Diabolical Lies - June 15, 2025


Liv Schmidt & the Sexless Allure of SkinnyTok


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1 hour and 52 minutes

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00:00:00.520 Today's episode of Diabolical Lies was brought to you by the Dove Real Beauty Campaign, Mark Zuckerberg sweating through his shirt about another scandal, the Body Mass Index Scale, My Fitness Pal, and the Limp Dick Editorial Standards of Evie Magazine.
00:00:15.340 Dude, the Dove Real Beauty Campaign, I still can think of that black and white thing where it's like, and I see a true cut, and it's like a little freckled eight-year-old. That impacted me heavily.
00:00:28.440 You're like, thank you, Unilever. My body image issues are solved.
00:00:32.400 Corporate activism does make a difference in the world.
00:00:36.520 Representation matters. That girl has freckles. 1.00
00:00:39.800 That girl looks like me, a white woman. 0.54
00:00:44.320 Caroline, what do you know about an influencer named Liv Schmidt?
00:00:48.440 I know that New York Magazine recently outed what looks to me like a cult,
00:00:54.700 and she has been on a warpath ever since.
00:00:57.380 So I went onto her social media only following what happened to her, and I know that she's mad.
00:01:05.000 That's basically what I know about her.
00:01:06.760 So Liv Schmidt is someone who entered the broader public consciousness recently because of this profile in The Cut by a woman named E.J. Dixon. 0.60
00:01:14.880 And before this, before she reached mainstream consciousness, she was a figurehead of a relatively niche online subculture called Skinny Talk. 0.99
00:01:26.180 Now, part of the reason why she gained notoriety, beyond just being, like, extremely thin, was because she kept getting banned on TikTok.
00:01:34.860 So, this fact alone meant that she got a bizarre amount of mainstream press.
00:01:41.160 So, like, the Wall Street Journal was the first major newspaper to cover her in September 2024.
00:01:47.920 Caro, I'm going to have you read the headline and subheadline of this piece for me. 1.00
00:01:53.020 Her skinny videos divided TikTok. She says they're what the viewers want. 1.00
00:01:59.500 Uh, subhead, Liv Schmidt grew a following with posts about staying thin in her daily diet. 0.85
00:02:05.340 Some users said her content promoted disordered eating.
00:02:08.720 Okay. Now I'm going to have you read a few snippets from this coverage.
00:02:13.800 Schmidt defends her work, saying it stems from her own struggles with feeling uncomfortable in her body
00:02:18.740 and her desire to help others feel more confident.
00:02:21.080 A lot of people want to know what people eat, she said.
00:02:24.740 I'm honest about how it is hard work.
00:02:27.560 Akira Gilbert, the chief executive of Project Heal, a nonprofit that provides access to free mental health care for people with eating disorders, said, quote,
00:02:36.040 A large number of the people that we see tell us that the initial trigger for their disordered eating behaviors was social media exposure.
00:02:42.900 Schmidt said her videos are directed at women whose white-collar jobs keep them at a desk most of the day.
00:02:47.640 That's a very funny way of describing the demographic of women who have expendable income.
00:02:54.100 But anyways, for me, she said, it was way easier to cut out 300 calories of food than to burn 300 calories in exercise, especially if you're a career person with a limited amount of time, she said. 0.74
00:03:06.460 Any immediate thoughts?
00:03:07.540 We are now in the phase of social media where people have to intellectualize everything. 0.98
00:03:12.400 And she like, it's almost like when you're like fucked up, dad, the proverbial you, not my dad. 0.99
00:03:17.320 When you're fucked up, dad starts to learn therapy speak. 0.99
00:03:19.960 And so he knows how to say the right stuff. 1.00
00:03:22.140 But you're like, I know that you're still a dirt bag at heart.
00:03:26.080 That's what I'm noticing is like she has learned how to say the right things. 0.94
00:03:30.720 Okay, cool.
00:03:31.420 Let's do one more.
00:03:32.580 At the University of Arizona, where she completed her undergraduate studies in communications. 0.73
00:03:36.260 Katie, you were a communications major.
00:03:38.280 She said, appearance was emphasized in a way she hadn't experienced before.
00:03:42.680 Quote, if you look around and every single person around you is blonde and skinny,
00:03:46.520 you're definitely going to feel more pressure to fit into that stereotype, she said.
00:03:51.080 Mm-hmm. Okay.
00:03:52.600 So, four days later, the New York Times comes out with, like, almost an identical piece.
00:03:58.540 I'm going to have you read the header and subhead in this one. 0.53
00:04:02.660 Sidebar, she looks different in, like, every photo I see of her. 0.77
00:04:05.480 Yeah, she does.
00:04:06.940 Does this not look like a completely different person?
00:04:09.020 Yeah, just to describe her, I feel like I'm looking at someone who is four cosmetic procedures away from MAGA face.
00:04:17.300 That's kind of like the level of aesthetic intervention I feel like I see with her.
00:04:21.660 Like, she's blonde, but not super blonde yet.
00:04:24.140 She has Instagram face. 0.69
00:04:25.360 She has, like, the Gia Tolentino Instagram face, where it's like—
00:04:28.020 Yeah, it's like sentient blow-up doll.
00:04:29.960 She looks like every Instagram influencer that I follow.
00:04:33.000 Yes. Composite police sketch of every Instagram influencer you've ever seen.
00:04:39.400 Hot chick police sketch.
00:04:42.300 Okay. Headline and sub-headline, please.
00:04:44.600 Okay. Who is the skinny influencer who was barred from TikTok? Okay, can I just say,
00:04:48.820 I just have to pause right now. I have so much PTSD from headlines like this because
00:04:52.920 the SEO universe has just rotted our fucking brains. Like, we know exactly who Liv Schmidt 0.99
00:04:59.160 is you probably typed her name in to get to this article, 1.00
00:05:02.560 but of course it has to be who is the skinny influencer
00:05:05.780 who was barred from TikTok
00:05:06.800 because you have to have all these SEO phrases.
00:05:08.920 This is maybe a pet peeve of mine, 0.98
00:05:10.180 but I feel like we're all getting so much dumber from them. 0.97
00:05:12.120 Anyways, it's not bad. 0.83
00:05:12.880 I had a similar feeling reading the,
00:05:15.140 there's a lot of articles about this in mainstream press.
00:05:18.620 And like within the last week as Greta Thunberg
00:05:22.480 and the other activists are sailing to Gaza
00:05:24.880 to try to break the blockade 0.99
00:05:27.060 and it's just fucking crickets. 0.99
00:05:29.080 I'm like, what is the point of media at this stage of capitalism? 0.99
00:05:33.680 That we are following the trend of covering this topic,
00:05:36.840 but we are subverting it by saying the funny thing about skinny talk 0.98
00:05:40.220 is that Greta Thunberg is going to Gaza right now on a fucking freedom for Latilla. 0.96
00:05:44.600 So everyone pay attention to that. 1.00
00:05:46.160 Anyways, subheading.
00:05:47.740 Trojan horse for things you should actually care about.
00:05:50.020 All right, well, now that we've got you here to talk about this influencer,
00:05:53.320 let's talk about the blockade. 1.00
00:05:55.320 Yeah, now that we pulled you in with a hot chick again. 1.00
00:05:57.700 half of our episodes are like, let's talk about this hot white chick and why she makes us 1.00
00:06:02.260 uncomfortable. That could be a tagline for diabolical eyes. Why this hot white chick 1.00
00:06:06.780 makes Katie and Carol uncomfortable. Also, Palestine. Anyways, I'm going to start with 1.00
00:06:14.220 the header again because I feel like we really moved away. Okay. We lost the plot. That's fine.
00:06:18.200 Start over. New York Times chat GPT headline. Who is the skinny influencer who was barred from
00:06:23.700 tiktok subhead live schmidt has inspired debates with videos that some believe encourage disordered 0.96
00:06:29.560 eating one social media site tried to remove her then i'm gonna have you read just a couple
00:06:34.680 excerpts from this one as well oh she's younger than i thought okay interesting dude in one video 0.99
00:06:41.260 she goes well my prom was canceled because of covid shut the fuck up and i was like 1.00
00:06:48.180 holy shit you are a child miss schmidt 22 lists her job on linkedin as a social event coordinator 0.99
00:06:55.640 for a private family office but she built her social media following in recent months by 1.00
00:07:00.500 posting blueprints for maintaining a slim figure while working a day job including detailing her
00:07:05.220 daily food intake through what i eat in a day videos and sharing tips that evoke antiquated
00:07:10.580 iterations of diet culture such as half the time you're not actually hungry you're just literally
00:07:16.380 thirsty. Or you're just literally just thirsty? Did she say it? This is, once again, getting
00:07:22.660 confused. That's a pull quote, babe. Okay, okay. Do what you want with that. You're just literally
00:07:28.480 just thirsty. She has also spoken frankly about receiving better treatment from society after
00:07:33.440 losing weight. Oh, you're on to something, Liv. All right, one more. Let's go. Miss Schmidt's fans
00:07:40.060 have suggested that the criticism is overblown and that expressing a desire to be thin is not 0.52
00:07:44.580 inherently bad. Okay, I do have thoughts on that. While also emphasizing the importance
00:07:48.820 of individual responsibility. Users rallied behind her in the comments of a recent video
00:07:53.780 from her new account, welcoming her back, thanking her for sharing tips and asking
00:07:57.760 why she would be barred for promoting a healthy lifestyle. Okay, I have a little bit of a
00:08:01.680 hot take. Yeah, let's do it. Katie, you have built a business off of personal finance
00:08:06.520 education. And you and I talk a lot about how there are inherent conflicts in that and
00:08:11.860 that your journey, what is so interesting about your journey as a thinker and as like a thought
00:08:17.420 leader is that you got into personal finance as a way to get yourself a level of stability. And
00:08:24.520 then the more that you learned, the more interested you were in systemic conversations over individual
00:08:29.200 fixes. And I do think there is an argument to be made that women who are trying to be thin are 1.00
00:08:35.180 basically doing the body equivalent of personal finance, where it's like, it is absolutely true. 1.00
00:08:41.860 She's right. Women do receive actual concrete benefits for having a body that fits in our perception of how bodies should look. And so it is kind of interesting that we allow certain kinds of educational hacks for how to survive under capitalism, but that we don't allow others. And I'm kind of struggling with that at this moment as we speak. 1.00
00:09:02.640 Caroline, you're skipping ahead.
00:09:03.980 Oh, am I?
00:09:04.400 You're skipping ahead in the outline. 1.00
00:09:06.040 Fuck yeah, fuck yeah. 1.00
00:09:06.720 Yeah, we are going to talk a lot about that today. 1.00
00:09:09.120 A lot about the concrete benefits that are available to thin women.
00:09:12.980 I just also have to say really quickly that I entered this conversation having had
00:09:18.520 pad cu for dinner and pad thai for breakfast.
00:09:21.520 I specifically ordered from my local Thai restaurant, which I haven't been to in a month
00:09:25.120 because I've been away for so long.
00:09:26.180 I haven't had any Thai food.
00:09:27.040 I love Thai food.
00:09:27.640 I ordered two different meals knowing that I would have dinner and then breakfast before this podcast episode exclusively Thai food.
00:09:33.960 And so I am going into this skinny talk episode run on noodles.
00:09:38.260 Sorry, what was your question?
00:09:43.660 What was your question?
00:09:47.620 Any guesses as to which elements of this story that Evie magazine found newsworthy?
00:09:53.560 Like, of what you've kind of seen so far, but, like, she keeps getting banned. 0.95
00:09:56.660 She keeps getting banned. 0.91
00:09:58.140 Anything that you think Evie is going to run with this?
00:10:00.980 Yeah, I mean, I think if I, like, close my eyes and lobotomize myself for a moment, I would say society wants people to be unhealthy.
00:10:08.260 And we have an obesity epidemic, and you're mad at someone for teaching women how to be healthy.
00:10:13.160 And don't we have the right to be able to want to eat healthy food and feel good in our bodies?
00:10:16.740 Yeah, with, like, a little side dose injection of, like, their sense of free speech, free speech.
00:10:21.380 Take everything I said and make it grammatically incompatible and add a bunch of commas everywhere.
00:10:26.900 And that would be how you would experience it on eBay Magazine.
00:10:29.820 Okay, so to get a better sense of Liv's messaging, I scrolled through about 150 of her public posts on Instagram.
00:10:38.320 And I would say that her message usually groups into one of four or five major themes.
00:10:46.220 So I'm going to run through them with you now.
00:10:47.920 And I just want your general perspective on how these ideas strike you.
00:10:52.060 Everything in moderation and portion control.
00:10:55.860 You don't need to track calories.
00:10:57.960 You just need to eat less.
00:11:00.420 Feeling sharp, clear, and avoiding fatigue as critical parts of what you should allow
00:11:07.200 to guide you while you're eating.
00:11:08.660 Be present while you're eating and avoid distraction and mindless eating.
00:11:12.440 and eat the real dessert instead of the healthy, quote-unquote healthy alternative,
00:11:18.300 but just eat less of it. So any thoughts on those ideas? I'm fine with them.
00:11:24.720 So like occasionally you would have something that would feel a little bit dicier, like,
00:11:29.940 oh, you should be going to bed a little bit hungry, or you should never really feel full,
00:11:36.320 like uncomfortably full if you feel full that's a sign that you overate and I would say that aside
00:11:43.220 from an obsession with walking they're like hyper fixated on how many steps you're getting
00:11:47.960 aside from this obsession with walking there's actually very little in the way of real physical
00:11:52.620 exertion because physical exertion causes you to be hungry so like I noticed that in these videos
00:12:00.360 there's a lot of talking about how much it doesn't matter if you go to the gym or not
00:12:05.540 There's a lot of the kind where it's like B-roll of her in like a bikini or something, and then there's just text over the screen, again, usually with some grammatical errors. I really think, this is my hot take on this, when you are in a constant state of calorie deficit, your brain starts shutting down because it's trying to preserve.
00:12:25.980 Yeah. So I saw a few photos of her before we hopped onto this conversation, and I had read that Cut article about her, and I'm really struggling with the fact that she's 22. I thought she would be 15 years older than that, and she's younger than Jackie Eubanks.
00:12:43.440 Yeah, I think there's also a part of that that's like, you're kind of, in a sense, taking dieting advice from a teenager.
00:12:50.840 Yeah, from someone whose metabolism hasn't slowed down. Sure.
00:12:55.140 Anyway, there's a big thing on, like, the body type that you have will depend way more on what you're eating than, like, what you're doing physically.
00:13:01.460 So, like, don't obsess over exercise.
00:13:03.400 Just eat less.
00:13:04.820 So, again, some of it skews a little bit overtly problematic, but then a lot of it is kind of stuff I've heard my whole life about, like, portion control.
00:13:15.660 I'm like, okay, that doesn't really seem all that controversial.
00:13:18.560 So I would say superficially, a lot of it was actually relatively uncontroversial.
00:13:26.520 I think her physical appearance as the visual that is paired with this advice 1.00
00:13:30.800 definitely makes it hit a little bit differently because she is so thin. 0.99
00:13:35.460 Yeah. 0.99
00:13:35.920 But on the surface, as someone grew up reading like women's magazines in the 2000s,
00:13:40.380 I'm like, dude, a lot of this feels banal to me.
00:13:42.880 Like I remember reading American Cheerleader and it would be like,
00:13:46.380 brush your teeth as soon as you eat dinner so you don't eat again at night. And that was in print
00:13:52.340 in a magazine for 14-year-olds. Before we started talking today, I was scrolling through Instagram
00:13:56.840 and I saw an influencer saying abs are made in the kitchen. So there are different ways of saying
00:14:01.420 these things, but people are still communicating the same tips that they've always given about how
00:14:06.660 to lose weight. Yep. So we're going to put a pin in that for a moment. We'll come back to it. But
00:14:10.520 in the meantime, we are actually going to read the Evie Magazine piece in full as a little treat.
00:14:16.020 Wait, who wrote it?
00:14:18.060 Evie number four.
00:14:19.640 No, let's see. 1.00
00:14:21.560 Carmen Schober.
00:14:23.240 Oh, yeah, I remember Carmen. 0.99
00:14:25.480 Look at Carmen. 0.99
00:14:27.400 I wonder what she's up to these days. 1.00
00:14:29.620 I basically fell one step less of hiring a private investigator to look into all these women, 1.00
00:14:34.820 so I know all their names very well. 0.99
00:14:36.280 Okay.
00:14:37.160 Banned for being honest?
00:14:39.700 Meet Liv Schmidt, the girl who made Skinny go viral.
00:14:43.600 Okay.
00:14:44.220 LOL.
00:14:44.560 I already have thoughts. Like, I'm sorry. Liv Schmidt did not like make skinny a thing. Okay. That's a little bit ridiculous. Okay. Subhead. Before she was banned from TikTok six times. Before she launched a global skinny movement. Before she built a community of thousands. Liv Schmidt was just a corporate intern sitting at her desk, bloated, exhausted, and wondering why all the right wellness habits weren't working for her. Oh, let me guess. Was she like five pounds heavier?
00:15:12.080 I was doing everything social media told me to do, Liv told me, and none of it made me feel good.
00:15:18.940 I was miserable in my body, and faking that I felt empowered just wasn't cutting it anymore.
00:15:23.580 Okay, that's very relatable.
00:15:25.040 Interesting, right?
00:15:26.200 Liv Schmidt wasn't a stranger to discipline. 0.86
00:15:28.660 She'd been a competitive soccer player.
00:15:30.400 Oh, Katie, what have I told you in a previous episode?
00:15:33.100 The amount of disordered eating that happens in D1, not that she was D1, but in competitive sports programs. 0.92
00:15:39.860 Anyways, she'd been a competitive soccer player before a serious foot injury ended her athletic career.
00:15:45.260 She pivoted to corporate life, eventually interning at Bulgari and Goldman Sachs,
00:15:49.320 while quietly building a beauty and lifestyle TikTok following of over 500,000.
00:15:53.880 But the moment she started to lose weight, her audience changed.
00:15:57.940 No one cared about my outfits anymore, she said.
00:16:00.200 All they wanted to know was, what are you eating?
00:16:02.680 Ooh.
00:16:03.800 At first, Liv resisted.
00:16:06.080 I didn't want to exploit my weight loss, she explained.
00:16:09.040 But the disconnect between what she saw on social media and what she knew to be true became too frustrating to ignore.
00:16:15.040 Okay, I have thoughts about that.
00:16:16.420 Everyone was lying about how they looked the way they did, she said.
00:16:19.540 Okay, I have thoughts about that. 1.00
00:16:20.960 These girls were splicing together days worth of meals, taking two bites of ice cream on camera and then throwing it away. 1.00
00:16:27.060 It was a performance. 1.00
00:16:28.160 Okay, wait, do I like Liv Schmidt?
00:16:29.980 Okay, compelling.
00:16:31.220 Compelling, compelling.
00:16:32.160 She's winning me over.
00:16:33.240 Do you want me to keep reading?
00:16:34.420 Yes.
00:16:35.320 So Liv started posting what she was actually eating.
00:16:37.780 a simple portion-controlled routine. Her phrase, what I eat in a day to stay skinny,
00:16:43.480 went viral. Her honesty resonated. And just like that, skinny talk was born.
00:16:48.780 I have so many thoughts, but I'm realizing, Katie, that this is basically like the inverse
00:16:52.860 of the trad wife conversation. She's actually opening the door up to be like, no, actually,
00:16:58.900 this is how I stay so thin, or at least maybe that's what I think right now, versus the opposite
00:17:04.400 it of, like, performing the idea. There is something really interesting there. To me,
00:17:09.900 skinny isn't a number, Liv said. Okay. It's clarity. It's control. It's walking out of
00:17:15.340 dinner feeling light. It's not needing a nap because your blood sugar crashed. It's not
00:17:20.300 overeating and calling it healing. Oof. It's peace. She didn't claim to have it all figured
00:17:26.100 out, but what she did have, simplicity, structure, and self-discipline struck a nerve. At first,
00:17:32.240 it was all positive. Girls were telling me, I've had an eating disorder coach for years and nothing
00:17:37.740 helped me like your content, or I didn't realize I could feel this good again. But then came the
00:17:43.460 backlash when she said the quiet part out loud. Once I really started saying the words skinny,
00:17:49.540 everything changed, Liv said. TikTok didn't ban me because I was unhealthy, they banned me because
00:17:55.040 I looked the part. Ooh! Liv had only lost 20 pounds, but it was the kind of visible transformation
00:18:01.380 that tiktok couldn't ignore i wasn't someone who lost 100 pounds i just tightened up oh tightening
00:18:07.740 up that's like the oh my god wow i have so many thoughts this is crazy i just tightened up and
00:18:12.400 suddenly people started asking what i was doing that's when the hate started my mind is racing
00:18:18.160 when live was approached by the wall street journal for a piece highlighting her story of
00:18:22.100 navigating weight loss while working full-time she was excited even tiktok had previously reached
00:18:27.060 out to collaborate with her on TikTok's shop and its health creator panel. But when the publication
00:18:32.020 requested comment from TikTok, her account vanished hours later. No warning, no explanation,
00:18:39.000 Liv said. I appealed, they reinstated me, apologized, and then banned me again within hours.
00:18:45.080 There were no new videos posted in between. It was like someone inside had it out for me.
00:18:49.860 Ooh, there's that line that those conspiracy theorists love.
00:18:53.140 The deep state hates me because I'm so thin and beautiful. 0.60
00:18:55.600 The fat deep state.
00:18:56.980 Many such cases.
00:18:58.380 When it was all said and done, her account was reported, flagged, and removed six times in total.
00:19:04.140 You don't get banned that much unless what you're saying is powerful, she said. 0.93
00:19:07.880 They were okay with girls pretending to eat 10 cookies a day and stay skinny.
00:19:11.700 But when I said the truth, walk more, eat less, I got erased.
00:19:15.920 Her original account reached nearly 700,000 followers.
00:19:18.860 When she rebuilt and hit 100K, it was removed the same day.
00:19:22.700 Another account hit $215k, got flagged, reinstated with an apology, and then banned again three hours later alongside a smaller $30k account.
00:19:31.360 Okay, that's really annoying.
00:19:33.380 I've had five accounts taken down, and every time, TikTok refuses to tell me exactly what I violated, she said.
00:19:39.880 They say community guidelines but won't specify.
00:19:42.300 And meanwhile, there are girls smoking cigarettes, promoting actual disordered behavior, or stitching my content to hate on it, and none of that gets flagged.
00:19:51.140 Even her friends got censored for defending her.
00:19:54.000 Girls posted videos just saying my name, Liv Schmidt, and those got taken down, she said.
00:19:59.620 Meanwhile, TikTok was pushing content of girls smoking cigarettes to suppress appetite
00:20:03.580 or eating baby food and calling it a skinny hack.
00:20:06.000 It made no sense.
00:20:07.660 The timing of her bans was especially suspect.
00:20:10.560 Just before a feature in the Wall Street Journal was set to publish, Liv's account was taken down.
00:20:15.020 I was literally working with TikTok Shop and being considered for their health creator panel, she said.
00:20:19.200 then the Wall Street Journal reaches out for a quote, TikTok declines to comment,
00:20:23.220 and the next thing I know, I'm deleted. No warning, nothing. TikTok's reason? First,
00:20:28.020 it was disordered eating, but then it was changed to a vague community guidelines violation.
00:20:32.160 But no one could say which guideline had been actually broken. Okay, they're starting to repeat
00:20:36.000 themselves. I submitted everything. My health records, my weight loss certification, all of it.
00:20:40.720 They didn't care, she said. They just said, stop contacting us. Liv has hundreds of DMs and
00:20:46.160 testimonials from women saying her content helped them overcome binge eating and disordered food
00:20:51.240 patterns. Contrary to the false narrative TikTok tried to build, my content is about healing food
00:20:56.720 noise, not creating it, she said, and yet the bans stayed in place. Wow. TikTok allowed random people
00:21:03.620 to diagnose me based on a 60-second video, she said. Meanwhile, creators are copying my exact
00:21:08.800 content, using the word skinny, posting identical captions, and they face no consequences. Why?
00:21:14.220 Because they don't look like me.
00:21:15.720 It's targeted censorship.
00:21:17.180 Okay, this chick is, we're going to talk about it,
00:21:19.940 but I'm impressed by the way she is communicating this.
00:21:22.300 I'm not endorsing it, but like, this is a smart woman.
00:21:25.360 Yeah, you're like, you know how to make your case compelling.
00:21:29.100 She knows how to connect the dots too
00:21:30.520 and move between the idea of its performance.
00:21:33.120 It's clear to me why she has been succeeding.
00:21:35.380 They also, this is just a pet peeve,
00:21:37.420 they do this thing where they quote her saying something
00:21:40.520 and then they repeat it as exposition,
00:21:42.880 like in the next paragraph. 0.87
00:21:44.020 and I'm like, Brittany, can we fucking spring for an editor, please? Holy shit. 0.99
00:21:49.820 Brittany Hugo Boom, no way. 1.00
00:21:51.360 Oh, okay. Sorry. Keep going.
00:21:52.840 Okay. Everyone's body positive until it comes to someone skinny. Live at it. You can say love
00:21:57.760 yourself if you're gaining, but if you're losing, suddenly it's toxic. Oh my God. I have thoughts
00:22:01.560 about like every single paragraph in this article after, but I'm going to make it through. I'm going
00:22:05.240 to get to the end of this.
00:22:06.900 You're so brave.
00:22:07.640 nevertheless she persisted after a decade of being told that wanting to be smaller was shallow
00:22:14.400 or oppressive more women are done apologizing they're choosing clarity over chaos peace over 0.97
00:22:20.000 indulgence god fucking evie they're admitting out loud that they do want to look good feel good and 0.99
00:22:26.500 fit into the clothes they love oh my god this is all right now i'm triggered from abercrombie 1.00
00:22:30.900 when i was 12 they've tried to brainwash women into thinking cutting excess is weak
00:22:35.860 Liv said, but it's not. It's power. And if TikTok thinks that's dangerous, then maybe women need to
00:22:41.280 be dangerous. I'm really glad we're going to talk about the rhetoric because in some ways it's very 1.00
00:22:47.240 simple and really, you know, reductive, but there are some complex elements here of how she's
00:22:52.500 positioning this. I'm going to show you the image that they used on social to promote this article.
00:22:59.620 whoa oh my god it's almost like hard to explain okay so i'm looking at uh a woman who is in a 0.95
00:23:07.520 black leotard she's sitting and you can only really see her middle section and then her face 0.83
00:23:12.940 up to her mouth so you can't see her face and so she's sitting and it almost looks like her hands
00:23:18.500 are tied even though i don't think they are they're just by her sides but there's like a 0.98
00:23:21.200 sense of her not having control and then there is oh there's a fat body that is also just the 0.70
00:23:29.380 midsection, not the face, not the legs, and it is positioning her and, like, contorting her. 0.72
00:23:35.640 Whoa. That's fucking crazy. 0.99
00:23:37.520 Yes. It's a very thin white woman. 1.00
00:23:39.980 Yeah.
00:23:40.300 You can't see anyone's faces, so you can't see for sure, but it's pretty clear the person in 0.99
00:23:44.260 the middle is a white woman who's so thin that you can see her sternum, the bones of her sternum. 0.63
00:23:48.880 And then the two bigger bodies on either side of her that are contorting her are pretty clearly 1.00
00:23:54.860 women of color. They don't look necessarily, I don't know, I don't think they're Black women, 0.99
00:23:58.520 but they're definitely much darker skin tone 1.00
00:24:01.380 than the white woman in the middle. 1.00
00:24:03.140 It's a very loaded image.
00:24:05.160 It's like the dog whistle becomes a bullhorn sort of vibe here.
00:24:08.520 This is the part that I thought was really
00:24:10.360 where I felt like her argument really fell apart,
00:24:14.640 but we'll read it anyway.
00:24:16.180 Okay, I have so many thoughts.
00:24:17.240 I just have to say, mark my words, 0.57
00:24:19.980 T-minus six months until Liv Schmidt has a Fox News contract. 0.70
00:24:23.580 You can see the Brave Independent Thinker pipeline.
00:24:26.360 I was censored.
00:24:27.780 I don't understand what's going on.
00:24:29.100 There is a grain of truth that we can get into.
00:24:31.280 It is, like, couched in algorithmic discomfort, 0.97
00:24:34.940 and she is going to have, like, a sub stack or a YouTube channel,
00:24:38.560 and she is going to be best friends with Meghan McCain.
00:24:41.520 Okay.
00:24:42.360 For TikTok, it's not about safety, Liv argued.
00:24:45.520 They don't mind extremes.
00:24:47.120 They just prefer the ones they can monetize.
00:24:49.620 Okay.
00:24:50.700 Green powders, 14-step routines, and diet pills make money. 0.93
00:24:55.460 Evie's like, might we interest you to this door over here,
00:24:59.700 which if you open, we'll show you the birth control supplement we sell? 0.62
00:25:04.540 Walking and eating less? Not so much.
00:25:07.520 They couldn't control me, so they tried to silence me, she said.
00:25:10.440 Okay, that's actually interesting that she wasn't monetizing.
00:25:13.600 Here's the thing, though. She was.
00:25:15.640 Oh, okay.
00:25:16.140 In the Wall Street Journal piece, Schmidt said that the majority of her influencer revenue
00:25:22.260 came from an Amazon storefront where she sold lifestyle products that are associated with like
00:25:27.640 this kind of chic skinny this is just lazy journalism that they're like letting this stand 0.99
00:25:32.720 without being like but you know you gotta mention that like she is selling things it's just that's 0.96
00:25:37.520 a good point and if she's regularly getting hundreds of thousands of views if not millions
00:25:41.440 of views on her content then she's at least making several hundred dollars a month if not thousands
00:25:47.360 Yeah. 0.79
00:25:47.740 Okay.
00:25:48.460 Liv didn't go quietly. 1.00
00:25:50.060 Instead of backing down, she doubled down, launching the skinny society.
00:25:54.680 The society, each of the E's has like a little like eh, like a society. 0.99
00:25:59.460 Society.
00:26:00.400 I don't know.
00:26:01.020 Did you earn those?
00:26:02.040 Unclear. 1.00
00:26:02.880 A community of over 6,000 women and counting.
00:26:05.880 Okay.
00:26:06.720 We're a diverse community of moms, corporate girls, women from all over the world, women ages 18 and up, some over 50.
00:26:14.620 It almost feels like a lawyer wrote that, where it's like, everyone's over 18, but they all want the same thing.
00:26:21.100 I think it's funny that, like, all those descriptors could theoretically be describing the same woman.
00:26:25.680 Mom, corporate.
00:26:27.240 From the world.
00:26:28.440 18 and up, over 50. 0.99
00:26:32.020 From planet Earth.
00:26:34.700 She's, like, trying so hard to be like, we're diverse.
00:26:37.680 It's diverse. 1.00
00:26:38.720 We have so many different types of thin white women in this community. 1.00
00:26:41.960 They all want the same thing. Freedom from food addiction and confusion. It offers daily group chats, monthly challenges, like Tis the Season to be Skinny, or her upcoming three-month angel challenge. Okay, I'm starting to see where this is going. Exclusive recipes, workouts, wellness tips, what I eat in a day content, and Liv's signature food tracker, a printable journal that replaces calorie counting with mindful awareness. It's like the wealth tracker, Katie. 1.00
00:27:08.960 Hey, hey.
00:27:09.900 Except your net worth is, I guess, your weight, question mark.
00:27:14.740 It's about tracking food, portions, steps, movements, and daily habits.
00:27:20.420 Just small things.
00:27:21.720 It's giving a, I gotta hit the word count.
00:27:24.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0.98
00:27:25.320 I'm also just thinking that they're like, this list is a recipe to turn yourself into like a neurotic psycho.
00:27:32.640 Being like, track literally everything about your day.
00:27:36.020 I'm glad you said that.
00:27:37.240 We're going to come back to that idea.
00:27:38.480 you just write what you eat. Do you, Liv? It's that simple and that honest, she said.
00:27:43.440 It also offers something rare in the online wellness space, accountability buddies. Okay,
00:27:48.500 come the fuck off with this. You can't throw a stick online without finding some influencer 0.99
00:27:55.240 who's going to sell you some monthly community. Like this other program sell you a one-size-fits-all
00:28:00.040 meal plan. But as soon as you're off it, the weight comes back, Liv said. I'm not about quick fixes.
00:28:04.780 I'm about sustainable habits and most importantly, community. Okay, I want to pause right here and
00:28:10.000 remind everyone that she's 22 and decided to enter this industry where she teaches people
00:28:14.520 how to lose weight approximately 10 months ago. Let's keep that in context. Liv describes the 0.82
00:28:20.960 skinny society as a supportive community of women united by a shared goal of growth over perfection, 0.98
00:28:27.120 ironic usage of the term growth, and simplicity over excess, building happier, healthier habits
00:28:32.680 together through encouragement, understanding, and strength at every step of the journey.
00:28:36.800 There were like five commas too many in that sentence.
00:28:39.340 The Skinny Societe is thriving on Instagram and YouTube. 0.99
00:28:43.660 Two platforms Liv now prefers.
00:28:46.660 Big surprise, Liv prefers the platforms that like Kanye West prefers.
00:28:50.720 Okay.
00:28:51.740 Instagram has been amazing.
00:28:53.380 Their support team is real.
00:28:54.740 I love how easy it is for women to connect there. 0.59
00:28:57.020 She said, I think she has been demonetized on Instagram, 0.99
00:28:59.840 but you know the support team was like, fuck, Liv endorsed us. 0.98
00:29:03.480 She's even had friends around the world meet up in person, 0.99
00:29:06.240 thanks to skinny society friendships.
00:29:09.200 There are women in Europe who love my content
00:29:11.140 because they don't see it as controversial.
00:29:12.860 They see it as common sense.
00:29:14.000 Actually, I also want to come back to that
00:29:15.840 because that is something that I have noticed as well.
00:29:18.940 Liv's mission hasn't changed.
00:29:20.540 Bring clarity and truth back to wellness.
00:29:22.740 She now holds an NASM accredited weight loss certification
00:29:26.520 and continues to grow her platform
00:29:28.540 with digital products in a YouTube series.
00:29:30.780 She's the kind of influencer 0.98
00:29:31.800 who doesn't believe in over-complicating things. 0.75
00:29:34.200 You don't need a 21-day detox.
00:29:36.160 You need honesty.
00:29:37.300 You need consistency.
00:29:38.540 You need freedom.
00:29:39.660 Wow.
00:29:40.180 And yes, you might need to block a few accounts.
00:29:42.940 My number one tip,
00:29:44.300 block anything that glamorizes laziness or binge behavior.
00:29:48.460 Okay.
00:29:49.340 Curate your feed with people who inspire you to live well.
00:29:52.000 And if my content isn't for you,
00:29:53.640 don't follow me, but don't try to erase me.
00:29:56.420 Again, really interesting verbiage choice here.
00:29:59.520 Erase.
00:30:00.000 like that is actually the goal of what you are promoting is for people to erase themselves
00:30:05.100 um value neutral but like that's the point of losing weight because if there's one thing live
00:30:09.980 knows for sure it's that freedom isn't found in eating the whole cookie it's found in taking back
00:30:14.940 control of your habits and your health oh my god this is so i have so much to say if only i had a
00:30:20.400 podcast where i can talk for hours at a time skinny is a mindset not a size live explained
00:30:25.720 and she added she's not trying to shame anyone.
00:30:28.060 She's just telling the truth.
00:30:29.960 I know what it feels like to live in a body
00:30:31.680 that feels like a cage. 0.99
00:30:33.140 I don't want other women to feel that way. 1.00
00:30:35.300 She's like, I know why the caged bird sings. 0.99
00:30:37.600 They're like, is that Maya Angelou?
00:30:40.480 Actually, Evie would not check that.
00:30:42.360 No one at Evie has read Maya Angelou.
00:30:44.380 Today, she's fully certified as a weight loss
00:30:46.800 and wellness coach, releasing digital products.
00:30:48.920 They already said this, and growing her YouTube presence.
00:30:51.560 Like I said, Brittany, can we please,
00:30:53.180 I will fund the editor myself 0.99
00:30:54.780 just so that I don't have to read this bullshit 0.99
00:30:56.720 while researching for my podcast. 0.95
00:30:59.540 We start donating money to them so they can... 0.83
00:31:02.420 Diabolicalize redistributes funding to Evie Magazine
00:31:05.160 to just get them to figure out how an Oxford comma works.
00:31:08.320 Her Instagram remains her HQ.
00:31:10.360 And for now, she's leaving TikTok behind.
00:31:12.680 Oh, I know that game.
00:31:13.620 I pretended to do that too.
00:31:15.160 I don't owe the internet a version of me that's palatable, Liv said.
00:31:18.380 I owe my girls the truth.
00:31:20.420 If a girl bigger than me posted what I eat in a day,
00:31:22.920 no one would care.
00:31:23.640 but when I do, it becomes controversial. Why? Because I'm blonde, thin, young, and unapologetic.
00:31:32.320 So brave. Rock on, Liv. Her advice for anyone trying to cut through the noise. Oh my god. Oh
00:31:37.700 my god, Evie, we heard this. Unfollow people who glamorize laziness. Stop chasing hacks. Start 0.50
00:31:42.880 with discipline. Build the body you want. But more importantly, build the life you want. Okay,
00:31:47.020 Oprah. Whether you agree with her or not, Liv's doing something most influencers won't. Telling
00:31:51.300 the truth even when it costs her and she knows what she's about more walks less noise less guilt
00:31:56.660 and more clarity so here's to a 23 year old oh she's 23 who refused to be censored for saying
00:32:01.980 what so many of us already knew deep down discipline is beautiful and feeling good
00:32:06.240 matters all right yeah all right well do you want to tell me just some high level
00:32:13.780 reflections that was an article that could have been a tweet so maybe they can think about that
00:32:20.600 moving forward. I'm actually kind of struggling to find the right balance here because I actually
00:32:26.080 think that there is a lot of what she's saying that's very correct. I won't speak for you,
00:32:29.840 but I will say I have had a relatively healthy relationship with my body over the years,
00:32:34.180 but I personally don't know a woman who hasn't in some way dabbled with disordered eating,
00:32:40.240 dabbled with body dysmorphia, dabbled with incredible insecurity. And I have found it 0.91
00:32:45.700 very frustrating over the years, watching the extent to which people do lie about what it means
00:32:52.320 to be thin in order to promote body positivity. Like Vogue, I think, currently has or has had
00:32:59.640 videos of what I eat in a day. And you will see videos of very famous models like Bella Hadid
00:33:06.260 and Kendall Jenner and the Kardashians and Haley Bieber. And you will see like videos of them
00:33:12.400 eating a huge plate of spaghetti or almost glamorizing this consumption of food. And what
00:33:18.360 is in the back of your head is they're not actually eating that. But I had a friend who had
00:33:23.320 quote a perfect body and she had a thyroid problem and it actually drove her crazy. When she ate, 1.00
00:33:29.760 people would always comment on it. And so I also really thought about her a lot too, where it's
00:33:35.300 Like, that does kind of suck that women are so policed for bodies and are so encouraged to police other people's bodies that, like, both sides of that argument are technically correct.
00:33:48.240 And it kind of sucks that even when you do have, quote, the perfect body, you actually can't just enjoy being in it because you are still representing something for other people. 0.74
00:33:57.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:33:58.540 Like, it's just—
00:33:59.080 Yes.
00:33:59.420 It just seems exhausting.
00:34:00.540 Something that you'll notice when you spend a few hours looking at this stuff, which I definitely would not recommend doing if you have any history with eating disorders, there is a lot of coded language.
00:34:14.840 There's a lot of semantics. So for example, there will be B-roll of her looking very skeletal in a 0.63
00:34:21.960 teeny little bikini, and the text overlaid will say something like, it's not restriction. It's 0.70
00:34:28.740 just choosing not to overeat. Or stop when you feel satisfied, not full. So it's like,
00:34:37.320 what's the meaningful difference between restricting what you're eating and choosing
00:34:40.980 not to overeat? Or is there a difference between feeling full and satisfied? Not really, but the
00:34:47.780 positioning and the framing of the ideas is so narrow and particular to walk that line that I
00:34:55.340 think she knows she has to walk. And I know that I mentioned that I found a lot of the things that
00:35:00.620 she was saying, again, as somebody who grew up reading American Cheerleader, a lot of this stuff
00:35:05.660 I'm like, babe, I've been hearing this since fifth grade. You like in an oversized Reagan Bush shirt
00:35:10.820 at age like 14, just like kicking your legs on the couch while you read how to eat ice cubes
00:35:15.820 instead of fried rice or something. Welcome to America, everyone. Proud to be an American.
00:35:20.020 I feel like I'm finally going to be the flyer this season. I'm going to be small enough.
00:35:25.020 Yeah, but the picture becomes much more complicated when you go behind that paywall.
00:35:30.880 So publicly, you will see something like don't count calories, something that might actually
00:35:35.840 feel antithetical to diet culture. But behind the paywall, she says, write down every single
00:35:42.540 thing you eat every single day. You need to be writing down everything that you put in your body.
00:35:48.480 So you're getting one thing on the outside, but once you have committed and you're paying money
00:35:53.620 for it and you're kind of in private, things take on a different tone. And this is what ultimately
00:35:59.420 led to the demise of her private paywalled group. E.J. Dixon went beyond the work that the Wall
00:36:05.260 Street Journal, The New York Times, and Evie did, she actually joined the group and spent time
00:36:10.520 lurking behind that paywall to understand what was actually happening in those paid group chats,
00:36:16.080 which are, by the way, $20 a month. So I would just say, diabolicalize, a steal.
00:36:21.820 $20 a month. If you exploit the greatest insecurity that any woman has, 1.00
00:36:27.300 they will be willing to spend money to fix it. Who knew? 1.00
00:36:29.640 So here's an excerpt of Dixon's analysis about how Schmidt's approach creates an entire lifestyle brand around the state of being physically thin.
00:36:41.260 In Schmidt's world, thinness isn't just a physical state, but the basis of an entire luxury lifestyle.
00:36:48.180 Schmidt is capitalizing on a cultural moment when extreme thinness has become more acceptable.
00:36:52.760 Though she has the largest following of the Skinny Talk influencers, there's also Amanda Dobler, a fat loss and mindset coach who makes videos enumerating, quote, things you're doing that are keeping you stuck and fat, and Mandana Zargami, a Miami-based influencer with almost 350,000 TikTok followers who lectures followers who are, quote, built like a buffalo big back.
00:37:14.240 oh my god or quote a little linebacker these women exhort their followers in a blunt tell it
00:37:20.460 like it is tone to ignore the impulse to eat and focus on self-discipline and control dobler told 1.00
00:37:25.520 me skinny talk isn't about promoting eating disorders but about showing women they're allowed
00:37:29.400 to want more for themselves again the use of language in these conversations is so interesting
00:37:35.520 that they describe deprivation with verbs and adjectives that are almost exclusively about
00:37:40.820 expansion. It's a very interesting inversion that they're doing there. Quote, tracking your food
00:37:45.860 doesn't mean you're obsessive, she said. It means you're informed. Still, Schmidt is careful. She
00:37:50.800 uses language that frames choosing not to eat as empowering, even feminist. Eat like you're the 0.71
00:37:56.060 main character because you are, she writes in one post. Eat like your highest self is watching.
00:38:02.220 Eat like your next weigh-in is tomorrow. She doesn't advocate for a specific diet or tell
00:38:07.320 her followers to avoid specific foods, which differentiates her from most weight loss
00:38:11.240 influencers. Her rule of thumb is simple. Eat whatever you want, just eat as little
00:38:16.280 as possible. You're not restricting, you're regulating. It's chic, she says in another
00:38:21.700 post, next to a photo of a woman in a scarf and sunglasses in front of the Eiffel Tower.
00:38:28.200 This is a masterclass in commodification.
00:38:31.060 It really is.
00:38:32.460 Linking all these very glamorous images to really kind of like boilerplate toxic ideas about body image.
00:38:41.940 There are certain subliminal messages and subliminal and direct messages that are so fucking obvious that any person by the time they're 22 years old knows how to consume them and then reeducate other people with them.
00:39:00.160 I think that any young person, any person who identifies with this idea of femininity would be able to regurgitate these ideas by the time they turn 22 with similar success.
00:39:12.060 I thought it was really notable when she brought up that a lot of women in Europe love what she's saying and don't find it controversial because I actually do find that to be true.
00:39:20.500 French culture, I will just say, is much more blunt about like weight loss and weight gain.
00:39:25.300 And they do not understand why Americans have so much trouble with weight.
00:39:28.380 And they will say, yeah, we have croissants.
00:39:31.000 We just have a bite.
00:39:31.940 We do have whatever we want.
00:39:33.600 Oh, interesting.
00:39:34.940 French food is very fattening and has butter and milk and rich and decadent. 0.98
00:39:39.740 And they all eat French food.
00:39:41.400 They'll have a charcuterie plate.
00:39:42.620 But they just, they really believe like, yeah, you just, you don't eat so much.
00:39:46.840 So I actually think that it is similar to that.
00:39:49.140 Have you ever seen that Nick Kroll bit where he's like a, I don't know.
00:39:54.080 I think he's like playing a French person.
00:39:55.900 he's like, then we go outside, we take in city lights with cigarettes. He's like, I wake up for 0.98
00:40:00.680 breakfast, have cigarettes. We're generalizing about like an entire country, but I hear what
00:40:06.620 you mean. Well, there is that classic how French women stay thin obsession, that diet book that 0.94
00:40:13.040 came out in America. They're also smoking cigarettes all day long. Cigarettes suppress 1.00
00:40:17.580 appetite. There is a degree to which that thing is happening where because you have been so
00:40:23.380 culturally indoctrinated with an idea already, that when someone addresses it head-on, there's
00:40:29.460 something about it that feels true. But it's only because you have already, like, your culture
00:40:35.080 already has indoctrinated you with that thing. It feels kind of transgressive to state it explicitly,
00:40:41.800 but, like, that doesn't actually indicate there's any inherent truth to it, just that, like, yeah,
00:40:46.660 you already exist in a culture where this is very popular.
00:40:49.180 Well, I would also say that what makes it so complicated to kind of dissect is number one, that all this is subconscious. So like you're engaging with all this kind of very quickly. But I think you're right that the philosophical arguments they're making about empowerment and instinct and all these things, I don't think those are true. But I think that they are intersecting them with things that are true.
00:41:11.180 She said some stuff about society that is absolutely real. Like anyone who has lost anywhere from five pounds to hundreds of pounds knows how quickly other people clock your appearance shift and how unnerving it can be.
00:41:26.260 So, Dixon made a very interesting stylistic choice in this piece by talking about how being exposed to the groupthink in these chats triggered a regression in their own history with disordered eating.
00:41:41.540 They said, as someone who spent a lot of time on eating disorder Tumblr as a teenager, obsessively reblogging images of Calvin Klein era Kate Moss and Cassie from Skins, I understood Schmitt's appeal.
00:41:57.060 This community aestheticized the brutal private experience of slowly starving myself, rendering it both visible and communal.
00:42:07.800 That's heartbreaking.
00:42:08.600 I know. What they found when they joined the private groups was very dark. They found people who were under the age of 18, people posting meal plans that were less than 1,000 calories per day, a hyper-competitive environment where people were constantly upping the ante.
00:42:25.640 and this is probably obvious why this is dangerous,
00:42:31.600 but it is worth noting just outright
00:42:34.100 that anorexia has the highest mortality rate
00:42:36.880 of any mental illness.
00:42:38.520 It is a very deadly, miserable disease. 0.64
00:42:43.000 And part of what I think Dixon was raising in this piece
00:42:47.020 is what level of responsibility does Schmidt personally bear
00:42:51.060 for what people are talking about in these chats?
00:42:54.600 This is where things become a little more complicated because Liv is creating this environment, but she's not very active in the chat. You get the impression from Dixon's reporting that the group chats take on a life of their own a little bit where Liv will drop in these copy-paste prompts, like, oh, how are you staying skinny this weekend?
00:43:16.280 But she's not directly endorsing some of the most extreme behavior that people are talking about. And there are quote-unquote rules in the chats about you're not allowed to post a meal plan that's less than 1,200 calories. The rules just aren't enforced. There's no real level of moderation happening.
00:43:36.080 So she's creating this environment where people feel really empowered and comfortable discussing it openly, but she's not the source of the most disordered material in the groups.
00:43:49.600 Right. This is just bringing up an interesting parallel for me in my head where I'm imagining like a Department of Justice court filing 15 years from now where they're like, well, how responsible are the podcast co-hosts for that many people becoming socialists?
00:44:03.160 They don't use that word constantly, like they don't always use the word Marxism, and they were not super involved in the chats, but we are very concerned about the communication. They did embolden people to believe that housing is a human right.
00:44:19.200 Yep.
00:44:19.620 Anyways.
00:44:20.540 It was interesting to me how this communal environment was the most toxic element of the story.
00:44:27.160 Because we're so accustomed to thinking about communities as these inherently positive things.
00:44:33.280 But this is an example of a time when the groupthink around normalizing these incredibly masochistic, self-destructive tendencies is actually what makes them so powerful.
00:44:43.960 That's the contradiction that I think she is alluding to, which is everything that I'm saying and doing is culturally supported. 0.96
00:44:52.600 There are a thousand videos online about how to lose weight, and you also have a bunch of bullshit nutritionists and influencers who claim to be body positive who are saying the same exact shit, but in more cloaked therapy language.
00:45:05.860 But I do think that the women who are paying for this chat with Liv Schmidt, I would guess, are college-educated women, like she said, corporate women, who are probably in environments where it is— 0.95
00:45:16.860 Or high schoolers. 0.73
00:45:17.380 Or high schoolers, Jesus.
00:45:18.340 Lots of high schoolers.
00:45:19.500 I guess I'm just maybe just presuming that, like, you're paying for this because you're getting something that you might not get elsewhere.
00:45:25.720 So I guess Liv Schmidt had been signed as a model with Elite, which is a very prestigious modeling agency.
00:45:31.580 It sounds like in the aftermath of this piece in the cut and the demonetization on Instagram,
00:45:38.160 Elite dropped her, or at the very least, her model page on their site now 404s.
00:45:44.800 So it's hard to say whether she was actually dropped or if they just removed the page to
00:45:49.300 create some distance from her, but she may have lost her representation because of this.
00:45:55.100 And I want to spend some time here because this effort to distance themselves from her
00:46:00.560 really stuck out to me. If you think about the institutions that are lowering the hammer right
00:46:06.740 now, meta platforms demonetizing her, her modeling agency either explicitly dropping her or just
00:46:14.000 making it look that way publicly, their business models and the way that they make money rely on
00:46:22.300 many of the exact ideas that she is now being punished for acknowledging. 1.00
00:46:27.560 Mark Zuckerberg would be homeless if not for women's insecurities. 0.98
00:46:31.840 The way in which the modeling industry profits from what Liv is preaching is pretty self-evident, 0.96
00:46:36.780 but even Meta, I think, is implicated in a very direct way here. Sarah Wynne Williams,
00:46:41.820 the Facebook whistleblower who wrote the memoir Careless People, alleged that at one point in the
00:46:47.240 2010s, Meta had developed a technology that was designed to target girls who were 13 to 17 years
00:46:54.680 old who deleted selfies so that they could be served a beauty product ad in that moment.
00:47:00.260 So my point is just that these institutional power centers in society, these platforms,
00:47:07.480 these tastemakers, they can artificially distance themselves from and superficially disown these
00:47:13.880 ideas by punishing this one person who has become an avatar for the idea, who is being
00:47:19.740 dangerously forthcoming about how hard it is to be skinny and what the rewards are when
00:47:24.460 you achieve it. But to be very fucking clear, they are in no way actually divesting from or 0.64
00:47:30.900 disowning these ideas because their business models literally rely on them. It is very funny 0.93
00:47:37.080 in the darkest possible way that if she were to say the same exact shit, but just replace 0.98
00:47:42.840 some of the words and cloak it in slightly more better helpy language, she could have like a New 0.98
00:47:49.180 York Times best-selling self-help book a la Mel Robbins. Like, it is really frustrating to think
00:47:55.500 about the fact that she was, I think that you're dead on the money in saying that she was just
00:48:00.160 dangerously close to highlighting how hard it is and how dangerous it is to do exactly what everyone
00:48:05.360 is already telling you to do. Like, oh, actually, this is extremely restrictive, and you are going
00:48:10.600 to have to become neurotic, and you are going to have to starve yourself. It's a really interesting
00:48:15.480 quandary? Because I guess the alternate question is, well, do you keep her? Do you not demonetize?
00:48:21.840 Well, so to TikTok's credit, they have now banned the hashtag skinny talk.
00:48:26.460 Oh, cool.
00:48:26.900 So it feels like they're going a little further to try to actually tamp down the idea itself
00:48:34.100 versus just being like, okay, kick this user off and let the rest of them proliferate because
00:48:39.160 another one is just going to pop up in her absence. I want to watch one other video from
00:48:44.480 a different Skinny Talk influencer who was mentioned in Dixon's piece and also in a piece
00:48:50.060 that Airmail did called Who's Afraid of Skinny Talk? This person came up. Her name is Amanda
00:48:55.360 Dobson. So we're going to watch this video together.
00:48:58.800 While I don't believe the motivation, I'm here to tell you that it is freeing. It is beyond
00:49:02.980 freeing. It is so freaking nice to not spend 50 hours getting ready to go out to dinner because
00:49:09.060 I hate the way I look. Okay, I threw on something. I look great. My arms look strong as fuck.
00:49:14.480 I feel amazing, I'm not fat. 0.98
00:49:17.120 And that is reason enough to lose the weight.
00:49:19.720 You waste so much time and energy
00:49:22.140 and keep crying about how you hate, how you look,
00:49:25.520 but then don't do anything about it.
00:49:27.400 If you get to the other side,
00:49:28.540 if you lose the weight, if you stay consistent,
00:49:30.120 if you're disciplined, whatever that means to you,
00:49:32.480 it is so freeing to be able to just love the way
00:49:36.360 that you look.
00:49:37.020 And no, this isn't about screaming affirmations, 0.99
00:49:39.300 it's about doing the damn work, okay? 0.99
00:49:40.960 Being proud of who you are and what you've built 0.99
00:49:42.640 for yourself.
00:49:43.120 that is so worth it i've dinner out tonight i've had dinner and drinks out all last weekend i have
00:49:48.760 dinner and drinks out all this weekend shout out to my husband evan and his band who's performing
00:49:52.880 at talk house in the hamptons on friday so if you go of course you should go um but like i know how
00:49:58.840 to handle myself around food and drinks i didn't used to before but then i learned it and now i
00:50:02.900 coach it and i've been doing this for a long time and if i learned it you can too okay i'm smart but
00:50:08.360 like it's you're smart too you can figure it out okay stop being stubborn lose the weight i promise
00:50:13.880 you you will be so much happier side note the only way that you'll be happier is that if you actually
00:50:18.180 do it the right way the smart way the sustainable way okay if you're just trying to get to a certain
00:50:22.320 weight and think that you're going to be happier because you're that size yet you haven't changed
00:50:25.560 anything with your lifestyle your mindset your behaviors you probably won't i watched a lot of
00:50:31.380 her videos too but that one really jumped out at me because again i think what you're seeing is that
00:50:35.460 same rhetorical inversion where she's talking about how freeing it is, how you're not going
00:50:42.360 to have to spend 50 hours getting ready to go out because you're not going to be fed.
00:50:48.420 This is a world in which spending an untold amount of time and mental energy and just
00:50:55.920 bandwidth to meet this arbitrary ideal is positioned as freeing.
00:51:01.220 So it's like restriction as a means to a very limited view of liberation.
00:51:07.400 Right. It's like you won't spend 50 hours getting ready.
00:51:10.580 You'll just spend 60 hours a week for the rest of your fucking life thinking about this nonstop, planning your meals, changing the way that you communicate at parties. 0.96
00:51:20.720 I'm experiencing such internal conflict because I relate to an inherent truth to what she is 0.99
00:51:28.900 saying, which is like, you will be rewarded for this and it will feel good. And I will just like
00:51:34.340 say outright, I have experienced that myself. I have experienced moments of extreme discomfort
00:51:40.520 in my body. I've experienced moments of extreme comfort in my body. And they have sometimes
00:51:45.320 correlated to weight loss. And ironically, they have sometimes not correlated to weight loss for
00:51:50.480 me. And I have had a lot of moments, frankly, post-marriage, when I felt really good in my
00:51:56.880 body and recognized in my head, like, oh, when I was in college, I wouldn't have felt good in
00:52:02.020 this body right now. And was like, wow, how interesting. I think about the advertisements
00:52:06.900 and all of the tricks women were doing in the 50s and 60s and 70s to be constantly performing 0.98
00:52:13.600 in this body. And it's just so exhausting. And it's so ironic that these women who have created
00:52:19.020 entire ecosystems of branding and are doing it exclusively. And then on the side, when they turn 0.97
00:52:26.660 off their phones, are actually performing it for themselves. They actually have to still do
00:52:31.180 the neuroses for themselves. They have to still plan their meals. They have to do all this stuff
00:52:34.940 to maintain these bodies. The irony of these women telling you it's not going to become your 1.00
00:52:38.920 whole life, I'm like- It's so freeing. It's your whole fucking bag. It's not just your financial 1.00
00:52:44.640 model, you're clearly doing it 24-7. You're telling us that you do it 24-7. And that's the
00:52:50.880 thing that Liv Schmidt seems to actually be a little bit more honest about it, where she doesn't
00:52:54.760 seem to be saying that she doesn't do it anymore. She seems to be saying that discipline is a
00:52:59.440 lifelong act. I think Jessica DeFino's coverage of the morning shed trend is really analogous here,
00:53:07.460 where she talked about how a lot of these videos that show what women are doing before they go to
00:53:12.220 bed so they can it's like go to bed ugly wake up beautiful so you can effortlessly look beautiful
00:53:17.900 in the morning and she was like you're just reallocating the effort to a different part of
00:53:22.620 the day yeah she's like there is no effort to be effortless there is only effort so this idea that
00:53:30.380 it's never ending you are going to save time over here when you're getting dressed it's like well
00:53:36.800 yeah because you're spending all the time somewhere else so it's this concept that it's easier to
00:53:42.140 just meet the mold and to fit yourself into the mold than it is to learn how to not care so much
00:53:49.100 about the mold. It's like, there's almost a resignation that like, we're never going to get
00:53:54.940 past this as a society. So you might as well just face that and make your own life easier by making
00:54:02.140 it harder. Make your life easier by making it harder. I also struggle so much with the value
00:54:07.600 implications in this because my book is coming out next April. I know that there are going to
00:54:11.440 be a certain number of media events that I need to be prepared for. And I have been spending a
00:54:15.820 lot of time thinking about like how I put makeup on and what type of clothing I want to wear and
00:54:20.000 how I do my hair. And on the one hand, the experience I have felt has been like almost
00:54:25.280 like being 12 years old all over again, where I'm realizing how every time I feel like I've
00:54:29.820 started to master something, I look at myself and I'm like, why doesn't this look like the way? And
00:54:34.400 I'm like, oh, it's my hair. I haven't mastered my hair. And then it's like, oh, you figured out
00:54:38.420 I've put foundation on but now you have to start paying for the laser treatments it is a trap door
00:54:43.180 that keeps opening beneath you it is never ending the amount of time to put in but on the other hand 0.95
00:54:48.020 I also struggle and don't want to be the type of feminist who has a total negative value set
00:54:55.420 assigned to that because on the other hand I have become to really appreciate sartorially clothing
00:55:00.960 in a way that I kind of dismissed for a long time where I'm like fashion is incredible and it doesn't
00:55:05.840 have to be a bad thing to buy clothing and like it can be a wonderful expression of yourself and
00:55:11.620 like I do want to have clothing that represents how I feel and I do want to be able to enjoy
00:55:16.340 lipstick or whatever the fuck and I just I struggle so much with how to call this what it is and also 0.83
00:55:23.660 acknowledge I don't want to assign a total negative value to weight loss either something 0.98
00:55:29.040 that feels true to me is that our individualized interpretation of feminism I think at this stage
00:55:41.020 culturally is very much about something you are versus something you do yeah yeah yeah that your
00:55:49.060 individual behavior could be feminist or not feminist and that that's how you quote unquote 1.00
00:55:56.560 do feminism is by making the right consumer choices as opposed to it being a political 0.99
00:56:02.260 movement about collective liberation that who cares what you look like or what your individual
00:56:08.780 self-presentation choices are. It's almost irrelevant in some ways to the broader project
00:56:14.660 of feminism, but there is a duality there because the reality is that systems are made up of
00:56:22.300 individuals who either are or are not abiding by these norms right it does impact other people
00:56:28.400 how much you decide to lean in it does impact other people but in the absence of a broader
00:56:33.820 political movement with real meaning it feels like sometimes these things get very watered down
00:56:39.720 to at the individual level you'll hear them talk about well how i feel about my body is not
00:56:45.500 empowering or this is empowering or this body is feminist or this body isn't and it's like
00:56:50.440 it all feels very beside the point and kind of like well we're asking our body type to like
00:56:57.720 affirm or deny a political value and like that feels wrong to me i'm also even just thinking
00:57:04.700 about what a weird word empowering is because we use it as like a fluffy like feel good like oh
00:57:09.680 empowering but it really just means give power so like it's not necessarily wrong to say that
00:57:15.860 Liv Schmidt saying you're going to lose weight and feel empowered, you actually will.
00:57:20.460 Yeah, in a society where power means thinness, yeah, you are going to gain power. Like, that is
00:57:25.540 true. You will be empowered, technically. So yes, the focus on power, I think, in and of itself is
00:57:32.100 kind of a canary in the coal mine that we're talking about this in the wrong way, if individual
00:57:37.720 power is the thing that we are negotiating over. So I want to talk now about thinness as a cultural
00:57:43.680 ideal. So it feels like the narrative right now is often presented like this. This is like the
00:57:49.200 timeline of events that we get. Skinny used to be popular. Then we had the body positivity movement
00:57:55.240 and things were better. By Barry Weiss. And now we are regressing and everyone wants to be thin
00:58:01.420 again. I was just thinking, as soon as you said that Liv Schmidt was dropped by her modeling
00:58:05.820 contract, I was like, oh, you know our girl Barry is just running through brick walls to try to get 0.99
00:58:11.320 to live about how she was canceled. Foaming at the mouth. Yeah. She's going to get a tenureship 1.00
00:58:16.960 at the University of Austin. So one popular phrase that will often come up in these pieces
00:58:21.940 is the return of, quote, nothing tastes as good as being skinny feels, which is something that
00:58:28.400 Kate Moss said to Women's Wear Daily in 2009. And it's funny because we usually talk about this idea
00:58:35.180 again as something that used to be in vogue, then was publicly disowned, and now is popular again.
00:58:42.060 But I want you to read this U.S. Weekly headline for me and when the article was published. What's
00:58:48.940 the date on this article? Kate Moss blasted for saying being skinny is better than eating. 1.00
00:58:54.840 November 2009. There was immediate backlash when she said this. It was not well received
00:59:01.200 at the time. And that surprised me because I thought that that was one of those ideas that
00:59:06.260 just like aged poorly in retrospect. But no, even in 2009, people were angry at this model who had
00:59:14.280 been posing topless for the modeling industry since she was 15 years old for being like,
00:59:20.820 being skinny feels good. There was immediate backlash to this idea. But the current embrace
00:59:27.000 of it feels quite reactionary to me. It feels like it's part of the broader backlash to
00:59:32.020 quote-unquote wokeness as it appeared in the body positivity movement that became commercially
00:59:39.400 viable for a couple of years. But the funny thing is that nothing ever really meaningfully changed
00:59:48.000 through the body positivity period beyond superficial rhetoric. These were discursive
00:59:53.940 changes. The underlying institutions, the underlying power structures of society did not
01:00:00.040 change. So I would like to posit that the desire to be thin and the rewards for thinness were there
01:00:06.860 the entire time. We just learned to shift around how we described that desire. We started using
01:00:12.400 different words for it, fit, toned, to describe what was ultimately a remarkably similar aesthetic
01:00:19.160 goal. And I think many people's relationship to the body positivity movement and like fat
01:00:25.800 liberation ideas, it was aspirational in a way. I interviewed a journalist who wrote a three-part
01:00:31.480 series about Manjaro, and she said something that I think captured this period really, really well.
01:00:37.220 Quote, I believed in body positivity, just not for me.
01:00:42.520 I completely agree with you. And I'm just thinking back before I stopped working to start this
01:00:48.220 podcast, I basically throughout all of my jobs, all of my writing jobs in media, I had just had
01:00:54.740 to interview nonstop because I would write kind of like the SEOE, like, what this therapist thinks
01:00:59.300 about X or like, well, whatever. And one of my last interviews, I interviewed a relatively famous
01:01:05.360 influencer, I won't say who, and she was a body positivity influencer. And I don't know if it was
01:01:12.420 because like, I had like one foot out the door, but I spent a lot of time talking to her like, 1.00
01:01:16.880 fuck it. No, but she has gotten a lot of cosmetic work done. And I asked her, we had like a great 1.00
01:01:23.460 conversation talking about a lot of the products that she sells. And I was like, how do you square
01:01:30.480 Botox and filler with body positivity? What do you think about skin positivity? And Katie,
01:01:37.600 the call got so chilly so quick i think our phone call ended 30 seconds after that and i never 1.00
01:01:47.500 stopped thinking about it she has this whole bag of any woman can look good at any size and you 1.00
01:01:54.240 don't need to lose weight to feel good in your body and you don't need to lose weight to receive 1.00
01:01:58.640 love from a partner it was just a moment where i was like oh this means fucking nothing this is 0.97
01:02:03.040 Skin deep. 0.60
01:02:03.760 This is literally skin deep when you have people who are pushing body positivity but will not age.
01:02:09.720 It's a very narrow interpretation.
01:02:12.280 Very narrow, and it's not about liberation.
01:02:14.860 So Jessica Dufino made a really good point about how the body positivity movement coincided with a period when anti-aging injectables became extremely popular,
01:02:25.000 and that it was almost as though all the energy and obsession that we had been pouring into our bodies shifted to our faces and became about, quote, skin care.
01:02:33.040 And that's why people feel so confused and disoriented now about overt thin-spiration and how do we condemn this as bad.
01:02:43.320 Because we had become so culturally accustomed to casting practices like Botox, like filler, like other plastic surgery as feminist body modification.
01:02:53.760 It's so true. 0.97
01:02:54.500 And that same logic was applied to wanting to be skinny, which is exactly what's happening now.
01:03:00.080 You're just taking the exact same rhetorical devices and going, okay, well, if we can modify
01:03:04.800 this other stuff about ourselves, then yeah, it's not bad to want to be skinny either.
01:03:08.100 It's like, oh, well, wait, why isn't this the same? So there's a sort of disorientation that
01:03:12.480 follows because we never actually got to the root of how antithetical all of this is to collective
01:03:18.820 freedom. None of it is liberating. None of it has ever been liberating. It's all effort. It's
01:03:24.140 all conformity. It's almost like three Spider-Man pointing guns at each other where it's like
01:03:28.380 all these influencers are trying to decide, are they going to give up their filler or are they
01:03:32.600 going to admit that they want to be skinny? Yeah. Which are you going to do? And I think
01:03:36.360 we're going to keep going in this trend. And I think a lot more influencers and celebrities are
01:03:39.500 just going to go, yeah, I really restrict my eating because I want to be thin. And it's going
01:03:44.140 to be much more like, yeah, I get injectables. Everyone gets them, you know? So let's talk about
01:03:48.180 the advantages because the reality is we've alluded to this already. Having a quote perfect
01:03:52.860 body still carries, never stopped carrying enormous advantages. So to quantify some of this,
01:04:00.240 in 2007, the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics published a paper that found the wage penalty
01:04:05.600 for being overweight was actually worse in the 2000s than it was in the 1980s, which is a little
01:04:12.660 bit surprising because people have gotten, the average weight in the population has gone up
01:04:18.380 over time. It's interesting that as more people have gained more weight, that the wage premium
01:04:26.120 for not gaining weight has actually gone up, which I think indicates what's really happening here.
01:04:32.240 You become more special as it becomes more uncommon. So strangely enough, the effects
01:04:37.960 of weight discrimination are most observable in white women with a BMI over 25. Black women, 0.77
01:04:45.340 Hispanic women actually face a much lower wage penalty than white women do. 1.00
01:04:50.580 We're also earning less to begin with, right? 1.00
01:04:52.920 Yes. It's conventional wisdom that the causation that I'm describing here might be backwards,
01:04:59.220 like, you know, it's, oh, they're not being penalized because they have a BMI over 25.
01:05:04.280 It's that people who don't make as much money are exposed to social factors that may lead to
01:05:10.100 weight gain. But the issue with that interpretation is that you don't see the same
01:05:15.220 trend for men. Of course you don't. So from the St. Louis Federal Reserve, for men, quote,
01:05:20.380 there appears to be very little association between economic standing and body fat.
01:05:25.980 Oh, I'm so surprised. So in other words,
01:05:29.220 you really only see this correlation between lower wages and higher body weight in women. 1.00
01:05:34.700 Right. So because many of these studies use BMI, which is sort of like a garbage metric
01:05:39.540 at the individual level doesn't distinguish between body fat and muscle mass. There's some
01:05:43.780 disagreement in the field about how accurate some of these results are, but the FRED paper that I'm
01:05:49.180 talking about cited a study that attempted to measure body fat specifically and found very
01:05:55.480 directionally similar outcomes for women that excess weight due to fat is statistically related
01:06:00.800 to lower wages. So I want you to read this excerpt from a piece in The Economist about this.
01:06:07.240 In this context, the arguments often made for why women and girls feel such pressure to be thin and suffer from low self-esteem when they are not appear woefully incomplete.
01:06:17.000 Perhaps women do feel bad about themselves because they compare themselves to the gazelles that populate the covers of magazines and are duped into thinking those photos are unedited and attainable.
01:06:27.220 Maybe their parents or a doctor commented on their weight when they were young.
01:06:30.280 But in addition to those pressures is the powerful incentive of the market. Women accurately perceive that failing to lose weight or be thin will literally cost them. It is economically rational. Oh, I remember this piece. This was so controversial. It is economically rational for everyone to devote time to education because it has clear returns in the labor market and for future wages. 0.99
01:06:52.060 In the same way, it appears to be economically rational for women to pursue being thin. 0.96
01:06:57.440 Obsessing over what and how much to eat and paying for fancy exercise classes are investments that will bear returns. 0.96
01:07:03.580 For men, they are not. 0.85
01:07:05.160 Yeah, man. 0.78
01:07:06.000 I mean, and this is doubly true when you think about it's not only your career, but you think about what it means in terms of, quote, marrying up.
01:07:14.700 You know, like when you're competing for access to someone else's net worth, too.
01:07:18.800 So in conclusion, discourse had shifted. Standards had not. I interviewed Tressie McMillan Cottom and asked her what she made of all this. And she said, quote, subtle brag. No big deal. She said I was talking with Tressie the other day and I asked her what she thought of this.
01:07:36.240 Don't you love how I just dropped it in there? Like, that's something that I casually do.
01:07:40.300 She said, quote, for a brief period, there was social capital associated with diversity in
01:07:45.620 progressive spaces, but there was never any actual capital, any economic capital with ideas about
01:07:52.280 diversity. So my thinking here is that what's making skin fluencers attractive now is that 0.99
01:07:59.660 all the success of body positivity rhetoric created a vacuum. Because despite nothing really 0.94
01:08:06.860 changing about the economic and cultural reality that fat people faced, admitting that you wanted
01:08:12.160 to be thin because you had either consciously or subconsciously learned that that was what society
01:08:18.060 would reward you for, that got driven underground. So many fans of Schmidt were quoted saying things
01:08:24.640 like, at least she's being honest about what it takes. So women found this perverse relief 0.98
01:08:31.500 in being able to admit openly what it was that they wanted to do, which was to be thinner,
01:08:37.540 which is a completely, again, rational desire in a very fat-phobic world.
01:08:43.260 Right.
01:08:43.840 It's the systemic equivalent of the modeling agency dropping the model who's honest about
01:08:49.920 what the qualifications are to be signed with the modeling agency. It's a very frustrating
01:08:54.260 bind because there's a dual labor there that people are performing. You have to starve yourself
01:08:58.920 to achieve the ideal that society will reward you for, but then you also have to pretend like that
01:09:03.960 ideal does not exist. You have to perform effortlessness in a way. I've been really
01:09:08.760 fascinated by how this has changed over time. Like I said, I already think that the common
01:09:13.900 perception of the narrative flow here is sort of wrong. Between 2000 and 2018, eating disorder
01:09:21.680 incidents doubled from 3.4% to 7.8% of all people. I assume that these estimates are low
01:09:29.500 because they are based on actual medical diagnoses. And having been a teenage girl,
01:09:34.860 I know a lot of people who had eating disorders, it never got bad enough or felt bad enough to
01:09:42.020 them to where they were being taken to a doctor. So I am pretty confident that this incidence is
01:09:47.500 low. I would guess that the incidence is low. I would question the spike and wonder if that's
01:09:53.180 actually an increase in events or if that's just an increase in how commonly people now just report
01:09:59.120 any number of chronic disorders. It's possible. But one thing that I noticed a lot is that there
01:10:05.740 are often comparisons drawn from current skinny talk culture to pro-anorexia Tumblr or eating
01:10:12.540 disorder Twitter. I think it's notable that A, these things were playing out entirely online,
01:10:18.640 and B, these aren't new. So one test that I run on myself sometimes is would I know that this was
01:10:25.060 a thing if I weren't online? Would I actually realize that people were getting thinner? Would
01:10:31.180 I notice that this obsession with thinness was back if I never used the internet? And I think
01:10:37.200 the extreme online subculture elements of this phenomenon play a critical role here.
01:10:43.700 So there's this body weight neutrality doctor named Dr. Mara Gordon, who I interviewed,
01:10:48.100 who talks about fatness as a contextual experience. That you might be fat at sorority rush,
01:10:56.180 but thin at family Thanksgiving. That fatness or thinness is contextual. It's also referential.
01:11:02.640 It's a comparative standard. I feel tiny next to my husband because he's 6'6".
01:11:07.880 Okay, talk about a subtle brag.
01:11:11.340 He always says I'm so small and I'm like, oh, honey.
01:11:14.820 My hot, tall husband makes me feel so itty-bitty tiny.
01:11:18.800 The heavyweight rower is like, I'm so widdle.
01:11:24.360 So it's a comparative standard.
01:11:26.080 And like until relatively recently in all of human history,
01:11:29.200 you may have never encountered more than like 150 other humans in your entire life.
01:11:34.780 And so now in these online subcultures, there is a completely unnatural and totalizing collapse of context. And so as Dixon reported about those group chats, the level of competition within that in-group comprises probably some of the skinniest people in America.
01:11:53.680 I think it's the internet paired with this unique moment that we're in where you have this medical breakthrough occurring simultaneously in weight loss where the existence of GLP-1s is now making it not just more permissible to admit that you desire thinness, but it's medicalizing that desire.
01:12:12.040 And so more people taking this drug changes that real-world context of what it means to be fat or to be skinny. And in order to get that same high referentially, to feel thinner, your thinness now must be more extreme.
01:12:28.520 The flip of that is that that contextual experience and also the competing with others in a sort of self-selecting system is also true for creators.
01:12:38.920 So in order to gain followers and in order to have any sort of business, you do actually start to have to say something different.
01:12:47.260 And I think that is something that I feel not sympathetic to, but empathetic to with Liv, where it's like, yeah, she realized that she was going to create serious ground for herself and sort of carve out a space for herself in probably one of the most competitive markets possible online, which is body dysmorphia. 0.98
01:13:06.660 The fucking whole self-care industry, the makeup industry, the dieting industry are very fucking saturated. And in order to create space for yourself, you have to say something that feels transgressive or subversive. And so it doesn't surprise me that she found success with this and then doubled down.
01:13:25.280 Right. It's an important thing to keep coming back to in this conversation is what are these institutions of power incentivizing people to do? Because again, the more that we just focus on shutting down or deplatforming individual people without changing the broader structures that are incentivizing them to behave the way that they are, nothing will change.
01:13:45.220 So I think it might be useful to go way back and explore some of the sociological origins
01:13:51.560 of fatphobia.
01:13:52.700 We've talked about thinness as a cultural ideal.
01:13:54.760 We haven't really talked about how we got here.
01:13:57.000 And then I want to talk about some contradictions in skinny talk.
01:14:01.220 So what's interesting is that proof of fatness as a desirable trait appears in some ancient
01:14:09.260 cultures and not in others.
01:14:11.080 And part of the research indicates that it depended on the availability of a stable food supply and how much effort was required to access that food supply.
01:14:21.400 So, like, in that sense, body type and fatness and, like, desire around that aesthetic was reflective of viability and what was actually necessary to sustain life.
01:14:33.140 Like Stephen Rhodes with the hips.
01:14:36.320 Jesus Christ.
01:14:37.460 That was in our paid app. This mild college professor made an argument that, like, you got to have big hips to give birth, and if you don't, then you're going to have miscarriages or whatever the fuck. 0.99
01:14:47.220 The other thing that's interesting about perceptions of body fat today is that they find that where you carry the fat plays a really big role in how socially acceptable it is. So it's not just about how much you have, but it's about the distribution on your body, which is kind of a tell that, like, it's not about health. 0.95
01:15:05.400 This sociologist named Sabrina Strings wrote one of the most comprehensive and cross-discipline works on the origins of fatphobia. It's a book called Fearing the Black Body. So she combines evidence from fields like art and philosophy and science and history to demonstrate how the emergence of fatphobia in Western culture coincided with the slave trade and with colonization. 0.51
01:15:29.780 So during the Renaissance period, and to our knowledge in a lot of cultures before that,
01:15:34.100 a beautiful woman portrayed in art was plump. Fatness was a prized aesthetic feature. And 0.86
01:15:42.440 Black slave women were represented in art as like thin and sickly. And so by the 16th century, 1.00
01:15:49.920 colonization becomes widespread across the Americas. And one of the resources that was
01:15:54.920 extracted was sugar. And it's around this time that Enlightenment-era rationalism begins to see
01:16:00.620 food and consumption as like morally fraught as opposed to something that sustains life
01:16:07.100 and almost like an obstacle to higher thinking and intellect. You see this real separation
01:16:12.780 between the mind and the body, so a disconnect happening. And then by the late 17th century,
01:16:18.460 fatness becomes more explicitly tied to racial categorization. So there were these like race,
01:16:24.720 scientists who basically assigned gluttony and stupidity as characteristics of Africans. 0.99
01:16:31.700 And it's that process of dehumanization of people who were being enslaved to categorize them as 0.99
01:16:36.820 somehow other that necessitated a visible physical difference. So thinness began to be seen as both
01:16:43.380 a sign of intellectual superiority, which I think you still hear echoes of, self-discipline, control.
01:16:50.160 you feel sharp and light and then this biological evidence of racial superiority. So the thing that
01:16:56.980 was really interesting to me about this time period is that definitions of whiteness were
01:17:01.580 shifting too. So like Italians and Eastern Europeans were not considered white, but as
01:17:08.420 white came to be seen as just not black, body size and shape was a huge part of that distinctive
01:17:15.700 process and how white people and particularly upper class white people distinguished themselves
01:17:21.380 makes me think of what we discussed in the trans athletes episode about how
01:17:25.520 the victorian era reinforced these ideals of fragility and the white middle class women 0.56
01:17:32.020 performing their uselessness and like showing how they couldn't do physical labor and work and 1.00
01:17:38.340 having restrictive fashion and like doing everything and performing this type of like 0.98
01:17:43.240 frailness and how they used Black women working as kind of like the foil to that. 1.00
01:17:48.960 Perfect example. So I want you to read this excerpt from one analysis of the book. 1.00
01:17:55.600 You know what's so interesting is that so in my field, which is novelists, you would think that
01:17:59.760 people wouldn't care about bodies at all, but it's like a very ongoing controversial thing that
01:18:04.240 hot people get bigger deals, even if you're just like a novelist.
01:18:08.760 Oh, really? I thought you were going to say that there's always an emphasis in like Sally
01:18:12.320 Rooney novels on how like way fish and well that too thin all the protagonists are that like being 1.00
01:18:18.240 thin is an intellectual trait for women and novels yeah that too okay by the early 20th century the 0.95
01:18:24.160 culturally scientifically and religiously embedded derision of fat as a sign of racial otherness
01:18:29.820 intellectual inferiority and moral debasement set the stage for a century that culminated in
01:18:35.600 the newest moral panic around fat the so-called obesity epidemic which problematizes black women
01:18:41.100 in particular as social dead weight, relies on deeply political knowledge about bodies
01:18:46.440 cloaked in rhetoric of objective science. Culminating in a Foucaultian critique of
01:18:52.280 various waves of medical discourse around fat in the 20th century, Strings makes clear how
01:18:58.220 the legacies of African enslavement and genocide that solidified global white supremacy have relied
01:19:04.200 on processes of racialization that inferiorize Black women's bodies as both overly sensual 1.00
01:19:10.480 and excessively shapely. Without understanding how fatphobia emerged in response to slavery and
01:19:16.960 in order to solidify whiteness as an embodied phenomenon, we cannot grasp how our contemporary
01:19:22.120 obsession with thinness is rooted in anti-blackness. The most current manifestation of institutionalized
01:19:28.180 fatphobia around, quote, obesity as a public health crisis is deeply reliant on the same
01:19:33.660 ideologies that European race scientists drew on to construct fat as indicative of the laziness of
01:19:39.440 body, mind, and spirit. Go off. Dude, that also makes me think about how when they're talking
01:19:45.600 about Black bodies as overly sensual, it's crazy how fucking sterile all of this skinny stuff is. 1.00
01:19:54.540 Oh, bitch, don't jump ahead to the conclusion. 1.00
01:20:02.320 On the note of the obesity epidemic, because I think that there is an element of this that's 1.00
01:20:07.580 often justified or legitimized by like, well, their society is so unhealthy, blah, blah, blah,
01:20:13.320 blah, blah. Typically, the metric that is used to measure population-level body weight is BMI.
01:20:20.720 And around 30 years ago, in 1998, the NIH moved the BMI cutoff for normal weight to overweight
01:20:29.180 from around 27 for women and 28 for men to 25 across the board. So they brought it down
01:20:36.780 by like three points to bring it in line with what the World Health Organization out of Switzerland
01:20:43.320 was like recommending. I should also note that a major reason why they even collect this data
01:20:48.600 in the first place came down to insurance information for actuarial purposes. So life
01:20:54.560 insurance companies trying to find ways to analyze risk factors for death. They also changed the
01:21:00.160 classification to pre-obese. So a woman with a BMI of 27 would have gone to bed one night as 0.98
01:21:07.800 medically normal weight and woken up the next day pre-obese because of this classification change.
01:21:13.140 So this is from a paper that I pulled from the National Library of Medicine archives,
01:21:18.820 if you will please read. It should be understood that in Western population-based studies,
01:21:24.280 generally the mean or median BMI is about 24 to 27. Thus the consequence of adopting the WHO
01:21:32.240 classification is that 50% or more of the general adult population will always be in the overweight
01:21:38.840 now pre-obese and obese categories. Indeed the term overweight or particularly pre-obesity
01:21:45.520 is prejudicial since people in this category are a major part of the expected normal distribution
01:21:50.820 of BMI in the general population, and this has been the case for decades. Unfortunately,
01:21:55.700 in discussing the so-called obesity epidemic, the number of people in the overweight, pre-obese
01:22:00.300 category generally is lumped together with those in the obese category in order to advertise and
01:22:04.840 dramatize the perceived seriousness of this issue. This is like how RFK talks about how cancer rates
01:22:09.900 have spiked, but really it's just early detection has gotten better. This is what really blew my
01:22:15.280 mind. It is true that human bodies have changed over the last hundred years, that they've gotten
01:22:20.460 heavier. They've also gotten taller. So please read this. Overall, the history of changes in
01:22:28.380 height and weight in Western European men and probably women has been that of an increase in
01:22:32.760 both weight and height. In the 17th century, the average height of men in Northern Europe was 5
01:22:37.860 foot 3 inches. It now approaches 6 feet. Okay. These data suggest that the BMI category should
01:22:43.680 be adjusted upward periodically to accommodate population-based changes. Improvements in
01:22:49.340 mortality rates also suggest an adjustment would be useful. This is kind of like the bell that I
01:22:54.900 feel like we ring on this podcast a lot, and so I don't want to over-ring it, but just references 0.88
01:23:00.080 to earlier time periods are so fucking fraught. Even the fact that the average life expectancy
01:23:05.800 now is, you know, I think 80s in the U.S., which is lower than other developed nations, I think
01:23:11.080 it's like 77 now. And it's like, well, yeah, I guess that maybe you could argue that some people
01:23:17.020 are heavier, but even that data feels very fraught. And it's like, well, people were dying
01:23:21.200 20 years early. It just feels silly. I feel like there is a lot of moral panic around the fact 0.54
01:23:28.480 that people have gotten heavier over time. I think the fact that they've also gotten taller
01:23:32.620 kind of proves that, like, yes, at a population level, like, human bodies do shift and change as
01:23:37.980 resources become more available to them. And even though the U.S.'s life expectancy is lower than
01:23:44.560 that of other high-income nations, and we should absolutely work on the public health measures
01:23:50.020 that would improve that, people live longer now than they ever have. So this idea that, like,
01:23:55.160 there is some huge public health crisis and everybody is unhealthier than they've ever been
01:23:59.120 just, like, isn't really supported by the data. Again, that's not to say that we should not focus
01:24:03.840 on public health, but fatness as a proxy for that issue is like very, very fraught.
01:24:12.720 The other thing that I just have to say is like this, okay, you know what? Actually,
01:24:16.540 this is a perfect thing for me to say something that I've been wanting to say on our podcast for
01:24:20.680 a very long time, but I never had the ability to shoehorn it in. I'm going to shoehorn it in now.
01:24:25.220 How certain data is reported is so dependent on what we deem is worth reporting. And I've
01:24:31.720 been thinking about this a lot in terms of hate crime reporting. Which populations in America
01:24:36.000 are allowed to report a hate crime? Which populations are believed? Do we care about
01:24:41.260 Islamophobia in America? We sure fucking don't, which means that the hate crime incidences quote 0.97
01:24:46.280 unquote reported are much lower than we all know that they are. The same is true in terms of 0.77
01:24:51.660 damaging health effects on the body related to weight. If someone is perceived as heavier,
01:24:56.840 a doctor will blame all of their health issues on this, but the same goes in inverse for someone
01:25:03.280 who is much thinner. So if a woman walks into the doctor's office and has a failing heart because
01:25:09.320 her weight has been yo-yoing for over decades because she has been intermittently starving
01:25:14.500 herself to keep off 15 pounds, that doctor is so much less likely to say, yeah, you're experiencing
01:25:20.880 the effects of intermittently starving yourself there are such damaging effects to weight cycling
01:25:26.720 which is like trying to lose 10 pounds and then gaining it back which is what so many people in 0.92
01:25:32.160 america do like fight for that 10 throughout your whole fucking life try a thousand diets 0.90
01:25:38.500 to get that again 10 to 15 pounds it's so bad for your metabolism for your body altogether but 0.98
01:25:45.780 a doctor is not going to check on the death certificate box. This is because of their weight.
01:25:51.900 Well, and so something you're hitting on is really crucial here, which is that at least
01:25:55.120 some of the negative health consequences that are associated with excess body fat are thought to be
01:26:00.780 driven not by the weight itself, but by stigma. So if you recall from our Maha episode, one of the
01:26:06.740 indicators that they use in public health of social and community health metrics is how often
01:26:12.800 someone encounters discrimination in their environment. So it's interesting, I read the
01:26:18.140 paper's abstract and it like mentioned that fat people face discrimination and like, oh, therefore
01:26:23.680 in order to fix the problem, we should lower the standards by which we call someone medically fat
01:26:28.280 and like try to make them lose weight such that there are fewer fat people around. It's this
01:26:33.100 rhetoric that's also in the skinny talk videos, which is that it's easier to fix a fat person
01:26:37.360 than to fix a society that is fat phobic and it's like how much longer are we going to keep beating
01:26:44.300 our head against this wall i also think that it really highlights the futility of what we are
01:26:49.700 asking people to do when you flip it and imagine how exhausting it would be to just tell someone
01:26:54.500 to be shorter and just be like well people used to be shorter be shorter why don't you try to be 0.58
01:27:00.140 fucking shorter and it's like yeah you can technically lose weight and you can't technically 0.80
01:27:03.820 but it's like it is a futile exercise we know from the studies that people do not keep weight 0.98
01:27:09.240 off that people tend to be a certain weight but we spend so much of our time dedicated to it a lot
01:27:15.020 is made about how being overweight can like shorten your lifespan or have negative health
01:27:20.360 consequences and i looked at a few estimates for this it basically sounds like the people who have
01:27:25.380 the lowest mortality rates are actually in the 25 to 30 bmi range so technically overweight those
01:27:31.660 people have the longest lives. But when a study would cite a life expectancy hit associated with
01:27:37.780 weight, it was usually in the range of like three to seven years for folks with BMI's north of 35.
01:27:45.340 That sounds like a big difference, three to seven years, until you consider something that correlates
01:27:51.860 way more strongly with life expectancy, and that's income. A 2016 JAMA study found that there is a
01:28:01.500 15-year life expectancy gap between the rich and the poor in the United States. Caroline,
01:28:08.700 15 fucking years. If we are going to have an intellectually honest moral panic about an 0.99
01:28:14.840 epidemic of anything, taking years off of people's life, it would be about income inequality.
01:28:20.400 The only moral panic that we should be having in this country is about poverty. We should be having
01:28:24.820 a constant moral panic about a system that impoverishes so many people because that is
01:28:30.100 the public health crisis. Yeah, Caroline Leavitt is like, you're just a little fucking snowflake. 1.00
01:28:35.780 Shut up, Marxist. Shut up, Marxist. And so I want to talk about what thinness represents and some of 1.00
01:28:41.720 the contradictions. I want to really shine a light on this that you're going to encounter in Liv
01:28:45.620 Schmidt content, but also in the broader skinny talk ethos and like just in this cultural idea
01:28:50.260 of thinness. So the first is this emphasis on accountability and discipline. Liv Schmidt's
01:28:56.000 success is attributable to the glamorization of an ultra-thin lifestyle as representative
01:29:02.300 of luxury. And Carol, didn't you tell me that being ultra-thin is kind of like an East Coast
01:29:08.780 elite thing? I don't want to say that the East Coast has a monopoly on thinness, but East Coast
01:29:14.140 wealth is so dominated by like old money Protestant and Puritan elites. And so there is this real
01:29:20.600 kind of celebration of deprivation. And so the classic stereotype is like going to Nantucket or
01:29:26.900 Boston or the Hamptons and seeing a waifish Protestant-looking woman with honey-highlighted
01:29:33.780 hair who looks bored and has a vodka soda and a salad she's not touching and is wearing 0.93
01:29:39.840 goop-label clothing. It's very much about depriving oneself and discipline and like
01:29:45.280 you're not going to dance at the party. That really tracks with kind of where I was going
01:29:48.780 with this. I think that what's happening in a lot of this content and why it might be striking such
01:29:54.200 a chord right now is that we're in a very precarious economic moment. And I think people
01:29:59.840 like Liv are creating an unconscious correlation for her audience between wealth and thinness.
01:30:06.440 So like Megan Day interviewed the author of a book called Outclassed for Jacobin recently,
01:30:11.580 And they talked about how poor and elite values differ from middle-class values because middle-class values are defined by avoiding that gravitational pull of structural precarity.
01:30:25.880 So, like, elite values are very much about intelligence and articulation and differentiating yourself.
01:30:33.060 Middle-class values are about conformity and work ethic and keeping your head down. 0.97
01:30:38.580 You are going to do whatever the fuck you need to do to cling to your stability in the middle. 0.63
01:30:44.220 And in that ethos, self-discipline is a very attractive idea in a culture that is defined by clinging to stability and avoiding precarity. 0.96
01:30:55.580 So I think that our economic moment is perversely primed for this sort of message about deprivation and how someone's body should look in an indirect way.
01:31:04.960 It's associating being thin with economic strength.
01:31:10.340 Yeah, and I also think that the economic precarity of a recession is also compounded by the economic precarity of capitalism, where it's just like, yeah, you have no control over anything.
01:31:21.320 And so you create these mechanisms of creating the illusion that you can thin your way out of the total lack of control in your own life that you feel.
01:31:32.260 But the contradiction is that Liv and the skinny talk girls constantly frame thinness as chic and effortless. Remember, oh, it's so freeing. You don't have to take any time to get ready. It's just, it's so liberating. It's so freeing. It's so effortless. As well as evidence of stride and discipline and willpower. But effortlessness and discipline are extremely contradictory ideas.
01:31:58.720 And I also just think this is a moment of genuine sadness for Liv and for so many other people who deal with this, fitness influencers, body influencers, when you enter the game at a period in time when it's easier than it will be, I will say, to maintain your body.
01:32:16.340 I just can't imagine the anxiety over having to maintain your body type because she says she lost
01:32:22.840 weight right she lost weight so at some point she was heavier and then now the weight that she is
01:32:28.440 at now is she has said herself kind of like her whole business model right is showing women how
01:32:33.440 to do it and implying that you can maintain it forever and I just can't imagine the anxiety
01:32:38.420 that that would instill in a person. Another thing that I want to call out because this was
01:32:43.700 kind of when I first started looking into this episode, and I'm kind of reading, what is the
01:32:48.020 discourse online about this? What are people saying about this? How are people thinking about
01:32:50.900 it? It kind of feels like the mainstream take is that Skinny Talk is all about this idea that they,
01:32:57.440 the unnamed they, want women to be smaller. They want women to shrink themselves. They want women
01:33:02.440 to take up less space. A thousand slam poetry events have been born. I don't think that that's 0.98
01:33:09.140 necessarily wrong, but I think it's extremely oversimplified. If for no other reason than
01:33:15.420 these messages are propagated by women for other women. Skinny talk is a nearly universally 0.95
01:33:21.780 female phenomenon. And so something Tressie had said when I spoke with her was beauty is the only 1.00
01:33:29.260 power that women are allowed to wield, but never own. It's like Maha. It's very similar where it's 0.99
01:33:35.680 Like, it's a space that you have been granted the ability to have some control over, and you get to kind of get your bag.
01:33:42.560 Like, you get to be an influencer there.
01:33:44.240 You get to be a thought leader, and the men are going to be elsewhere.
01:33:48.140 And so you get to really create that control.
01:33:50.580 You basically get to create your own little patriarchal pyramid. 0.96
01:33:53.400 That's why I think it's overly simplistic to be like, they, the patriarchy, wants women to be smaller. 0.99
01:33:59.420 because it is, by and large, women who have to be willing to reproduce this message and enforce 0.98
01:34:04.820 these rules for other women in order for this to be propagated. It's women as a tool for 1.00
01:34:09.280 patriarchy. So, I'm like, we really should be more specific when we're naming the subject of 1.00
01:34:14.060 this sentence. I know that men reinforce these perceptions, but I also do know that a lot of
01:34:20.440 times, like, if you actually will talk to a guy, he'll be like, yeah, no, I think she's pretty,
01:34:25.460 about, like, a girl that someone else was saying needed to lose 20 pounds or something. 0.56
01:34:29.420 There is a lot of this, I think, yes, is reinforced by the male gaze, but I think the male gaze is, as you're saying, every bit as constructed by women as it is by men. I don't think that it's as simple as men thinking women need to be like this.
01:34:44.500 so much of this is women and men talking past one another it's like the tweets of the two male
01:34:51.100 bodies and it's like one body is this very average looking dude and the other one is like
01:34:56.220 super jacked super ripped super shredded and it like went viral because the guy was like ladies
01:35:01.000 which one looks better and overwhelmingly the women preferred the normal looking dude and all
01:35:06.700 the men were so confused exactly they're like no the other guy is so much more shredded he looks
01:35:12.900 so much better and it's like sexual attraction is so much more animalistic and sensual than like
01:35:21.080 desire is not about restriction desire is the opposite of restriction so these ideas of these
01:35:27.540 very like restricted body types and these very obsessed sterile ideas of what a body should look 0.93
01:35:33.200 like it's like it is antithetical to sexual attraction there is nothing more fucking terrifying 0.68
01:35:39.140 than when you meet and fall in love with someone 0.96
01:35:41.440 and receive their love
01:35:42.980 and realize that the voice in your head does not go away.
01:35:45.760 Because you are taught your whole life
01:35:48.000 that, no, you just want to do that
01:35:49.800 because that's how we find partners. 0.93
01:35:51.840 You want to be thin and pretty 0.99
01:35:53.920 and you want to put mascara on. 0.52
01:35:55.660 It's just a bad mate selection.
01:35:57.240 And then you find someone,
01:35:58.940 and I will just say I'm lucky enough to have a partner 0.96
01:36:00.900 who genuinely does not give a shit about my body weight 0.94
01:36:03.860 and genuinely does not care if I wear makeup, 0.97
01:36:06.140 and the voice in my head is still there.
01:36:07.980 and that has been one of the more illuminating moments of feminism in my life of just being like
01:36:12.560 oh I actually almost get annoyed when I say something about my body and he's like oh I
01:36:17.460 don't agree at all and I'm like well it's not for you and then I'm like who is it for who is it for
01:36:22.180 if it's not for me and it's not for him then like who is this for and the answer of course is like
01:36:26.980 the Greek chorus right of course it was never for him or for me it was for like the capital T
01:36:32.440 they, that collective cultural force. It's crazy. I think the other thing too about this is the way
01:36:38.880 that this manifests for men. The flip side of skinny talk is steroid talk. The accelerating
01:36:45.320 body image issues are happening to men too. It's just easier to write off. And it's grind set talk.
01:36:51.660 It's like neuroses and control, but like American psycho style because they are allowed to funnel
01:36:56.820 their obsession into work. Women have to funnel their obsession into their bodies, but men get 1.00
01:37:01.560 to funnel their obsession into like performance of masculinity in a sense it seems like a lot of
01:37:07.240 this is downstream of the gender role orthodoxy resurgence and binary of we have to look extremely
01:37:15.600 different our physical forms have to be extremely blockably different and so it's like women being
01:37:22.260 as thin as possible men being as bulky and big as possible we have to like force our bodies into
01:37:27.560 what is quote-unquote natural. Exactly. To reinforce that it's fucking natural. Like,
01:37:32.320 look how big my pecs are. I'm like, yeah, well, you're taking like 500 cc's of whatever the
01:37:36.740 fuck you got from your friend Bob in the hallway. And like, yeah, no wonder you look different from 0.99
01:37:41.220 me now. But if we just stopped customized fitness routine where like the women do the Pilates to 1.00
01:37:46.620 reinforce the females. Oh my God, I'm ranting. That's exactly what I'm talking about. When I 1.00
01:37:50.980 was listening to Jessica and Emily Kirkpatrick talk about this in one of the interviews they
01:37:55.940 did for the review of mess their podcast together they were talking about how it's much easier to
01:38:01.160 ridicule men who have these body image issues who are orthorexic who are doing damaging things
01:38:05.800 physically to like live up to the standard because disordered eating and body image issues are seen 0.93
01:38:12.220 as very feminized experiences and problems so it's this weird way where when men exhibit that
01:38:18.600 type of behavior it's almost like a form of misogyny that comes out when we're like oh you're 1.00
01:38:23.920 being a pussy. Like, we make fun of it, and we don't see it as serious in the same way. So, 0.99
01:38:30.160 one example that I found online of how this is showing up in media is the example of Hugh Jackman
01:38:37.280 playing Wolverine in 2000 versus in 2024. And he's obviously 24 years older in the 2024 version,
01:38:45.540 but look at how different he looks physically between the 2000 standard and 2024.
01:38:52.440 four oh my god oh my god oh my god okay i just to describe it on the left i'm looking at a human
01:39:06.580 and on the right i am looking at like uh he has like a 14 pack his pecs i mean his his chest is
01:39:15.760 an unbelievable triangle okay you know what i will say rob mcelaney do you know have you ever
01:39:21.520 watch Always Sunny? Yeah. Oh my God. Love Always Sunny. Rob McElhaney. So you'll probably know
01:39:26.440 gained weight and then lost it for part of being the show. And he did something I really liked
01:39:32.560 where he, I don't know if it was a tweet or a video, but he basically made a joke of it where
01:39:35.960 he was like, yeah, all you need to do to lose weight and gain a six pack like me is to like
01:39:41.020 work out 40 hours a week, have a personal chef, have a nutritionist, get paid to care about your
01:39:47.760 body have a really nurturing wife who takes care of the kids and you'll be able to do just what I
01:39:52.740 did and I really appreciated that because it's like not only is it impractical and I think that 0.99
01:39:57.460 that can kind of be viewed as like a woke naggy thing of like oh they have free time that we don't 0.64
01:40:02.840 and I feel like conservatives are often like well things are unfair like people find the time but 0.81
01:40:07.300 like I also just think this is so striking looking at these photos and being like it feels like a
01:40:12.380 culture that is moving towards ai like his body looks ai-ified oh interesting do you know what i 0.85
01:40:19.520 mean like his body looks robotic it looks inhuman it looks like the era of facetune where like you
01:40:25.360 have to promote this vision of humanity that is cgi it's cgi-ified in conclusion we are all banging 0.65
01:40:34.440 on the walls of the prison of the gender binary and performing for one another and who wants this 0.97
01:40:39.680 nobody that way katie that makes me think of i recently made the very stupid mistake of going
01:40:45.220 into the substack analytics section where people explain why they unsubscribed oh jesus don't tell
01:40:50.240 me the one like piece of negative feedback we got was from a woman where i saw i saw it coming from
01:40:57.640 a few episodes away she had expressed her displeasure in a few episodes and one thing she
01:41:02.100 said was you guys tend to make grand sweeping conclusions at the end of episodes and i would
01:41:07.180 encourage you to think about that. And then you just go, in conclusion, the gender binary is
01:41:11.080 failing us. And I was like, yep, check. Grant, correct conclusion. Well, joke's on you because
01:41:18.480 that's not actually the conclusion of the episode. I have a much more grand and sweeping conclusion.
01:41:23.720 Here's where I'm going to throw a kind of much bigger curveball into this conversation,
01:41:28.320 is that I think there are versions of this that we are all way more comfortable with.
01:41:33.720 What do we typically point to when we discuss why wanting to lose weight is unhealthy? Like, we've touched on a lot of these things today. It's the fact that it is obsessive behavior. You're counting calories. It's like taking your experience of being in your body and externalizing it and analyzing it and restricting it.
01:41:52.940 But where do we draw the line? Like, we are both wearing aura rings right now. And wearing an aura ring or another, like, tracking device is not really seen as maladaptive. But there was this story recently that collecting that much health data is harmful and creates health paranoia and very, like, obsessive behavior. So I'm going to have you read something from this piece.
01:42:17.040 I've heard that also in addition to the aura rings I've also read really interesting articles about those new full MRI scans you can pay for and how they lead to sometimes like early detection for things that aren't problems or make you obsess over something that isn't a medical problem and doctors have been kind of had some trepidation over it.
01:42:37.540 Okay. Not long after the release of the first Fitbit in 2009 and the first Apple Watch in 2015, the potential hazards of technology so closely entwined with the body's natural processes became apparent.
01:42:51.020 Over the last decade, many have spoken about how wearable tech has worsened their eating disorders and led to other obsessive behavior.
01:42:58.720 Yeah, I know that game in terms of obsessive behavior.
01:43:01.080 Still, the siren song of these devices remains strong for some people who might be better served by simply opting out of the latest smartwatch or ring.
01:43:09.280 The proliferation of technology designed to track our biology can also make it easy to forget that human beings are pretty well equipped to do that on our own, said Jacqueline D. Wernemont, an associate professor at Dartmouth College in the Film and Media Studies Department who specializes in histories of quantification.
01:43:24.680 Yeah, it's also just like, the gamification of health has really uncomfortable implications. And I have experienced that. Like, I would say the most mild example of this I would get is how Aura gamifies sleep, and how it becomes fun to be like, oh my god, I got a 98 on sleep.
01:43:44.240 What's your score? Yeah. What's your sleep score? And yeah, I think that in some cases,
01:43:50.500 that's totally mild. And in other cases, it creates and reinforces a very different
01:43:56.080 relationship with your body than I guess, quote unquote, a natural one. But I'm even
01:44:00.180 uncomfortable with the idea of like a natural, I don't know what a natural relationship to health
01:44:04.000 is. Well, I think the point is a disordered relationship to health is so much bigger
01:44:08.880 than just wanting to be thinner. And I think the tripwire that we have gone off course is when
01:44:17.060 you're outsourcing and externalizing our core humanity and relationship to our bodies. So
01:44:23.460 whether that's thinness, like a number on a scale or an HRV result on an aura ring or
01:44:28.280 some of these things, like you said, that we're kind of more inclined to think of as more innocuous
01:44:32.580 because all of these things train us not to trust ourselves. I see it as very much a parallel to the
01:44:40.220 way that like the enlightenment thought separated mind and body and like separated intelligence and
01:44:45.720 rationality from like your corporeal self. So like you'll see it in the skinny talk in the context of
01:44:52.540 don't trust your hunger cues. You're just thirsty. You're not actually hungry. You're just thirsty.
01:44:57.560 There's an underlying, like, you can't trust what your body is telling you. Or I've made jokes in the past about waking up and feeling tired and run down and then seeing my aura scores and they're good. And I'm like, oh, I guess I'm fine. And like, I should just push through then. Like, you start to trust this kind of machine or this external quantification more than your own internal signals.
01:45:21.280 And so I think this leaves us with this complete void of sensuality and like the somatic experience. There's this disembodied experience of life that things like skinny talk and steroid talk and these other like more innocuous health markers promote.
01:45:37.460 And so what's so striking about the desire to be thin or to more broadly obsess about your body is that obsessing about your body means you're not in your body.
01:45:47.540 And so if your goal is optimization of that body, your outcome will never be pleasure.
01:45:52.740 It even shows up with, like, the way that they talk about exercise and walking.
01:45:57.160 Physical exertion is a very categorically healthy thing for the human body.
01:46:00.660 We know this. But when you are that in a calorie deficit all the time, you don't have the energy
01:46:07.000 to exert yourself physically. So there's so much emphasis on being hot, having a hot body,
01:46:13.200 like that Dobson woman said. I'm hot. I'm not fat. And that's the grandest irony of how sexless
01:46:20.040 all of this is. You're losing the most fundamental sources of pleasure that are theoretically
01:46:25.180 available to you taste sex rest you are optimizing a body that you can't even use i also would just
01:46:33.680 add with the physical exertion when you are only working out in order to either maintain or achieve
01:46:39.760 a certain type of body then you aren't actually able to access the benefits of exercise and you
01:46:44.540 start to associate physical exercise with negative outcomes or with negative experiences i was
01:46:49.760 thinking about this a lot, this feeling that I kept having of, it's so interesting how an obsession
01:46:55.220 with the body becomes so disembodied and disconnects you from your core humanity and
01:47:01.440 what makes you human. And then I had this realization yesterday, it's not even about
01:47:06.020 your humanity, it's about the things that transcend humanness even. It's like life itself,
01:47:11.580 the things that we share with every other living creature with consciousness, that corporeal
01:47:17.240 pleasure that like you lose access to. And it's like you are truly losing the core of your
01:47:22.480 consciousness and vitality when you become trapped in this idea. Calorie deficits in women are 1.00
01:47:29.520 associated with a loss of libido. You will literally feel less desire. There's even an 0.99
01:47:35.360 interesting parallel with the addiction research around GLP-1s that they're thought to regulate
01:47:41.880 desire? Neutralize the feeling of desire?
01:47:46.020 Craving. Right.
01:47:47.760 So I wanted to end with having you read a quote from an article called
01:47:51.620 Everyone is Beautiful and No One is Horny. 0.55
01:47:54.820 It is also interesting in the context of Gen Z having less sex.
01:47:59.120 The same fate has befallen our bodies. A body is no longer a holistic system. It is not the 0.89
01:48:05.240 vehicle through which we experience joy and pleasure during our brief time in the land of
01:48:09.200 the living. It is not a home to live in and be happy. It too is a collection of features. Six-pack,
01:48:15.940 thigh gap, cum cutters. And these features exist not to make our lives more comfortable, 0.99
01:48:21.380 but to increase the value of our assets. Our bodies are investments which must always be
01:48:26.040 optimized to bring us what exactly? Some vague sense of better living? Is a life without bread
01:48:31.920 objectively better than a life with it? When we were children, did we dream of counting every
01:48:36.380 calorie and logging every step. You know, I spend a lot of time, largely thanks to the
01:48:41.440 Maintenance Phase podcast, thinking along the question that you ask often, which is to what
01:48:46.000 end. But I think about the cultural obsession we have with health and the way that we get actually
01:48:53.160 angry at people who do anything that does not encourage good health. And I think this goes
01:48:58.680 into the idea of the zero-sum game of our health insurance system, where we have this sense that
01:49:03.460 we are paying for people who are unhealthy. And this gets into the idea of thinking that a very
01:49:09.140 thin body is a healthy body, which is, of course, not the case. But it also gets into the idea of
01:49:14.240 never giving into human pleasure if it is bad for your body. And an example I would give is
01:49:19.280 cigarettes. Cigarettes are awful for you. They are fucking terrible for you. There is probably
01:49:23.840 nothing that is a more modern invention that is worse for you, bad for you. And people like
01:49:30.020 smoking them. And we, especially in the US, and again, for largely good reasons, like we have
01:49:36.940 demonized the tobacco industry, people don't smoke as much, deaths have gone down. But the
01:49:41.800 stigmatization we give to someone who smokes a cigarette outside is insane. And having come from
01:49:49.060 France for the last month, where I frankly smoked a few fucking cigarettes, it is such an interesting 0.98
01:49:53.880 experience for me as an athlete who didn't drink in college and would drink once a month and black 0.97
01:49:59.740 out, who never smoked a cigarette until she was 30, who was obsessive over eating at certain
01:50:05.180 points. I had such a Puritan relationship to health, and it's been really interesting
01:50:09.120 not becoming like a cigarette smoker, but starting to have a relationship of
01:50:12.860 what does sensuality mean? And what does being in my body mean? And what does health mean?
01:50:19.500 To what end? To what end? Am I keeping a healthy body in order to minimize my health insurance
01:50:25.020 payments and in order to look good for others? Or am I being healthy in every sense of the word to
01:50:30.240 spend time with family and because I want to live as long as possible to be with my loved ones and
01:50:33.960 because once in a while I'm going to have a glass of wine and once in a while I'm going to get really
01:50:38.600 drunk even though it's bad for me. And once in a while I'm going to smoke a cigarette with my
01:50:41.980 husband in Paris. And I just think that it's really interesting to sort of engage with that
01:50:47.020 because the American relationship to health is so much more about optimization for work than it is
01:50:53.200 about having like a healthy and happy and balanced life. And so I would just encourage people like
01:50:58.520 whenever you feel a frustration with someone else's health decisions, maybe like think about
01:51:03.540 where that's coming from. And then of course, you know, think about it with yourself.
01:51:07.360 Like maybe I should go have a drink.
01:51:09.300 Oh my God. I didn't even realize how much.
01:51:12.320 Am I going to start drinking again? Have I just talked myself into drinking again?
01:51:16.180 I may have. 0.98
01:51:16.600 Katie becomes a drinker.
01:51:18.000 Even some of what they talk about with like binge eating of like, oh, do you feel good when
01:51:21.620 you binge eat. It's like even binge eating in a way is a disconnection from like an embodied
01:51:26.220 experience. Completely. It's a numbing. It's a symptom of the same issue. And it's like both of
01:51:31.460 these are coming from the same core impulse, which is to not listen to your body. It feels like the
01:51:36.160 conversation around thinness and fatness and all these things is very much like, well, what do we
01:51:41.160 culturally value? Do we value this type of body or that type of body? And it feels like the truth
01:51:49.060 is in that other room over there where it's like,
01:51:51.620 Maybe rather than focusing so much on what type of body we think people should have,
01:51:58.300 whether that's large or small or whatever, it's far more about learning to culturally value just
01:52:05.320 an embodied experience of life. The body as that living vessel that you are using to experience
01:52:11.920 all the things around you versus aesthetic proof of a certain status or a certain health marker.
01:52:18.140 I'm having an insane brain blast that the goal is not to be empowered. It is to be embodied.
01:52:25.920 I'm so happy you just landed that plane so beautifully. You just took the controls for me.
01:52:30.080 Trademark diabolicalized.
01:52:31.280 Nathan Fielder style. And you said, I got this bitch. I know how to land a 737. 1.00
01:52:35.920 Someone call her lawyer. That is ours. No one take that. You want to be embodied, not empowered.
01:52:40.340 Oh.
01:52:41.120 Patented.