00:02:35.720So, um, I've gotten a little better, like, you know, some HRT, um, just some better practices0.97
00:02:43.100with screen stuff, but yeah, I'm not a great sleeper. Are you? You're a little younger than
00:02:49.660I am, but I don't know. How's your sleep? Yeah, no, well, I mean, I'm, I'm turning 46, uh,
00:02:56.080in a few months and no, my sleep is complete shit. It's terrible. Like, yeah, thank you.0.99
00:03:01.440thank you yeah no it's awful uh I have I have the 3 a.m wake up the just I mean every night
00:03:08.300like clockwork it's always going to be three o'clock and then I also I sweat at night I'm just
00:03:14.540I wake up wet and then and then I get cold right so I'm wet and cold and uh my husband is a great
00:03:24.020sleeper i also have problems they always are they are it's so unfair it is absurd mine will like
00:03:34.080we'll just be watching a tv show and i look over and he's dead ass asleep and meanwhile i have like
00:03:39.000a 10-step ritual to maybe get like six hours so um you know another of life's inequities um
00:03:47.300but yeah i mean i think it is i certainly think that women struggle more and i it's obviously
00:03:53.300also much more of a well i shouldn't say much more but women at midlife where you and i are0.97
00:03:59.360i mean i think it's scientifically documented that our sleep just goes to shit i actually
00:04:03.580slept through the night last night which was i woke up at 6 30 this morning and i was like
00:04:08.540oh my god i cannot believe that i did not wake up it's like a miracle when that thing it's a
00:04:13.400miracle no it's a miracle when that happens it is a miracle yeah i know because you feel so much
00:04:19.100better like it's sleep and that's the really cruel thing because I just love sleep so much
00:04:26.420like I really truly do and I'm also a person like I because people are like oh my gosh you're so
00:04:33.040busy like do you sleep and I'm like I sleep like I try to sleep I want to sleep so much yes I if I
00:04:39.180can get a full full good night like I'll lay down for like nine hours like I want so much sleep
00:04:44.720And my body feels, I mean, it fixes everything. It fixes all the menopausal, perimenopausal shit. And so, yeah, it's just like the universe is cruel joke. And then if I mean, taking away another one of life's delights, if I have anything to drink, that's going to make it worse.1.00
00:05:02.960yes oh a hundred percent i am not a big drinker and so i feel like it affects me even more but
00:05:11.040if i'm out with my girlfriends and i have a glass of wine forget it like it's just forget it yeah
00:05:17.220yeah no i mean i have such a multi-step bedroom routine as i think every woman does at this
00:05:24.840point uh just to like try to eke out maybe seven hours i mean when we get when we get our sleep
00:05:31.520we're unstoppable and actually we're unstoppable even when we don't get our sleep but i know
00:05:36.380imagine what we could do if we were actually sleeping through the night wait i need to know
00:05:40.180your sleep routine though because i'm obsessed with people's sleep routines okay i literally
00:05:45.400try to like get in bed i mean barring like going out to dinner or whatever by like 9 9 30
00:05:51.100yeah yeah yeah i mean that's that's late for me um i take my progesterone i take when i first
00:06:00.680started having sleep issues my doctor said that paxil is shown to help women in perimenopause so
00:06:08.080i take like a very small dose of paxil um and it it did significantly help me just fyi i'm not a
00:06:14.500doctor talk to your doctors um then i watch a sitcom to turn off my brain no like when my
00:06:23.620husband and i are watching a drama i i do not sleep at all that's i it like just i can feel
00:06:30.500like the disproportionate effect on me then i have like a specific i go to tiktok that i you know
00:06:37.600like i have a specific order of apps that i unwind with then at some point i take half of an indica
00:06:45.000gummy um i've started making that later and it has really helped because i don't know it like
00:06:50.260carries me through the cycle. Then I put away screens and I read for 30 minutes. Then I take
00:06:59.180a little melatonin and then I put in my earplugs, my mouth guard and my sleep shade and I try to
00:07:05.500sleep. That is mine. What is yours? So I, but I love it. Like I just, I want to talk about
00:07:13.040other people's sleep routines all of the time. So I try and this is, I'm not successful all the
00:07:19.780time but i try to not have screens in the bedroom i'm trying to get nick to be off screens in the
00:07:27.400bedroom because i'm like just stop like i don't even want them in here um it's like i can feel
00:07:32.340their presence their psychological weight um bearing down totally and so i i try not to have
00:07:40.800screens in the bedroom and then i also i'm in bed by like nine o'clock uh i mean i get into bed
00:07:47.840Yeah. Usually like right after I get my last one, my last kid to bed. So but like my kids' bedtime routines are still really intense. Like I'm still individually reading books to each of them and cuddling. And like that is it's three hours every night. Right.
00:08:05.140correct and it's so much and i mean and with no disrespect to our children mine are older now but
00:08:11.620it is a lot it's very draining like it's a lot of energy that we put out yeah so again like we love
00:08:18.680our children more than anything but it is i mean any mother listening to this knows bedtime is0.89
00:08:23.500just like what was the book go to go the fuck to sleep or whatever yeah no yes it's no joke0.89
00:08:30.300my husband also does it but like they also want me more so it's a lot of me but thankfully he0.94
00:08:37.600carries yeah he carries the wake-ups um which is because again because i don't sleep that well
00:08:43.340i'm a crap waker upper same same i will say the same thing in my household my husband
00:08:49.820um sort of post-covid has been working from home and he always did the mornings because same thing0.97
00:08:56.880Like, if I'm up from three to five, I'm sending a text to my family saying nobody disturb me until you see my face emerge from the bedroom.
00:15:13.540more of a mystery which I know you now write as well and it was it was a challenging thing for me
00:15:22.880to tackle I mean I'm very glad that I did but so it's a story of four insomniacs and one of them
00:15:26.740goes missing and the other three work together to help figure out what happened but it's also
00:15:34.680really a book about found family and as I said like strangers becoming you know brothers and
00:15:43.240sisters uh who you can rely on for life and um i i've said this before but like felicity is one
00:15:50.880of my favorite shows and there's a line and it's always stuck with me from that which is
00:15:54.320she says like felicity so much right i just saw that like scottsman's open to reunion and i was
00:16:01.220like how quickly can you make that because that is what i want to watch but she said something like
00:16:06.620all of your best friends or all the people you've ever loved in your life start out as strangers
00:16:12.260And I find that so profound, even though it sounds, you know, it's relatively simple.
00:16:19.040But everybody other than like your biological family and some people don't even love them.
00:16:23.820Who you have met in your life was at one point a stranger to you.
00:16:27.880All the people you've fallen in love with, all of your closest friends.
00:16:31.240And I just something about that notion just really draws me in.
00:16:36.500And I think in this moment in the world, when a lot of people are looking around feeling a little bit unmoored by disrupted personal connections or just, you know, whatever isolation in their homes, behind their screens, I just think that concept of found family is really, I don't know, it's beautiful.
00:16:57.380So I don't mean within the book, I just mean in the larger world, it's really just so important.
00:17:03.500yeah i couldn't agree more and i love found family books i mean i was also just doing another bookish
00:17:12.320episode i was talking about how much i loved this book welcome to glorious tuga uh which is
00:17:18.080oh i haven't read that i'll add it oh my god add it add it and you will and then i want to talk
00:17:23.280about it you will love it so much it is just it was recommended to me by a bookseller okay and
00:17:27.100okay great of course she was completely right because booksellers are you know god's gift to
00:17:32.960the world uh yeah welcome to glorious glorious tuga yeah um and yeah i just i i love this i love
00:17:42.000this idea so much because i i think there's also something so fascinating about what happens between
00:17:48.760the hours of midnight and 7 a.m uh yes i remember very well when i was a gossip columnist i did
00:17:56.560actually live my life on that schedule like i i got away with getting into work often because i
00:18:02.160was out till three in the morning in new york the bars close at four and then there's always
00:18:06.420an after after party like i was walking home in the daylight sometimes that's like i mean that's
00:18:15.180so i mean that's the best that is that's so quintessential new york when you're young
00:18:20.660and you know it's just it's the best it is the best it is the best but i do think
00:18:26.960yeah there's something interesting about those hours between midnight and the morning shift
00:18:33.060of like there's almost something magical to it and there feels like something magical in your book
00:18:37.820thank you well you know i feel like those hours first of all they they do remind me and i'm
00:18:45.620guessing you a little bit of that time in your youth where you know like the whole world was
00:18:52.080in front of you but also in that that span of hours it also feels like anything is possible
00:18:59.900like almost like the rules are off like you can just I don't know like who knows what the night's
00:19:07.420gonna bring and that sense of exploration and possibility I think is very universal and you
00:19:14.340know whether you're an insomniac or not people can relate to that like being out in the early hours0.98
00:19:19.020And just crazy shit could happen. I mean, I guess in a bad way, but also in the best of ways. So that's, it was my editor's idea to set the entire book at night. And I, once she suggested that, I was like, oh my God, that's brilliant. Because it really adds to the ambiance, you know, of that time that we've all been out sort of with wide magic eyes.0.94
00:19:46.120yeah it it really it really does uh well i mean i think the insomniacs is so much fun it truly is
00:19:55.640and you have had oh thank you really yeah of course of course you've had a really long career
00:20:01.360in publishing as i mean you have as a working as a working as have i but as i think this is
00:20:09.680such an interesting question for me to ask you know as a working author how have you kept
00:20:15.820yourself sane and also you know kept kept everything fresh and kept yourself in the game
00:20:23.700because you know you can write one book but to just continuously pump them out it is I mean truly
00:20:31.500a feat of nature oh thank you well you and I've talked a little bit about this offline I mean
00:20:37.300there's definitely burnout um and every book I write I say that's it for me I don't you know
00:20:44.500Like, for a myriad of reasons, I'm like, I have one foot out the door. But I always find myself drawn back in by some, like, some narrative that literally has me up in the middle of the night thinking, wait, I think I might want to explore this.
00:20:59.940But I think, you know, you also obviously have had a very long career.
00:21:07.080I think there are a few reasons, a few factors.
00:21:09.920One is I am pretty and I think you are the same.
00:21:28.500and i think maybe it would be harder if um i were i i don't know if like some of the things that
00:21:35.620people say about you bruised me in the way that i think that is totally understandable if they
00:21:40.500bruise other people but i just i don't know i'm sort of inoculated from that and and i feel like
00:21:45.180you are a little bit too which i think helps um and i don't want to speak out of turn for you
00:21:51.200i also think i shield myself from them i don't read a lot of i never read goodreads reviews
00:21:57.800um yeah and i 100 same review reviews are so tricky like the new york times is reading parisian
00:22:08.420heist right now i almost dread getting a new york times review sometimes 100 almost actually all
00:22:14.080the time all the time because they're always they're always mixed um like it's it's getting
00:22:20.000a rave review in the times and the reviews are done by other authors which i think makes it tricky
00:22:25.580and because it's such an ego-driven industry correct i i had very good reviews for the
00:22:34.980insomniacs but i had one that was mixed and i really don't and i don't read any early reviews
00:22:43.660but you know your team sends them to you so i mean in terms of the trades and it did bother me
00:22:50.220it surprised me that it bothered me but i knew it was because it was just some other author i don't
00:22:55.220know who it was who fairly totally well within her right uh does not have to like the book i read
00:23:02.380plenty of books that i do not like and i just don't talk about them but i was sort of like you
00:23:07.000know it's such a bummer that that's like one opinion from another author who felt comfortable
00:23:13.340sort of publicly excoriating i mean it wasn't excoriating but you know i don't know taking
00:23:20.100down another person's work like i that's just not how i operate and i don't think it's how you
00:23:26.440operate either but yeah that is that is tricky i fully agree although i'm sure the times will
00:23:33.300say nothing but amazing things about your book but um i mean i was just gonna say well
00:23:39.800but what you know what even bad reviews sell books i mean that's well i shouldn't say that
00:23:47.380i mean really bad reviews sell books but really bad reviews i still think sell books yeah
00:23:53.400yeah yeah no i do i'm space writing a bad review and you're very precious limited like review space
00:24:02.460but whatever that's a story for a different day but i was also going to say and i know you do this
00:24:07.380as well and maybe this is where you and i get along so well i try not to write the same thing
00:24:12.320over and over again. I think that's what makes me interested. I wrote two rom-coms. I could not
00:24:20.060bring myself to write another rom-com, not because rom-coms aren't wonderful. I love reading them.
00:24:24.120There are people who do it so well. I just get bored with myself. The process is so arduous
00:24:32.380to write a book. You're devoting a full year of your life. If I'm not intellectually
00:24:39.220like and creatively stimulated it's just it is such agony to me so i think that has helped with
00:24:47.680the longevity like i'm just not gonna i just don't repeat myself very often and i don't even mean
00:24:54.060like that has helped with readers i just think that has helped me um it has helped my writing
00:24:59.280stay i don't know more engaging because i don't know i i you i feel like you have done something
00:25:06.220very similar whether intentional or yeah i have is it intentional or you just yes i just i just
00:25:13.420write about what i'm interested in right and so me too yeah i am kind of all over the place
00:25:20.380genre wise which publishers do not always love uh agents do not always love it yeah uh but yeah
00:25:26.200i mean i'd like yeah i get a book i get an idea and then i'm like a dog with a sock i like can't
00:25:31.820let go of it and i just feel like i have to write it yes i 100 agree so that's i think that's helped
00:25:40.440and then i will just say the final thing and again you and i are so similar in this i think that one
00:25:46.740thing that helps sort of longevity or and i'm sure this is not just true for writing but you know for
00:25:53.040listeners, I feel nothing but, with very rare exceptions, I do nothing but cheer on other
00:26:01.360authors. And I don't mean this in like a self-aggrandizing way. I'm happy for other
00:26:04.940people's success. I don't feel competitive. And I think that that is helpful just in terms of
00:26:11.120goodwill. And I know that I think you are the same. I've never felt anything but, you know,
00:26:16.660just support from you for other authors. And I just think that having that attitude of like,
00:26:22.020there's there's such a wide bench for all of us and like some books are going to do well some
00:26:27.960books aren't some of my books will do well some of my books won't i don't know i just think that
00:26:32.360that helps in sort of the wider perspective um and also maybe gives you more grace within the
00:26:39.140industry for people who are like industry insiders does that make sense i don't i feel like you were
00:26:45.420the same yeah no I mean I think that we all it's imperative to support other authors to uplift
00:26:53.840books yes great books because I think it's really hard uh to find really great books and you know a
00:27:02.200lot even I love bookstagrammers I love I love influencers so much but I also think the same
00:27:08.740books kind of, you know, get like rinsed, washed and repeat over again. Yes. And I think there's
00:27:16.340so many books that fall through the cracks. And so I think we definitely have to champion those
00:27:20.340books, which is why after this last break, we are going to talk about books you love right now that
00:27:25.680people should should you know start stocking up on for the summer okay okay we are back what books
00:27:38.640do you love right now that you think people should go grab immediately so i have a really
00:27:45.240random suggestion i mean it's very popular i don't know that it's pop it's like on the times
00:27:51.200list but i doubt it's popular with your listeners but i'm really deep into the audio of the dungeon
00:27:56.420carl dungeon crawler dungeon crawler yeah yeah yeah no i just started it we sell out of it at
00:28:03.440the books the bookcase all the time oh that's great so i am i really like like speculative
00:28:09.180dystopian fiction um and in fact there's a book that came out a couple years ago that i'm looking
00:28:15.080in on my bookshelf that i will recommend to readers if they like this um it's called zero
00:28:19.820stars do not recommend um by mj wassler uh it's on my bookshelf right here and i loved it so
00:28:28.940so i'm listening to that book on audio and the narrator is incredible um another book that i
00:28:36.960recently read i don't know if okay so i don't know if you have read anything by kirsten miller
00:28:42.560she wrote the change no i haven't but oh my god the change was so good and then her new book was
00:28:51.280called the women of wild hill oh joe you will love it it's like very feminist um women taking down
00:28:58.380bad men um you have to read the change i like okay loved it it's about sort of the change like
00:29:06.920menopause but it's like witches um oh yeah i'm here for that i mean and what's the new one but
00:29:12.340it's witchy i should say uh the women of wild hill okay um i am reading right now into the blue
00:29:21.000by emma brody which i think is one of those that everybody has on their list um what are you well
00:29:27.200you just gave me a book recommendation it's about oh yeah take me with you oh my god i was right
00:29:30.820uh it's about aliens like coming down which i love stop it i love that i know i mean i think
00:29:40.040i'm probably summarizing it incorrectly but um i am really excited about london falling
00:29:47.860it's a non-fiction book no i haven't heard about that either about that oh my god and i'm really
00:29:54.200excited about robin lee's follow-up to the idea of you called crash into me so oh i feel like i
00:30:01.460have a stocked kindle right oh and i haven't read have you read mad mabel by sally hepworth i'm
00:30:07.720excited. I haven't. I haven't. But that's on my list. We just ordered some for the bookcase and
00:30:12.540I was going to download it on my Kindle tonight, actually, because I'm hearing such great things
00:30:17.100about it. Yeah. Yeah. I've heard such good things about Dolly all the time. And I'm actually doing
00:30:23.240an event with her in June. I assume you're enjoying it. I mean, her books are delayed.
00:30:29.740Oh, yeah. No, it's great. It's great. And I mean, Annabelle is also just such a lovely,
00:30:34.860lovely lady and i mean she's just also so supportive and and wonderful uh yeah it's it's
00:30:42.080really fun katherine newman actually gave it the best blurb that i want to steal this blurb at some
00:30:46.500point she said this book is like a spicy margarita sweet and a little salty tart and hot like i love
00:30:53.620that's so katherine newman i'm gonna love that yeah i love that and you know i love in addition
00:30:59.740Annabelle being so supportive and positive, et cetera, et cetera. She really pivoted at midlife
00:31:06.460as well. And so much of her success has come, you know, sort of in the, I don't, I mean, she's our
00:31:13.600age, but post 40, I think she really started writing like adult fiction. I want to say like
00:31:21.260during COVID or maybe just before COVID or something. So yeah, I love her. I'm excited to
00:31:29.020read that. Yeah, she's great. I think it's also on my account. Yeah, you'll like it. You'll really like it. You'll really like it. I also really enjoyed Lady Tremaine, the retelling of the Cinderella story from the stepmother's point of view. Yes, I have not read that, but I was just invited to a book club that is reading it. So I will, I'm going to add that to my list. I've heard very good things. Oh, no, you'll like, you'll like that one. We're selling a lot of that one at the bookcase as well.
00:31:59.020I also really like A Witch's Guide to Magical Innkeeping.