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00:02:36.040 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:37.560 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:38.680 And this is POOG, an ongoing conversation about wellness between two obsessive friends.

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00:02:50.600 Today's topic, loosely speaking, Bill Sonoma.

00:02:53.360 natural flavors march to the grave

00:02:56.220 to wake up with you yeah yeah fresh fresh fresh still in data state yeah yeah i'm re-entering

00:03:08.680 reality i have my java here a little while i have my java by the way 10 hours last night i have not

00:03:16.600 been sleeping a ton not complaining but you can hear this gravel i'm kind of leaning into it i

00:03:22.760 could swallow i'm choosing not to kind of dwell in this and see what narratives could emerge

00:03:28.080 through this vocalization yeah i'm kind of in a hunch a shrimply hunch okay i'm swallowing okay

00:03:33.680 i'm also trying to lean into see what see what comes through that actually let's yeah let's

00:03:39.600 remain in the gravel okay so i'll tell you this i went to bed 11 o'clock could barely keep my eyes

00:03:46.620 open fell asleep did you go to bed in your bed yes in my bed always impresses me always i

00:03:52.740 I don't like falling asleep on the couch is fun as it happens.

00:03:58.820 But then I get so sad when you have to do the move.

00:04:03.680 Oh, yeah.

00:04:04.680 Yeah.

00:04:05.320 And so I can't, I don't, yeah.

00:04:09.220 I always want to sleep in the big open room.

00:04:11.600 Yeah.

00:04:12.320 I mean, maybe that's what works out for the, for like, I don't know.

00:04:16.880 No, but I think if, even if I had a mansion with a massive master bedroom.

00:04:22.360 like there's just something about

00:04:25.200 bedroom I don't know

00:04:26.660 it depends

00:04:27.740 I like sleeping in like the room 1.00

00:04:31.280 do you like fucking in your bedroom 1.00

00:04:32.860 or is that too normal for you too 1.00

00:04:34.780 and we're not cutting it 1.00

00:04:37.060 because your dad listens bitch 1.00

00:04:38.620 ew 1.00

00:04:39.180 that was the grossest part

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00:04:45.980 I sleep on an ice pack

00:04:49.560 by the way

00:04:50.140 what do you mean

00:04:51.600 I just realized you probably didn't know that

00:04:53.320 because I was like, well, you know,

00:04:55.680 ice pack under the neck.

00:04:57.060 Constantly?

00:04:58.160 The extent to which ice packs are part of my...

00:05:00.740 Since when?

00:05:01.720 Health, mental health ritual.

00:05:03.840 You've never mentioned ice packs this whole time.

00:05:07.240 Okay, so there's no AC in here.

00:05:10.080 Okay, where I live, no.

00:05:11.560 Wait, wait, what?

00:05:12.840 You heard me.

00:05:15.100 Jacqueline? 0.96

00:05:16.560 No.

00:05:18.080 So some units have it, mine doesn't.

00:05:20.320 No central, but you have a thing.

00:05:24.000 No, no, no window unit, okay?

00:05:26.680 Hold on, let me explain.

00:05:28.720 So, the building is built in such a way that it oddly keeps cool, okay, in the dark, overall, in the dark of July, okay?

00:05:42.440 A few of the boldness to speak of the dark of July, but he can be experienced as such.

00:05:49.100 Wow.

00:05:49.180 So it can get a little warm in the last couple of days.

00:05:56.240 And I did something revolutionary.

00:05:57.940 Chris wasn't here.

00:05:59.160 By the way, I've tanked in the absence of a partner.

00:06:01.700 Tanked.

00:06:02.540 Interesting.

00:06:03.740 In what regard exactly?

00:06:05.840 Well, I was already on a downward slope.

00:06:08.120 Okay.

00:06:09.640 By the way, yeah, yeah.

00:06:11.140 Yeah, I am diminished.

00:06:14.040 Okay, I'm diminished.

00:06:15.240 and language affects, you know, the body.

00:06:19.440 So I don't want to do too much of that.

00:06:22.800 You don't want to talk about being diminished

00:06:24.400 lest you become too much more diminished.

00:06:27.180 Send the signals to the brain.

00:06:29.640 But yeah, so in general,

00:06:32.200 this has nothing to do with the heat.

00:06:33.800 Okay.

00:06:34.280 I, one of the only comforts

00:06:37.400 is a gel ice pack or not a gel.

00:06:43.240 I have a series of them.

00:06:44.360 I have the headache hat.

00:06:47.340 I have this other one that was like to go under and around your foot that I've repurposed for under my neck.

00:06:54.140 And, you know, there's usually always one in the freezer.

00:06:58.280 So laying down in the middle of the day, but throwing an ice pack under the neck.

00:07:03.940 Okay.

00:07:04.280 I'm just trying to explain something.

00:07:06.260 Okay.

00:07:06.740 It's different than just laying down.

00:07:08.940 It feels active.

00:07:11.340 Like there's something going on.

00:07:13.120 You're doing something. 0.99

00:07:14.360 And also, you know, I sleep horribly position-wise, you know, on my stomach with my neck cranked upwards towards fucking God. 0.99

00:07:23.600 Yeah. 0.99

00:07:24.020 Well, by the way, the stomach, we know we've talked about this, so I don't even need to get into it.

00:07:28.360 But when the stomach hits the mattress, it just feels so good to regress.

00:07:35.060 No, I know.

00:07:35.500 Just that infant state.

00:07:37.040 Oh, do they sleep on their stomach?

00:07:39.160 Yeah.

00:07:39.840 Right. 0.98

00:07:40.060 They fucking love it down there. 0.99

00:07:41.300 versus staring up upward at their mobile. 0.99

00:07:45.500 The indifference of the gods, yeah.

00:07:47.220 And the mobile.

00:07:49.620 And the objet dancing through the air.

00:07:52.800 I know the mobile.

00:07:53.760 What about, what about, sorry, but what about,

00:07:56.960 like, I feel like I see this in television shows a lot,

00:07:59.700 like the modernist mobile.

00:08:02.440 Yeah, like the Alexander Calder infant.

00:08:05.120 Yeah, yeah, that's like, yeah, it's like, it's like,

00:08:07.100 well, why are we putting like a little bird

00:08:09.720 when like when we could just have a floating obelisk like section of a

00:08:15.220 when we could have a pyramid a sphere like my child I just want to introduce

00:08:20.920 to design principles yeah and simple machines and and it's like wooden

00:08:25.160 colorless I've seen that yeah I see it like future yeah you know mobiles am I

00:08:34.060 pronouncing that right no no no I'm like mobile mobile yeah me too oh wait

00:08:39.260 Mobile, no, mobile, mobile.

00:08:41.600 Automobile, mobile, mobile, mobile.

00:08:45.660 God, I love you.

00:08:46.620 I love our little chats on here.

00:08:49.220 Can I just take a second?

00:08:51.560 I miss you. 1.00

00:08:53.120 I want to get dinner with you, bitch. 1.00

00:08:54.840 Yeah, I know. 1.00

00:08:55.620 I asked for JAR's text number so that I could have direct access.

00:08:59.500 Had a horrible manicure yesterday just to,

00:09:02.580 what do you do with a bad one in two years?

00:09:05.040 You know, hate getting manicures, hate getting pedicures,

00:09:07.920 hate going in there hate putting them through it hate putting myself through it hate the whole thing 1.00

00:09:11.760 but I do it time and time again the femme labor that I have been forced into and continue to find 0.99

00:09:17.280 great comfort in ultimately yeah or the ways others labor at my femme fucking feet but listen 0.96

00:09:23.680 this manicure because I keep my nails extremely short and a man was doing my manicure which I 0.96

00:09:31.040 always worry about really to be honest I go the opposite a little bit yeah I just I don't know

00:09:37.860 he's a practitioner without any baggage

00:09:40.560 yeah totally

00:09:41.920 this manicure he could not

00:09:44.640 figure out why my nails were so

00:09:46.660 short and why I wanted them so short

00:09:48.220 that's funny I don't think you want to know honey

00:09:50.100 yeah and I just like

00:09:51.640 no but

00:09:54.200 it looks like a fourth grader

00:09:57.020 no

00:09:58.060 the polish itself I can't see 0.99

00:10:00.720 you're all pixels 1.00

00:10:01.780 but is the polish itself bad 1.00

00:10:05.320 yeah it's like 0.66

00:10:06.240 it's just not and i told him i was like please don't please don't cut my cuticles oh yeah you

00:10:12.620 know and then that that was a whole thing and then but it looks and again also part of it's my fault

00:10:18.200 because you know what no it's not i'm gonna say that it's actually not my fault why would it be

00:10:21.920 my fault why did you leave early i look no no i just i'm looking down right now and it's like

00:10:25.700 i want to almost take the polish off because it looks like i had like my niece over and we were

00:10:31.200 having a little fun play date and like it's looks the polish is sort of on the cuticles no yeah yeah 0.97

00:10:37.480 and like it's like oh my god i want to send you a picture so they so that you can live react this 1.00

00:10:42.280 is fun and he was really sweet and we were we were hitting it off so and so i wasn't gonna go 0.98

00:10:48.260 look at this fucking manicure 0.99

00:10:51.380 wait no this is actually by the way expensive expensive fucking manicure 1.00

00:11:02.140 okay this is wait this is okay i need i need okay okay i feel vindicated okay okay let me just 0.98

00:11:09.660 take a minute i need the people to understand you have bubbles you have bubbles wait are there

00:11:15.180 but it's not a gel it's not a gel it's power polish which is like organic or whatever oh

00:11:19.760 there are some bubbles you're right a lot of bubbles i know i'm right this is so bad i think

00:11:24.440 i might index middle and thumb are okay are just bubbles rising and rising drying so so it's as if

00:11:32.280 you know whatever and then let's see here okay i think you were being punished okay i think you

00:11:40.320 were being punished for saying no cuticle cutting therefore they slapped it across your cuticles 0.66

00:11:47.720 yeah like being like well if i can't get these out of the way i guess i'll paint over them like a

00:11:53.460 like a doorknob yeah yeah yeah totally yeah totally you know the cuticles weren't crazy

00:11:58.740 out of control or anything no but then also yeah what else do you see because you know what i'm

00:12:04.620 also seeing the nail them the nail itself he didn't really file it like you know i was like

00:12:11.200 yeah you could just file them a little to make them a little more round and i'm looking at them

00:12:15.080 up close here. And I'm like, well, that didn't happen. And so this manicure now, yeah, I have

00:12:19.420 a worse hand. I went in with a better hand. The, the, the ragged edges all around the nail or the

00:12:26.620 issue. Okay. People might be trying to picture like, I don't know, like, like, of course the

00:12:31.140 there's polish on your fingers. Yeah. Like, you know, I mean, I mean, like, it's not like there's

00:12:36.620 big blank spots. It's actually the app, the opposite. It's like, it looks like, like I tried

00:12:41.820 to do my i've never had the patience okay and i try i do not have the patience to paint my nails

00:12:48.420 and have them properly dry and the whole thing i can't i i i've never once achieved it okay

00:12:52.920 that i usually don't mind that's what's hard i'm like like if i did that i'd be like walking around

00:12:57.860 thinking i'm yeah i can do i i can do a better home manicure than than this and so that pink

00:13:05.720 you chose what do you think about it it's it's pinker than i would almost expect from you really

00:13:11.240 By the way, the toes, exquisite work on the toes.

00:13:15.900 Really? 0.95

00:13:16.420 She did beautiful, beautiful work.

00:13:20.100 Same color?

00:13:20.940 If you were me, yeah, same color. 0.99

00:13:22.180 So if you were me, because honey, I'm going to tell you fucking right now how much that costs. 0.97

00:13:27.160 Because again, I hate getting my nails done. 0.98

00:13:29.400 I like going to this place because I'm just like-

00:13:31.220 Wait, what is this setup?

00:13:31.900 Is this about like-

00:13:32.900 I'm going to give you the price.

00:13:34.060 No, I know.

00:13:34.500 But you're giving this like set of like, again, I hate getting my nails done.

00:13:37.420 You're trying to some way legitimize the fact you go to a place that's expensive.

00:13:41.480 Is that what's about to happen?

00:13:42.120 Oh, I think you're right.

00:13:43.000 I heard you doing something.

00:13:45.260 So that's a $45 manicure.

00:13:47.820 I mean, it's pretty shocking.

00:13:51.680 So what do I do?

00:13:52.620 It's peeling up on the side.

00:13:56.260 The bubbles on the forefinger are laughable.

00:14:02.800 I mean, those are some bubbles.

00:14:04.260 those are like a can of coke you know what i mean yeah i'm a little bit like i mean what do you do

00:14:11.360 here's the thing i don't want to get him because i'm going i mean i'm not gonna of course i'm not 0.85

00:14:14.820 gonna fucking do anything yeah what am i gonna do go in there and be like yeah because if i call 0.96

00:14:19.660 and go hey i gotta get my 45 back this is too crazy they're gonna look in the thing see the 0.99

00:14:24.740 system see him and go they're gonna behead him in the street you know it's just like i can't i can't

00:14:30.660 I can't do that. 0.79

00:14:32.100 So it's fine.

00:14:33.180 Ultimately, it's not a big deal.

00:14:34.680 But it is shocking to look down and see what's been done.

00:14:38.500 And I might take it all.

00:14:39.880 Is this the place closest to you kind of thing?

00:14:41.640 Or no?

00:14:42.460 No, I like this place.

00:14:43.660 I drive 15 minutes in my car.

00:14:46.500 No.

00:14:47.280 Yeah.

00:14:47.820 Will you name it or no?

00:14:49.080 Bellicures.

00:14:49.600 There.

00:14:50.000 Bellicures.

00:14:50.560 Why not?

00:14:51.260 And did you hear about it from a friend?

00:14:53.520 They're a chain.

00:14:54.380 To drive this far. 0.99

00:14:55.460 Bellicure is a chain.

00:14:57.380 Okay.

00:14:57.620 I like it because they have comfy chairs.

00:15:02.520 I like that you sit in the big comfy chair.

00:15:05.660 I guess that's it.

00:15:06.500 I'm just going to keep revolving around that one thing.

00:15:08.180 During the manicure too?

00:15:09.420 Yeah, you're just in the chair.

00:15:10.880 And then usually they'll have like someone on your hands, someone at your feet.

00:15:13.820 They're very fast too.

00:15:15.340 I mean, the answer.

00:15:16.460 Well, no, this isn't the answer actually.

00:15:18.980 Well, it kind of is.

00:15:20.220 I was just talking about this with someone.

00:15:23.940 Why don't they give manicures and pedicures to the dentist?

00:15:26.160 Because you're lying there anyway. 0.99

00:15:27.620 it would be one of my favorite chelsea peretti had a joke oh or it was like a maybe it was a 0.99

00:15:33.020 twitter or something it was a twitter it was a tweet or something where she was like i wish you 0.98

00:15:37.980 could get your nails done at cedar sinai meaning a hospital for those who aren't local which is so

00:15:43.580 brilliant because i agree it's like i want does she mean it's a medical it's a medical procedure

00:15:50.000 practically because of sanit yeah because of sanitation yeah not yeah yeah yeah and to be put

00:15:56.820 under for one yeah um I wish I could go to the dentist once a week and they clean me and you're

00:16:02.980 good for a week yeah instead of twice daily it's too much I just ordered um like another toothbrush

00:16:13.220 to try to utilize novelty to inspire excitement a toothbrushing hour what kind of toothbrush

00:16:21.400 just like some Oral-B

00:16:22.920 yeah like Oral-B

00:16:24.780 see I was talking about this recently

00:16:27.500 the electric toothbrush 1.00

00:16:28.700 well I'm sure I've brought this up on Poog

00:16:31.440 but like in TV movies

00:16:33.160 rich people

00:16:34.160 almost never use an electric toothbrush

00:16:37.420 oh I've never heard you say this

00:16:39.600 this is interesting

00:16:40.320 it's like last night I did that thing

00:16:43.320 like you know like when you have a shared point

00:16:45.480 like something you're with someone who knows

00:16:47.960 your thing about that

00:16:49.300 and so you don't have to say anything

00:16:50.120 And you just go, oh, toothbrush.

00:16:52.460 Okay.

00:16:53.020 Yeah.

00:16:53.540 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:16:54.160 So that was like, you know, it would be like these people that have the highest tech.

00:16:59.940 It's almost like the mobile.

00:17:02.500 Like, it's like they're there with like this wooden toothbrush.

00:17:05.320 It's like, I think what it is, is that mechanical electric can become comical.

00:17:12.580 Yeah.

00:17:12.820 Like, you can't have a dramatic like scene.

00:17:15.400 Like, I'm just like.

00:17:17.520 Right, right.

00:17:18.540 Like, when you're going to have one of those scenes.

00:17:21.700 No, because the hand has to stop.

00:17:24.140 You have to be brushing your teeth in the,

00:17:26.720 you have to be looking at your partner in the mirror going,

00:17:32.260 where were you?

00:17:33.000 Yeah.

00:17:33.480 And then they go, I told you, I went after work.

00:17:36.140 I went to.

00:17:36.700 Which, with an electric toothbrush,

00:17:38.540 let's just say you actually stopped the button every time.

00:17:41.500 It would be very funny.

00:17:43.060 Yeah.

00:17:43.700 You were like, so where, you were like, where were you?

00:17:48.540 And then you wait for them to answer.

00:17:51.540 Why?

00:17:56.760 Wait, the electric toothbrush, though, I was with a friend.

00:18:00.240 I was with a dear friend at Costco.

00:18:01.240 I guess you think it's sexless.

00:18:02.560 Well, that's for sure.

00:18:03.340 But no, but here's the thing.

00:18:04.360 It becomes a toilet for your mouth because it gets so,

00:18:08.840 because I've had an electric toothbrush.

00:18:10.220 Yeah.

00:18:10.500 The toothpaste pouring down, calcifying.

00:18:12.560 I wish that was the toothpaste.

00:18:14.140 Oh, Jesus. 1.00

00:18:15.060 I mean, there it fucking is. 1.00

00:18:16.680 And it's so repulsive. 1.00

00:18:18.300 And it gathers around, it gathers around, it melts down, the rims.

00:18:24.320 Underneath, when you turn it over, you look in the hole, you go, oh, great.

00:18:27.540 Yeah, yeah, it's disgusting.

00:18:29.160 It is a toilet.

00:18:31.760 I researched, two weeks ago, I went down a research path on toothbrush sanitizers, okay?

00:18:40.360 I became obsessed with, then I began to-

00:18:42.960 Analog toothbrush?

00:18:44.080 No.

00:18:45.600 Any.

00:18:46.680 Okay.

00:18:47.120 they have these units

00:18:49.580 this is like such an Amazon

00:18:51.680 type product that you just go

00:18:53.440 can this be real and you're

00:18:55.940 like

00:18:56.240 basically I'm suckered

00:18:59.980 by I believe

00:19:01.880 in innovation okay

00:19:03.280 so when there's a normal version of something

00:19:06.100 if someone said who in your life loved

00:19:07.920 innovation the most I would say you

00:19:09.400 without any doubt

00:19:10.740 so like okay I will

00:19:13.220 like the as seen on TV type

00:19:15.820 product, I will go genius. Okay. And I'll go like, I tend to believe the innovator over the

00:19:24.060 traditionalist. Okay. I'm like, I have a belief that everyone's just doing the old way because

00:19:32.720 it's the old way. Right. So I will often go with the unproven wildcard of the innovation. Yeah.

00:19:40.220 And then sometimes the deleterious effects.

00:19:45.920 How do you say that?

00:19:46.700 I've been struggling with it for weeks. 0.99

00:19:48.420 Are you fucking serious? 0.99

00:19:50.500 No, that can't be it. 0.99

00:19:51.500 That's what I'm saying. 1.00

00:19:52.000 Is it T-R-I-O-U-S? 1.00

00:19:53.820 If so.

00:19:54.660 But I thought it was like deleterious.

00:19:56.880 Like deleterious.

00:19:58.020 I think I've been saying it.

00:19:59.080 I think I'm saying it.

00:20:01.120 Oh my God.

00:20:02.300 Deleterious. 1.00

00:20:02.780 Listen to fucking me. 1.00

00:20:04.080 Cut it. 1.00

00:20:04.800 Cut it from the app.

00:20:05.880 It's fine.

00:20:06.680 You were offering a thing, but deleterious.

00:20:07.420 Do you hear it?

00:20:08.100 No, I can't hear anything.

00:20:09.000 Okay.

00:20:09.540 I want you to be able to hear this because it's fun.

00:20:12.260 How do I do that?

00:20:13.040 It's in my ears.

00:20:13.960 I'm betting deleterious.

00:20:15.240 I know how to do it.

00:20:16.540 Hang on.

00:20:16.980 Hang on.

00:20:17.560 It's my best bet.

00:20:18.300 Can't think of anything that would make sense.

00:20:19.480 Wait, say it again.

00:20:20.060 What's your bet?

00:20:20.920 My bet is deleterious.

00:20:23.620 Deleterious.

00:20:24.020 Deleterious.

00:20:24.520 Listen to me, Jesus.

00:20:25.500 Deleterious.

00:20:26.840 Deleterious.

00:20:28.280 Deleterious.

00:20:30.120 Deleterious.

00:20:30.980 Yes, I got it in the last one.

00:20:34.340 Okay, I'm so...

00:20:35.380 I can't believe I said deleterious.

00:20:37.620 You think you've been saying deleterious for years?

00:20:39.540 allowed? I don't say a lot

00:20:41.980 tell the truth

00:20:42.860 I think it's something I don't think it's ever

00:20:46.140 maybe come out of my mouth I think it's just something

00:20:47.880 that I've been reading forever

00:20:49.120 it's an email

00:20:50.340 well the other thing is like

00:20:52.160 it's a word that 1.00

00:20:54.160 you're likely being a bitch 1.00

00:20:56.960 if you're saying it 1.00

00:20:58.060 and so if you were saying the leechers

00:21:00.760 you'd be wildly undercutting

00:21:02.500 yeah yeah

00:21:03.000 Yeah.

00:21:11.880 Hello, it's me, Anna Sinfield, from The Girlfriends,

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00:23:12.300 This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather.

00:23:15.960 It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

00:23:21.360 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor, disappeared from a commune.

00:23:25.180 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:23:26.520 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:23:29.800 so no i am not your guru and back then i lied to my parents i lied to police i lied to everybody

00:23:38.620 there were years right where i could not say your name i've decided to go back to my hometown in

00:23:43.500 northern california interview my friends family talk to police journalists whomever i can to try

00:23:48.600 to find out what actually happened isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies

00:23:53.100 in the woods and not the obvious boyfriend they have had this case for 30 years i'll teach you 0.99

00:23:58.860 Sons of bitches come around here and my wife. 1.00

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00:24:05.460 Listen to The Red Weather on the iHeartRadio app,

00:24:08.080 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:24:12.260 The more you listen to your kids, the closer you'll be.

00:24:16.240 So we asked kids, what do you want your parents to hear?

00:24:20.260 I feel sometimes that I'm not listened to.

00:24:22.400 I would just want you to listen to me more often

00:24:24.540 and evaluate situations with me and lead me towards success.

00:24:28.860 listening is a form of love find resources to help you support your kids and their emotional

00:24:35.040 well-being at sounded out together.org that's sounded out together.org brought to you by the

00:24:41.060 ad council and pivotal are you open to being a part of a small this isn't even for air but

00:24:54.080 would you want to be in a small reading group with me a small reading group

00:25:00.340 yeah let me guess highly curated uh personalities by kate berlant 0.96

00:25:05.660 oh to be curated by kate berlant oh to be selected for a dinner oh you do not suffer fools now no

00:25:16.820 Now, either do I, but I just stay home alone as my version of curation.

00:25:24.100 I say, no one.

00:25:26.000 I'm talking about maybe seven people.

00:25:29.100 We read a text.

00:25:30.380 I mean, I don't know.

00:25:31.140 It's never going to happen. 0.97

00:25:31.840 It's never going to fucking happen. 0.99

00:25:32.600 Yeah, I think, I mean, I'm struggling with teeth brushing. 0.99

00:25:35.680 It's never going to fucking happen. 0.94

00:25:36.680 And for me, I think what works with reading is it's like a little trough. 0.98

00:25:41.460 The books are a little trough set around the house.

00:25:43.780 They cut your dreams.

00:25:44.600 Well, I sit down. Well, sure. No, but I meant they're full of a little liquid. And when I sit down by it, I sip a little here and there. Maybe sometimes I just, I mean, that's why I can't really clean up because I have to have the books lying within reach.

00:26:02.200 yeah what oh so no okay there's been a lot and i'll have to there's been a lot to discuss like

00:26:08.860 i spent the week basically a recluse attempting to clean and failing uh partner gone for a week

00:26:17.980 and i moved furniture yesterday it got to a point where i was like explaining why moving furniture

00:26:24.700 is the only thing that serves my mental health and that it must be respected yeah and it almost

00:26:31.100 doesn't matter where it goes. It just must be moved. The visual, I become blind to the visual

00:26:38.120 after a while of my home or of anything. When everything's in this one place, it becomes

00:26:45.800 meaningless and my brain doesn't process it because that hasn't changed. It's like I can't

00:26:51.120 see it if it's not moving. So then I'm trapped in my own brain with essentially no visual input.

00:26:59.860 I'm that used to the visual input, okay?

00:27:02.440 And so then I'm just trapped in my own brain.

00:27:04.180 Like, I might as well be in sheer darkness.

00:27:06.620 Wait, so are you saying you become so desensitized to the static objects?

00:27:10.160 Yes.

00:27:10.980 Okay.

00:27:11.300 That I no longer see them, okay?

00:27:12.940 Uh-huh.

00:27:13.520 And the clutter also.

00:27:15.040 Okay, so then the clutter and the ADD hell, okay?

00:27:19.700 I believe the brain, my brain, whatever, must become blind to it to focus on anything and 0.98

00:27:26.900 to tolerate it to make it not a bunch of shit on a desk but just a series of colors in that part of 0.98

00:27:34.780 the room right yeah so there's a coping mechanism of not seeing shit and then that takes me all the 0.97

00:27:42.760 way to to darkness and talk about a noonday demon okay you're in a fully lit room yeah and you're 0.58

00:27:50.420 mentally alone so i started moving furniture around as a you know and i'm one of the great

00:27:55.500 moving furniture around people people have a belief you can't do it alone right totally you 0.93

00:28:01.380 can oh well by the way i'm gonna say you fucking can because i changed my life i moved there was a 0.94

00:28:07.760 did i talk about some poo i moved my bed it was funny it was a thing that i was like i'm not gonna 0.98

00:28:11.900 talk about it on poo because it's so personal and i did okay right so classic me going what am i 0.89

00:28:17.480 gonna do move my fucking bed alone across the room i'm gonna have to move this chest of drawers 0.96

00:28:21.920 That's the easiest thing in the world. 0.99

00:28:23.140 You know what you do?

00:28:24.160 Shove, shove, shove.

00:28:25.620 Well, you know what the T word? 1.00

00:28:27.760 Towels.

00:28:28.480 Okay. 0.86

00:28:28.940 You put towels down on the corners and then you scoot it.

00:28:32.500 See, I bought, I at times have ordered, and they're under most of my things, these furniture

00:28:39.220 slides because innovation.

00:28:41.720 When I did that, when I moved the cabinet, chest of drawers, I moved the bed.

00:28:47.260 You felt like a god. 0.99

00:28:48.820 I felt like a fucking god. 0.99

00:28:50.200 and guess what it set me on a fucking path moving my own bed changed my life yeah sent you on a new 0.99

00:28:56.680 path yes we did talk about this on poop yeah the power of the energy move the energy that becomes 0.98

00:29:02.260 that becomes i've been doing it since i was a teen and those were some of the the bookshelves in my

00:29:08.220 room as a kid like it was heavy duty i used to like stand on them i used to like climb up on them

00:29:15.780 to like move things on top of them and it was i some of the yeah we know this we talked about it

00:29:21.500 but like the the dangers i get into when moving things around where there was a moment where i

00:29:26.300 was like i was holding my tv with like a pinky finger and like the side of my knee okay trying

00:29:33.820 to move it and anyway it was just a crazy high risk behavior in this with this vision and also

00:29:41.280 refusing to fully.

00:29:43.980 Well, here's another thing.

00:29:46.160 I don't take things

00:29:47.380 off the shelves to move the shelves.

00:29:50.360 Wow.

00:29:51.060 You love to risk it.

00:29:53.480 You love to risk it.

00:29:55.120 So I've opened

00:29:57.220 shelves against the wall, right?

00:29:58.620 Open bookcase and go.

00:29:59.900 Burrow. 0.99

00:30:01.080 So downstairs.

00:30:05.140 So I go, all right.

00:30:05.940 What's actually leaning against the wall?

00:30:07.880 What is using the wall as its backbone here?

00:30:10.220 in this empty open shelf, you know, the books.

00:30:13.480 I go, we'll see.

00:30:14.580 It looks like they're kind of freestanding.

00:30:15.860 So I started to pull the shelf

00:30:17.680 and basically see what shakes loose, okay?

00:30:20.300 Or see what I hear start to tip left and right.

00:30:24.760 Yeah.

00:30:25.720 And a product in a glass bottle fell, shattered.

00:30:31.520 Oof.

00:30:32.680 It's hard to lose a glass product.

00:30:35.060 Now, yes, you're going to break some things, okay?

00:30:37.420 But it's worth it to me.

00:30:38.640 And then the other thing I do is I don't clear the floor.

00:30:41.600 So, you know, like that little game where you have to move the pieces around, but you

00:30:45.940 move them around in a little square.

00:30:47.580 The squares have to move around inside the bigger square.

00:30:49.740 And it's like, I don't know, it's a little plastic game.

00:30:53.720 So I move furniture like that.

00:30:55.540 So I shove something over here.

00:30:57.640 To make room.

00:30:58.240 I scoot the thing past it, but I only move it over just enough for that one furniture

00:31:03.920 piece to squeeze through.

00:31:05.860 Just barely.

00:31:06.240 Yeah.

00:31:06.880 And then everything has to move.

00:31:08.640 I know that if I took the time to clear the floor first.

00:31:12.100 Right, right, right.

00:31:13.020 But I want the immediate satisfaction.

00:31:15.280 Of change.

00:31:15.880 Of shoving the thing into the place and seeing.

00:31:18.300 So it went everywhere.

00:31:19.420 Things moved everywhere.

00:31:21.560 I threw out some stuff.

00:31:23.020 I wrestled with throwing out my ice cream maker.

00:31:26.860 It's still inside the home.

00:31:29.580 Okay.

00:31:29.980 Because I became convinced.

00:31:31.920 I'm like, I'm not really making ice creams anymore.

00:31:34.400 Because frankly, the marketplace has provided.

00:31:37.220 Yeah.

00:31:37.740 Like rubble ice cream.

00:31:38.700 I don't need to make my own sugar-free ice cream.

00:31:41.200 It's out there.

00:31:42.380 But then I was like, wait, frozen drinks.

00:31:45.000 I've heard something about using the ice cream maker for that.

00:31:47.480 Ooh, for a pina?

00:31:49.000 Yeah.

00:31:49.960 I made one yesterday.

00:31:51.260 I sort of made one yesterday.

00:31:53.620 It failed.

00:31:54.320 I tried to make it into a virgin protein smoothie.

00:31:58.040 It was disgusting.

00:31:59.660 It's high summer.

00:32:02.100 I'm getting my frozen pina with you.

00:32:03.800 I'm coming over for my keto pina.

00:32:05.500 Yes.

00:32:05.800 I gotta find the basin that goes inside

00:32:08.420 the freeing

00:32:09.940 but the thing is because alcohol doesn't freeze

00:32:12.060 it keeps it from freezing

00:32:13.640 then when you pour that in there

00:32:15.580 it keeps it from turning into ice cream

00:32:18.000 genius 0.99

00:32:18.820 so I felt like shit I can't get rid of it 0.98

00:32:22.200 but there's been a lot to discuss 0.97

00:32:24.440 and I'm not

00:32:25.020 I'm feeling a lot of joy, exuberance

00:32:28.120 hope

00:32:29.940 and I'm feeling a lot of pleasure

00:32:31.640 seeing your face and that I miss you

00:32:33.300 you love missing me

00:32:35.180 I really

00:32:36.900 I really

00:32:38.060 must be pulled from the home 1.00

00:32:40.920 I'm going to pull you the fuck out 1.00

00:32:43.440 I can't wait 1.00

00:32:44.160 I'm going to pull you out

00:32:45.700 realistically

00:32:47.640 look at the calendar

00:32:49.080 you're looking at getting pulled out

00:32:52.440 the calves I must say have changed

00:32:53.380 I ask why

00:32:55.040 it seems like this

00:32:58.120 where's my high school calf

00:33:00.140 I ask

00:33:02.440 something's changed

00:33:04.440 sorry i just was looking at my calf and displeased you know what i want remember that that lingerie 0.98

00:33:10.780 we got hungry what you're so hungry yeah shit i think i'm a little hungry too actually can you 0.97

00:33:17.000 believe this i'm gonna go to the i hate to say this trigger warning going to the gym 0.99

00:33:22.220 wow i fell off my practice that's fine you have to that's what makes it a practice you leave you

00:33:31.300 return it's practice well articulated yet you know it's when i need it the most okay that i

00:33:39.400 don't feel like doing it and uh i know i need to treat it like a like a like a pill it has i do 0.68

00:33:45.640 not fuck around i take my pills i do my my exercise but you know i just like depressively 0.65

00:33:52.640 like quit after 15 like like just like i am diminished okay yeah yeah it is what it is and 0.97

00:34:00.360 I think you seem good to me though.

00:34:02.300 Well, I'm cheering.

00:34:03.140 I'm going to come pull you out though.

00:34:05.160 What will you and I do?

00:34:07.300 We've got our standards, mall and jar.

00:34:09.300 Yeah.

00:34:09.540 But what about, what about, you know what I also want to do?

00:34:13.660 Just come over and sit on the porch.

00:34:15.340 What?

00:34:15.860 Oh, I thought you were going to say, go to that place, pause.

00:34:19.000 You've been referencing about.

00:34:20.860 And by the way, pause.

00:34:22.160 Hey, pause.

00:34:22.900 If you're listening, I want a voucher.

00:34:25.720 Where's my voucher?

00:34:26.760 I want to come in.

00:34:27.920 Yeah.

00:34:28.620 With you.

00:34:29.240 Oh, that's what we're going to do.

00:34:30.360 Vouchers, I never trust a voucher to mean anything.

00:34:32.500 I do.

00:34:32.960 If it's free, a free voucher for us to come in and do side-by-side.

00:34:37.560 Found in a wallet.

00:34:38.820 We get in the suite together.

00:34:40.140 Business no longer exists.

00:34:41.200 Apple wallet.

00:34:42.100 Yeah. 0.99

00:34:42.620 And we do sauna cold plunge. 0.98

00:34:45.020 We fucking, what's it called? 0.99

00:34:46.220 You and me. 1.00

00:34:46.940 Power circuit, whatever people call it.

00:34:50.460 Power cycle.

00:34:51.060 You and me getting into that pool, that ice cold plunge pool,

00:34:54.140 and talking ourselves through it was wild.

00:34:57.360 I know.

00:34:58.460 Wait, there was something I was going to tell you.

00:34:59.780 Oh, yeah.

00:35:00.360 The deepest breath.

00:35:02.100 I watched this documentary about free diving.

00:35:05.280 Ooh, scary.

00:35:06.340 It's deranged.

00:35:08.000 Oh my God.

00:35:08.800 And to be clear, this is not swimming with animals.

00:35:12.700 This is a line, a cable descending straight down through the water.

00:35:21.340 Down to 100 meters-ish.

00:35:24.500 They're on a carabiner attached to that cable.

00:35:28.380 Free diving means no gear, no scuba?

00:35:32.440 No scuba.

00:35:33.420 So deep breath.

00:35:35.800 And then they swim down the line.

00:35:38.300 They get a little tag proven they made it down to 100 meters.

00:35:41.320 And they swim back up, okay, along the line.

00:35:45.120 There are safety divers along the way that meet them sort of like halfway and the 75% mark as they're coming back up.

00:35:52.140 Because the coming back up is where the problems happen.

00:35:56.600 Oh, Jesus. 0.96

00:35:57.440 Because, and your lungs have shrunk down to the size of an orange, or maybe they're already an orange, and this may become a kumquat, I don't know.

00:36:08.120 But it's, this sport, it's entirely about breath-holding, and still moving while breath-holding, and then they get to the surface, and a lot of times they black out right before hitting the surface, and the safety divers grab them by the neck and swim them up.

00:36:24.580 And all of this, why?

00:36:26.040 Well, this is the thing. It actually made me really respect tennis.

00:36:31.460 Oh, okay.

00:36:32.860 Because I go, I'm sorry, I refuse to believe in the passion of the free diver, risking their life, the whole thing.

00:36:41.260 Okay. I could get behind, tolerate the free diver that loves to go down amidst the ocean life.

00:36:48.020 And they're there. They just, that is where they're meant to be in the ocean.

00:36:51.380 They want to see the seals and that.

00:36:52.360 yeah to just go down a cable i'm sorry to be rude to the people to sport but i i put my time and i

00:36:58.320 watched the doc i felt the feelings okay yeah i cried for them okay the whole thing is it and then

00:37:03.860 i find myself asking why okay why not go into an oxygen depleted room and do jumping jacks

00:37:11.800 until you pass out right right yeah you can get high in other ways yeah it's you need to watch

00:37:17.860 well by the way we've talked about the rescue on this program you yes you need to watch you

00:37:24.160 actually need to watch this it's called the deepest breath and um okay the safety part of

00:37:30.980 the sport is that when you come up on the cable you know you have to pull yourself up and hold

00:37:35.600 yourself like a foot above the water by the cable and you have to say to the judges i am okay

00:37:40.820 what and then they judge if you are no no that's you are they give you a white card and they go

00:37:46.800 you know you did it 103 meters so if you go up and you go i am okay yeah and you freeze

00:37:52.860 and some of them punish you pass out yeah you know during the i am okay i am okay that being

00:37:59.840 the kind of like the speech act that solidifies that you're okay is bizarre yeah not to get into

00:38:05.320 speech act theory no no i i'm i all i want to talk about is speech what's the book how to do

00:38:11.140 things with words is that what it is to not know is humiliating for me no i don't know i but

00:38:16.780 But I remember the example.

00:38:20.180 Oh, wait, Austin?

00:38:21.960 Read it in school.

00:38:23.060 Yeah.

00:38:23.380 One of the foundational texts.

00:38:25.040 Isn't Austin's wife and husband?

00:38:26.700 Isn't it wife and husband who studied the metaphor of emotion?

00:38:30.300 Is it them?

00:38:31.020 I don't know.

00:38:31.920 It was like, boy, did I go.

00:38:35.020 I remember end of the year writing this paper about maybe it was their,

00:38:38.680 I think it was their work.

00:38:39.560 I don't know.

00:38:39.780 I forget now.

00:38:41.280 But emotion, the metaphor of emotion, like, you know, anger boiling over,

00:38:46.500 whatever.

00:38:46.780 like and you start to go like wait what are emotions like like did we define them according

00:38:52.520 to these metaphors and and and they are what are emotions like i mean we've defined like anger

00:38:57.620 versus sadness versus whatever like i don't know like like whatever anyway but once you get into

00:39:02.240 like wait take me back because there's something i wanted to say about freediving okay you were

00:39:06.620 talking i'm okay oh yeah i'm okay oh yeah speech act what is the primo example of a speech act

00:39:13.860 that you were given in school

00:39:15.720 because I have one

00:39:16.800 kind of the classic is I do

00:39:19.540 getting married

00:39:20.920 and you say I do and then that becomes

00:39:23.260 because the performativity

00:39:25.620 of language right and performativity

00:39:27.560 people do something

00:39:29.500 constantly misuse the word performative

00:39:31.540 and I'm fine with it

00:39:32.700 it's become a colloquialism

00:39:34.220 and I do it too just to relate

00:39:35.960 but it's misused constantly

00:39:38.300 performativity

00:39:39.300 although language actually relates to

00:39:41.460 of course

00:39:42.560 And I know you are very well aware

00:39:45.280 Absolutely

00:39:45.920 A constant state of decay

00:39:50.140 But performativity

00:39:51.620 That's when language actually does something in the world

00:39:54.300 It enacts something

00:39:55.240 Quite literally

00:39:57.020 And this is not a

00:39:59.260 Loosey goosey idea of

00:40:01.280 Words are powerful

00:40:03.140 A speech act is where

00:40:05.080 The saying of it is

00:40:06.500 In the court of law

00:40:07.320 Any vow probably

00:40:08.820 I was wondering if you were going to have the same

00:40:12.340 example that I was taught, which was I dub thee Sir Paul McCartney. Okay. Yeah. The nighting,

00:40:19.980 you know? Yeah. I dub thee. I want you to watch the documentary because I want to talk about

00:40:26.100 freediving for two years. Okay, great. I want to. This is really up my alley. Also because

00:40:32.000 if anyone has any recommendations, cave diving, spelunking, because what did I watch? Years ago,

00:40:37.840 I watched a documentary on cave diving and the thing that was so terrifying to me that I think

00:40:42.880 about probably twice a month. And I think I've talked about it on Poog. I'm sorry, everyone is

00:40:46.980 that when these cave divers are diving, you become so disoriented that you think you're

00:40:54.420 reaching the surface and you're going deeper. And that's how people perish because they go,

00:40:59.720 there's the surface. I'm swimming. I'm almost there. Oh my God. I'm almost there. And you're

00:41:03.820 going deeper. I know I just repeated myself, but I had to because it's one of the most

00:41:07.760 hallucinatory, terrifying images. And there's such emotional relevance to that feeling, right?

00:41:14.440 It comes up in the dock, the issue of down in this one thing called the blue hole. I think

00:41:19.500 it's called the blue hole that has claimed more deaths than Everest or whatever. Because people

00:41:25.600 just go and they don't respect it. But there's an area where it looks like-

00:41:30.780 You have to respect.

00:41:31.460 It looks like there's light.

00:41:33.200 Oh, no.

00:41:33.760 And you think you're swimming to the light of the surface, but actually you're going into like a cave.

00:41:39.580 I hate that.

00:41:40.140 And there's no emerging.

00:41:41.540 I really hate that.

00:41:44.620 You know what?

00:41:45.260 We're going to send you a commercial break because we're going to have to leave for a second and then come back.

00:41:48.940 Bye, guys.

00:41:49.800 Enjoy.

00:41:50.720 Freaks. 1.00

00:41:51.080 hello it's me anna sinfield from the girlfriends the number one hit true crime show that puts women

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00:42:28.360 Leila dared to ask the question

00:42:30.740 Is badness hereditary?

00:42:33.240 And finally, we'll meet Rosamund 1.00

00:42:35.080 If it wasn't for the air where Ella lived

00:42:37.960 she wouldn't have died on that fatal night

00:42:40.720 You'll even get to meet my mum in that one

00:42:42.700 who I can always count on to keep my feet on the ground

00:42:45.560 I'm not too intimidated by her

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00:42:49.860 Listen to the Girlfriend Spotlight on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. 1.00

00:43:19.860 You're basically on a sushi conveyor belt.

00:43:22.040 And like raw fish, you've got a shelf life.

00:43:25.640 And the wild part?

00:43:27.120 You're not just looking for someone you like.

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00:43:32.680 A saint, a demigod, a unicorn.

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00:43:53.920 Listen to Boys and Girls starting February 19th on the iHeartRadio app,

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00:44:01.000 This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather.

00:44:04.660 It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

00:44:10.060 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor, disappeared from a commune.

00:44:13.880 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:44:15.220 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:44:18.840 No, I am not your guru.

00:44:22.640 And back then, I lied to my parents, I lied to police, I lied to everybody.

00:44:27.500 There were years, right, where I could not say your name.

00:44:30.300 I've decided to go back to my hometown in Northern California, interview my friends, family, talk to police, journalists, whomever I can, to try to find out what actually happened.

00:44:39.360 Isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies in the woods and not the obvious boyfriend?

00:44:43.940 They have had this case for 30 years. 0.98

00:44:46.700 I'll teach you sons of **** to come around here and my wife. 0.97

00:44:49.880 Boom, boom. 0.99

00:44:51.220 This is The Red Weather.

00:44:54.180 Listen to The Red Weather on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:45:00.980 The more you listen to your kids, the closer you'll be.

00:45:04.940 So we asked kids, what do you want your parents to hear?

00:45:08.960 I feel sometimes that I'm not listened to.

00:45:11.100 I would just want you to listen to me more often and evaluate situations with me and lead me towards success.

00:45:18.100 Listening is a form of love.

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00:45:35.720 Hi, we're back.

00:45:37.600 We're back.

00:45:37.900 If there's a break in energy, folks, it's because, yes, we took an hour. 0.99

00:45:41.100 Okay, shit happens. 0.99

00:45:43.120 Things absolutely take place. 0.99

00:45:45.160 I look cool right now.

00:45:46.360 You do look cool.

00:45:47.280 The way I just hurried to put the headphones on,

00:45:49.580 I did it over the hair instead of pulling the hair back from behind the hair.

00:45:52.480 It looks like it's the 1960s and I'm in the recording studio.

00:45:56.400 Yeah, you're recording live.

00:45:57.640 You know what I'm doing now?

00:45:59.020 Element?

00:46:00.220 No.

00:46:00.800 What's in there? 0.98

00:46:01.740 During the break, I made a bovine cock slash coffee slash ice,

00:46:07.640 blended it up before running up here. 0.95

00:46:10.420 The Armoura.

00:46:10.880 I got a text from someone saying, I bought Armora because of you.

00:46:14.220 So Armora, this is a formal plea.

00:46:17.380 Second formal. 0.55

00:46:18.320 Second one.

00:46:18.860 Second formal plea.

00:46:19.820 I've heard nothing.

00:46:20.440 People are purchasing Armora due to poop.

00:46:23.480 So you know what I'm drinking?

00:46:24.460 So this is something that ordinarily, and I would like to know, and I would like everyone,

00:46:28.660 is there a bottled protein shake that is worth it?

00:46:33.220 Meaning, you know, it makes sense.

00:46:34.440 Yeah.

00:46:34.640 It's good. 0.99

00:46:35.580 Complex carbs, whatever the fuck. 0.99

00:46:37.340 I don't know. 0.98

00:46:38.080 So this thing, here's the thing.

00:46:39.280 What is it?

00:46:39.720 1998, Kate?

00:46:40.540 Complex carbs can't save you, honey.

00:46:44.280 Better than pure sugar.

00:46:46.720 Okay, go on.

00:46:47.620 Well, yeah.

00:46:47.920 So I picked this up at Erewhon in a moment of emergency.

00:46:52.040 So I look at this and it says, non-dairy protein shake.

00:46:54.340 An open-faced.

00:46:55.120 20 grams of protein.

00:46:56.120 Refrigerator, I guess.

00:46:57.360 This is Owen.

00:46:58.500 Yeah, open-faced refrigerator.

00:47:00.040 This brand, almost impossible to say or to understand.

00:47:04.320 O-W-Y-N.

00:47:05.580 Yeah, this is a very, I don't know about this. 0.94

00:47:07.860 But then, so I'm drinking it.

00:47:09.720 I'm drinking it

00:47:10.460 And I'm going

00:47:11.060 Okay

00:47:11.400 I just kind of look at it

00:47:12.320 Really quickly

00:47:12.700 I'm like 0.99

00:47:13.020 Who fucking cares 0.99

00:47:13.880 It's chocolate 0.99

00:47:14.360 I'm drinking it

00:47:14.980 It's nice

00:47:15.260 20 grams of protein

00:47:16.120 Okay

00:47:16.580 But then we flip to the back

00:47:17.920 And we go

00:47:18.380 Hmm

00:47:18.920 Pea protein

00:47:19.600 What's reading ingredients

00:47:20.100 Jury's out on pea protein

00:47:21.340 Well there we go

00:47:23.040 This is the question

00:47:24.440 I see pumpkin seed protein

00:47:25.840 I get excited

00:47:26.560 I see flax oil

00:47:27.480 I get excited

00:47:28.180 Yeah

00:47:28.540 But I see pea protein

00:47:29.660 I go uh oh

00:47:30.280 And then here we have

00:47:31.180 The big bomb

00:47:31.840 Big bomb

00:47:32.540 Organic cane sugar

00:47:33.960 Or something

00:47:34.560 Yep

00:47:34.980 You knew it

00:47:35.540 Right in the middle

00:47:36.260 Wait was it literally

00:47:37.080 Organic cane sugar

00:47:38.080 Yes 0.99

00:47:38.540 You're crazy 1.00

00:47:39.640 It's exactly what the bomb is 1.00

00:47:41.160 It's a fucking laugh 0.99

00:47:43.740 Four grams 0.99

00:47:44.900 Yeah it's just 0.99

00:47:47.040 It's just a fucking laugh 0.99

00:47:48.980 I'm not trying to consume cane sugar 0.99

00:47:50.760 Unless I'm at a restaurant

00:47:52.440 Blah blah blah sugar

00:47:53.900 And then the rest we've got here

00:47:56.560 I mean listen they're dropping another bomb here

00:47:59.460 Natural flavors

00:48:00.500 Could mean anything it's like fragrance in an ingredients list 1.00

00:48:03.620 They can literally put like shit in it 0.99

00:48:05.820 And sometimes they do 0.99

00:48:07.580 Wasn't that the whole thing the oil vanilla

00:48:09.200 some vanilla or something.

00:48:10.700 It was like a secretion from like...

00:48:12.380 A secretion from the, I think, the test wine.

00:48:15.360 Yeah.

00:48:15.720 You wish.

00:48:17.200 It was worse. 0.98

00:48:18.180 It was like a seahorse's scrotum or something.

00:48:21.620 Yeah, natural flavor is not happy to see that.

00:48:23.740 And then we have here guar gum.

00:48:25.400 Uh-oh.

00:48:26.120 Now, I always forget.

00:48:27.940 Oh, I get confused because xanthan gum is something.

00:48:31.760 Imagine naming a child xanthan.

00:48:33.640 It'd be nice.

00:48:35.240 Okay, xanthan gum I've purchased in bulk.

00:48:38.240 Oh, yeah. 1.00

00:48:38.620 you little freak 1.00

00:48:39.360 I know 0.95

00:48:39.780 to

00:48:40.240 thicken up something

00:48:41.580 some concoction of yours

00:48:43.200 yes

00:48:43.740 like I was yearning

00:48:44.540 for xantham today

00:48:45.700 to yearn for xantham

00:48:46.920 and it's going

00:48:47.460 I need

00:48:48.660 frappuccino

00:48:50.460 level

00:48:51.120 froth

00:48:51.760 I mean do you ever 0.99

00:48:53.000 did you ever have a fucking 0.99

00:48:54.680 like I went 0.99

00:48:55.620 I used to do frappuccinos

00:48:56.860 in middle school

00:48:57.540 yeah exactly

00:48:58.400 they're delicious

00:48:59.260 caramel frappuccino

00:49:00.420 after school

00:49:00.960 oh my god

00:49:02.080 mom

00:49:02.880 picking me up

00:49:03.700 us

00:49:04.320 chatting

00:49:04.840 best time of my life

00:49:06.460 couple girls

00:49:07.580 some frappuccinos

00:49:08.380 And then it was whipped cream and how good it is.

00:49:10.100 Yeah.

00:49:10.320 When you have whipped cream at the top with the drizzle and the straw and you're spooning

00:49:14.840 out the whipped cream and you're your whole life ahead of you.

00:49:18.020 Actually, I did it last week or two weeks ago in an airport.

00:49:20.900 Okay.

00:49:22.020 I got a, you know, it's me just going, I deserve, you know, so I deserve to, no, not like I

00:49:32.380 deserve a caramel frappe, but I deserve like to sit down, look at the ingredients.

00:49:37.280 It was a mobile order.

00:49:38.380 So I don't have to face them when I put together something more elaborate.

00:49:41.660 The mobile order sets you up to do it.

00:49:43.720 It's like you can build anything on there.

00:49:45.440 Right, right.

00:49:45.800 You're free.

00:49:46.280 There's some issues in the interface, but put it together.

00:49:49.420 It's like espresso.

00:49:50.920 Put a little half and half in there.

00:49:52.580 A sugar-free vanilla. 0.94

00:49:54.280 One pump.

00:49:55.120 You know, if there was a half pump, I'd choose it, but there isn't.

00:49:58.480 And then I said whipped cream.

00:50:02.600 Absolutely.

00:50:03.000 I threw that on top because that is real pleasure.

00:50:06.940 and it's just a sugar in it but it's fabulous so i want to go back to this protein shake really

00:50:12.420 quickly because i actually kept don't make it quick i want to live in it i want to just stay

00:50:16.280 with it please here's the thing that is the most upsetting ingredient which i guess yeah let me

00:50:21.400 think what would caper lamp be the most upset about get ready to natural flavors i mean this

00:50:29.180 thing is not good for you i'm sorry i'm reading this i'm going i'm like this is this is like give

00:50:34.320 it to me sunflower oh here comes the alarms lectin lecithin lecithin or whatever i don't know

00:50:41.500 sunflower oils as we know literally cause rapid decline of health murder from the inside really

00:50:48.740 like sunflower oil safflower oil any of the safflowers are an issue no you don't want an oil

00:50:55.980 the oil you don't want to be doing that the only oils you want to be consuming like that

00:50:59.520 are like olive oil.

00:51:01.840 Avocado, right?

00:51:03.580 Yeah, coconut.

00:51:05.400 But anything else, 0.99

00:51:06.840 we're basically in fucking canola oil land, folks. 0.98

00:51:09.820 Which, by the way, what is that again? 0.98

00:51:11.180 Like what's it made from?

00:51:12.020 Like Roundup liquefied?

00:51:13.620 I don't know.

00:51:14.840 I'm forgetting, but it's bad.

00:51:16.480 Yeah.

00:51:17.100 Highly, highly.

00:51:17.560 Maybe it's like a processed corn.

00:51:18.780 I watched this video that Instagram fed me.

00:51:21.980 Very on brand for me was

00:51:23.640 it's freaking Mark Bittman

00:51:26.000 prattling on, as I love,

00:51:28.020 about uh mcdonald's he he's a new york times toast the town oh okay um he remind me to say

00:51:37.120 something about the times okay great let's get into that but he's talking about mcdonald's and

00:51:43.400 their use what kind of potato they use in their fries which is that we're all familiar with the

00:51:47.480 classic russet potato but mcdonald's has really strict rules around potatoes with no blemishes

00:51:52.480 and the only way to get the blemishes out

00:51:54.300 is with this certain kind of,

00:51:56.460 what's it called?

00:51:58.220 Like, oh, it's so bad. 0.99

00:51:59.580 It's fucking crazy. 0.99

00:52:00.380 It's like, what's the word I'm looking for? 1.00

00:52:02.120 A pesticide?

00:52:02.760 Is it a pesticide?

00:52:03.620 It's something.

00:52:04.480 So here's what's crazy.

00:52:06.160 What they spray the crops with for the potatoes

00:52:08.140 is so highly toxic

00:52:09.340 that the farmers who work the land

00:52:13.200 won't even set foot on the land for five days.

00:52:18.500 And then when they do,

00:52:19.480 they wear full like gas masks.

00:52:21.040 And then the potatoes, once they're harvested, have to go to an airplane hangar where they are literally off-gassed.

00:52:28.580 No.

00:52:29.300 Because they're not fit for consumption or even to stand around for who knows how long.

00:52:34.700 Airplane hangar.

00:52:35.740 Belly of a Boeing, as you always say.

00:52:37.720 Yeah.

00:52:38.140 So they have to off-gass. 0.98

00:52:39.320 Or flap it.

00:52:40.480 And then you eat them.

00:52:43.000 And then they turn into the most delicious thing.

00:52:46.580 Most beautiful, perfected item.

00:52:49.320 Has anyone ever beaten the McDonald's fry?

00:52:52.880 It's fun. 1.00

00:52:53.440 I mean, sometimes I like to just buy into shit. 0.99

00:52:55.280 It's weird because McDonald's was never what I did. 0.99

00:52:57.680 I did a lot of Taco Bell as a kid, but McDonald's was never in my rotation.

00:53:01.100 I used to get the ice cream at McDonald's, but the food itself.

00:53:04.800 All of it is absolutely delicious.

00:53:08.160 Well, I do prefer Burger King.

00:53:10.060 I won't lie.

00:53:11.180 Yeah.

00:53:11.380 A flame grilled Burger King, probably Whopper technically to the Big Mac, but Big Mac, too

00:53:17.580 much bread.

00:53:18.580 See, I don't even know about...

00:53:19.960 I mean...

00:53:20.580 Yeah, meaningless to you.

00:53:22.300 I actually...

00:53:22.880 What I used to like to get was...

00:53:24.040 Not to fit too tightly inside my own persona,

00:53:25.480 but yeah, I don't...

00:53:26.140 Yeah.

00:53:26.980 The McChicken sandwich was really good.

00:53:29.420 Never had it.

00:53:30.620 You sent me...

00:53:32.080 Oh, wait.

00:53:32.480 In-N-Out really is what I consumed.

00:53:34.060 Yeah.

00:53:34.980 I have two email addresses signed up to it online.

00:53:37.600 Okay, let's hear about that.

00:53:38.460 It's how unearthed I see the charges

00:53:39.600 on the credit card statement.

00:53:40.860 Oh, God.

00:53:41.700 Oh, God.

00:53:42.240 And guess what?

00:53:43.580 What?

00:53:44.440 Literally, to get rid of your digital subscription,

00:53:47.900 You have to call.

00:53:52.660 Wow.

00:53:53.660 That's insane.

00:53:54.160 You have to pick up a phone?

00:53:55.920 Yeah.

00:53:56.700 Yeah. 0.99

00:53:57.620 That's fucked up. 1.00

00:53:59.940 That's obscene. 0.99

00:54:00.700 So they're trying to make it so that no one cancels.

00:54:03.440 No one.

00:54:03.780 You cannot.

00:54:04.720 You cannot.

00:54:06.000 So there's that.

00:54:07.100 And then, wait, your smoothie.

00:54:10.500 I want to talk about your protein smoothie for a second.

00:54:12.040 I want to think about this.

00:54:12.680 Okay.

00:54:12.900 So there's a protein smoothie that I'm more curious about that I've had,

00:54:15.400 which is, I think it's Kula.

00:54:17.000 I want to look it up because I would love them to send free items.

00:54:20.180 I mean, these are all refrigerated, right?

00:54:21.740 Yes.

00:54:22.160 These ones that you're getting.

00:54:23.360 Oh, sorry. 1.00

00:54:23.660 It's Koya.

00:54:24.300 I don't know how to pronounce it, but it's K-O-I-A.

00:54:27.220 And that's a protein.

00:54:27.860 Two dots.

00:54:28.800 Let's look at the ingredients. 1.00

00:54:29.900 Let's go fucking crazy. 0.99

00:54:31.580 I'm pulsating with enthusiasm right now. 0.99

00:54:34.320 Yeah, I'm very excited.

00:54:35.320 Okay, here we go. 0.98

00:54:36.340 Here we fucking go. 0.98

00:54:39.360 I just want to say, first of all, it's hard. 0.99

00:54:42.260 Okay, whatever.

00:54:42.800 Let me just read what we have here.

00:54:44.120 This is for I guess the vanilla one

00:54:47.040 Almond milk

00:54:47.780 I'm furious right now

00:54:48.380 Because I'm drinking watered down espresso

00:54:49.800 Because I blended it up with ice

00:54:51.300 And thought

00:54:51.700 I'll run upstairs and start

00:54:53.280 And the ice will hold

00:54:54.720 The ice crystals will hold

00:54:56.180 And I'm just

00:54:57.440 It's just

00:54:58.400 And they're not holding

00:54:59.040 No

00:54:59.720 And so now it's just

00:55:00.780 Sort of iced

00:55:02.140 Americano

00:55:03.500 With

00:55:03.780 With colostrum foam at the top

00:55:06.660 I put the armor right in my mouth

00:55:08.820 As usual

00:55:09.340 This morning

00:55:09.960 I know

00:55:10.220 Okay so listen to this

00:55:11.320 Mother's milk

00:55:12.280 This is their vanilla

00:55:13.680 I know

00:55:14.100 This is their vanilla bean protein drink.

00:55:16.960 Ingredients, almond milk.

00:55:19.180 Okay, I'm fine.

00:55:20.040 Not organic.

00:55:21.020 Don't love that, but we're going to move on.

00:55:23.540 The Koya proprietary protein blend,

00:55:25.940 which they say is brown rice protein and pea protein,

00:55:29.440 chickpea protein.

00:55:30.960 I'm not on all fours excited, but-

00:55:33.020 Okay, chickpea, I'm like-

00:55:34.220 What?

00:55:34.660 I'm like, I don't know.

00:55:36.400 Yeah.

00:55:37.020 Legumes?

00:55:38.240 What is this?

00:55:39.200 Yeah.

00:55:39.980 Chicory root fiber.

00:55:40.900 Is this chickpea pasta?

00:55:41.320 I'm fine with that.

00:55:42.300 2013.

00:55:42.740 Here comes-

00:55:44.020 Here comes the big bomb.

00:55:45.360 Organic cane sugar.

00:55:46.600 I'm going to laugh. 0.98

00:55:47.440 Killing me, folks. 1.00

00:55:48.160 Here comes another bomb. 0.99

00:55:48.920 And by the way, they're saying cane sugar.

00:55:50.740 Cane.

00:55:51.040 Just to try to make it be like, it's a crop.

00:55:53.700 It's a crop.

00:55:54.100 They're greenwashing.

00:55:55.260 Yeah.

00:55:55.620 Yeah, organic.

00:55:56.360 I'm like, oh, it's organic.

00:55:58.100 Okay, natural flavors.

00:55:59.800 No, we don't want that.

00:56:01.240 Vanilla extract.

00:56:02.320 Sure. 0.99

00:56:03.460 Sunflower fucking lecithin. 0.99

00:56:06.700 Sea salt, monk fruit extract. 0.99

00:56:09.020 And then we've also got locust bean gum.

00:56:12.380 Fascinating.

00:56:13.500 Gellon gum.

00:56:14.900 We got to get serious on this.

00:56:15.880 You have to make your own smoothies is apparently what we all know.

00:56:18.060 And yet the recipe still eludes me.

00:56:20.620 All right, hold on.

00:56:22.620 So what does Mark Bittman say you should eat?

00:56:24.780 Like hemp seeds?

00:56:25.960 Oh, look, Mark Bittman, no-knead bread is the first thing he says.

00:56:29.620 Ooh, that's fun.

00:56:30.700 New York Times Cooking is the article that comes up.

00:56:32.920 Which, by the way, my two subscriptions don't honor me with you.

00:56:37.080 With cooking?

00:56:37.560 By the way, are you receiving the Paris Review?

00:56:39.620 Because I am.

00:56:40.540 Yes. 0.99

00:56:40.940 And it fucking rules this morning. 0.99

00:56:43.380 It's so beautiful to receive the Paris review in the mail. 0.98

00:56:45.420 I was reading an interview with poet Sharon Olds and I was so proud of myself.

00:56:51.080 Oh my God, fabulous.

00:56:51.740 Just sitting there and reading a handheld.

00:56:54.760 It was a thrill.

00:56:58.820 I don't know.

00:56:59.640 What am I looking up?

00:57:00.620 What's the deal with pea protein?

00:57:02.100 I mean, okay.

00:57:04.480 So this cachava that's been coming up, the one that freaked me out about my athletic greens

00:57:09.220 and made it sound like

00:57:10.520 your green powder is just a

00:57:13.180 multivitamin in a powder.

00:57:15.180 And like that.

00:57:16.580 I don't know.

00:57:18.860 I just can't get excited

00:57:21.420 about it. I sent you a video of myself

00:57:23.240 working out because you sent me those videos of you

00:57:25.260 doing Tracy. It was my first time sending you

00:57:27.220 a video. Thoughts?

00:57:30.240 Always fun to see

00:57:31.360 you. Now, are you

00:57:33.200 wearing Adam Selman shorts there?

00:57:35.260 These are shorts that I purchased out of pocket

00:57:37.180 that I actually want to get maybe

00:57:39.120 another pair of i really like them from i got them they're they're from freaking sacks they

00:57:44.660 were on sale fifth ave sacks fifth ave my god on sale i think just maybe even 50 percent off

00:57:51.480 order oh oh brick and mortar is not dead are you ready are you ready tell me i'm at the grove

00:57:57.120 course okay and we need a grove date yeah and i go to williams sonoma because i'm tired of

00:58:05.820 squeezing limes the amount of lime juice i need for my my margaritas right is a lot

00:58:10.760 oppressively christian to you uh anti-semitic roots no no no bill sonoma well i don't know 0.89

00:58:23.480 but you know what i mean it's a gentile haven for sure

00:58:27.560 I don't know I mean I'm not sure because I'm not completely tuned in to kind of like

00:58:35.860 it's just a feeling I have you know what it is it's when I see it's just a certain aesthetic 0.57

00:58:40.560 that is yeah no no I understand that I just but I also can see like a Jewish mother going to

00:58:45.780 Williams-Sonoma and like getting LeCruzé absolutely absolutely so I'm in there and

00:58:53.720 i'm standing there staring at two uh you know handheld just lime squeezers right yeah one is

00:59:01.840 like lemon and lime you know citrus squeezer one looks familiar it's bright yellow okay i have got

00:59:08.860 that okay and it's sort of just metal and heavy and i don't worry about the leaching this one is

00:59:14.420 likely yeah the yellow and i'm like i just gotta color it all costs yeah yeah like what is this

00:59:19.260 doing paint yeah so looking down i'm going this looks classic and familiar so maybe this is the

00:59:24.860 one next to it it's like i was saying about innovation right sucker for innovation i'm like 0.92

00:59:28.840 the one next to it looks like it's just got more shit going on and looks less classic so i'm both 0.95

00:59:35.360 called to it because it just has more happening there's a cup on the bottom that squeezes it

00:59:40.420 into there's sort of like two layers of of torque okay and i'm like trying to decide and i'm like

00:59:45.880 and it's $20 more and I'm, you know, it's double.

00:59:48.640 And I'm like, all right.

00:59:49.340 I'm like, maybe it's the classic.

00:59:50.580 Like I don't want to overpay for a brand I've never heard of

00:59:53.820 that's got bells and whistles, but they're cheap bells and whistles.

00:59:57.360 So I decide to keep it simple and I take the yellow thing to the counter.

01:00:00.820 Okay.

01:00:02.020 And the guy is like, I find out Staten Island accent.

01:00:06.560 Okay.

01:00:07.300 I bring it up to the counter.

01:00:08.420 I'm like, okay.

01:00:09.000 And he's like, can I make a recommendation?

01:00:11.480 Ooh, I love when you hear that.

01:00:13.000 I go, yes.

01:00:14.140 I was like, absolutely, please.

01:00:16.840 I was standing like dying for information over there by the bucket.

01:00:20.780 I was like, did you see me?

01:00:21.640 Did you see me?

01:00:22.280 Anyway. 1.00

01:00:23.600 He's like, that one's trash. 0.99

01:00:26.320 I forget what he said. 0.99

01:00:27.860 He didn't say that one's trash, but he goes, he's like, I got that one.

01:00:31.300 And it just broke in half.

01:00:34.420 Just like the handle just not even popped off like at a joint.

01:00:38.660 It just like shattered, broke.

01:00:40.760 Okay.

01:00:41.560 And then he go and I go, so the other one's good?

01:00:43.960 the other one's better and he's like yes okay and and he goes and this is bold you're gonna love

01:00:49.340 this he goes he goes if you see the brand open kitchen okay run for the hills yes sorry i got

01:00:56.560 too excited i'll let you finish no no no okay he's like see the run open kitchen okay and i'm like

01:01:01.640 he goes well there's two things one he goes he goes one of our brands okay oh i love this from

01:01:07.640 the inside then you know okay from the inside he's like it's one of our brands he's like they're

01:01:11.640 trying to get the younger people it's like ikea okay he's like they're trying to they're trying

01:01:16.380 to get the younger people with the cheaper stuff into williams sonoma so it's accessible and then 0.86

01:01:21.060 they'll stay for life and buy the more expensive shit because the age okay fascinating but this is 0.95

01:01:27.200 what he goes he goes he goes open kitchen if you see that you know you know it's bad and he goes 0.98

01:01:31.220 he goes i call it open casket no oh my god okay i was like brick and mortar i mean how do you not

01:01:41.240 Like, just, yeah. 0.99

01:01:42.260 I was losing my fucking mind. 0.99

01:01:44.220 That is so fun. 1.00

01:01:44.780 I was so happy.

01:01:45.820 Oh, that's so fun.

01:01:46.720 I was dying.

01:01:47.680 I was loving it.

01:01:48.620 I was like, I can't wait to come back in.

01:01:50.400 And then you guys chatted about New York.

01:01:52.120 Yes, because you saw my 917.

01:01:54.700 He got me.

01:01:55.720 You know, that's how you get.

01:01:56.560 Oh, that's how you get.

01:01:57.100 Not with the broken.

01:01:58.120 No, you make the New York connection.

01:01:59.500 By the way, yeah.

01:02:00.960 If that thing had broke on me, right?

01:02:03.240 Like the way he's describing.

01:02:04.640 I'd just go, oh, so the nice Williams-Sonoma stuff isn't nice.

01:02:09.040 Ain't that nice, yeah.

01:02:10.000 And that's what I would have taken away.

01:02:12.540 I wouldn't have thought Open Kitchen, the sub-brand.

01:02:15.840 Anyway, it was just phenomenal.

01:02:17.440 We started, you know, it was just, it was everything you could hope for.

01:02:20.780 And I just can't wait to go back in.

01:02:23.320 I got his full name.

01:02:26.500 I can't wait to roll back in there.

01:02:28.260 Let's get the first name just for fun.

01:02:30.060 Can I guess?

01:02:31.020 Yeah.

01:02:31.580 Brian.

01:02:34.740 No, I'll give you three more.

01:02:36.380 Okay, okay, okay.

01:02:37.760 David?

01:02:38.840 Rick?

01:02:39.240 these are excellent guesses but no

01:02:41.320 Jason

01:02:42.000 okay just give it to me

01:02:45.180 it's like it's Paul

01:02:47.000 oh I love it

01:02:49.800 I love it

01:02:50.820 Paul thank you Paul

01:02:53.160 yeah I mean his last name is just

01:02:55.240 it was great Staten Island

01:02:57.360 I think Italian

01:02:58.820 I think was the vibe and

01:03:01.260 you know it was just

01:03:03.100 because you know I've resented

01:03:05.420 massively I believe I've spoken

01:03:07.520 about this there's a similar and shadow side of of that character that I've come across in

01:03:14.120 Bloomingdale's okay for example where it's like I'm trying to buy a toaster a basic toaster

01:03:18.700 and I like find one on the shelf and that they sell and therefore should stand by yeah it didn't

01:03:25.420 have the same quality as this guy it's this it's him saying this isn't good enough but he's like

01:03:30.120 I'm like this one's good so he goes I'll get you through the night and I was like can you

01:03:37.500 not like because he wasn't saying it broke or it's shitty or it's whatever right he's just like

01:03:43.240 it's yeah he's just sort of saying like no you can't get excited about it yeah and you have to

01:03:48.960 offer an alternative at that point yeah read me i'm fascinated sorry i'm back on the protein

01:03:55.160 yeah shake which by the way now i understand why it was clearance at air one says here by the way

01:04:00.580 i'm not trying to do a hit job it was like on sale it was way marked down i think it was three

01:04:06.100 I think it was $3.99 as opposed to like $4.20.

01:04:10.000 Like they're offloading and they're never coming back?

01:04:11.560 Maybe.

01:04:12.720 It says, oh, it doesn't have dairy, wheat, gluten, soy, eggs, peanuts, nuts, fish, shellfish, chemicals, fillers.

01:04:21.820 Hey guys, guar gum is a filler.

01:04:23.980 Yeah.

01:04:24.520 Like what?

01:04:25.580 Artificial colors.

01:04:26.980 Flavors.

01:04:27.520 Well, you've got natural flavors.

01:04:28.580 Those are artificial.

01:04:29.520 Anyway, we're mad.

01:04:30.640 And then it says sweeteners.

01:04:31.600 No sweeteners. 1.00

01:04:32.780 The fuck do you call cane sugar? 0.99

01:04:34.680 That's a joke. 1.00

01:04:35.380 You guys have to wake up.

01:04:36.640 No, you know what the problem is?

01:04:38.220 Because they're like, sugar isn't a sweetener, sugar, sugar.

01:04:41.600 Sweeteners are aspartame.

01:04:43.100 Oh, stevia.

01:04:44.200 You see what I'm saying?

01:04:45.580 Wow.

01:04:47.420 So you could put on a-

01:04:48.480 And a march to the grave.

01:04:50.080 And a slow march to the grave.

01:04:51.960 March to the grave with a bag of sugar under each arm.

01:04:55.160 And on that bag of sugar, it says no sweeteners. 1.00

01:04:58.940 Just to be fucked like that inside of an air one. 1.00

01:05:01.880 To be on all fours bent over. 1.00

01:05:04.160 a console at Erewhon

01:05:06.400 getting deep-dicked 1.00

01:05:08.560 by this fucking shake 1.00

01:05:10.640 that I purchase. 1.00

01:05:15.440 You're trying to sign up

01:05:16.980 and shell out for it.

01:05:20.060 I mean, the thing is,

01:05:21.180 I've seen on some

01:05:22.380 because, oh, you know what

01:05:23.600 I have been actually

01:05:24.600 experimenting with? 0.99

01:05:26.620 Fuck, what's it called? 1.00

01:05:29.960 Spoon? 1.00

01:05:30.700 No.

01:05:31.600 Chris?

01:05:34.160 I love when you scream for Chris.

01:05:37.980 What's that new drink we've been drinking?

01:05:40.780 Boone?

01:05:42.680 Oh, swoon, swoon.

01:05:44.400 I knew it wasn't spoon or boone, but.

01:05:46.240 What's that?

01:05:47.020 Swoon, okay.

01:05:47.860 And it's sweetened with something and it's, I don't know.

01:05:51.720 It's working for me.

01:05:52.540 It's doing something.

01:05:53.620 I've been drinking so much Celsius.

01:05:55.700 Just spoon?

01:05:57.100 S-W-O-O-N.

01:05:58.920 It's not something you're going to be interested in. 1.00

01:06:00.400 I mean, it's just a drink to change it up

01:06:02.340 for those of us who can't, you know,

01:06:03.760 get excited about water.

01:06:05.360 Okay.

01:06:05.560 I need you off Celsius.

01:06:07.320 I care about you too much.

01:06:08.720 And yet you can't name what's the problem with it.

01:06:10.880 True.

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Poog with Kate Berlant and Jacqueline Novak - August 01, 2023

I Am Okay

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