Under the Influence (with Jo Piazza) - April 24, 2025


Will Your Kid Have to be a Brand to Survive?

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00:00:27.940 it a listen. Imagine this. A mansion filled with creators and social media stars. Cameras rolling
00:00:43.740 24-7. Every single moment broadcast to millions. Maybe you're picturing Big Brother or the real
00:00:52.360 world. But what if I told you that the stars of this house aren't adults or even teenagers?
00:00:59.840 They're actual kids. Eight to 12-year-old kids. Welcome to the emerging world of Gen
00:01:08.320 Alpha content houses, where the next wave of social media stardom is still in elementary
00:01:14.220 school. Today we're talking about something called the Sweet Sisterhood. It's a collective
00:01:19.700 of young girls with about 100 million followers. And they're banding together to create something
00:01:25.700 like the first version of a Gen Alpha content house. But it's not really a house. It's more
00:01:32.640 of a collective where the moms of these children bring them together to multiply their brand value.
00:01:39.280 I want to play you just a little clip of their announcement on Instagram Reels.
00:01:43.820 you guys we are so excited we are officially the third members of the sweet sisterhood
00:01:50.160 a content house just for the girls for those of you who don't know how we started mila when she
00:01:56.760 was like two or three used to do these funny sassy videos making people laugh and that's
00:02:00.620 really what we're all about making people laugh and smile hi my name is mila i'm 10 years old
00:02:05.700 and i like modeling acting fashion i am so excited to be about a part of this group
00:02:12.220 because I want girls to feel encouraged and good about themselves
00:02:16.480 and know that they can do anything they set their mind to.
00:02:20.300 Hi, my name is Emma.
00:02:21.200 I'm 10 years old, and I love drawing and acting.
00:02:23.400 And one of the top reasons I'm so excited to be in this house
00:02:26.080 is because one of my biggest strengths is advice.
00:02:29.020 And I'm just so excited to give advice to girls my age.
00:02:33.300 And be that support system for them.
00:02:35.320 We both.
00:02:36.300 And for those who don't know, my name is Katie.
00:02:38.120 I'm their mom.
00:02:38.860 And I am so proud to be their mom
00:02:41.160 because they are such kind, strong, creative girls.
00:02:45.320 And I know that they will be such a positive light on all the girls out there.
00:02:48.520 So my biggest advice is don't listen to the haters.
00:02:52.920 Don't let them dim your light.
00:02:54.000 And anything is possible if you put your mind to it.
00:02:56.400 Guys, like my mom said, us girls, we can do anything.
00:03:00.340 Girl power. 0.95
00:03:03.040 This is what one of the mothers had to say about it.
00:03:06.160 All of our kids are in a very unique position
00:03:08.760 that maybe a lot of other kids their age can't relate to,
00:03:12.660 says Adria Garza, the mom of eight-year-old twins Haven and Cody.
00:03:17.520 As the Garza crew, the pair have 5.1 million followers on TikTok,
00:03:22.860 1.4 million subscribers on YouTube, and 309,000 followers on Instagram.
00:03:28.920 Garza hopes that the Sweet Sisterhood will allow her daughters to spend time with other girls their age 0.66
00:03:33.440 who can understand what life as a famous kid influencer is like.
00:03:38.760 and that the content will be inspirational to all viewers.
00:03:45.920 It's really just about empowering girls and uplifting them, Garza says.
00:03:50.040 We can help these young girls find a place to go where they're actually going to get good advice,
00:03:55.300 wholesome role models they can look up to. 1.00
00:03:57.840 Stuff like that.
00:04:00.620 Today I'm getting into all of this with Teen Vogue reporter Fertessa Latifi.
00:04:04.720 We're talking about the sweet sisterhood and all of the messy questions that it raises
00:04:09.200 when you're turning your kid into a brand.
00:04:13.400 I want to talk about the messiness of all of this, because I do think that we live in
00:04:18.540 a world right now where a lot of parents are questioning what their children will do when
00:04:22.980 they grow up.
00:04:24.260 I mean, I'm questioning what I'm going to do when I grow up, when AI completely replaces
00:04:29.640 me in a couple of years.
00:04:31.140 I know that there's some people out there wondering if these parents have the right idea.
00:04:37.260 Should we all be thinking about our kids' personal brands right out of the womb?
00:04:41.440 I do not know any of the answers to these questions, but I do think that the Sweet
00:04:46.500 Sisterhood, which, by the way, every time I say that, I can't stop thinking about Sweet
00:04:51.740 Valley High and Sweet Valley Twins, and then who is Lila in this situation?
00:04:57.560 Wasn't Lila's dad Bruce kind of hot?
00:04:59.760 yeah, anyway, back to the sweet sisterhood. I can't help but think that this story is a great
00:05:05.620 starting point for us to launch a lot of conversations about what it means when a
00:05:09.820 kid is a brand. What it means when your kid wants to be a brand. And is this completely changing the
00:05:16.300 way that we think about jobs for the rest of our children's lives? We are also going to talk about
00:05:22.660 the spate of new documentaries about the dark side of child influencing. On April 9th, Netflix
00:05:29.260 premiered a new documentary called Bad Influence. It explores a content house of teenagers that
00:05:35.540 resulted in a lawsuit with claims of an emotionally, physically, and sometimes sexually
00:05:40.200 abusive environment. The documentary comes as the entire concept of child influencers
00:05:45.540 is currently in question as four states have passed laws to legislate the profits of influencer
00:05:51.360 kids. There's so much going on here, and I cannot tell if it is a cautionary tale or if it is the
00:05:58.420 future of the world. Here's my conversation with Fortessa. Okay, I gotta ask, what the hell is a
00:06:05.120 content house? Oh my gosh. Okay, so a content house traditionally is a thing where all these
00:06:12.640 creators move in together and actually live in one big house, and the house is usually really
00:06:18.220 beautiful, and sometimes it's sponsored, sometimes it's paid for by investors, and basically they
00:06:23.340 create constant content like it's kind of like big brother for social media yeah i mean i i wasn't
00:06:29.460 thinking big brother i was thinking more like real world but yeah okay yeah that is that is my
00:06:34.760 generation so this is the real world but social media right and it's just like a constant stream
00:06:41.540 of content and really part of the allure of a content house is that there is just this constant
00:06:48.560 stream and people are you know you really see who people are when you live together you know
00:06:53.960 and this has been happening for a while right like this is nothing new really like like we
00:07:00.600 just referenced two out of dozens of reality shows that did something like this but we are
00:07:07.460 seeing something very new right now which seems to be probably the first gen alpha content house
00:07:14.800 right? Yes, I think so. And it's also the youngest. So I've never seen a content house
00:07:22.200 with people this young. So these girls are between the ages of 8 and 12. That is really young. Those
00:07:28.800 are actual real children. Yeah, no, that's like you're basically a baby. You're a baby. I mean,
00:07:36.560 I don't even have an 8-year-old yet, but I have an almost 8-year-old and I would not put him in
00:07:41.380 A content house is what I'm going to say.
00:07:43.960 Although I would like to know how much money they're making from this content house.
00:07:47.080 Oh my God.
00:07:47.760 I mean, I can't even imagine. 1.00
00:07:48.920 And also all these girls on their own have millions of followers and subscribers. 1.00
00:07:54.280 Like they probably have near a hundred million altogether.
00:07:59.000 So this is the side of child influencing that I start to get nervous about.
00:08:03.760 i'm more nervous about this world than i am about most mom influencers whose kids appear
00:08:11.140 intermittently in their content i am concerned about the kids who are very young who are becoming
00:08:18.940 stars this young on social media and maybe i shouldn't be maybe that is just fuddy-duddy
00:08:24.280 old-fashioned of me because kids have been movie stars and tv stars forever but putting a live
00:08:32.460 stream of an eight-year-old's life and having them move into a house to create content that
00:08:38.320 seems like a lot to me it seems like a lot all of these kids live in different states and so they're
00:08:46.020 not gonna move into one house but they're gonna every few months stay together for a certain
00:08:52.360 amount of time and do a bunch of content at that time so when i talked to taylor lorenz she was
00:08:57.140 like they just want the label and the like valor and the prestige of being a content house without
00:09:03.720 the actual difficulties of being a content house. So I find that really interesting.
00:09:08.900 Wait, so they're not an actual content house?
00:09:11.500 Well, it depends who you ask. They say they're a content house. But then when I asked someone
00:09:16.720 like Taylor Lorenz, she was like, they're basically a collaboration group, but they're
00:09:22.120 trying to say that they're a content house oh my god the semantics of this are are amazing so it's
00:09:27.960 like once in a while they'll get together yes and they're calling this the sweet sisterhood yes
00:09:35.000 all right so let's lay this all out for people who are completely unfamiliar with any of these
00:09:41.660 people because these are megastar influencers but they are not people that i typically follow
00:09:48.020 Yeah, I think that's what's fascinating about the influencer world is that even people like you and I who are so plugged in, like I, through like the research for my book, I will run into people with 10 million followers that I have never heard of before.
00:10:03.400 Exactly, exactly. And I find a new influencer every single day. So let's go through this. It's called the Sweet Sisterhood. And between these people, how many people are involved?
00:10:15.960 there are four fam no five families and nine girls okay okay and how many followers do they
00:10:25.240 have collectively so i was doing the math earlier they are i mean each of them have
00:10:31.020 like up to five to ten million each and that's just like on one on one platform so they have
00:10:38.420 tick tock they have five million on youtube they have five million and that's only one family you
00:10:43.220 know. So I think they're near probably 100 million subscribers and followers, which is insanely
00:10:50.080 powerful. Right. The immediate thing that comes to my mind is this is just a brand collaboration.
00:10:55.500 It's just bringing them together so that they can bring their audiences to each other. It's like a
00:11:01.480 brand crossover in a way. Totally. Totally. It's like those posts on Instagram that are like
00:11:06.680 collaborations. Like that's basically what it is. But the collaboration in a really big way.
00:11:13.220 Yes.
00:11:15.260 Fascinating. Fascinating.
00:11:17.120 And in a lot of ways, to me, this just feels, again, I said it before, but this is the next iteration of reality television.
00:11:28.900 Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
00:11:29.960 Yeah, and I think that's what's so interesting about, like, mom influencers and kid influencers is not, like, the parents are the producers. 0.96
00:11:38.580 These women are their producers.
00:11:39.960 These women are their managers and their agents in a lot of cases. 1.00
00:11:43.900 That is also being the mother of one of these child influencers has become a job and has become a lot of work, right? 1.00
00:11:54.400 Yeah, it's a lot of work and it's a lot of money.
00:11:56.600 But it's also a lot of money.
00:11:58.120 Okay, a lot of money.
00:12:01.020 And I want to get into the money after a quick break.
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00:12:26.080 Okay, we're back.
00:12:27.600 We're talking to Teen Vogue journalist for Tessa Latifi.
00:12:30.220 I just want to talk about cold hard cash.
00:12:31.900 Do you have a ballpark of what these kids are making? 0.99
00:12:35.280 or rather what their moms are making off these kids i mean you can you can get into the millions
00:12:41.300 like you can you can be making over a million dollars a year for some of these huge huge ones
00:12:47.140 and even for the like mid-range ones you can make six figures you know and these are kids exactly 0.97
00:12:53.020 exactly which which is nuts now the moms in this house are they're they're defending themselves
00:12:59.060 they're saying things like it's really just about empowering girls and uplifting them we can help 0.95
00:13:04.200 these young girls find a place to go where they're actually going to get good advice,
00:13:08.680 wholesome role models they can look up to, stuff like that. Maybe that is true. But we also know
00:13:13.880 that there are a lot of predators who look at content of these young girls. Yes. Yeah, that's
00:13:20.420 true. And that is something that I think parents are becoming more aware of. And not only influencer
00:13:26.460 parents, but even regular parents are putting their kids online less because they know that
00:13:31.440 there are these predators out there. I mean, the New York Times did this like bombshell investigation
00:13:36.220 where they found that pedophile groups were actually like looking to child influencers and
00:13:42.300 finding that content and circulating it. And it's interesting because one of the moms also says,
00:13:48.900 our kids know that they're a huge part of this business. Again, it's a business. Let's never
00:13:54.260 think that it's anything but a business. But they also know it's important to us that they're happy,
00:13:58.760 they're living a normal childhood, and that we're structured.
00:14:02.180 We shoot content two days out of the week, and we move forward with life.
00:14:06.500 I'm just trying to let that sink in for a minute, because that does sound very rational.
00:14:14.940 And again, there are child stars out there, and there have been since the beginning of TV and movies. 0.97
00:14:21.020 Of course, there was that entire genre of show on VH1 about how fucked up child stars were. 0.98
00:14:26.880 Right. And I mean, we're still seeing that, right? Like, I feel like there's always the like downfall of this child star, like this child star is like bouncing back like Macaulay Hulkin has, you know, come back around. It's just like it's kind of dark. 0.97
00:14:40.280 The money aspect of this is very interesting to me, too, because what they're claiming is that the profits from their channel and brand deals will be split evenly five ways and that the moms will be in charge of distributing those profits.
00:14:54.660 The group has formed an LLC.
00:14:57.120 And then they say this.
00:14:58.740 But for right now, the five of us are close enough friends that we're just going to take it day by day and see how things go.
00:15:04.240 Yeah.
00:15:04.840 This is the reason I would never buy a house with my friends.
00:15:07.380 Yeah.
00:15:07.780 Yeah. I know that's then this that was in response to me asking, like, are there contracts like are they like, you know, how how explicit are these agreements?
00:15:16.020 And they were kind of like, well, you know, we're we're just figuring it out and we're best to use and whatever.
00:15:20.860 And, you know, I think everyone goes into situations like this or other agreements with friends with the best of intentions.
00:15:27.040 But I mean, that's where things get get kind of hairy, you know.
00:15:30.740 That's where I think things can get really hairy. Things are very complicated when when money gets involved.
00:15:36.920 And so I think it's going to be really interesting to see how long this collaboration works.
00:15:42.840 And I know Taylor Lorenz said the same thing, that collaborative groups often fall apart.
00:15:48.980 I mean, it's very hard to get two people to do the same thing, much less five families.
00:15:55.760 Yeah, much less nine kids, you know, and to like agree on the content and the direction of the content.
00:16:03.880 Yeah, I mean, it's a lot.
00:16:05.340 It's a lot.
00:16:06.120 And another thing that one of the moms said, and this one really stabs me right in the heart, because I'm terrified of the future for my children.
00:16:14.680 I don't know what jobs are going to look like.
00:16:16.440 I don't know what college is going to look like.
00:16:18.140 Nothing is going to look like what it looked like for me.
00:16:22.540 And so one of the moms said, my kid's brand is their future.
00:16:27.860 Yeah.
00:16:28.540 To me, I would liken it to Tiger Woods or Serena Williams when they were young and their parents were taking them to practice.
00:16:36.120 all times of day and making sure they were going to be superstars.
00:16:41.480 Yep.
00:16:42.780 Again, knowing this, knowing what the world is right now and what it might turn into.
00:16:48.920 That seems really rational in a lot.
00:16:51.240 I don't think that's unreasonable for like a parent to look around and say, OK, social
00:16:55.780 media is the future.
00:16:57.300 Everything is really unstable.
00:16:59.100 The job market is wild.
00:17:00.440 We don't know like what the value of a college degree is or how much we can even afford to
00:17:04.900 get one.
00:17:05.380 But what is not that it's stable, but what is kind of this beacon of opportunity is social media viral stardom.
00:17:13.520 And I think we all enter the viral lottery and some people win it and these kids have won it and their parents are trying to hold on to the winnings, you know, and to extrapolate from there.
00:17:23.760 And it's just a good conversation to keep having because I am constantly trying to increase my personal brand.
00:17:29.720 That is the only way I can sell books at this point.
00:17:32.580 That's it.
00:17:32.940 OK, that is just that is that is how this works out.
00:17:37.780 And part of me really does think, OK, good on them.
00:17:40.860 And then the other part of me is like, oh, my God, they're exploiting their children.
00:17:43.640 I don't know how to reconcile these things.
00:17:45.660 I truly don't.
00:17:47.400 And I think it's important to say that we don't know how to reconcile them because I
00:17:50.780 don't think this is a black and white issue.
00:17:52.800 And I think a lot of people in this conversation are really lacking nuance.
00:17:56.700 And they think if you put your kid online in any way, shape or form and it is monetized,
00:18:01.020 you are an evil monster and you should go to jail. I do not believe that. I just don't. I think
00:18:06.060 there's so much nuance and I appreciate that you're willing to like look at the nuance because 1.00
00:18:11.380 I don't talk to these moms and think, oh, my God, look how awful they are. I think, OK, they're
00:18:16.060 making some really complicated calculations. Yeah, they're making they're making a lot of
00:18:21.500 choices. And again, oh, it's funny. I was talking to Charlie last night before bed because our
00:18:27.560 biggest bonding time is is laying there forever right before bedtime and he has a weird talent
00:18:35.960 okay he can identify any country on the planet just from looking at its outline
00:18:42.400 oh my god yes it's crazy right but nick can nick is very good at it too they have i think they have
00:18:49.940 the same brain it's like how elephants pass down generational knowledge to each other totally and
00:18:55.300 they both stare at maps all the time and they have photographic memories so yeah this is a fun
00:19:00.220 party trick at cocktail parties and after all the adults have had like one negroni yeah because
00:19:05.820 we'll ask someone we're like tell us a country and then we'll look up the outline and we show
00:19:09.400 it to charlie and he just like delights in enjoying it he likes it okay but we've also
00:19:15.880 been watching america's got talent lately which is a really fun thing to watch with kids it's just
00:19:20.500 it's actually joyous and i was like would you want to go on america's got talent and he's like
00:19:25.240 not for a million dollars and i'm like well i'm like not even a million dollars and he's like
00:19:30.540 not for any amount of money absolutely not i don't like to perform and he had his yeah yeah
00:19:36.920 he had his first school play this week uh and it was really hard for him to do it and he did it and
00:19:41.620 was proud of himself but it was just and he also loves money that is another thing to know about
00:19:46.120 my my child it's not like he's like money doesn't matter like his dad uh he's like no i love money
00:19:51.660 he keeps it oh no nick astor is just like we don't need money and i'm like i want all the money
00:19:57.340 but uh yeah charlie charlie has like he has an american bank and then he has a european bank
00:20:03.080 for when he finds euros around the house i'm dead yeah i know i know it's amazing so he he's a kid
00:20:08.660 that loves money and the fact that he's like i would not perform on america's got talent for
00:20:14.960 any amount of money and that tells me everything i need to know about whether or not i could turn
00:20:19.580 my kid into a brand i was just gonna say i'm thinking back to when you were doing your whole
00:20:24.920 like trying to be a mom and sort of thing and like he would hate that totally totally yeah exactly
00:20:30.360 and but but because he is old enough now he gets the choice about any time i write about him
00:20:37.700 anytime i talk about him i'll tell him about this conversation uh anytime i post a picture of him
00:20:43.480 on my sub stack or my Instagram, he approves.
00:20:47.400 And that doesn't bother him.
00:20:49.200 He does not like to be on a stage in front of people.
00:20:51.280 So I do, but I do think there is a level of consent
00:20:55.900 and a level of coercion.
00:20:57.680 And there's just all of these questions about that.
00:21:00.220 There's all these questions.
00:21:01.200 And I think that it's also important to note
00:21:03.200 that for every kid who's like Charlie,
00:21:05.580 there are also kids who love to perform.
00:21:08.140 You love it.
00:21:09.080 You love it.
00:21:09.860 Like my daughter would probably love it.
00:21:12.520 Right.
00:21:13.480 Right. And I think, I don't know, but it's hard to say with each of these kid influencers, like, which kind of kid are they? Are they a Charlie? And their parents are kind of coercing them? Or are they like your daughter? And they're just like, ta-da, you know what I mean?
00:21:27.140 Ta-da, it's the me show.
00:21:29.380 And at what age can they decide that?
00:21:32.320 Right, right. And I don't know. It's really difficult because you make decisions when you're young and then you regret them. And that's why I don't have a tattoo that I got when I was 60. You know what I mean?
00:21:41.120 Like, it's like, at what age can you decide that?
00:21:43.660 I don't know the answer, but I think it's really complicated.
00:21:46.420 And I just don't think that there's any value in, like, painting with a broad brush and being like, you're evil if you put your kid on the line.
00:21:53.840 No, no, there's too much nuance.
00:21:55.240 There's too much nuance.
00:21:56.400 Yeah.
00:21:56.580 Okay, we're going to take a quick break.
00:21:58.320 And when we get back, I want to talk about all these documentaries that are coming out.
00:22:02.240 Yeah.
00:22:02.500 Talking about how influencing is evil.
00:22:08.440 I want to date with Rawls, Carti says.
00:22:11.120 Okay, we are back.
00:22:30.080 There have been a lot of TV shows lately talking about the evil, dark side of influencing.
00:22:36.640 And I think they're very simplistic.
00:22:38.100 because as we said there's good and there's bad and there's nuance and gray area but that does
00:22:44.400 not a good tv show make well no and i think that's the difficulty is i've heard a lot from
00:22:49.620 other documentary filmmakers and from producers who come to me and are like we want the next ruby
00:22:55.080 frankie story and i'm like god forbid that there's another ruby frankie story another one exactly
00:23:00.520 you know like i don't have that and i'm glad i don't have that but they don't what you know
00:23:05.600 anyway and it's not every documentary filmmaker but just yeah anyway it's just it's frustrating
00:23:10.380 because they want that story they want that story and I get it because that is what that is what
00:23:16.660 sells but at the same time I don't think it does anyone a service and I don't think it does a
00:23:24.300 service to how we talk about the world of influencing and branding and marketing and
00:23:29.180 especially when it comes to kids I was actually talking to Taylor Lawrence about the new laws
00:23:34.700 coming up protecting child influencers. And one of the things these laws does not do is parse
00:23:41.300 different ages of children. Yeah, exactly. I think there's really is a lack of nuance, 0.73
00:23:48.000 not only in the conversation and the zeitgeist, but also, yeah, in the laws. And like,
00:23:52.600 does this only apply to kids who are under the age of 12 or under the age of 18? Or yeah,
00:23:58.880 there's a lot of confusion. And I think that speaks to lawmakers not having a lot of digital
00:24:04.120 literacy. I think it speaks to lawmakers not having a lot of digital literacy. And I'm going
00:24:09.880 to go a step further, not having enough parents of young children in positions of power to make
00:24:17.580 these laws. Right. Because a parent, a primary parent, I'm not just talking about a dad who's 0.64
00:24:23.480 never around, right? A primary parent would know that the way a 12-year-old interacts with social
00:24:31.180 media is very different than the way a 14-year-old or an 8-year-old or a 17-year-old interacts.
00:24:37.700 Yeah. Yeah. And I think that's the difficulty of trying to legislate this stuff is it's so
00:24:42.420 complicated. But I also think that there is like meaningful there. Like, I do think there are
00:24:47.600 meaningful efforts being made towards just trying to protect at least the profits of the kids. Like,
00:24:53.260 if you make the money and you are the star of the monetized content, you should be getting that
00:25:00.140 profit but how do we get there but how do we get there and i think i think about that all the time
00:25:05.520 because i am now paying my children to appear in my things tell me about that yeah well you know
00:25:12.580 they're not they're not in it all the time but at least once a week on my sub stack which is
00:25:18.840 profitable there there is a picture of them either on my instagram typically not on the grid i don't
00:25:26.320 usually grid them uh or my sub stack which is much more gated right and because they are appearing
00:25:34.320 essentially as child models i'm compensating them for that and and they get paid for that service
00:25:42.580 and it goes into a bank account a high yield interest account yes which will then be put
00:25:48.640 into a trust for them I love that and I'm doing that through my actual company to make it vary
00:25:57.780 on the up and up yeah yeah and I think that's really important and I think obviously ideally
00:26:02.720 like all parents who feature their kids in monetized content would do that but you know
00:26:07.980 that's not the case well no it's not the case because you know a lot of parents think they
00:26:12.140 have complete agency over their children oh my god I have a screaming baby right now she's so mad
00:26:17.180 She's so insulted, so insulted that she would have to go down for a nap right now. 1.00
00:26:21.540 Oh, my God.
00:26:22.000 I just had one a few minutes ago. 1.00
00:26:23.860 She's so mad. 1.00
00:26:25.580 Pissed. 1.00
00:26:26.300 How dare you?
00:26:27.500 How dare you when we are flying to Vegas tonight very late and she's going to have to stay awake for it.
00:26:32.880 Oh, no.
00:26:33.760 Oh, yeah.
00:26:34.380 Oh, yeah.
00:26:34.860 Spring break.
00:26:35.380 We're flying through Vegas and then we're going to the Utah National Parks.
00:26:38.500 Oh, speaking of Utah, maybe you'll see some vomit food there.
00:26:41.560 Well, I'm bringing my milkmaid dress.
00:26:43.620 Oh, my God.
00:26:44.280 You have to.
00:26:44.900 So I feel like they'll find me.
00:26:46.320 If I bring the raw milkmaid dress to Utah, I feel like the mom influencers will just flock to me.
00:26:53.640 Yeah, build it and they will come.
00:26:55.040 Build it and they will come.
00:26:56.060 Exactly, exactly.
00:26:56.840 It's my own field of dreams moment is what it really is.
00:27:00.160 Totally, totally.
00:27:03.020 Yeah, I mean, even the baby is in content. 0.99
00:27:06.260 So she also gets paid.
00:27:08.080 But it was interesting because it is actually not easy to do this. 0.99
00:27:11.980 And tax law is not set up for this.
00:27:14.720 business law is not set up for this. And I think, especially as we see things like what we talked
00:27:20.220 about with Content House and all of that, we're going to have to see more and more ways to
00:27:24.360 compensate children as they become brands at much earlier ages. Totally. I agree. And I think
00:27:31.560 there are efforts being made in that direction. And I think it's difficult to see how some of
00:27:38.900 those efforts can be lacking. Yeah, true. Exactly. And I do think a lot of it is because we just do
00:27:44.560 not have enough parents in legislatures. Full stop. Full stop. Or people that are at all tech
00:27:51.620 savvy. And I'm just like looking at these people making these laws and I'm like, have you ever
00:27:55.220 even seen a TikTok? You're definitely still just on Facebook, my friend. Yeah, no, the formula for
00:28:00.720 the Utah law is like so complex. And I'm just like, how could someone even like keep track of
00:28:05.780 that? Like even if I had to keep track of that just for my own TikTok, which like doesn't make
00:28:09.660 that much money it would be like very difficult let alone for like tiktok youtube several kids
00:28:14.640 you know what i mean like it's like a lot it's a lot i want to talk about another story that you've
00:28:21.020 written that i was fascinated by and this was months ago but we've both been busy ladies yes
00:28:26.980 that high school kids are choosing colleges based on how they're going to look on tiktok
00:28:32.740 yeah yeah i guess it was inevitable you know i guess i mean it's kind of like i i do know a lot
00:28:40.040 of people that choose where to vacation based on how that will look on social media but explain
00:28:45.480 and just explain this phenomenon to me it's like they want to make sure the campus is pretty and
00:28:49.500 that the events are fun like yeah things that i literally never would have thought about as a high
00:28:54.660 school senior no same i mean not that i even like really thought about anything i just like went to
00:28:59.500 my local state school so i guess i have no skin into this game but i think especially for kids
00:29:06.260 who have made their who have made like huge platforms in high school as tiktok stars it is
00:29:13.340 important that they go somewhere that can lend itself to content you know like it is a savvy
00:29:17.780 business decision again i mean going back to the content house and everything like is everyone just
00:29:23.240 going to be some kind of social media brand? And is that going to dictate how well we do later in
00:29:29.680 life? It sure feels like it. It really feels like it. Like I spend so much time on TikTok,
00:29:35.900 on Instagram reels, on Substack, on, you know, whatever, putting, making content out of my
00:29:41.120 stories. And like, I wish I could just spend that time writing and I'm sure you feel the same,
00:29:45.180 but if I were just spending that time writing, it would be like if a tree falls in the forest
00:29:49.020 and no one's around to hear it you know if a tree falls in the forest that is that that is the truth
00:29:54.500 and i'm sure i'm sure my audience is actually sick of me explaining this but it it is bananas
00:29:58.380 crazy to me because i probably spend 60 sometimes more of my time on promotion and marketing and
00:30:06.120 then the only only about 40 maybe 30 on creatives yeah and and it's and it's and i'm lucky and i'm
00:30:13.980 even lucky i know that i can do that right but it's still the hustle is so real yeah and it's
00:30:20.720 insane it's just but i don't know any other answers because that this is the place where
00:30:26.640 people's eyeballs are and this is where people's attention is and so as i think about nurturing my
00:30:33.020 kids interests i do keep wondering i'm like do i do i encourage you to create a youtube channel
00:30:40.380 where you identify countries based off their outline i don't know the answer to that i was
00:30:44.380 gonna say that would literally do so well wouldn't it i know maybe he'll maybe he'll do it if it's
00:30:49.260 just the camera um and then i'm like and if i put all this money away from you if i put all this
00:30:54.660 money away for you is it bad because the world is falling apart right i don't know right and how
00:31:00.180 else are you gonna like make a living like how else are you gonna make a living well i also you
00:31:04.640 know i was thinking i was on a chat thread the other day with a bunch of other professional
00:31:09.120 women and they were talking about ai assistants everyone i know uses an ai assistant right now
00:31:14.780 i don't i haven't figured out how to make it work for me i use ai for for other things uh
00:31:19.380 but actually i just had ai write an email to the tax department of philadelphia actually
00:31:26.580 explaining why i was paying them what i was paying them so things like that are helpful but
00:31:32.440 i do get concerned with ai assistants because are we going to lose the assistant job and the
00:31:39.040 assistant job used to be where you learned how to do a job job yeah where you started where you
00:31:43.640 started so where do you start now yeah i i have no idea i have no idea because a lot of that work
00:31:51.020 has been wiped out you can have coffee delivered right you don't have to send someone to starbucks
00:31:56.840 yeah yeah that's true what what is an assistant for and what does an assistant do now uh when you
00:32:03.980 can have ai or a remote assistant organize your calendar even screen and answer your calls wow
00:32:12.160 make your lunch appointments i was sent one today that can make like restaurant appointments for
00:32:17.820 you wow so where how will people be trained up in jobs this is something i don't know the answer to
00:32:23.420 and it's just something i think i want to explore more and more of yeah as i think about what kinds
00:32:28.080 of careers my kids could have and will those careers inevitably involve being online i'd say
00:32:35.300 that unless you're like a surgeon like probably and even surgeons are like viral on tiktok so
00:32:41.400 what the hell do i know exactly exactly like is it inevitable that everybody has to be a brand at
00:32:48.460 this point yeah god that makes me sad it makes me sad too oh but now i have to fly to vegas
00:32:56.560 tell everyone where people can find you and more of your writing speaking of brands um you can find
00:33:01.860 me anywhere hi fortessa h-i-f-o-r-t-e-s-a and i am writing about all of this if you're thinking
00:33:09.160 about something in the influencer world i have written about it so come hang
00:33:26.560 Thank you.
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