Poog with Kate Berlant and Jacqueline Novak - I Work Nights

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00:02:39.360 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:40.860 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:41.960 And this is POOG,

00:02:43.100 an ongoing conversation about wellness

00:02:45.100 between two obsessive friends,

00:02:46.680 two untamable intellects.

00:02:48.480 This is our hobby. 0.95

00:02:49.300 This is our hell.

00:02:50.180 This is our naked desire for free products.

00:02:52.460 This is POOG.

00:02:53.880 Today's topic, loosely speaking,

00:02:55.740 GM, hand on the stomach.

00:02:57.680 Applesauce

00:02:59.080 Hey

00:03:03.800 Hi, you're in sunglasses

00:03:05.420 I'm in sunglasses as a message to myself

00:03:08.840 Because

00:03:09.280 I am

00:03:12.600 High on withdrawal

00:03:14.860 I can't believe

00:03:16.400 So Jacqueline texted 0.98

00:03:17.540 For those who know, the hags 1.00

00:03:20.100 Who are listening closely, Jacqueline 0.99

00:03:21.840 Has been unable to get her Wellbutrin

00:03:24.120 Filled 1.00

00:03:24.840 And by the way, CVS Caremark has fucked my various genitals for years with mine. 1.00

00:03:33.360 I'm actually currently fighting them on my migraine medicine. 1.00

00:03:36.780 Well, you know what I heard?

00:03:37.880 Someone reached out after that last episode.

00:03:40.600 I'm actually scared now.

00:03:41.500 If I say it, then they go B.V. McElhinney's or something.

00:03:46.800 Okay, it's not that.

00:03:48.200 B.P. Mickey's.

00:03:50.520 Beverly Hills.

00:03:52.320 Have you heard of this?

00:03:53.620 Wait, what do you mean?

00:03:54.840 Let me find it. A pharmacy. Because I was like, I got to get away from CVS.

00:03:59.180 Oh, yeah.

00:04:00.020 They were like, Bevy McTools. Let me find it.

00:04:03.720 Well, by the way, Jacqueline, going independent pharmacy.

00:04:06.380 My grandmother was one of the first female pharmacists in America.

00:04:10.480 Oh, my God. No.

00:04:11.880 That's what I've heard.

00:04:13.260 Mickey Fine, it says. Use Mickey Fine.

00:04:16.140 And I looked it up and it says they have a restaurant. And I'm like, this is what I'm talking about.

00:04:20.660 it's like

00:04:23.120 and they were like

00:04:23.940 a sort of deli grill

00:04:25.100 wait wait

00:04:25.420 what did I say

00:04:25.820 Mickey Fiennes

00:04:26.640 and

00:04:27.840 that sounds fabulous

00:04:28.920 it sounds

00:04:30.780 my old pharmacy

00:04:31.700 in Brooklyn

00:04:32.160 is an apple store now

00:04:33.260 fabulous

00:04:33.520 oh

00:04:34.820 right

00:04:37.200 right

00:04:37.980 oh my god

00:04:38.740 it's 1962

00:04:39.860 coffee shop

00:04:41.880 hanging

00:04:42.540 I mean

00:04:43.340 because

00:04:44.280 oh look

00:04:44.860 and then Mickey Fine Grill

00:04:45.860 and they've got

00:04:46.340 see they've got the old

00:04:47.440 soda fountain

00:04:49.000 it's like the pharmacist

00:04:50.100 Soda fountain thing.

00:04:51.620 That's so fun.

00:04:53.040 I, by the way, woke up in a cold sweat and thought I fell off Biologique Recherche.

00:04:59.420 Oh, yeah.

00:05:00.040 Due to, of course, the spoils of Pug and thank you to everyone who sends products.

00:05:04.940 But I thought it was like, was it the mushrooms the whole time?

00:05:08.160 It's like, did I have the regime?

00:05:10.320 You know, and then I got away from it.

00:05:12.000 But the truth is, it's, I mean, it's exorbitant, the prices.

00:05:15.240 He said regime or routine.

00:05:17.440 Regime.

00:05:17.620 It's a regime, right?

00:05:18.480 Regime.

00:05:19.000 Right.

00:05:19.280 Oh, right, right.

00:05:20.100 And you mean like regimen.

00:05:21.720 Did I say regimen?

00:05:22.660 No.

00:05:23.300 Regimen, regime.

00:05:24.660 Regimen. 1.00

00:05:25.800 Well, I think French would be regime. 1.00

00:05:29.040 Wait. 1.00

00:05:29.860 See what I'm saying?

00:05:30.200 I think I've been saying regime.

00:05:32.320 Did I say regime?

00:05:33.980 You sure did.

00:05:35.560 Roll back.

00:05:36.540 Sorry, I'm hearing crazy sounds because they're, oh wait, so they're, oh, this is horrible.

00:05:41.860 They're, by the way, doing the sewer line, like under, like on my block.

00:05:46.860 the other morning sorry for the sound but imagine this because as we know I've been sleeping poorly

00:05:51.960 although I had a couple great nights of sleep lately woke up 7 45 doorbell doorbell what my

00:05:59.140 eyes I'm like what is this violation because I was going to be able to sleep till nine

00:06:03.300 but um 7 45 I'm filled with anger they've woken me up Jacqueline's pulling a me and she's texting

00:06:12.100 while we're recording,

00:06:13.120 which typically is something that I do.

00:06:15.100 I'm not texting.

00:06:16.600 What's she doing?

00:06:17.320 Okay.

00:06:18.320 I'm trying to quickly,

00:06:19.940 I was going to bring it up and explain.

00:06:21.440 I'm not trying to hide anything.

00:06:23.240 Put in my lunch order

00:06:24.480 that didn't get pushed through and go,

00:06:26.460 because I was going to do it with you.

00:06:27.740 Where'd you order?

00:06:29.180 Well, I'm thinking of ordering from Goop.

00:06:31.100 I've still never gone to Goop Kitchen.

00:06:33.320 I just had an emergency Chinese chicken salad

00:06:35.380 from Erewhon.

00:06:37.200 Well, they've got the, you know,

00:06:39.480 they've got the Brentwood chicken salad.

00:06:41.620 Who?

00:06:42.560 Oh, goop?

00:06:43.320 Yeah, it's called the Brentwood Chicken Salad.

00:06:46.440 I can't believe I've done that.

00:06:47.440 Brentwood Chinese Chicken Salad.

00:06:49.000 I think we've done our work.

00:06:49.980 I think we deserve a couple of goop kitchen vouchers.

00:06:51.520 I know.

00:06:51.600 We're not getting any vouchers, though, when you think about it.

00:06:53.900 Why?

00:06:54.380 I don't know.

00:06:54.900 I just think that kitchen, it's not—

00:06:57.220 It's voucherless.

00:06:58.160 It's beyond the voucher.

00:06:59.040 No, but I just was like, I have to put in this order.

00:07:02.300 I can't survive the episode without knowing food isn't on its way.

00:07:05.840 Do you know what I'm saying?

00:07:06.400 Yeah.

00:07:07.180 And I told you, I think, maybe last week that I realized I haven't been ordering through the app.

00:07:12.000 I've been ordering through Uber Eats, and so I've lost 6K in goop points.

00:07:18.520 Oh, no.

00:07:19.600 That I could have been racking up.

00:07:20.860 I didn't know it was a point system.

00:07:22.400 My friend Sally Pressman.

00:07:24.760 Wow, one of the first name drops.

00:07:26.540 One of the first full name.

00:07:28.560 I said it sort of as a joke because she was like, if I don't get a shout out for whatever, it doesn't matter.

00:07:34.780 I said to her, she's like, I'm Black Onyx.

00:07:38.200 What?

00:07:38.440 On Goop's kitchen app.

00:07:39.820 And I was like.

00:07:40.480 oh my god because i ordered for coop kitchen like two weeks in a row and like

00:07:45.180 but forgot to use the app oh i see huge orders that are you know me dangerously living in abundance

00:07:51.460 um but wait wait jacqueline so the sewer was being worked on at my house

00:07:57.360 and my alarm went off at seven or no i was excited to finally sleep until nine

00:08:02.840 and the alarm and by the way i'm not promising this is a good story but my doorbell is ringing

00:08:08.600 at 7 30 and i pop out of bed destroyed by there's nothing more violating than the violation of sleep

00:08:15.520 and i'm also a particular baby with it i can i cannot suffer having the sleep disturbed 0.97

00:08:22.400 i throw on my robe and i go i'm gonna have fun with this because how the fuck by the way legally 0.95

00:08:28.760 you cannot ring someone's door before 8 a.m i'm on i'm talking about like like city work and by 0.97

00:08:35.020 the way and i'm walking to the door and i go i'm not gonna fucking yell at the guys they're doing 0.76

00:08:38.640 their work like whatever but i opened the little there was a knock you mean there was a ring ring 0.68

00:08:42.720 ring 7 45 a.m i go what i come i go hello and i really it is the desperation i'm like on the

00:08:51.200 verge of tears because i because i haven't been sleeping well hello and they go oh hi i'm sorry

00:08:55.560 huge details i can't even i don't have access to them i don't have access to what they need to

00:08:59.520 access so they're waking me up for no reason that's you know what i'm saying just know that

00:09:03.260 they've woken me up and i can't help them and you already know that i already know that that

00:09:07.660 they're going to try to think they have access so i go i go hello and they go oh hi we need to

00:09:12.840 access you know the back of the property and i go i don't have access to the property and i go

00:09:17.480 and i work nights no you didn't no you didn't you are unreal you are sorry

00:09:26.240 and I go

00:09:27.560 and I have a daughter

00:09:28.500 and then I go

00:09:29.060 this is my only time

00:09:30.200 to sleep

00:09:31.140 no

00:09:31.880 because by the way

00:09:35.020 what if I were a nurse

00:09:36.660 you see what I'm saying

00:09:37.380 well

00:09:37.840 they don't know

00:09:38.320 of course I do

00:09:38.880 they don't know

00:09:39.920 and

00:09:40.480 and

00:09:41.300 maybe they could tell

00:09:43.960 maybe they could tell

00:09:44.980 by the Dr. Loretta

00:09:46.080 resting on the

00:09:46.980 on the welcome mat

00:09:49.280 yeah

00:09:49.680 okay

00:09:50.000 maybe they could tell 1.00

00:09:51.240 by your trash 1.00

00:09:52.200 being Erwan based 0.99

00:09:53.840 yeah

00:09:54.120 yeah

00:09:54.520 oh my god you know what i had you know what something i did the other day it was interesting

00:09:59.320 talking about this fedex delivery a bunch of heavy boxes and the guy and he's like starts to unload

00:10:04.960 them i go oh wait you can actually unload them over here because he was bringing them upstairs

00:10:08.340 i go if you if you just go right around to the side and he was clearly really annoyed at me

00:10:13.240 which i understood but i was like i was like i promise it's gonna be easier he was gonna have

00:10:16.520 to move the truck back but i was like i just knew i was like it's gonna be easier and he literally 0.99

00:10:20.980 shakes his head at me like you fucking bitch and it's like just trust me and then and then i start 0.99

00:10:25.500 going god i was like what would it be like if i had like huge jugs a big like it's always jugs 1.00

00:10:33.420 with you okay yeah i just wonder how it would have been different but listen so so so so i go

00:10:39.380 i mean and then i find myself i don't know that it would different i don't know if i were like 0.58

00:10:43.440 a stone cold like big jugs fox with like a huge ass tiny waist answered and like heels and like

00:10:50.740 a little skirt and was like I don't know anyway I had that fantasy so he's and I'm like I feel bad 1.00

00:11:01.020 because I'm like oh he thinks I'm this like entitled bitch who's like move it over there 0.90

00:11:05.280 it's like for me right yeah but you're gonna see it's actually I'm like he doesn't know yet he's 0.93

00:11:08.940 not gonna go upstairs it's gonna be easier anyway he shakes his head at me he starts loading in the

00:11:12.760 boxes and there's a bunch of them they're heavy okay and I'm kind of going oh my god thank you

00:11:15.960 so much. Sorry. You know, I almost by my lip, I mean, this is much easier, right? I don't do

00:11:22.440 that. I find myself pushing out my stomach to make it seem like I'm pregnant. And then I put

00:11:27.980 one hand. I put one hand just under my stomach. I just wanted to see what it felt like. I did do a

00:11:36.920 huge hands on the back. What if I had jugs? If there were jugs sitting next to you, you would

00:11:43.060 thrown him on it and I just wanted to see what it felt like I'm a nurse okay I was doing it very

00:11:49.500 subtly but just one hand on the stomach and I don't think he even clocked it what's wrong with

00:11:57.200 that nothing a little fun with myself no no absolutely nothing is wrong with it it's it's

00:12:04.360 the childlike nature in you that has a little idea and does it yeah I thought it was a fun

00:12:11.360 little thing like well then i almost felt pregnant it's interesting the speed but you are comfortable

00:12:16.480 with the and i i go to the like it could be true thing all the time because it's sort of like you

00:12:24.140 know i don't know you're lucky i i did see that car coming even though i would have been in my

00:12:29.340 rights to walk without looking you know like that kind of thing but like yeah you're like

00:12:33.820 i work nights you you do this this is the thing about you

00:12:38.660 you throw a lie out there in a quick pinch you're scheming sort of like character from like

00:12:47.360 you know what i mean like a dickens like you're quick like you'd be great on a competition show

00:12:56.100 like i mean if i if i had the permission like if i gave myself the permission like okay we're trying

00:13:01.020 to get through a european town quickly to get because we're on the amazing race or something

00:13:05.520 like that so i knew like then like oh my god how we'd soar i'd be like this is like leaping into

00:13:12.720 the lies so how lie even seems too strong a word the pregnancy stomach i'm sorry i'm sorry i may

00:13:18.260 perhaps i'm too perhaps i'm no but but the story is i work nights how dare you and then and then

00:13:25.540 And minutes later, and I threw my hand out.

00:13:28.280 I mean, I'm not wrong to, like, note this as theme of the stories you're telling.

00:13:33.200 No, I hear that.

00:13:34.020 They're both about someone else perceiving you and you going, but you wouldn't judge me if whatever.

00:13:38.920 Right, right.

00:13:39.420 No, no, totally.

00:13:40.300 I mean, it's something I'm openly impressed by.

00:13:42.580 No, no, it's interesting.

00:13:43.340 I see what you're saying.

00:13:44.120 I don't doubt that it's odd.

00:13:45.740 But I also wanted to tell the listener that I woke up this morning to these texts, which are really cute to me.

00:13:49.940 I don't even mean to say it's odd.

00:13:51.380 I just.

00:13:51.660 No, no, no, no, no.

00:13:52.440 I'm not criticizing.

00:13:53.240 I don't feel criticized or judged.

00:13:54.820 I don't feel criticized

00:13:55.600 or judged

00:13:56.140 I feel seen

00:13:56.920 okay

00:13:57.700 okay good

00:13:58.180 12.01am

00:13:59.140 text from Jacqueline Novak

00:14:00.360 we will always have

00:14:01.480 their friendship

00:14:01.920 through high and low

00:14:02.780 he he

00:14:03.360 and then

00:14:04.440 my tooth filling

00:14:05.280 just came out

00:14:06.040 it's an incredible

00:14:08.800 way to wake up

00:14:09.580 I love ya

00:14:10.540 we gotta bring back

00:14:11.860 GM more

00:14:12.840 doing mornings GM

00:14:14.020 oh yeah

00:14:15.320 I'm always ready

00:14:16.060 today's a huge

00:14:17.640 GM all day

00:14:18.440 all night

00:14:18.820 kind of thing

00:14:19.700 for those who don't know

00:14:20.600 GM

00:14:21.000 my tooth filling

00:14:21.680 has fallen out

00:14:22.420 this is an old reference

00:14:23.040 to when Jacqueline

00:14:24.520 and I were living in New York and when Gchat was a huge part of life and when you would log on to

00:14:29.340 Gchat you know in the morning check your emails I would get a little pop-up from Jacqueline GM

00:14:34.540 in the morning and then we just go GM and it really and then we'd transfer it to text just

00:14:39.120 waking up hitting GM it's just a really nice way to anchor in the day oh yeah it's it's how I yeah

00:14:44.960 and my friend Deirdre like it's a very soft way of saying good morning and so it became kind of

00:14:49.560 thing with depression which is like you at any time of day it's like a quiet way of saying hello

00:14:55.360 it's really small it's just like gym yeah it's good it's like small it's like so gentle i need

00:15:02.420 the gms and like you can do it through your teeth like i like to speak yeah hit me with some gms

00:15:08.040 this week um all right i'll keep i'll get in coming wait there's so much i wanted to tell

00:15:11.620 you oh yeah one i went to jar a couple of friends and i got a text from suzanne that said where are

00:15:16.800 you suzanne the chef incredible oh my god can you believe it that's awesome she came and said

00:15:23.180 hello she was a dream a couple things by virtue of going with someone else different things

00:15:28.160 happened right by which i mean like something i don't know if you've ever ordered different orders

00:15:33.540 yep like yeah you text me you're like my friend he's like he's like i'm getting a caesar i'm like

00:15:39.500 what all this i'm like i don't even really think about i'm like i've never really thought what

00:15:43.160 If I'm getting sort of a classic.

00:15:44.660 What friend? 1.00

00:15:45.520 Liz Pong.

00:15:46.340 Okay, got it.

00:15:47.140 Got it.

00:15:47.900 I told you already, but you...

00:15:49.900 I remember again.

00:15:50.600 You erased it.

00:15:51.200 I remember it now.

00:15:51.840 No, right.

00:15:52.460 It's like, because you have the same emotional experience you had the first time.

00:15:56.860 Friend?

00:15:57.380 Who?

00:15:57.720 Who?

00:15:58.240 Yeah.

00:15:58.620 What?

00:15:58.940 Jar with who?

00:15:59.580 Yeah.

00:16:00.960 Yeah.

00:16:01.960 And I see this radicchio-looking salad appear, and I go, what the hell?

00:16:07.360 A pile of purple leaves.

00:16:08.580 It has to be a special.

00:16:09.480 I've never seen that.

00:16:09.920 With a creamy dressing.

00:16:10.660 he did not order a special

00:16:13.140 he did not order a special salad

00:16:15.940 it was

00:16:16.460 I believe it was Rathamagum 0.99

00:16:18.120 I think that's their fucking Caesar 0.99

00:16:20.280 and they're just 1.00

00:16:21.900 if there's Caesar and wedge on the menu

00:16:25.440 and I'm going for a sort of classic flavor

00:16:27.640 a jar I'm probably going for the wedge like I always do

00:16:30.060 now that I see this pile

00:16:31.900 I was like oh my god

00:16:33.540 and I averted my eyes quickly

00:16:35.040 because you always get the Marcona

00:16:37.380 you always get the one with the almonds

00:16:40.420 I see a Marcona.

00:16:41.820 I can't help myself.

00:16:42.200 And I feel like maybe fruit.

00:16:43.640 Yeah.

00:16:44.300 Which I'm always like,

00:16:45.320 I never want that really for a salad.

00:16:47.400 I usually am not a creamy salad.

00:16:49.620 Yeah.

00:16:50.060 I'm usually not,

00:16:51.260 except for the wedge.

00:16:52.120 I mean,

00:16:52.320 plenty of opportunities.

00:16:54.040 I lie.

00:16:55.000 I lie at the same time.

00:16:56.060 Yeah.

00:16:57.140 I just need,

00:16:57.900 wait,

00:16:58.620 what are you about to say?

00:16:59.260 Because I want to remember it before,

00:17:00.460 in case you forget,

00:17:01.140 because I'm going to say one other thing.

00:17:01.940 Hot pot.

00:17:02.920 But keep going.

00:17:03.560 Okay.

00:17:03.820 Are you ready?

00:17:04.480 Yeah.

00:17:05.440 Our friend Jeff,

00:17:06.380 okay,

00:17:07.480 goes,

00:17:08.060 applesauce as a side.

00:17:10.540 I've never really seen that.

00:17:13.560 We've never seen what happened.

00:17:14.760 It's interesting to see applesauce as a side.

00:17:17.080 Big chunks of apple?

00:17:17.800 I'm like, oh my God, yeah.

00:17:19.180 Okay, I don't even really process it.

00:17:20.800 I'm like, yeah.

00:17:21.780 He asks our dreamy waiter, right?

00:17:24.540 And he's like, you know, it's a comfort food.

00:17:27.300 So I kind of like, but I'm like, yeah.

00:17:29.280 And I'm just still not really.

00:17:30.420 I'm like, whoa, really?

00:17:31.340 We're going to get applesauce?

00:17:32.260 I'm not even really like going there.

00:17:34.040 I mean, I didn't think really we're going to get applesauce.

00:17:35.760 I didn't think that.

00:17:36.460 I just mean like I moved on from it. 0.94

00:17:37.920 I didn't, it didn't like call to me like, oh shit, I have to really consider this. 0.92

00:17:42.000 Purple yams were happening, you know, et cetera. 1.00

00:17:43.840 So it was like, all right.

00:17:45.140 And then the waiter comes and Jeff's like, I'm curious about the applesauce. 0.98

00:17:49.100 And I'm like, oh, he's not fucking around. 0.97

00:17:51.840 And now I'm curious too. 0.98

00:17:53.960 And I realized it's happening.

00:17:54.960 And he's like, yeah, it's, you know, it's been, I try to remember.

00:17:57.280 And then we asked Suzanne about it.

00:17:59.520 I can't remember who spoke of it.

00:18:00.760 I can't remember if they said it was a comfort food for people.

00:18:02.520 And at one point it was off the menu.

00:18:03.780 People asked for it back.

00:18:04.760 Oh, I love that.

00:18:06.060 It arrives.

00:18:06.860 And I feel like there was so much happening in this meal that I didn't really get to reflect on it, but it was interesting.

00:18:14.000 It was chunky.

00:18:14.960 Kind of spicy.

00:18:16.600 No. 1.00

00:18:16.980 Because my mom makes a homemade applesauce that will blow your back out.

00:18:19.300 No, you think.

00:18:22.140 I expected chunky and it really wasn't.

00:18:25.740 It's just, it's very compelling.

00:18:28.400 And it was delicious.

00:18:31.480 Paired with pork. 1.00

00:18:33.160 Holy shit. 1.00

00:18:34.260 Yep, that's a classic. 0.99

00:18:35.200 So my mind, I had a kumquat-based cocktail that was glorious.

00:18:39.200 And I was like, well, I'm going to start with this in order to...

00:18:42.060 Kumquat margarita.

00:18:42.920 Why haven't I ever had it or seen it on a menu?

00:18:45.480 Well, they're delicious.

00:18:46.780 And this was a gin-based drink.

00:18:48.820 It wasn't a margarita, but it was kumquat.

00:18:51.060 And I knew I was going to have two cocktails.

00:18:53.260 So I said, I'll be getting a lychee martini next.

00:18:56.840 Let me try the special.

00:18:58.060 I couldn't resist.

00:18:59.360 So fun. 1.00

00:18:59.880 I saw a couple of hags on the way out the door. 1.00

00:19:02.220 You're kidding. 1.00

00:19:03.100 Oh, yeah.

00:19:04.920 I was at Burgers Never Say Die, a great burger joint here, behind the counter. 0.99

00:19:11.800 I'm a hag, this woman. 1.00

00:19:13.300 I'm a hag. 1.00

00:19:14.100 No. 0.96

00:19:14.580 Have to say hi.

00:19:15.380 Can I get you some free fountain sodas?

00:19:16.980 Can you believe this?

00:19:17.760 No.

00:19:18.300 Yeah.

00:19:19.340 Oh, my God.

00:19:20.800 The community, we have grown.

00:19:22.320 And by the way, we've been quietly growing the community.

00:19:25.640 Imagine us in 10 years, all of us, boarding and cruise.

00:19:30.880 Boarding and cruise, yeah.

00:19:32.840 And there will be enough life jackets.

00:19:34.500 on the Pug Cruise.

00:19:35.500 I'll tell you that much.

00:19:36.980 There will be enough life jackets.

00:19:38.980 This will not be the Titanic.

00:19:41.080 When our boat goes down,

00:19:42.620 it will.

00:19:44.000 Be rubble.

00:19:44.520 There'll be a place for people to go.

00:19:45.960 And I'll be last to leave the ship.

00:19:47.860 Yeah.

00:19:48.580 It'll be soaked rubble.

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00:23:36.100 So I was hyper-fixated on hot pot.

00:23:38.320 You know, where you go with friends.

00:23:39.240 I haven't done it in years.

00:23:39.980 You go with friends, they bring you the broth.

00:23:41.640 you get the meats

00:23:42.740 the vegetables

00:23:43.300 oh yeah I love that

00:23:43.880 yeah heaven

00:23:44.420 spicy

00:23:44.900 and you're cooking it there

00:23:45.860 oh you better do your part

00:23:47.040 you better make sure

00:23:47.960 you don't get sloppy

00:23:48.900 with your meat right

00:23:49.780 oh I know

00:23:50.740 sometimes they'll

00:23:51.720 yeah but it's like

00:23:52.340 take utensils

00:23:53.000 oh my god

00:23:54.240 I had a transformative meal

00:23:56.040 nevermind

00:23:56.900 no

00:23:57.160 okay but

00:23:58.000 I don't even want to get into it

00:23:59.600 what it wasn't

00:24:00.060 no because

00:24:00.660 no it was

00:24:01.540 it was transformative

00:24:02.320 but I didn't pay

00:24:03.840 I was taken to Nobu Malibu

00:24:05.560 and I have to say

00:24:07.060 I think it's the best beef

00:24:09.200 I've ever had

00:24:09.640 in my mouth

00:24:10.600 no sorry

00:24:11.200 I'm jumping all over the place

00:24:12.180 I'm jumping

00:24:12.600 I'm jumping

00:24:13.000 okay sorry sorry

00:24:13.840 oh you're telling me

00:24:14.940 about a transformative meal

00:24:15.920 that you had at Nobu

00:24:16.380 they go

00:24:17.260 they give you a stone

00:24:19.120 that arrives at the table

00:24:20.340 they go

00:24:20.620 don't touch the stone

00:24:21.540 it's 500 degrees

00:24:22.600 I go

00:24:23.040 well I didn't sign a release

00:24:24.060 on my way in

00:24:24.660 so I actually think

00:24:25.220 this is insane

00:24:25.680 people are drinking alcohol

00:24:26.560 and guess what

00:24:26.800 I'm not capable

00:24:27.980 of holding that thought

00:24:28.840 in my head

00:24:29.300 exactly

00:24:29.620 without a little fence

00:24:31.180 visual around it

00:24:32.500 and I go

00:24:32.660 I was like

00:24:33.620 so palms face down

00:24:35.240 on the

00:24:35.520 you know I made a joke

00:24:36.240 of course

00:24:36.560 couldn't resist

00:24:37.160 yeah of course

00:24:37.780 and he goes

00:24:38.360 so palms

00:24:38.940 so full palm

00:24:39.920 yeah he goes

00:24:40.720 really it's 500 degrees

00:24:42.420 I was like

00:24:42.980 well that's absolutely insane

00:24:44.100 I could have a child

00:24:44.820 that sounds so hot

00:24:46.400 that I'm like

00:24:47.460 it'll

00:24:47.900 it would be a relief

00:24:48.720 if you touched it

00:24:49.320 because it actually

00:24:49.720 wouldn't hurt

00:24:50.200 you wouldn't feel anything

00:24:51.120 right right

00:24:51.560 it would be so hot

00:24:52.600 your ham would be gone

00:24:53.600 yeah

00:24:53.860 wagyu beef

00:24:56.060 little tiny thin slices

00:24:57.780 bam bam on it

00:24:58.860 oh my god 0.97

00:25:00.620 moaning and ecstasy

00:25:01.560 Jacqueline guess what 1.00

00:25:02.420 you and I bitch 1.00

00:25:03.760 we're going to Nobu Malibu 1.00

00:25:05.420 so

00:25:06.420 it was really good

00:25:07.640 we've never had sushi together

00:25:08.580 except for at Blue Ribbon

00:25:10.300 of course oh yeah of course once five years ago how could you forget let's go so it was a full

00:25:16.880 sushi meal full sushi meal moaning and ecstasy but then then then when did the hot part happen

00:25:22.600 and then toward the end my friend goes can we get the wagyu oh right sorry wagyu's here i did get

00:25:29.780 i'm taught i've been thinking about this beef for like days and i know and here i go oh somebody

00:25:38.640 raving about no boo you know i mean it's like sick yeah to fall into that but again i want to

00:25:43.480 stress i didn't pay in fact i had a funny i okay this is i think this is the thing the way you

00:25:48.440 think that the not paying is like like i know like it's it's inside i know you believe it's

00:25:57.220 like communicating some kind of moral something or other like you know like like no boo fell on

00:26:02.420 your head like an anvil out of a window you can't be blamed okay okay someone referenced my miserly

00:26:11.360 ways the other day but um but um Jacqueline I feel like you'll relate to this so I you know 0.54

00:26:18.120 constantly have a fear of looking like I'm lost I don't like to hesitate even for a second right

00:26:22.240 I think I don't know where I am from at a restaurant I don't want to ever ask where the

00:26:26.860 bathroom is or if I do I want to pretend like I briefly forgot but knew the whole time and so

00:26:31.680 so weird

00:26:32.620 so I know

00:26:33.180 and interesting from you

00:26:34.240 from you specifically

00:26:35.240 so I'm in

00:26:35.800 I'm in

00:26:36.260 I'm in the Nobu right

00:26:37.580 and there's two

00:26:38.900 I go 0.99

00:26:40.340 where's the bathroom

00:26:41.300 and I don't want to be like

00:26:43.460 somebody 1.00

00:26:44.240 like a peasant from 1904

00:26:46.160 right

00:26:47.140 where's the bathroom 0.75

00:26:48.220 signaling

00:26:48.680 I've never been here before

00:26:49.760 okay

00:26:50.740 I start getting in my head

00:26:51.980 that's hysterical

00:26:53.200 to not be a regular

00:26:54.060 Nobu you think is a peasant look 0.99

00:26:56.300 what the fuck is wrong with me 0.99

00:26:57.840 to not be like 0.98

00:26:58.420 coming to 30 0.99

00:26:59.080 I don't actually give a shit 0.98

00:27:00.120 but what is this 0.98

00:27:01.600 The thing of not actually giving a shit 0.97

00:27:05.900 and yet having primal responses in the moment 0.99

00:27:07.660 must be discussed.

00:27:10.280 I'd like to discuss that.

00:27:11.320 Okay, I want to discuss this.

00:27:13.260 But listen to this. Those who have been to Nobu Malibu

00:27:15.880 will know. So when you're in there,

00:27:18.220 the bathroom, you look one way,

00:27:19.760 you look the other way.

00:27:20.500 A bunch of listeners to nobody right now go,

00:27:22.540 I've been, even though they haven't.

00:27:25.300 They have the same psychotic response.

00:27:26.900 All right.

00:27:28.540 So there's a bunch of

00:27:30.160 like Japanese characters on the wall, right?

00:27:33.380 Okay.

00:27:33.720 And a huge stone path leading to one side. 0.99

00:27:36.280 And I go, well, clearly that's the fucking bathroom, right? 0.99

00:27:38.840 And I start proudly walking down. 0.99

00:27:40.680 And there's like, it's like a stone path.

00:27:42.400 There's lights.

00:27:43.940 I see someone who works there kind of clock me.

00:27:46.140 And I go, what was that?

00:27:47.800 And then I get to the kitchen.

00:27:49.600 I was walking toward the kitchen, okay?

00:27:51.500 And then somebody goes, oh, are you looking for the bathroom?

00:27:54.260 And instead of just saying, like, yeah.

00:27:57.580 Sorry.

00:27:58.340 No, I wanted to.

00:28:00.160 i kind of did a big so i like i mean i'm like in the kitchen it's like not like i'm like in the

00:28:04.640 kitchen and people are looking at me and i go put me to work boys i like did like a full that's good

00:28:08.960 great okay you had that ready from another time yeah yeah and i and i go i go and then they kind

00:28:16.600 of go yeah the bathroom's over there i don't know how this happened i don't know what made it but i

00:28:21.160 go i was a server for a long time no you didn't but by the way let me clear i i actually shockingly

00:28:26.520 didn't work i just retail okay but i don't know why i said that they didn't need to hear that

00:28:31.300 okay and then live the episode right because that seems like i'm spontaneous lie i know so then i'm

00:28:37.980 it's like what it's like class anxiety it's like what i'm like i'm like hey yeah i didn't pay for

00:28:41.780 the nobumi okay i wouldn't come here i can't afford to have just dinner and wednesday night

00:28:45.640 here this is birthdays only so then i i go yeah i go you know can you believe this me there like

00:28:54.180 put me to work boys

00:28:55.260 I'm just kidding

00:28:55.740 I mean I'm not kidding

00:28:56.360 that much

00:28:56.800 because of course

00:28:57.200 I love to work

00:28:57.900 work is the only thing

00:28:58.820 that saves a man

00:28:59.540 so then I'm humiliated

00:29:02.820 and I debased

00:29:03.600 I've debased myself

00:29:04.700 and then I walk

00:29:05.760 to the other side

00:29:07.540 where the bathroom is

00:29:09.360 see this is very interesting

00:29:10.780 so I mean

00:29:11.840 obviously this relates

00:29:12.860 to your fear about

00:29:13.840 you know

00:29:14.840 not knowing how to

00:29:16.020 handle yourself

00:29:16.560 at a pool alone

00:29:17.540 yeah exactly

00:29:18.500 being alone in the restaurant

00:29:19.400 looking for the bathroom

00:29:20.240 it's just so weird

00:29:21.620 because you're one of the most

00:29:22.980 it's like

00:29:23.680 you're one of the

00:29:25.440 most sort of self-assured

00:29:30.120 and

00:29:30.540 these broad things

00:29:33.060 are just not going to work

00:29:33.740 because who isn't the most confident

00:29:35.060 and the most insecure

00:29:35.760 blah blah blah blah

00:29:36.440 okay but I'm trying

00:29:37.600 I'm trying to find

00:29:38.900 the particular threads here

00:29:40.360 of what's going on

00:29:40.960 I'm like what is it

00:29:41.660 why does Kate Berlint

00:29:43.460 have a fear 0.77

00:29:45.060 right

00:29:45.520 of for a second looking 0.99

00:29:46.960 like she doesn't know 0.80

00:29:48.580 which way she's going

00:29:49.560 when like

00:29:50.080 you also

00:29:52.120 you know

00:29:52.860 actively allow your kind of what you're getting lost energy to be part of you no totally that's

00:29:59.720 the thing i have a spiritual commitment to getting lost right to the powers of that exactly and that's

00:30:04.700 in my and yet at nobu exactly well this is where it is is it like classings that is this some kind

00:30:11.120 of like like deep like you've simul i mean it's almost like you uh yeah you're you're both afraid

00:30:17.180 of looking

00:30:18.040 not up to snuff

00:30:20.340 at Nobu

00:30:21.620 and like

00:30:22.540 and too comfortable there

00:30:23.640 yeah

00:30:23.980 birthdays only

00:30:25.600 birthdays only for me

00:30:26.960 is like

00:30:27.320 is what you think

00:30:28.640 yeah

00:30:29.140 is where you're comfortable

00:30:29.940 is like an appropriate

00:30:31.040 appropriate amount

00:30:32.740 of striving

00:30:33.320 yeah

00:30:33.940 it is interesting though

00:30:35.720 because getting lost

00:30:37.120 and you look

00:30:37.540 and you look cute

00:30:39.100 when you're lost

00:30:39.720 I've seen it

00:30:40.400 you know

00:30:40.720 it's a nice look on you

00:30:42.280 okay

00:30:42.840 it's your jug

00:30:44.000 okay this is huge

00:30:44.540 this is a big moment

00:30:45.340 it's a fresh pair of jugs

00:30:46.500 for you

00:30:46.880 okay

00:30:47.100 if you want to play that game

00:30:49.180 why wouldn't you use it

00:30:50.420 this is good 0.99

00:30:51.200 feminine

00:30:51.540 this is good

00:30:52.600 this is

00:30:53.480 you're hitting something

00:30:54.320 you're hitting something

00:30:55.320 because I feel this is happening

00:30:56.500 in my life

00:30:56.980 this is great

00:30:57.240 look lost

00:30:58.040 this is happening

00:30:58.700 in my life

00:30:59.820 of like something like

00:31:01.500 some other

00:31:02.140 like okay

00:31:02.620 Lord strike me down

00:31:03.900 accept help

00:31:04.520 what

00:31:04.820 is it about accept help

00:31:06.420 no because I think I do accept help

00:31:07.820 you found your way

00:31:08.660 to gently resting a hand

00:31:10.260 on a belly

00:31:10.720 like

00:31:11.000 like

00:31:11.660 this is growth

00:31:13.620 you gently resting your hand

00:31:14.720 on lower abdomen

00:31:15.440 yeah

00:31:15.740 to suggest pregnancy 0.94

00:31:16.680 She's finally asking for what she needs 0.93

00:31:18.380 through the lives that she deserves.

00:31:22.080 I slipped into this voice the other day

00:31:23.800 when I hadn't slept

00:31:24.560 and it was like doing a lot for me.

00:31:28.200 I also woke up yesterday,

00:31:30.060 had a new voice come to me

00:31:31.740 where I just turned to Chris

00:31:33.360 and I went,

00:31:34.100 okay.

00:31:35.440 And I haven't been able to stop doing it for two days.

00:31:38.220 One hand goes up like this.

00:31:40.220 Okay.

00:31:40.700 And I go,

00:31:41.180 I did like nine times in three minutes.

00:31:44.860 I don't know.

00:31:46.060 It was a new...

00:31:46.940 Oh, I bought something from an artisan.

00:31:49.220 Sportsman's lot.

00:31:49.820 I was thinking of you.

00:31:50.640 What?

00:31:51.140 I barter.

00:31:52.400 You know, I paid.

00:31:53.160 What did you buy?

00:31:53.520 I bought something from an artisan.

00:31:54.700 A purring cat.

00:31:55.820 What? 0.70

00:31:56.460 Toy for humans.

00:31:58.720 Trying to get kittens into my parents' house.

00:32:00.480 I'll get it really quick.

00:32:02.080 And she's gone.

00:32:03.260 Oh, yes.

00:32:04.660 Oh, she's getting the cat, I assume.

00:32:06.480 Last night, I ordered something for a cat from the neighbor's cat.

00:32:09.840 When are you going to get cats again?

00:32:11.240 You can talk about that.

00:32:12.380 It's on that.

00:32:12.860 Okay, she's gone.

00:32:13.580 I assume she's going to get the purring cat.

00:32:14.900 I am looking for

00:32:16.320 To adopt some cats

00:32:18.980 For slash with my parents

00:32:20.620 A couple cats

00:32:21.720 Gonna be really therapeutic in my home

00:32:23.080 My dad a huge cat head

00:32:24.540 Doesn't have to be kittens

00:32:26.960 Of course not

00:32:28.100 I don't know

00:32:28.620 I felt like I just had to

00:32:31.100 Show

00:32:32.860 What do we have

00:32:35.320 It was just satisfying little items

00:32:38.300 Okay and this is like a cat with a

00:32:40.100 When you pull the yarn out and purrs

00:32:42.080 That's cute

00:32:42.560 That's fun

00:32:43.920 yeah

00:32:44.960 and then I got

00:32:47.120 last night

00:32:47.740 a classic Amazon order

00:32:49.400 oh

00:32:50.580 I bought from an artist

00:32:52.020 and

00:32:52.320 a small

00:32:54.180 cat sized

00:32:55.860 beach lounger

00:32:57.180 like

00:32:58.340 it looks like a

00:32:59.220 like a poolside

00:33:00.180 looks like a beach lounger

00:33:01.280 with stripes

00:33:01.760 oh that's cute

00:33:02.600 for the cat to hang out by the pool

00:33:03.760 he needs

00:33:04.260 the one that hangs out by me

00:33:05.920 boo

00:33:06.240 but I had to get rid of the other bed 1.00

00:33:07.980 yeah

00:33:08.180 because he

00:33:08.640 it was like

00:33:09.620 got rained on

00:33:10.300 it wasn't like a true bed

00:33:11.480 and so

00:33:12.360 this one looks like

00:33:13.420 It'll dry and I can't wait.

00:33:15.340 I can't wait for the neighbors to see him resting in it.

00:33:17.780 Very cute.

00:33:19.940 You can get your parents some kittens.

00:33:21.480 They can be older because the idea is you want my parents inexplicably.

00:33:24.920 We've had so many cats over the years.

00:33:26.220 None of them are lap cats.

00:33:27.500 Like none of them.

00:33:28.180 Like having these cats that are so like really interesting personalities,

00:33:33.320 but like you cannot, they will not.

00:33:34.580 And it's like, we've got to get cats in there for both of them,

00:33:36.960 particularly my dad, a couple of cats lounging on him.

00:33:40.100 Very good for him.

00:33:41.020 He's obsessed with cats.

00:33:42.020 Yeah.

00:33:42.140 Great.

00:33:42.360 And so there's, you can either, so if you get kittens, one, you can like basically train

00:33:48.380 them to be very comfortable with touch early on.

00:33:51.340 Okay.

00:33:51.460 So this is a huge news.

00:33:53.060 If you get a kitten, you can throw them on your shoulder.

00:33:55.620 Okay.

00:33:55.880 This is great.

00:33:56.980 Oh, you just, all of my cats are lap cats or shoulder cats or whatever.

00:34:01.520 Because you forced it.

00:34:02.380 I don't, yeah.

00:34:03.620 And it doesn't even feel like forcing me because it's just like how I've always been with them.

00:34:08.220 And so it's like, pick up a cat and put it on my shoulder.

00:34:10.700 You know what I mean?

00:34:11.540 Yeah, yeah, totally.

00:34:12.900 I also have ways of holding a cat.

00:34:14.260 I didn't know that.

00:34:14.940 I thought it was like they were born.

00:34:16.700 It needs to feel...

00:34:18.020 It needs to...

00:34:19.200 I mean, I wouldn't force a cat who really had a problem with it.

00:34:21.820 But I just...

00:34:22.360 What I find is that...

00:34:24.760 Like some people don't even have the impulse to like pick up their cat.

00:34:27.920 Okay?

00:34:28.520 And so if you've raised a cat from kittenhood and you've never like tried to pick it up,

00:34:32.060 it's certainly not going to be used to that.

00:34:33.660 And it's going to be what the hell's going on.

00:34:35.040 That's like my parents' last cat.

00:34:35.900 I like to hold cats in this specific way that you've got them like in a hug, but...

00:34:41.540 you put your hand under their feet,

00:34:43.840 their back haunched feet,

00:34:45.640 so they can feel, and they do,

00:34:48.300 that they can freely spring out from that position.

00:34:50.840 It's not like you've closed their feet down.

00:34:54.400 It's like they at any point can spring off of the thing.

00:34:57.200 It's like, so they're in control,

00:34:59.100 but you're also like getting to snuggle them.

00:35:01.680 So cute.

00:35:02.680 Yeah, the cats are going to be hugely therapeutic.

00:35:05.460 But you could also get,

00:35:06.460 it doesn't have to be kitten,

00:35:07.240 you could also, first of all,

00:35:08.400 the shelters are filled with lap cats.

00:35:10.540 We were like, we don't want kittens.

00:35:13.360 You want a cat?

00:35:13.840 You want nothing more.

00:35:14.400 You can be an older cat, like for sure.

00:35:16.600 Like my parents' last cat who was adopted was older.

00:35:20.880 And like, that's totally fine.

00:35:22.800 But then of course, literally it was like a friend was like,

00:35:25.140 oh, I'm fostering like 4,000 kittens.

00:35:26.820 And I was like, okay, well, do we just get two from there? 1.00

00:35:28.760 But my mom is so attached to Maine Coons. 0.99

00:35:32.320 Oh, right. 1.00

00:35:34.020 That we thought that Boo maybe had a little bit of Maine Coon energy.

00:35:40.540 This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather.

00:35:51.100 It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

00:35:56.320 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor, disappeared from a commune.

00:36:00.340 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:36:01.660 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:36:05.320 No, I am not your guru.

00:36:08.500 and back then i lied to my parents i lied to police i lied to everybody there were years

00:36:14.920 right where i could not say your name i've decided to go back to my hometown in northern

00:36:18.840 california interview my friends family talk to police journalists whomever i can to try to find

00:36:24.080 out what actually happened isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies in the woods

00:36:28.700 and not the obvious boyfriend they have had this case for 30 years i'll teach you sons of

00:36:34.360 You come around here with my wife.

00:36:36.320 Boom, boom.

00:36:37.640 This is The Red Weather.

00:36:40.600 Listen to The Red Weather on the iHeartRadio app,

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00:36:48.380 Hello, it's me, Anna Sinfield, from The Girlfriends,

00:36:51.440 the number one hit true crime show

00:36:54.080 that puts women right in the center of their own stories.

00:36:57.920 I'm back with more one-off interviews 1.00

00:37:00.340 with some truly kick-ass women on The Girlfriend's Spotlight. 1.00

00:37:05.280 I want to introduce you to Sylvia. 0.97

00:37:07.760 I'm going to climb this.

00:37:10.140 And then there's Vaisaka.

00:37:12.260 Let's see how we can stop killing and save lives.

00:37:16.360 Leila dared to ask the question.

00:37:18.860 Is badness hereditary?

00:37:20.880 And finally, we'll meet Rosamund.

00:37:22.980 If it wasn't for the year where Ella lived,

00:37:25.820 she wouldn't have died on that fatal night.

00:37:28.760 You'll even get to meet my mum in that one,

00:37:30.480 who I can always count on to keep my feet on the ground.

00:37:33.520 I'm not too intimidated by her.

00:37:34.920 What are you talking about? 1.00

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00:37:49.280 Crook and Chase Nashville chats with the true-life adventures

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00:37:54.240 Early in his career, he shocked his mum more than once,

00:37:57.340 and we even shocked him on what we had to do to get to visit with him.

00:38:02.080 I've seen some people do some crazy things, but nothing like that.

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00:38:17.760 Ever feel like you're being chased by the marriage police?

00:38:21.760 Welcome to Boys and Girls, the podcast where dating isn't dating.

00:38:25.620 It's a full-on love triathlon.

00:38:28.220 A morning what-if, an evening maybe,

00:38:31.360 and a 3pm chai with a could-this-please-be-the-one.

00:38:35.120 Because in the arranged marriage universe,

00:38:36.980 you're basically on a sushi conveyor belt.

00:38:39.020 And like raw fish, you've got a shelf life.

00:38:42.900 And the wild part?

00:38:44.380 You're not just looking for someone you like.

00:38:46.220 You're casting for a mythical hero your entire family approves of.

00:38:49.920 A saint, a demigod, a unicorn.

00:38:52.240 I know because years ago, I sacrificed myself to this chaotic, soul-crushing tradition, hoping to find love the correct way. 1.00

00:39:00.720 Boys and Girls is our absurd, cringy, heartfelt ride through the highs and lows of the Indian arranged marriage, 1.00

00:39:06.900 finally giving you the validation and healing you deserve. 0.94

00:39:11.220 Listen to Boys and Girls starting February 19th on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:39:22.240 I've had cabagio pepe twice in a row now.

00:39:28.080 Is it good?

00:39:28.760 Huge head of cabbage.

00:39:30.020 Okay.

00:39:30.740 Yeah.

00:39:31.180 But I've been doing,

00:39:31.880 I've been combining two Instagram things I saw.

00:39:33.860 One.

00:39:34.120 What do you do?

00:39:35.000 You slice the wedge of cabbage.

00:39:36.820 You put butter in a pan.

00:39:38.220 Okay.

00:39:38.660 Heat it up.

00:39:39.540 You throw the cabbage in there

00:39:40.560 and you treat it like a piece of meat.

00:39:43.420 You hard sear it.

00:39:45.240 Okay. 0.86

00:39:45.560 Yeah.

00:39:45.760 On one of its faces.

00:39:47.660 Hard sear caramelized butter sausage.

00:39:50.380 When that's done,

00:39:51.080 you flip it like a steak.

00:39:52.240 Same thing.

00:39:53.360 Then, after the other side has been hard seared,

00:39:56.140 you throw a little wine, a little broth,

00:39:57.820 throw a little water in the pan,

00:39:59.320 cover the pan,

00:40:00.420 and it sort of cooks the rest of it now.

00:40:02.260 But you got that hard sear first.

00:40:03.580 Listen to you.

00:40:05.880 Listen to you.

00:40:06.700 I've never heard you so focused in my entire life.

00:40:09.760 Soaring.

00:40:10.400 You got that hard sear.

00:40:11.700 You got that hard sear.

00:40:15.200 I feel bad because I saw Anastasia Fascia Beauty.

00:40:18.720 I was thinking today

00:40:22.000 as I was wearing my own merch

00:40:23.400 headed into the Tracy Anderson studio

00:40:24.900 I was thinking

00:40:25.420 rep yourself

00:40:26.200 before you wreck yourself

00:40:29.420 I'm wearing my own merch

00:40:31.200 before you wreck yourself

00:40:32.400 like I'm representing my own self

00:40:35.320 like wear your own merch 0.95

00:40:36.820 before you die

00:40:37.920 or wear your own merch 1.00

00:40:39.880 you get fucked 0.99

00:40:40.420 but I felt like 1.00

00:40:42.520 I saw Anastasia Fashion Beauty

00:40:44.320 I've fallen off microcurrent

00:40:45.720 and I feel like my face

00:40:46.600 has fallen 14 feet

00:40:47.820 really?

00:40:48.620 Yeah.

00:40:49.000 Well, I haven't seen my Pure Lift in six months.

00:40:52.820 Where is it, Jacqueline?

00:40:53.160 Maybe I left it at my parents' house or something.

00:40:55.740 What do you mean?

00:40:56.540 I want the Pure Lift for the love of God.

00:40:59.840 Oh, where is it?

00:41:00.400 You mean it was never a freebie.

00:41:01.960 You know this.

00:41:02.700 You bought yours.

00:41:03.880 I know, but I want one free.

00:41:05.180 Yeah, I remember like Christmas two years ago.

00:41:06.200 Hags recall.

00:41:07.400 And if you can't find yours, then let's get a couple.

00:41:11.020 Yeah, I can't.

00:41:11.920 And it's an old model. 0.61

00:41:14.000 Okay, we need two new Pure Lifts, please. 0.95

00:41:16.200 I just hope Anastasia Fascia Beauty knows.

00:41:18.860 And in my video, I don't think I'm doing perfect form, okay?

00:41:21.320 Because I saw a video come out after that was like showing false form.

00:41:24.680 And like, is it supposed to do this or this?

00:41:26.320 And I was like, yeah, I'm getting this stuff wrong, you know, but like, whatever.

00:41:31.880 So, feeling has fallen out, which can really make you feel like...

00:41:38.040 Were you chewing?

00:41:38.940 It's all falling apart.

00:41:40.260 No, it's flossing.

00:41:41.200 It's just like... 1.00

00:41:42.200 Fuck. 1.00

00:41:43.520 and then it feels 1.00

00:41:45.960 then I began

00:41:46.560 consumed with

00:41:47.680 photographing it

00:41:48.540 and it just feels

00:41:50.080 like a jagged

00:41:51.020 sharp

00:41:51.400 it just feels insane

00:41:53.160 you know like

00:41:53.780 this can't be right

00:41:55.100 and then it's like

00:41:56.320 I don't know

00:41:59.280 we're gonna get you

00:42:01.680 into that dentist

00:42:02.480 do you think

00:42:03.720 we're tongue tied

00:42:05.860 you know this trend

00:42:06.880 by the way

00:42:07.280 oh wait

00:42:07.700 snip snip

00:42:08.640 what 1.00

00:42:09.100 what the fuck is the trend 0.99

00:42:10.920 tongue tied and lip tied 1.00

00:42:11.960 you know 1.00

00:42:12.360 what the fuck 1.00

00:42:13.700 are you talking about 1.00

00:42:14.440 it's like

00:42:15.140 okay

00:42:17.300 what

00:42:18.840 a cosmetic thing 0.98

00:42:20.820 so you know

00:42:21.300 the

00:42:21.720 no

00:42:23.000 well I mean

00:42:23.600 it can help I guess

00:42:25.000 depends okay

00:42:25.940 yeah so you know

00:42:26.820 the tongue tie

00:42:27.340 I've heard about 1.00

00:42:27.860 they're doing that to babies 1.00

00:42:29.300 and they're fucking 0.99

00:42:29.960 everything up 0.97

00:42:30.480 so the tongue tie

00:42:31.240 is the band of fascia

00:42:33.340 under right

00:42:33.900 shouldn't it be tied

00:42:33.920 for a reason

00:42:34.520 yeah

00:42:35.040 well it depends

00:42:36.040 if it's too tight

00:42:36.860 I guess it can

00:42:38.080 be limiting

00:42:39.200 limiting what

00:42:40.020 it can allow you 0.53

00:42:41.220 not to be mewing

00:42:42.020 Well, you know, your tongue's supposed to be on the roof of your mouth. 0.54

00:42:44.020 This is the whole trend, okay?

00:42:45.760 So, for everything, for facial development.

00:42:47.820 I mean, it's a whole thing, okay?

00:42:49.700 Like this?

00:42:51.260 Well, that doesn't look...

00:42:52.660 Tongue should be...

00:42:54.260 Like that.

00:42:55.160 Wait, what's that?

00:42:57.920 That's the roof of your mouth.

00:42:58.940 This is the tongue.

00:42:59.720 But the point...

00:43:00.760 When it's low and hanging down, it causes breathing problems and whatever, okay?

00:43:03.700 Not a point.

00:43:04.700 Flat against the top.

00:43:06.700 Okay.

00:43:07.260 Not that, okay?

00:43:08.920 Not flipped?

00:43:09.640 So, no.

00:43:10.740 all day

00:43:12.540 no

00:43:13.480 well not flipped all day

00:43:14.520 yeah

00:43:15.100 what do you mean flipped

00:43:15.960 like curled

00:43:18.100 like

00:43:18.280 no

00:43:18.820 okay

00:43:19.180 flat

00:43:19.560 okay

00:43:20.260 like um

00:43:21.260 how do they do it

00:43:21.900 like uh

00:43:22.520 king

00:43:22.840 king

00:43:23.660 you say king

00:43:25.100 the other

00:43:26.120 king

00:43:26.920 thing of the tongue

00:43:27.700 kind of flies up to the top

00:43:28.920 king

00:43:30.080 okay

00:43:31.640 actually that's not even it

00:43:34.260 I don't know

00:43:34.800 whatever

00:43:35.440 it's a whole world of

00:43:36.280 it's a whole thing

00:43:36.920 but

00:43:37.140 and like all these people

00:43:38.980 are like

00:43:39.180 so I got my tongue tie released

00:43:40.720 and my life has changed.

00:43:42.880 You know, it's one of these.

00:43:44.340 I don't know.

00:43:45.920 Snip, snip.

00:43:47.000 I don't know if you want to snip that.

00:43:48.640 It seems a little insane.

00:43:52.780 Someone wrote in to us

00:43:54.240 like suggesting we get snipped.

00:43:56.380 Really?

00:43:57.720 How dare you?

00:43:58.740 Kate, your migraines. 0.99

00:44:00.300 Jacqueline, your lisp.

00:44:02.560 They didn't say that,

00:44:03.340 but I'm just waiting for it.

00:44:04.640 Okay.

00:44:05.680 No, but someone definitely wrote in.

00:44:07.860 My jaw.

00:44:08.400 I'm thinking I need to get Botox in my jaw

00:44:11.100 The jaw pain

00:44:12.100 And then also

00:44:12.800 I'm so tight

00:44:14.160 How

00:44:14.400 Open your mouth

00:44:15.280 How far can you open your mouth?

00:44:18.540 I mean far

00:44:19.520 Does it hurt though?

00:44:21.020 Oh yeah I mean

00:44:21.800 It's

00:44:23.260 You know I've always lived in fear of like

00:44:25.000 I'm having to break my jaw

00:44:26.380 Reset it

00:44:27.060 And I look like a different person

00:44:28.280 No one's really breaking jaws out there though

00:44:32.060 Really?

00:44:33.220 They're not the doctor

00:44:34.120 Surgically breaking them

00:44:35.340 For what? 0.99

00:44:36.140 God that would suck 0.96

00:44:36.660 I don't know 0.93

00:44:37.420 maybe it's just like a rational fear I have it's like something I kind of probably heard a story

00:44:41.160 incorrectly when I was 12 and it's been replaying my mind for years I think there's other yeah there's

00:44:46.120 there's a lot of I don't think you'd have to I'm really sorry the personality's off I'm doing my

00:44:51.100 best okay you're doing great the well-being is kicking in well it's so generic and I'm gonna

00:44:56.200 be stuck on it for two weeks and I'll just say this they were like I kind of like lost it on

00:45:00.640 the phone a little like they tried the generic and I go yeah six months of hideous depression 0.96

00:45:04.680 yeah yeah okay you fucks america is so i'm ordering it from canada it'll take two weeks 0.97

00:45:12.440 we'll see we'll see how i do i mean there's nothing to do but laugh i'm just kidding we 0.97

00:45:19.640 can't laugh at that what can't what can't we laugh at oh we gotta tell people even though

00:45:24.820 we haven't sent anything out yet to sign up for the mailing list okay i keep forgetting to post

00:45:29.040 it we collect it and then imagine the things we're gonna do those have signed i've got i see a lot

00:45:33.660 of dms they go i haven't got anything we have never sent anything yet you are signing up for

00:45:39.240 something waiting yeah okay huge i'm talking we might be the only podcast it's like you think

00:45:46.800 about poog we've never sent anything we had a tour we have merch like anyway we're we're working on

00:45:53.920 it we're working on getting um we're business i think i did actually maybe send them and i think

00:45:59.280 it cost me $80

00:46:00.220 and I never

00:46:01.480 invoiced you

00:46:02.240 send what?

00:46:02.600 we never got our 1.00

00:46:03.360 fucking finances 0.99

00:46:04.180 straight 1.00

00:46:05.000 to the Poog email list

00:46:06.160 when we went on tour

00:46:06.900 it's like

00:46:07.720 and I just click it on

00:46:08.680 and I'll get paid

00:46:09.380 like 80 bucks

00:46:10.260 you know like

00:46:10.960 to send emails

00:46:11.560 it costs money

00:46:12.220 are you serious?

00:46:15.000 well yeah

00:46:15.400 yeah

00:46:15.820 maybe that's standard

00:46:16.940 it works out

00:46:17.660 for the dollar

00:46:18.820 the tickets

00:46:19.580 of course

00:46:20.640 of course

00:46:21.020 oh but

00:46:21.440 but um

00:46:22.260 um

00:46:24.260 look I'm wearing

00:46:25.080 two shades of

00:46:26.000 Charlotte Tilbury

00:46:28.060 amazing grace and pillow talk simultaneously covered with tower 28 pistachio i love tower

00:46:36.460 28 pistachio and the tillberry i'm wearing a fenty color that i found that i bought paid for

00:46:42.100 how's the is it is the fenty fairly scented or not really does it get a strong scent this one

00:46:48.460 wasn't tillberry is a little too vanilla yeah i hear you for me i kind of want cosmetic nothingness

00:46:54.780 yeah yeah totally I know I'm always trying to go green on the mouth because you eat your lipstick

00:46:58.760 but sometimes you just need the color two tablespoons a year well really a lot more

00:47:05.000 yeah yeah probably a lot more oh it's a cup and a half men two tablespoons a year that seems high

00:47:12.540 I made that up I'm sorry to be clear I mean I just was like I was actually reaching for a

00:47:18.080 fry hyperbole and I met this like two liters yeah it was too close it's pure fact

00:47:23.860 um okay well

00:47:25.520 I'm seeing you next week I think

00:47:27.600 wait or am I not

00:47:29.060 I gotta force you into a something

00:47:31.940 okay I love you bye

00:47:34.480 alright I love you

00:47:36.500 that was POOG

00:47:42.080 if you enjoyed POOG

00:47:43.520 please subscribe, rate and review

00:47:45.800 if not we will press charges

00:47:53.860 You know Roald Dahl. He thought up Willy Wonka and the BFG.

00:47:57.800 But did you know he was a spy?

00:48:00.140 In the new podcast, The Secret World of Roald Dahl, I'll tell you that story and much, much more.

00:48:05.940 What?

00:48:06.780 You probably won't believe it either.

00:48:08.520 Was this before he wrote his stories? It must have been.

00:48:11.620 Okay, I don't think that's true.

00:48:13.660 I'm telling you. The guy was a spy.

00:48:16.240 Listen to The Secret World of Roald Dahl on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:48:23.860 Hello, it's me, Anna Sinfield, the host of The Girlfriends.

00:48:28.200 I'm back with more one-off interviews

00:48:30.460 with some truly kick-ass women on The Girlfriends Spotlight.

00:48:35.600 I'm going to climb this.

00:48:38.020 Is badness hereditary?

00:48:39.940 Let's see how we can stop killing.

00:48:42.800 I'm not too intimidated by her.

00:48:44.240 What are you talking about? 0.99

00:48:48.260 Listen to The Girlfriends Spotlight on the iHeartRadio app, 0.70

00:48:51.720 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:49:21.720 iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

00:49:26.740 Then she says, have you seen a photo of my son?

00:49:29.820 And I'm like, who is this person?

00:49:31.660 Welcome to the Boys and Girls Podcast.

00:49:33.840 Arranged marriage is basically a reality show,

00:49:36.760 and you're auditioning for your soulmate.

00:49:39.000 And who's judging?

00:49:40.520 Only your entire family?

00:49:41.940 I sacrificed myself to this ancient tradition,

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Poog with Kate Berlant and Jacqueline Novak - May 21, 2024

I Work Nights

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