There Are No Girls on the Internet - January 16, 2024


What we’re leaving behind in the new year - STUFF MOM NEVER TOLD YOU

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Substack has a Nazi problem; Dating apps are flopping; Ebay execs harass critics; Elon does race science, AI George Carlin – NEWS ROUNDUP Pitchfork is absorbed by GQ - is music for men? Bridget hates self-checkout; Google still isn’t deleting abortion data; AI deepfake legislation – NEWS ROUNDUP

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00:01:54.740 Happy New Year!
00:01:56.220 Now that the holidays are officially over,
00:01:58.700 I'm looking at what's in and what's out in tech for 2024.
00:02:02.240 And to do that, I joined my friends, Samantha and Annie,
00:02:05.120 over at the podcast Stuff Mom Never Told You,
00:02:07.260 to run through what we should be leaving in 2023.
00:02:10.940 I gotta ask, what tech things are you leaving in 2023?
00:02:14.840 After you listen to the episode, be sure to let me know.
00:02:16.960 for the topic today that you brought us you're talking about some of the things
00:02:27.200 tech in the tech world that we should leave behind or want to exactly yeah if you all know
00:02:35.460 that cartoon that you might see on twitter a lot where it's like a woman stepping from one year to
00:02:40.920 the next and behind her she's leaving behind all of this baggage from the previous year like fake
00:02:46.220 friends or heartbreak. And then across over her shoulder, she's carrying what she's carrying into
00:02:51.160 the next year. So like love or focus. Do you know the image that I'm talking about? I don't. I had
00:02:56.360 never seen it, but I'm looking at it now. Yes. So fun fact about that image, it was created by
00:03:05.440 a British Ghanaian graphic artist named Peniel Enchel. And it first appeared on the internet in
00:03:10.620 2014. And BuzzFeed has a great interview with her. But basically, this image has been totally
00:03:16.120 meme-ified and it kind of pops up around this time of year every year to sort of fit the theme
00:03:22.500 of like new year, new me. Sometimes it's a joke, which this artist says that she doesn't always
00:03:26.780 agree with or like the way that people like do their spins on it. But it's really become a part
00:03:31.760 of like the shorthand of this time of year of like what we're leaving behind and what we're
00:03:35.860 taking with us into the new year. So when that picture was making its rounds recently around
00:03:41.100 this time of year, you know, I had just wrapped up podcasting my own podcast. There are no girls 0.99
00:03:46.600 on the internet talking about technology and identity and really asking questions about like 1.00
00:03:51.200 what we get right and what we get wrong, you know, in those, in those arenas. So this image
00:03:56.180 got me thinking what tech things should just stay in 2023 and that we should not be bringing with us
00:04:02.740 into 2024. So I've got my list of things that should stay, like we're done with them. We're
00:04:08.520 We should not be bringing them with us into the new year.
00:04:11.640 Yeah. And I was thinking about this, too.
00:04:13.700 This has been a big year for tech.
00:04:15.580 This has felt like a very monumental, like a lot of things are changing.
00:04:19.320 And so looking at this list, I was like, oh, yeah, yeah.
00:04:24.080 It can feel strange because time feels so strange now.
00:04:27.020 But that did all happen this year.
00:04:28.840 So what is on your list?
00:04:32.040 Let's get into it.
00:04:32.920 So as you said, it's been a big year for conversations around technology.
00:04:37.660 that they're big right now.
00:04:38.840 And I would say there probably is not a bigger conversation
00:04:41.780 than the one happening around AI, right?
00:04:44.580 So we're all like rightly talking about how AI
00:04:46.780 could change the way that we do our jobs
00:04:49.020 or the way that artistic projects get created.
00:04:51.360 And those are all important conversations to be having.
00:04:54.100 But there is one very serious conversation
00:04:56.280 about the reality of AI.
00:04:57.980 And that is how AI is being used to do things
00:05:00.560 like violate consent and further use technology
00:05:03.520 to make it seem like our bodies are just like up for grabs
00:05:06.900 once we show up online.
00:05:08.580 So case in point,
00:05:10.380 Nudify apps.
00:05:11.660 So Nudify apps
00:05:12.780 are kind of the catch-all term
00:05:14.780 for apps or platforms
00:05:16.860 that promise to use AI
00:05:18.480 to generate non-consensual
00:05:20.420 nude or semi-nude images of anyone.
00:05:23.920 These kinds of apps
00:05:24.780 have been exploding in popularity.
00:05:26.800 In September alone,
00:05:28.160 24 million people visited
00:05:29.680 Nudify apps or undressing websites
00:05:31.980 according to the social network
00:05:33.260 analysis company, Graphica.
00:05:35.360 So in their analysis,
00:05:36.900 They really talk about how we've, how this year specifically, we've seen this shift where
00:05:41.980 Nudify apps kind of went from this niche underground custom thing where like if you
00:05:48.380 were like a singular creep who had a singular fixation on one person, you could find a
00:05:54.600 marketplace for non-consensual images to be made of somebody.
00:05:58.960 But it was like a niche custom thing.
00:06:00.940 Now, in 2023, we have really seen that shift to where these are fleshed-out, monetized online businesses complete with advertising apparatuses.
00:06:13.280 Graphica found that the volume of referral link spam for these kinds of services has increased by more than 2,000% on social media platforms like Reddit and Twitter since the beginning of 2023.
00:06:24.180 And a set of 52 Telegram groups used to access non-consensual image sites like these contain at least 1 million users as of September of 2023.
00:06:33.900 So they have really exploded in popularity, yet I think that we're only now, like only recently, come to have any kind of conversation about what that means.
00:06:43.780 Not just for, you know, the women who are overwhelmingly targeted by these kinds of apps, but also what it means for our digital landscape more broadly.
00:06:53.200 Okay, I'm not going to lie. None of this is familiar to me. As many social media things as I'm involved in, didn't know this was a thing. Didn't know.
00:07:03.480 It's pretty despicable. It first got on my radar. It first seemed to be rolled out to like more mainstream platforms with celebrities. So it would be like, oh, you can get a nude of any celebrity. And now it's like not just celebrities. It's like anybody. You can generate a non-consensual nude of anybody.
00:07:23.700 And so one of the ways that this is becoming more and more ubiquitous is just seeing the advertisements for it on social media.
00:07:32.760 After some journalists at Bloomberg were looking into the popularity of these kinds of apps, they contacted both TikTok and Facebook to ask them about, you know, hey, it seems like these really gross apps are being allowed to advertise on your platforms.
00:07:47.540 And both Facebook and TikTok, I will say, you know, to their credit, when Bloomberg reached out to them, they both did some work to block search terms related to nudify apps.
00:07:58.760 But one social media platform, notably, did not do that.
00:08:02.540 Can you guess what platform that was?
00:08:06.520 Twitter.
00:08:07.500 You probably can. It was Twitter.
00:08:08.200 I'm marrying it just Twitter, obviously. I'm not calling us a new name still.
00:08:11.500 No, we're calling it Twitter still.
00:08:15.860 So it was Twitter.
00:08:17.820 They were like, we're actually fine with these nudify apps.
00:08:21.140 Like, we don't see a problem.
00:08:22.660 So this is from Vice.
00:08:24.480 Searching the word undress on TikTok brings up no results in either the top or video tabs.
00:08:30.660 Instead, the platform warns users that the phrase may be associated with activity that
00:08:34.800 violates the platform's guidelines.
00:08:36.860 Searching the same term on Instagram similarly brings up no results.
00:08:40.320 Searching Undress on Twitter, however,
00:08:42.760 readily surfaces a verified account
00:08:44.700 with nearly 20,000 followers
00:08:46.340 promoting Nudify app services.
00:08:49.100 So let's say that you were to search Twitter
00:08:50.780 for the word indress instead of undress.
00:08:53.840 Twitter is actually like,
00:08:54.980 wait, were you actually meeting to search for undress?
00:08:58.000 And it prompts you to search for undress instead.
00:09:00.740 So where other platforms are like,
00:09:02.320 no, we can't have that on our platforms,
00:09:04.840 Twitter is like not just allowing it on platforms,
00:09:07.100 but like helping people to search it
00:09:09.000 when they get it wrong.
00:09:10.380 And so you might see people,
00:09:12.060 if you ever see nudify apps
00:09:14.400 advertised on these platforms,
00:09:16.460 sometimes they, like a word is misspelled
00:09:20.180 or like there's a space between some of the letters
00:09:22.320 to try to evade being picked up
00:09:24.900 and like knocked off the platform.
00:09:26.740 But it generally just does not seem like
00:09:28.880 Twitter has a problem with these kinds of services
00:09:30.660 being advertised on their platform.
00:09:32.180 And I feel like this is a big question
00:09:33.860 with like legalities,
00:09:35.580 especially on public platforms like that
00:09:38.660 in general but like in talking about doing news and such like it seems like it should be illegal
00:09:44.620 it seems like this could be one of those things especially like if you think about revenge porn
00:09:48.500 and all that being illegal in so many places like is that not a thing is that can you not take it
00:09:54.820 to court or at least try to stop these images from happening so that is a great question when
00:09:59.860 i first saw these i was like this has got to be illegal and it turns out that right now depending
00:10:05.420 on where you live, it is probably not illegal to do this. It depends on your jurisdiction,
00:10:11.940 but there is currently no federal law criminalizing using AI to generate non-consensual
00:10:18.140 deepfake images. Representative Yvette Clark out of New York has actually proposed legislation
00:10:23.240 that would criminalize making, you know, non-consensual deepfakes. But as of right now,
00:10:29.620 kind of unbelievably, there is not any legislation federally that prevents somebody from doing that. 0.78
00:10:35.420 And, yeah, I just think that, like, as this kind of technology becomes more ubiquitous in our culture, I think it adds to this idea that just by showing up on the Internet, women are fair game for anybody who wants to sexualize us. 0.65
00:10:51.840 And that I think it's getting to a point where the idea is like, well, if you didn't want someone to use your images in that way, why don't you post them to Instagram, right?
00:11:02.240 And I think that we really got to have a real serious think and a serious conversation about if that is going to be a social media climate that we want.
00:11:13.100 And I think that that kind of thinking is the kind of thinking that we need to leave behind in 2023, right?
00:11:18.020 Like, women should be able to show up online without non-consensual sexualization just being the cost of showing up.
00:11:25.420 And so let's leave that behind in 2024.
00:11:28.740 We are not bringing it with us.
00:11:32.240 please please yeah and that's one of the very frustrating things because i did see a lot about
00:11:38.400 this um and we even had an episode bridget about it about journalists getting targeted by stuff
00:11:45.340 like that and uh revenge porn and things like that and this is just making it so much easier
00:11:49.940 and it's harder to uh for some people for all of us to ascertain like what is real and what is not
00:11:56.980 real. But it does kind of disproportionately impact women and marginalized folks. And that's
00:12:03.420 just one example of technology doing that, that you have on your list, right?
00:12:09.660 Yes. And I think like, just like what you said, I think that there are specific groups that we see
00:12:15.260 being targeted for this kind of harm first. And then it's like, oh, and then like, when those
00:12:20.120 groups, when it's allowed to happen to those groups, it's like, oh, well, you know, nobody
00:12:25.380 really does anything. And then it's like, oh, surprise, now it's everybody's problem. Now we
00:12:29.140 just live in a society where this is commonplace. And maybe when this was happening to specific
00:12:34.740 groups of people, if we had done something and taken it seriously then, we wouldn't have allowed
00:12:38.400 it to just become ubiquitous, right? And I don't think anybody wants to live in a culture where
00:12:42.360 anybody is fair game just because they put a picture of themselves on the internet to have
00:12:48.300 that picture be distorted and sexualized. So absolutely right. So that brings me to another
00:12:54.280 thing that we should not be taking with us into 2024, and that is content moderation policies
00:12:59.640 that really hurt women and other marginalized people. So as we were talking about with AI,
00:13:05.280 right now AI is used in content moderation that really does a lot of the work of deciding what
00:13:11.900 gets amplified and what gets suppressed on social media. This technology, however, also objectifies
00:13:18.280 women's bodies and is much more likely to flag images that involve women or include women 0.94
00:13:23.960 as racy or inappropriate, 0.87
00:13:26.180 and thus those images are more likely to be suppressed
00:13:28.260 on social media sites.
00:13:29.900 So The Guardian actually put together
00:13:31.640 like a really interesting investigation into this
00:13:33.720 where they had journalists use AI tools
00:13:36.140 to analyze hundreds of photos of men and women
00:13:38.080 in their underwear, working out,
00:13:39.920 using medical tests and with partial nudity,
00:13:42.380 and found that the AI used will tag photos of women
00:13:45.580 in everyday situations as sexually suggestive.
00:13:48.620 So I'm talking about images of like women in their underwear, 0.54
00:13:52.820 fully covered, or women working out at the gym fully covered, right? Like images that we would 0.82
00:13:58.220 recognize as not racy, but because they include women, the tools that are being used to make 1.00
00:14:04.240 decisions about how content is moderated will be like, no, that's racy, can't have that on social 1.00
00:14:09.400 media. And so as a result of this, social media companies that leverage these algorithms have
00:14:15.640 suppressed honestly countless images of featuring women's bodies. We know that this hurts women-led
00:14:21.980 businesses. I was just reading about how a shapewear company essentially can't advertise 0.98
00:14:27.320 on social media because images of women's bodies fully covered in shapewear will just be suppressed
00:14:35.080 by these algorithms. And they essentially cannot advertise their product on social media, which is
00:14:39.500 like where you advertise products in 2023. This also, like, not only does it hurt female-led 1.00
00:14:45.020 businesses, it also has medical impacts. They found that this disparity is also true for medical 1.00
00:14:51.280 images. AI was shown images from the U.S. National Cancer Institute demonstrating how to do a
00:14:56.760 clinical breast exam. Google's AI gave this photo the highest score for raciness. Microsoft's AI
00:15:03.840 was 82% confident that these images of women doing breast exams was explicit sexually in nature.
00:15:11.840 And Amazon classified it as representing explicit nudity. This is also true for pregnant bellies. 0.53
00:15:17.640 Like if you are heavily pregnant and showing a pregnant belly on social media platforms, AI is much more likely to deem that image to be racy and then suppress that in their content moderation tools.
00:15:30.640 And so you really get a sense of the way that these platforms are creating a disproportionate cost for being a woman who shows up online.
00:15:40.060 Like it prevents women from being able to express themselves.
00:15:42.640 It prevents women from being able to get medical information about our bodies.
00:15:46.620 And ultimately, it's just not fair.
00:15:48.220 Like, we shouldn't have to deal with this
00:15:49.440 just because we showed up on a social media platform
00:15:51.420 with our bodies. 1.00
00:15:52.560 Like, there's nothing wrong with women's bodies.
00:15:54.740 They're not racy or explicit just by us having them. 0.99
00:15:58.900 Right, right.
00:16:00.360 And I believe, Samantha and I,
00:16:02.300 we talked about this about YouTube
00:16:03.580 because YouTube had a similar strange thing
00:16:05.660 that was happening where it was flagging
00:16:07.600 videos of children, young girls,
00:16:11.040 as just like, this is so sexual.
00:16:12.880 And it's just like literally young girls.
00:16:14.800 And it's telling to what is going on in our society, the problems of objectifying and sexualizing women.
00:16:23.860 But also, this is a big thing that we talk about with you, Bridget, when it matters who's making these things, who's doing this stuff.
00:16:32.120 And AI is a pretty new space, but I've already seen a lot of conversations about that, about the importance of who is working on it.
00:16:41.220 So that's part of what is going on here, right?
00:16:44.800 Totally. So The Guardian spoke to Margaret Mitchell of the AI company Hugging Face,
00:16:49.200 who said that she believes that the photos used to train these algorithms were probably just being labeled by straight men
00:16:55.840 who probably associate men working out with fitness, but maybe consider an image of a woman working out as being, like, racy or sexual or explicit,
00:17:06.180 even though it's, like, the same theme, the same content.
00:17:09.060 And so it's possible that these ratings seem gender biased in the U.S. and in Europe because the labelers might be from a place that might have more conservative cultures, right?
00:17:18.020 And so, yeah, it really matters who is building technology, who's in the room when the technology gets built, who is training it, who is rolling it out, who is thinking about it, who's writing about it, who's talking about it.
00:17:28.740 If these people are mostly men, then, like, of course women and other marginalized people are not showing up in an equitable way.
00:17:38.900 With all the conversations that we have around things like inclusion and diversity and equity in tech, I'm not, like, harping on those just because it's, like, nice to do or it's, like, the right thing to do, which it is.
00:17:49.960 It is because eventually the technology that gets built is worse, is less inclusive, is more dangerous.
00:17:57.220 Like, it includes less people, and that ends up hurting all of us.
00:18:00.780 Yes, it does.
00:18:02.080 And speaking of that, you have another point on here going back to something we were talking about earlier about women in journalism.
00:18:09.860 Yes?
00:18:10.480 Yes.
00:18:10.940 So I'm so glad that was a great transition, which is that, you know, it's like one of the reasons why I started my own podcast about this is that we unfortunately have a tech culture that can treat women like perpetual outsiders, right?
00:18:28.760 Whether by accident or with intention.
00:18:31.740 And that is something that we got to leave in 2023.
00:18:34.500 Really, we could have left it like in like many, many, many years past.
00:18:39.060 But this is the time that we should be leaving it in the past because exactly what you said, it is so critical. These tools are going to be shaping our world and how we understand our world. So we got to make sure that people who are publicly talking about it and are included in that conversation are done so in a way that does not treat them like perpetual outsiders.
00:18:58.220 And so women who are working for that AI company that I mentioned before, Hugging Face, which you can sort of think of as like a competitor to OpenAI, the company that makes ChatGPT, which is run by that guy Sam Altman, Hugging Face has a lot of women who work there.
00:19:13.620 And these women do a ton of like public speaking about tech and AI in the media, which is great.
00:19:19.860 And I also think, again, it's, like, important because it can help to change the face of, like, who we think of as somebody who gets to speak or gets to have an opinion when it comes to technology, and that's great.
00:19:30.000 However, the women at Hugging Face also noticed that when they were doing public speaking about AI with the press,
00:19:36.280 they sometimes would get, like, sexist or otherwise kind of messed up questions during interviews
00:19:42.260 that just, like, really highlighted that they were not necessarily being treated like people who belonged in the space.
00:19:51.200 Margaret Mitchell, she is Hugging Face's chief ethics scientist, framed it as a research question.
00:19:56.300 She asked, what are patterns in how journalists talk to and about women in AI?
00:20:01.320 She found that compared to male peers, there is a disproportionate focus from the press on their ages, their motherhood, their physical appearance or behaviors, their failures, and what AI gossip they could provide rather than their, like, technical work.
00:20:18.280 And these are people who are incredibly accomplished.
00:20:21.500 They're, like, doing very important work that they've gone to school for, been trained for.
00:20:25.320 in an article, if you get to interview them and you ask about their age or you ask if they have
00:20:30.640 kids or you ask, you know, about the way they look, it's so limiting because it's like you
00:20:36.360 have somebody who has dedicated their life to this very important technology and this is what
00:20:40.540 you ask them. Like it's such a miss on the part of the journalists. It's like, I thought you by
00:20:47.940 now at this point in AI, there would be more things to talk about. There's so many questions
00:20:52.400 that we should be asking again things like how are how are sexist issues being handled in ai how
00:20:58.120 are you protecting women in ai and not about the individual person be like so you got a kid
00:21:04.800 you gotta be on the computer while you have a kid how are you gonna do that like well that
00:21:09.540 this seems so like far-fetched like why is this is this a skit are you are we still doing this
00:21:15.320 and what's frustrating is like they would never ask a man up if you were talking to like a powerful
00:21:21.200 man, you would never be like, oh, well, who watches
00:21:23.120 your kids while you're working? Or like,
00:21:25.160 how do you juggle being a dad
00:21:27.540 and like being a scientist?
00:21:29.540 Like these are things that would not, that like would not
00:21:31.280 come up. They're only coming up because they're women. 1.00
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00:22:23.420 When I was 14 years old, I was kidnapped and held captive for nine months.
00:22:29.360 I survived, and I've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them.
00:22:35.780 I'm Elizabeth Smart, and these are the Survivor Files.
00:22:39.440 I just remember this low, taunting voice next to my ear saying, 0.99
00:22:44.860 Shut up. Don't say anything. 0.99
00:22:47.520 Every week, I'm with survivors who live through the unthinkable.
00:22:52.060 I knew if he woke up, without a doubt, he was going to hurt me.
00:22:56.620 I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed, and I just started screaming.
00:23:04.060 They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced.
00:23:08.020 But these aren't stories about what's taken from them.
00:23:11.460 They're stories about what it takes to make it out alive.
00:23:14.600 Listen to The Survivor Files with Elizabeth Smart on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
00:23:23.540 If your bookshelf and your For You page are equally important to your personality, welcome home.
00:23:29.480 This is Prose Society, the weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for thought daughters, pop culture obsessives, and anyone who thinks Pride and Prejudice and Love Island deserve the same level of discourse.
00:23:41.960 I'm Eli Rallo, and every week we're connecting the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having.
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00:24:21.600 See you between the pages.
00:24:23.620 Hey, this is Hayes Davenport.
00:24:25.220 And Sean Clements.
00:24:26.420 We host the podcast Hollywood Handbook.
00:24:28.600 Every episode, we're trying to help our guests improve their careers by mainly focusing on how they can help us improve our careers.
00:24:34.200 The show is famously super accessible, so you can easily jump into any of our 650 episodes and understand what's going on.
00:24:40.500 We recommend some of our recent episodes with Ben Stiller.
00:24:43.000 The definition of what is a movie has kind of changed anyway, too, right?
00:24:46.440 What do you think it is now?
00:24:47.540 It's images and words being spoken, captured by some sort of technology.
00:24:54.160 Danny McBride.
00:24:54.920 He loves Boba.
00:24:55.900 Oh, that's fantastic.
00:24:57.000 And you make it on, you make your own.
00:24:58.840 That's great.
00:24:59.600 I call him Taro Reed.
00:25:00.960 it's a good name they're all named after cast members of american pie yeah i call i don't
00:25:09.220 i never looked up if she was in this but i call him lychee sobieski yeah i don't think she was
00:25:14.260 an american pie but i haven't looked it up she was prominent around the same time yeah then
00:25:19.500 mary steenburgen why are you guys talking to me like i'm worried why are you talking so down to
00:25:25.080 me that you think I don't understand your little play game. I just really am trying to set you up
00:25:32.320 for success here. Listen to Hollywood Handbook on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever
00:25:37.400 you get your podcasts. Dr. Sasha Luciani, who was an AI researcher and a climate lead at Hucking
00:25:48.620 Base, was in this like pretty glowing piece for Adweek. The piece was great, but the headline to
00:25:54.920 the article read, this AI ethics expert juggles motherhood and a tech career. And people had to
00:26:00.920 like raise hell to get them to change it. And yeah, it's just like, I do think that there is
00:26:06.500 a place for conversations about what it looks like to juggle career and family and all of that.
00:26:14.220 But those are not conversations that should only be happening to women. And there's a time and a
00:26:18.360 place for them, right? Like if you're meant to be interviewing somebody about their technical
00:26:21.960 prowess that I don't see how that is is relevant to their technical expertise right and that piece
00:26:28.260 in itself the title is so condescending is that definitely like oh look at you how cute look at
00:26:33.460 you doing that you go you go girl I'm so proud of you instead of seeing this professional scientist
00:26:39.440 who has more degrees and more experience than the person who actually probably wrote the article
00:26:44.700 I don't know for sure but just that level of like wow really what are you doing like is it because
00:26:50.440 you feel insecure that you need to be condescending,
00:26:52.420 but be like passive-aggressively like,
00:26:53.980 but no, no, no, I'm really impressed, really.
00:26:56.180 It is so condescending.
00:26:58.380 And so in an effort to help the space be better, 1.00
00:27:01.920 the women who work at Hugging Face
00:27:03.320 actually developed a guide for journalists
00:27:05.060 to help get it right,
00:27:06.880 to help create a better dynamic
00:27:08.740 so that it's not just condescending question
00:27:11.720 and sexist question after sexist question.
00:27:14.320 The guide reads,
00:27:15.520 the real achievements of women on our team
00:27:17.260 often get overshadowed by a focus on personal
00:27:19.580 and sometimes very intrusive details
00:27:21.360 that are not relevant to their work.
00:27:23.600 With all the amazing press attention
00:27:25.080 we get at Hugging Face,
00:27:26.360 we're bound to see some journalists
00:27:27.500 rely on outdated tropes.
00:27:29.180 Lately, we've seen more reporters
00:27:30.460 ignoring our amazing achievements
00:27:32.140 of our she's and they's,
00:27:33.860 and instead focusing on stereotypes in tech.
00:27:37.120 One of the things that I love
00:27:38.280 about the guide that they put out
00:27:39.420 is that it really highlights
00:27:42.680 the importance of not treating tech 0.85
00:27:45.380 like a place where women don't belong. 0.99
00:27:47.580 And so, for instance, the guide reads, 1.00
00:27:49.580 Don't rely on antiquated stereotypes about women in tech. 0.86
00:27:52.740 This includes describing women as outsiders in the field,
00:27:55.680 which only serves to reinforce the idea that women don't belong in tech. 0.90
00:28:00.080 An example of a problematic sentence they give, 1.00
00:28:02.740 despite being a woman in a male-dominated field, 1.00
00:28:05.260 Brooke Brookie has made a name for herself in the tech industry.
00:28:08.620 Better is, through her brilliant results on magic and large language models,
00:28:12.720 Brooke Brookie made a name for herself in the tech industry.
00:28:16.080 And so this, I think, is really key.
00:28:17.600 and I think people do this without even really meaning to is that the tech industry, women and
00:28:25.860 queer folks and trans folks and black folks and folks with disabilities and all different kinds
00:28:31.640 of people who are traditionally marginalized in our society have been at the beginning of technology
00:28:36.440 and have been since the very start. We have this idea that like, oh, tech is this like white male
00:28:41.960 cis boys club and anybody else is trying to break their way in. And that's, I can understand why 0.95
00:28:46.840 people feel that way. But we have been there from the very beginning. And if you don't always hear
00:28:52.000 our stories or our voices, it's not because we're not there. It's because specific choices have been
00:28:56.900 made to keep to like sideline us and to turn down our voices. And so really starting from a place
00:29:02.820 that like we do belong in these conversations, we do belong in tech, we do belong in the sector,
00:29:07.680 we're not outsiders, I think is really, really important. And it also just really matters,
00:29:14.320 You know, if the people who are building technology and talking about technology and thinking about technology are only one type of person, the tech that gets built is going to be a whole lot worse.
00:29:25.780 And so all of us benefit when more voices are included and feel included and feel empowered to join the conversation.
00:29:32.880 You would think that would be an obvious and also that it would be it would save money.
00:29:36.420 It would save money in all the revamping and redoing of everything that you knew.
00:29:42.160 Well, I would expect you knew, but that could go wrong when you don't have the right people or all the people at least represented in this conversation, especially if you're wanting these people to use your technology.
00:29:53.620 you're so right and like what's interesting is I once read this book called mothers of invention
00:30:02.820 all about how things like misogyny and bias around women stifle innovation and something
00:30:10.080 that's really struck me from that book is how much money gets left on the table because of
00:30:15.500 things like gender bias and misogyny it's like you would think in a capitalistic society that
00:30:20.040 for-profit companies would want money above anything you might be surprised because they
00:30:24.900 are perfectly willing to lose money if it means further entrenching gender bias and misogyny yeah
00:30:33.100 which is so nonsensical right i guess it's power over money even though money can be considered
00:30:38.660 power yeah yeah we were doing i was trying to do a wrap-up episode like this about video games and
00:30:45.820 board games and i ran across kind of a stunning upsetting amount of um how often people in power
00:30:56.600 who are dudes were like it's just women don't make good stuff um and they would literally be like
00:31:03.840 people don't buy those things those party games why yes they do yeah look at the demographics of
00:31:12.340 Who is actually playing video games? 1.00
00:31:13.980 It is a lot of women. 1.00
00:31:15.640 And so, like, I think not making video games and stuff that, like, women want when a big chunk of your customer base just is women, it's a fact, that is on you. 0.86
00:31:27.820 That is, like, you don't know how to do it or unwilling to do it. 0.84
00:31:30.240 It's, like, anything that you could say is just an excuse to not do it.
00:31:35.320 Like, you look at Animal Crossing and the fact they made bank, especially during COVID and quarantine.
00:31:42.340 And you're like, you sure?
00:31:44.120 Are you sure?
00:31:45.940 Yeah. 0.98
00:31:46.660 This guy in question was, he was saying like all the games women like to play,
00:31:50.020 which are like, in his mind, are much more too political or too like parties.
00:31:56.340 Like Mobile Games, like aren't good and don't make money.
00:32:01.940 And it's like, are you sure?
00:32:06.280 I can't.
00:32:07.280 Why?
00:32:07.840 Oh, this also reminds me of, it's kind of upsetting, but it reminds me of when Sally Ride was, you know, getting ready to go to space and they would have these press conferences with her and all these men.
00:32:21.980 And the men, they're asking like all these like questions related to the job.
00:32:26.060 And her, they'd be like, how are you going to put your makeup on in space?
00:32:30.160 It's like, what?
00:32:32.940 it hasn't like it's still there that kind of we still gender these things and we still other
00:32:42.260 people and it does really matter who's writing about it and who whose stories are getting
00:32:48.000 published or getting that traction because you know if it's mostly white men's stories who's
00:32:55.460 getting like all of the attention then that does help reinforce this idea that yeah it's this white
00:33:01.580 space when it isn't and it hasn't been as you said yeah did you ever hear i mean i'm sure you
00:33:07.060 all have heard this story but it really sticks with me that when sally ride was going to space
00:33:11.220 she's going to be there for one week and the like scientists or engineers at nasa whoever
00:33:16.920 were like they gave her a hundred i was at 200 tampons or 100 tampons she's gonna be there for
00:33:22.660 one week and when she was like oh 100 tampons they were like will that be enough like these 0.94
00:33:29.100 to the greatest scientific mind.
00:33:31.140 Like, nobody can tell me
00:33:32.800 that, like, male scientists 0.98
00:33:35.180 are, like, better than women 0.98
00:33:37.380 when that's what's going on 0.97
00:33:38.800 with our male scientists.
00:33:40.980 Can you imagine
00:33:41.960 if you honestly believed
00:33:43.260 that was true
00:33:44.120 and then for, 0.98
00:33:45.860 to expect the women
00:33:47.940 in your life
00:33:48.480 or the people
00:33:48.880 who menstruate in your life
00:33:49.860 to just be going through
00:33:51.820 200 tampons in a week?
00:33:54.260 Right.
00:33:54.680 And that we have to pay that much
00:33:56.100 when you're, like,
00:33:56.640 looking at tampons
00:33:57.500 and they're, like, 30,
00:33:58.220 for what is it like eight dollars for 30 you're like bro yeah 30 to a box so it's like how much
00:34:04.420 like i have so many questions i have so many questions there's so many questions there's so
00:34:08.160 many questions and to be fair like in everything like how did you think this was going to work
00:34:12.980 like who invented this this is not this is this doesn't work like that what are you doing god
00:34:18.260 sometimes like oh this is such a non sequitur sometimes when i think about gender dynamics
00:34:25.760 like I remember reading this tweet from a guy who was like people think Taylor Swift is so pretty but 0.98
00:34:32.480 here she is without makeup and it's like did you think that she was born with cat eyes and like
00:34:37.280 bright red lips and you thought all of us thought that you clearly thought that but you thought all 0.88
00:34:43.080 of us thought that like and then you're and like you're supposed to be getting one over on us women 0.80
00:34:47.360 like the whole thing is just laughable yeah it's like such a great example of who we consider the
00:34:55.440 norm in society whose experience we consider the norm we base it on because i i was thinking about
00:35:02.620 that recently too about this whole idea that i feel like has faded away largely but not always
00:35:10.220 but like women who would wake up early and put on makeup so their partner would not see them
00:35:15.820 without makeup so it's like it's like a lot of us feel that we have to do this thing because
00:35:25.260 then we'll get this complaint from this random jackass on social media but then it's also like
00:35:32.020 dude what do you think it's strange it's like a strange dynamic that is happening where you feel 0.69
00:35:39.520 the pressure to do it but then also shouldn't they shouldn't people realize how much work it is
00:35:46.040 right yeah and it kind of goes into another question that i'm kind of concerned about
00:35:50.560 because we've had like i've been noticing more and more on tiktok they just have automatic filters
00:35:54.820 and a lot of people talk about the fact that they use different filters especially because they
00:35:58.400 don't want to wear makeup and all that and this is feels makes them feel better which all all in
00:36:02.580 whatever you do you but then this level of expectation uh that especially men especially
00:36:09.300 I'm gonna say cis heterosexual men uh think that this is what you should look like and if you don't
00:36:14.920 look like that in real life holy catfished me and you've lied to me like in this new level of
00:36:20.540 standard a beauty standard that might been like okay this is good for us because it makes us kind
00:36:25.800 of feel better but at the same time what is it leading to that's such an interesting question
00:36:30.760 And I guess I just think that, like, a lot of men, like, cis heterosexual men, I think are really willing to live in a fantasy world.
00:36:42.740 Like, they're really, like, it's like if you think that, you know, some of those TikTok filters, they give you, like, glitter on your eyes.
00:36:49.880 If you thought that, like, somebody came out of the womb with, like, glitter on their eyes, like, sometimes, like, it's honestly, it's one of the reasons why I don't really remove my body hair.
00:36:58.500 because when you add up how much time it takes to do it,
00:37:01.280 it's actually like not, it's a lot of work.
00:37:03.580 And it's like, do I want to do extra work
00:37:06.640 and pay whatever extra money it takes to buy the razor
00:37:09.040 and this and that to feed into a fantasy 1.00
00:37:11.840 that adult women don't have body hair? 1.00
00:37:14.120 No, I don't. 1.00
00:37:14.940 Like if you're, like you should by now know 1.00
00:37:18.000 that adult women do generally have body hair. 0.97
00:37:20.440 And I'm not interested in perpetuating 0.93
00:37:23.920 this like very weird fantasy world 0.96
00:37:27.340 where this becomes how women are in the world. 1.00
00:37:30.300 And then if you see a woman who is not doing that,
00:37:32.620 it's not, it's like out of sync 0.99
00:37:35.240 with how you think women should exist, 0.99
00:37:36.600 I guess I'll say. 1.00
00:37:37.160 I don't know if that makes sense.
00:37:38.900 No, yeah, it absolutely does.
00:37:40.640 It kind of, again, it feeds into this narrative 0.99
00:37:42.780 that women are supposed to be 0.85
00:37:44.740 this higher level of beauty standard 0.97
00:37:48.240 in order to fit with a norm,
00:37:50.720 which is so much less work for men in general.
00:37:54.520 Yeah, and when we're looking at like,
00:37:57.340 And tech, I mean, so many of the things that we've talked about on here do play into that, whether it's filters or social media, these kind of beauty standards that are getting perpetuated, just the vitriol women can receive just by, here's my face, being on social media.
00:38:20.500 So it is really unfortunate because we can't ignore that that does happen.
00:38:28.400 And I know I've told this story before, but I have a lovely collage of all of the horrible things people have said to me online.
00:38:35.840 But it's also like, why can't we just, these are women who are doing amazing things in AI.
00:38:44.580 We don't have to talk about how they look.
00:38:46.900 We really don't.
00:38:48.600 We really don't. 1.00
00:38:49.660 we don't need to know how many children she has. 1.00
00:38:51.600 We don't need to know if she has a husband or a partner. 0.97
00:38:53.980 Like, that's not, we want to know,
00:38:55.800 are you doing better AI that protects people?
00:38:58.500 Then wonderful. Let's support that.
00:39:00.320 Yes.
00:39:00.700 And it's such a, yeah, it's just such a missed opportunity
00:39:03.500 because, like, the majority of people
00:39:06.180 who are making sure that AI is safe or more inclusive
00:39:11.400 or doesn't harm people or is ethical
00:39:13.420 or doing really interesting work,
00:39:15.840 those people tend to also be women, people of color,
00:39:19.000 people who are not necessarily treated as the norm in tech.
00:39:23.480 And so when you have an opportunity to talk to these people,
00:39:26.980 actually use it because what they are working on
00:39:29.380 probably really matters.
00:39:31.740 And like, it matters to all of us,
00:39:33.060 even if you're not somebody who is like a techie,
00:39:35.360 you're not somebody who thinks of yourself
00:39:36.760 as like somebody who thinks about AI a lot,
00:39:40.140 this stuff is going to matter to everybody.
00:39:42.180 And I guess that brings me to one of the things
00:39:44.380 that I'm looking forward to in 2024,
00:39:46.720 That if I'm the girl in the cartoon, I've got this in my bag slung over my shoulder that I'm taking it with me to the next year.
00:39:54.980 And that is all of us, each and every one of us, being more involved in conversations around tech.
00:40:01.100 Like, I do think I have seen a shift this year around how regular people like you and me and people listening, you know, are thinking about technology and talking about technology.
00:40:12.160 I think that we are done with this idea that tech is only decided by a bunch of like super smart genius white guys who don't have to be accountable to us at all because we're like not smart enough to understand the brilliance that they do.
00:40:25.920 That is out.
00:40:26.760 I think that in 2023, we are coming to the realization that these people have been using that dynamic as a way to essentially like get rich off of us.
00:40:35.180 And I think that we're going to start asking some questions about that dynamic and pushing back.
00:40:39.480 Like, should these companies and tech leaders be able to just get rich off of us without us asking any questions or having any say?
00:40:46.920 I think I'm starting to see people be like, no, actually, I am smart enough to understand that I'm being taken advantage of and exploited.
00:40:54.840 And I have questions about that.
00:40:56.480 So let's keep asking those questions in 2024.
00:41:00.340 Let's bring that dynamic into the new year with us.
00:41:02.880 Yes.
00:41:04.320 Yes.
00:41:04.800 and of course always your show is such a good part of that and part of that conversation so
00:41:12.740 very eagerly awaiting the next the next season do you call it seasons Bridget we call it seasons
00:41:20.220 but they're they're really just like when I get tired of making the show and I have to take a
00:41:24.800 break so we are taking a break but we'll be we'll be back real soon well you're here with us
00:41:30.800 answering those questions and asking
00:41:32.820 those questions and allowing us
00:41:34.840 to ask you those questions. So we are
00:41:36.740 very grateful for that and excited
00:41:38.620 for that for the new year.
00:41:40.620 Yes. Yes. And we are
00:41:42.380 hoping maybe we'll get to hang out
00:41:44.640 IRL and do some things in
00:41:46.540 2024. One day.
00:41:48.760 One day. It's going to happen
00:41:50.780 soon. Stay tuned, folks.
00:41:53.440 Yes.
00:41:54.400 Well, Bridget, thank you so much
00:41:56.680 as always for being here
00:41:58.480 at the end of this year.
00:42:00.800 Where can the good listeners find you?
00:42:02.900 You can check out my podcast,
00:42:04.180 There Are No Girls on the Internet, on iHeartRadio.
00:42:06.360 You can find me on Instagram at BridgetMarieNDC
00:42:08.600 or on Twitter at BridgetMarie.
00:42:11.800 Yes, and definitely go do that, listeners,
00:42:14.380 if you haven't already.
00:42:15.660 Bridget, I hope you have a good relaxing holiday,
00:42:19.440 weirdo Christmas.
00:42:20.600 Yes, same to you all.
00:42:22.100 Happy, merry, whatever to all of y'all.
00:42:24.780 Yes, thank you.
00:42:27.340 And listeners, if you would like to contact us,
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00:42:40.420 as always to our super producer Christina,
00:42:42.440 our executive producer Maya, and our contributor
00:42:44.440 Joey. Thank you and happy holidays.
00:42:47.100 Yes, yes.
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00:44:09.540 Hey, this is Hayes Davenport.
00:44:11.420 And Sean Clements.
00:44:12.620 We host the podcast Hollywood Handbook.
00:44:14.600 Every episode, we're trying to help our guests improve their careers
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00:44:20.440 The show's famously super accessible, so you can easily jump into any of our 650 episodes and understand what's going on.
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00:44:37.880 I'm Nick Turturro. You probably know me from NYPD Blue, The Longest Yard, or Spike Lee's Black Klansman.
00:44:43.860 And on my new podcast, Delivering Happiness with Nick Turturro, I deliver pizza to a new guest.
00:44:48.760 I've shared a slice with everyone, from Seth Rollins.
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00:44:53.720 I don't think I've ever met somebody so exactly out of their mind as I am.
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