In Bed With The Right - January 27, 2026


Episode 118 -- The Romantasy Boom

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00:00:00.000 Hello, I'm Adrienne Dopp.
00:00:08.920 And I'm Moira Donegan.
00:00:10.200 Whether we like it or not, we're in bid with the right.
00:00:13.840 So, Adrienne, today we are going to be talking about a genre of fiction that is captivating
00:00:21.760 women readers, inspiring passionate fan communities online, and quietly keeping the entire publishing
00:00:29.420 industry afloat. That's right. Today, we're talking about romanticy. 1.00
00:00:35.060 That's right. Not books about 1933. Romanticy is what's keeping the book industry afloat.
00:00:41.280 No, I think this genre, it's a combination, as the portmanteau implies, between romance fiction
00:00:47.660 and sort of fantasy genre fiction. And it really took off during the pandemic and is now this
00:00:53.420 like commanding force in our cultural life. And I think the easiest thing in the world to say about
00:00:59.920 these books is that they're wish fulfillment fantasies, right? They're transporting, they're
00:01:05.140 sexy, they involve these like women heroines who are stand in for the readers, who are beloved
00:01:12.660 and capable in some ways and also sort of like rescued in others, right? So it's very easy to
00:01:19.940 say, like, yeah, people read these because it represents something that they desire.
00:01:24.580 But I think what's a little more compelling a question and a little bit more up in Bed with
00:01:29.580 the Rights Alley is a question of, like, what kinds of wishes are the romanticcy books fulfilling?
00:01:36.080 Where do these desires come from? And what does a fantasy about their fulfillment in fiction
00:01:42.520 achieve for the readers? And to answer that question, I think we kind of need to call them
00:01:48.380 the big guns. So we're thrilled today to welcome Abby Kluchin of Ordinary Unhappiness, friend of
00:01:54.440 the show and absolute genius. Abby, thank you so much for being here. Oh, thank you for having me.
00:02:00.480 I will strive to live up to that incredible introduction. So for those of you who don't
00:02:06.140 know, we're going to link to Abby's podcast in the show notes. But Abby is the host of Ordinary
00:02:10.080 Unhappiness, which is a podcast about psychoanalysis, culture, and the ways we suffer now
00:02:16.200 is I think your tagline and I always love hearing you say the ways we suffer now it's like it's a
00:02:21.260 very comforting thing to hear and Abby is also just like somebody who does a lot of really generous
00:02:27.660 public facing scholarship she's one of the co-founders of the Brooklyn Institute for Social
00:02:31.940 Research where I love to take classes it's a really kind of great thing that happens
00:02:35.520 and she's really good at taking these cultural phenomena and sort of explicating their like
00:02:43.120 broader implications in a way that's very rigorous, but also very clear.
00:02:46.700 And she actually came to us and was like, hey, do you guys want to talk about romanticy?
00:02:53.920 Yeah.
00:02:54.100 And so we should probably mention a couple of titles here.
00:02:56.180 When you first mentioned this, Abby, and when you first mentioned it more, I was like,
00:02:59.400 I've heard this term, but I've actually nothing to attach it to.
00:03:02.320 But it turned out I had one of these books already in my library.
00:03:05.740 Someone had recommended A Court of Thorns and Roses to me, which is the first volume
00:03:09.980 in a five book series by Sarah J. Maas.
00:03:13.120 But the other ones are the Fourth Wing series by Rebecca Yaros.
00:03:16.840 It's the other sort of classic of the genre.
00:03:18.880 And I have to, so just to sort of explain to listeners in case they are super fans of
00:03:23.240 the genre, like where I'm coming from, I am now three quarters through the first volume
00:03:29.220 of Court of Thorns and Roses.
00:03:31.780 And I'm digging it.
00:03:33.780 I got to be honest.
00:03:34.640 I'm kind of digging it.
00:03:35.600 I'm not sure I can like analyze every part of it yet, but like it took a little bit for
00:03:40.420 me to get into.
00:03:41.680 We can talk about why that is.
00:03:43.440 It has something to do with pacing, but I think there's something interesting going on with the pacing.
00:03:47.320 And by now, I am kind of hooked.
00:03:49.860 That's where I'm at.
00:03:50.760 Maura, how far did you make it into this?
00:03:52.920 I read the full first A Court of Thorn and Roses.
00:03:56.420 And Abby had come to us with this idea for this podcast, and I had been really excited about it because I knew these were really, really popular books.
00:04:03.640 And I sort of wanted to do what she told me to do, which is just kind of like let it happen to you, right?
00:04:10.000 Just like, don't resist these books, allow their power to like sort of carry you away.
00:04:16.240 And that is really like what they do.
00:04:17.640 They are kind of hypnotic.
00:04:19.000 I had an initial like resistance reaction, like my experience of the first hundred pages
00:04:24.280 or so of the Sarah J. Masa Court of Thorn and Roses was like, wow, it's crazy how much
00:04:29.940 I am too good for this.
00:04:32.500 And then I sort of thought, okay, that's a limited critical response.
00:04:37.180 It's like a very easy one.
00:04:38.700 I can't, like, make a critical case for these books as, like, great works of literature, but I think it's more interesting to look at them from the point of view of somebody who's, like, really getting something out of them, who's experiencing a lot of pleasure, a lot of excitement, a lot of, like, you know, gratification.
00:04:56.160 And what I will say about these books is that they are incredibly transporting. You kind of can't put them down. They are immersive. They put you in this different world. And I felt sort of like I was embodying that world even when it didn't always make sense, even when it wasn't, say, particularly imaginative, right?
00:05:15.660 Because something that's very interesting about these books also, and that is characteristic of the romantic genre in general, it is very, very bounded by trope and by formula.
00:05:26.880 And something that is really compelling about these is that they're very transporting.
00:05:30.360 They're very absorbing.
00:05:31.340 They really kind of take you out of your life and put you into this other world with this escapist fantasy.
00:05:37.900 But also, you're never exactly surprised by what's going on.
00:05:41.720 So maybe before we say too much, we should go to Abby.
00:05:44.720 And Abby, tell us how you discovered this genre and what it was like for you to first read them.
00:05:51.120 Well, first, let me say, Moira, I'm so glad that you let yourself have that sort of experience.
00:05:55.600 I realized after I'd sent you that email that what I should have said was like, you're going to hate the romance.
00:06:00.800 So just like lean into the fantasy of it all.
00:06:03.200 And it sounds like it sounds like that's exactly what you did.
00:06:08.200 Thank you for giving me an introduction that makes me sound like a serious person. 0.96
00:06:11.740 so that, like, now when I confess myself to be a basic bitch
00:06:15.120 who likes to read fantasy novels, you know, 0.96
00:06:19.120 I'll have some sort of, like, modicum of dignity.
00:06:22.420 But I think, like, so many people,
00:06:25.580 I started reading these during the pandemic.
00:06:28.700 I was home. I was teaching on Zoom.
00:06:32.500 Adrian, you know what that was like.
00:06:35.320 Oh, yeah.
00:06:35.680 So, you know, I certainly needed to escape the realities
00:06:38.720 of my existence a little bit more.
00:06:40.880 And I also grew up reading fantasy, and I grew up reading feminist fantasy, which is like a real thing and which is not what I would call romanticy. I would call those two pretty distinct kinds of things. 0.91
00:06:54.960 But I've definitely found myself in a position of needing to escape and a series with several or like more than several 600, 700 page books where just like you say, Moira, you're in this kind of pleasantly hypnotic state.
00:07:18.600 But also there's the comfort of like,
00:07:20.600 you basically know what's going to happen
00:07:22.160 because the genre conventions are so strong
00:07:24.780 that you can intuit them
00:07:26.160 even if you've never read one before.
00:07:29.040 That's scratched an itch for me.
00:07:31.200 So I read the Sarah J. Moss books,
00:07:34.020 or at least I read A Court of Thorns and Roses
00:07:36.260 and the books that came after.
00:07:38.780 It's not done yet.
00:07:39.880 Book six is coming out. 0.99
00:07:41.480 Oh, shit. 0.98
00:07:41.960 The main story is wrapped up. 0.98
00:07:44.380 Sorry, Adrian, can I spoil this for you?
00:07:46.680 Sure. Again, I have a suspicion of I know where it's going.
00:07:50.360 Okay. I don't usually say the word Freudian in like a derogatory mode, but I will now.
00:07:55.020 It's like it's wrapped up Freudianly where the protagonist like gets her man and gets her baby and it's a boy.
00:08:01.780 And so like by that, you know that that story is essentially wrapped.
00:08:06.960 But so she's still like taking the other side characters off into other places.
00:08:11.500 So that actually, I mean, we're going to talk about different antecedents, but one kind of book I thought about,
00:08:15.940 But, like, there is, like, feminist fantasy.
00:08:18.320 Like, I'm thinking of someone like Marion Zimmer Bradley, right?
00:08:20.740 Like, the Mists of Avalon was kind of a big seller in the 70s and 80s.
00:08:24.320 Yeah.
00:08:24.600 Although, side note, Adrienne, do you know about the Marion Zimmer Bradley?
00:08:28.080 Oh, yeah.
00:08:28.140 No, I know.
00:08:28.660 Okay, I just wanted to make sure.
00:08:29.980 But it was Bill at the time.
00:08:31.040 Yeah, no, I loved that as a child.
00:08:32.720 Bad person.
00:08:33.280 Sorry, what happened?
00:08:34.240 I don't know. 0.63
00:08:35.460 She protected her pedophile husband, basically, right? 0.97
00:08:38.160 Oh, Jesus. 0.95
00:08:38.640 Well, then, after she died, her daughter accused her. 1.00
00:08:43.120 Oh, shit, that's right. 1.00
00:08:44.040 Of sexual assault. 1.00
00:08:45.860 I mean, it's a very dark, dark story.
00:08:48.460 Yeah, it's really dark.
00:08:49.100 And she's the one who wrote, yeah, she's sort of like the mother of feminist fantasy in some ways.
00:08:55.980 She wrote this epic retelling of the Arthurian legend from the women's perspectives.
00:09:00.520 And then, I guess it was about 10 years ago, this came out.
00:09:04.500 Jeez.
00:09:04.840 Yeah.
00:09:05.180 Wow, that's bad.
00:09:06.560 But the other person I thought of was someone who writes sort of at the intersection between historical fantasy and romance.
00:09:14.040 and who has a huge readership,
00:09:16.060 but a very gendered readership, 1.00
00:09:17.480 was Diana Gabaldon,
00:09:19.040 or is that how you say her name?
00:09:20.720 The Outlander series?
00:09:22.260 Oh, yeah.
00:09:22.700 I never read those.
00:09:23.860 I've read like parts of it,
00:09:25.140 again, on someone's recommendation.
00:09:26.460 Those books were too long for me,
00:09:27.780 I got to confess.
00:09:28.920 Each of them feels about as long
00:09:30.200 as the winds of winter will be,
00:09:32.400 if it ever appears.
00:09:33.800 But it's interesting
00:09:35.160 because it has all this time travel
00:09:36.840 and like all these surprising
00:09:37.880 kind of political things happening.
00:09:39.480 But the backbone of it
00:09:40.800 is a very standard kind of romance plot.
00:09:44.040 And the reason I'm bringing it up is because it's this interesting thing where the romance plot kind of grounds you and is predictable.
00:09:49.360 And it allows the author to kind of weave a lot of stuff around that's unpredictable.
00:09:53.680 But like the romance part is sort of its spine.
00:09:55.980 If I'm wrong about this, listeners can correct me.
00:09:58.700 But my impression always was that like the genius of Outlander was that like its formula combined with something that spun around that goes a little bit against formula.
00:10:08.140 And it strikes me that the big commercial antecedent for these is Twilight, right?
00:10:13.740 Like this massive multi-book series with a spinoff movie franchise that is focused around a fantasy, a magical element sort of grafted on to a romance novel plot.
00:10:31.740 But, you know, this kind of material, the, like, sexual allure of a non-human male figure is also something that's been explored by, like, what we might consider more traditionally artistically ambitious, like, literary fiction writers.
00:10:47.440 Like I'm thinking of Bear by Marion Engel, which is a 1976 novel about a woman who is tasked with taking care of a bear, like a literal bear, and finds herself having sexual urges and eventually a sexual relationship with the bear.
00:11:04.280 There's also this like famous novel, Mrs. Caliban, which is like the cult classic by Rachel Ingalls from 1982, which is about a woman's relationship with a creature that has escaped from like a science experimental biology lab down her street.
00:11:19.660 And these are, like, works coming from the tail end of the second wave that are, you know, looking at women's sexuality and its monstrousness and its relationship to violence, right, in this way that is deliberately about breaking taboos.
00:11:35.840 But I think this advent of romanticcy, this like specific genre that we're talking about today, really is something new, right? And it emerged during the pandemic, like Abby was saying, as this kind of like escapist mode from the terror and claustrophobia of those eras, but also as something that could be really participatory. I think it's really difficult to talk about romanticcy without talking about TikTok.
00:12:04.520 Yes, or book talk specifically.
00:12:07.380 Yeah, do you like want to tell us about this world?
00:12:09.640 I mean, I will say that I did,
00:12:12.580 upon receiving your request to like situate
00:12:16.600 listeners in the world of romanticcy
00:12:20.380 and when did it start or when are the main texts
00:12:22.320 and this and that and the other thing.
00:12:23.860 I have like book talk in my notes,
00:12:26.480 but I can't with TikTok.
00:12:29.240 I just, I mean, I've seen a couple,
00:12:31.120 but it's just like, I just,
00:12:32.140 I feel like someone has hit me on the head with a hammer every time I watch, like, extremely short-form video.
00:12:37.840 But I think, like, the existence of it is really, really important because, and I think we'll get to this more when we start to talk about the ways in which romanticity allows women specifically to identify with this main character who is generally traumatized and ends up overcoming.
00:13:02.140 trauma and becoming stronger and becoming a fighter and this and that. But it is a social
00:13:08.880 phenomenon and it is a social media phenomenon. There are fan communities. You know, it's not
00:13:15.720 just BookTok, but it's also like Goodreads. And I think I would almost compare the fan communities
00:13:22.900 to something like the Swifties. No disrespect to Taylor Swift. I like Taylor Swift just fine.
00:13:28.940 But like, if you've heard one Taylor Swift song, you've heard every Taylor Swift song to a certain extent. And if you've read one of these, you know, you've read all of these, again, to a certain extent. But that means that people take up this project of reading them and scrutinizing them in ways that the text just simply won't bear.
00:13:48.100 like the way that people are looking for Easter eggs
00:13:51.500 in Taylor Swift songs.
00:13:53.760 They're looking for like deep esoteric occult meaning
00:13:57.320 in romantic-y novels.
00:13:59.540 Like perhaps like there's numerology that's going on.
00:14:02.680 Again, I don't think it's something
00:14:03.820 that the texts necessarily bear,
00:14:05.500 although I do think they are,
00:14:07.580 like they're such important objects
00:14:09.940 for the kind of scrutiny that we're giving them.
00:14:12.840 But there's something that's a little bit perverse
00:14:15.540 about looking at what it is that makes them individual,
00:14:19.700 given that they are written in some way
00:14:22.240 to fulfill the same function
00:14:23.880 over and over and over and over again.
00:14:26.340 Yeah, it's a little funny to engage in numerology
00:14:28.720 and analyzing a book that the author
00:14:30.340 claims to have written in a month and a half.
00:14:32.740 Right, exactly.
00:14:34.920 No hate, but I'm guessing Sarah J. Moss
00:14:37.780 was busy typing the words,
00:14:39.300 because that takes time too.
00:14:41.260 One thing just to support this,
00:14:43.460 and something that I think distinguishes it
00:14:44.900 a little bit from the Twilight phenomenon, whenever that was, like 10, 15 years ago,
00:14:49.020 is that A Court of Thorn and Roses is probably the book I've seen people read in public
00:14:53.040 as a physical book the most over the last year and a half.
00:14:56.160 That's in fact why I bought it.
00:14:57.600 I get fascinated with what people read on the train or on the bus or on the beach or
00:15:02.800 wherever.
00:15:03.300 And like, this book was a mainstay.
00:15:05.520 You'd get sometimes two people together, each with a copy of this book, which I hadn't
00:15:10.580 seen for any book ever, really.
00:15:13.260 And that certainly wasn't true for Twilight,
00:15:14.840 which famously like sort of coincided
00:15:16.240 with the Kindle revolution,
00:15:17.580 where everyone was sort of quietly reading it on their Kindle.
00:15:20.200 Like, this is one where people are like,
00:15:21.660 yeah, I'm reading sex scenes, so what?
00:15:23.680 You know, I was like, oh, this is interesting.
00:15:25.420 And once I started reading it, I was like,
00:15:27.660 okay, wow, so you really were putting the flag down there, ladies. 0.89
00:15:30.800 It's like, I'm at the pool reading about fairy sex, you know?
00:15:35.000 The other thing I wanted to bring up,
00:15:36.660 which I didn't know about these kind of hidden meanings
00:15:38.620 that people were looking for,
00:15:39.660 But to me, more so than the Stephenie Meyer books, at least the Maas book that I've now three-quarters read is a consummate remix, right?
00:15:50.660 Oh, yeah.
00:15:52.040 Pastiche is putting it too strongly.
00:15:53.840 It's a Beauty and the Beast retelling.
00:15:56.100 Yeah.
00:15:56.380 I mean, for listeners who haven't read these, it's basically it's about a young woman in the mortal world.
00:16:01.260 She's living kind of a fantasy heroine life.
00:16:03.460 She's a Katniss Everdeen.
00:16:05.080 Like she's skinning a wolf by like page eight or whatever. 1.00
00:16:07.820 But there are fairies in this world. 1.00
00:16:10.240 Hai Fae and the wolf that she is skinning at the beginning of the novel turns out to be one of them. 1.00
00:16:17.340 And so she has to follow a very grumpy exemplar of the Fae to his estate in the other world.
00:16:25.860 Now, the reason that's interesting is like, to me, on the one hand, it has all these fantasy tropes, right?
00:16:31.940 Dark forests, fairies, et cetera, et cetera.
00:16:34.400 Starving family.
00:16:35.560 Starving family.
00:16:37.260 On the other hand, it's very clearly just a riff on Beauty and the Beast.
00:16:41.240 Oh, yeah.
00:16:41.640 It's just very much a fairy tale.
00:16:43.900 And then it's sort of, once you get into the domestic sphere, you end up with all the trappings of the age in which the fairy tales were collected, sort of the late 18th century.
00:16:54.900 Like it has real Regency costume drama energy.
00:16:58.540 Unlike Game of Thrones, which I feel like has the medievalism all the way through,
00:17:03.480 this series sort of does a temporal break the moment it sort of abandons its more straightforwardly heroic fantasy trappings
00:17:11.180 and is suddenly kind of like, yeah, Jane Austen redux.
00:17:14.880 And so, like, it is a consummate mashup.
00:17:17.320 It's really just kind of using different motifs and tropes and kind of grafting them onto each other
00:17:24.620 in, I think, a pretty smart, interesting way.
00:17:26.620 But it's interesting that, like, people are looking for deep meanings when what it's really doing virtuosically is, like, smashing together surfaces, right?
00:17:34.620 Yes, absolutely.
00:17:36.300 We're going to use Sarah J. Moss and Rebecca Yeros as our kind of, like, specimen text.
00:17:41.620 Yeah.
00:17:41.940 But since Adrian and Moira are either done with or part away through book one, I will kind of pick up here and say that A Court of Thorns and Roses, like, book one, is a kind of fake out.
00:17:56.320 Oh.
00:17:56.800 So, like, spoilers for anyone listening.
00:17:58.940 This book has been out for a long time.
00:18:00.200 I don't feel very bad about that.
00:18:01.980 If this is Beauty and the Beast, the Beast,
00:18:05.180 you know, you think that she's found her mate, right?
00:18:07.360 This is something that we'll talk more about, the fated mate.
00:18:10.500 But actually, she's going to suffer horribly 0.98
00:18:13.360 through a whole series of trials to save his life,
00:18:15.780 only to find out that her mate is somebody else.
00:18:18.960 Oh.
00:18:20.340 Yes.
00:18:21.140 Do you want to know who it is, Moira?
00:18:22.820 Who? Tell me.
00:18:23.840 it's Rizand, or Riz? Rizand?
00:18:26.540 I've never said that out loud.
00:18:27.940 Who is the high lord of the night court,
00:18:30.660 who turns out to be much more powerful and much hotter,
00:18:34.400 and he truly understands her,
00:18:36.060 and he rescues her from the first fake-out love interest,
00:18:41.360 you know, the beast and the beauty and the beast of it all,
00:18:43.480 who actually turns out to be, like, a domestic abuser.
00:18:47.740 And he rescues her from that entire situation,
00:18:51.940 and he brings her back to life
00:18:54.380 after the traumas of the first book
00:18:56.500 and he teaches her to read.
00:18:58.540 She's illiterate. 0.99
00:18:59.480 Oh, yeah, she is, yeah. 0.84
00:19:00.380 Yeah, and then here I'll sum up the rest of this
00:19:03.360 in like two sentences.
00:19:04.720 There's like a long slow burn of like,
00:19:06.880 will they or won't they?
00:19:08.540 And yes, they will.
00:19:10.200 And she becomes High Lady of the Night Court
00:19:12.240 and they have a beautiful telepathic relationship
00:19:14.280 that everyone envies and they become mates. 0.99
00:19:17.300 Hijinks ensue. 1.00
00:19:18.700 There's a lot of war, 1.00
00:19:20.620 thousands of pages of war.
00:19:22.240 And then, as I previously spoiled it.
00:19:25.400 She has a kid.
00:19:25.960 She has a kid.
00:19:27.120 There's drama around that, but yeah.
00:19:29.380 So that's also the difference then to Twilight.
00:19:31.820 I must admit that I hated those series.
00:19:34.400 I hated those books.
00:19:35.180 I hated those movies.
00:19:36.040 And part of it is because it's essentially
00:19:37.920 all about extending runway and empathy
00:19:41.260 to a domestic abuser, right?
00:19:42.660 Like this guy is like 4,000 years old
00:19:45.060 watching her sleep and she's like,
00:19:46.880 well, I should find it in my heart to love him.
00:19:48.260 It's like, well, I don't think you should, girl. 1.00
00:19:49.660 I think you should run the other fucking way. 0.99
00:19:50.900 Well, his sexual desire is also, like, depicted as a literal impulse to murder, right? 1.00
00:19:56.440 Yeah.
00:19:56.960 But, like, somehow she has to make peace with that.
00:19:59.140 It's nice to hear that that's not where this is going.
00:20:01.780 And then, in fact, these books are saying, like, you don't owe this guy anything.
00:20:06.000 No.
00:20:06.280 And just because he's gruff and abusive, he might just be gruff and abusive.
00:20:09.600 He's not hiding a heart of gold.
00:20:11.880 It's just a bunch of red flags.
00:20:13.660 Yeah, which I was picking up on.
00:20:15.580 I was withholding judgment.
00:20:17.320 Also, I was pronouncing it right side in my head.
00:20:19.440 I was like, well, he keeps showing up in a way that, like, I don't quite know why he's here.
00:20:23.020 It's kind of like Roger Ebert's law of character economy.
00:20:25.580 I'm like, right, if a character's like, and he was there too.
00:20:28.620 And you're like, oh, okay, like, it feels like this, he might still have a role to play.
00:20:33.200 You know, and I'm like, I don't think he's a traitor.
00:20:35.200 So I think he might be the actual guy.
00:20:37.640 So they needed a man with dark hair as well as a man with blonde hair.
00:20:42.660 Yeah, it's very like the movies of the 1950s where there's one brunette and one blonde.
00:20:47.240 Yes. 1.00
00:20:47.560 And they have to, like, play off of each other.
00:20:49.640 It's like that, but with just men.
00:20:51.580 Like, there's, like, different types of white guy.
00:20:53.760 And aren't they introduced within, like, two pages of each other?
00:20:56.820 Probably, yeah.
00:20:58.020 I think so.
00:20:59.380 Yeah.
00:21:00.520 Do you want me to do the Rebecca Yaros?
00:21:02.280 Yeah.
00:21:02.680 Tell us about the fourth wing, because this is the one with dragons.
00:21:06.180 Fucky dragons.
00:21:07.260 Yeah.
00:21:07.720 Moira, I'm a little bummed that you didn't read fourth wing,
00:21:10.840 because I just, I think it might give you some joy.
00:21:13.860 Now I have to read it, and it will take me, like, two days in which I accomplish nothing else,
00:21:19.000 but just, like, sit down and read all of these alone in my apartment.
00:21:23.220 I just think that you're really going to identify with the dragons. 0.92
00:21:29.560 I love this, like, light ethnic ribbing I'm getting.
00:21:32.040 You're like, before we started recording, Abby was like, well, the dragons are Irish. 1.00
00:21:38.600 And grumpy, like, delightfully cantankerous. 1.00
00:21:41.880 It's like very on brand for you.
00:21:43.640 I do feel very seen.
00:21:45.000 Thank you.
00:21:46.260 But also, they're the only real characters.
00:21:48.780 Yeah.
00:21:49.360 You know, as much as I think that these books are a vast improvement over Twilight, where
00:21:55.180 like the main character just kind of like drags around and you can't see me, but I'm
00:21:58.420 making like a Victorian fainting couch kind of gesture.
00:22:02.440 The primary trope of all of these is the like, quote unquote, like strong female protagonist.
00:22:08.320 But that's kind of like an empty set in a lot of ways.
00:22:11.080 Yeah.
00:22:11.240 It's there so that anyone can insert themselves into it.
00:22:15.620 And there are virtues to that for, you know, at least therapeutic purposes and also just for imaginative purposes, right?
00:22:22.860 Like, there are good reasons to write characters like that.
00:22:26.240 But they're boring.
00:22:27.060 They're not drawn out.
00:22:28.540 Like, they have nothing going on, right?
00:22:30.880 Yeah.
00:22:31.420 They're not very nuanced characters.
00:22:33.160 You don't know a ton about their psychic lives.
00:22:36.900 that are not very differentiated from one another
00:22:38.940 or from, like, other people in general. 0.99
00:22:41.240 It's just kind of like concept of woman. 1.00
00:22:43.280 Yeah, concept of woman who can kick your ass. 1.00
00:22:46.920 Yeah. 1.00
00:22:47.220 Which is, again, a vast improvement
00:22:49.540 on concept of woman as fundamentally passive
00:22:53.300 while someone else is the agent of her destiny. 0.74
00:22:56.520 Like, a vast upgrade.
00:22:58.880 Okay, but let me give you the TLDR
00:23:01.600 on the Rebecca Yeros books.
00:23:04.840 These are more recent.
00:23:06.120 Fourth Wing came out in 2023, and there are three books out so far of a projected five-book series.
00:23:15.080 To speak a little bit to how these have been just, you know, time when increasingly nobody is reading, everybody is reading these books, she sold 12 million copies in two years. 0.98
00:23:30.660 Oh, shit. 0.99
00:23:31.320 Yeah. It was harder to find the statistics on ACOTAR, but I did go and look at Sarah J. Moss's website, which claims that of all of her books, she has sold 70 million copies. 0.99
00:23:45.600 Wow.
00:23:46.020 70 million. So I think perhaps it makes sense as we're thinking about the ways in which these characters have very little character, that 70 million people can find themselves in there.
00:23:58.000 Yeah, it's a vehicle for reader identification, and that is a very broadly applicable mandate, yeah.
00:24:03.940 Yes, but it's a publishing juggernaut.
00:24:05.960 Okay, so here's what happens in Fourth Wing.
00:24:08.500 We follow our hero, Violet Sorengale, who, in a kind of twist of the genre, which, you know, is all about strength, the strong woman,
00:24:19.260 suffers from what seems to be Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, which the author does as well.
00:24:24.800 She was very clearly trying to get some representation of folks who are dealing with that into the books.
00:24:31.800 But that is particularly interesting because this book is set at a battle college.
00:24:36.960 And the mother of our heroine is the general.
00:24:43.420 So she's all about strength in a very literal sense. 0.94
00:24:47.840 So although Violet is, like, there's much made of how she's physically weak and how she's in constant pain, she is smarter than everybody else.
00:24:58.900 And so she finds a way not only to survive, but actually to thrive in the world of dragon writing, which is honestly, like, somebody dies on almost every page.
00:25:10.220 It's really, you're just like, oh, you're just going to kill off half of the freshman class, like, maybe like two-thirds of the freshman class.
00:25:17.580 I mean, I can't overstate the extent to which there's just, like, death and dying and school all mashed together.
00:25:26.020 It's the Dragon Riders of Pern reimagined as, like, Battle Royale.
00:25:30.440 Exactly.
00:25:31.560 Exactly.
00:25:32.620 Off mic, you were saying that Rebecca Yaros, the author of the Fourth Wing series, is in fact married to an Air Force pilot, right?
00:25:39.240 And lives in Colorado near the Air Force Academy, right?
00:25:41.560 He's in military.
00:25:42.540 I don't know more than that.
00:25:43.640 Okay. Well, it's easy for me to see, like, a comparison between, like, the flying dangers of war.
00:25:51.740 Oh, yeah. Yeah.
00:25:53.380 You know, just transpose onto dragons instead of, you know, jets or helicopters or whatever the case may be.
00:25:58.920 Yes. Absolutely.
00:26:00.880 Okay. So, Violet, here's the quick and dirty version of it.
00:26:04.180 She bonds the single most badass battle dragon that there is. 0.91
00:26:08.520 And also, just for a bonus, a kind of, like, baby special dragon.
00:26:12.080 and her dragon is mated to the dragon of the man
00:26:17.480 who should be her mortal enemy,
00:26:19.860 but turns out to be...
00:26:23.040 What?
00:26:24.040 What?
00:26:25.260 Her love.
00:26:26.840 I don't want to say lover.
00:26:27.740 Jesus, that sounds awful.
00:26:28.680 Her intended.
00:26:29.520 I think when we're talking about the romance
00:26:32.160 and romanticity genres,
00:26:33.680 we have to say lover.
00:26:35.340 And we have to say it like those people on SNL.
00:26:38.180 Lover.
00:26:38.840 Like, yeah, the creepy people in the hot tub.
00:26:41.780 Yes.
00:26:42.640 Yeah.
00:26:43.160 Yes.
00:26:43.500 So, and his name, which I have never said out loud, but it starts with an X, is Zayden
00:26:50.660 Reorsen, I want to say.
00:26:53.280 Wow.
00:26:53.500 We should say it is typical of the genre to have very like vowel forward names that sound
00:26:59.520 kind of Nordic or Celtic.
00:27:01.700 Yes.
00:27:02.240 Yes.
00:27:02.600 That's totally right.
00:27:03.660 That's totally right.
00:27:04.300 So, Violet and Zayden, classic enemies to lovers.
00:27:08.080 despite the fact that they are telepathic,
00:27:12.920 and this is true in ACOTAR 2,
00:27:15.080 they have communication problems.
00:27:17.340 Like, I don't know.
00:27:18.580 The fantasy, I think, of being able to read your beloved's mind
00:27:23.220 and vice versa should mean that you aren't constantly.
00:27:27.160 Like, the plot other than war is basically like
00:27:30.480 Violet and Zayden keep misunderstanding each other.
00:27:33.880 It also strikes me as like typical of,
00:27:36.160 you ever watch like an old movie
00:27:38.540 even from like the 90s and be like
00:27:40.440 oh this whole plot falls apart if anybody has a
00:27:42.540 cell phone yeah and it's like
00:27:44.580 it's like that it's like oh this whole plot
00:27:46.300 falls apart if people can read each
00:27:48.460 other's minds and
00:27:50.460 therefore we're just going to like
00:27:52.260 reinsert this obstacle so that our characters
00:27:54.280 can have dramatic tension yes absolutely
00:27:56.520 and if I were going to keep summing
00:27:58.440 this up it's almost the same as
00:28:00.640 summing up ACOTAR which is like hijinks
00:28:02.580 ensue so does war
00:28:05.260 And my favorite part of this, I was thinking about this, Moira, when you were asking via email, like, what's the fantasy?
00:28:12.180 I was like, for me, the fantasy is that even though war is happening, everyone keeps going to class.
00:28:22.500 They're like, look, we have a mission, but after that, we got to get up and go to our 9 a.m.
00:28:27.520 Did you do the homework?
00:28:28.860 But that'll give readers old enough to have been children in the late 90s, early 2000s, some real Harry Potter flashbacks, right?
00:28:36.360 Where like also the body count just keeps rising and it's like, but you're late for potions for the defense of the dark arts.
00:28:43.960 And you're like, are we going to talk about the kids who just got fucking creamed or are we just going to plow right through it? 0.57
00:28:50.260 Yeah. 0.92
00:28:50.660 But it's also about like the power of the personal, right?
00:28:55.100 Yeah.
00:28:55.320 Like, the sexual relationships, the romantic relationships, the sort of, like, suspense and intensity involved with those retain their power even when stuff is, like, literally on fire around you.
00:29:06.980 The fantasy there, I think, is partly about, like, assigning power to those parts of your life, right?
00:29:12.280 Whereas in our unfortunate banal real life, like, that stuff can kind of seem a little less important or, like, can recede from the front of your mind at times when you're under stress.
00:29:24.740 Yeah, one other question
00:29:25.700 that this brings up for me is,
00:29:27.560 and for listeners not familiar
00:29:29.120 with the fantasy genre,
00:29:30.420 this may sound like a strange question
00:29:32.140 because you think like,
00:29:32.820 well, any books about, you know,
00:29:34.520 dragons and wizards
00:29:35.300 are going to be kind of YA-ish.
00:29:37.180 But like the romance genre
00:29:39.300 by and large is not taken
00:29:40.980 to be a YA genre
00:29:42.480 just in terms of marketing
00:29:43.800 because you don't want to end up
00:29:45.060 on any band lists
00:29:46.060 because people are just like
00:29:46.980 humping so heavily.
00:29:48.540 You want to be able to sell in Texas
00:29:49.820 and like be in school libraries 0.98
00:29:51.440 and all that shit. 0.96
00:29:52.680 At the same time, 0.98
00:29:53.720 And some of the tropes we're comparing those two are straight-up YA tropes.
00:29:58.360 And I have to admit that, like, my impression was that the readership here is targeted at adults.
00:30:03.480 Do you have a sense, did this come out of a YA space and then sort of escape containment?
00:30:08.200 Or is this adult fiction that sort of just happens to also traffic in tropes that a lot of people grew up reading when they were, like, in their mid to late teens?
00:30:17.480 Yeah, it's a great question.
00:30:19.040 And it's one that the publishing industry has answered also with a new category of N.A.
00:30:26.440 Right.
00:30:26.940 Or like new adult, which suggests to me that it's just a new name.
00:30:33.620 Yeah.
00:30:34.240 I feel like we're a few years past the conversation about like, is it okay for adults to read kids' books or YA?
00:30:43.660 Because the culture has moved on.
00:30:45.580 Yeah.
00:30:45.820 The answer is mostly like, well, if adults are reading at all, they are probably reading something that is functionally YA.
00:30:53.640 I don't know in terms of the demographics of the readership, other than to say that it skews towards women.
00:31:00.860 Yeah, I mean, that's kind of what I'm interested in as well.
00:31:03.480 I do feel like there are a lot of books as of recent that sort of live in that space, but I do think they're often by women authors and seem to be targeted at women.
00:31:10.840 And I'm also thinking about the work of Arv Kwong, which like likewise is often said at schools and like has some of the trappings of like, I think she's just kind of enjoys sort of drawing on things that she read when she was the heroine's age, basically, which makes sense to me.
00:31:27.500 But it's interesting because like, of course, in fantasy that is targeted at men, I think we've seen more and more of a divide of like the YA and the adult space, right?
00:31:37.460 Like, I mean, Son of Ice and Fire, which I guess, you know, has readers of all genders, but like very much the idea was like, this isn't The Hobbit.
00:31:46.300 This is adult fantasy, right?
00:31:48.140 I mean, what makes it adult?
00:31:49.620 Just the violence and the gratuitous sex.
00:31:51.680 But still, there is an element there of like, don't give that to your 16-year-old, right?
00:31:55.840 Or I was thinking also of something like Glenn Cook's The Black Company series, which is extremely, has a very unique, I think, readership profile in the sense that it's extremely popular among the armed forces.
00:32:05.740 Those are new adults.
00:32:08.000 Those are N.A. in many ways, but they are N.A.s that we're training to kill other N.A.s. 0.99
00:32:14.100 So, like, we don't tend to think of them as, like, needing their own special kind of genre to handhold them into adulthood. 0.67
00:32:20.920 So there's also something interesting with age and gender going on here, it seems to me.
00:32:25.240 It's interesting.
00:32:26.080 I, when I think about Game of Thrones, I don't think of it as any more grown up than ACOTAR or Fourth Wing.
00:32:36.760 Well, I'm thinking about how it's marketed and how it's described.
00:32:39.400 Yeah, no, no, I hear you in terms of marketing.
00:32:42.520 But I'm thinking also now, and to be fair, it has been a long time since I have read The Lord of the Rings.
00:32:47.600 But I guess I would take those books more seriously in some sort of sense.
00:32:52.740 Yeah.
00:32:52.980 And, you know, I don't know how much of this is just, like, the presence of sex and violence.
00:32:57.520 Yeah.
00:32:57.900 That that's what's at work here in the labeling and the marketing.
00:33:01.540 Yeah, I guess the other kind of question, and you already alluded to that.
00:33:05.940 I mean, you're coming to us from a psychoanalytic podcast and you already invoked Freud.
00:33:11.140 I guess part of it is the question of analysis terminal and interminable, right?
00:33:15.020 Like, you can tell pretty much after the first third of A Court of Thorns and Roses that this is a story that no matter how long the author chooses to make it, has a telos, right?
00:33:28.440 This is the maturation process of a young woman, and she's going to learn some lessons.
00:33:32.840 It's a Bildungsroman.
00:33:33.800 It has to come to an end.
00:33:35.380 Yes.
00:33:35.760 Whereas, like, famously, George R.R. Martin, sorry, listeners, you're hearing it here first, is never going to fucking finish that thing because it's interminable. 0.97
00:33:43.220 because, like, these people trip all over themselves 0.94
00:33:45.820 to kind of stop each other in the back.
00:33:48.460 It's like succession.
00:33:49.640 It kind of builds on itself
00:33:51.260 and is so deeply interested in politics
00:33:54.660 that it's always going to find another way
00:33:57.420 to kind of tweak your expectations.
00:33:59.160 There is no fulfillment.
00:34:00.460 Any fulfillment that you think you're getting
00:34:02.680 from Game of Thrones,
00:34:03.640 George R. R. Martin is eventually going to throw in your face 1.00
00:34:05.280 like, you idiots, right? 1.00
00:34:06.580 And if that happened in the Court of Thorns and Roses, 1.00
00:34:09.720 I think it would actually break the generic compact.
00:34:12.080 It really feels like this is what these books are going to be about, and you kind of have to pay off on that.
00:34:18.360 And that might be a distinction here we can make between something also like The Lord of the Rings and something like The Black Company, where like, right, like The Lord of the Rings is all about, will you get the object to the place it has to go?
00:34:29.840 And then like, you know, you basically sail off into the sunset, right?
00:34:33.460 Or like, is this a real world in which like, after that, there's another job you have to do and it sucks?
00:34:39.740 Well, it strikes me that something that the romantic genre relies on is this like romance trope, right? There has to be an end. And what Abby has described with ACOTAR is like there's one fake out, right? But how many times can you use that strategy, right?
00:34:56.240 Like I could see Sarah J Maas sitting down with a calculator going like, if I could give this chick like two more like fake loves of her life that turned out to not be worth it and just like turn her into a little bit of a serial monogamous, I could buy like an island, you know?
00:35:14.240 And I think that has diminishing returns because of the expectations of the readership, right?
00:35:21.600 Because the genre makes this promise to its readers.
00:35:25.600 And part of the function of these books and part of what they fulfill for their readers, I think, is that they don't write their promises.
00:35:31.740 Yeah. Although, I mean, like, again, the Outlander series has been able to ring truly astonishing amounts of pages out of what is ultimately like a love story that I don't think breaks the generic convention. I think it's fairly the generic compact is intact, but Gabaldon is able to like really ring a ton of mileage out of it.
00:35:52.440 I mean, you know, this would be the Pamela or Clarissa model of like, fucking A, we're only 1,200 pages into this thing and like they're not going to find each other yet.
00:36:02.400 But, you know, we do have a couple of like themes that seem to recur throughout these books, right?
00:36:09.160 So one is that like there's a protagonist who's a teenage girl or a very young woman who gets transported from sort of like a mundane existence into a new magical environment where she is tasked with more responsibility or has higher stakes, right?
00:36:24.200 Another thing is that there are men who appear to be her enemies or threats to her who become her confidants and lovers.
00:36:31.080 Oh, and the other thing we might mention is that, like, at least in A Court of Thorns and Roses, I thought it was interesting that she already has a guy she's sleeping with at the beginning, but he sort of doesn't matter, and he sort of shuffles off, like, on page, like, 40, which is kind of interesting, because, like, what it communicates, which I very much liked, was that it's not about, like, sexual initiation.
00:36:49.560 This woman is sexually initiated.
00:36:51.000 Right.
00:36:51.240 This is about, like, she doesn't think there's much to him.
00:36:54.540 She's, like, not going to end up with this guy.
00:36:56.620 She's, which I also liked, very clear on protection.
00:37:00.360 Apparently, they have a way to prevent birth in this fantasy setting.
00:37:03.700 And she's like, oh, you're using it, dude.
00:37:05.500 Oh, yeah.
00:37:05.820 And it's his responsibility.
00:37:07.780 Like, that's another, like, little wish fulfillment is, like, he's reliable and responsible and taking the initiative on birth control.
00:37:14.060 I was like, wow, that is just a nice little – these are not what I would call concretely feminist books, but there are gestures in that.
00:37:23.400 Like in this fantasy where I'm like, OK, I see these books and the sort of desires that they're expressing as also products of a culture in which like the second wave happened, like the third wave happened.
00:37:35.580 You know, they are they're not like these kind of like pre-modern gender politics books.
00:37:39.720 And then like something that happens is that a lot of the times in the action and what Abby calls the hijinks and the wars that ensue, something about that young woman's unique gifts and her unique sexual allure are drawn upon for these like world saving tasks of high stakes.
00:37:56.840 right and the other thing is there's like a lot a lot of sex scenes which are like explicit and
00:38:02.040 prolonged and often do involve like non-human partners or partners with not just magical
00:38:08.500 capacities but often like different bodies and one of the things i did for this podcast was i
00:38:14.920 reread andrew dworkin's theory of fairy tales from her 1973 i think book woman hating her first book
00:38:22.820 where she talks about fairy tales as told to children
00:38:27.300 as parables of female passivity and symbolic necrophilia.
00:38:31.320 She deals with sort of like the Disney version 0.72
00:38:33.120 of things like Snow White or Sleeping Beauty 1.00
00:38:36.480 in which there is a woman who is so passive
00:38:40.420 and so beautiful that she's kind of dead, right? 0.59
00:38:44.920 Yeah.
00:38:45.580 She depicts them as stories that are talking about 0.99
00:38:48.160 female agency as always being punished, right? 0.99
00:38:51.680 The only women who ever do anything in these fairy tales from, like, the Grimm version to the Disney version are the wicked stepmothers who wind up being sort of, like, punished for acting in the world. 0.71
00:39:03.480 And then the heroines are only ever acted on to the fact that they're, like, literally unconscious in the case of, like, at least Snow White and Sleeping Beauty.
00:39:12.000 These kind of, like, two paradigmatic examples.
00:39:14.480 The Romantic Sea heroines and the Romantic Sea heroes, by extension,
00:39:18.520 they sort of, like, alternately affirm and contradict this model.
00:39:22.260 On a superficial level, I think the Romantic Sea heroine is, like, very active and agential, right?
00:39:27.060 She's often spunky.
00:39:28.480 She can be a little, like, acerbic, at least in ACOTAR.
00:39:31.340 There's, like, a lot of witty banter in which she's kind of, like, teasing or undermining or talking back to these, like, authority figures.
00:39:40.140 they start kind of tomboyish
00:39:42.380 throughout the course of the books
00:39:44.060 they're often like converted or initiated
00:39:45.920 into femininity through these
00:39:48.040 kind of trials that reveal
00:39:50.080 their like true natures or true destinies
00:39:51.880 right? But they do like make choices
00:39:53.980 they're not like literally inert
00:39:56.000 like Snow White in the glass coffin
00:39:58.200 Yeah and an interesting point there too
00:40:00.300 we start with A Court of Thorns
00:40:02.340 and Roses, Fair who's the
00:40:03.900 protagonist, has essentially 1.00
00:40:06.060 two wicked stepsisters who happen to be 1.00
00:40:07.960 her actual sisters. She's like 1.00
00:40:09.860 out there like gutting venison 0.52
00:40:11.660 and like they're like
00:40:12.700 oh I want to buy a nice dress
00:40:14.260 and whatever like
00:40:14.700 so the wickedness is
00:40:16.160 basically
00:40:17.060 just straight up
00:40:18.860 this kind of 1.00
00:40:19.480 fairytale femininity 1.00
00:40:20.540 and she's like showing up 1.00
00:40:21.360 blood spattered being like 0.99
00:40:22.220 why the fuck do I have to do 0.97
00:40:23.060 everything around here 0.97
00:40:23.920 you're right like
00:40:24.880 clearly sort of in the first
00:40:26.840 20-30 pages of that book
00:40:28.120 is already a kind of
00:40:29.340 playing with Grimm's tropes
00:40:30.780 and there is already
00:40:32.400 kind of a model of femininity
00:40:33.580 that the main character
00:40:35.120 sort of wants to
00:40:36.220 distinguish herself from 1.00
00:40:37.420 right like the 1.00
00:40:38.340 trivial aspects of femininity or the superficial, the cosmetic aspects of femininity, they're
00:40:43.520 depicted as like women have to earn this through a kind of noble suffering or like demonstration
00:40:47.940 of virtue in order to achieve sort of like the pretty dress beauty stuff. And the women 0.93
00:40:54.220 who do that or access that or try to claim that without suffering are sort of like cheating 1.00
00:40:59.760 the system and are therefore unworthy. That's like one sort of recurring concept of what
00:41:05.080 being girly means but then like there's also ways in which these characters are kind of passive on
00:41:10.220 the larger scale like their broader circumstances whether that be like you have magic powers or
00:41:15.420 you're going to be in the fairy world like an akatar or like you are going to become this like
00:41:20.940 dragon warrior like those are decisions that are made for them by other people or by fate i mean
00:41:26.800 i think that's yeah yeah that's that's sort of the the strangeness that is like you you get this
00:41:32.500 sense of like, yeah, I mean, spunky is the right word, which is one of those words that we use to 0.79
00:41:39.420 describe women. And it's patronizing. It's supposed to be a compliment, but it's actually 1.00
00:41:45.260 kind of patronizing and infantilizing. Yeah. Like I would be mad if somebody referred to me as
00:41:50.480 spunky, but it is the right word for these heroines who are quite young also. Well, spunkiness to me 0.62
00:41:56.780 also implies like pushing back while also accommodating yourself, right? Like it's not
00:42:01.940 Full autonomy instead of, like, bucking while also going along.
00:42:05.840 And I think that describes what they do quite well.
00:42:08.940 It's a kind of lower stakes agency or, like, constrained agency.
00:42:12.540 Lower order, exactly, yeah.
00:42:14.020 That adorably rebels against but cannot actually refute or undo the childlike or lower status, right?
00:42:22.460 And I think, Abby, your point about fate, the role of fate or destiny or, like, sort of, like, some kind of predestination that's, like, often kind of supernatural.
00:42:31.440 role. It might be like inherited, this is your family destiny, or it might be like a prophecy
00:42:35.260 or like some sort of like choosing of these women. On the one hand, it makes them like
00:42:39.420 not like other girls, right? Right. It's not about women's class solidarity like at all. 0.89
00:42:45.000 No. These women often like don't really have other women friends. Like do these pass the
00:42:50.400 Bechdel test? I'm actually not always sure. But then there's also a way in which they're sort of
00:42:54.880 like removed from responsibility, right? The fatedness means that they have agency, they make
00:42:59.580 choices, but they're not like culpable exactly. Right. Well, and this is where we also, because
00:43:05.740 of like above all, like the trope of the fated mate, it almost reminds me of like, you know,
00:43:12.380 we don't live in a time where premarital sex is really frowned upon anymore. But the sort of idea
00:43:18.780 of like, well, if you get married, then you're allowed to have sex, right? So you might do it 0.95
00:43:22.760 really young. You're allowed to have sexual desire if he's your fated mate. Like that's part of like
00:43:28.420 the fantasy space that these books are opening up.
00:43:32.300 You know, you start as this, like, maybe kind of spunky, like, I don't know, 17, 18, 19
00:43:36.940 year old, but with your 500-year-old faded mate, you will be experiencing, like, a whole
00:43:44.500 new world of, like, pleasure and desire and sexuality, and in some ways, I think, like,
00:43:50.140 a kind of agency that is nothing to sneer at in mainstream fiction.
00:43:55.200 Can I comp it out for a second here?
00:43:56.820 Oh, my God, please.
00:43:58.200 Adrian, compare some literatures.
00:44:00.000 Just do it.
00:44:00.520 So I want to point something out.
00:44:02.260 You know, literary scholars look at literature in ways that their normal readers don't.
00:44:06.800 So let me point something out that may have escaped some of our listeners.
00:44:10.900 These books are long, y'all. 0.95
00:44:12.200 They're super fucking long. 0.95
00:44:13.960 But there's something interesting with that. 0.95
00:44:15.600 Like, when I was texting Moira that, like, I really felt like there was some real paid-by-the-word energy to Court of Thorns and Roses in the sense that, like, on a sentence-by-sentence level, it's, I think, very well written.
00:44:26.460 but there's a lot of reduplication
00:44:28.600 a lot of extraneous detail
00:44:30.200 a lot of like
00:44:31.220 one little observation makes the point
00:44:34.020 and then a second observation makes the point
00:44:35.500 and then just in case you didn't get it
00:44:37.360 there's a third one
00:44:38.100 I don't love that style
00:44:39.500 but I think actually it works for this
00:44:41.400 in a weird way for one reason
00:44:43.080 there's this detail and repetition
00:44:44.940 which on the one hand
00:44:46.280 it also is how the book sort of scans
00:44:48.420 its Regency era interiors
00:44:50.140 like once you leave the fantasy forest
00:44:53.060 you're suddenly in the 18th century 0.96
00:44:54.360 and like everything's fucking like designy. 0.90
00:44:57.300 And like, so like it spends a lot of time 0.91
00:44:59.100 on like decanters, on like, you know,
00:45:01.280 appointments on couches, et cetera, et cetera, right?
00:45:03.860 Which is interesting.
00:45:05.080 And the way Moira put it at the beginning
00:45:06.820 was like, you kind of just submit to the flow.
00:45:09.340 And I do think that like this idea of going with it
00:45:11.640 and this idea of submitting to the sheer onslaught
00:45:14.120 of these redundant details
00:45:15.300 is in some way what these books do to their heroines too.
00:45:18.940 Oh, absolutely.
00:45:20.020 You do get to buck a little bit,
00:45:21.520 you get to mock it a little bit,
00:45:22.560 But in the end, your experience of reading these books is submission.
00:45:26.880 You are sort of like, OK, fine, I guess I'm fated to read this book right now for my podcast and I'll just let it all wash over me.
00:45:35.120 It's a book that encourages you to kind of mock it in the micro, but then kind of submit to it in the macro.
00:45:39.840 And that is exactly as gender politics, I feel like.
00:45:43.220 Oh, yeah. But let's also get into the age gaps. 0.75
00:45:45.540 Let's do it.
00:45:46.100 Because all of these are teenage girls are very young women with supernatural creatures that are living on a longer timeline, right? And there's something about the unreality and the removal from what we might take as like a recognizable social context that I think provides permission for the age gap, but they're also sort of like played with and eroticized on their like own terms or on more familiar terms. Abby, I wanted to hear your thoughts about these.
00:46:11.940 Before I give you my thoughts, I absolutely must read you a pull quote from a recent Times article about this very precise phenomenon, the age gap in romanticity literature.
00:46:26.840 Quote, but what's the appeal of a 500-year-old boyfriend exactly?
00:46:32.020 Maybe real life.
00:46:33.760 Quote,
00:46:34.060 It's about the idea of someone who'd be mature and experienced enough to share the mental load with you,
00:46:39.620 said Elizabeth Wheatley, 29, a romance author and Romanticy fan, who lives in Austin.
00:46:45.640 She said that many women who read these books are in their late 20s to their 40s,
00:46:49.820 with jobs and families to juggle,
00:46:51.880 and sometimes lack support from a male partner to such an extent
00:46:54.980 that it feels as if they're, quote, raising children and their partners as well. 0.66
00:46:59.760 I suspect the appeal of someone who's 100 or 600 years older
00:47:03.760 is someone who wouldn't have to be taught how to apply for health insurance
00:47:07.480 or fill out a car registration, Ms. Wheatley said.
00:47:12.700 Maybe at 500, the man-child I have at home will finally be old enough 0.99
00:47:17.220 to fucking, you know, buy milk by himself. 0.98
00:47:19.760 Yeah, that checks out. 0.99
00:47:21.440 I mean, this strikes me as like kind of a piece with, Adrienne,
00:47:25.520 your note about the sort of genre similarities to young adult fiction, right? Like one of the
00:47:30.080 critiques that you hear from people who are like kind of skeptical of romanticcy is that it's about
00:47:35.920 a sort of fundamentally dishonorable desire by women to return to childhood, right? That's like,
00:47:42.720 I think a critique I would make of this book. It's a critique I've made of trad wives, right? 1.00
00:47:46.080 It's this notion that like you're removed from responsibility and you're placed into a world of 0.73
00:47:51.360 wish fulfillment. But the other way to look at it is like, what would it take for men to abandon
00:47:57.560 childhood and for men to like join women in a level of adult responsibility in a cultural moment
00:48:04.400 when like responsibility, delayed gratification, competence all have been feminized and sort of
00:48:13.480 like petulance and like instant gratification are the realm of masculinity and basically all that
00:48:20.320 seems to be left of it that kind of gendered asymmetry of adulthood and and childishness
00:48:27.680 and the sort of perceived masculine claim on the prerogatives of childhood even into adult life
00:48:33.720 i think like does really tax women a lot and makes them like pretty tired and so like part
00:48:39.700 of the fantasy is like yeah how much older than me would he have to be before he started acting
00:48:44.440 like an adult. And that's a hilarious answer that it's 500 years old.
00:48:48.980 Yeah, yeah. That's great. I mean, like, it's the answer, like, when does mankeeping stop
00:48:53.560 in your 500s? Yeah.
00:48:55.860 I mean, it would make more sense if you were like, oh, so he's 500 and, you know, he's
00:49:00.160 just been really investing well and just the power of compound interest, you know. But
00:49:04.940 it's not even that. It's a very strange thing. Like, when you flip the genders and you think
00:49:10.680 about the idea of, like, a 17-year-old boy
00:49:14.800 and a 500-year-old woman,
00:49:17.820 it's not thinkable within the pages of this kind of book. 0.98
00:49:21.580 It becomes predatory.
00:49:23.280 It becomes verging on, like, evil queen territory
00:49:26.760 straight out of Dworkin's writing about fairy tales 0.66
00:49:30.100 as, like, the malignant aspects of the feminine,
00:49:33.960 like, the phallic mother, the castrating woman. 0.98
00:49:36.160 Like, I mean, not to go all vulgar Freudianism,
00:49:38.880 but sometimes that'll get you 90% of the way there.
00:49:41.540 Oh, yeah.
00:49:42.160 You know.
00:49:42.740 The only time it's really been done is in Harold and Maude,
00:49:45.380 where she is, like, just straight up a nine-year-old manic pixie dream girl. 0.53
00:49:48.980 You know? 0.83
00:49:49.160 Yeah.
00:49:49.280 She's like, like, that's the only way they pull it off,
00:49:51.660 is to have her be so aggressively playful and kind of childlike.
00:49:55.440 Yeah.
00:49:55.940 I had to think of, like, SNL did a skit a couple of years ago
00:49:59.080 when that Japanese show Old Enough,
00:50:00.940 where, like, the four-year-olds go to the grocery store,
00:50:03.520 and they did Old Enough Live-In Boyfriend Edition,
00:50:05.660 where they make their boyfriends go to Sephora.
00:50:08.880 And it's completely lost.
00:50:10.740 So, like, maybe when they're 500, they're like, yeah, I can shop for blush for you.
00:50:14.880 That's fine.
00:50:15.760 I mean, I'm 44 and I find it hard to navigate Sephora.
00:50:20.000 And we're asking too much of you.
00:50:22.260 This also might bring us to, like, one of the other themes you noted, Abby, which is, like, the recurring theme of the shadow daddy.
00:50:29.100 Do you want to tell us about the shadow daddy?
00:50:31.060 Yeah.
00:50:32.120 So, I don't, I have to say, one, I don't know where this term comes from.
00:50:36.520 but two, I did not actually put in any effort
00:50:39.000 to try to track it down
00:50:40.120 because it's just everywhere.
00:50:43.200 And the two texts that we've picked
00:50:46.240 as our specimen series
00:50:47.840 both have a shadow daddy.
00:50:50.480 And it seems to mean something like,
00:50:55.320 this is a man who,
00:50:57.740 in addition to being like extremely hot
00:50:59.360 and extremely into you,
00:51:00.840 you person identifying with the female protagonist,
00:51:03.400 has powers and specifically powers of darkness.
00:51:08.720 And lest you think that that's a metaphor,
00:51:12.400 it's not a metaphor.
00:51:14.240 I mean, it's like Zayden from Fourth Wing
00:51:17.040 can make shadows fall over the land.
00:51:19.680 And also his shadows can kind of like,
00:51:22.060 I don't know, maybe they could pick you up 0.98
00:51:23.540 and he could use them during sex.
00:51:25.240 Like, shadows are like an all-purpose kind of thing.
00:51:27.540 But they also maybe index that he's to use another
00:51:33.360 like romance trope, like he's a morally gray character, right? Like he's an upright man,
00:51:39.860 but he would burn the whole world down if you were in trouble. So it is actually like having
00:51:46.100 control over darkness. This also like strikes me as a recurring part of one of the fundamental
00:51:53.960 themes of the romantic genre, which we already talked about a little bit, which is the enemies
00:51:59.240 to lovers trope and it seems like central in these books that the cantankerous male character
00:52:08.260 the guy who starts off as like kind of antagonistic as being rivalrous with the main female character
00:52:15.260 or even as like actively hating her that this is somebody who is like actually just displaying a
00:52:21.840 defense mechanism that can teals the intensity of his desire or as his loyalty to the heroine
00:52:27.420 right it's like this notion where actually hatred is just a stop along the way to a different sort
00:52:35.540 of relation it's like a con or a denial of love right and once that kind of love is avowed it
00:52:43.620 becomes just like remarkably strong and enduring it's like unable to be permanently denied or
00:52:49.360 resisted but it is able to propel this male character to all kinds of heights of like
00:52:53.580 you know courage or effort which also makes these books kind of an interesting response to an age
00:52:58.600 in which i mean it's not like we have more online misogyny than we did before but we what we have
00:53:04.620 is a kind of more unvarnished form of misogyny sort of shaping the life worlds of especially
00:53:11.280 younger men just stuff that like people would not say into a front-facing camera until recently they
00:53:18.400 now very much do. And I do wonder if there's like, that people have to kind of assign to hatred and
00:53:24.460 to antagonism a different status just because there's so much of it. Could that be some of
00:53:28.920 what's at work here? Well, this strikes me as perhaps related to something that Abby was talking
00:53:33.020 to us about when we were discussing this episode before we started recording,
00:53:37.760 which is one of the things these books do is act as a kind of like psychological self-help
00:53:44.780 or, like, vehicle for emotional repair for a readership
00:53:49.680 that is, like, confronting, as you say, Adrienne,
00:53:52.640 a ton of misogyny online and in public discourse,
00:53:56.240 but which is also probably confronted a ton of violence in their own lives, right?
00:54:00.660 Like, we're dealing with kind of, you know, when we talk about women readers
00:54:03.640 or when we talk about, like, women, this, like, vast umbrella
00:54:07.300 underneath, like, a ton of people live,
00:54:10.120 what we're talking about is, like, a constituency of mass trauma.
00:54:13.120 Yeah.
00:54:13.300 I almost cringe from using the word trauma now because of all the different ways that it gets diminished or the ways that it gets hijacked for what strike me as nefarious ends.
00:54:23.680 But what you're dealing with is like a huge proportion of people living under this category of women who have been raped, right?
00:54:28.260 Or a huge proportion of people living under this category of women who have experienced domestic violence or intimate partner violence.
00:54:33.840 Or a huge proportion of people, like basically all of the people living under this category, even if they have not directly firsthand experienced such violence, they are living under its threat.
00:54:43.300 and its threat is shaping their intimate and erotic lives, right?
00:54:46.500 Yes.
00:54:46.900 So one of the things that, like, Abby, I thought this was kind of genius,
00:54:49.900 was that you had this theory of romanticcy as sort of, like, fulfilling or charting in its plots
00:54:58.280 some of what, like, psychiatrists talk about as, like, the necessary preconditions
00:55:04.240 for, like, the healing of a traumatized patient.
00:55:06.120 Yeah, absolutely.
00:55:07.760 And I'm actually really glad that we're getting to talk about this, Moira,
00:55:11.320 Because I know that the figure who I asked you to read or reread, Judith Herman, is somebody whose work you really admire and I also really admire.
00:55:21.000 And in order to get into, I'm not going to quite call it a grand unified theory of romanticity, but let's say rather something like, what is the therapeutic function of this body of work?
00:55:33.920 So, my take is essentially, and this came from reading the fifth book.
00:55:41.120 Yes, I made it all the way through.
00:55:43.040 The fifth book in the Akatar universe, which is no longer about Farah, but about her sister, Nesta.
00:55:51.060 Oh, she comes back.
00:55:52.360 Yeah, she comes back.
00:55:54.080 And it was reading this book where I really started to think the primary function of romanticcy is as self-help masquerading as fiction.
00:56:03.180 That it is a way, and I think a really effective way,
00:56:07.660 to help a lot of readers, primarily, but not all women readers,
00:56:12.920 work through their own trauma, which may or may not be sexual trauma. 0.82
00:56:17.540 So, I'll give you a very, very quick and dirty version of,
00:56:22.320 what is this book called?
00:56:23.220 A Court of Silver Flames.
00:56:25.280 So, we get to the sister who's traumatized by all of the previous events
00:56:29.840 in the Akatar universe, which I am not going to recount.
00:56:32.760 And also, she gets turned into a fairy against her own will.
00:56:37.360 And she's in a dark, dark place. 1.00
00:56:39.400 She is drinking a lot and having anonymous sex with various fairy men. 0.99
00:56:46.300 Oh, and Moira, this is a point that I meant to bring up before 0.78
00:56:49.180 that I feel like you will really want as a data point,
00:56:52.060 is that in the ACOTAR universe and in some other romanticcy books,
00:56:56.340 the words aren't men and women, but males and females.
00:57:00.140 Oh, my God.
00:57:01.140 Which is not, I think, just because they're not always women in the sense of human women.
00:57:10.760 It has that kind of like ickiness to when people in regular life in colloquial American English say females and males and you're just like, oh, your sexual politics are going to be really suspect.
00:57:24.060 So that's there.
00:57:25.220 And that's something that's picked up by other fantasy authors. 0.99
00:57:28.560 So she's drinking a lot and she's having sex with a lot of fairy males. 0.96
00:57:33.760 She's not enjoying it, right? 1.00
00:57:36.700 She's in a dark place. 0.80
00:57:38.420 Yeah, it's sex is self-harm, right? 0.97
00:57:39.880 It is, yes, it is sex is self-harm.
00:57:42.300 And the book, which is really long, basically she spends hundreds and hundreds of pages learning to come back to life.
00:57:52.760 Like, she has to give up drinking, get really into exercise, at which point I was like, yeah, like, girl, relatable.
00:57:59.500 But, like, unlike me, like, getting really into yoga or Pilates or whatever, like, she is training to become a Valkyrie warrior, okay?
00:58:07.960 And along the way, there is agency and empowerment.
00:58:13.440 And, of course, she has a fated mate, too.
00:58:15.400 He's the general of the night court.
00:58:18.040 So there's this man who's going to support you as you become yourself. 0.98
00:58:22.100 And also he's going to give you countless orgasms because the men in these books are nothing if not sexually generous. 0.91
00:58:28.520 Unlike the men on the original night court who was kind of such. 0.98
00:58:34.940 Adrian dog.
00:58:35.980 I'm sorry.
00:58:37.420 The joke was right there.
00:58:39.460 Of all the things that could have happened today, that was not on my list when it gave me a lot of joy.
00:58:46.800 Okay.
00:58:47.480 So, thinking about this, I was like, I actually had to go pull out my copy of Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery, which is a book that is roughly the size of any of the ACOTAR books.
00:58:58.120 But it is a very different kind of read.
00:59:02.440 It is structured around the two poles of trauma and recovery, and it is written in two sections.
00:59:09.580 The first half is about traumatic disorders, and the second half is about the stages of recovery.
00:59:14.880 And I really think that, you know, as sort of crystallized in this one particular ACOTAR book, but I think this is something that we can expand to account for the way that so many people, again, primarily, but not entirely women, like, immerse themselves and roll around in romanticy series after romanticy series.
00:59:37.220 It looks so much like the stages of recovery.
00:59:42.300 So what does recovery require? Recovery from trauma. That's what I'm meaning specifically here, which could be a number of forms of trauma. But as Moira alluded to earlier, sexual trauma is never not in the background.
01:00:00.020 So it's about what Herman calls empowerment of the survivor. 0.57
01:00:06.240 So she has to have autonomy. 0.95
01:00:08.880 She has to have agency. 0.77
01:00:10.100 She has to have control.
01:00:11.740 Doesn't mean that she doesn't need help, right?
01:00:16.180 She does, but no one can do it for her.
01:00:19.040 Because so much of trauma, as Herman conceives of it, is being made to be helpless and also being made to be alone.
01:00:29.360 And one of the things that you'll notice,
01:00:31.760 I mean, you both read the first ACOTAR book, right,
01:00:34.180 is it's kind of abusive.
01:00:36.200 It's abusive in the way that, like, Wuthering Heights is abusive also.
01:00:40.080 Like, you know, this isn't new.
01:00:42.640 And it's abusive in the way that Buffy the Vampire Slayer 1.00
01:00:45.060 is abusive to Buffy. 1.00
01:00:46.700 Yeah.
01:00:47.140 Which is not just to say that it's a trauma plot,
01:00:49.520 but that it's about the accumulation of trauma.
01:00:52.640 Yeah.
01:00:52.880 Right?
01:00:53.040 Just the second you think that this, like, spunky little girl 0.99
01:00:56.380 is going to get up, you know, somebody smacks her right back down again. 1.00
01:01:01.520 Yeah, she's going to get smacked around.
01:01:03.060 That is the plot.
01:01:04.020 The plot is that the protagonist is being abused.
01:01:07.900 And I just don't, I don't think that that gets talked about enough 0.96
01:01:11.340 because it's all like fairy sex and weird faded mates.
01:01:16.400 But none of these books work if you don't have to go through
01:01:19.820 several hundred pages of the protagonist being abused.
01:01:24.480 Like in ways where bones break over and over and she comes back from it and she's psychically abused and she's physically abused.
01:01:33.960 And it makes you think very much about the category that Judith Herman talks about as compound PTSD, right?
01:01:42.300 Like these are not situations that you survive as the same person.
01:01:48.060 Yeah, I mean, we meet the protagonist, Fer, in Akatar at a moment when she's a half-orphan. 0.95
01:01:54.340 Her father is essentially absented himself.
01:01:56.720 He's just kind of sitting there with his own mental health issues.
01:01:59.760 She is essentially, you know, being set upon by her two evil stepsisters, who are her actual sisters, whatever.
01:02:05.400 And, which I think is actually pretty unusual in a fantasy novel, but you can correct me on this, just physically hungry.
01:02:12.400 This is a person who's lost lots of weight from, and it looks haggard.
01:02:16.480 is mistaken for a boy
01:02:18.240 because she's gone.
01:02:19.020 She's starving.
01:02:19.520 She's actually starving.
01:02:21.120 And I think you're right.
01:02:22.160 Like, she starts the story
01:02:24.180 and you're like, 0.99
01:02:24.980 holy shit. 0.99
01:02:26.040 Like, I mean, 0.99
01:02:26.580 the person I sort of flashed back to
01:02:27.940 was like Arya Stark.
01:02:28.840 But like Arya Stark
01:02:29.620 gets there over several books.
01:02:32.100 Yeah.
01:02:32.460 And bit by bit by bit.
01:02:34.320 And like,
01:02:34.760 even she doesn't quite accumulate 0.51
01:02:36.640 what Farrah's sort of carrying
01:02:37.900 on page one of this book.
01:02:40.200 It's really quite astonishing.
01:02:41.880 And it keeps going like that.
01:02:43.600 I mean, it just keeps going
01:02:44.980 for page after page after page.
01:02:47.160 And interestingly, because these are contemporary books,
01:02:51.180 I mean, I'm not like a betting person,
01:02:54.040 but I would bet a sizable amount of money
01:02:56.000 that these authors have read The Body Keeps the Score.
01:02:59.100 Yeah.
01:02:59.440 Right?
01:02:59.720 Like, the language of trauma is actually there.
01:03:02.520 It's being mobilized.
01:03:03.620 Like, you don't have to reach for it.
01:03:04.920 It is actually in these pages.
01:03:09.980 So, okay, the first part of Romanticy,
01:03:12.540 We get the repeated traumatization of the female protagonist in all sorts of creative ways, both physical and psychic.
01:03:22.120 And then we get, in the romantic relationship, we get what Herman calls the healing relationship.
01:03:30.820 Except, of course, because she's a psychiatrist, she's talking about the therapist and she's talking about the therapeutic alliance.
01:03:39.980 And so, you know, Moira, you were posing the question earlier.
01:03:45.080 I honestly don't remember whether it was off or on mic at this point.
01:03:48.500 About, like, why do men, like, regular non-fairy or non-angel or non, I don't know.
01:03:56.320 Dragons, vampires.
01:03:59.040 Yeah, I don't think they're having sex with the dragons mostly. 0.82
01:04:01.860 But yeah.
01:04:03.760 That feels like an over-sake.
01:04:05.100 Why do we need, why can't we even have fantasies now about regular men?
01:04:09.720 I think this is part of the appeal.
01:04:13.700 We need someone who is literally superhuman in order to be able to handle what has been done to us.
01:04:21.160 Like us as, you know, the reader identifying with the protagonist.
01:04:26.740 And interestingly enough, in ACOTAR and in the fourth wing books, the shadow daddy figure is also himself traumatized.
01:04:34.260 And in particular, in Akatar, he's a survivor of literally 50 years of consecutive rape.
01:04:40.900 So there's like a mutual, we're healing each other together thing going on.
01:04:45.200 But so what happens in the like recovery parts here is like she regains control.
01:04:50.880 She gets strong.
01:04:52.540 She gets powers. 0.99
01:04:53.580 Maybe she gets a dragon. 0.98
01:04:54.720 Maybe she gets two dragons. 1.00
01:04:56.460 She definitely works out a lot.
01:04:58.620 This is a very important feature. 1.00
01:05:00.540 They're always training to battle to the death. And so they become these dangerous women to be feared, but without sacrificing or renouncing femininity, right? Like, as Adrian was pointing out about the 18th century element of all this, it's like they move like seamlessly from like battle to like the bedroom to like, I don't know, maybe the boardroom, if that's something that's happening. 1.00
01:05:24.720 And this is really related to Herman talking about becoming safe in one's body again.
01:05:33.820 You know, these are women who are rediscovering their bodies as strong and as instruments to protect themselves.
01:05:41.860 I pulled a quote from Herman here that I thought was helpful in thinking about this.
01:05:48.360 And of course, again, Herman is talking from the position of the therapist.
01:05:53.460 But she says, quote,
01:05:55.180 the traumatized person is often relieved
01:05:57.580 simply to learn the true name of her condition.
01:06:01.480 By ascertaining her diagnosis,
01:06:03.740 she begins the process of mastery.
01:06:06.340 No longer imprisoned in the wordlessness of the trauma,
01:06:09.580 she discovers that there is a language for her experience.
01:06:12.780 She discovers that she is not alone.
01:06:14.880 Others have suffered in similar ways.
01:06:17.460 She discovers further that she is not crazy.
01:06:19.700 The traumatic syndromes are normal human responses to extreme circumstances.
01:06:25.500 And she discovers, finally, that she is not doomed to suffer this condition indefinitely.
01:06:30.660 She can expect to recover as others have recovered, close quote.
01:06:35.360 So, you know, we can talk more about this because I think there's a lot of room for where fantasy takes you.
01:06:42.780 But this is the fundamental fantasy of these books, is that you can recover.
01:06:47.600 Yeah.
01:06:48.160 You can get better.
01:06:49.700 You can protect yourself.
01:06:51.260 And that, I think, is, like, not nothing.
01:06:54.180 Again, when we put this next to Bella Swan.
01:06:56.900 Yeah.
01:06:57.560 Yeah.
01:06:58.340 Right.
01:06:58.940 I love this as a place to stop, right?
01:07:01.200 Because I think there's, like, one impulse.
01:07:03.960 And this was my initial impulse when I first, like, started encountering these texts, right?
01:07:07.700 I was like, oh, God, this is gross, right?
01:07:09.680 I mean, this is a fantasy of, dare I say it, this might be a little bit of a, like, a patronizing word to use about, like, literal.
01:07:19.700 fairies and dragons, et cetera. But this is kind of like straight, boring, like dominance-based
01:07:25.600 heterosexual sex, right? Like this is something I recognize from every script and I find it sort of 0.88
01:07:31.160 politically suspect and also just sort of like repetitive and not conducive in most of its uses
01:07:38.420 towards like the feminism that I want to see in the world, right? And then I think I started
01:07:43.000 thinking about it differently after, Abby, you introduced this concept. It's like, yeah, these
01:07:47.760 are people who are inhabiting their own embodiment in ways that are different from the use and the
01:07:55.500 victimization, right? These are people who are passing through trials into a kind of like
01:08:00.180 vindication. And that vindication is often happening at the site of their previous victimization,
01:08:05.720 right? Yes, exactly. Which is like the body and specifically like the sex and romantic and
01:08:10.420 intimate body. And I think that's, it's a much more optimistic reading that makes me feel a lot
01:08:16.760 better about all the women on TikTok who are sharing this with each other. It's it hints at
01:08:21.720 something like truly utopian that is being reached for in these books. See, see, listeners in bed
01:08:26.960 with the right can talk itself into hetero optimism. I would not want to be accused of
01:08:32.560 hetero optimism. I'm sorry. No, we keep getting the opposite that people are like, are you just
01:08:37.560 telling us all to be gay? It's like, well, yeah, pretty much. But I mean, I guess I want to say
01:08:42.700 one thing, Moira, which is that fantasy, and I mean that not just in like the genre of fantasy,
01:08:53.780 but like fantasy, this thing that we all do. Fantasy is adult play space. Children have play
01:09:00.960 and they need to play, right? It's where they work things out. Adults have fantasy and we need
01:09:07.000 those kinds of things. And if I were simply thinking about the kind of work that these
01:09:15.620 books could do for readers' fantasy lives in terms of, like, their sexual politics,
01:09:22.820 I would be like, this isn't that interesting. But I think fantasy is more interesting than that.
01:09:28.520 Sarah J. Moss and Rebecca Yaros are absolutely giving us what is, like, essentially, like,
01:09:35.340 a pretty boring heteronormative romance in a lot of ways. And that doesn't strike me as
01:09:43.300 groundbreaking or exciting, but millions and millions of people are resonating with them.
01:09:50.120 And that makes me interested. And I do think that texts that seem to so reliably
01:09:57.860 prompt or create the conditions for women to have this sort of like immersive play space that might
01:10:08.980 also let them create and recreate themselves. I think that's good. I guess I'm on board with that.
01:10:16.440 I think fantasy is a really capacious kind of like place to be and to play and that we need
01:10:23.200 more of that. I'm in favor
01:10:25.400 of people having a rich interior life
01:10:27.280 is what I'm saying. Yeah. Bold.
01:10:31.560 Bold claim, Kluchin.
01:10:35.960 Abby, thank you so much
01:10:37.200 for doing this with us. I feel like
01:10:39.320 I got so much more out of these books
01:10:41.280 with your guidance and your perspective
01:10:43.360 than I would have otherwise. I just
01:10:45.240 can't think of anybody I would have rather
01:10:47.180 had on to talk to about it.
01:10:49.460 So thank you so much for joining us.
01:10:51.080 It's such a pleasure. I'm such a huge fan of In Bed With The Right and of both of you.
01:10:55.440 Oh, right back at you.
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