00:00:12.500it's the missing witches yuletide special
00:00:18.000merry yule hi witches welcome to our yuletide special that's amy and i'm risa
00:00:27.780um we're super excited the emails we've gotten from you guys are the sweetest and um yeah we're
00:00:36.380we thank you for nominating us whoever did that all right who was that let us know are you
00:00:41.040that was unexpected we also didn't expect anyone who really listens so welcome thank you
00:00:47.860new best friends we love you we definitely couldn't let the holidays pass without
00:00:54.240talking to you guys one more time before the end of the year we wish we could have done a winter
00:00:59.040season to the people who are writing us that we abandoned them in the winter we feel you we are
00:01:04.620also lying in the dark listening to podcasts taking our vitamin d when we can maybe next year
00:01:10.940we'll do a winter one but we did want to give you guys um a little hello and some love now and then0.94
00:01:16.060we're working on one that we're so excited about for in bulk we met some fucking crazy badass which
00:01:21.100so you're gonna love yeah so you don't have to wait too terribly long for that and bulk is the
00:01:25.840beginning of February so yeah and then we've been mapping um a second season for for weeks and weeks
00:01:32.260so we are we are officially doing a second season if we didn't tell you that we are yeah and that's
00:01:37.900all about that yeah so um one of the things that I really wanted to talk about during this special
00:01:44.320before we get to all the fun stuff and the history stuff and the astrology stuff um is how is
00:01:50.520stressful this time of year can be and the kind of unnecessary shame i mean i'll get into it
00:01:57.040but i really wanted to ask you guys how you're combating these like consumerist capitalist
00:02:04.300messages that the media pumps and pumps and pumps at us this time of year so um risa do you want to
00:02:11.240like choose one of your favorite responses and maybe shout it out um sure i i mean i let people
00:02:18.660are knitting gifts with stash yarn or baking cookies for everyone on their list i also just
00:02:23.540loves it some people were like i just don't do it yes deal with it i'm not playing that0.92
00:02:28.980fucking game anymore um i'm not sure if i'm pronouncing this right but booty jedi0.97
00:02:33.640b-u-t-i underscore jedi she was straight up like my family doesn't have a choice in the matter0.98
00:02:40.380because some of us are like how could you be so bold you know like the idea of disappointing
00:02:44.820someone it's like it'll drive us batty like it put us into debt like make us stress when we
00:02:53.000should be just like holding each other that's it so thank you all like we got a lot of responses
00:03:00.380that were like um making things buying things from artisans obviously these are all great ideas but
00:03:07.020the birch trail in particular said that she makes it more about um the the traditions about spending
00:03:14.100time with each other and acknowledging what's happening in nature so here's here's something
00:03:19.000that i wrote um about all of that it's the holiday season and i don't want to bum you out so i won't
00:03:28.280get into the terrifying debt and suicide statistics or the heartbreaking stories of
00:03:33.320grannies being caught shoplifting toys for their families or the pleas of un or underemployed0.97
00:03:38.680parents struggling to feed their children asking how they can afford the gifts the media has trained
00:03:44.000their kids to want. The pressure that we put on ourselves and each other breaks us, both emotionally
00:03:50.400and financially. It is toxic. And this toxic pressure starts to boil up long before the
00:03:56.800partridge lands in the pear tree. I mean, if you think about it, even if you strip away the
00:04:01.800underlying narrative of horrific colonial violence, Thanksgiving was the one holiday that
00:04:07.440was strictly about eating food with your chosen family. And it's almost as if the heads of
00:04:12.180capitalist culture, whoever and wherever they may be, had a meeting one day and said, this cannot
00:04:18.020stand. And so they came up with Black Friday, took the one holiday that wasn't about buying
00:04:23.960things to show your love and turned it into a Caligulan orgy of like aggressive, even violent0.97
00:04:30.160consumerism. Deep breath, Amy. But again, my children, it's the holiday season and I want to0.98
00:04:41.300make you feel better, not worse. So let's talk about how we can resist the commodification of
00:04:47.540our time and ourselves and of our love for each other. This Yuletide season, please know that the
00:04:55.760people who love you don't want things. They want to know that you care, that you're thinking of
00:05:01.480them. They want your time. An ideal gift for a friend might be to buy him a coffee and just let
00:05:08.140him talk about himself for an hour, or help writing an email she's been putting off, or that mountain
00:05:13.620of laundry they can't seem to conquer. You see these things when you interact on the daily with
00:05:18.780your loved ones. You see the gaps. Notice them. Most people need help more than they need things.
00:05:26.360I've bought, literally, into the hype in the past. There is a thrill that comes from the aesthetic of
00:05:32.400a big pile of brightly colored boxes and ribbons spilling out from under a glowing tree.
00:05:38.620It's hard to resist wanting to make everything perfect for your family or your chosen family.
00:05:43.800But let me tell you, I have only one early childhood Christmas memory that's as clear in my head as it was when I was six.
00:05:50.420We couldn't get the tree to stand up and it kept falling over until finally we resorted to hammering a nail into the wall and lassoing the tree in place with binder twine.
00:05:59.580It was pure slapstick comedy and we all belly laugh about it to this day.
00:06:05.700So witches, listen, you don't have to be perfect.0.86
00:06:09.740You don't even have to try to be perfect.
00:06:12.460The memories will mostly come from the things that went wrong anyway.
00:06:52.180Those times when I did go off, maniacally stacking and re-stacking an ever-expanding monolith of presents, I found myself, later, standing in a heap of crumpled paper, wondering why I bothered
00:07:06.060If you can't think of something your friend needs, start by thinking about what you already have to offer
00:07:12.240A card with a voucher for an hour of help, valid for any task
00:07:15.620If you have a car, one free, no-questions-asked ride
00:10:27.520And we gather at this darkest time of the year because we need each other.
00:10:31.000Maybe no longer for daily survival, but to be reminded on that longest night that we are connected, that we are one, that we are safe, that we have each other's backs, providing warmth, physically, emotionally, spiritually.
00:10:55.340All this talk about gift-giving doesn't mean that much to you, and maybe you're a solitary witch who normally likes the hermit life, but this time of year it kind of gets to you.
00:11:06.180If this is the case, please consider finding a place to be of service.
00:11:09.680A soup kitchen will cure your loneliness, and you can be guaranteed that your efforts will be appreciated.
00:11:15.020Not always the case with friends and family, right?
00:11:17.920But listen, if you can't conjure the energy for that, but you can hear my voice now, listen closely.
00:11:25.340You are loved and worthy and worthy of love.
00:11:31.760If you don't believe me, email me at missingwitches at gmail.com
00:11:35.720or DM me on Instagram, and I will be happy to remind you that it's true.
00:11:40.140You are part of this great universe for a reason, and we need you.
00:11:46.040Just existing is all the resistance work you need to do.
00:11:51.500So in the spirit of Christmas, Yuletide, Eid, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Saturnalia, Winter Solstice, or just another long dark night of the soul, think first of what you can share, then of what you can give.
00:12:03.860And think very, very, very last of what you can take. Not just off of store shelves, but from other cultures, other people, energy, the community, this earth.
00:12:16.980Demonstrate your holiday spirit and loving devotion with your actions and your words,
00:16:29.480I'm talking about like, let's invite all of our friends and have a freaking party and sing songs and, you know, drink weird milky concoctions.
00:30:01.880She moved into her shadow, and then she did the whole retrograde back through Scorpio1.00
00:30:06.980and back into Libra and then back through Scorpio.
00:30:10.420She will finally be leaving her shadow on the 17th of December.
00:30:13.860so by the time you're hearing this she will be out of her shadow so you can maybe think of um
00:30:20.460seeing like hey what's wrapped up for you what was there something that was going down in like
00:30:25.080the venusy themes in your life so that's like relationships and self-esteem and it can be
00:30:30.900related to some money things so like check in hey what did i learn from september until now like
00:30:36.240and you might feel like something just kind of got closed up or like sewn up finished
00:30:40.880so that's going to be oh it's it's it's going to be nice it's going to be so nice relief yeah yeah
00:30:47.940okay so we talked about that uh cavercorn like let's hunker down let's make plans that you're
00:30:52.600super stoked about uh and and i am too oh my god i'm so stoked about this uh you know during the
00:30:59.000holidays people sometimes just go go go and there's so many distractions and there's you know
00:31:02.920there's lights and there's parties and and and i just don't want to do any of that this year i just
00:31:07.400want to like hunker down i want to like have a book this is like a really great time to do some
00:31:12.660journaling and you know kind of reflect on the year that's passed and what's you know maybe what
00:31:17.420do you want to do in the next one because i think it's really important to say like okay
00:31:20.140what have what's this year been about for me before you start making your plans for next year
00:31:24.840right and that's the thing with capricorn it's so it's like linked to the the oldest tree in the
00:31:28.460forest like wisdom so like going into the capricorn it's like let's already even think about
00:31:34.000the wisest self what did exactly what did we learn this year with you know thinking from that
00:31:38.960perspective with of wisdom you know what was the soul deep wrenching like lessons that that you're
00:31:45.900you know you can really reflect on before going forward totally before making that next plan
00:31:50.740so there's going to be a moon in virgo uh starting on boxing day so the 26th and that's
00:31:58.840moon spends about two and a half days in every sign so that's gonna be like peak peak plan
00:32:05.720making you know and i do this thing during the holidays where like i want to i'll just get an
00:32:09.800urge to like reorganize a thing like i'm gonna reorganize my whole bookshelf you know and it's
00:32:14.500gonna take me two days and it's gonna be great alphabetical order no by author no by color
00:32:19.100by height whatever you know virgo loves the system virgo wants to make things tidy virgo
00:32:25.940wants to like just manage all of perfect let's make it just perfect so if you're a person who
00:32:30.860likes to do that like this is your moon and it's my moon isn't for oh well then you're just gonna
00:32:37.260be you're gonna be i'm gonna like and my emotions are gonna be organized oh yeah no and you know
00:32:43.200what that is this is the time to organize your feelings i'm not even joking you know we so often
00:32:51.040just like you know okay that was the feeling whatever no organize your feelings organize
00:32:58.040them like journal about them like hey what was i feeling what was going on because until you
00:33:02.700start actually like and and this is going to sound so freaking type a of me but like until
00:33:07.940you organize your feelings what do you want to do with them you have to feelings are things too
00:33:14.700like a lamp like a word like a name like quantum physics it is a thing you can organize them don't
00:33:19.840be afraid yeah i think it's really important so yeah please visit in this time like resist the
00:33:27.620urge to just you know party all the time party a bit if that's the thing you like doing but like
00:33:32.140take some time to really reflect and journal and you know recharge your batteries man like that's
00:33:39.640what this time is for this is that's what these long nights are for get some sleep just go for a
00:33:45.160lock do something nice for yourself like you you have to recharge your batteries if you are going
00:33:49.980to be epic the rest of the year yeah like take moments for yourself during the christmas break
00:33:54.460instead of being with everybody all the time take moments at night to go and stand alone and look at
00:34:00.580the moon and see that beauty just just you totally that's what the long night supports for going out
00:34:06.740and like connecting with that mystery right it's there like this is the time you have some time
00:34:12.480make that time for yourself yeah beautiful it's gonna be nice this is gonna be a beautiful holiday
00:34:18.180so be well enjoy it be with people who care about you and who you care about yeah and be good to
00:34:25.560yourself totally we wish you a very merry yule happy holidays and we'll see you in the new year
00:34:33.300I'm so happy to have Sue here and Amy and Basha
00:34:43.900and to fill the sort of the rooms filling up with witches around us
00:34:47.720and sort of to be awkwardly claiming that title.
00:34:50.760Mostly I wanted to research, you know, women and magic
00:34:54.620and wanted to understand more about this movement of magic
00:34:57.600and started finding more and more history paths to go down.
00:35:00.520I think one, you know, I want to come back to this person who said we left them alone in the dark when they wanted to listen to podcasts and send a shout out to one podcast that I think is weirdly related to the ways I've been thinking about consumerism.
00:35:14.360I want to recommend you guys to listen to The Dream.
00:35:18.440It's not witchy, but you may recognize some people who are in your sphere around this and some of the problems and the questions.
00:35:27.320It's about direct marketing and multilevel marketing and the ways that that's preyed, especially on vulnerable people and often on women.
00:35:36.720And as marketed to us as a way of building community and is marketed to us as a way of building independence and freedom and self-worth.