Unlearn16: Class is in Session - The One Where I Give Solicited Car Advice

00:00:00.000 class is in session all right listen we've come to the we are bringing the podcast to you

00:00:08.740 as i want to run into 7-eleven and get slushies and treats she's just gonna have a water or

00:00:15.480 something like that why is there a grid all over our phone did you do something funny that was

00:00:19.660 your that's your phone i don't think i did this guys we we are are gonna answer all of your

00:00:25.240 questions all of these questions that you've given us we're gonna go one by one by one and

00:00:29.380 answer all the advice questions having said that look at this curl we're gonna do it with that kind

00:00:35.840 of add and and we just had like a 20 minute discussion banter maybe a little bit of a

00:00:43.140 chicken fight over how to adjust this and keep it here and then she just hands it to me and said you

00:00:47.840 do it well because she kept saying i was doing it wrong but i wasn't falling i wasn't doing it wrong

00:00:53.980 it's because no it's because last time we did this we were in my car so the positioning of it

00:01:00.060 was different and i had positioned our stand the same way that i would in my car it just wasn't

00:01:04.560 working in your car but why would you think things are the same for your car and my well i would just

00:01:09.900 think that i could use the stand the same way onwards and upwards i hope you guys don't ask

00:01:15.660 a lot of relationship questions because i don't know if we have those answers are you ready let's

00:01:19.900 here we go okay guys listen 7-eleven not for the faint of heart everybody the power went out at

00:01:26.740 our house so i can't we couldn't film this at the house so we got to come out here and film

00:01:30.940 podcast as we're driving around as we're driving around i get a text and calls from my mom saying

00:01:38.680 the power went out i said i realized she goes and she's in a panic i said mom what do you want me to

00:01:42.600 do i can't turn the power back on and she goes but there's this clicking noise i said i think

00:01:46.780 it's your chair lift go shut it off so she says oh okay so she goes to shut it off so of course

00:01:51.580 when she goes to shut it off presley gets out right up the stairs of course to the cat food

00:01:56.380 but he doesn't really go to the cat food now my mom's not super mobile so she can't get she can't

00:02:00.680 race after him she can't wrestle him down and she goes up he bypasses the cat food because what

00:02:06.020 really upsets him is this clicking noise and this clicking noise he thinks is coming from our

00:02:11.020 backyard. So he goes right to the back and starts barking. And by the way, I'm on hold the whole

00:02:17.800 time. And Hannah's like, can we hang up? I said, I don't think so. And we're hearing the click,

00:02:23.140 click, click because she didn't shut that off. We're hearing him bark upstairs. We're hearing

00:02:26.560 my mom saying, Presley. I'm exhausted. And then we came to 7-Eleven. You want to know what the

00:02:33.540 horrible thing about 7-Eleven is today, guys? Let me tell you. It's a paper straw for a slushie.

00:02:41.020 those who can't see it paper it looks like a candy cane so it looks like candy cane but guys it's a

00:02:46.300 paper i'm going to be showing you what i'm eating as we go along with our little expedition the

00:02:51.020 first thing i'm going to tell you i got is a coke slushie i wanted a blue one but they do a sour

00:02:56.300 blue in 7-eleven not a real blue also lime green's the best so said nobody ever right you all sent

00:03:05.580 us a bunch of questions you all and we're gonna answer some actually it was more of we asked for

00:03:11.820 if you need advice for something so first one which i think is hilarious like you all think

00:03:16.980 i have any answers to anything i'm really upset about this paper straw i'll tell you right now

00:03:21.140 what's something you used to believe about relationships but no longer do

00:03:25.220 go ahead you first why was that funny because i thought you're just gonna make a boy joke

00:03:34.300 you don't date boys i don't no boys that's what you used to believe but you no longer it's true

00:03:41.680 what do you mean like for myself sure yeah i used to date boys and i and now i don't

00:03:48.340 yeah well they want to know what i think they're asking what lessons have you gleaned

00:03:54.660 gleaned gleaned gleaned gleaned okay you go first because i don't think i i have an answer you don't

00:04:02.280 learn any lessons? My lesson is this, having a boundary for yourself. That's so funny because

00:04:09.660 I was about to yell out boundaries. Having a personal boundary, knowing what you need out

00:04:17.780 of a relationship, knowing, you know, the lines that you draw in a healthy way for a relationship

00:04:24.700 and for a partner and for your, more importantly, for yourself, I think is super, super important.

00:04:29.080 And I used to think that love meant you had to do anything that person ever needed.

00:04:34.560 Like if they were feeling like you just loved more and more and more and did everything to your own detriment, if need be.

00:04:42.340 And the unfortunate part of that is I thought that in a relationship, you could kind of fix the other person.

00:04:49.580 Like if the other person's gone through trauma or the other person's gone through whatever, I thought the more I did, the better it would get.

00:04:55.800 And that's not the case.

00:04:56.900 the more I did, when I didn't have a healthy boundary, when I didn't understand what love

00:05:01.480 really looked like, the more I did, the more I was pulled into dysfunction, the more I was pulled

00:05:06.840 into like different kind of, you know, a bad circumstance where I didn't want to be where I

00:05:13.500 lost myself. And I never got that. And I, I talked to my mom about this all the time, because a lot

00:05:19.300 of people think we will we do we learn everything for our parents, right. And that one, loving like

00:05:26.420 that no boundaries nobody can do wrong enough for me to walk away that's not okay and I blame my mom

00:05:33.580 oh I do it with love but you did you did pretty good today because we need to clean the house and

00:05:39.920 you didn't really feel like cleaning the house but we cleaned the house and then we did we also

00:05:44.140 did the fridge so good job what does that have to do with boundaries what I cleaned the house today

00:05:50.340 but like we both cleaned the house today together and then on top of that you had a headache and I

00:05:55.380 said we haven't done the fridge yet we have to go do the fridge and then you didn't want to go do

00:05:59.200 the fridge but then eventually you came down and did the fridge with me guys i i have no it's true

00:06:08.200 i did the fridge what what is that is that a boundary is that a lack of boundaries no is that

00:06:14.740 what you've cleaned that i get up and clean the fridge no i'm just by the way it's not garbage 0.96

00:06:19.340 day you should never clean the fridge a week before garbage day it's stupid i'm just saying 0.58

00:06:25.460 that it's not i did it um it's not about not doing anything oh like you mean boundaries it's not about 0.92

00:06:33.720 not compromising it's not about a hundred percent when you say you have when i say that i have

00:06:38.280 boundaries you need to develop boundaries what i'm also not saying is you don't have to be like 0.74

00:06:43.560 a jackass who never does anything for anybody ever that that maybe is not something you want 0.51

00:06:49.120 to do that's not what I'm talking about I'm talking about just very healthy lines about 0.97

00:06:54.640 what's okay and what's not okay and I think that's really hard to figure out when you're young

00:06:59.340 um yeah and it's one thing to have boundaries but I also know a couple people who have boundaries

00:07:06.940 but then like won't tell their partners what the boundaries are so then when the person like

00:07:11.520 crosses the boundaries or whatever then they get upset at it and they're like that's my boundary

00:07:15.020 you and i was like okay but did you tell them and then because some people are like you don't owe

00:07:20.220 anybody an explanation which i don't necessarily believe that i feel like if you're in a relationship

00:07:25.620 with someone you gotta talk about it i think it's perfect yeah i think you have to talk about your

00:07:30.540 boundary i think talking about the more you can talk with your partner about your boundaries about

00:07:35.360 who you are why you are who you are what built you the more you can understand one another and

00:07:41.140 and the most important part the more you can understand you know if it's going to work or not

00:07:47.060 because rather than contorting yourself into 50 000 different kinds of people to make somebody

00:07:52.020 else happy you kind of put you on the table they put them on the table you see if you fit

00:07:57.460 right but jamming puzzle pieces in that's never going to work for very long

00:08:02.020 what's your favorite drink of all time okay i'm holding up my favorite i do they mean drink drink

00:08:09.300 or like fun like just any drink we don't drink alcohol but i would say i i'm a big fan of a blue

00:08:16.260 slushy if i was to say any drink if i could pull any drink you can have any drink you want right

00:08:21.700 now i'd probably go the blue slushy i know i have coke right now but the blue icy place i don't eat

00:08:27.060 sugar anymore so if i'm going back if i'm going back in the days when i drank when i had sugar

00:08:35.620 i would say maybe a chocolate or strawberry milkshake but now that i don't probably a v8

00:08:45.380 a v8 mm-hmm i like the eight you want ripley the v8 and water that's the saddest i like lime

00:08:53.380 buble that's the saddest list that's not sad it's a great list oh that was cold oh i have my next

00:09:02.340 thing that i'm going to put on you guys keep asking questions should my son stay at residence

00:09:07.060 or live at home for university oh that's a good one i've just been having this conversation with

00:09:14.020 lots of different parents actually because the reality is university ontario is like seven

00:09:20.260 thousand dollars tuition and then fifteen thousand dollars is living away from home so two things

00:09:28.340 if you're concerned about money which i feel like we all are um you know and you don't have that

00:09:36.260 money or if you don't have that money you're going to be taking out a loan to live away from home

00:09:43.300 i'm not into it that rhyme though because that that's like 60 grand for three four years of a

00:09:49.620 of debt just so you don't have to live at home if you have a healthy good home life because i know

00:09:55.140 a lot of kids have to leave and you have universities in you know manageable traveling

00:10:00.180 distance i think it makes sense to stay at home and here's the hard part parents because you're

00:10:06.820 not going to like this part you have to start renegotiating how you live together in that home

00:10:14.500 so your 18 19 year old 20 year old gets to become more of an adult because that's the whole point of

00:10:21.140 living on your own is to become an adult you can't treat them like they're 16 anymore

00:10:25.140 right? And so I think that part's important. I think that maturing is important. Having

00:10:31.240 accountability is important. But I wouldn't go in debt for 60 grand just to live in residence

00:10:38.440 and live away. I think you should try to put that on. Look what I have, guys. For those who can't

00:10:43.300 see it, I have an authentic candy necklace. It's not going to fit over your head. You have to

00:10:50.000 untie it. What do you mean? You don't untie it. It's supposed to just stretch over your head.

00:10:53.580 it's not going to i'm gonna make it carry on what's your what's your fitness routine my fitness

00:11:00.940 routine is trying to stretch this candy cane thing over my head hold on you answer the question oh

00:11:05.420 my gosh if that snaps you're gonna have i don't think you're supposed to wear this upsetting

00:11:12.220 you're gonna have pieces of candy all over your car and then you know what that means

00:11:16.620 ants you're gonna get ants oh my gosh the answer to that is we guys if you're watching this if

00:11:24.380 you're not watching this please go over youtube because this is a this is a dangerous what do

00:11:30.940 you recommend for couples that have different hobbies and musical tastes guys oh look at this

00:11:42.540 it's like a fashion statement do you remember in like 1992 we all wore these kind of things hold

00:11:46.940 on let me bite one off kind of reminds me of those uh yeah yes that um surfers wear and stuff yeah

00:11:55.420 like coral fantastic what's the question um i can't remember that something about guys you

00:12:03.980 really have to watch me pull this thing over my head what do you recommend for couples that have

00:12:07.660 different hobbies and musical tastes it's literally our life i'll let you uh take a swing at that

00:12:15.740 wait you didn't you didn't say anything about the kid going away to university

00:12:19.980 i mean does he really need to go to university we're gonna edit that out later i'm joking um

00:12:27.340 the i don't know what i um i don't know we we just do sometimes sometimes you'll do something

00:12:34.060 i like sometimes i'll do something you like and most of the time we just each do what we own what

00:12:39.100 we each individual oh my gosh i can't say this is how it works joe likes and and then i'll do what

00:12:45.180 i like by myself like that or we do i put on a show that i like and she suffers through it and

00:12:51.340 then she puts on a show that she likes and that i suffer through it music we're not like we won't

00:12:57.500 like justin there we have more probably commonalities in what you'd put on with music

00:13:03.340 no but she has some hard passes i'm not going to tell them on here because it's just rude to the

00:13:07.980 artist like there's at least three or four artists that i'm like in in a good my top 20 and i'll put

00:13:14.780 them on us you'll be like oh no yeah if we're like in the car and it's radio then we kind of just

00:13:22.780 kind of listen to what's on the thing or we just turn it off i'll put on 98.5 want to know what

00:13:30.460 98.5 is the best of the 70s 80s and 90s what anna does when she's switching through first she skips

00:13:37.820 it so she never even first of all she's wrong um the that's not the station um 97.3 see

00:13:48.620 because 90 i didn't listen to 98.5 and i knew that boom 97.3 but anyways um yeah i'll skip that one

00:13:56.300 every once in a while she gets mad that i skip it so she goes back to it and then we listen to a

00:14:00.620 couple songs from there and then i switch it to the next but we mainly just listen to dot 40 but

00:14:06.360 the reason why i don't think that there's a huge like fight situation is because we're not the

00:14:12.120 kind of people to put music on at home and just listen to music like we don't just have music

00:14:17.700 playing because if we did then that would be a problem it would be if we have more tv but we

00:14:21.920 Just so you all know, we disagree on every movie and television you ever made, too.

00:14:27.180 Anna and I fundamentally disagree on everything.

00:14:30.580 Now, the stuff we like to do, she would do more physical things.

00:14:34.920 Like, she'd have me on rollerblades more.

00:14:36.620 She'd have me doing, like, but I don't mind doing those things.

00:14:40.100 It's just not necessarily, it's not like, oh, I know.

00:14:43.100 Today, let's go for an eight-kilometer bike ride.

00:14:45.640 I don't think like that.

00:14:47.580 I think more in terms of, let's watch eight episodes of Buffy.

00:14:51.920 Guys, I'm going to try something.

00:14:55.040 I'm going to wait, though.

00:14:56.240 Just stick around because I'm going to try something I've never tried before,

00:14:59.580 and I want you guys to be here for the first time I've tried it.

00:15:02.220 But everybody who grew up in the 80s, please go get yourself a candy necklace.

00:15:05.820 What?

00:15:06.660 Okay, so now we both wear necklaces all the time.

00:15:08.920 What's the meaning behind your necklaces?

00:15:10.780 I'll tell them the meaning behind mine.

00:15:12.860 All right.

00:15:14.040 I have a St. Christopher on the long necklace,

00:15:17.380 and a St. Christopher on the short necklace,

00:15:20.200 St. Michael on the long one.

00:15:21.920 The St. Christopher was because my aunt, my grandma's, actually my grandma's cousin, my Aunt Gwen, called her aunt,

00:15:30.280 she gave me St. Christopher stuff a very long time ago, and I just loved it because I loved her so much.

00:15:35.940 Then when I started to surf, all the surfers wore St. Christopher.

00:15:39.420 He's the patron saint of travelers, so I was gifted one then, so I just kind of liked it.

00:15:44.420 And then, here's the clincher, I heard the story.

00:15:48.560 And the story, I'll sum up, of St. Christopher was,

00:15:51.920 in order to be a saint, you have to perform three miracles,

00:15:56.560 and then the Pope lets you in.

00:15:58.400 Kind of like, saints you.

00:16:01.380 Well, St. Christopher got let in, and then there was a new Pope,

00:16:04.220 and the new Pope said, hey, that wasn't a miracle, get out, and kicked him out.

00:16:07.880 And then the whole Papal Invaluability Act was passed,

00:16:10.800 which was when the Protestant Reformation was happening,

00:16:13.000 and the Catholics were losing all these people.

00:16:14.620 and the Papal Invaluability Act said that the Pope could never be wrong.

00:16:18.520 So they had to let St. Christopher back into the saint club.

00:16:23.360 But I love the controversy because the fact that he's in means a Pope was wrong.

00:16:29.760 They're just pretending it didn't exist. 0.64

00:16:32.000 And I love the hypocrisy.

00:16:34.800 St. Michael, I went to Mont-Saint-Michel off the coast of Normandy,

00:16:38.100 which is the most beautiful place I've ever seen.

00:16:40.400 If you've never seen it, go Google it right now.

00:16:42.300 Mont-Saint-Michel off the coast of Normandy, France.

00:16:44.620 absolutely gorgeous spent the night there wandered around i mean i think that's where beauty and the

00:16:50.840 beast actually took place it didn't and i and there was the this um red rose flower bush that

00:16:57.320 i saw there i'm just like i just this is the most magical place i've ever seen cobblestone streets

00:17:02.200 and very very cool i have tiger eye around my neck and i've got rose quartz so rose quartz it's like

00:17:11.060 all the all the loves like the love that you put out to the world the love that you take in from

00:17:18.340 the world and then self-love so it's just love that I would like to you know keep around me and

00:17:26.440 attract and just have everything nice and calm and in a positive way and then tiger eye the first

00:17:33.660 time that I heard about tiger eye the way that it was phrased was it like it puts you in the right

00:17:39.440 place at the right time and since then I've like searched up the actual meaning and most of it says

00:17:44.740 protection and things like that but I still choose to believe that it is like right place right time

00:17:51.820 gives you the courage to do what you're supposed to do in that moment um but also when it comes

00:17:56.680 to crystals I believe that the intention that you put into it and the energy that you put into it

00:18:02.040 that's the vibration that you're going to be vibrating at and the a okay the a my aunt gave

00:18:09.480 me this a awesome astounding oh wow keep anthropomorphic what does that even mean anthropomorphic

00:18:24.360 i think it's when you like when an inanimate object has takes on real people no takes on

00:18:31.720 animal qualities i think anthropomorphize i'm taking an animal object and give it personal

00:18:40.760 human qualities is that right i don't know i don't know continue i'm telling you paper straw

00:18:47.320 in a slushie zero out of ten um i don't have an answer to this because i don't have any but what

00:18:53.640 was your first tattoo i have unlearned if you're again if you're watching you're gonna get flashed

00:18:58.920 you ready i have unlearned right all all on my side it was the first thing i ever did i was 33

00:19:07.720 i designed it myself so if you're not watching the youtube go watch the youtube real quick so

00:19:11.560 you can see that um i designed it i drew it out for a whole year straight and on my 33rd birthday

00:19:19.800 i went and got it done wow and my mom had to come first and check out the um studio

00:19:26.040 uh because the one thing my mom doesn't want me to do two things get attached animagus

00:19:31.880 what animagus is when a person turns into no an animal but that's not what i was talking

00:19:37.160 and light lichen thorpe i think is when it's a werewolf that's not well that's not what i was

00:19:42.440 talking about anyways my mom came and checked out the tattoo parlor and said it was clean

00:19:49.080 and she found out they used the same machine to sterilize equipment that they used at the hospital

00:19:55.560 So she was good.

00:19:56.520 That I wasn't good at hepatitis.

00:19:58.180 Oh, wow.

00:19:59.080 That's where her big worry was.

00:20:00.800 Continue.

00:20:01.280 All right, go ahead.

00:20:01.920 Show them what you got.

00:20:02.740 Okay, guys.

00:20:03.340 I got a Charleston Chew.

00:20:06.600 I have never had a Charleston Chew.

00:20:08.560 I'm not even going to read what it says.

00:20:10.300 I am just going to eat it and then give you my rating.

00:20:13.940 It is a chocolate bar.

00:20:14.880 Are you excited to watch the new Willy Wonka?

00:20:19.820 I don't know.

00:20:21.560 Uh-oh.

00:20:22.000 It's kind of melted.

00:20:24.600 It's hot in the car, guys.

00:20:27.160 Again, there's no power at the house, so we had to go.

00:20:29.480 That looks pretty good.

00:20:30.820 This is what it looks like.

00:20:32.280 Here we go.

00:20:34.240 No crunch.

00:20:35.280 No crunch.

00:20:36.420 Caramel?

00:20:38.020 No get.

00:20:40.020 No get. 0.81

00:20:41.640 What the hell is in a Charleston chew? 0.65

00:20:44.360 I don't know.

00:20:45.900 That looks like maybe fudge.

00:20:47.640 Is it like fudge?

00:20:48.820 I don't like it.

00:20:49.940 Oh, really?

00:20:50.560 Well, hold on.

00:20:52.580 I'm going to read what's in it.

00:20:54.600 a lot of fat um artificially flavored oh that's a shocker it doesn't tell you what's in it

00:21:02.380 oh nugget and chocolate what's nugget i don't know there's no crunch there's no nugget no it

00:21:12.840 just looks like fudge covered in chocolate too much i don't like it is it very sugary

00:21:20.580 i wanted to get an eat more but then i got this i'm gonna go get an eat more this this zero time

00:21:29.000 all right um i'm excited to go watch the new wonka movie because it's the precursor

00:21:34.840 so like you get to know how wonka actually became wonka

00:21:38.980 okay continue what's your next question my next question is is you guys ever had an eat more 0.96

00:21:46.540 cereal soup no don't be ridiculous don't even talk to me about the the the gazpacho gazpacho 0.95

00:21:55.480 gestapo no i don't even know what you're saying marjorie taylor green has screwed that up forever 0.97

00:22:03.120 because she called the gestapo is the military secret police gestapo gazpacho is like a cold

00:22:13.900 soup so when you say it's not soup because it's not hot everybody goes well it's gazpacho

00:22:19.900 first of all i've never had it second of all yeah me either i've never even seen it i don't

00:22:25.020 even know what gazpacho is cereal is a breakfast food and if you're eating at night that's fine

00:22:31.020 but nobody ever says you're having you're having cereal for dinner you're having breakfast for

00:22:35.100 dinner because everybody knows that's a breakfast food it needs its own delineation some people do

00:22:42.220 Bacon's not a nighttime meal.

00:22:44.320 People do say you're having cereal for dinner.

00:22:47.700 Yeah, but it's breakfast.

00:22:49.400 Everybody knows it's out of place.

00:22:51.200 Everybody knows that cereal is breakfast time.

00:22:55.060 And if you're having it for dinner, you're breaking some rules.

00:22:58.640 I feel like everybody should just be able to do what they want in life.

00:23:03.900 Now, is it soup?

00:23:04.600 I'm just saying it's not a soup.

00:23:07.140 I don't know.

00:23:07.760 Have you ever had sweet soup?

00:23:09.460 Do you have any money?

00:23:10.360 I want to get to eat more.

00:23:11.680 this is gross i didn't bring anything with me today okay stand by i'm gonna get some money

00:23:16.560 uh anna will talk to you about soup you go right ahead oh i have a tuna in here the amount of time

00:23:23.360 that it took you to get all this i'm not talking to them all by myself for the next 10 minutes

00:23:27.600 okay we will now take a station break you please go grab your favorite chocolate bar your favorite

00:23:34.000 drink or your favorite candy and then come on back and i'll come back with a much better chocolate

00:23:39.120 bar than this charleston shoe i'm not a fan and we're back i got two things yes well a chicken

00:23:50.640 taquito because i had three dollars left over and that's exactly how much these things are if you

00:23:56.160 never had a chicken taquito from 7-eleven i'm surprised you're still hungry like we ate a big

00:24:01.120 dinner oh that's it we had burger patties and corn but you had two you had two burger patties

00:24:09.000 and two corns now i'm having a chicken taquito what's our next question baby wait till you guys

00:24:15.300 see the dessert i got how's everybody doing today how many chicken taquitos have you had i don't get

00:24:21.720 the extra spicy ones i don't know why i'm not investing in a 7-eleven guys i need to know are

00:24:27.200 Are the 7-Elevens where you live the most busy places on the planet?

00:24:30.980 Because this one, somebody just got, they have three boxes.

00:24:35.900 And they have six Slurpees, slushies, big ones, in each one.

00:24:40.980 And they're carrying it out to like a Slurpee party somewhere here.

00:24:44.440 What's the one thing that we fight most about?

00:24:50.480 Driving.

00:24:51.520 Driving? I was going to say toilet paper.

00:24:53.860 Oh, you always tell me I'm a bad driver.

00:24:55.700 drive your car bad i make it go too fast i don't i need to be careful be gentle she says it's true

00:25:02.120 it's like every time she drives my car there's always like a risk of something happening like

00:25:08.620 a while back she parked the car and it was like way crooked way too close to the line like it was

00:25:16.700 anyways and i should have stuck to my guts but i didn't and i stuck to your standby stuck to

00:25:22.260 your guts yeah no you stuck to your you stick to your guns not to your guts no I think you stick to

00:25:29.920 my gut it stick to your guns not your guts anyways I should have stopped my guts and reparked the car

00:25:38.840 because I asked her to repark the car and she's like no it's fine but if you want to repark the

00:25:43.220 car you can I left her and it's her opportunity and then and then I didn't and I was like fine

00:25:48.620 and then when i came back my car was scratched like big time scratched that was true but it

00:25:56.020 still was the other car's fault no it was yours because you weren't parked properly i i love how

00:26:01.240 you said it was like so crooked i was still in the lines i was closer to one side i knew that

00:26:05.360 if someone needed to pull out that was gonna scratch for sure by the way in the same parking

00:26:11.200 lot i parked my car in the lines everything was perfect and somebody driving an incredible hulk

00:26:16.500 vehicle ripped off my bumper also true bad parking lot oshawa center um i don't know i don't know i

00:26:27.280 mean i don't think we really fight about a lot of things i do think we both like monotony of

00:26:35.360 different kinds and sometimes her monotony and my monotony right but like i like lying in bed

00:26:43.840 doing nothing and is like get up i need to make the bed or um well i don't necessarily know if

00:26:49.840 it's like i mean yeah i know i do say get up i need to make the bed but her like even if we're

00:26:54.800 just having like a chilled in we don't want to do anything i would still rather not do anything but

00:26:59.620 like my not do anything is go for a walk my not do anything is not doing anything yeah you should

00:27:06.000 say you want to just go for a walk today not get my hopes up by saying joe i don't want to do

00:27:11.320 anything today and then uh half hour later you say baby get dressed we go for a walk i said well

00:27:15.580 we weren't doing anything today that's a thing next question what was that oh what we fight over

00:27:21.980 yeah i i mean we don't really fight except for that chicken chicken that was a big one um how

00:27:31.080 do we decide closet space we each have our own even steven you have one side of the closet no i

00:27:37.860 i made it even steven pretty much i have an extra little closet yeah but you have a lot like that

00:27:48.060 bigger closet but it's like badly spaced the problem with that closet is i could have so many

00:27:54.180 more things in there to where i don't need to like put stuff in the podcast room if the door just

00:27:59.400 opened out it's just really weird why they need the door opens in so i can't have anything as the

00:28:05.580 in the door space so it just makes it hard for me to put stuff in there yeah it doesn't make sense

00:28:11.140 why have a door open into a closet it's dumb so what ends up happening is like it's a deep closet

00:28:16.600 so you can have stuff on either side and then at the back but you can't because you have to open 0.99

00:28:20.540 up the stupid door inside the closet that was a building error i'm sure i could call somebody 0.75

00:28:26.400 about that but the house had been built for a while so oh that was a great taquito by the way 0.98

00:28:34.120 guys just so you know stick around for the chocolate bar but i think i think that's what's

00:28:39.120 our skincare but other than that oh skincare regimen baby what's your skincare regimen

00:28:44.040 i use irish my favorite the blue soap

00:28:48.700 that's it that's your skincare regimen toxic blue soap irish spring nobody said it was toxic

00:28:57.720 everybody says it's toxic do you even put cream on your face yeah in the morning well what kind

00:29:03.000 cream to use vaseline but you put actual vaseline on your face it's like a cream vaseline oh oh

00:29:10.920 oh that's the vaseline the brand but not like that not like the petroleum jelly stuff you scoop out

00:29:15.640 of the vaseline container no but i'm pretty sure it has vaseline in it yeah but it's a cream for

00:29:21.880 your face i use on my face i use um i used to use tea tree oil or tea tree oil face wash from uh

00:29:31.960 uh what's that called what's that place in the mall with the nice body shop and then i switched

00:29:40.980 to because stacy green live and told me to i switched to beauty counter charcoal bar of soap

00:29:47.340 that i wash my face with and beauty counter um face cream and that's all i use that's what i do

00:29:54.460 now the key is though i think when people talk about skincare neither of us have ever smoked

00:29:59.340 neither of us drink um i don't wear makeup so i think that really helps you know what i mean

00:30:07.020 because makeup is hard on your face like putting it on and it's you know it's not the best for

00:30:11.260 your face and taking it off and all that kind of stuff i put eyeliner on for a podcast i did

00:30:15.880 not too long ago he gave me a wipe to wipe it off with i thought it was gonna burn right into my

00:30:22.240 retina he's like yeah it has some alcohol in it to get the makeup off i go well this is a horrible

00:30:26.840 experience i don't want anything to do with this is this it i think that's a fitness routine did

00:30:33.580 you ever answer your fitness routine yeah i said we don't have any well you work you work out more

00:30:38.620 i'll run and do setups but it has to hit me and i'll be like all right i'm doing it um i'm gonna

00:30:48.360 answer some more because she skipped over some will we visit florida yes as soon as you kick

00:30:52.900 out ron desantis or you promise that i can have a sit down and really put that individual in his

00:30:57.520 space i would love nothing more i will drive down right now to give him a good talking to but i used

00:31:03.360 to drive to florida every year for like 16 years with my mom my grandmother some of the most

00:31:08.100 ridiculous funny stories happened then my fitness routine that guy looks like kanye west by the way

00:31:14.420 i don't think it is is kanye driving a dented toyota could you imagine could be that could be

00:31:19.320 where he's at right about now um so my fitness routine was always team sports I am awful at

00:31:27.000 having a fitness routine that isn't team related because I don't see the point I don't like

00:31:33.060 fitness I know I should be motivated and fitness should be your own thing and I am trying to

00:31:38.100 understand that wrap my head around that because I honestly believe that the more mobile you are

00:31:43.580 you just keep your body in general health not i have no desire to be like you know up here i just

00:31:49.820 mean the more mobile you can keep your body the more the stretching and all of that that you can

00:31:55.180 do when you're 80 85 90 years old the lack of mobility won't be the thing that causes your

00:32:04.300 body to start shutting down in other ways right like to stave off osteo what's it called porosis

00:32:12.380 osteoporosis and arthritis and all of those things right i think though that's really really

00:32:19.980 important and nobody we're not going to understand that i kind of understand that but i feel like we

00:32:24.060 wait too long you know my mom has a lot of arthritis i know i'm genetically predisposed

00:32:31.420 so i should be stretching more i should be doing all of those things more in order to make sure

00:32:36.940 that when I'm older, I don't become sedentary. You become sedentary and pneumonia and all of

00:32:42.860 those horrible things get you. What's your best advice for somebody to make the decision to access

00:32:49.720 therapy? Do it. Don't think about it. Do it. Here's what I will say. A therapist is like finding a

00:32:57.680 best friend. So if you think you're going to walk into a therapist and be like, this is the perfect

00:33:03.280 person um i think that's pretty short-sighted i think a lot of people walk in and they don't find 0.96

00:33:09.040 somebody they connect to or they like or whatever they say oh therapy's crap especially if you're 0.93

00:33:13.760 predisposed like my family is to already like talking yourself out of it in the first place 0.53

00:33:19.600 i think it's really really hard to find somebody that fits with you on that note sometimes

00:33:25.360 therapists say things we don't want to hear so you have to decide when you go in there and if

00:33:29.920 And if you're accessing it online, however you're accessing it, there's a whole bunch of ways now post-COVID.

00:33:35.200 But if you go in there and you don't like them because of what they say, that's the hard part.

00:33:39.540 Because you're really going to have to check yourself, right?

00:33:42.080 Because if I walk in and somebody looks at me and says, for example, as they have,

00:33:47.140 Joanna, you have no boundaries. What is wrong with you?

00:33:49.600 You need to pull it together. You need to understand what love looks like.

00:33:52.520 You need to understand what a healthy boundary is in order to have an effective relationship.

00:33:56.900 if I am defensive in that moment and I'm not willing to hear that and I'm not willing to sort 0.99

00:34:03.280 of even just become somewhat self-reflective I'm gonna I'm gonna say oh that therapist is crap 0.88

00:34:09.060 right you can't negate therapy because you don't like what they have to say you really have to 0.74

00:34:14.920 take it to heart now the hard part is they're not always right they're not always right but that's

00:34:21.240 why I think going to see different ones is super super important and if money's an issue as it is

00:34:26.500 because holy crap it's expensive there's all of these amazing online therapies now where you can

00:34:33.140 access them for like 40 bucks an hour and you can do group therapy online and for free and there's 0.93

00:34:40.860 community centers that have therapists and social workers i honestly believe for a lot of people

00:34:46.980 it's about talking and connecting so any place you can do that go all in go all in how do you

00:34:55.120 deal with people and their rudeness how do you deal babe well my time is energy and it's precious

00:35:04.360 so if you're not vibing on the same vibration as me then I give you no attention none she gives

00:35:12.000 none none whatsoever you don't get my time my time's not free like that um my time's expensive

00:35:21.060 Me, on the other hand, I don't give everybody time.

00:35:24.880 I give a lot more people time than she does because I see it not as an educational tool for that person necessarily.

00:35:32.560 When I deal with that, I see it as an educational tool on social media. 0.98

00:35:36.160 I see it as an educational tool or as an uplifting tool for other people who face ignorance and stupidity and bigotry. 0.98

00:35:43.420 So I kind of do it in that capacity. 0.96

00:35:45.860 Now, in real life, when I get rude people, I usually up, I will up my game in the sense that, oh, they're rude to me.

00:35:56.600 Oh, I'm going to be extra nice because something's going on with their day or I'm going to fix them.

00:36:00.560 Now, I don't know if that's a healthy boundary, but I do.

00:36:05.020 Like if a cashier, if a cashier is not really giving me back what I'm giving them, I talk to everybody and I'm like, wow, they're really grumpy.

00:36:12.780 I like get more friendly and more whatever to try to like lure them over to my side

00:36:18.740 I do that all the time you do but but something with that is is some people will react well to

00:36:26.540 it and be like oh hey how's it going but other people just don't vibe with that at all and then

00:36:32.880 you get in the car and you're like disappointed and true so I take it to heart yeah I'm like oh

00:36:39.740 i didn't turn that person like there was this girl that was that was um by the way i'm having

00:36:44.300 a double bubble piece of bubble gum i understand it will last five minutes but it's the best five

00:36:49.420 minutes of gum you'll ever have i'm going to read you the joke in a second there was this uh young 0.71

00:36:53.580 girl working at mcdonald's the other day she was so grumpy and having seemingly such a bad day

00:36:58.540 and i was literally putting in all the work and i left defeated defeated i still want to go back

00:37:06.140 and see what was going on with her that day sometime when they're a little harder oh okay

00:37:12.380 are you ready i'm gonna read you the joke hopefully it's not a visual joke because you

00:37:16.540 won't be able to understand it it says so many books don't fit in my to fit in my bag oh it's

00:37:23.820 school back to school grr grr grr i can't read it oh so he tips over so he's grr grr grr he

00:37:33.500 puts on the backpack and he tips over so he's now on his back with the backpack on the ground and

00:37:38.780 all of his legs and arms in the air and he says i can hear my pet turtle laughing right about now

00:37:45.980 that's good times that's a good joke that's a good joke i'm gonna need my reading glasses

00:37:50.940 in the car if we're gonna do any more double bubble jokes okay on that note guys that's

00:37:57.740 all the advice we have if you want to ask us more questions we would be more than happy to give you

00:38:03.260 advice all day long on things that we're not experts on at all mostly i'd like to get oh my

00:38:09.340 god oh my god i didn't even eat my last my last treat what was your last treat my last chocolate

00:38:15.900 bar i have to show them but you just put gum in your mouth okay you can save it

00:38:24.220 it's barely chewed huh what's it gross you can just save gum today's chocolate bar nobody's

00:38:31.260 ever see me eat and eat more for those of you i've never seen anybody in my entire lifetime when i

00:38:39.420 was a kid when i was a kid i would get an eat more because this is also a piece of advice i don't know

00:38:45.340 why i didn't have money or i i didn't my mom probably gave me a lunch and i just ignored it

00:38:50.220 i don't know but on the days where i'd have enough money for a real lunch i'd get an eat more because

00:38:55.580 this would be back in the day i don't know 75 cents or whatever it was and i figured since it

00:39:01.420 had um toffee and peanuts in it and it was more hearty you could eat it like a meal so let me

00:39:08.140 describe it it's original dark that is fat all over dark toffee peanut chew i can't wait to show

00:39:17.740 you guys sound like something good especially if it's dark chocolate but it's it is it is look at

00:39:22.860 it this looks do you guys see it it doesn't even look like chocolate it looks like fudge

00:39:28.700 it's good you ready here we go i haven't had one in years well since i was in high school i think

00:39:34.060 no crunch no nothing just no crunch peanut it's nice not very hard it's a softer chew 0.96

00:39:43.100 but the better part than this than that stupid charleston chew in there 0.93

00:39:47.420 a the peanuts and me there's a little bit of a toffee like a a little bit of a score vibe 0.98

00:39:55.940 can we um can we go try to find me like those dried up apples it's labor day

00:40:03.040 they don't sell healthy snacks i wonder if they do you think they sell them here

00:40:09.140 did you even look i look for healthy snacks in there baby they said you can have a slushie

00:40:14.420 that appears you want a bite no all right guys thanks for hanging out with us we'll see you

00:40:22.120 next tuesday same bat time peace out homies she's supposed to say same bat station she 0.85

00:40:27.800 never listens to me okay let's go find your food dismissed

Unlearn16: Class is in Session - September 05, 2023

The One Where I Give Solicited Car Advice

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