right there might be exaggerated elements of me
00:19:06.940 and and maybe a little bit more of a of a tongue-in-cheek kind of thing but there's still
00:19:11.320 elements of me and i remember ryan who's the director and and him saying joe i'm gonna need
00:19:17.760 you to not be you so much i'm like i don't i don't know what the hell that means like what do you
00:19:23.180 mean not be me he's like you you gesture a lot right that's how you express yourself the kids
00:19:29.480 know you gesture a lot the the audience the the parents are going to know you gesture a lot so
00:19:34.360 here's what i need you to do pack it away just just for a minute just to find the character
00:19:40.200 and i'm like because all these and then i realized how much i i uh depend on gestures and in order
00:19:47.240 to gain attention and keep attention and things like that. And he made me stand in a level
00:19:53.020 of, I'm going to suck at this. That's okay. You know who helped me? My students. And number 0.98
00:19:59.040 two, I won't suck forever. Right. And I think there's something powerful in that, doing 0.98
00:20:05.640 something that you're not good at. So that's brave. I remember when my son was little and
00:20:12.780 we would go, we enrolled him in soccer because he wanted to play soccer. We believe in team
00:20:16.700 sports and so he's probably four or five and you know when you're when those kids are in there
00:20:24.080 they're like all mobbing the ball the ball doesn't have a chance of going anywhere because they're
00:20:28.260 yeah it's just like that all the way around then you know we're he's like fine with it he's like
00:20:34.540 and then he scores a goal and the second he scored a goal it was on right right right when you get a
00:20:44.040 win, like you try a thing, you try a thing, and you try, try, try again, and you get a win,
00:20:50.260 it sustains you, and you keep going back for the win. And I think that's really important. So
00:20:55.360 failing, just if you don't learn from your failures, then you're not learning. You're
00:21:01.600 not in life. You're not engaging. You're not taking risks. Risks are not for everyone.
00:21:07.740 No, they are.
00:21:08.560 It's just not. Those are not my people. I don't identify or relate as well to those types of
00:21:18.780 people. I invite and encourage everyone always to get outside your comfort zone and to fall on your
00:21:27.900 face and try, try, try again. It's like I have this company, Micon. It may never take off,
00:21:33.300 but you know what I'm not giving up I may have like I don't know how many subscribers I only
00:21:39.780 have so many but like I love it it makes me happy it may never take off but I have a better chance
00:21:46.520 of it taking off by staying in it you know what I'm saying it's like you miss 100% of the shots
00:21:53.100 not taken well sorry so what's your company so your company's called MyCon MyCon right yeah
00:21:59.640 My con is like my convention.
00:22:04.020 Okay.
00:22:04.180 So I started it during the pandemic when the world shut down and I was getting a lot of
00:22:11.120 distressed DMs on social media.
00:22:14.180 And I really saw an opportunity, a call to action, if you will.
00:22:18.100 The fandom of Buffy and Angel is like none other.
00:22:21.720 And they've been loyal and good to me.
00:22:24.140 And I said, what can I do to give back?
00:22:25.740 So I said, you know what?
00:22:26.580 I'm going to do free shout outs.
00:22:28.280 So if you need words of encouragement, if you're feeling kind of scared, like just DM
00:22:34.000 me and I'll send you a free shout out.
00:22:36.580 Wow.
00:22:37.540 I had to stop it.
00:22:39.760 Like after like 12 hours, like, oh my God, I can't manage this.
00:22:43.400 This is too much because I didn't expect so much vulnerability.
00:22:51.360 I didn't expect so much need and I wasn't set up for that level of demand.
00:22:57.600 so i didn't i didn't even i didn't have an email i could have done it you know i was trying to do
00:23:01.200 it on the app then you know i had to go over to snapchat you know to film it and then then
00:23:08.720 download it and it was just so arduous a process it took me like six months to get through all of
00:23:16.000 that even after just shutting it down after 12 hours like okay i can't take any more orders and
00:23:21.840 And it took me six months to fulfill those orders.
00:23:25.360 And then at that point in time, I was like, you know what?
00:23:28.440 I should make this a business because this gives people access to me that they maybe
00:23:33.520 normally couldn't.
00:23:34.500 And especially in the throes of the pandemic, still even after a year, a lot of people were
00:23:39.480 still immune compromised.
00:23:41.180 They didn't feel safe in public settings.
00:23:44.820 You know, the mask issues, you know, there was just so much fear until people could start
00:23:50.080 to get immunized that I thought I should just make myself available all the time for this.
00:23:55.360 And so I did. And I've been doing it, you know, since then, since the end of or the beginning of
00:24:00.760 2021. And that's my story. Do you find it's fascinating? I mean, I get like a tiny fraction
00:24:08.180 of it. Do you find it fascinating how much people open up to you? How much comfort you genuinely
00:24:16.640 give them like because of the character that you portrayed and because of the authenticity that
00:24:23.960 they feel or do you just feel connected to people in a way like I mean TikTok really gave I know
00:24:30.160 you're you you just came into TikTok but TikTok really allowed for a sense of community yeah I was
00:24:37.040 blown away like I just kind of rolled into it and fell into it and all of a sudden when it was going
00:24:41.280 to go away there for a second. I felt the worst for the people exactly like you described because
00:24:47.120 there's still people that don't have that access point, right? That maybe aren't the most social
00:24:53.680 people in the world. Maybe they live in a specific area where there's no way they're going to get
00:24:59.120 that kind of community and they don't even, you know, give it a go or there's economic or physical
00:25:04.540 limitations to all of those things. And now they could have access and which is why I do so many
00:25:09.520 lives. But do you find, are you surprised by how many people take comfort in that and genuinely
00:25:16.600 are inspired? Well, initially I was for a really long time. And then maybe in the last five years,
00:25:27.520 I had somebody explain it to me. Because the why I say that is I wasn't Willow Rosenberg. I wasn't
00:25:34.580 Buffy. I wasn't like those characters that were warm and fuzzy. I was more prickly and then grew
00:25:41.720 and changed over time. But I really did not, people really didn't, I didn't think, but I
00:25:50.860 learned otherwise. Cordelia didn't resonate with a lot of folks. So it wasn't until later,
00:25:56.340 you know, I had my brother was dating a guy and my brother went to the bathroom and we were at
00:26:06.040 breakfast here in New York visiting. And he said, do you know how much Cordelia means to me? And I
00:26:11.900 was like, I was really caught off guard. I said, no. And he's like, let me tell you what it means
00:26:20.120 to me and why because i'm like why do you resonate why does cordelia like she was a brat she was like
00:26:26.760 he's like no she was real she was authentic she used her voice and whether or not i agreed with
00:26:33.880 what she was saying she was true to herself and i really hadn't experienced that and it gave me
00:26:40.120 courage to also do the same. And I was like, oh, okay. So I get it. So the mean part, it's good
00:26:52.980 to know that seeing the softer side of Sears, that line really set it up for Cordelia to be
00:26:59.340 the mean girl. And it wasn't until later, they started peppering things in, giving insight to 0.51
00:27:04.620 who Cordelia really was. Her mom neglected her because she was tired and her dad was never there.
00:27:09.440 and she seemed like this rich person but she always felt alone surrounded by tons of people
00:27:14.560 and it's like well then why do you do it buffy said and it's like well it's better to feel alone
00:27:20.080 you know in a group of people than all by yourself so one of my most favorite lines was when she said
00:27:26.720 uh tact is saying stuff that's not true all past practice saying is saying stuff that's not true
00:27:33.440 isn't it uh tact is just not saying oh you got me thrown here you put it in my head
00:27:40.560 and i'll pass she says tact is just not saying true stuff i'll pass there we go
00:27:45.280 yeah yeah one of my one of my favorites is um that's just propaganda spouted out by the ugly
00:27:52.580 and less deserving the ugly and less deserving what does that mean cordelia
00:28:00.860 Yeah. And then like, when Xander says something about, oh, look at, here's Cordelia Chase,
00:28:08.840 something, the beautiful and the rich and the beautiful. Oh, and I guess that, you know,
00:28:12.540 excludes you twice. Listen, Xander, I don't mean to interrupt your downward mobility.
00:28:20.300 They're just so amazing. That's amazing. But it's so, the thing about her is that without her,
00:28:27.480 you don't have, again, it's the whole cast, right? You don't have a very typical, I've been teaching
00:28:34.660 high school for 23 years. You don't have, yeah, that's how long, 23. You don't have that typical
00:28:41.560 archetype that absolutely exists. And as a teacher, you know why it exists, right? It doesn't exist
00:28:48.860 when I was watching the show. It doesn't exist because these kids are so filled with empowerment
00:28:55.620 and esteem it exists no it exists for the exact opposite correct and that's the the sort of the
00:29:03.760 interesting through line about that show and then and then rolling into Angel as well I think did
00:29:10.540 you find how did you find it different working on Buffy and Angel let's say uh maybe thematically
00:29:20.640 or how you thought the show presented differently?
00:29:24.700 Or did you think?
00:29:25.580 Did you think it was just a continuation?
00:29:27.620 Or do you understand what I'm saying?
00:29:31.320 Did I think it was a continuation?
00:29:33.520 Yes, the character technically does,
00:29:35.600 but she now had lost everything.
00:29:39.240 So this is a sort of new POV.
00:29:43.520 We're experiencing Cordelia in a have-not situation.
00:29:47.080 right and also we're learning like what her dream is she wants to be an actress and we're watching 0.91
00:29:52.460 her fail miserably at that and so then what is she good at she's good at being organized she's good at
00:29:57.340 you know monetization and she's good at like all these different things so she saw an opportunity
00:30:03.880 to um find a way to support herself and stay and help angel with his mission but obviously there
00:30:11.740 was something in it for her initially but we what i loved about angel is i gave we flesh her out more
00:30:18.520 you know we start to see more vulnerability in her we get to see her start to adopt a team um
00:30:25.620 spirit and um and then ultimately in episode nine she gets the visions and then she sees the
00:30:33.440 suffering that exists in the world and she's completely humbled and realizes oh this is why
00:30:38.800 we do what we do and we have to keep doing it. We need to help people. And that was incredible.
00:30:45.580 I remember that episode so vividly. And I remember all the preparation that I went into
00:30:52.920 when I was going to experience the visions, because that was another part of the role that
00:31:00.280 was new and added to Cordelia's POV, this new POV of who she is versus Buffy. And that was she's
00:31:09.360 getting these visions. So as an actor, how an actor prepares for such a thing, it was really
00:31:15.500 fascinating. I worked with Iris Klein. She's a fantastic acting coach there in LA. I cannot tell
00:31:22.780 you what she, how she added to my life. Um, when you have an acting teacher, you know, you don't
00:31:30.440 want to, a lot of acting teachers want to kind of break you down and, and, and make you like small
00:31:36.260 and humiliated and all that. And her, yeah, it's weird. Um, I don't know what the psychology is
00:31:44.480 behind it. I'm sure people, I don't, I never stuck around for that. So I don't, I don't know
00:31:48.500 what the reasoning was. I just wasn't into it. And I found that Iris was, so I always had a
00:31:55.140 complicated relationship with my mother. And so to come across Iris at this point in my life,
00:32:00.480 to have this like, this warm, warm woman, this mother earth vibe, you know, just so tolerant and
00:32:11.140 loving and, and soft, you know, she's just had a soft touch. You know, she was never critical.
00:32:17.860 I had never experienced that. So to have her coach me through those scenes, and she became my
00:32:27.680 onset. I would run lines with her all the time. So she became my onset coach as well.
00:32:33.960 But while I was preparing for episode nine, she was walking me through,
00:32:40.300 what do you see when you close your eyes? What do you imagine real suffering to look like?
00:32:44.660 You know, so we went to the library and we started looking at the Vietnam War.
00:32:49.420 We started looking at war in general.
00:32:50.880 We started talking about the Holocaust.
00:32:53.720 We started looking at all the things throughout history, you know, different diseases, you know, north of New Zealand.
00:33:07.400 What is it?
00:33:08.760 The Maori tribe?
00:33:09.580 that no maori is the maori are in um are in hawaii but um it's north of new zealand and 0.96
00:33:18.960 their tribal and all the people that had leprosy was sent there they are pygmies um i don't can't
00:33:25.700 remember the name of that the island but anyway like just going through like looking at what 0.91
00:33:30.060 leprosy looks like looking looking at what um domestic violence looks like so i was just like
00:33:34.800 So every time I would close my eyes, I would have actual pictures in my mind and just, you know, actually experiencing it. And I don't know, it's just, my job is so fucking interesting. You know, it's just, you have to learn about things. You have to educate yourself on things. And it's just always so surprising. And it's nothing I can ever harness. I can never feel like, oh, I've arrived.
00:33:59.940 I'm this critically acclaimed actor on this award-winning show.
00:34:05.660 I think that that's why people that win Oscars keep going because it's not the accolade.
00:34:13.040 It's literally the joy, the never being able to harness it, the striving for excellence,
00:34:23.480 the wanting to be in a moment and being present, a thousand percent present. It's just so
00:34:33.160 hard to do that. And I just love how it scares the shit out of me. Auditions scare the shit out
00:34:43.440 of me. You have a big monologue, you're scared shitless. I think of, God bless her, Anne Heche, 0.99
00:34:51.580 but I remember reading an article about her and how she was in some big,
00:34:56.320 big special effects movie.
00:34:57.880 And it was like some volcanoes exploding or something.
00:35:00.260 And they have like one take because that one take is like a $250,000 take
00:35:05.240 because of the pyrotechnics and all the special effects and all the things. 0.92
00:35:08.320 Like you can't fuck up your dialogue. 0.86
00:35:10.600 Talk about pressure. 0.95
00:35:11.300 Like you have to get it right.
00:35:13.080 You know?
00:35:13.420 And it's like,
00:35:13.940 ah,
00:35:14.420 am I going to get it right?
00:35:15.620 And so it's like,
00:35:16.600 this is a,
00:35:17.480 this is,
00:35:18.560 it's like,
00:35:19.000 I hate being under pressure.
00:35:20.240 So I have to do it.
00:35:21.580 Hmm. I make no sense. I make that makes perfect. And I also so going back to her. It's interesting. The part that you really resonates about the character in that moment was obviously, I guess, a metaphysical or a supernatural version, because this is what I think these shows did so well.
00:35:44.180 They take a human thing and they make it supernatural. And the human thing that you felt and that you saw was empathy. That was it. You are feeling if you have somebody that's empathetic or you have somebody like you just took it to a 10, right?
00:36:03.020 But you're describing being an actor and achieving that as how do I, how do I, how do I gain, how do I get to full empathy? And that's scary. It must be exhausting. It must be painful, but it would present the most beautiful connection to life and to people.
00:36:30.620 and I think that's what people are drawn to with you yes Cordelia yes you know you're what you do
00:36:38.380 but I think it's that empathy just the way you've described what you went through in order to get to
00:36:46.340 where you needed to be that's what people are are impressed by in my opinion I just call it
00:36:53.840 preparation I think like all actors do their version of it you know yeah but I think different
00:36:59.260 I mean, listen, different actors and maybe different actors and different people in general sort of are more guarded with it and more limited and more standoffish for their own particular reasons.
00:37:11.740 Because I think to be an actor, like to really jump in, it's like you're vulnerable all the time.
00:37:20.200 So I think for some people, then they shutter it off, they close it off and they call it a day and maybe not with their friends and family.
00:37:27.160 um i think you know i think even the way you talk about um your relationships with other female
00:37:35.700 actors like i've seen some people in the comments kind of you know what about your relationship with
00:37:41.180 or what about this or what about and they're trying to they're trying to push the needle
00:37:44.880 towards you saying something about your your co-stars specifically pitting women against women
00:37:51.820 and you never, ever take the bait. Ever. I really want to actually more than not take the bait,
00:38:04.060 call it out. Yeah. Because there is a real toxicity in that, that I don't want to participate
00:38:12.300 in and encourage others to not participate in it also. Because now more than ever, I mean,
00:38:19.540 in today's political climate, especially, you know, and actually going hearkening back to 2015
00:38:25.040 when all that was going on and, you know, we'll leave like names out. But I feel like there was
00:38:29.540 a real tendency to just get really toxic and to name call and be nasty and mock people and
00:38:39.620 get involved in infighting. And that is a part of humanity that doesn't need amplification.
00:38:44.960 it's there it exists we don't need to give it more time and attention or energy and um even
00:38:52.420 though i am giving it energy by addressing it i just think it's important to go we're not doing
00:38:57.960 that we're not doing that in 25 this isn't we don't need help you know being shitty with each
00:39:04.020 other you know let's let's let's lean into the good stuff you know and that's you know when when
00:39:10.300 I'm going to do this podcast. And when I do do the podcast, you know, there's going to be,
00:39:14.960 they're going to, there isn't, you know, like what's the T, you know? And when I say the T,
00:39:19.080 like, you know, I'm going with the good T. I'm going with the T that is like uplifting and
00:39:27.020 community building and unifying. You know, we had enough toxicity that we were dealing with
00:39:37.740 at the time, I'm not interested in reliving that. I'm more interested in giving insights behind the
00:39:44.660 scenes, you know, process giving. I mean, I don't know about you, but like, I want to know about
00:39:51.620 people's process. I want to know about how they arrived at a scene. I want to know, like, what
00:39:57.640 was going on? Like, oh, in this scene, right before this, Nikki and I knew we had to kiss.
00:40:04.160 So we decided that we were going to eat the grossest food possible to see who could have
00:40:09.160 the worst breath and just, you know, like those are the sorts of things that I think
00:40:13.320 are fun and, you know, uplifting and, you know, because there's been enough of the negative.
00:40:19.220 Like, let's talk about the yummy, you know, the good stuff.
00:40:24.080 And I just think that's true outside of acting, outside of everything like that.
00:40:28.920 I think I think culturally we've been very we've been very conditioned to to like the gossip to
00:40:39.240 like by the way which nine time nine point nine times out of ten it's never true anyways but to
00:40:45.080 be to be drawn into that but I really do think our souls I believe are you there sorry can you see
00:40:54.280 me yeah okay good what's happened um i was trying to turn off my notifications and i pushed a button
00:41:01.720 and then you were gone um i don't know we're still here you would have just you would have
00:41:06.600 just pushed a notification and then it would have covered that can you see me now i don't see you
00:41:12.360 damn it um google chrome i think you just probably have to click on the the app again like you know
00:41:20.360 where where we were filming again yeah this could be like a jeopardy moment i could sing if you like 0.98
00:41:33.480 you couldn't join the room because you've already joined
00:41:37.560 you're in the room you're already in the room and i have and i have a um a tech company
00:41:44.760 oh my god okay hi that was funny um yeah i think people want the good 0.99
00:41:56.120 yeah i mean some people do and some people don't and those people can fuck off 0.96
00:42:02.920 um the world we're living in so so going right from that talking about how like right now i have 0.73
00:42:19.580 to say the last month i have felt anxious more anxious than i think i've ever felt before um
00:42:27.680 Imagine being American. Imagine being a young gay person in the U.S. Imagine being a person of color in the U.S. Imagine being a woman in the U.S. where we are literally, we voted in a sex offender.
00:42:44.600 you know and he's systematically taken dismantled any government website that helps women get
00:42:53.900 reproductive care that he has taken down i i just you know i just can't unleashed ice and national
00:43:01.840 guard to deport 10 million people um and i think that this is a very controversial thing people are
00:43:08.680 like, well, they don't belong here and they're all, you know, terrible word, insert terrible
00:43:16.920 word there.
00:43:18.700 And you just have to think, I just have to think to myself, like the naysayers are kind
00:43:27.300 of going there and they're saying, well, he's just deporting the criminals first.
00:43:33.180 And that's not true because, um, my girlfriend who lives in Arizona was telling me that they've
00:43:39.380 just raided, uh, an apartment complex near her. My, um, friend, I have family members that are
00:43:46.580 teachers. They've all been getting warnings and they're trying to figure out ways now that
00:43:54.540 the cheeto in charge has decided that churches and schools are not safe havens for people so
00:44:04.480 and i think like as i put on my tiktok has anybody thought this through like haven't our kids
00:44:10.200 like if you want to deport families i'm sorry this is the land built on immigration or you know
00:44:17.840 immigrants and also who's going to fill those jobs who's going to want to do those jobs and
00:44:22.440 have you realize what is the supply chain issues that's going to bring up and how that's going to 1.00
00:44:27.100 drive up price of eggs that is the reason why you voted for them in the first place. Nobody's
00:44:32.540 thinking this through, but we'll be safe. If we can't police effectively and absorb these things,
00:44:43.580 I don't even know what to say. I'm not a politician. I'm just a human being. I'm just
00:44:49.780 watching what's going on and just thinking this is not the solution we're we've removed ourselves 0.95
00:44:55.700 from the paris accords we don't give a shit about uh our our climate and now we're withdrawing from 0.93
00:45:04.260 fema and so in north carolina like all the disaster that they had terrible flooding there 0.80
00:45:09.360 we have a horrible fire in california and we're gonna remove any kind of support um i i do not
00:45:17.020 I want to go back to a time when Republicans were like John McCain and Jimmy Carter, not Reagan, because he started all this, put a lot of vulnerable people on the street because of his state hospital budget cuts.
00:45:36.440 um i'm completely disillusioned with my country at this moment in time and just utterly shocked by
00:45:45.320 fellow women betraying each other i think that is probably the most devastating thing about it
00:45:52.180 more disappointing than having him in office is the women that voted him in i just to a big
00:45:59.140 to a break level i i absolutely agree i think that
00:46:02.580 it's like when buffy was on in that era it was it was not ahead of it well it was it was ahead
00:46:13.320 of its time because i know but like you they almost got canceled many many many of times it
00:46:18.340 kept bouncing around networks because to me it was just a little ahead of the gambit right like
00:46:23.800 it's this the themes and the ideas need to be applied now but when you speak about reagan like
00:46:30.840 i remember so when reagan was president brian mulroney was prime minister of canada and they
00:46:35.520 were very very in sync um and i and i don't know if you remember his presidency you know physically
00:46:43.420 remember that shift in your culture but that's what the pendulum has done right it goes jimmy
00:46:49.300 harder. You couldn't have somebody more left than this beautiful soul of a person who wants
00:46:54.660 to build houses and protect everybody. And then everybody shifted the other way.
00:47:00.020 He believed in the Christian. He believed in those... He had the Christian values 0.72
00:47:06.900 that I believed in, where you do feed the poor and social programs. To me, I feel like
00:47:14.420 like high tides rise all boats. You know, you're going to have, if you want to fight crime,
00:47:22.260 have more social programs. If you're losing billions of dollars in small businesses and
00:47:28.800 also big department stores, I remember when I left LA, they were doing these crash and grabs
00:47:33.640 where they would just literally drive into a department store, crash the windows down,
00:47:38.680 Everybody just get out and just snatch and grab all they could.
00:47:43.340 And all of this was happening.
00:47:45.540 And you're literally going, why?
00:47:49.380 Oh, could it be that in the last...
00:47:52.840 We haven't had a minimum wage increase.
00:47:59.300 Oh, years.
00:48:00.260 I think in 18 or 19 years.
00:48:02.180 And yet the CEOs, like just since the election in November,
00:48:07.520 each billionaire the top three billionaires here in the u.s zuckerberg bezos and elon musk have
00:48:16.280 oh yeah the hoarding of the wealth is just unreal but people can't even at starbucks for instance
00:48:25.060 they do this thing you know again that's another thing they're implementing is they're going to
00:48:29.300 union bust where you you know really do laws that don't allow for unionized unite unionization
00:48:35.260 what do do people not realize like why unions came into place because the working conditions
00:48:44.100 were terrible like so many amazon drivers are having to pee in bottles they're having to
00:48:48.640 it's just it's not i just can't i just it's it's the it's the empathy can i i'm good first of all
00:48:59.900 it's going to get better. I'm going to say that out loud. And I'm going to say that with my full
00:49:05.640 chest. The pendulum always swings. So when you have this 60s civil rights movement, it came
00:49:15.460 from a place of such horrific devastation and oppression, and then it swung, right? It will
00:49:24.180 swing back. And when it swings back, what I'm interested in is how it swings back, who leads
00:49:30.320 the charge. And a lot of people are talking about what's going on in the United States with the,
00:49:34.380 you know, 72 million voted for him and 70 million voted for her. You know what I want to know?
00:49:40.520 Can we talk to the 90% that didn't vote at all? Can we talk to the 90 million?
00:49:45.340 Those are the only people I want to talk to. I understand them. I mean, I don't agree with it
00:49:52.000 Because you really, the choices could not be more polarizing.
00:49:58.860 But the idea is I don't like either candidate.
00:50:03.080 And what's happened in the United States is people that vote for the third party, those
00:50:09.480 people aren't on the ballots in all of the states.
00:50:12.100 So you vote for that.
00:50:13.660 You're literally doing a vote for the person, the worst person, because it doesn't count.
00:50:20.760 And so then if you're not voting for the person that actually embodies the change that you want to see, then you're voting for the person that doesn't when you vote for a third party.
00:50:30.700 We don't have it. I think a lot of Americans have issue with the two party system.
00:50:36.040 I think that's a failure that needs to be addressed.
00:50:39.980 I don't think there's an Arab parent. We don't have anybody that I can think of right now. 0.94
00:50:43.960 I mean, I would love Peter Buttigieg to be, I think he's served, he's smart, he's eloquent,
00:50:51.440 he's a leader.
00:50:54.200 You know, he didn't do well in the primaries.
00:50:57.900 And so, you know, maybe he can't win. 1.00
00:50:59.640 And certainly nobody wants anybody in leadership that's gay. 1.00
00:51:03.380 And I don't understand that at all. 1.00
00:51:05.800 Like your sex life shouldn't matter.
00:51:09.820 Like what your choices shouldn't matter.
00:51:11.840 Are you good for the job?
00:51:12.780 Are you qualified?
00:51:13.340 Are you, do you have good character? And, you know, can you represent us on an international
00:51:18.220 stage? Um, I'm, I don't know. Do we want to go there? Do we want to go there? You know, is this,
00:51:26.260 is this, I like the deep sigh. You know why I like the deep sigh? Cause that is exactly what
00:51:35.760 every single person is feeling right now. What you just did is genuinely, everybody just
00:51:44.280 is heavy with that deep sigh and not seeing an avenue, which is why I think it is so incredibly
00:51:52.160 important to keep conversations going, to keep dialogue going, to keep smart, intelligent,
00:51:59.480 articulate people. I read a stat that said something like 72% of people that listen to
00:52:08.180 podcasts voted Republican. Why is that? Because the right is controlling this long form medium
00:52:21.120 better. There's not enough people, like I'm so happy you're going to start one. There's not
00:52:27.580 enough people occupying this space in an authentic, intelligent way on the other side. And I also
00:52:34.320 think it's about authenticity, which is why, again, I'm going to go back to your acting. I'm
00:52:39.000 going to go back to Buffy. I'm going to go back to the idea that people are starved for authenticity
00:52:45.420 and in absence, because I think politics in general, right? You said you're not a politician.
00:52:53.160 good because I don't even like I don't even like the categorization what I want to hear
00:52:59.560 is articulate people with good ideas who are going to have good discussions without spewing hate
00:53:05.480 that's what I want that that is politics right when you say politician it's like this job that
00:53:13.560 people are supposed to fit into in this box and I think the box has killed the 90 million
00:53:19.200 the 90 million are watching it going it all seems like they're just playing a bit of a game like
00:53:25.680 matter and you know who am i i'm just one person and that is you know margaret mead said um you know
00:53:35.980 that in in protest of that thinking which is you know the the the the ability or what is it the
00:53:46.680 the acts of a small few impacts masses something to that effect absolutely um i i think what's
00:53:54.180 what you hit on about authenticity is i think people think trump is authentic yes i think they
00:53:59.080 think he's real i think they think like oh he's not a politician he's 100 a politician he is the
00:54:06.080 president of the united states twice now you don't think that's what a politician does do you don't
00:54:10.200 think a politician doesn't tell you everything you need to hear to get into office so that then
00:54:13.940 he can dismantle everything like that is that is 100% what he said but then on the other hand I
00:54:19.620 have to say like everything that he said he was he also said you know the project 2025 manual that
00:54:25.980 is out that was written by all of his cabinet members by the way but he has nothing to do with
00:54:31.080 project 2025 right he's not going to have or try to have a national banner on abortion meanwhile
00:54:37.060 while he's installed three in his first term, the most, I mean, he's really, really, for an absolute
00:54:45.120 megalomaniac, selfish, self-centered, vain, all the things that I could call this person,
00:54:52.880 him and his group have systematically set things up so smart. And I think the Democrats don't play
00:55:02.580 as dirty. So like we deferred, we didn't install a Supreme court justice when we could have right
00:55:07.720 before. And Garland was like, okay, we were not going to go ahead and do this because you know,
00:55:13.280 it's so close to the election. That's not fair or whatever. What did he do? No, that was,
00:55:20.580 and by the way, you have, you have like, I'm like stack the court. Also, why isn't Biden right
00:55:29.080 before he goes out putting abortion clinics on every federal land imaginable for the last two
00:55:34.920 years. So they're protected. But that would just be undone by Trump. I cannot believe he got
00:55:40.140 elected. I just cannot believe this man got elected. And now I really wish I could. I just
00:55:49.340 don't think that people that did vote for him care. And this whole, the whole war in the Middle 1.00
00:55:57.020 least it's happening you know there's there so many of the jewish community even here in new york
00:56:02.560 i mean i walk my dog i know people we'd have street street corner conversations with people
00:56:07.060 past with spies and they're just going i don't feel safe i don't under the biden administration
00:56:11.540 i don't feel safe and i feel like trump is the only one that's really gonna take care of it and
00:56:15.240 make me feel safe and i go can i ask you a question and they're like yeah and i go do you remember the
00:56:19.080 black lives matter movement yeah how safe do you think they felt under his watch didn't they get
00:56:26.000 gas didn't they didn't communities get burned down didn't like and then the blaming of antifa
00:56:30.920 and all these different things like how what makes you think he's going to be able to handle
00:56:34.360 or make you feel any safer when he did not make anybody in that communicate community feel safer
00:56:40.740 before middle and at the end of it in fact it led to massive protests and more people getting hurt
00:56:48.300 more people getting arrested more and more and more i think there's two i think there's two things
00:56:53.740 I think in absence of intelligent, empathetic authenticity, people will take somebody who appears to be authentic, even though their ideas seem crass and horrible and very stripped down into the bare bones and almost elementary.
00:57:17.220 it's as though he figured out a way to try to talk like the everyday I don't think it's true
00:57:24.220 but like talk like the everyday person so that I used to think he made mistakes purposefully
00:57:29.900 grammar mistakes and spelling mistakes purposefully yeah because people are like see
00:57:38.320 he's I never used the right to anyway I like this guy I'm tired of being made feel
00:57:44.300 so i think that's number one that is so true you hit it on the head yes i would never eat 0.97
00:57:52.340 all the things i have a golden fucking toilet he's not an everyday man he's your everyday man 0.99
00:57:58.000 100 cares about you workers as he gives his fucking fellows all the tax cuts and there is 0.99
00:58:06.980 no more a middle class and you as the lower quarter of the united states are paying the 0.97
00:58:12.840 most in taxes. Here's what I think. Here's a shift for everything, but it's okay. I'm telling
00:58:22.400 you right now, everybody's going to be all right. We're just going to have to go through this
00:58:27.180 together. But going through this, going through this incredibly hard moment is going to allow
00:58:34.160 and going to pave way for more beauty, more empathy, more progress than you ever could have
00:58:40.920 imagined right now why do you say that tell me right now season seven i don't you know season
00:58:47.180 seven for buffy season five for angel i mean i don't like the way angel ended but that's just me
00:58:51.760 but it's it's the moment it's the moment where you are you're in a position where you don't
00:58:59.380 think you can win you're in a position where you feel overpowered you're in a position where you
00:59:04.940 think they have all of the control and they're doing these horrible things but it's only in
00:59:10.720 this moment that humanity in general in general musters and understands that oh no that's that
00:59:22.480 evil again buffy or not that evil if i don't do something about it that's going to win and i think
00:59:32.880 in that moment as i really do believe this the intelligent empathetic amazing community
00:59:40.160 based people on this planet, in the United States, in Canada, all across the world,
00:59:45.620 the 90 million who didn't vote go, now it's time. And that's how change happens.
00:59:53.420 Human beings, we're not very smart. We're not very forward thinking, right? That's why the
00:59:58.520 environment is such a hard thing for us to wrap our heads around and really pour money into,
01:00:03.600 because that's 20 years down the road, 30 years down the road. We don't do well without an
01:00:08.940 immediate threat. Countries are forged by an immediate threat. Why do you think Trump's
01:00:15.260 trying so hard to create a threat where there isn't one? Because it's the quickest way to
01:00:21.440 galvanize people. I think there are threats. There is, there are threats. But that's what I,
01:00:26.980 but that's what I'm saying. He's, he's manufacturing some to galvanize his side.
01:00:31.300 What I'm saying is that in terms of like, um, the caravan headed for the American
01:00:37.700 oh sure it's them i mean that's that's old trope right it's them don't worry it doesn't matter who
01:00:44.580 they are as long as you pick a group of people and you say it's their fault your life is hard
01:00:49.860 it's their fault you don't have a job it's their fault you that mean that's that's the way it it
01:00:56.900 is manipulated you know yeah in the bathrooms and all that stuff i mean doesn't anybody worry about
01:01:04.100 like, you know, I'm like, what about on the airplane? Don't we all use the same bathroom?
01:01:08.600 Like, what is wrong with you? I can't with the bathrooms. The bathroom thing. What is your
01:01:14.120 problem? I don't want to, like, what, what do you mean? It, it is the push. It is, again,
01:01:22.940 it's, it's the pendulum. We've had, look, you guys had eight amazing, even though I don't agree
01:01:29.300 with everything Obama did. You have these eight amazing years. You have this, a level of, of
01:01:33.820 social progress. You have us speaking about emotional intelligence. You have us changing
01:01:40.500 classroom dynamics. You have us understanding that diversity and equity is actually important.
01:01:47.480 Forget nice. Like let's stop pretending it's just nice to do. Let's start understanding it's just
01:01:53.860 smart to do, right? The more people I can put in a room with different ideas, the smarter we all
01:01:59.780 get. That's it. The more people I can draw upon, like your childhood would have been extremely
01:02:05.920 different than mine. To be able to talk about that, to be able to reason through that, to be
01:02:10.760 able to sit down and come up with some solutions on the basis of different ways of life, that is
01:02:16.580 powerful. And I do believe we're going to go through a little bit here. We're going to go
01:02:23.300 through a little bit, we're going to, we're going to be brought to the edge of that precipice for
01:02:28.180 us to galvanize, to recognize, and to make all the changes that we need to make. But that just
01:02:35.280 means all of our voices need to get stronger. Louder. Well, I love your optimism. I'm here for
01:02:41.800 it. But I really do see some really dramatic tactics being done that have never been done
01:02:51.040 before that is way more threatening than i ever even imagined just with the control of media alone
01:02:59.520 and by you know just servers and and google searches and like things being removed and you
01:03:07.600 know that's i've never seen that before and you know the whole thing about his his supporters
01:03:12.880 going free speech free speech i'm like wait free speech means that there's going to be
01:03:17.760 there's going to be pushback on what you say like when you go live with this podcast there are going
01:03:25.120 to be people that are going to write in and go i wholeheartedly with my full chest absolutely 0.88
01:03:30.000 disagree this is bullshit and all that that is that is called engagement that is called free 0.76
01:03:35.360 speech but when you remove the criticism when you remove and you start to demonize you know um 0.98
01:03:41.680 institutional media which to an extent i get it because they're all owned by these oligarchs and
01:03:46.800 these wealthy people but when when when it stops being that and you that's that's problem i've
01:03:54.720 never seen it on this level in my lifetime you know i'm in my 50s i've never seen this in my
01:04:00.960 lifetime the level you know you can't have one job and support a family anymore and that is what so
01:04:09.120 many boomers and people that are a little bit older than me or my age say about the young is
01:04:14.480 like they don't want to work hard or whatever i'm like well hold on how about what was possible
01:04:21.200 when my parents were alive and what was possible when i was like for me just in the acting industry
01:04:26.160 alone this is how much has changed the new generation of actors coming in they're going
01:04:31.200 to be on streamers they're going to be on um in this for this new format which is called new media
01:04:36.800 which took place in 2007 2008 in the stock market crash so all of these uh studios if you were on
01:04:45.840 the bubble and you weren't already picked up you were dropped right so now now we have this strike
01:04:51.280 so we're like no work for eons people need to get back to work so they create new media so now we're
01:04:56.240 gonna have video right so this isn't under the same contract so we can just get people working
01:05:01.520 again and and food on the table for folks well what happens then is the onset of like netflix
01:05:07.600 who just in this most recent uh strike was saying like we're unfounded it's been 20 years on the
01:05:14.160 what do you mean you don't have the analytics you don't know you know what you're giving up when you
01:05:19.040 give artists this we i have noticed just since 2007 2008 all of the like no residuals and then
01:05:29.360 then they're like well we're giving you more money up front my up front money for like the
01:05:33.760 lying game and for when i did surviving evil which is discovery which is an alternative media it's
01:05:38.400 not even the same scope it's not as an actor or a tv show it's not scripted television so it doesn't
01:05:43.680 necessarily fall into the same category but like just the lying game alone my last series i think
01:05:50.680 i ended out in 2013 2012 so no residuals then they like we want to pay you up front you know
01:05:59.000 more to offset what you won't get later. And the more was half of my rate because they're
01:06:08.920 free form or ABC family. They're the redheaded stepchild of the network conglomerate, right?
01:06:15.220 It's not ABC, it's ABC family. So we're just a small fledgling thing. And you're like,
01:06:20.160 you know, you're, they're just getting smaller and smaller and smaller. People don't realize
01:06:24.320 this so just the economics of just my industry alone has changed so the the the what is the the
01:06:32.640 what do you call it the landscape the landscape of this one industry has changed exponentially
01:06:39.440 over time so i grew up in the golden age so these new kids that are on like i think um sweeney
01:06:48.000 what's her name from euphoria euphoria the blonde and she was in um um white lotus huge
01:06:54.540 she's like a superstar in feature films gorgeous gorgeous girl and she's like yeah i have to have
01:07:00.220 multiple jobs because you think i because i'm on tv that i'm making a boatload of money but
01:07:05.480 the reality is they're paying me more up front but i won't like when she's my age
01:07:10.560 she won't see one dollar nothing's paying into like nothing pays into your pension nothing pays
01:07:19.200 and and then now they're in the habit of just removing a show off the platform entirely so
01:07:24.780 there's no residuals at all so i grew up in a golden era i am and was able to buy a house i
01:07:31.280 you know but this new generation of whatever industry you're in don't have the same advantages
01:07:36.980 is right so is it that they're lazy and they don't want to work hard or they're pampered like
01:07:41.520 i'm sorry did you live through a pandemic i didn't yep it's listen it's no humanity everybody's 0.96
01:07:49.280 comparing and shitting on each other i hate it i think whoa whoa whoa we're gonna go back to 0.58
01:07:54.800 optimism i'm gonna fix it all don't worry don't worry um now i feel like i need to hydrate though 0.97
01:07:59.780 um i'm like when did the last time i had water i don't i never did this is an
01:08:06.640 right unbelievable have a coffee with me on camera drinking water
01:08:11.920 because i don't drink water you'll be like wow um two things number one the flexibilization
01:08:17.920 and casualization of your industry i think is common in almost everyone when people talk to
01:08:27.760 me about problems in the economy and elitist i love it it cracks me up i'm like i'm more unemployed
01:08:34.880 that i am employed i am very familiar with unemployment and the cost of milk and eggs
01:08:40.560 more than you realize i know the gas okay it ain't it ain't like that for everybody yes yes
01:08:48.160 and what a crazy thing like i know people you know i i've gotten to know a lot of people in
01:08:54.480 the industry uh you know whether it be soap operas whether it be movies whether it be other tv shows
01:09:00.400 And the interesting part is, is what ends up happening is a lot of the times you garner
01:09:06.600 so much fame very, very quickly, which means you're going to have to have security, which
01:09:13.160 means you're going to have to have like, and you're paying lots of different people from
01:09:17.040 that paycheck that you get and which, which isn't even, you know, lifelong consistent.
01:09:22.560 Have you had this conversation with another actor?
01:09:25.100 Oh God.
01:09:25.680 Yeah, absolutely.
01:09:26.820 And even the security alone, I've had conversations just about that, like, just about the need, and you would have experienced this being on Buffy.
01:09:36.260 There's no way, like at the height of Buffy, you're going to walk out your house.
01:09:39.560 Now, everybody's going to know who you are.
01:09:41.940 And there's this hyper need a little bit for security, more for privacy, more for all of those things.
01:09:48.080 And people think because you're famous, you're a kabillionaire.
01:09:53.200 They associate the two.
01:09:54.680 It is. It's really disheartening.
01:09:56.040 is like one of the, one of the things I wish I could change more than anything. And there's so
01:10:00.780 much like shame around money, like if you have it or don't have it. And I think people don't
01:10:06.200 realize like, you know, yes, I got residuals. I'm one of the lucky ones. I got residuals for sure.
01:10:13.040 Lucky. I lost my healthcare in December. People don't realize that those residuals run out. They
01:10:19.040 go increasingly less right and because in 2007 2008 the shoot shows that i was on uh when i was
01:10:26.600 on you know i think a couple of seasons of the lion game that would have sustained me right now
01:10:31.760 if i got residuals for my new media project called surviving evil that was on investigation
01:10:36.800 discovery channel i might would still be able to have my insurance and you know the last time i did
01:10:43.760 a broadcast television show was Dynasty in 2023. So this is 2025. So like, I don't know why people
01:10:53.760 think that, you know, yes, when you work, you make a shit ton of money. And I have made a great deal
01:11:01.860 of money. I don't mean to make it sound like I haven't been fortunate. I have. However, I've
01:11:07.480 spent more time unemployed than employed. And you have to budget for that. And when you're 29,
01:11:12.960 you're thinking you're going to be rich your whole fucking life exactly exactly just like 0.99
01:11:17.680 what 29 year old has financial literacy we don't teach that in school which is so disgusting to me 0.99
01:11:25.880 that that isn't like our like we don't know how to do our taxes we have to pay somebody to do our
01:11:29.540 taxes i'll have us have business managers that steal you know like i can't even tell you you
01:11:35.160 have whatever idea say say let's just take it hypothetical you make 12 20 000 for the month
01:11:42.960 or a week, whatever it is. That's on the lower end. So right off the bat, Uncle Sam,
01:11:50.160 because you're making X amount of dollars within a short amount of time. So you're going to pay
01:11:55.180 the most in taxes. So 50% gone. Now you're down to 10,000. Then you have an agent, 10%. Then you
01:12:00.920 have a manager, 10%. That is 70% of your income gone already. So now you're living on 30% gross
01:12:09.220 or no, that's net. So then you have 30% of your income. Well, are you the breadwinner of your
01:12:15.620 home? I was, I had a mortgage, I had two cars, I had a baby and you know, I'm working gazillion
01:12:20.400 hours. So somebody was paying my bills. So they get a percentage. Oh, I didn't say my business
01:12:25.060 manager, my business manager gets 5%. So you're looking at 75% of your income and living off of
01:12:32.900 25% of your income. And I think the general, it's like such a disservice to think. And then
01:12:38.600 when you're making this money for 10 years, this high income amount of money, and then you stop as
01:12:45.160 you get older, especially if you're a woman, you work less and less and less, you're having to
01:12:49.260 project. Now I'm 54. Now it's 27 years since the show was on. How many people do you know
01:12:57.840 can budget or stocked money away? Yeah. How many people do you know that are still living off of
01:13:05.120 the money that they made when they were in their twenties. Yeah. None. So, you know, it's just,
01:13:10.700 it's just, it's a perception gap that I, and there's a lot of shame around it and I don't 0.99
01:13:17.220 give a fuck. I will say it, you know, like this is the reality. You know, I have made millions 0.98
01:13:24.860 in my life more than anybody, you know, obviously that's a one percenter, but that was a long time
01:13:33.080 ago that was a long time ago i also got divorced you know they're just life is expensive and also
01:13:39.720 when you're 29 you're not smart you you think you're gonna make money so you're like oh i'm
01:13:44.680 gonna go to france for the for two weeks or you know when you're in the height of your show
01:13:50.040 you know it was it really was a golden era you didn't think the whole economy was going to take
01:13:54.200 a dump five years after your first child is born yeah and you're living in california with the
01:14:00.200 highest state taxes right so i think talking about that is essential well
01:14:09.400 you have to what i mean i don't know what the reason it's like i just want people to understand
01:14:14.520 that when i speak for my the the benefits of social progress i genuinely care also because
01:14:21.880 i'm a part of that group and i don't think people think of me as that they think of me as just this
01:14:27.240 elitist person and then then your company's like do you still have money it's like gross
01:14:31.880 that's inappropriate and gross it's like i don't know do you do can i see your checking account 0.56
01:14:38.200 like rude that's just disrespectful it's like you don't get automatic access if i want to volunteer 0.72
01:14:43.880 what's going on with me i'm happy to do it but don't be rude and don't try to shame me or make
01:14:48.840 me feel bad because i don't live on the top of maulholland behind a golden gate like you think
01:14:54.360 I do. And if I don't, that I've done something wrong along the way. It's not. It's just the
01:14:59.960 realities of what it costs to do business as an actor. And I think as a whole, I think if we had
01:15:08.060 more people in more different elements of life, I think that the powers that be, I didn't use that
01:15:18.120 on purpose, but that's kind of funny that I said that. That was perfect. That should be our
01:15:25.480 thumbnail. But the powers that be really want us to be doing exactly what we're doing right here.
01:15:32.920 They really do want us, I'm a teacher, to be thinking, oh, Charisma has it so good,
01:15:39.120 and she has this, and she has this. Either one of two things. They want to see us throwing down
01:15:44.660 about what you have as opposed to what I have, or even better, they want me imagining that
01:15:50.540 this, if I'm in this world, I can aspire to what you have. And that's always my goal. As long as
01:15:57.960 I stay within this same framework, rather than saying what really needs to be said, you don't
01:16:04.200 know what, oh, break it down. Either they're going to pit you and I against one another,
01:16:09.700 right teacher versus celebrity versus actress right professional you know famous actress they
01:16:18.580 want to pit us against one another especially for women god they love that or they want to create a
01:16:24.340 scenario in which i just aspire to be you so i can get what you have both of those things both of
01:16:32.120 those things are negating the real focus, which is how do we create sustainable economic
01:16:40.100 relationships? How do we ensure that people are being paid equitably, not equally necessarily,
01:16:47.220 but equitably? How do we create a fully functional economic system in which we grow the middle
01:16:54.440 class, we protect all walks of life that are actually playing into the system, and we figure
01:17:00.260 out how to do that rationally and equitably. That's what they don't want us talking about.
01:17:06.640 Nobody wants anybody talking about financial literacy. They don't want you to read books.
01:17:10.960 I mean, what's going on in my country, in Florida, like they're removing books. It's unreal to me.
01:17:16.980 And then it's like the same party that's removing books is saying free speech. The same party that's
01:17:22.860 saying that, you know, Elon, you know, who's co-president, I guess he offering a million
01:17:30.940 dollars to people who register to vote, but that's not, they're not gonna, they're not trying to tell
01:17:37.280 you who to vote for, but you know, I'm the party that's telling you, I'll give you a million
01:17:42.440 dollars. Um, sure. Uh, just nobody wants financial literacy because you can't control the population
01:17:52.260 if they are educated. We don't want critical thinking. We don't want everybody to have a
01:17:57.440 higher learning because if there's higher learning, we cannot keep them in their menial jobs,
01:18:02.260 which makes us rich. Can I tell you another sad fact? Because there's just two Debbie Downers.
01:18:09.840 No, I'm still saying there's going to be a shift. Don't forget that was the beginning of this
01:18:14.500 conversation. I mean, where's my pitchfork? Let's go. It's coming. Don't worry. I have three
01:18:20.480 witches working in the back room. No. When you have that kind of focus on economics and you're 1.00
01:18:30.740 saying they're taking away books, and I want to come back to that for a second, because no matter
01:18:35.820 what they do or try to do with social media, the internet's going to win. And what I mean by that
01:18:42.700 is, I don't give a crap. You take Joe Biden off the internet search for presidents, or you switch 0.98
01:18:49.420 up this stuff or you the the internet is still a tidal wave that these men are going to do their
01:18:57.000 best to control and manipulate it is going to be a tsunami they're not going to be able to stop it
01:19:02.980 because i still believe that when i started teaching and i had a textbook in my hand and
01:19:07.520 there was no internet there was way more censorship propaganda and control in that time than exists
01:19:14.540 today. We just think that there was something. Why are you saying that? Based on what? Why are
01:19:19.880 you saying that? Based on this, I think that, well, I know. Well, when we went to school,
01:19:25.380 right? When I went to school, when we sat in the classroom. When we were in school than there is
01:19:30.400 right now. Yes. Okay. Explain. In order to teach a class, you needed a textbook. When I was a kid,
01:19:38.740 did you not think that everything in that textbook was right? I did. Yeah. Yeah.
01:19:44.540 Who's right? Like, yes, that's the information. That's the source.
01:19:48.560 Sure. So you sat down for American history, let's say, whatever year you do American history every
01:19:53.820 year, whatever you do, you sit down and somebody hands you a 400 page textbook on American history
01:19:58.700 and you study it and you go over it and you memorize when the, what?
01:20:03.260 And in that moment, your sole piece of education, your sole piece of information
01:20:13.420 is a textbook and whoever was standing in front of you and a newspaper or a television station
01:20:21.220 that was owned by a few key people. And that's all the information you got.
01:20:26.900 The only way you're going to- Hold on, hold on. Just put a pin in that for a second.
01:20:30.360 But the reality is that there was journalistic integrity then. So there were checks and balances
01:20:37.520 and guardrails put into position in journalism at the time. You couldn't report something that
01:20:42.520 wasn't factually true. A lot of those things started with yellow journalism, right? When you 0.84
01:20:49.900 go right back to Hertz and Pulitzer, you talk about yellow journalism and the idea that if it 0.66
01:20:55.300 bleeds, it leads. You could have, I don't think people understand quite. So, okay, I'll come back
01:21:03.200 to yellow journalism. When I hand you that textbook, and I say this to my kids every year,
01:21:06.960 because I always give them a textbook. I don't even know why we do that anymore. I give them
01:21:10.500 textbook and I say, guys, we're doing American history, 1775. We're going to go all the way up
01:21:15.420 to maybe we'll hit 2000. And I'll say, what's the problem with this textbook? And they're like,
01:21:22.920 well, it's written by the winners. I'm like, great. You know that line, fantastic. It's written by
01:21:26.620 the winners. So you already know that it's going to be biased, right? And you already know maybe
01:21:31.820 that it's not going to give when it talks about the civil war, it's going to do it from a
01:21:35.920 perspective. That's cool. You know that. That's not the part I'm scared of. Because nowadays,
01:21:41.220 you can go on the internet. Nowadays, you can talk to somebody from Taiwan. You can talk to
01:21:46.880 somebody from Ghana. You can talk to these people. You can get different pieces of information.
01:21:53.180 You want to know what scares me? Is why is the textbook from 1775 to 2000 only 400 pages long?
01:22:01.920 how much history do you really think is in that book i'm not scared of what they say that's wrong
01:22:10.480 i'm scared of what they never talk about at all when you were a kid when you were in school did
01:22:16.140 you know anything about residential schools reservations for indigenous peoples uh we
01:22:23.540 studied that when you were in high school yeah we talked we we talked about indigenous people and
01:22:29.060 and sure you want to talk about it history sure but in a very conceptual i'll give you an example
01:22:36.740 in canada i mean it's been a long time since i've been in high school girl but i'm just saying um
01:22:43.380 yeah i remember studying that and i remember realizing you know but i also learned that
01:22:48.980 columbus discovered america this is what i'm saying yeah so when i was in when i was in high
01:22:54.660 school and i was teaching learning and then and then even at the beginning of my teaching career
01:22:59.620 when we spoke about residential schools which canada had which was um forced boarding schools
01:23:06.900 for indigenous peoples right where we stole their children this coming out in the news recently
01:23:11.780 where the all the great mass graves were discovered absolutely and and it the only reason it came out
01:23:18.740 and now is in the curriculum is because the indigenous population within canada has fought
01:23:23.140 for it gone to court for it but when i was in when i was in school nobody ever once not one time
01:23:29.380 talked about a residential school not one time nobody even mentioned the word and when i started
01:23:34.340 teaching residential schools were a little side note in a textbook that said and we tried to help
01:23:39.860 indigenous people by sending them to school and teaching them english that was it that was it
01:23:46.580 so my fear and when i go further when i go back like that i'm not saying there's no censorship
01:23:52.820 i'm not saying there's no propaganda i am saying we are more powerful with access to the internet
01:23:59.300 than we've ever been before and i do think even though they're centering our internet now though
01:24:04.900 here in the state of course but again you can try to censor the internet all you want there are so
01:24:12.180 many avenues for the internet like people talk about oh they took my post down on twitter listen
01:24:17.300 There are so many different avenues for you to gain information. I still argue that we are more educated, more aware, we can have better conversations than we've ever been at any moment in history. And when I go back to yellow journalism, and I think the stories that they put on news stations primarily were driven, if it bleeds, it leads.
01:24:40.240 i don't phrase i've never heard that phrase it bleeds it leads i think it's it the idea is
01:24:47.300 the more catastrophic a story the more salacious the more dangerous the more people are going to
01:24:53.880 want to buy the newspaper right yeah so so the headline yeah so you you write headlines to draw
01:25:00.780 people in well you you usually use a little bit of hyperbole usually you choose a story that might
01:25:08.020 not be the best representation of the day but it's going to sell your newspaper that day that's
01:25:12.900 always been the case yeah that's that kind of capitalistic is it's always been the motivator
01:25:19.860 what i'm saying i'm not saying that people aren't trying to censor it nowadays however
01:25:25.540 i am saying that the internet and the advent of the internet and and this growing pain that
01:25:31.940 we're going through right now is a better place for us to be in because 20 years ago
01:25:40.500 if you would have had an individual like we have right now you couldn't even have had these
01:25:45.540 discussions he would have been able to and as we've seen 50 years ago he would have been able
01:25:51.780 to roll through a lot more of those issues like when you ban books go ahead ban a book
01:25:57.380 from a high school student watch what they buy on the internet it's the quickest way to make
01:26:02.100 them read i mean i don't know because there's safari and google and firefox and what other
01:26:09.380 search engines you know i mean there's not a lot of search engines and they are and then the vpns
01:26:15.540 and so there's there are more ways of blocking and just when you buy flights you know like if
01:26:21.300 your vpn is california you're going to get my girlfriend on an airbnb we were looking at the
01:26:26.260 same property and i'm like oh the airbnb tells me it's this amount the airbnb tells you it's that
01:26:30.820 amount how interesting like you know there's just wait there's there's ways of monetizing everything
01:26:38.100 it's exhausting um the fact you and your friend can have that conversation that's the power
01:26:44.820 well we're observing it but yes it was an accident that we observed it but that we were on the
01:26:50.900 telephone that wasn't some but i wouldn't be able to have this conversation with somebody in ghana i
01:26:55.380 don't speak that language. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know. I don't know. I don't
01:27:02.740 have the ideas. I don't know. All I know is it feels so scary and so wrong right now. And I feel
01:27:09.720 it's more polarizing than ever. And I also am really disappointed in Democrats because I feel
01:27:15.480 like we're a bunch of spineless facts. And I just feel like change has got to come. Change has got
01:27:27.560 to come. It's got to involve something more daring and more clever and more, I mean, dare I say this,
01:27:42.600 but maybe it's just as corrupt. And people will say, well, you think the Democrats aren't corrupt?
01:27:49.320 Of course. Of course there's corruption on both ends. Of course. But
01:27:53.060 this is a whole other level of stuff. See, I think it just needs to be, I think
01:28:02.200 the left needs to stop trying to be perfect in what they say and say what is right.
01:28:09.960 Well, the virtue signaling alienated a lot of people.
01:28:15.180 Of course it did.
01:28:15.880 It always became about niche issues rather than issues that really affected day-to-day
01:28:27.340 American lives.
01:28:29.260 Absolutely.
01:28:29.900 And that's the swing, right?
01:28:31.460 That's where the swing comes from.
01:28:33.380 But that's why this pendulum, and it feels horrible.
01:28:37.920 it really does feel horrible but sometimes things have to feel horrible for us to recognize
01:28:45.920 that we have to stand up that we have to be off i'm worried nobody's gonna stand up
01:28:51.280 you think nobody's i i don't think i we are at a point we're like who's gonna stand up to him
01:28:56.960 like are you right now no and what you're doing the only thing we can do is during the midterms
01:29:04.560 that are coming up in a couple of years. We'll have midterms, but there's no heir apparent
01:29:12.860 in the Democratic Party for 2028 that'll go up against J.D. Vance. I don't know.
01:29:21.820 I don't know. Short of a revolution, and what does that look like?
01:29:27.080 listen i think two things number one elections aren't the only way that you evoke change
01:29:36.200 number one number two um i don't think before obama there was an heir apparent
01:29:44.720 and all of a sudden this individual rose in a time and in a space where we needed that person
01:29:52.560 And again, everybody will say, you know, well, politicians aren't perfect. And he did. Yeah, I can talk about everybody's accolades and deficiencies. I can do that. But I believe, and I still think there already are those men and women in Congress right now, but I believe that one will rise.
01:30:14.640 I think what we recognize right now is this. Politics and governance and the way that your
01:30:22.040 community exists doesn't just happen from the top down. In fact, it happens more consistently
01:30:29.840 from the bottom up. And if those 90 million people that chose not to vote, all of a sudden
01:30:37.140 are at their congressman's office, are at their senator's office, are in local schools. And if
01:30:45.920 it's not going to be in local schools, cool. You know what I'm doing? I'm putting books right
01:30:49.960 outside at down the street of the local school. I'm going to put an RV there where I can sell
01:30:56.180 books or I can give away books. I am going to create more. And I know this sounds frivolous
01:31:01.820 as I'm sitting on a podcast, but it's not. 76% who watch long form podcasts went to the
01:31:08.560 Republicans. Why? Because this is what we need to do. Because people like you who are intelligent,
01:31:13.980 authentic, and have something powerful to say are going to get a podcast, are going to start
01:31:19.100 having their voices heard. And just like we started at the beginning, I love it when a
01:31:23.440 full circle moment happens and I don't even make it happen. At the beginning of this, you spoke
01:31:27.720 about. How people, how you started doing something because you thought the community needed it,
01:31:34.540 and you started serving a community in order to inspire, make them feel powerful, and make them
01:31:41.120 feel heard. That's it. That's it. And that's what more people on our side of the fence need to start
01:31:49.760 doing. We have to get louder because I truly believe there's far more people in this world
01:31:56.180 who are intelligent, empathetic, and are driven by community and progress and good things than
01:32:02.060 there are the opposite. We just need to learn how to divide and how to run through that power
01:32:11.440 dynamic, just like you are. Just like other people are that are starting to take up those
01:32:19.640 kind of um those kind of avenues of power that's where it exists that's where it's always existed
01:32:26.640 right be the change that's why all of those incredible people start saying things like it
01:32:33.300 starts with what you put into the world and the more that amazing people put things into the world
01:32:39.060 the more that everything changes the more that you talk about financial literacy and just put
01:32:44.120 it out there. The more we let go of that, any shame we have, the more that women stop having 1.00
01:32:50.740 other people, like other people, the less we realize how much more we have in common 0.96
01:32:57.980 than we think. There it is. I mean, that's really what I would hope to go is to kind of bridge that
01:33:04.380 gap, you know, where I'm put on this pedestal where people think like I'm not relatable or
01:33:09.120 my lifestyle isn't like, or, you know, it's so other than your own. Yes, I've had incredible
01:33:14.920 experiences. I'm going to France next month, you know, and I'm getting to travel the world and all
01:33:19.820 of those things. And that is a lot more than most. But I'm also, you know, more like you than you
01:33:29.520 would realize, you know, more concerned about my healthcare than you would realize, more concerned
01:33:33.800 about my son growing up in a world where, like, I hope we still have a planet. We're concerned
01:33:38.200 about, you know, him getting the right education. What about my future daughter-in-law? What if she
01:33:43.860 gets pregnant and then she has an ectopic pregnancy and then she can't get healthcare, 1.00
01:33:47.860 the healthcare that she needs, and she dies in a parking lot. Like, this fucking kills me. The idea 1.00
01:33:52.540 that this is what's happening in our country. And, you know, and then my grandchild doesn't
01:33:56.920 have any books. Thank God I saved all of my son's books. You know, like, I have all these hardback
01:34:01.640 books, children's books. I'm sentimental. I care about our future. I care about our planet. And
01:34:08.520 I do. I'm just not that different. I just wish people would just realize that whatever my skin
01:34:18.560 color is or whatever my sexual orientation is, we're all just humans trying to be loved and feel
01:34:26.880 loved and feel seen and feel heard and cared about. And I don't want price of drugs to go up.
01:34:32.980 I don't want Medicare and Medicaid to go away. The quality of life of my fellow Americans is
01:34:39.700 important to me. My brother has diabetes. My grandfather had diabetes. I might develop it
01:34:46.920 because my grandfather had it later in life. I don't have insurance right now. I have to cobra
01:34:52.560 out $1,200 a month where I used to pay $545 a quarter for me and my son. And now because I lost
01:35:03.560 my insurance, I have to Cobra and I'll only have it for 18 months unless I get a job soon.
01:35:08.720 You know, $1,200 more a month, I have to add to my budget that I wasn't planning on having to do
01:35:13.780 because I didn't get another job. Why am I not grandfathered in? I've made so much money for
01:35:20.440 this union, you know, there's just, my problems are your problems. Yep. My issues are your issues.
01:35:29.060 Yes, but nobody can understand that unless you're willing to do exactly what you're doing,
01:35:37.640 which again is just so incredible. Unless you're willing to put it on blast, unless you're willing
01:35:43.500 to take power over something like this kind of medium, which is powerful. And the more you do
01:35:52.860 that, and the more we can all raise concerns and lower fear. I mean, those are two things we have
01:35:58.740 to do. And we have to do carefully. You need to raise concern, let's say about unionization,
01:36:05.480 job security, healthcare, raise concern. But we don't, we don't want to raise fear because when
01:36:12.360 people are panicked they do dumb stuff so we want to raise concern but empower them enough to
01:36:19.000 understand you don't have to fear it because here's how you can take control that is everything
01:36:26.440 well we need thought leaders to talk about solutions i think there is less fear when
01:36:30.680 there's an actual solution so it's not enough to pose the problem it's got to be what is the
01:36:35.880 solution you know what is the answer what you know so often in my dms like well why don't you run for
01:36:41.640 office. Why don't you run for office? Uh, mainly because, uh, I feel that when you're an actor,
01:36:50.700 you're, you're not going to be taken seriously. You're not going to be, um, uh, listened to
01:36:57.880 really. And I think also there are people with genuine knowledge in these areas that have,
01:37:05.680 you know, a four-year degree. I don't have a four-year degree. I didn't graduate from college,
01:37:09.220 And I think that it's not enough to care about people. You have to have actual solutions and
01:37:15.940 be a thought leader in what we can do differently and give an option where you feel like people that
01:37:23.900 didn't vote, the 90 million that didn't, there was no other option. There's nobody representing me.
01:37:29.560 There's nobody that speaks to me on my values and also my wallet. That's the other thing about
01:37:36.480 Americans. Well, it's not enough that he's a bad person because he's going to help my wallet. I'm
01:37:41.520 really curious. How is he helping the wallet? Well, he's not. If you make under $330,000 a year,
01:37:53.260 your taxes are going up. That's what's happening. I don't know what happened there. It's really at
01:38:01.440 a point where you are so sold on, you know, hook, line, and sinker on this person that it's just,
01:38:08.720 I mean, I watched the videos. It's, it's just, it's tribal. It's, it's culty. It's, it's, it's,
01:38:15.120 it's to a point where there's no return. You're not going to under, you're, those people are gone.
01:38:20.220 Like you're never going to change. You cannot change people's minds. I really, I really,
01:38:24.400 I understand that more than ever. And I've spent so much time trying to change people's minds,
01:38:27.640 even today when I'm having a disagreement with my son, I want to change his mind. 1.00
01:38:32.120 Fuck changing people's mind. Just speak the truth. And yes, I just, I don't know. I don't. 1.00
01:38:39.680 I think it's, it's truly about the 90 million that didn't vote, like giving it.
01:38:44.920 Yeah. And I don't, I want to say this before, because I know that our time is running out.
01:38:51.360 I want to say this. The idea that you, I don't know what you think you get a four-year degree
01:38:57.600 in, that all of a sudden makes you more worthy and more intelligent to be able to sit in
01:39:05.580 a congressman's seat or a senator's seat.
01:39:08.100 But I'm telling you, there's no such education.
01:39:10.280 And I love school.
01:39:11.200 Don't get me wrong.
01:39:11.920 I'd stay in school forever.
01:39:13.120 I think education's important.
01:39:15.200 I do not think at all that a four-year degree in anything makes you a powerful thought leader. 0.98
01:39:23.900 I think what makes people powerful thought leaders is the ability to listen, the ability to synthesize, the ability to give a crap. 0.98
01:39:35.020 Those are the three things.
01:39:36.900 Because, Charisma, just because you're not sitting in a third-year poli-sci class doesn't mean you wouldn't be the kind of person to surround yourself by some of the most intelligent people in whatever discipline you need to learn about.
01:39:49.740 You listen to them.
01:39:50.980 You figure it out with them.
01:39:52.400 because the notion that one person has a solution is perhaps the failing of the political system.
01:39:59.640 Yeah. It doesn't exist. It's very seductive to prove you are the answer. You have the solution,
01:40:07.060 you know, in therapy, going to your therapist. And, and, you know, I remember having that
01:40:13.420 conversation with my, uh, he was actually a psychiatrist back, back in the day. He was just
01:40:17.500 like, you know, he, he bucked up against the system, you know, in that field, because a bunch
01:40:24.020 of therapists get together as psych, psychiatrists believe their own, you know, um, their own story, 1.00
01:40:32.200 their own, uh, their own lore, you know, they, they believe their own bullshit, horseshit. 1.00
01:40:37.680 Oh, I'm educated. And I know all the things. And you know, this prescription is going to do this. 1.00
01:40:42.940 Like, we don't know anything about the brain. My doctor would sit there and just go,
01:40:46.780 we know so little about how the brain works. We really do. If it works for you, great,
01:40:52.200 but it may not work for you. You know, there's just, there was so much authenticity about him
01:40:56.800 that I loved, but I think that's, that's part of the thing is that the, with the political,
01:41:01.240 but I don't have the answer. I'm not the all being omniscient one. I am not the powers that be,
01:41:06.480 you know, I want to find a solution that works for a majority of us as soon as possible. What
01:41:13.460 What can we do today to make our lives just a little better, a little easier, a little
01:41:20.780 gentler, a little, you know, like what's the viscous, what's the, what's the lubricant
01:41:26.280 of the joints?
01:41:27.360 Because we are freaking up against bone here.
01:41:30.840 I have a bad shoulder, right?
01:41:32.660 To speak to that, actually.
01:41:35.060 It's perimenopause.
01:41:36.060 It's all right.
01:41:38.060 I, listen, I want, I, I want to end with a very important.
01:41:43.380 Are you telling me to run for office?
01:41:45.080 Yes.
01:41:46.440 Cordy for president.
01:41:47.200 I'm trying to tell you, I'm trying to tell you, if, if you are driven by it, if, if you, people tell me to do the same thing.
01:41:55.520 My problem in this particular country is I don't, I don't, I think my level of authenticity might not, it's just too hard to swallow.
01:42:03.920 I think it's just a little too, because at the end of the day, the, the honest answer is it's
01:42:11.420 going to be hard. Your life has to change and we have to do it collectively. Are you ready for that
01:42:15.980 truth? Or would you rather believe that one person is going to manipulate everything else to make
01:42:22.960 your life perfect as it was in 1987? Because if you're willing to buy that, I can't, I can't have
01:42:29.880 this conversation? My, not my biological mom, but I call her my mama son. She said something
01:42:39.520 really important to me. I spend a lot of time reading. I read a lot of articles. I don't have
01:42:46.120 children, small children in school. I'm not working a nine to five job. I don't have a
01:42:52.380 husband's needs or house domestic needs, people are fucking busy. They don't have time 0.98
01:43:00.720 or bandwidth to really do anything or care. It's just like, that really struck me because I would
01:43:11.700 say my little nieces, they live in Indiana. That's horrifying to me. And our parents voted
01:43:22.100 for a president that then is, and they're religious too. So, you know, there's lots of,
01:43:28.560 I do believe that a majority of Americans believe in the right to choose and they do believe in
01:43:33.200 body autonomy. And I do believe that if I personally believe if you don't have ownership
01:43:39.040 over your own physical being, how can you have ownership of something outside of yourself like
01:43:47.120 a gun you can't how can you say my first amendment right or my second amendment right my second
01:43:52.580 amendment right is right to bear arms right what about my right to my body yeah wait your right to
01:44:00.940 a gun supersedes my right to my body if you as a man could procreate what would you feel the same
01:44:07.540 how would that change or be different for you you know um it's just you do have to i have to
01:44:14.420 think about like people don't have the energy, the time, or the bandwidth to read and get involved.
01:44:25.060 They just want someone as close to their value system as possible and pin all their hopes and
01:44:31.600 dreams on that person. And then that's it. They get maybe this much news media time. And it's
01:44:39.660 usually from the one source that is echoed to them over and over again, based on our media and
01:44:45.860 the way Facebook and all the meta programs and acts, it's an echo chamber. It's like you're
01:44:53.580 constantly going to be fed the things that you gravitate towards because it helps them monetize
01:44:58.820 you. We're the product. We are the product, but that means that we, as in you and I,
01:45:09.660 have to be louder we have to whatever bandwidth we can afford to give we have to give and we have to
01:45:19.780 use our level of either privilege or passion or authenticity for the issue in order to raise all
01:45:29.520 boats dare i say slayers every one of us we look i can't help it i just it it it's perfect it's the
01:45:40.000 idea it's the idea that that it is going to be driven it has to be driven by women right now
01:45:48.400 it has to be now's the time to see that type of emotional awareness and empathy and bodily it's
01:45:56.640 not going to come from the other side of the fence so now it's time to do every single thing
01:46:03.040 in your power and it might not be running for office it might be a podcast it might be dms
01:46:08.560 to people it might be all of these things but what i promise you is that we have more power
01:46:14.560 than we could possibly think of and as soon as we understand how to share that power how not to be
01:46:21.200 the only one yeah we'll be a tidal wave you're on to something there because i do think they
01:46:28.160 want to overwhelm us so much that we do feel disenfranchised yes and separate from our own
01:46:36.560 power where i think that is an absolute strategy and tactic that has been very successful over time
01:46:44.080 always has been i don't disagree with that and you know i i don't know what that translates to
01:46:50.320 right at this very moment for me personally i don't know um i i just mainly want to be a light
01:46:56.160 in the world i want to offer you know i want to be an offer that to people because i guess that's
01:47:03.920 what buffy did do and provide for so many for all those years and why it is still so you know
01:47:10.960 popular is because people do feel seen and heard by the show and the themes that were in the show
01:47:16.880 and they learn things through storytelling that you know that's one of the greatest things as an
01:47:23.320 actor you know is you're creating you know characters that then you are like the writers
01:47:31.200 are creating thoughts around um controversial issues but tell the story around the controversial
01:47:41.040 view in a way that you don't feel browbeaten and you don't feel like you're being judged for
01:47:46.600 thinking the way that you do, but it's just a way and to go, huh, I didn't ever think of it like
01:47:52.500 that. That's it. You know, that's when I think that's how change really does happen too, is like
01:48:00.480 we all tap into what our natural abilities are in storytelling, whether you're a writer or you're
01:48:05.720 an actor or whatever, is that you gravitate and tell those stories that do tend to enlighten
01:48:12.400 without being heavy-handed, without making you feel guilty,
01:48:16.140 without virtuous signaling, without shame and all that stuff.
01:48:22.520 It's like, it's tempting to just be like, 0.99
01:48:27.840 what the fuck? 1.00
01:48:29.200 Why did you vote for him? 1.00
01:48:30.280 Like, what's wrong with you? 1.00
01:48:31.460 You fucking idiot. 1.00
01:48:32.560 Didn't you see the right animal? 1.00
01:48:33.980 Like, it's so tempting, but we got to harness it.
01:48:38.240 And that's why, and I'll end on this and with you hydrating,
01:48:42.160 because it's really important, guys. Stay hydrated. That's why all revolutions, and I don't
01:48:48.400 mean this violently, I don't mean this in any way, shape, or form, because you can talk about the
01:48:53.200 Enlightenment, you can talk about the Renaissance. All revolutions begin with brilliant artists
01:48:59.760 telling a story, whether it's through music, literature, or physical pieces of art. That's
01:49:06.420 where it starts and you can look at at peace after revolution after revolution in all parts
01:49:12.220 of the world and the things that have withstood the test of time and actually still stand up as
01:49:18.460 these incredible moments of the transition of power are the arts and so you start with storytelling
01:49:27.160 and you start with exactly your reason because it doesn't feel like it's brow beating but all
01:49:32.120 of a sudden you're sitting at home and you think that gave me what I needed today to do something
01:49:40.380 better to do something bigger to do something outside of myself whether it be a concert whether
01:49:47.600 it be a book you read and whether it be a television show you watch for the 700th time
01:49:52.640 that's where power comes from. Yeah. I have one question before we go.
01:49:59.680 I love it. When can we do part two? That was my... I think we did part one and two already.
01:50:06.980 Okay. What does unlearn 16 mean? Why unlearn? Unlearn is very Socratic. So Socrates, when he
01:50:18.460 taught. He always believed that before you can learn something, you have to unlearn the prejudice,
01:50:24.060 the stereotypes, and the crap that has been shoved in your head without your consent. 0.98
01:50:30.100 You have to unlearn all of that. You have to strip it down. You have to have those conversations 0.99
01:50:34.740 and you have to do it consistently in order to make space for actual learning, in order to make
01:50:41.520 space for progress and the 16 that's my volleyball number nothing more there i failed volleyball in
01:50:50.080 college like the one semester i went i failed volleyball i couldn't do an overhand serve
01:50:57.680 pause pause this is going to be part two we're going to come i'm going to come to new york
01:51:03.120 we're going to find a gym no i have a volleyball court right here in the park
01:51:07.840 that's it and i'm going to teach you how to serve
01:51:11.520 I'll fix the perimetopause shoulder before I come down. 0.81
01:51:16.000 Let's do it.
01:51:17.500 That'll be the start.
01:51:18.620 Let's do it.
01:51:19.400 All right.
01:51:19.600 Thank you so much.
01:51:21.200 This has been an amazing two hours.
01:51:23.820 I hope you enjoyed it.
01:51:25.140 I hope the listeners enjoyed it.
01:51:26.940 Oh my God.
01:51:27.640 Listen, they're going to love it.
01:51:29.040 Are you kidding me?
01:51:29.820 This is it.
01:51:30.340 I don't know.
01:51:31.440 Why?
01:51:32.200 This is-
01:51:32.620 It's so political.
01:51:34.540 Sure.
01:51:35.280 Also, people don't tune in to listen to me talk about politics.
01:51:38.640 They want to hear tea.
01:51:39.780 you know they're like can't you just shut up and dribble you know but no i disagree your audience
01:51:46.460 may be different we'll see i disagree i think people the feedback are are dying i think our
01:51:53.400 people are are starved for authenticity and by people they already feel a connection to
01:51:59.720 they want to hear more of what you have to think and more of what you have to say and more of how
01:52:05.780 you expand that to the universe. And I think the things you've said are so powerful and so
01:52:11.500 easy to connect to the average person. I think you underestimate how much power you actually
01:52:18.200 have in that realm. All right. But on that note, I'll talk her into more just so everybody knows
01:52:24.320 I'm talking her into at least, you know, at least the serving session. Absolutely. Thank you so much
01:52:32.000 for spending this time with us
01:52:34.100 and please tell me when you get lunch with Cynthia
01:52:36.260 and on that note guys
01:52:38.600 thank you for hanging out with us
01:52:40.000 and I will see you next week
01:52:41.860 same bat time, same bat channel
01:52:44.300 dismissed