00:02:34.180Stop using it as this card you're going to play.0.98
00:02:36.840And now I'm a real jerk because, and what I should understand, yeah, sure, sometimes0.98
00:02:42.300kids play cards to get out of gym or to get out of something. But what I need to understand,0.98
00:02:48.620and I really should have, this is just my own ignorance or forced ignorance. I don't know.
00:02:54.580What I really should understand is that the levels of pain that are associated with menstruation
00:02:59.060are wide, right? Some people get horrible, horrible pain and some people get absolutely
00:03:07.560nothing. And whether that horrible pain comes with endometriosis or not, um, is, is important
00:03:15.440that we acknowledge that it is pain. It's like, we're negating, I'm negating pain of these young
00:03:24.000individuals just because they're young. And I don't assume that, or just because they're young
00:03:28.560and I'm like, how bad could it be? Cause it wasn't bad when I was in grade seven. Right.
00:03:33.480and that's somebody i mean i i think i'm a little bit educated and i've been doing that forever
00:03:39.480like literally the first conversation we had about this i'm like oh i gotta stop doing that
00:03:45.560and it's only because we had that conversation yeah but i think that that's like that's part of
00:03:52.600the this delay to diagnosis is that there's if there's so many so much you know taboo and stigma
00:03:59.080around the idea of talking about you know menstrual health in general so like that's
00:04:03.560part of our goal it's like let's break down those barriers let's make it let's create spaces where
00:04:08.360folks are allowed to or feel freely to express whatever they're feeling and know that they're
00:04:14.440going to be met with compassion versus you know judgment or dismissal we know with like the endo
00:04:19.480community there's a stat where it's like um almost 80 of people that are living with endometriosis
00:04:26.920were met with dismissal and invalidation from their healthcare practitioners and being told
00:04:33.440that their pain was normal. So, okay. So let's, let's get into this part. So they go into their
00:04:38.780doctor. They say, I'm having horrible pain. And the doctor on the whole will say, take some Advil.
00:04:47.840Yeah. Yeah. And even knowing any stats, even knowing that this exists one in 10.
00:04:54.700yeah i think that's like that's a there's there's so many pieces to this puzzle and part of that
00:05:01.400piece is if if the first the frontline workers so like for example like like i live with the
00:05:07.320disease myself right and so the first time that sort of the symptoms were coming up for me i was
00:05:11.50011 and i went to my gp and i was told you know this is normal it's all in your head take a little
00:05:18.860bit of advil and that sticks with you right like the impact of that at the age of 11 i didn't get
00:05:25.300officially diagnosed until i was 27 so for those whole year like a huge chunk of my life i was
00:05:32.220being invalidated gaslit made to feel like i was crazy like i needed antidepressant like those
00:05:37.840were these were things that i was being pulled from my house someone that i should trust they
00:05:43.160said you needed antidepressants yeah because your stomach hurt during your period because it's in my
00:05:48.860head it's in my head and that and it's it's so devastating to hear that and what what is even
00:05:55.720more devastating is that this is such a common narrative with the endometriosis community there
00:06:00.180are so many folks that are going to their you know family physician their gp and explaining
00:06:07.040their symptoms and being invalidated and not and being made to feel like there's something
00:06:11.580wrong with them and not that there's actually a name to what's going on you know what were your
00:06:18.200symptoms and i know i'm assuming the symptoms range i read the list it's long um but what were
00:06:25.260what were your particular if you don't mind sharing yeah i know for sure um i think with
00:06:31.020with endometriosis absolutely there's you know a list of common symptoms but again like what you
00:06:35.600were just speaking to like pain shows up differently for every person right and so
00:06:39.900what work like what may be worse for me may not be worse for maybe you know something simple for
00:06:46.060somebody else right and so for for my experience it was like the moment that i got had my first
00:06:51.340period i was in severe pain i was you know hugging the toilet throwing up like you know
00:06:57.820like unfortunately my mom experienced the exact same periods and it was sort of like passed down
00:07:04.840right where she was like this is exactly what i went through and she normalized it she's like
00:07:09.040suck it up normalize it and not out of the fault of you know oh she didn't know herself it was that
00:07:15.540she went like she was telling me stories of like you know her grand like my grandma like back home0.93
00:07:21.540in ireland this is what grandma had as well and this is what we used this is what they used to do
00:07:25.360for her and so this is what they did for me and so this is now what i'm going to do for you hot
00:07:28.940water bottle curl up into a fetal position and that that's sort of like how i had to manage for
00:07:34.640first few years and there was numerous times where you know we would be going to emerge because it
00:07:40.080was like this is you know it's probably your appendix and that's sort of how it was like
00:07:44.160i was going to emerge all the time and being checked out by um you know emergency doctors
00:07:49.680that were like it's not your appendix and we don't know what to do for you so you went to emerge
00:07:54.800and they never thought to check your uterus you would have been on your period each and every time
00:08:01.440yeah they didn't keep a record uh oh this seems to happen and they didn't because i'm assuming
00:08:08.160the only way to check for this it was what an internal ultrasound so i mean the the sort of
00:08:17.280like the official way to to receive a diagnosis is through like surgery is through you know removing
00:08:24.560this issue and having it like for some folks it does show up on the other ultrasound it really
00:08:31.120again it's such an individual disease like now it sort of looks like you know if you have those like
00:08:37.200if you have those expert um practitioners on your side like within your healthcare team
00:08:43.920some of them may be able to pick it up for some folks it does show up on ultrasound but it's so
00:08:48.320few and far between and it's not really the best guide it's it's you know traditionally it was
00:08:54.160having these surgeries that would actually like remove the tissue send it off to pathology and
00:08:59.200then you would get that sort of like pathology report but now there's you know you can kind of
00:09:03.920do like a checklist of like if you're experiencing all of these symptoms then it more than likely
00:09:10.080could be that you have endometriosis and you know some folks can manage through hormonal medications
00:09:15.840but some folks you know can manage through having surgery and having that tissue removed but
00:09:20.240ultimately i think the sort of hardest part to wrap your mind around is the fact that it's a
00:09:26.560chronic disease and so some folks can have surgery and they can have relief right so it's yeah and
00:09:35.600even adding to that sorry so something that i learned so i don't have endometriosis
00:09:41.840i'm an ally and working within this space again same thing like ignorance i always assumed that
00:09:51.360it only lived in the uterus or in and around the reproductive organs that's what i just read
00:09:56.480what the heck do you mean it can go anywhere else in the body yeah can you explain that
00:10:01.280please because i read that and i went that i could get it in my elbow you got to explain that
00:10:06.320katie go for it um explain what it is and then explain why the hell it can migrate anywhere0.54
00:10:14.560yeah so basically it's it's tissue that is similar to the lining of your uterus that grows
00:10:20.400elsewhere in your body so it can it can be found in your pelvis you know it's been found in people's
00:10:26.960diaphragm it's it's now considered a whole body disease traditionally it was thought of as a
00:10:33.680reproductive disease and so just found in that area but it's not it's a whole body disease
00:10:39.200this is the way i envisioned it right you have your uterus and i just thought on the inside
00:10:44.880lining it was like a new cut which is what made your period so incredibly painful is that still
00:10:50.480true is that what makes your period painful they don't they don't like there's period pain can also
00:10:59.920be considered like dysmenorrhea i think it's like having those the the chunk of symptoms so for
00:11:04.640example like wait back up to that big word you just use what's dysmenorrhea dysmenorrhea is
00:11:10.720basically that word for like painful periods just in and of itself so some folks it's a fancy word
00:11:15.680for having a pain basically it's another one of those ones where we need like
00:11:22.160it's another one of those long words um but i think it's it's more so having that like so for
00:11:31.200example like so okay from from my lived experience right painful period pain with ovulation like
00:11:38.860two weeks out of every month absolutely the week of my period i was missing school i was at home
00:11:44.320rolled up in a ball the whole week no pain relief throwing up all day long like passing out like
00:11:51.340all and this is like i within my group of friends nobody had this within my like cousins nobody had
00:11:58.440this and so and already i'm feeling so isolated because i feel like something's wrong with me
00:12:03.440why can't i handle my period i'm seeing my friends that are getting their period and life goes on
00:12:09.040like it's not like whereas like when when it was hitting me it was like immediately i had to go
00:12:14.860home if i was at school i needed to leave if i was you know at the movie theater i needed to go
00:12:18.820there i remember i have vivid memories of like being in grade seven and eight and going to you
00:12:24.100know birthday parties and having like parents judge the fact that they thought that i was you
00:12:29.620know maybe drinking and that's the reason why i was throwing up and it was like no i'm throwing
00:12:33.780up because i have my i don't even know how to explain that to them yeah yeah nobody understands
00:12:38.820right well wait wait i still don't understand this tissue okay there's this tissue that's uterine
00:12:46.260tissue right it's similar it's similar to the lining yeah it's so it's similar to the lining
00:12:52.260and you tested it then they would be able to tell that it's flawed tissue what what do they tell
00:12:59.220when they take it out they say oh no it's not quite uterine tissue it's something else thus the pain
00:13:05.300it's basically i mean i'm not a doctor so i can't give you like the full so i wish i was in that
00:13:10.340sense to give you the full science right the doctor though but this is so this is a part of
00:13:15.860it right as well is that you actually learn like listening to some folks in the community and
00:13:20.980listening to the way and the words that they use to describe the pain i'm floored because i'm like
00:13:28.180you are you you become your own doctor because after so many years of having to be an advocate
00:13:34.020for yourself because nobody's advocating for katie nobody's advocating for other folks similar to0.54
00:13:39.540right so those people have to have to put on this magical hat this magical lab coat and start using
00:13:47.540these words to make themselves be taken seriously and that to me is so jarring because i have four
00:13:54.580children four boys four cis boys and i cannot imagine my eldest son who's going to be 16 this
00:14:01.780year using some of the vernacular that these folks have to use to explain their pain like that's just
00:14:07.060wild to me it's like why isn't it enough for a youth for a young person to walk into their
00:14:13.700doctor's office and say i'm in so much pain that that pain is making me throw up or i'm in so much
00:14:20.180pain that i can't stand up like why do we have to attach the big words so that that doctor then now
00:14:26.820validates that young person's feelings like that's that's a whole other issue in itself right i think
00:14:32.580that is the issue yeah i think the fact they don't have names for it they're they're not
00:14:37.700really describing it they're you know what i mean they're and the reason why you're creating this
00:14:42.260awareness i'm gonna say part and parcel isn't just about the public it's to motivate the medical
00:14:48.420community as a whole um and it's also to empower those individuals who are suffering with it i
00:14:55.140I think it's twofold. Number one, pain, judging pain, internal pain is near impossible.
00:15:04.420Right? Judging, how do we do that? How do we measure that? Right? The only way you can measure
00:15:11.080it really is by taking the individual's word for any pain, the individual's word for it. Now,
00:15:17.420we also know that different people have different levels of pain that they can take. Now, this is
00:15:23.740where we get into, you know, the difference and the societal difference about the weight we place
00:15:33.960and we have placed on women and people with uteruses associated diseases and what they should
00:15:40.120be able to handle and what the rest of the world should be able to handle, right? We've seen those
00:15:47.060TikToks or social media posts where guys will go and they'll get the thing put around their stomach
00:15:53.220and they'll, they'll jack it up to see how they can handle menstrual cramps. And they'll get to
00:16:00.720like, it's a one of 10, they'll get to like a five or a six, and they'll tap out for the most part,
00:16:05.480right? The amount of pain that people who bear children can handle has to be up here.
00:16:15.360Right? It has to be up here. Because if it wasn't up here, the human race would die tomorrow,0.99
00:16:20.660because we'd be like um no thank you i'm not doing that so since it's up here and since people who
00:16:28.900could give birth have such a high capacity for pain it's no different than your mom telling you
00:16:34.820well you just gotta have to you're just gonna take it because that's what we're built for
00:16:39.380we're built to take that kind of pain and then and then there's the whole why is it that0.51
00:16:46.180that illnesses that, you know, obviously impact women aren't getting the funding, the focus,
00:16:53.480the attention, the respect of other things, right? I think that's the twofold answer there. I think
00:17:02.860the, and a lot of it comes from how we don't educate the whole population. Like I love it
00:17:08.780in here. I think somewhere in here, it says, this is for people with uteruses and people who don't
00:17:15.200have them because you all have to be educated anyways. It's super important, right? So that
00:17:21.460the whole room understands, no matter who has the uterus or not, the whole room can understand
00:17:27.620this is a level of pain and chronic illness and all of these things that we need to talk about.
00:17:35.520We don't just need to push it aside and go, oh, don't talk to me about that. I don't want to
00:17:38.060know about your period. Get over it. Right? I think that's huge. And I don't know if,
00:17:44.680I feel like we're getting closer to it. I mean, I haven't helped me teach grade seven and eight
00:17:48.900health. Um, we're getting closer to it, you know, but it's, it's hard because you're, you're
00:17:57.340fighting. If you can get a group of people in a room and then try to educate them, you really
00:18:03.080got to get their attention. I think I told you guys a story where I had a kid in the back of my
00:18:08.080room playing on his phone. And I was talking about periods and, um, anybody who's already
00:18:13.980got in their period was kind of bored with my conversation. And some of the guys were sitting
00:18:18.800in the room and some of them were kind of interested in asking questions and other than
00:18:22.160were. And somebody said, you know, how long does it last? And I said, I don't know, like four to
00:18:27.000seven days, depending. And this guy dropped his phone in the middle of my class and
00:18:30.820they bleed for seven days. How do they not die? And I'm like, see, now I just have to start with
00:18:40.880that, I think. You've got to start with something like that. You can't do this in school, but those
00:18:48.260machines to talk about levels of pain is also somewhere to start and try to get... Because I
00:18:56.520don't think you can have... How in the world can you have empathy for something like that?
00:19:02.340Yeah, I think. But you just do, right? I think I speak only for myself and thinking back
00:19:10.700to when I was in high school. And I would like to sit here and say and raise my hand that I'm a very
00:19:17.040compassionate person. And those who know me well know how incredibly compassionate I am for things
00:19:23.620and, you know, whether they're healthcare related or not, the level of compassion I can have for
00:19:29.160people, even though it's not my lived experience. And at 16, I can say looking back, you know,
00:19:34.860many many years ago that I wish at that time I could tell my 16 year old self now to say hey
00:19:44.240remember when Julie used to miss school once a month for a whole week never in my 16 year old
00:19:51.920head did it clue in you know and I was a pretty compassionate 16 year old I like to say did it
00:19:58.860ever clue in to be like hey you missed school for a week like what happened to me it was like
00:20:04.540oh she got a period again I wouldn't judge her by any means but there was no like hey do you want
00:20:11.200my like notes so you can like help catch up because I can tell you for a fact all the teachers
00:20:16.980that we had because we had almost all the same classes were you miss school and it was about
00:20:22.040chastising and punishing and like now I'm not going to support you because I think you're
00:20:27.880missing school once a month for a week because like you want to miss this unit or you don't
00:20:32.220want to do this assignment or you know whatever the case may be there was never like a hold hold
00:20:37.080the phone why are you missing class right yeah but like what happened right so it's just like
00:20:46.040I think even though it's not your lived experience through education through awareness campaigns like
00:20:53.000the no endo campaign through the hashtag that we're using this is not normal this is life
00:20:57.800with endometriosis, we can help create that empathy. I live with five men in my house and
00:21:05.220I would, I'm so outnumbered by testosterone is unreal, you know, and are there times where they're
00:21:11.860more compassionate than not? Yeah, there are. Are there times where they like, you know, forget that
00:21:17.940I exist in the space? Sure, of course, you know, but all to say that I would hope my job here in
00:21:26.080my home living with the community that I live in that I've educated them enough that even though
00:21:33.200something does not happen to you directly doesn't mean that it's not happening to somebody and it
00:21:38.320doesn't mean that it's not impacting someone in some way shape or form we are a community we are
00:21:43.580a village and I will always stand by that so I think that even though we can't know what pain
00:21:50.740is like for me, to you, to Katie, we can educate and say, people feel pain differently. And it's
00:21:57.620really important to respect what someone is saying when they say that they're in pain.
00:22:03.680Do you think as a society, we're really quick to minimize anybody's pain? Unless I can see you in
00:22:13.420a cast, unless I know that you're in the hospital, do you think that we under, because I know exactly
00:22:20.080what you're talking about in schools obviously do you think we undervalue a lot of that because we
00:22:26.420always assume somebody's just playing up on it to sort of get get out of just like you said to get
00:22:32.820out of something to get you know and then when it comes to period pain because not everybody can
00:22:38.500experience it there's no there's no shared at least feeling uh somewhat you know do you think
00:22:47.020that we are very quick to undervalue it because we're like, well, I don't, it's weird. It's,
00:22:54.240it's almost like we're quick to say to other people, suck it up. I just feel like we are
00:22:59.620that culture. I just, I don't feel in general that we are very empathetic when it comes to
00:23:09.580pain period no pun intended um and then it just doubles when we talk about menstrual pain do you
00:23:19.320know what i mean i don't i don't know why that is i because it's so internal because there's no
00:23:25.200external measure you know and maybe we're getting a little bit invisible it's not visible but that's
00:23:32.860what it is right like it's like if i'm walking around with a cast on my arm or if i'm walking
00:23:37.140around with crutches let me open the door for that but you know do you know like when i talk
00:23:43.620about like the impact is like it's like every part of your life like if we hear sometimes like folks
00:23:49.780like um sitting on the bus and being curled over in pain and somebody else yelling at them like
00:23:55.940give up your seat because you're so young you shouldn't be taking that seat somebody else should
00:24:00.260be and chastising them in that sense and it's like this person like we don't know what individuals
00:24:06.180we're living it's very it comes from i think like that invisible piece same with mental health right
00:24:11.160like no one will ever take mental health as seriously because we can't wear a cast on our
00:24:16.180brain that says like i'm suffering with anxiety right now i'm suffering with depression right now
00:24:20.440like it's not and i always i'm so floored working within this space um like you know that the this
00:24:29.200sort of like wording that we're using of like whether you know endo or not you know someone
00:24:34.740that has endo yeah yeah and that person may not even know that they have endo because they're not
00:24:40.500they don't have that awareness they don't have that education around them to understand what it
00:24:44.580is that they're living through and that no this isn't normal missing school for having for your
00:24:48.900periods is not normal painful sex is and that's that's another thing too right like that's another
00:24:53.940symptom with endometriosis is painful sex and so if we can't even talk about what sex looks like
00:25:01.620what sex is different to everybody else having pain with that like if you don't if you're not
00:25:06.260in in immersed in spaces where you can there's space made for you to talk about your experience
00:25:12.980and what you're going through how can we ever understand and learn about this if like for me
00:25:18.340for years i was going i guess i never talked about it with my friends like my my you know
00:25:23.940that part of my life my intimacy and so i just held that in like i guess it's normal for me to0.65
00:25:28.900to throw up after I have sex. I guess it's normal for me to be curled over in pain like I'm cramping
00:25:33.760for three days afterwards because I just was intimate with someone. What? Okay, right. Is that
00:25:38.980because, and I'm going to ask a doctor question again, sorry, but is that because, you know,
00:25:45.640is that because the uterine tissue that is forming other places is on the vaginal wall,
00:25:52.520which is causing the pain? Because nobody's having sex in their uterus. I mean, you know,
00:25:58.900well that that's just the thing right it's that again there needs to be more education and
00:26:02.740understanding even from there needs to be more research even from the healthcare practitioner
00:26:06.980side they don't under they don't understand this disease they don't know why it happens
00:26:11.060and there's no cure for this disease but it affects two million people in this country
00:26:16.340i'm assuming it's an inflammatory response which is why you throw up which is why you you know go
00:26:23.860go to the washroom, which is, I'm just guessing, I'm guessing that anything, any tissue or foreign
00:26:31.180body that's not supposed to be somewhere causes your body to inflame. And as soon as you're
00:26:36.680causing your body to inflame, there are painful responses to inflammation. I think inflammation
00:26:42.280is probably one of our biggest problems. And that can cause a whole bunch of different things.
00:26:47.200And so that's my guess. But yeah, I mean, if you're saying to me they can't even answer that question, then this project that you guys are doing, sure, is to educate young people and people with it and people without and all of that to raise awareness.
00:27:09.400but the point of raising awareness isn't to give them you know a community is to give them a voice
00:27:14.840because somebody's not putting in the time where the hell's the research understanding is that's
00:27:23.000that's like part of part of this whole push is that there's so many pieces to this puzzle right
00:27:29.000one we have we have the expertise here in canada but the the folks that have that expertise the
00:27:35.800researchers they're not getting funded for the research here in canada our our uh our surgeons
00:27:41.960here in canada are fighting their own battles within their hospitals to say i need operating
00:27:48.200time for my patients and the hospitals are going but this isn't this isn't a debilitating like
00:27:55.640the hospitals are fighting back going there's no need for this there's patients that there's other
00:28:01.160diseases that are more important than people living with endometriosis so this is the only
00:28:06.280this is you only get two days a month to do surgery like you know what i mean like it's it's
00:28:11.080it's there's so many layers of this well that's my it has to be the biggest that has to be the
00:28:16.440biggest layer so if okay let's say that somebody thinks that i have endometriosis we've kind of
00:28:21.800gone through all of those stages i've listed off all the common symptoms and they say that that's
00:28:27.000about 5.4 years on average yeah what do you mean that's how long it takes you get the surgery
00:28:33.160so no that's how long yeah go ahead katie no no no go ahead no like that like for an average for
00:28:39.720some folks it is an average of five years before you even get like a diagnosis sometimes 20 years
00:28:46.040but then there's a wait time to get like that just because you get that diagnosis there's still it's
00:28:50.840a lifelong journey right so then there's like sometimes it takes an average of three doctors
00:28:55.640before you're even like before that before that one doctor where that person actually listens to
00:29:00.920you and goes like i'm gonna investigate let's send you off to here like and start you on that path
00:29:05.400like when i from my own lived experience when i finally met my like my surgeon that i'm working
00:29:12.920with now and i sat in his room for two hours and he just listened and took notes and was compassionate
00:29:20.840i i cried afterwards because i was like this is what a this is what a doctor's experience
00:29:25.720is supposed to like there's so much medical trauma that gets added in there of like you
00:29:30.200don't know who to trust at the end of the day is that a doctor in toronto uh he's in vaughn right
00:29:36.120now but yeah like a gpa doctor um but that experience right where it's like i was floored
00:29:43.320that he took the time to listen to me that he was compassionate that he had some and that it also
00:29:48.680there's again like there's so many layers right for folks that are living with this disease
00:29:53.320when you are going to these people that you're trusting they're telling you like like just get
00:30:00.360pregnant and that'll solve your problem well one what if that person that's going in there doesn't
00:30:05.320want to get pregnant just pause for one second you're having all of this horrific pain you're
00:30:14.040You're having pain when you have your period, before you have your period, when you have sex.0.97
00:30:19.120You're throwing up after having sex.0.93
00:30:22.300And you had a doctor, after listening to you say that, look you dead in your face and say, just get pregnant.1.00