00:37:39.920and she i think tried to fill a hole of like affection and yeah just like having a good time
00:37:46.760with gambling when she was in britain but now she's on the continent she's in france she's0.97
00:37:51.500separated from her children so she she yeah i don't know she like probably wouldn't have been
00:37:56.740looking to fill the hole in the same way and she's older too yeah true and she's like traveling0.53
00:38:02.520around i think she did some like and what says here she climbed to the top of mount vesuvius
00:38:07.060she boat trips around the island she investigated ancient ruins like she kept herself busy even as
00:38:14.700she was like desperately missing her children and we need to talk about so she has a daughter
00:38:18.660who's named eliza yes and this child what is decided is that this child would be given to
00:38:25.320earl gray's parents to raise as his younger sister his much younger sister right yeah so
00:38:33.500this is like a condition of the duke eventually letting georgiana come home he he forbids her to
00:38:40.600return until the baby is placed elsewhere and she agrees like not to bring it back with her
00:38:47.300but even so it's like two years she's away for two years before she can come back home to her
00:38:52.520children um so even though she did everything he supposedly asked of her went away to have the baby
00:38:59.500gave it to Gray's family. She's still gone for like an extra year and she writes letters to her
00:39:05.220kids. So they're allowed to like have contact with her, but she isn't allowed to return until
00:39:12.700she also renounces Charles Gray and says she won't have an affair with him anymore.0.95
00:39:18.380And that was basically his, he, her shitty husband effectively says like, I will take you back. If0.97
00:39:24.340you renounce Charles Gray, if you will never have anything to do with your child, you will
00:39:29.280never tell the child a bit which is so shitty because do we need to remind this man that his0.78
00:39:34.380illegitimate children from other women live in Georgina's house yeah with her raising them0.51
00:39:41.200multiple other women have had multiple children and they all are being raised by Georgina and her
00:39:47.820and she's such a he's doing this I think in part because he knows that this will devastate her
00:39:54.360like this is why this is his condition like he knows how much she loves children he knows how
00:39:58.600she loves her children. She knows how much this will affect her. So it's basically either stay
00:40:03.300with your child and be penniless and never see your other children or abandon this one child
00:40:09.920and come back to your life you had before. And she, it's a hard decision, but she decides to
00:40:15.300estrange herself from Eliza and go back to her shitty husband.0.99
00:40:21.200Because that's a better option. Like also she has all the debts, right? She can't.0.99
00:40:25.040She's the Duchess. People would start to ask questions. And I mean, she is eventually allowed
00:40:29.600to see Eliza, the child, as she grows up. She kind of is in her life as like a godparent or
00:40:36.140a favorite aunt would be, but Eliza doesn't know Georgiana's her mom. I think everyone else knows,
00:40:42.860but Eliza doesn't know. Eliza doesn't know for a long time. She learns after Georgiana dies that
00:40:48.040that was her biological mother. And eventually she names her own daughter Georgiana and her
00:40:53.480second daughter is elizabeth georgiana so eventually she knows and georgiana also writes
00:40:59.340her poetry there's like really lavish poems one of them she says unhappy child of indiscretion
00:41:07.640poor slumber on a breast forlorn pledge of reproof of past transgression dear though
00:41:14.600unfortunate to be born so that's a really heartbreaking like tension like i love this
00:41:19.960child, even though she was born out of like really terrible circumstances all around,
00:41:24.920like everyone was miserable because she came along. So the psychological trauma, I guess,
00:41:30.680continues into the next generation in that way. And part of like when she would go to visit Eliza
00:41:35.340as just kind of like this friend of the family, she would see that they were raising her in what
00:41:39.820was a more conventional parenting style, especially they were older parents, right? Because they were
00:41:43.780her lover's parents, right? They would be grandparent age, but they were raising her
00:41:47.260much more emotionally distant than the like Rousseauian way that her jade wanted to. So she
00:41:52.640saw that her daughter was not getting the hugs and the affection that she would have given. So I think
00:41:56.460that was very distressing for her to see that her child was not being raised the way that she would
00:42:00.260have herself. Yeah, that's a good point. But she eventually, she gives up Charles Gray so she can
00:42:07.080go home to return to her other children. She writes at one point about giving him up. She
00:42:13.520says she had left her heart and soul. He has one consolation that I have given him up for my
00:42:18.260children only. So I think she really loved him. Yeah. And he does get married. Charles Gray's a
00:42:24.340woman also called Mary. And then Georgiana becomes great friends with her. Yeah. They name one of
00:42:29.780their kids, Georgiana as well. Gray marries a woman named Mary Elizabeth Ponsonby. They have
00:42:36.50016 children together. 16. 10 boys and six girls. One of them is stillborn. So that's insane.
00:42:44.500And it was Mary Ponsonby. You know, God bless your inner organs from that experience.
00:42:50.660Yeah. And she was a prime minister's wife. Yeah. Couldn't be easy.
00:42:54.680And Lady Grey Tea. Lady Grey Tea. That's the lady.
00:42:58.860It must be, right? Right? Yeah. And I think part of what I read about,0.81
00:43:03.220just to get back to my favorite topic, Earl Grey tea. I believe that she was such a well-renowned
00:43:08.860hostess. Like she would serve the Earl Grey tea at her parties. And that's part of what popularized0.95
00:43:12.660it was because people drink it at their house and they're like, well, this is good. What's this
00:43:15.880one? Oh, it's called Earl Grey. Oh, well, we'll serve it at my house too. So I think she was
00:43:20.580involved in the popularization of the tea. Fantastic. So yeah, G kind of, I mean, she
00:43:25.840parts ways with them for the short term, but you know, eventually I think these are all people in
00:43:30.240the same social circle, the political stuff still linking them all together. So when things cool
00:43:36.120down, um, it seems like they can still be in touch. Um, but she, I mean, this is kind of like
00:43:42.780the end of the Keira Knightley movie when she like ends her affair and goes home. She lives
00:43:47.480another 15 years. Like she's still got like another couple chapters of her life story, which
00:43:53.080This is, it's very much a new era for her. And this is an era of her being more, less in the public eye. And the movie is raising her children who she has, like reconnecting with them after she was apart from them for two years, especially her son Hart, who's a baby when she left when she came back. He didn't recognize her. He would scream when she tried to hug.
00:44:12.460eventually turns out he'd had a fever at one point that in her absence and it made him deaf
00:44:18.180like partially deaf and this effect nobody realized that at first and then so Georgiana
00:44:24.480blamed herself for not being there because maybe she would have noticed the fever and she could
00:44:27.620have treated it but especially he and her have a really rocky road to reconnecting because he0.96
00:44:32.520doesn't remember her and he's got this like disability now and he doesn't like being touched
00:44:38.420but she's a very touching person right so i think she's she's not so much of like the
00:44:44.560you know starting trends and going out on the town and throwing parties she's much just like
00:44:48.580taking care of her children slash we mentioned before she loves her crystals she loves her0.91
00:44:53.480minerals yeah she pivots even in terms of politics like she's still keeping up to date with stuff but0.98
00:44:59.400she's not out there like you know rallying up the boat or anything what she's doing is filling her0.98
00:45:04.200days with lectures at the Royal Academy, conducting chemistry experiments and studying
00:45:08.540mineralogy. The fossils and minerals she had acquired while abroad formed the core of a
00:45:12.940collection to which she was continually adding. So she just becomes, she embraces her woman in STEM.
00:45:17.640Yeah. Well, STEAM, because she's also writing her poetry. She even wrote a song for a play that
00:45:22.980becomes a hit, like a smash hit. So it's, it is a new era for her. I also want to note,
00:45:30.000there were some sources saying she had a miscarriage during this era,
00:45:33.540but she is at home with the Duke being a dutiful duchess at this point.
00:45:39.980He has gout also. So she's like home caring for him.
00:45:51.320I think that what we will see in as the story progresses is this is kind of
00:45:54.680the best their relationship ever is when she's taking care of him as he's
00:45:58.140dealing with various illnesses because all she's doing is paying attention to him and not being a
00:46:03.200famous celebrity in the world. And he's like, I like this. I like this wife. Yeah. Do we think
00:46:09.580he has mommy issues? Do you think that's what it is? He has various issues. His parents died
00:46:16.680when he was very young, I think. And there's something about his role. He was sort of like
00:46:22.760Prinny. Prinny always wanted to join the army, but he wasn't allowed to. I think this group
00:46:27.680wanted to do more than he was allowed to because he was the heir to this vast fortune. So I think
00:46:32.460he felt trapped by circumstances. Yeah. We never said he, he becomes the Lord High Treasurer of
00:46:38.720Ireland and the governor of Cork. He's also the Lord Lieutenant of Derbyshire. And like I said,
00:46:44.000in the first part, he's invited to join the cabinet, but he declines every time. So like,
00:46:49.100I think there you can see he he is doing his duty but like nothing else no more no extra
00:46:55.340it's he's an interesting figure to me compared to just people like Louis the 16th or other
00:47:01.300husbands that I've talked about recently on the podcast where it's like yeah he's not a good
00:47:05.840husband to Georgina but it's not because he's not interested in women it's not because he's
00:47:10.800not interested in sex it's he like there's something going on with him internally like he
00:47:15.460it seems like he and Bess have like an okay relationship and he treats her much better
00:47:21.280than he treats Georgina so it's like yeah I can't get a handle on this guy really yeah and yeah I
00:47:27.920don't necessarily want to read a biography of him but I wonder what would be in there I want someone
00:47:32.260to give me the cliff's notes of that biography I do want to make it clear that Bess is still on
00:47:36.180the scene obviously yes very very much so ever since she entered this story she's never not
00:47:40.900No, she's here. She's also doing better because her estranged husband, so not the Duke, but the guy who abandoned her and kept her children from her for quite a while, he dies. And because they were still married, she gets a nice widow's settlement. She also gets her two sons back. So they're restored to her and she is free to remarry.
00:48:04.480And I found a little bit more about Bess than I had originally known.
00:48:08.960So just like her best friend, Georgina, is a duchess, she now wants to be a duchess.
00:48:13.780So she first goes after the Duke of Richmond, whose wife has also recently died.
00:48:19.780I guess the Duke had also always been infatuated with Bess.
00:48:24.740They kind of have a will they won't they for like a year,
00:48:27.700even though they are mourning their respective spouses.
00:48:31.560and by the end of that year he like isn't really about it anymore he doesn't want to marry her
00:48:36.940so she strikes out the first time she tries to become a duchess like her bestie georgiana
00:48:41.720so she's just like she's never not striving best is just like the archetypical like gold digger
00:48:47.500yeah she just wants like security and a home yeah absolutely georgiana so she's doing her
00:48:57.180own science experiments and stuff you know writing songs or whatever but she's also she became a
00:49:02.060patron of promising scientists just like in her earlier era she'd been a patron of young actors
00:49:06.920and one of her most notable successes was she sponsored this guy doctors dr thomas beddows
00:49:11.800whose institute she helped to establish um which resulted in the discovery of laughing gas oh i bet
00:49:19.060she loved that stuff i bet wow okay i didn't know that um and then she we mentioned the eye issue
00:49:28.540so this is around the time that she i don't know i didn't consult with any of my doctor friends
00:49:33.120about this but so she has migraines like that's an ongoing thing that she's dealing with in her
00:49:37.140life and then also she just gets a swollen eye it's like the size of like it's bad it's huge
00:49:46.320it's like i don't know some sort of infection and then the doctors are like well so they gave
00:49:50.540her all kinds of like horrific olden times she just she could only stay in a darkened room like
00:49:55.740she couldn't see light yeah they at one point in an attempt to increase blood flow to her head
00:50:01.200to counteract the inflammation of her eye they squeeze her neck to the point that she's like
00:50:05.520almost strangled to death because that's what medicine was doing at this time it's just gruesome
00:50:11.600There is an article on Amanda Foreman's website where she quotes I.G. Schraibman, who has written about this.
00:50:17.920And like, there's some conjecture on what she would have been suffering from.
00:50:21.680So they suggest that she had cavernous sinus thrombosis.
00:50:27.460Whatever it was, she did eventually recover from it.
00:50:31.740Her eye went down to normal size, but she lost vision in that eye for good.
00:50:35.740And I think her vision, her other eye was affected.
00:50:37.720But this is also sort of like, and she was like, oh my God, I'm so deformed.
00:50:41.220nobody can look at me but people who saw her at the time were like she looks fine she's like0.66
00:50:45.740but she's just like oh like it's like you look fine but you know for somebody who was such a
00:50:51.620glamorous figure you know to look even slightly different so she was just living this sort of
00:50:55.220quiet life like she would be she got really involved in like landscaping like botany on
00:51:00.900her various estates um she she gets back into politics too she does back into politics yes
00:51:07.780Yeah, because the Whigs have been kind of out in the cold for two decades and they're kind of reforming at this time. So she briefly gets back into politics. I don't know much more than that.
00:51:20.280Well, I think she just kind of like she's never not been involved in it, but this is where she gets back into politics and that's where her husband is just kind of like, he's unhappy. He liked when all that she did was take care of him. And now that the attention is back on her and she's other hobbies, he starts treating her more cruelly because that's his psychology.
00:51:36.580Yeah. Also in 1800, she gets to see little G come out into society. So her oldest daughter,0.71
00:51:46.880she marries Lord Morph in 1801. That is the son of the Earl Carlisle. So this is,
00:51:53.500Georgina gets to see one of her children get married and that's the only one, sadly.
00:51:57.280Yeah. And in terms of like coming out in society, like this is the Bridgerton of it all, right?
00:52:00.700It is. Yeah. 1800, we're in the Regency, right?
01:00:43.060Um, like there's certainly lots of people in history where there's a husband with a wife and a mistress, but the wife and the mistress are like living together.
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