Under the Influence (with Jo Piazza) - New Years Resolutions That Do Not Suck

00:00:00.000 okay so today is a very special episode much like those very special episodes

00:00:12.460 of 80s sitcoms the very special episode of mr belvedere or growing pains

00:00:30.000 I don't remember what they were about, but it was usually teenage pregnancy or LSD, you know,

00:00:43.240 those things. This is not about teenage pregnancy or LSD. This episode is actually about New Year's

00:00:49.480 resolutions. Now, part of me thinks that New Year's resolutions are bullshit. And the other 0.99

00:00:56.920 part of me thinks, you know what? It's just nice. It's nice to have a time of year when we can

00:01:04.120 renew and revive and just set some goals for ourselves, some nice things to do for us

00:01:13.400 in the next year. I don't like New Year's resolutions that are punishment. I don't.

00:01:18.880 I don't. I like New Year's resolutions and ideas that will make you just feel better.

00:01:25.260 And so I'm going to gather some really smart people, like a lot of people that I love that have been on the show, and ask them about their New Year's resolutions. What are they doing?

00:01:37.560 My friends and I actually did a fun thing a few years ago. It was COVID. And so our New Year's party was in the park, in our neighborhood. The adults got all dressed up, the kids ran around, and this took place at 7 o'clock at night.

00:01:54.460 we all wrote down one thing we wanted to accomplish in the next year. And then we put it in an envelope

00:02:01.460 like a time capsule. And we reread it the following year. It's fun. It's just it's a it's

00:02:08.800 a fun thing. I also like making New Year's predictions. So maybe we'll have a few of those

00:02:14.000 on here too. So what are my resolutions? I'm gonna I'm gonna be talking about these throughout the

00:02:18.860 episode. One of them is to let go of mom guilt and shame. I will not allow myself to be guilted

00:02:25.820 or shamed by looking at social media or looking at how other mothers do things, because I have

00:02:33.540 to believe in my heart of hearts that I am doing the right things for my kids and my family. And I

00:02:40.700 think I just have to accept that. I think there has to be a new level of acceptance. Part of that

00:02:46.160 is unfollowing. I talk about this on so many episodes, unfollowing the accounts that don't

00:02:52.320 make me feel good. There's an easy way to do that. You just go to the accounts that you're following

00:02:57.540 and it's a gut check. It's the initial reaction that you have when you see that account. If it

00:03:03.400 gives you a twinge of like, ugh, unfollow. Don't hesitate. You can always follow back. This is

00:03:10.920 an irreversible, but just do that scroll. Do it for five minutes while you're like in the bathroom

00:03:17.600 pretending to poop in the morning. And I guarantee it will make your feed so much better, so much

00:03:25.160 nicer. I'm also vowing, this is another social media thing, I don't want to touch my phone or

00:03:33.480 look at my phone until I start my work day. Because my phone involves work. It really does.

00:03:40.920 And there's no reason that it should be the first thing that I touch when I wake up in

00:03:44.460 the morning.

00:03:45.340 I should maybe touch my husband, like give him a nice pat, like he's a cat or something.

00:03:50.600 Give him a pat or a stroke, like, hello, hello, husband, I love you.

00:03:56.340 I should maybe hug my kids.

00:03:58.060 I should give myself a nice lymphatic massage on my face. 1.00

00:04:01.400 I should touch all of these things before I touch my stupid phone. 1.00

00:04:06.840 That's another one. 1.00

00:04:07.760 That's a good one.

00:04:08.840 I want to hear what everyone else is doing.

00:04:10.040 I do. Some of these are going to be voice memos, and we're going to hear from some of them are

00:04:15.820 going to be interviews. And I also want to hear from all of you. So DM me on the Instagrams at

00:04:21.800 joepiazzaauthor.com. I also want to hear what you're manifesting for yourselves. I've started

00:04:28.420 to believe in the manifesting thing, and not in the most woo woo of ways, like not in the full

00:04:33.900 secret ways, but just saying out loud what I freaking want. The one thing, the one thing I

00:04:40.920 want this year after, you know, wanting everyone to be happy and healthy and my family, I want the

00:04:45.840 Sicilian Inheritance to become a New York Times bestseller. I'm saying it out loud. It will become

00:04:52.340 a New York Times bestseller. All of you guys really can help me with that by pre-ordering the

00:04:57.540 book right now. It helps so much and it's, it's crazy, right? No one thinks about pre-ordering

00:05:02.780 books. But the thing is, if you pre-order now, then it's such a nice surprise in April because

00:05:08.280 it's like, oh my God, I didn't know I got myself this present. So yes, please pre-order so that I

00:05:13.520 can reach my manifestation goal. And please tell me all of your goals, the things that you just

00:05:18.980 want to put out in the universe that you want to say, hey universe, this is what I want. This is

00:05:24.760 what I want. This is what I want for 2024. So first up, first up, we have Fortessa Latifi.

00:05:34.660 She's a friend of Under the Influence. And I just, I just surprised her during our interview

00:05:40.140 the other day when I asked her, hey, what are you going to do this year?

00:05:45.480 You know, I just, there, there are so many things that I want to do for work. I want to stop being

00:05:50.920 afraid of everything that I do. And there are so many projects that I'm like, I want this to happen

00:05:57.420 so badly, but I'm like, I can't say anything out loud or I can't even admit how much I want it

00:06:02.560 because then it won't happen. I just want to stop being so superstitious about things, like

00:06:06.820 just want things and go get them. Like, it's fine. Okay, next we have a voice memo from none other,

00:06:15.540 none other than Emily Marinoff, the original producer, the OG, the OG producer of Under the

00:06:24.200 Influence and of the Wilder podcast. I haven't seen Emily, so I asked her to send me a voice memo.

00:06:32.480 Hi, Under the Influence. My New Year's resolution is to do morning pages every day. That is from

00:06:40.800 the artist's way it's three pages long hand written every morning just your thoughts a rough

00:06:48.320 draft of something and it doesn't have to be good and you just get your thoughts out first thing in

00:06:53.060 the morning and it's supposed to boost creativity and I want to create more next year so I want an

00:06:58.400 artistic practice that's my 2024 resolution we'll see if it sticks and love you miss you bye happy

00:07:10.040 holidays. Hey guys, it's Tara from Modern Mom Probs. I'm not a big resolution person. I'm more

00:07:16.860 of an intention person. So if I had to say what's my intention for 2024, I would say abundance. I

00:07:26.860 hope that I'm going to have a year of abundance and I hope you do too. This is Sarah, better known

00:07:33.040 as Mom Uncharted on socials, and I'm coming in hot with my New Year's resolutions for 2024.

00:07:38.560 Number one is to move my body more. Get more steps. Sign up for that yoga or Pilates class

00:07:46.560 that I've been talking about for about six months. Maybe even pick up an old hobby like skiing

00:07:51.860 or snowboarding. I do live in the mountains. I kind of have no excuse. Number two would be to

00:07:59.700 stop doom scrolling on my phone, specifically late at night. Never used to do this. I'm doing

00:08:05.560 this more often. Unsure why, but I want that to stop. And the number three would be to replace

00:08:11.740 the doom scrolling with reading. I want to read more, specifically fiction books. And you know

00:08:18.120 what? That works out really well because I hear a new fiction is coming out in April 2024,

00:08:24.300 The Sicilian Inheritance. Have you heard of it? My name is Megan O'Brien and I run ringmybell.com.

00:08:31.900 and my new year's resolution is to be better about instantly writing thank you cards so

00:08:37.460 this year i'm keeping stamps in my wallet and a blank thank you card in my purse and i'm going

00:08:43.360 to write my card right there and then when it hits so it doesn't pile up okay this next one

00:08:50.400 is from my dear friend casey who owns and operates the sprucedon inn and she's also a wonderful

00:08:57.020 novelist and my favorite person to sit on porches with. And I just blindly asked her to send me

00:09:02.760 this. And then it turns out we're doing the same thing, which shouldn't be surprising. But I mean,

00:09:09.620 I just I love it. I just love it. My friend Julia Rothman, who's an artist, does this thing where

00:09:16.520 instead of having strict resolutions, which, you know, can make you feel like you failed when

00:09:21.700 inevitably you break them after a week, she writes this list of more and less. So I'm totally copying

00:09:29.040 that. And this year, I'm going to try to do less impatience, especially around my children, which

00:09:37.580 can be hard. You know, as there are times that we do actually have to hurry them around and, you

00:09:42.860 know, get to school in time and all that. But honestly, I don't have to hurry them as much as

00:09:46.520 I do and I should ditch some of that impatience. So I'm going to try to do less of that and I'm

00:09:52.340 going for more movement. I want to dance at more parties. I want to go on more walks and more hikes

00:09:59.460 and I'm realizing right now as I'm saying this aloud that these two things are very connected

00:10:07.860 I think because I think I'm actually my most patient when I am happily kind of in my body

00:10:14.820 in the present moment. So, yeah, that's where I'm going for 2024. I was talking with my Too

00:10:21.880 Much Money co-host, Dory, the other day, and she told me that she didn't have a New Year's

00:10:26.520 resolution, but then she said she did have a New Year's resolution, and this is what it was.

00:10:32.060 I don't generally make New Year's resolutions, but I do have one thing that I was just thinking

00:10:39.560 about that I want to do every day in 2024 um and this is a very like I am middle-aged resolution

00:10:46.400 but my back has been hurting and last night I did a back care yoga like on my Peloton app I did a

00:10:55.340 back healthy back yoga class and I was like oh my god I feel so good so my resolution is to do

00:11:04.960 a back care yoga class every day every day every day dory yeah we're we're always on the same page

00:11:13.620 girlfriend we really are that we are because i recently i also have have a lot of back pain

00:11:20.100 which i think comes from being a middle-aged woman who has given birth to a child who sits

00:11:27.600 three children yeah but like i just think i mean but any anything coming out of that area of your

00:11:33.600 body no matter how many is gonna mess you up um and we sit at computers a lot so one of my

00:11:40.900 I just started going back to physical therapy for it and one of my resolutions is to and you know

00:11:48.080 I'm not going like all the time I just went that one time and they give me the the exercises because

00:11:52.660 I'm not a billionaire okay um and who knows if my insurance will cover it because insurance is

00:11:56.960 run by billionaires and uh but my resolution is to do those exercises every day which is probably

00:12:02.940 similar to your peloton yoga oh my gosh yes we're gonna have such healthy backs such healthy backs

00:12:09.180 our backs are gonna be so healthy in 2024 so healthy and hot next up we have my dear dear

00:12:17.780 friend reagan who is an incredible travel writer you have to check out her pieces in food and wine

00:12:24.060 philly mag and the new york times and she is also the ceo and founder of saltette which is a travel

00:12:32.180 guide platform that I think is just going to completely blow up the world of travel journalism.

00:12:38.740 My New Year's resolution is to visit one place in the U.S. that I've never been

00:12:43.520 and one place abroad that I've never been. I also really want to work on saying no more.

00:12:48.620 I'm pretty bad at it right now. And I realized that I have to just sort of like start protecting

00:12:55.540 my energy levels more so that I can be just more present with the people that I love.

00:13:03.380 I love that because I also want to be more present with the people that I love,

00:13:07.920 including this baby that you probably hear chattering in the background right now.

00:13:12.720 I also put out a call on my social media for people to tell me your New Year's resolutions,

00:13:18.020 and there's some really good ones. One of my favorites is my New Year's resolution is to

00:13:22.240 eat as many different types of pasta as I can in 2024. It's called The Pasta-bilities. I'm here

00:13:29.520 for that. I'm here for that. And you know what? I am going to send that person a free copy of

00:13:33.600 The Sicilian Inheritance because we've got at least 15 kinds of pasta in there. Someone else

00:13:38.120 told me they are focusing on me. I'm calling it the year of me and I want to focus on my needs

00:13:43.240 and wants. We have another one to gather more. Gather, this is a direct quote, gather as in

00:13:50.600 what a hand towel at home goods would say i'm gonna steal a bunch of these i'm gonna work them

00:13:56.560 work them into my intentions and my vision board which isn't like a real vision board but it's in

00:14:02.060 my head it's in my head and i hope that some of these inspired you too see you next year

00:14:20.600 Thank you.

Under the Influence (with Jo Piazza) - December 29, 2023

New Years Resolutions That Do Not Suck

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