There Are No Girls on the Internet - October 27, 2023


Self-driving car company hid crash video; Gender discrimination at Google; Bipartisan agreement that Facebook is bad; What Gen-Z wants from media; Wage slavery is not your friend – NEWS ROUNDUP

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00:01:22.900 Mike, welcome back to the show. Thanks for being here.
00:01:25.940 Hey, thanks for having me.
00:01:27.220 It's been a couple of weeks.
00:01:28.280 Nice to see you again.
00:01:29.260 Nice to see you too.
00:01:30.300 And here's a couple of stories that y'all might have missed on the internet this week.
00:01:34.240 So we've talked about the nightmare that is autonomous driverless cars being tested on
00:01:39.820 public roads.
00:01:40.860 When I first heard about this, I was like, oh, there's no way that they're just testing
00:01:44.840 autonomous driverless cars on the street while regular people are just like walking around
00:01:49.760 going about their business.
00:01:50.580 But it turns out that was exactly what was going on.
00:01:53.860 Ordinary people like you and me are serving as unpaid crash test dummies for driverless
00:01:59.000 technology by companies like Cruise on public roads.
00:02:02.980 But that is maybe changing after a pretty bombshell situation over in San Francisco.
00:02:08.580 SFGate reports the California Department of Motor Vehicles has suspended Cruise's permits
00:02:13.660 to deploy driverless vehicles as commercial taxis in the state or run any tests on public
00:02:19.220 streets without backup drivers behind the wheel.
00:02:21.860 So this suspension all stems from a pretty bad crash that happened in San Francisco on October 2nd that left a pedestrian severely injured.
00:02:30.900 In that crash, an unrelated car struck a pedestrian, knocking them into the path of a driverless cruise car.
00:02:37.100 The autonomous vehicle braked hard, but still collided with and ran over the pedestrian before coming to a complete stop.
00:02:44.620 Cruise representatives then met with officials from both the DMV and the California Highway Patrol.
00:02:48.960 And during that meeting, Cruise employees played footage from the car's onboard cameras, which ended once the car came to a stop.
00:02:56.380 So it looks like, oh, OK, well, the cruise stopped like it should have.
00:02:59.920 End of story.
00:03:01.100 However, as SFGate reports, DMV officials say that they later learned that there was more to the story and requested additional footage from Cruise, which the company sent 10 days after the initial meeting.
00:03:12.640 The extended footage showed that after the initial stop, the car then resumed driving and attempted a, quote, pullover maneuver traveling about 20 feet while the pedestrian was still caught under the vehicle.
00:03:25.700 So basically, it kind of sounds like Cruz was trying to hide the most damning part of what happened from California regulators.
00:03:33.100 Well, that's terrifying. If there's one thing scarier than, like, getting hit by an autonomous car, it's being dragged around underneath an autonomous car.
00:03:43.680 And then having the company that makes the autonomous car basically lie about it.
00:03:48.580 Cruz failed to disclose that the AV executed a pullover maneuver that increased the risk of and may have caused further injury to the pedestrian, the DMV wrote in a report.
00:03:57.980 Cruze's omission hinders the ability of the apartment to effectively and timely evaluate
00:04:02.360 the safe operation of Cruze's vehicles and puts the safety of the public at risk.
00:04:07.260 Now, this is a really awful story, and there is a lot I could say about it, right?
00:04:13.160 Like, I think it highlights how dangerous it is to have the public basically serving
00:04:17.320 as unpaid and unwitting crash test dummies for technology that isn't safe anytime they
00:04:23.260 leave their homes.
00:04:23.900 I also think that cities that allow these cars to be tested in the first place on public streets are really putting corporate interests and business interests above public safety, which should be number one. And on top of that, never mind the fact that Cruz employees, I guess, felt fine lying to public safety officials to try to keep their dangerous cars, cars that they knew were dangerous, on the road with the public.
00:04:50.500 So yes to all of that.
00:04:52.140 But I really want to take this moment to really applaud SFGate.
00:04:56.580 They have really been on this story and staying on this story since day one.
00:05:01.100 And, you know, I don't think we would know any of this information.
00:05:04.060 I don't think the public would know any of this if not for them.
00:05:06.160 It really shows the importance of having robust local journalism who is going to get a story and stay on a story.
00:05:13.800 And how important that is for public safety, because we as the public deserve to know this information.
00:05:18.960 If you're walking around in San Francisco, you deserve to know how these driverless cars are being deployed and whether or not they're safe, because you can encounter them and you can be hit like this pedestrian was.
00:05:29.480 And so I really think of all the different angles of this story, the one that to me, I just really want to double click on is just the importance of having robust local journalism. At a time when local journalism is being decimated all over the country, it's local outlets and local papers and local journalists who are going to stay on the stories that really impact all of our day-to-day lives locally.
00:05:52.400 So thank you to the journalists who stayed on this story to help better inform the public about a public safety risk they're all facing.
00:06:00.780 Let's move on to Google. A jury just found Google guilty of sexual discrimination and awarded a female Google Cloud executive named Ulka Rowe who filed a complaint $1.1 million.
00:06:12.340 Rowe said that Google gave higher pay to less experienced male cohorts and that it later denied her promotions in retaliation for her complaints.
00:06:20.140 So it sounds like Roe was passed over for a promotion to vice president, and after she
00:06:24.860 did not get that job, it was given to a man who neither applied nor was qualified, which
00:06:30.380 like, ugh, tale as old as time, am I right?
00:06:33.140 Yeah, that would be pretty frustrating.
00:06:34.620 So after she filed the lawsuit, the company again denied her another similar promotion.
00:06:39.280 Another point of contention is how Google and many other tech companies deal with their
00:06:43.740 level system.
00:06:45.060 Roe says that she was initially brought in at a lower level than she should have been
00:06:48.620 when she was hired.
00:06:49.740 She came to the job with 23 years of experience in the financial services and tech sector,
00:06:54.160 but she was hired as a level eight employee, while other men who were hired at the same
00:06:58.320 time as her and allegedly had less experience were hired at a level nine.
00:07:02.180 As a level eight employee, Roe made about $750,000 a year, while some of the level nine
00:07:07.540 employees made over $1 million a year.
00:07:10.820 Now, this level system is something we hear a lot about in tech hiring.
00:07:14.400 It's the same kind of thing that whistleblower Ifoma Uzoma talked about experiencing at
00:07:18.880 pinterest when she was on the podcast depending on what level you're initially hired in at you're
00:07:23.360 kind of locked into that that salary and it's sort of like you're making if they bring you
00:07:28.260 at the wrong level you're sort of making less from the get-go yeah that makes sense i think
00:07:32.660 that's something that a lot of people can probably relate to and you know i've got two reactions to
00:07:39.760 that one god i hate the whole like level system and how like rigid it is and two people at google
00:07:49.080 are making like 750 000 a year like am i the only one who is just learning this like that's a lot of
00:07:59.040 money yeah people at google make bank i think yeah i mean i guess i knew that but i had not
00:08:06.020 looked at a number it sounds like you might be rethinking your dedicating your life to science
00:08:13.260 and like public health and like research maybe you're in the wrong field i guess i'm still into
00:08:19.760 it but uh you know this this is some new knowledge i'm just gonna like sit with this for a minute
00:08:25.900 if you work at google it can be totally anonymous drop us a note and let us know like what's what's
00:08:31.420 the saturday vibe like over there inquiring minds want to know if we were like hypothetically
00:08:36.420 coming off of a podcast what kind of level would we be coming on at we should are you we should
00:08:44.760 start rolling out levels for the contributors of this podcast like i'm obviously a level 10
00:08:51.860 or is it is it like out of 100 i don't know the levels i mean 100 feels like way too many
00:08:56.520 i think the federal government has like 15 or 16 or something we shouldn't i should know that i
00:09:03.620 live in dc uh that feels like a reasonable number of levels okay so back to google the jury found 1.00
00:09:11.200 that while google did treat roe differently than other employees because of her gender she was 0.95
00:09:16.220 unable to prove that the company violated new york law by paying her less than two of her male
00:09:20.900 counterparts google i have to say like it brings me no pleasure to say this but it's just the truth
00:09:25.900 does have a history around gender bias complaints.
00:09:30.460 And this lawsuit that Roe filed was the first lawsuit after Google staff walked out
00:09:35.480 to protest how a company handled sexual misconduct claims by a male senior staffer,
00:09:40.780 which basically involved giving this guy who had been accused of sexual mistreatment and harassment 0.66
00:09:46.720 a golden parachute for being a creep.
00:09:49.620 Roe's attorney, Cara Green, credited, quote,
00:09:52.120 the efforts of thousands of Googlers who walked out in 2018 and demanded reforms.
00:09:57.100 Over 20,000 Google employees and contractors staged a walkout protest that year after a New
00:10:02.260 York Times investigation revealed that the company had given Android co-founder $90 million as he
00:10:08.820 left the company over sexual assault allegations. So it really just seems like the vibe at Google
00:10:16.020 that the staffers were protesting was that if you were accused of misconduct, if you were a creep, 0.82
00:10:22.440 if you were somebody who was a sex pest at the job, you might be given a golden parachute and 0.94
00:10:30.400 a big fat check to go away. It really highlights something that I think gets missed in conversations
00:10:35.500 like this, which is that keeping abusers around, hiring abusers, promoting abusers,
00:10:40.640 empowering abusers is not just wrong because it's wrong and you shouldn't be empowering
00:10:47.160 creeps in your organization, but it costs money. $90 million payout to somebody who is a creep,
00:10:53.920 that is a lot of money. And so for all of the reasons why organizations, especially organizations
00:10:59.080 as powerful as Google, but all organizations should not be in the business of coddling and
00:11:04.860 empowering creeps and abusers, it also is very expensive. It is a bad business decision to
00:11:10.680 continue to empower people like this. Folks should really listen to the episode that we did
00:11:15.560 with Ufoma Uzoma that I mentioned earlier. After filing a discrimination suit against her former 0.96
00:11:20.120 employee Pinterest, Ufoma went on to draft legislation that invalidates NDAs if somebody
00:11:25.660 is facing racial mistreatment. Previously, NDAs could be made invalid if somebody was facing
00:11:30.620 gender-based harassment or mistreatment, but not if the mistreatment was racial in nature.
00:11:36.620 After facing both racial and gender-based harassment at Pinterest,
00:11:40.000 Ofoma's Silence No More legislation changed all of that. But back to Google, I really just think
00:11:46.540 that they are a company that likes to talk a big game around inclusion and diversity and gender
00:11:53.680 equity. They definitely have efforts there that I would applaud. So I can't speak to
00:12:00.600 how sincere or not those efforts are. But it really does sound like the vibe there is that
00:12:06.520 people from traditionally marginalized backgrounds can work at Google. They can be there,
00:12:12.260 but don't take up too much space. Don't demand your worth. Don't demand pay equity. You can be
00:12:18.240 here, but we don't really want you to be here. That seems to be the vibe I'm getting from what
00:12:23.340 folks are saying. Wow. What a terrible vibe at a tech company.
00:12:28.160 Yeah, it's like that line. I can't remember where I heard it, but diversity is being invited to the party. Inclusion is being asked to dance.
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00:14:40.780 So if you listen to this podcast, you already know that social media platforms have such a tight grip on all of our lives.
00:14:47.380 And this week, Facebook got the biggest legal challenge to the toxic grip the platform holds on young people.
00:14:53.680 41 different states and Washington, D.C. all took Facebook to court this week, alleging that Facebook harms children by building addictive features into Instagram and Facebook.
00:15:02.880 Y'all might recall whistleblower Frances Haugen's 2021 report in The Wall Street Journal all about how Facebook knowingly harmed the mental health of young people, especially teen girls.
00:15:13.380 So this lawsuit really stems from some of the charges that we found out from that report.
00:15:17.680 The Washington Post reports a 233-page federal complaint alleges that Facebook engaged in a scheme to exploit young users for profit by misleading them about safety features and the prevalence of harmful content, harvesting their data, and violating federal laws on children's privacy.
00:15:35.140 State officials claim that the company knowingly deployed changes to keep children on the site to the detriment of their well-being, violating consumer protection laws.
00:15:43.340 States say that Facebook designed psychologically manipulative product features to induce young users' compulsive and extended use.
00:15:50.880 The company's algorithms were designed to push kids and teenagers into rabbit holes of toxic and harmful content with features like infinite scroll and persistent alerts to hook young users.
00:16:01.380 The attorneys general also charged Facebook with violating a federal children's online privacy law, accusing it of unlawfully collecting the personal data of its youngest users without their parents' permission.
00:16:12.160 If there's one thing that folks might know about American government and politics and democracy is that it doesn't always work so well. There's, you know, I think we've seen a lot of examples of that pretty recently of how the works can kind of get gummed up.
00:16:29.260 So it is kind of a rare thing when both Republicans and Democrats come together to stick it to anybody.
00:16:36.940 And that is what's happening with Facebook.
00:16:38.480 It is a rare instance of bipartisanship.
00:16:41.120 Colorado Attorney General Phil Weiser, who is co-leading the federal suit, said at a news conference,
00:16:46.300 at a time when our nation is not seeing the level of bipartisan problem-solving collaboration that we need,
00:16:51.460 you can see it here among this group of attorneys general.
00:16:54.180 He actually compared Facebook to Big Tobacco, saying,
00:16:57.160 Just like big tobacco and vaping companies have done in years past, Meta chose to maximize its profits at the expense of public health, specifically harming the health of the youngest among us.
00:17:08.320 As somebody who kind of works in the tobacco cessation space, what do you think about that comparison?
00:17:15.400 I think it's a good comparison. I think it's an apt one. Yeah, I think there's a long history of attorneys general from the states getting together and actually taking action through courts when Congress and the federal government has failed.
00:17:34.920 And I think the comparison of Facebook to big tobacco is a good one. I think it's absolutely spot on that they have mined the health and well-being of young people for their own private profits and sort of exported all the harms onto the rest of us.
00:17:59.020 Rather, those harms come in the form of increased medical bills that states have to pick up for their populace or all the societal harms that are done when we have a generation of young people who are suffering from all the mental mental health challenges, I guess, that social media has created in them over the past 10 years.
00:18:25.500 So I think it's a good comparison.
00:18:27.060 Well, you know who doesn't think it's a good comparison? Facebook. You might be wondering, what is Facebook's response to all this, Ben? Well, not a very good one, if you ask me. Facebook spokesperson Lisa Crenshaw said in a statement that the company is, quote, disappointed that instead of working productively with companies across the industry to create clear, age-appropriate standards for the many apps teams use, the attorneys general have chosen this path.
00:18:52.820 wow oh we're so disappointed we can't hurt kids for profit anymore can't a company get rich off
00:19:01.240 of hurting kids anymore is this even america yeah it's so funny to hear them complain about
00:19:08.540 wanting like the government to create standards across the many apps that teens use and like
00:19:14.900 you know there's like two maybe three right like instagram tiktok snapchat like these are the apps
00:19:23.140 kids are using right like maybe there's a couple more but the idea that the government should be
00:19:28.920 like the end all be all to create standards and regulations this same spokesperson i'm sure
00:19:37.900 turned around the very next day and talked about all the reasons why the government should not be
00:19:44.220 creating regulation and standards of private industry. Oh, it's complete BS. Like if you
00:19:49.320 were to take that statement at face value, you'd be like, okay, great. So then you agree the
00:19:53.660 government needs to be regulating the F out of your harmful product. As you've just said,
00:19:58.600 whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You're trying to hurt small businesses. Think about the small
00:20:04.000 social media farmers out there and their small plots of land, you know, just trying to tend to
00:20:10.300 the the family farm raising engagement you know back to the big tobacco comparison for a second
00:20:18.180 girl having grown up in virginia i true they they truly like had us thinking that philip morris which
00:20:26.980 was the biggest tobacco company in virginia when i lived there they probably probably still are
00:20:31.280 what am i saying they changed their name to altria also isn't that funny that comparison
00:20:35.560 remember when francis haugen blew the whistle on facebook and they were like facebook who we don't
00:20:40.000 know her it's a meta now like talk about that talk about taking a page from big tobacco's playbook
00:20:45.080 but they truly had us virginians out there believing that like the majority of people
00:20:51.760 producing tobacco for philip morris this like massive corporation were like ma and pa farmer
00:20:58.440 ma and pa virginia farmer sure and you gotta have a big family so the kids can help roll the
00:21:04.880 cigarettes and then bring them down to the community store and the horse-drawn carriage
00:21:12.240 yeah it's complete nonsense it's like a global franchise keeping in mind with that comparison
00:21:20.960 you would always hear tobacco companies talking about things like oh we're making a safer cigarette
00:21:25.740 or like oh we like we want there to be regulation like we're really trying to keep our our products
00:21:32.960 away from kids, yada, yada, yada, talking such a big game. I feel like it's one of those things
00:21:37.500 where it's like, if you really cared about safety, you would shut down. And I feel the same thing
00:21:42.960 about Facebook. There are plenty of tech platforms that are responsible for plenty of harm, but there
00:21:47.760 are platforms out there that are harmful, but they also do something that is a value. Google
00:21:53.140 is a company that definitely spreads harm, but they're the world's biggest search engine. You
00:21:58.460 could say like okay it's providing value i would actually argue that at this point i think facebook
00:22:04.220 is such a bad actor that i think that like it is like the opposite of a do-goodery factory a do
00:22:10.680 battery factory like they're just like a marketplace for evil and doing bad things
00:22:16.720 yeah they're bad news i mean they've just demonstrated over and over again that they're
00:22:21.700 going to choose profits every time over the health of young people, the health of entire
00:22:27.860 populations. Yeah, they've been very clear with us. And I think ultimately, I mean, stepping back,
00:22:34.680 I think that the business model of tech platforms like Facebook are just at odds with not doing
00:22:40.980 increasing harms to kids. Like, think about how Facebook intentionally rolled out reels to
00:22:47.080 compete with TikTok because they knew that young people were flocking to TikTok for short form
00:22:51.800 video. Facebook has a very clear business and financial interest in keeping young people
00:22:58.820 hooked on the platform and keeping young people spending as much time on the platform as possible
00:23:03.900 so that they can make more and more money. Like, don't forget that right before Frances Haugen
00:23:09.300 released that really damning report we were talking about, about Facebook knowingly harming
00:23:13.540 children, Facebook was already in the mix building a social media platform specifically for kids
00:23:20.880 under the age of 13. Think about that. They only scrapped this like Facebook for kids they were
00:23:26.540 making after pressure from like advocacy groups, state attorneys general and lawmakers. So like,
00:23:33.040 let's be for real, like regardless of what measures they might trot out to say that they're
00:23:38.620 trying to like, make Facebook safer, like, oh, like, here's a little alert that we've got where
00:23:44.820 your kid spends too much time on Facebook, he gets a little beep or like, you know, parental
00:23:50.020 controls, whatever little things they are rolling out to sort of signal that they're doing anything.
00:23:56.540 At the end of the day, they have a vested interest in making sure that kids are locked in and hooked
00:24:02.440 on their harmful products as much as possible yeah and you know we shouldn't lose sight of the
00:24:08.860 fact that just because they are extremely good at turning that harmful business model into profits
00:24:15.980 they didn't invent it and they're certainly not the only ones right like any of the these tech
00:24:22.860 companies where their main revenue is advertising all those same pressures are there right like
00:24:29.940 Google doesn't have a social media platform, but they definitely have an interest in keeping
00:24:35.600 our attention hooked so they can learn more about us, learn our preferences, sell us ads.
00:24:42.140 You know, TikTok is right there too. You know, it's surveillance capitalism. That's
00:24:49.360 like inherently the entire thing of it. Exactly. And I think, I mean, I think I've said this before,
00:24:55.080 But truly, we really got to ask ourselves, is this okay with us? Do we think that our children, the most vulnerable and youngest among us, the people who we as adults have been, you know, have a responsibility to keep safe and keep from harm, is it okay to feed them through Facebook's meat grinder so that Mark Zuckerberg can get another zero at the end of his bank account?
00:25:20.880 That is really the question that I think that we should be asking, because they're not going to stop targeting kids unless someone makes them stop. That is very clear to me, right? Like, I will say that when they were rolling out their Facebook for kids under 13, they said that they were doing that because they found that kids were lying about their age to get on Instagram.
00:25:41.000 I think you have to be older than 13 to get on Instagram.
00:25:43.600 So that really tells me all I need to know, right?
00:25:45.740 That like, rather than figure out what they can do to keep kids from accessing products
00:25:52.360 that they know are harmful that they make, they're like, oh, we'll just make one just
00:25:56.200 for kids.
00:25:56.860 We'll make a harmful product just for them.
00:25:59.120 It'll be like if, well, I don't know.
00:26:01.540 I was going to say it would be like if tobacco companies made a cigarette for kids.
00:26:04.200 Yeah, they've definitely done that.
00:26:05.940 They've, you know, they've got menthol.
00:26:08.260 They've got candy flavored cigarettes.
00:26:09.820 they've got camel crush they've got a thousand products all of them pushing the boundaries of
00:26:16.920 what's legal to so they can market directly to kids so i have a slightly unpopular opinion
00:26:22.260 about like we need rules to protect kids from big social media yes it's good that we have
00:26:30.680 that we should have special protection for kids we like kind of don't right now and like it would
00:26:36.240 be great if we had some but i don't know that we should stop there like because i think like social
00:26:44.660 media is out of control for people of all ages and just focusing on the harm that it does to kids
00:26:53.940 i i feel it's like maybe like step one or like it's something which would be better than nothing
00:27:02.120 But there are plenty of like older adults, like me included, who would really benefit from, I don't know, like strong, like some sort of privacy protections in this country to protect us from companies that just, you know, are like harvesting all of our private data to try to sell us ad ads.
00:27:24.520 And also serving up content that like riles us up, which maybe is maybe is not accurate and turns us against other people.
00:27:37.760 I think I feel that social media protection is one area where like save the children is perhaps steering us away from like bigger, more comprehensive fixes.
00:27:52.020 Oh, I completely agree. I think that everybody deserves a safer, better social media landscape, full stop, end of sentence. I think the reason why lawmakers so often focus on children, one, it's the thing that we've talked about a lot when we've talked about legislation like the Kids Online Safety Act, things like that.
00:28:13.200 when something is presented as a harm to kids, I think it justifies a lot more action, whether
00:28:19.620 that action is good or bad. I think it gets people like, oh, we have to do something.
00:28:24.420 But I also do... So I see your point that everybody deserves data privacy. Everybody
00:28:30.820 deserves a better, safer internet landscape. Absolutely, yes. But I do think there is a
00:28:36.100 philosophical point to be made about what happens when tech companies target kids? What happens when
00:28:43.820 kids' privacy is for sale? I do think it raises a kind of deeper philosophical question of what
00:28:52.680 tech companies feel entitled to, who they feel comfortable harming, and what we as adults are
00:28:59.700 also okay with does that make sense like i so i agree with you kind of on paper but philosophically
00:29:06.600 i do think that something is very different when mark zuckerberg feels completely fine giving a
00:29:11.900 generation of young girls you know body image issues and disordered eating knowingly to make
00:29:17.820 money yeah it it does feel worse there yeah it shouldn't be okay to do that to anybody but
00:29:23.880 definitely not to kids for sure you know i was at a talk with the founder of a great organization
00:29:28.900 called Glitch UK, which is an online safety advocacy organization. And she made this great
00:29:34.500 point, like, what other kind of industry would the public tolerate this kind of behavior from?
00:29:40.400 Like, if there was a food product that was popular with kids and adults ate it too,
00:29:45.300 where some big percentage of people who ate it got very sick, would we accept that they could
00:29:50.600 just keep selling it, that they could sell it to kids, they could target kids, they could get kids
00:29:54.440 addicted to it, would we accept that it would be okay that that company would be not transparent
00:30:00.100 at all about how their product is affecting people? Would we accept that? Probably not.
00:30:05.780 And that is exactly what is happening with big tech companies. And I thought that was such an
00:30:09.120 interesting comparison because really no other sector would we tolerate that from. Possibly the
00:30:15.480 gun industry, but not really a lot of others. Yeah, it's a good analogy. And Bridget, you and
00:30:23.140 I just the other day were talking about food safety regulation and how that's an area where
00:30:31.080 the public really demands this extremely high level of safety that does not translate to other
00:30:38.320 industries. Right. Do you remember that? I do. People are going to be thinking like,
00:30:42.960 what kind of conversations are Bridget and Mike having when they're not on the podcast? Oh,
00:30:47.640 you know, just a good, just a conversation about food safety regulations on the United States.
00:30:51.780 yeah food safety and and risk perception you know how people think about all the different risks in
00:30:58.360 our lives and how inconsistent it can seem where there'll be you know something like uh food safety
00:31:06.480 where like nobody wants to get diarrhea so we have all these like intense laws about food safety that
00:31:14.160 do keep us safe and they're you know good things you know i don't want diarrhea but then there are
00:31:19.400 also all these other areas like social media for example where uh like the the mental health of
00:31:27.920 young people particularly girls is being like systematically reduced and we all just kind of
00:31:36.180 collectively shrug like oh that's just how it is you know you know how it is what was the phrase
00:31:41.040 that you used to explain that phenomenon you know there was a phrase for it that i never heard
00:31:45.040 before. Oh, God, I was trying not to get into it. But if you're going to, you know, subject the
00:31:50.060 listeners to it, I was talking about the concept of dread risk, which is a concept from risk
00:31:56.160 perception from the psychologist Paul Slovic, who studied this very phenomenon of risk perception
00:32:04.360 and how people around the world, he mainly looked at Americans, but he also studied people
00:32:12.220 from other countries about the different risks that they perceived and their demand for
00:32:19.940 the authorities, typically government, to take some sort of actions to protect them from it.
00:32:26.960 And he found that there were two factors that determined how people perceived risk and the
00:32:34.000 extent to which they demanded protection from it. One of them was the actual risk. What is the
00:32:39.620 likelihood that this is going to cause someone to be injured or killed, you know, per 1000 or per
00:32:46.600 100,000 people. That's obviously an important one. But then almost equally important was the
00:32:53.080 concept of dread risk, which is how scary is it, right? It's like the idea that dying in your sleep
00:33:00.260 from carbon monoxide poisoning is less horrific than being like, torn apart by wolves or something.
00:33:07.960 uh in either scenario you're dead but uh one of them seems much worse than the other right and
00:33:15.040 that's the concept of dread that it just like feels uh terrifying in some particular way and
00:33:22.580 it feels like social media here is an area where that that dread factor is really reduced right
00:33:29.480 like oh it's just stuff that happens on computers uh it just happens to girls uh it's pretty long
00:33:36.800 term, like, oh, I guess it makes some girls sad, ha ha ha, big deal. But it is like a very serious
00:33:44.280 thing. And I think it's, I don't know, useful to think about what are the factors or the
00:33:52.200 characteristics of some particular risk? And how does that inform the public's demand or lack of
00:33:59.800 demand for government to do something about it? Look at you throwing around your psychology PhD.
00:34:05.280 folks in case you didn't know mike has a psychology degree yeah they all know now i'm sorry everyone
00:34:10.760 you asked no it is it is it is useful i asked it is it's interesting and it's useful and like
00:34:17.420 i do think it makes sense that like there are just some things that we're like we got to regulate
00:34:21.420 that and then the we're it's like there are other things that we're just like the risk is i don't
00:34:26.600 know like less real or less acute or something and i think that we're only now starting to really
00:34:32.680 grapple with the reality that that risk presents us with because I think it maybe took a little
00:34:37.220 while for it to be apparent like it seems like social media has been around forever but it
00:34:42.160 really isn't that old if you think about it I think that we're really starting to get to know
00:34:46.460 the very serious offline impacts now and so I think like yeah we're just sort of like catching
00:34:52.360 up on like oh actually this is very serious we need to do something yeah and it's it's often a
00:34:59.380 little bit delayed right like it's not like somebody posts on social media and then all of a
00:35:05.540 sudden their self-esteem is destroyed and they commit an act of self-harm or something like
00:35:13.140 those things are decoupled in time in a way that really makes it seem like it's not as big of a
00:35:20.200 factor as as it is but yeah it's it's social media it's scary it's uh has a profound impact
00:35:28.720 on young people. Well, let's talk more about that, because speaking of youth and social media,
00:35:34.340 I, listen, I am a certified old, I am not a Gen Z-er, but I do think it is really important to
00:35:39.660 be paying close attention to what young people say they are experiencing when it comes to digital
00:35:45.120 media and digital culture, and when they talk about what they want. The Center for Scholars
00:35:49.820 and Storytellers at UCLA just released a really fascinating report on what they're calling
00:35:55.700 teens and screens all about analyzing what different young people want from their media
00:36:00.540 experiences we will put a link to the report in the show notes but it's like fascinating it's also
00:36:05.340 like just just to nerd out for a minute it's like really nicely designed like people send me reports
00:36:11.260 to cover on the podcast all the time and i'm like oh this dense 65 page document with single spacing
00:36:19.300 and no images i'll definitely read this thanks for sending it oh really big pdf cool thanks
00:36:25.600 But this one was actually interesting to read. It's like designed very nicely.
00:36:29.500 Yeah, it's really beautifully designed. It's colorful. They did an excellent job packaging it up.
00:36:34.540 And I also really like that this survey focused on what young people want, like what what their interests are.
00:36:43.340 I feel like most surveys, population surveys that we have of young people are focused on their behaviors, what drugs are they doing, what other risky behaviors are they doing, what are their attitudes about this or that thing that, you know, us old people are in, you know, care about.
00:37:04.660 And so we want to know what the young people think about it, because we care about it. But this one really, I don't know, I haven't seen one like this before, where it was like, what do young people want?
00:37:16.760 Yeah, that's such a that's such a good point, because so often, I feel like it's us olds, like voyeuristically, like, like, what are the youth up to? Like, what are they thinking? Like, I don't know, it's kind of nice to give young people a little bit of space to talk about what their wants, their needs. And it really like, as a media maker of a kind, it really almost challenged me to be like, well, if young people are saying that this is what their needs are,
00:37:45.540 how does my content serve or not serve those needs, right? And so it's like, I agree. It's
00:37:51.140 like, it's interesting to really put the spotlight and give the microphone to young people for them
00:37:56.480 to be like, here's what we think, here's what we want, here's what we like, here's what we don't
00:38:00.840 like. So how young folks engage with media is actually really important. The study points out
00:38:06.380 that youth develop a clearer sense of their personal identity through messages they receive
00:38:11.120 through culture and environment, which is increasingly dominated by media. So this survey
00:38:16.320 looked at 1,500 adolescents ages 10 to 24 and different categories of young people too. So like
00:38:23.020 young adolescents, middle adolescents, gender non-conforming adolescents, people of color
00:38:27.680 adolescents, and LGBTQI plus adolescents. So I learned a couple of really interesting points
00:38:33.940 from this survey. One is that perhaps unsurprisingly, social media is still rated the
00:38:39.660 most authentic media platform. Among social media platforms, young people said that TikTok was the
00:38:44.980 most authentic. So another interesting thing that surprised me is that young people are apparently
00:38:50.260 not that interested in content that glorifies drug use and partying and drinking. So shows like
00:38:58.520 Euphoria that are over the top with drug use, they're not really feeling that so much. And I
00:39:04.200 guess that was sort of a theme from this survey is that I don't know that I would say that our
00:39:09.940 current media landscape is really serving what young people say their needs actually are, what
00:39:16.180 they actually want from media. So for instance, very few adolescents say that they prefer
00:39:21.700 aspirational content. So they don't really want to see content about people who are super rich
00:39:27.640 or super famous or have these like super aspirational lives. But I feel like that is a lot
00:39:33.320 of the content that we are that we are giving them that's like oh don't you want to see the
00:39:38.060 kardashians don't you want to see charlie d'amelio don't you want to see like these rich influencers
00:39:43.020 who live like fabulous lives young people are like nah i'm good i would rather see people whose lives
00:39:48.200 kind of look like mine it's interesting uh yeah makes some sense feels a little counterintuitive
00:39:55.540 but uh interesting so the majority of young people also prefer content over ip based content
00:40:03.400 but like that's so much of what we have to offer right now is like oh do you want to see like i
00:40:09.620 don't know some 12th iteration of a marvel ip like that is so much like and no shade to like
00:40:18.800 the the mcu the marvel cinematic universe but like we are offering in terms of media a lot of
00:40:26.060 existing ip right now and young people if this survey is to be believed aren't really that
00:40:30.760 interested in that you know it's interesting you bring up the the mcu the marvel cinematic universe
00:40:36.440 as a an example for this point that the majority of young people favor original content over ip
00:40:43.500 based content because i mean that's not just like an example you picked out of a hat right that was
00:40:48.980 like the major piece of cultural content being created during the majority of the lives of
00:40:58.320 gen zers right like over the past like 10 15 years like it was marvel the avengers fear thanos 0.78
00:41:09.040 yeah like no shit they want some other content listen if you are a young person out there i will 0.95
00:41:15.020 i'm i'm gonna quote one of my heroes and idols on this john waters fucking living legend go 0.99
00:41:21.740 i also like the mcu i also enjoy that's a john waters quote oh my god 0.99
00:41:28.020 shut your mouth how dare you he would never no john waters once said get more out of life 0.98
00:41:36.120 go and see a fucked up movie and that is something that i live by there is so much interesting 1.00
00:41:42.760 content out there it is a shame that like all that like if you were paying attention to media 0.98
00:41:50.280 in the last few years like if aliens came down and they were like what media is going on in the
00:41:54.920 last 10 years a big a big chunk of that pie would be existing ip there's so much interesting kooky
00:42:01.080 dark fucked up weird stuff out there go out find your thing you will you will you will thank me 0.71
00:42:09.240 later and stay tuned for there are no girls on the internet the movie uh to be followed with 0.92
00:42:15.080 the docu series and the read at home companion maybe you know maybe what if there's like a
00:42:21.840 tango cinematic universe like i guess that kind of is if you think about it because i do have
00:42:26.460 multiple podcasts maybe they can start having like little dramas with each other like oh
00:42:30.960 mike really doesn't get along with i don't know whoever from whatever podcast
00:42:37.240 is that something maybe except it would have to be you like nobody wants like 0.98
00:42:42.740 a spinoff where two side characters have adventures yo tell that to fucking marvel 0.98
00:42:49.460 from your lips to marvel's ears my friend 0.98
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00:44:58.440 So y'all might have seen a headline or a tweet about this survey that says that Gen Z want less sex and less romance on screen. 1.00
00:45:07.360 That is true. The majority of adolescents in this survey, 51.5%, expressed a desire for more content centered around friendships and platonic relationships. 0.98
00:45:16.900 A near majority felt that romance in media is overused, and a surprising 39% want to see more aromantic and or asexual characters on screen.
00:45:27.120 47.5% of adolescents said that sex is not needed for the plot of most TV shows and movies.
00:45:33.160 Young people ranked forced, unnatural, or toxic romantic and sexual relationships 4 out of the top 10 most disliked stereotypes on TV.
00:45:41.840 They also do not care for tropes like love triangles, relationships being a necessity to be happy, and male-female leads always ending up together.
00:45:52.640 And this actually mirrors what young people are doing in real life.
00:45:57.380 They're having less sex and they're staying single for longer.
00:46:00.160 And they're reporting that they don't feel the need to be in a romantic relationship to really feel fulfilled.
00:46:05.440 So I saw this in like headlines or on tweets kind of being framed as like, oh, young people are prudes or young people are like afraid of sex or young people are like, I don't know, like they've had their brains warped from the prevalence of pornography to the point where they don't even want to see sex on screen.
00:46:26.160 all of that is like completely strips out the nuance of what these young people are telling us
00:46:32.980 about what they want from media i love this part because you bridget were like
00:46:39.000 you dug deeper into the data you're like i just feel there's a deeper story here and you dug in
00:46:45.680 and it was there well thank you for that i will say mashable did a lot of the hard work for me
00:46:54.520 by talking to two of the authors of the study.
00:46:58.080 But I will say that when I saw the tweets
00:47:00.780 that were like young people,
00:47:02.480 it was kind of framed in a way
00:47:05.240 that was really uncharitable.
00:47:06.860 And it sort of, whenever you see something on Twitter
00:47:08.920 that is framed in a way that it's just like,
00:47:11.760 it just got my spidey senses up
00:47:13.180 that something more was going on here.
00:47:14.340 I will say, I will agree with you on that.
00:47:16.160 And I think it's an easy dunk on young people
00:47:21.020 to make it seem like,
00:47:22.220 oh they don't know what rock and roll is they're too young to be out there like and I say this as
00:47:27.960 someone who like when I was an adolescent all I wanted to see was two characters kiss on screen
00:47:34.440 all I was writing about all I was thinking about a lot of my time was consumed around like
00:47:40.260 wanting characters to be involved in sexual entanglements on screen so I was not this kind
00:47:47.560 of youth i was like would watch a show about two friends and i'm like what if they had sex wouldn't
00:47:52.260 that be good like well yeah we've been getting that for the past 20 years you know i was not the
00:47:58.020 kind of young person that they are describing here but i think it is really uncharitable and
00:48:03.320 really unfair to paint young people as being uncomfortable with sex or prudes from what they
00:48:09.900 are telling us yeah right like actual young people are also not the young people who are being
00:48:14.760 portrayed here. Yes. And think about this. In 2023, we have less and less of what we call
00:48:21.300 third places, places where people, but especially young people, can congregate with each other and
00:48:26.900 really find and build community and friendship. But just like everybody, young people still have
00:48:33.220 a need for that kind of friendship and camaraderie. So media then becomes the place where that need
00:48:39.640 for platonic relationships and friendships is being met. So if all you're giving young people
00:48:45.160 is like sexual content, romantic content, romantic triangles, and love triangles, all of that,
00:48:51.300 it really is not serving what they have identified as a need from the media they consume.
00:48:57.060 So one of the authors of the study talked to Mashable, which explains,
00:49:01.580 we're well aware of the loneliness epidemic in the United States. Well before COVID,
00:49:05.700 people have felt less connected to others. The pandemic only exacerbated this, and young people
00:49:10.440 today are twice as likely to report feeling lonely than those over 65. Third places, third to home
00:49:17.080 and school or work, for young people to hang out in person are dwindling. While many go online for
00:49:22.700 connection, Gen Z are social beings that need face-to-face interaction. So that is one of the
00:49:29.020 reasons why they are reporting like we are interested in more explorations of platonic
00:49:35.360 friendships that don't center romantic or sexual pairings. This is really so sad to me. The survey
00:49:42.300 authors pointed to a survey response from a 12-year-old about the movie The Sandlot. This
00:49:47.000 person said, quote, The Sandlot is a baseball movie I like. I wish I could go outside and play
00:49:52.920 like they did at the time. Today, it's not safe. Though simple, his words felt like a plenient
00:49:58.900 representation of what many of our respondents seem to be hinting at, that the core essence of
00:50:03.900 kids at heart and teens will always be the same, from camaraderie to curiosity and a sense of
00:50:09.460 adventure, or even just playing outside. And it appears that somewhere along the way, this may
00:50:14.180 have been forgotten in storytelling oh that is devastating uh quite a quote from authors
00:50:23.420 Haral Kotecha and Stephanie Rivas Lara yeah and I think like going back to those tweets about
00:50:30.460 young people being prudes it just like yeah it's just so not the full story of what youth today
00:50:38.860 are dealing with. And it is a really scary time to be a kid. Like, I feel very grateful that I
00:50:45.640 was a kid when I was a kid, because I feel like some of the realities that youth today are dealing
00:50:50.540 with, I don't think I would be strong enough to deal with it. And not only are they dealing with
00:50:54.820 it, they're dealing with it. And they're continuing to be creative, to connect with each
00:50:59.500 other, to be roasting people like me on social media for like wearing the wrong kind of jeans
00:51:06.180 or whatever like they're they're they're up against a lot and they have not lost the spark
00:51:11.700 that that you know that spark of youth and yeah young people inspire me every day like I find
00:51:18.060 them very inspirational even though they are dealing with so much I don't know how they do it
00:51:22.000 yeah this was a really interesting survey I'm so glad that the authors collected this because it
00:51:27.400 I think it does say a lot about what young people are looking for what they're experiencing
00:51:35.020 And I'm so glad you dug deeper than those headlines, because, you know, the headline that, like, kids today aren't interested in sex, like, but it also just, like, obscures all of this nuance of, like, what's actually going on, not just in their lives, but in, like, what our human needs are as social beings.
00:51:57.200 So speaking of failing young people, I got to talk about this woman on TikTok. So this young
00:52:02.980 woman made a TikTok recently about getting a job out of college, a job that she says that she
00:52:08.100 actually likes, but just kind of talking about how tough it is. She has to get up while it's still
00:52:14.100 dark out, commute pretty long for her job. I think it's like two hours because she doesn't make 1.00
00:52:19.540 enough money to live closer to work. She goes to work. She, by all accounts, enjoys her job and 1.00
00:52:24.640 co-workers but then she has to commute home from work by the time she gets home it is dark she
00:52:29.560 doesn't have much energy to do anything beyond like just feed herself and go to bed right she's
00:52:34.920 like when do you have time for going to the gym or seeing friends or finding a partner like or 0.94
00:52:41.960 having hobbies or taking care of yourself or meaningful connection there's no time for that
00:52:46.640 and she's a little emotional in the video like she's crying she's upset she does say that she
00:52:52.220 has her period, which like, holy moly, can I relate to that? But the whole thing is like a
00:52:57.480 really relatable complaint, I think. But the internet is going to internet. And some people
00:53:02.960 had very cruel responses, like basically calling her like a whiny brat. Blibs of TikTok, we posted 0.95
00:53:09.880 the video with a caption making fun of her. A lot of the responses were just like straight up sexist
00:53:15.700 because she's a young woman. She is wearing makeup. She has manicured nails. People are saying things 0.97
00:53:21.760 like oh she doesn't have enough time to get her nails done wow um jason kalasinas who is this
00:53:28.540 wealthy tech investor and the co-host of the podcast all in which i feel like i've talked
00:53:33.760 about a few times uh it is like one of the most popular tech podcasts in the world if you want to
00:53:41.240 see them just go to the apple tech podcast charts and look for like number one or number two look
00:53:46.980 way way way way way way way down you'll find mine but they're always like one or two uh if
00:53:51.600 I would say like the closest thing to maybe like a podcast, not nemesis, but it is like
00:53:58.620 for wealthy tech investors, like drinking bourbon and smoking cigars and like talking
00:54:05.560 about how wealthy they are and technology and yada, yada, yada.
00:54:08.880 So this person who is like a wealthy tech dude tweeted, oh, princess, violin emoji.
00:54:16.140 I'm sorry you had to commute and work and have a job and everything.
00:54:19.380 it's like so extra which like it's just a rude tweet um i will say what's really funny is that
00:54:25.800 as i said jason is this like wealthy tech investor and twitter added a community note to that tweet
00:54:33.100 crapping on that young woman just reminding everybody that hey just so you know jason has
00:54:38.720 not worked a nine-to-five job since 1990 so like if he's gonna complain this is context that y'all
00:54:44.160 should know which I agree that's a funny rude community note I know I love I'm here for a salty
00:54:52.720 community note so a tech journalist that I love Morgan Sung made a really insightful tic tac post
00:54:58.020 about how I don't know like idealizing grind and corporate life this makes it really difficult to
00:55:04.860 have empathy for other people especially younger people and it's really kind of keeping us away
00:55:10.440 from meaningful generational solidarity right like
00:55:14.160 there's this attitude of like I did it you should have to do it too like suck it up if I could do it 0.76
00:55:19.760 you could do it and I think especially like this woman is like a young woman if you're an entry
00:55:25.760 level person like new to the workforce historically these are not folks who have a lot of power
00:55:31.260 in the workforce so like it's people like Jason who have been working successfully for longer than
00:55:39.040 than this young woman have been alive, like, punching down and crapping on her. But here's
00:55:44.740 the thing. She is 100% correct. Like, I remember this absolutely visceral reaction I had when I
00:55:52.780 had my first, like, grown-up job. I was living in Brooklyn. I was working in Manhattan. And I had
00:55:58.720 to get up while it was still dark outside to commute to my job. And I didn't live in, like,
00:56:04.660 cool hipster brooklyn i lived in like brooklyn brooklyn like deep into brooklyn like almost
00:56:11.080 queen so my my commute was pretty hellish i would leave for work when it was dark out i would get
00:56:16.020 back to work when it was dark out and i basically was like just making enough money to exist to
00:56:22.920 live it was certainly not a like thriving healthy life and i think i did have a moment where i was
00:56:29.900 like oh wait like this is adult life this actually really sucks i actually don't like this and you
00:56:36.380 know i'm i'm really have a lot of empathy for this young woman in this experience because she's not
00:56:45.040 wrong and more and more workers are waking up to the fact that killing yourself at work just to
00:56:51.220 make money that you then don't get to really abandon anything other than sleep and food to
00:56:56.480 fuel yourself for more work is not a great dynamic. It is not a dynamic that feels good.
00:57:02.040 And yes, I get that this is like a white girl who probably went to college and it seems like, 0.59
00:57:07.420 oh, that you don't get to complain. But, you know, a lot of young people, I think,
00:57:11.540 were sold a bunk bill of goods that if you go to college and work hard, you can make this good
00:57:16.420 life for yourself. Finding out that that good life is just endless work and toil and also
00:57:22.320 commuting on top of it is kind of a bust, like she's not wrong. The way Americans work is broken.
00:57:28.800 In fact, a new study from the job search site Indeed found that two-thirds of UK employees
00:57:33.700 would take a pay cut for a four-day work week instead of a five-day work week.
00:57:39.240 So I don't think that this young woman is saying anything that is not correct. I think that more 0.72
00:57:44.840 and more workers are seeing this. You know, adult wage-earning life in the United States is a grind
00:57:51.720 by design, right? Things like long commutes, lack of childcare, having your healthcare attached to
00:57:57.340 your employment, the high cost of housing, all add to it. And if you have kids or are a caregiver
00:58:02.680 for a family member or have other stuff going on on top of it, it's even worse. So I was really
00:58:07.900 disappointed to see people acting like this woman was like an entitled brat for pointing that 0.99
00:58:14.340 reality out. It makes me wonder if one of the reasons why it's so hard to expect better is
00:58:20.680 because people will crap on anyone who points out like hey y'all the status quo is actually not
00:58:25.920 working yeah i think you're on to something there i think there are a lot of people who
00:58:30.960 have been grinding away at jobs that don't make them feel fulfilled for so long that they
00:58:39.820 feel defensive when anybody suggests like maybe that's not the best way to live
00:58:46.080 Yeah. And I think that's part of it. I think that like people are it's so easy to get so entrenched in this corporate mindset that says that like this is this is like the only way to live that somebody just being like, oh, actually, this is really hard.
00:59:03.140 elicits sneers and jokes and, you know, crapping on her rather than empathy. And rather than being
00:59:12.140 like, yeah, we all deserve better. It shouldn't have to be this way. You should not have to,
00:59:16.640 you were not put on this earth just to do wage earning labor for someone else. You should be
00:59:22.320 able to have a life. You should be able to have harmony in your life. You should be able to work
00:59:27.760 and still have time to take care of yourself and enjoy life. Like that is the point of being on
00:59:32.820 this earth yeah and also you know her complaint was not so much about the work itself but about
00:59:38.980 the commute and i feel that was kind of glossed over but she said she's commuting two hours
00:59:46.820 in each direction that's like like four hours out of her day that's like half a day of work
00:59:52.080 no wonder she's miserable that would make anyone miserable i know people like older than her that 1.00
00:59:57.700 have good jobs with like salary and benefits and you know nominal flexibility who for whatever
01:00:04.540 reason have made the decision to commute for like close to two hours and they're also miserable
01:00:09.180 right like that's that's just not a life mode that makes sense like this is just my take but
01:00:15.100 like nobody should be commuting two hours like if you're doing that you're doing it wrong and you
01:00:19.260 need to be doing something else immediately yeah I mean it is such a privilege for me to like not
01:00:25.140 have to commute. I work mostly remotely and I have since before COVID. In times where I was
01:00:31.840 commuting, it just didn't work for me. I was miserable and it wasn't even like the job made
01:00:38.060 me miserable. I hated having to budget in an extra hour on both ways. An extra two hours
01:00:46.040 in the eight hours of my day that is not spent sleeping or at work went to commuting. When I
01:00:53.020 would get to work I'm already in a bad mood because like you're on the fucking subway you're 0.99
01:00:57.360 late it smells people are screaming like you've got to like be wearing clothes you don't want to 0.96
01:01:02.240 wear having conversations you don't want to have like it just like and then I would always like
01:01:06.920 oh my god like even just thinking about it is it's almost like takes me back to that that headspace
01:01:11.560 but all of that is to say my I for a very long time when I was working in offices I thought I 0.91
01:01:18.480 was like a screw up employee I thought I was like just a fuck up who like couldn't work properly and 0.93
01:01:25.080 like that was something I really internalized come to find out I just hated commuting and I hated 0.95
01:01:29.300 working in an office like when I was working with a little bit more flexibility padded into my
01:01:33.400 schedule I was like oh I actually enjoy producing I actually enjoy doing a lot of this work the
01:01:39.160 office commute vibe just did not work for me I used to regularly oh my god I hope my old MSNBC
01:01:45.980 Boston to hear this but Farrah if you're listening you know I was a shitty employee so like whatever
01:01:50.520 deal with it I would regularly like leave the office go outside and just like walk around the 0.99
01:01:57.840 block several times sometimes I would scream and then just like come back in it was the fucking 0.72
01:02:03.560 worst and it is such a I'm I'm it is such a privilege for me to be in a different place now 0.93
01:02:09.260 where my work life doesn't look like that but just because I did that I don't want people coming up
01:02:15.620 behind me to have to needlessly suffer through that. If you love being in the office and you
01:02:20.380 love commuting and it's working for you, that is great. But if you feel like this young lady did,
01:02:24.540 which is definitely how I felt when I was her age, you are not crazy. It is normal to feel that way.
01:02:30.160 It is not a sustainable system to spend two hours each way commuting. You should be able to have
01:02:36.340 time for yourself, time to take care of yourself, time to have a life that is not work or sleep.
01:02:41.840 and i guess i'll end it there mike thank you so much for being here yeah thanks for having me it
01:02:49.060 was good talking with you this was our least musky episode in like quite a while when we were putting
01:02:56.620 together the outline you were like you know who's not in this outline elon musk if if you want some
01:03:02.420 musk i can give you some i know exactly what he's been up to but it sounds like you're we're good
01:03:05.980 we're good yeah we can just let it go for a week elon musk will give you the week off but we'll
01:03:12.580 see you next week i'm sure he'll be doing something thanks so much for listening and
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