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00:02:36.100 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:37.600 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:38.720 And this is POOG, an ongoing conversation about wellness between two obsessive friends.

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00:02:50.620 Today's topic, loosely speaking, tick tock.

00:02:53.760 Little Angel, Fear-Based Medicine.

00:02:59.760 Hello.

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00:03:01.580 Before we get into the good stuff,

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00:03:05.880 Don't forget to get your tickets for the tour, folks.

00:03:08.900 It's coming so fast.

00:03:11.640 The merch is being created.

00:03:13.500 The merch is being, what's the word I'm looking for?

00:03:15.400 A manufactured, I mean.

00:03:17.060 Manufactured.

00:03:17.580 Oh, God.

00:03:19.860 Crafted.

00:03:20.600 Us visiting the factory where the merch is being made.

00:03:23.080 Oh, yeah.

00:03:23.760 Just sort of a clipboard and a hard hat.

00:03:27.160 They're happy at the factory.

00:03:29.220 We're actually using like a nice like...

00:03:32.540 Yeah, they are happy at the factory.

00:03:34.580 Okay.

00:03:35.220 All right.

00:03:36.020 There we know.

00:03:36.700 Okay.

00:03:36.820 Oh, by the way, like I'm still looking for an alcohol sponsor.

00:03:41.040 For Pooh?

00:03:41.920 Yes.

00:03:42.300 No, I mean like at our event, imagine like the specialty cocktail.

00:03:46.380 Yeah.

00:03:46.580 Who wants to be the official alcohol?

00:03:48.100 Do you want your alcohol to be blasted and fastened, you know?

00:03:53.760 Totally.

00:03:54.480 Left and right.

00:03:56.540 Oh, you ready?

00:03:58.920 I'm ready.

00:03:59.720 Because I'm about to do something.

00:04:03.140 Oh, she's cracking a Celsius.

00:04:05.280 This is good. 1.00

00:04:06.260 This is good.

00:04:07.800 By the way, guess what I just said?

00:04:09.180 Fired up my heater for the first time.

00:04:11.260 Tis the season to be Holly. 0.88

00:04:14.820 Fired up. 1.00

00:04:15.920 Fired up.

00:04:16.700 How do you feel about intense kind of reimaginings of,

00:04:22.560 like basically harmonics reimaginings of the Christmas carol to the point where the carol

00:04:28.680 is almost non-recognizable. Oh, wow. You made a complete. Do you love it? Is it a thrill?

00:04:35.600 I'm intrigued. Wait, you still haven't acknowledged. I thought you'd be interested

00:04:39.280 in the fact that I'm back, baby. Honey, I hate to say it. You were drinking Celsius

00:04:42.700 at the last one. Last one, I had like two sips. I see. Let it die that way. Yeah. Carried

00:04:49.600 it down it was as heavy as a bucket full we can't be not giving ourselves the drugs we need like

00:04:55.800 caffeine first of all i'm happy to see that you're back i'll quickly i want to take i'm changed i

00:05:01.760 want to take yeah you seem great i'm taking a moment with something that's happening right now

00:05:05.840 i'll walk you through it by the way add 2.0 adhd 2.0 book on my dining room table looking at it

00:05:11.120 right now i see i've forgotten all about it since last day we're gonna do a poog season devoted to

00:05:17.960 ADD. But I think this is a form of ADD. Let me walk you through this. I'll let you know. Here we

00:05:24.460 go. Cleaned out the basement, sorted out, going to post on Pugram. Unbelievable. People that come

00:05:30.540 to your house, they sort it out. It's heaven on earth. Wait, what? That's what you're saying you

00:05:35.300 did? You brought them in? Remember the organizers? I brought them back in, honey. I brought them back.

00:05:39.940 My basement, which was ruining my life every day, brought them back. Unbelievable. You must be

00:05:45.200 rolling in it is all i'm saying honey they're affordable in it they're affordable took one day

00:05:51.220 okay go on so let me tell you this detail in the basement old wooden rocking chair that i brought

00:05:56.880 here for my parents house pretty good shape whatever no why did you bring it there i mean

00:06:03.020 why is it in the basement because you have it doesn't block you haven't found i was using it

00:06:06.120 So was it down there for you to rock next to your stuff while it drives?

00:06:10.940 Next to the rats.

00:06:12.280 No, so didn't want it in the living room anymore.

00:06:16.020 It's a design choice.

00:06:17.100 Took it down to the basement because I'm not going to leave this on the curb.

00:06:19.540 It's kind of a nice thing.

00:06:20.980 Forgot entirely about it.

00:06:22.120 They go, oh, look at this rocking chair.

00:06:23.400 I go, oh, brought it up to my deck to decide what to do with it.

00:06:26.880 I'm in Zoom therapy and thunderous rain begins.

00:06:30.380 I look outside.

00:06:30.960 I see the rocking chair.

00:06:31.640 I go, oh, excuse me, because I'm going to run out to get the rocking chair to save it.

00:06:35.000 I go out.

00:06:35.840 I attempt to bring it inside and the rocking chair is slightly too big for the door frame.

00:06:39.640 So to open up to get the rocking chair inside, I would have to turn it on the latch of the

00:06:44.060 other door to make it French doors.

00:06:46.440 I'd have to turn it into a French door.

00:06:47.740 Do you see how I'm doubting you?

00:06:48.300 Or maybe turn it on the side.

00:06:49.200 I feel really bad about it.

00:06:49.960 Okay.

00:06:50.300 I'm doubting that you could turn it on its side and, and geometried it in.

00:06:54.240 Well, here's the point.

00:06:55.380 But anyway, I'm sorry for that.

00:06:56.420 I just want to acknowledge.

00:06:57.220 I almost broke the chair from anger as I tried to get it in.

00:07:00.740 Couldn't quite figure it out.

00:07:02.420 Meanwhile, TikTok, precious therapy minutes.

00:07:04.580 I mean, this is probably 15 seconds was passing.

00:07:07.380 Oh, TikTok.

00:07:08.640 Yeah, TikTok the clock goes.

00:07:10.180 The original TikTok of the clock.

00:07:12.140 Many have forgotten.

00:07:13.420 Did you know?

00:07:14.040 Many have forgotten what that is.

00:07:16.980 By the way, this is actually really dark

00:07:19.900 because of course, TikTok, there goes your life.

00:07:22.300 They know what they're doing. 1.00

00:07:23.100 They're like, TikTok, we have you by the fucking cunt and throat. 1.00

00:07:28.060 Wait, cunt and what? 1.00

00:07:29.900 And your life is now. 1.00

00:07:32.420 And by the coat.

00:07:33.440 The coat. 0.99

00:07:34.580 they have you by all the jacket huh I said cunt no I heard that I thought you said they have you 0.99

00:07:41.400 by the sea and coat so they got you they got you from the base and they and they got you from 0.96

00:07:50.260 and the lapel throw they've got huge merch opportunity

00:07:56.360 is what is and coat yeah okay c and coat okay so c and i might have to beat me saying it it's

00:08:06.560 too horrible can you believe it's so funny all right go on sorry i'm actually shocked okay

00:08:12.280 so oh yeah tick the chair won't quite fit through okay tick tock there goes your life

00:08:17.500 just as planned so i panic panic's too strong a word i can't get the chair through i look at the

00:08:24.380 door i could unlatch the door that feels too hard i decide to leave the rocking drawer outside in

00:08:29.400 the thunderous rain come inside and then as i'm in therapy i can see the rain pounding down upon it

00:08:35.340 feeling guilt feeling shame thoughts that it's getting that it's getting rained on

00:08:43.660 right yeah so what do you think with that so somebody normal i will acknowledge

00:08:48.160 I would have spaced out for a second.

00:08:49.660 Taking the time.

00:08:50.240 When you were saying about your parents and the curb,

00:08:54.000 was it your parents' chair that they put on the curb

00:08:56.000 and then you felt like, oh, we can't do that?

00:08:58.460 No one put it on the curb.

00:08:59.760 I took it from their house.

00:09:00.780 They didn't want it anymore.

00:09:02.160 I was considering putting it on the curb.

00:09:04.720 And this stays in, to be clear.

00:09:06.200 Sure did.

00:09:06.920 Okay.

00:09:07.420 Oh, you're going to kick it to the curb?

00:09:08.800 I said I wasn't going to put it on the curb.

00:09:11.640 so don't you think somebody not um calcified by bad brain syndrome yes okay would have

00:09:23.320 brought the rocking chair indoors to safety instead of watching the rain pour down upon it

00:09:28.040 do you think that's an add adjacent well you're you would have had to now when you say latch do

00:09:36.040 you just mean one button latch and you open the door or is it like something two at the top at

00:09:41.500 the bottom right not a lot of work it's not like a i hate the sound it makes when i do that yeah

00:09:47.180 and the feeling of the metal metal probably like yeah that's really really really bad also by the

00:09:52.700 way that when i was trying to shimmy the rocking the the rocking chair in hurt my hands you almost

00:09:58.860 said rocking too quickly by the way i know i did almost say that didn't i i also sustained a major

00:10:04.820 elbow injury today i was rushing late wait hold that with all my strength hold that i've never

00:10:10.720 I should hold that thought in my life.

00:10:11.780 I do not wish to.

00:10:13.300 Okay.

00:10:13.560 That's why I stopped myself.

00:10:14.520 I'll hold it.

00:10:15.160 Let's talk about.

00:10:16.000 Is it ADD?

00:10:16.720 You're looking at your list, but we're not done.

00:10:17.980 You asked.

00:10:18.740 Okay.

00:10:19.380 Yeah.

00:10:19.600 Keep going.

00:10:20.500 I think it might be.

00:10:21.780 What do you think about that? 0.89

00:10:22.620 Third wave indirect. 0.68

00:10:24.880 Okay.

00:10:25.780 I think.

00:10:26.420 So.

00:10:27.720 I don't think.

00:10:31.420 Well, I think there are people who actually think things like.

00:10:36.060 It's raining.

00:10:38.740 Maybe I'll take in the chair.

00:10:40.020 I mean, that exists.

00:10:40.720 out there if you can imagine literally but didn't I do that I mean like oh did you I thought you

00:10:45.560 saw it and were triggered no you remembered it was out there no I I said oh my god I think it's

00:10:51.380 about to start raining looked out attempted to rescue the chair as the early drops were coming

00:10:56.480 so you you and how long has the chair been out there at this point weeks four or five days

00:11:02.540 okay no I think that shows strong executive functioning okay that you know you were able

00:11:09.000 to remember that there was a chair out there and that it was triggered by the brain so I will

00:11:12.900 acknowledge that however I also will acknowledge that things like because I think about you every

00:11:18.080 time I don't pick something up after I drop it right yeah because we both do that and you know

00:11:24.560 I'm working on changing that okay but not always frankly okay because because yeah you can't risk

00:11:33.460 leaning down to picking it up and a thought occurring, or you're seeing something that

00:11:39.600 takes you on to another task. So a massive part of all the things that look like

00:11:47.200 a kind of carelessness or an attempt to retain continuity of thought on whatever, I mean,

00:11:53.460 I mean, I genuinely, it's either gotten to, or I'm finally becoming aware of

00:11:59.100 that I can you know um turn my head and I'm like yesterday like I could try to go up the stairs

00:12:07.140 and decide like something I forget how how it happened right there were things to be done

00:12:12.820 wildly behind right and then I'm I'm suddenly I'm on my side nailing these little clips

00:12:21.480 into the stairwell for plans of permanently being able to just have a place to hang Christmas lights

00:12:29.020 and route them up the stairwell 0.87

00:12:30.920 so there could be a tiny tree on the landing

00:12:32.840 and it goes under the stairwell.

00:12:34.480 You're on your side nailing clips.

00:12:37.280 For tree lights, for lights, for Christmas lights, okay?

00:12:40.700 To be clipped to the...

00:12:41.820 Clipped so they can boat,

00:12:43.080 so that there's the tree on the landing

00:12:44.640 and then that same strand of lights

00:12:46.980 can wind up the staircase,

00:12:48.820 but I don't want to have to step over lights.

00:12:50.620 Yeah, yeah, sure.

00:12:51.340 So I'm installing,

00:12:53.040 it's like on the way up the stairs,

00:12:54.600 I'm fixing the stairs.

00:12:56.220 Yeah.

00:12:56.660 It's non-stop.

00:12:59.440 And then the reason everything's out on the desk

00:13:01.140 and out on the floor and out everywhere

00:13:03.580 and resting on tops

00:13:04.760 is because we need a visual trigger.

00:13:07.140 Here's a question.

00:13:08.220 When's the last time you read a book?

00:13:11.380 A full book?

00:13:13.020 Yeah.

00:13:13.600 Because I would say right now I'm reading,

00:13:15.560 like I'm in the midst of reading, right?

00:13:18.200 It's actually more like there's a hundred.

00:13:21.060 I mean cover to cover.

00:13:22.020 There's a hundred and I'm in and out.

00:13:23.480 Cover to cover.

00:13:24.640 Oh, cover to cover.

00:13:25.740 I will knock out a book that promises me a life change okay yeah like I will sit down and read

00:13:32.180 you know Mark Hyman detox solution or something like that you read that and I will knock it out 0.98

00:13:39.320 well bitch you read that years ago it's an old one not the new one okay okay or so those like 0.97

00:13:44.940 I'll go in like if I go into my like iBooks it'll be like 100% complete you know like anything like 0.96

00:13:51.720 anything like that something denser but fiction that um so there's books placed around the home

00:13:59.400 right and see I just got distracted okay okay so I like picked up my phone and that was an issue

00:14:07.300 all right I still have my two phone system and it's working great I only have Instagram on my

00:14:12.860 old phone really I mean that's huge I have to tell you all right it's huge I don't have Twitter on

00:14:18.700 there I only have Instagram on the old phone and now when I go on to Instagram it's like it looks

00:14:24.020 weird because it's on the old phone it looks shitty by the way I'm locked out I want to be

00:14:29.980 clear I couldn't even download Instagram on my new phone if I wanted to because I'm locked out

00:14:33.800 and I'm locked out on my computer so it's actually a blessing like you don't have a password and you

00:14:38.000 don't want to reset it because it's too many steps actually it's worse than that I do know my password

00:14:41.820 two-step authentication it goes okay enter in your text we'll send you a code sorry enter in

00:14:47.660 your phone number. I enter my phone number. They go, we sent the code. No, you fucking didn't.

00:14:52.020 Yeah, I know. Never has a code been received. So these are the kinds of things that make me 0.99

00:14:56.560 awake in the night screaming. Explain that to me. I enter my phone number. We sent the code. No,

00:15:01.760 you didn't. And then what? I have found password recovery to be one of the most broken systems

00:15:07.680 in this world. It really is. It really is. And it's all masquerading. We're recovering daily.

00:15:14.080 we're daily recovery oh i mean and then we're in recovery and then how dare yeah how dare you 1.00

00:15:21.080 then save the wrong password like in the keychain yeah these fuckers do you not feel like a pit in 0.99

00:15:29.560 your stomach when when the keychain is mentioned by your computer it's so by the way i downloaded 0.98

00:15:34.880 one password or whatever like some they were like this is it this is the thing okay that will change

00:15:39.760 your entire password game it's like taking up space on my computer it's nary to be offering

00:15:46.360 me anything the honor system no more passwords okay this is interesting system because here's

00:15:53.700 the thing this is bold and i'm listening what do you want because what do you want because like

00:15:57.660 from privacy right yeah what do you really well what is a dm i mean yeah i mean how about the

00:16:05.640 honor system like how about this

00:16:07.660 only shitty passwords and if you

00:16:09.560 guess if you do the work to guess it you get

00:16:11.580 an alert someone has logged in 0.99

00:16:13.200 and you go shit well 0.97

00:16:15.580 like that's almost better 0.99

00:16:16.940 no I mean I

00:16:19.480 look I love a radical

00:16:21.180 idea you know what I mean

00:16:23.400 and and solution and so

00:16:25.200 I am searching for how this

00:16:27.500 makes sense and I believe I can find a way

00:16:29.660 but initially you know I won't

00:16:31.680 I won't lie I'm afraid okay that sounds scary

00:16:33.520 by the way I get it

00:16:35.580 well you know what I just think some websites on our system when I'm logging in when I'm doing 0.52

00:16:42.240 two-step authentication for a fucking whatever it's no I know I know today I ordered everyone's

00:16:51.100 lives and by the way I have a friend in her 60s no actually she's 80 writes it down no she's like 0.96

00:16:58.540 oh sorry every time I see her she's like I can't figure out the passwords it's too much and I'm

00:17:02.540 I'm like, I fucking bet it all. 0.77

00:17:03.720 It's elder abuse. 0.99

00:17:05.480 It's all abuse.

00:17:06.680 If I'm struggling, it's all abuse. 0.99

00:17:09.020 That's for fucking sure. 0.98

00:17:10.320 And by the way, someone five years younger than me, 0.98

00:17:12.840 Dextra sent away with technology that I'll never be.

00:17:15.300 Really?

00:17:15.600 It's absolutely shocking.

00:17:16.600 Within five years, it changes.

00:17:18.540 That's why, as we've talked about,

00:17:19.740 the baby's being born today on their iPods at four months.

00:17:23.200 By the way, they're cyborgs.

00:17:23.680 You know what they're doing now.

00:17:24.640 They're resting the baby's body.

00:17:27.400 Instead of skin to skin, directly on a large iPad.

00:17:30.860 Skin to screen.

00:17:31.480 Skin to screen

00:17:32.780 It goes right onto the iPad

00:17:34.460 It's like an attune to its frequency

00:17:36.840 Completely

00:17:37.940 And the parents should be held accountable 0.97

00:17:41.040 And I don't want to fucking hear that 0.99

00:17:42.300 Oh, you don't understand, you don't have kids 1.00

00:17:44.100 How about this, don't have fucking kids 1.00

00:17:45.820 If you're going to put a screen in front of their face 1.00

00:17:47.160 How about that, take responsibility for it

00:17:50.080 By the way, I might lose listeners

00:17:51.300 I might lose listeners to this, people aren't going to like this

00:17:53.480 And listen, I'm not saying it's easy

00:17:55.780 I'm not saying it's easy, doll

00:17:57.460 I'm addicted, but how about this

00:17:59.960 how about this

00:18:00.820 don't have the kid 1.00

00:18:01.540 if you want to scream baby

00:18:03.160 how is it not easy

00:18:03.960 how about

00:18:04.320 and is it easy 0.96

00:18:05.080 you better fucking believe it's not 0.97

00:18:07.200 can't imagine 0.99

00:18:07.880 well that's why

00:18:08.980 maybe don't bring the iPad to dinner 0.95

00:18:10.480 maybe force your child

00:18:12.180 to develop a brain

00:18:13.020 because guess what

00:18:13.660 I'm worried about the future

00:18:14.760 and these kids here

00:18:16.380 they're becoming something else

00:18:18.220 can a brain save them

00:18:18.580 I mean

00:18:19.040 have a kid

00:18:20.180 learn Photoshop

00:18:21.120 that sounds fun

00:18:22.000 right

00:18:22.600 when they're 12

00:18:23.620 when they're 8

00:18:24.920 yeah

00:18:25.560 when they're still technically

00:18:26.740 in the womb

00:18:27.520 and you have the screen

00:18:28.400 in front of them

00:18:29.000 that's when I get

00:18:29.660 a little high and mighty, and I go, maybe

00:18:31.660 you weren't ready. Maybe you feel a texture.

00:18:34.960 Maybe you weren't ready.

00:18:35.960 Wait, who wasn't ready? Oh, the parent.

00:18:37.860 Yeah. Yeah. Convenience

00:18:40.020 at the expense of what? The future

00:18:42.000 of the species? Well, yeah, and also just

00:18:43.780 my, again, my

00:18:45.400 well, you know, you hear this kind of, you hear

00:18:47.700 this, some people, and it's really 0.99

00:18:49.340 honestly pathetic. People who 0.98

00:18:51.300 claim that one of, like, that, like a reason to have

00:18:53.580 kids, like, they're like, well, someone's

00:18:55.780 gotta take care of you when you're older.

00:18:58.080 That's one of the top two reasons.

00:18:59.760 Okay, and it's like, first of all, no guarantees.

00:19:05.600 For sure. 1.00

00:19:06.320 You could have a kid who, A, sucks. 1.00

00:19:10.420 B, is a murderer. 1.00

00:19:14.520 That at least provides some interest.

00:19:17.760 You don't really connect.

00:19:18.640 An opportunity for a memoir, a career.

00:19:22.040 Where are you with murderous children?

00:19:25.580 No, well, murderous children, obviously. 0.99

00:19:26.880 If you die by the hand of your child, obviously you deserved it, right? 0.93

00:19:30.860 But here's a question. 0.58

00:19:33.520 In adulthood, have you been around what you perceive as an adult child around their parent?

00:19:40.320 And it's clear to you, the parent and kid just don't really connect, but it's not.

00:19:45.060 It's because the kid's kind of a dud.

00:19:47.140 Because I feel like I've-

00:19:48.520 Witness that.

00:19:48.940 The parent is a songstress of humanity.

00:19:51.340 Well, here's what's scary.

00:19:52.060 Two great parents, charming, loving it, wonderful people.

00:19:56.060 and they have kids that you're connecting with the parent i'm like now this guy i'm interested

00:20:02.780 the parent you go great and then you meet the kids and you go hi yay yay and i'm not talking

00:20:07.100 about a 12 year old i'm talking about an adult i'm talking about a 30 year old who's fully cooked

00:20:10.700 who just doesn't have it and by the way i'll suspend i'll go i'll be bold enough and go i

00:20:19.740 don't know them who knows maybe it was a bad light i think i've had enough times like bad

00:20:25.000 impressions completely who among us we've all given off bad impressions I'm talking about

00:20:29.740 someone that you've repeatedly been around you go they I can officially diagnose them they don't

00:20:33.560 have it and by it you mean kind of human kind of kind of radiance yeah they don't have radiance

00:20:40.000 they're not getting selected they're not getting curated from your dinner parties

00:20:43.600 definitely not definitely not making no but I'm actually I'm saying that is the highest

00:20:47.520 level of the most narrow okay rarefied stratus right I'm saying I'm curious when you say

00:20:54.920 dud you know to what level you're talking about like like like personality wise i just mean someone

00:21:00.920 who a hasn't is kind of refusing to reach adulthood for whatever reason less soulfulness 0.97

00:21:08.780 that's where i'm going which i think maybe maybe like a lack of um i you know what i'm a fucking 0.96

00:21:14.860 asshole because i'm thinking about this i'm going why must the child i don't think this person is 0.98

00:21:22.160 worthless i don't think anyone is worthless i just am saying how hard is the record let's get 0.96

00:21:27.960 that on the record right now that i think every that no one is worthless and honestly no one

00:21:33.620 really is special okay well yeah but like i'll go even further here's what i want to say i'm talking

00:21:40.100 about the heartbreak of having a child they grow up and you go i just can't have a i can't bat the

00:21:44.100 ball around with my kid i can't really connect with my kid which people have and that would break

00:21:49.220 me down or maybe not i go you know there's actually something really cool about going my kid

00:21:54.760 god they're a freak right we can hardly get it we can we have nothing to talk about but i love them

00:22:00.760 they're my child that's cool very and then you should be a parent i think well i do kind of

00:22:04.780 think that's the only way that's the only way to parent that is the only way we recognize that

00:22:08.340 there's something that they are not a god not here they're yeah the hand they're not your

00:22:14.240 creation yeah the hand of god and then also offer i'm saying people who are breeding caretakers

00:22:18.920 yeah that's what you were saying yeah i'm breeding a caretaker i'm breeding a best friend

00:22:23.020 and i'm in danger of this is not who knows what sorry do you not disturb isn't working

00:22:28.260 and this is how i live my life and as you can see we're becoming disturbed

00:22:31.860 and look my eyes scanning to see what i was disturbed by all right hold on

00:22:36.400 i don't know i might have kids might not who knows but i worry i can't have a child or do that

00:22:46.980 unless i'm prepared to have a kid that i go eh but i think that ultimately you love the kid

00:22:53.040 regardless but what like yeah i think that's actually what we're talking about here okay

00:22:56.960 we're talking about you okay and your fear right and and the fear of exactly what you're describing

00:23:03.660 But it's because you're still stuck on the-

00:23:06.560 What am I talking about? I have a little angel.

00:23:08.260 What?

00:23:08.960 I'm sorry, I keep going.

00:23:10.040 I have a little angel.

00:23:12.100 That's what your paralysis, or your like,

00:23:16.220 wait, say it again.

00:23:16.940 I heard a little angel.

00:23:18.120 I said, I'd have.

00:23:20.360 I'd have a little angel.

00:23:21.740 Right, which is the-

00:23:22.920 Well, you know my deepest-

00:23:23.740 Curse to believe.

00:23:24.940 You want to know my darkest secret that I'm saying on air

00:23:27.440 to the millions of listeners of Boog?

00:23:31.360 I can't say it.

00:23:31.940 It's too viral.

00:23:32.300 Millions, you're going to say it in one second, but I just want to say something.

00:23:35.060 Millions, you know what's interesting?

00:23:36.480 Could be millions.

00:23:37.220 If you said millions upon millions, I'm going to explain why I'm bringing this up.

00:23:41.180 Okay.

00:23:41.800 Technically, that's a minimum of four million.

00:23:43.940 Okay?

00:23:44.840 Because millions, for there to be plural.

00:23:46.580 Right, right, right.

00:23:47.200 It's two.

00:23:47.940 And then millions and millions, right?

00:23:50.120 Mm-hmm.

00:23:50.680 This was like a thing they went after.

00:23:53.120 What's his name for?

00:23:53.900 The guy who did the original Cosmos.

00:23:58.520 Sagan?

00:23:59.480 Yes.

00:24:00.140 Okay.

00:24:00.480 Yeah.

00:24:00.660 Because he was like, you know, like, and, you know, can't pull the fact correctly, you know, but it would be like billions upon billions.

00:24:08.480 And they were like, that's four billion when actually like, sir, it was, you know.

00:24:12.780 Two.

00:24:13.240 Yeah.

00:24:13.880 Anyway, I kind of like love that.

00:24:16.780 Really quick jutting in.

00:24:17.960 You have the Lima on your face. 0.77

00:24:19.460 Yeah.

00:24:19.960 I took a sticker off mine.

00:24:21.460 Was that a mistake?

00:24:23.140 Interesting.

00:24:23.880 I see how you have your sticker on.

00:24:26.180 Well, I'll explain.

00:24:27.940 Oh, God.

00:24:28.400 what first I want to know first I want to know why you'd be worried that you took no you didn't

00:24:33.820 okay be at ease but we're not moving on just so you've gotten your little pacification okay

00:24:39.060 because I saw some other I want to investigate why you asked I saw a woman on the internet using

00:24:44.620 her lima and she had the sticker that you have on to be clear for the listener the sticker is this

00:24:48.740 kind of industrial looking thing it has like instructions on it right I don't think it uh

00:24:53.380 But it's peelable.

00:24:55.200 Yeah, it's peelable.

00:24:56.340 It has a QR code.

00:24:57.540 It has a barcode as well.

00:25:00.380 It has...

00:25:01.760 Sounds like key information.

00:25:03.540 It says like, you know, three, six volt DC battery type.

00:25:07.420 It says things like that.

00:25:08.900 But it is a very...

00:25:10.460 There's no marketing language on it.

00:25:12.520 There's no instructions on it.

00:25:14.740 So are you wondering why it's on mine?

00:25:17.580 Yeah, why'd you leave it on?

00:25:18.500 Why'd you make that choice?

00:25:19.840 Well, one, the sticker does kind of remind me

00:25:22.260 of the excitement of it being a new technology yeah or or a new like purchase oh my god i'm

00:25:28.360 limaing today and i'm starting a 30-day lima religious skincare and supplement ceremony so

00:25:35.360 i have been literally doing it okay i have ever done anything this consistently in my life i don't

00:25:41.100 know because oh my god so i sent you a picture of my face on day one so we'll see where i am

00:25:47.660 Yeah, yeah.

00:25:48.500 You look amazing.

00:25:49.520 Tell me right now, are you seeing results?

00:25:51.100 Out with it?

00:25:52.240 Well, this morning I was tempted to be like,

00:25:54.740 jury's out, okay?

00:25:56.500 And it's only been like, I don't know.

00:25:59.420 I should check when I sent you that photo. 0.98

00:26:00.900 I think they say like two weeks of religious whatever the fuck. 0.96

00:26:04.580 Yeah, they're like one week, it's, you know, 0.99

00:26:07.080 the one week is very like, almost feels like, you know,

00:26:10.960 oh, you never used moisturizer before.

00:26:13.540 You know, like the early promises.

00:26:14.900 Because, you know, when they say like 80% of users, they're like, noticed increased

00:26:20.680 hydration, like when you're using a moisturizer and they're like compared to nothing at all.

00:26:25.620 You know, it's just like, okay, cool.

00:26:27.060 Like I'm waiting for, you know, serious, what's happening at month three, right?

00:26:31.120 Yeah.

00:26:31.660 But, what?

00:26:33.040 What was I saying?

00:26:33.960 I couldn't tell you.

00:26:35.580 Results.

00:26:36.820 Oh, yeah.

00:26:37.140 So it was like, jury's out.

00:26:38.120 And then I like pulled up, pulled up the phone and I was like, it might be that I'm not

00:26:42.900 noticing the things it's affecting because they're not things I normally worry about oh interesting

00:26:47.660 right I'm getting a hydro facial so at your derm yeah my derm I bought a package you've spoken of

00:26:54.660 like like I haven't gotten a facial in two years I don't know like I woke up this morning I'm sure

00:27:00.700 that's not quite microcurrent going I fell off microcurrent here come the jowls well and guess

00:27:09.820 who's not washing it is impossible muscular work Kate it is impossible to do anything wait wait

00:27:16.140 Jacqueline remember I said I was gonna do beauty shaman two-week trial and I didn't well beauty 0.98

00:27:21.160 shaman yes is is the woman that we follow who's gorgeous who massages her face freakishly and 1.00

00:27:26.860 endlessly all day long and it works and she has a two-week thing where you can sign up and she'll

00:27:32.160 teach you how to touch your face I mean it's a it's the structure and I'm into that I'm into

00:27:37.040 that whole psychologically. I just want to say, this is the face of ADD. No, not even that. Well,

00:27:41.940 first of all, I do want to like, somebody better be notating. Okay. The things that we haven't

00:27:46.580 finished saying in the episode, that could be huge. That could be the entire second half of

00:27:50.280 the episode. Do you see what I'm saying? So for example, I haven't answered about the sticker.

00:27:54.640 I haven't said the thing about my books about ADD. Oh shit. Right. So I just want to say, 0.99

00:27:59.560 but one example is as I pull up my phone to remember, cause I wanted to share something

00:28:02.900 from the iBooks

00:28:03.780 about how many books

00:28:04.540 you're reading,

00:28:04.880 whatever.

00:28:05.320 Yeah.

00:28:05.760 So I type in I

00:28:06.740 and then I see I'm,

00:28:08.500 I started to type in M

00:28:09.600 for iMovie,

00:28:10.800 which I've never used

00:28:12.120 on my phone.

00:28:13.240 Actually,

00:28:13.520 I have a couple times.

00:28:14.360 Yeah.

00:28:14.740 But this is the point.

00:28:16.340 There's automations happening.

00:28:18.780 I have a lot of automations

00:28:20.120 as a result of not being able

00:28:21.860 to consciously retain

00:28:22.820 the stream of thought,

00:28:24.520 for example.

00:28:25.820 So then automations,

00:28:26.840 so for example,

00:28:27.560 I go home with someone else's thing

00:28:29.480 in my purse.

00:28:30.180 Okay.

00:28:30.760 Mine.

00:28:31.040 Because I automatically, oh, I go home with restaurant napkins a lot.

00:28:36.300 That is so funny.

00:28:37.220 Because when we're talking, right, we're talking.

00:28:39.960 One time I left the store, Ricky's, with like a grill,

00:28:42.780 like a gold medal grill thing that was just sitting on the counter.

00:28:46.040 And it's not unconscious stealing.

00:28:47.360 I want to be very clear.

00:28:48.680 Okay.

00:28:49.480 Yeah.

00:28:49.760 It is, it's, I'm so used to leaving things behind that are mine

00:28:53.980 that as I'm leaving and I'm engaged in whatever I'm thinking or talking about,

00:28:56.960 my hand just sweeps, sweeps whatever into the bag.

00:28:59.460 I go home clutching the napkin

00:29:01.860 you with the restaurant napkin at home

00:29:03.540 is absolutely astonishing

00:29:04.720 more than once this has happened

00:29:06.620 yep

00:29:07.200 I have a Via Corroda napkin

00:29:10.180 yeah

00:29:12.700 so

00:29:16.800 I brought this up

00:29:19.440 because like it made me laugh

00:29:20.660 like notes from the underground

00:29:21.860 2%

00:29:23.200 because you know iMovie

00:29:25.740 I mean iBooks

00:29:26.480 there we go again

00:29:27.720 this time verbally

00:29:28.780 tried to say iMovie

00:29:30.440 there we go third time

00:29:32.340 I tried to say iBooks

00:29:33.360 iMovie flew out 0.99

00:29:34.600 do you want to hear the fucking 1.00

00:29:36.540 some of the shit in my library 1.00

00:29:38.760 yep 1.00

00:29:39.440 meander spiral explode

00:29:41.860 that's about alternate natural shapes

00:29:43.880 other than the climax

00:29:45.620 okay which is obviously

00:29:47.620 very you know

00:29:49.980 of narrative okay whatever 1.00

00:29:51.820 Jane Allison meander spiral explode

00:29:53.980 okay then we got 0.98

00:29:55.300 made into mother 25%

00:29:58.320 Obviously, I found that compelling. 0.76

00:30:00.860 Civil mind control method, 15%.

00:30:03.300 I can't read a book on a screen.

00:30:05.540 Never split the difference.

00:30:06.860 This is about negotiation tactics from a hostage negotiator.

00:30:10.580 You're joking.

00:30:11.800 80%.

00:30:12.360 Oh, wow.

00:30:17.920 What do we have that's interesting?

00:30:19.680 I have a multiple.

00:30:20.700 The Dr. Mark Hyman Library.

00:30:22.700 I have multiple.

00:30:25.100 Let's see. 1.00

00:30:25.840 I want Dr. Mark Hyman's shit tester or whatever. 1.00

00:30:31.640 It's his program where you, I think, shit, piss, give blood, whatever. 1.00

00:30:37.180 And they go, here's what's wrong with you, doll. 1.00

00:30:40.100 And yeah, well, I had my cousin Viome and three times I attempted to send it in and three times I was foiled.

00:30:47.540 I got to do Viome.

00:30:48.620 I mean, that's the ADD of that.

00:30:50.280 Viome's top shelf, too.

00:30:51.360 Imagine collecting a stool sample three times.

00:30:53.820 That's shocking.

00:30:54.240 every single time

00:30:55.040 forgetting to send it in.

00:30:57.700 And it's sitting in a box.

00:30:59.620 Girl.

00:31:00.620 Now, I want to be very clear.

00:31:02.500 It's inside a solution

00:31:06.680 inside a test tube.

00:31:08.680 Okay, so it's not

00:31:09.320 what you think it is. 0.99

00:31:11.200 It's not a box of shit 0.99

00:31:11.900 next to your takeout. 0.99

00:31:13.420 Yeah.

00:31:13.680 Okay.

00:31:15.580 Yeah.

00:31:16.760 Uh-oh.

00:31:17.340 I thought this was Szechuan. 1.00

00:31:19.760 Sorry, so stupid. 0.99

00:31:23.400 Yeah. 0.99

00:31:24.240 Interesting. The freedom of self-forgetness.

00:31:26.800 That's a sample. I wonder what that the hell means.

00:31:30.660 What?

00:31:31.900 Self-compassion, 66%.

00:31:34.180 Decided on pursuing that.

00:31:37.220 Have we?

00:31:38.540 I'm just giving sort of my poo relevant.

00:31:41.900 The cat whisperer, 82%.

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00:35:29.240 Do you want to know why I kept a sticker on?

00:35:31.080 I feel like there's another reason.

00:35:31.980 Oh, I know what it is.

00:35:32.900 It's ADD related.

00:35:34.240 So, hey, don't get mad at me.

00:35:35.800 I'm not mad.

00:35:36.340 I'm excited.

00:35:36.900 All right.

00:35:37.220 So

00:35:38.100 You want to be careful

00:35:40.300 When you pull a sticker off

00:35:41.480 If you do it

00:35:43.200 In too chilly a scenario

00:35:44.860 You risk

00:35:46.500 The adhesive

00:35:47.580 Remaining on the thing

00:35:48.640 And then you spend

00:35:49.080 The rest of your life

00:35:49.800 Rolling your thumb on it

00:35:50.820 Trying to get the little bits

00:35:51.740 Of the adhesive off

00:35:52.600 Okay so I'm gonna tell you this

00:35:53.560 That sticker of the Lima

00:35:54.660 Came off effortlessly

00:35:55.860 Really?

00:35:56.700 I have a smooth one

00:35:57.620 Yeah it's effortless

00:35:58.420 Were you in a warm

00:35:59.500 No honey

00:36:00.580 Well I guess the heat

00:36:01.280 Wasn't on yet

00:36:02.260 Colded it off in bed

00:36:03.660 Should I peel a corner

00:36:04.980 To test it?

00:36:05.780 I'm scared

00:36:06.240 oh my god

00:36:07.220 do it live

00:36:08.000 do it live

00:36:08.520 I'm scared

00:36:09.080 do it live

00:36:09.960 I believe in you

00:36:10.500 I did it

00:36:10.920 it was beautiful

00:36:11.440 and then you get

00:36:12.220 a beautiful shaft

00:36:13.220 without the sticker

00:36:14.180 I just found the sticker

00:36:15.000 aesthetically

00:36:15.820 I'm like

00:36:16.080 I want to be cozying on X

00:36:17.460 so that makes me feel like

00:36:18.160 I'm

00:36:18.380 I don't know

00:36:19.280 but there is some

00:36:20.520 interesting information

00:36:21.420 like the battery type

00:36:23.000 I don't want to

00:36:24.160 I could not

00:36:24.840 then I could not

00:36:25.660 google that I need

00:36:26.460 a 3.6 DC

00:36:27.600 that's easily found online

00:36:27.740 that's found online honey

00:36:29.360 I guess either way

00:36:30.620 I'd have to type

00:36:31.500 3.6 volt DC

00:36:33.700 into the store search

00:36:35.800 so in replacing a battery

00:36:38.440 you just

00:36:39.480 I don't know

00:36:40.160 that QR code

00:36:40.960 doesn't call to you

00:36:41.820 I don't know

00:36:42.280 I'm suddenly afraid

00:36:43.180 I think what I like about it

00:36:44.840 is it

00:36:45.200 it feels medical

00:36:46.720 yeah

00:36:47.620 sure does

00:36:48.360 and the second I remove it

00:36:49.940 I wonder if I'll show

00:36:50.560 like doubting it's

00:36:51.640 by the way

00:36:52.540 they like won

00:36:53.140 like something

00:36:54.100 time

00:36:54.720 invention or something

00:36:56.080 I'm peeling it off

00:36:57.780 because you know what

00:36:59.120 automated

00:37:00.780 my body went automated

00:37:02.180 yeah

00:37:02.520 I was starting to think

00:37:03.260 about time magazine

00:37:04.160 it started pulling it off

00:37:05.220 I'm starting to think of Time Magazine.

00:37:07.580 Yeah, I just said they want a Time Magazine thing.

00:37:09.740 Oh, yeah.

00:37:10.180 That's cool.

00:37:10.740 I'm scared.

00:37:11.760 I believe in you.

00:37:13.060 I think I need to warm it up a little.

00:37:14.720 You don't.

00:37:15.740 I did it raw.

00:37:16.880 But we don't know what temperature you did it in.

00:37:18.940 I think I ripped the sticker off before I even did it.

00:37:21.780 I think it was cool.

00:37:22.860 Right.

00:37:28.540 Oh, you know it's the real question.

00:37:30.020 There she goes. 0.99

00:37:30.740 She's peeling.

00:37:31.160 Could you wrap it in a non-toxic plastic? 1.00

00:37:35.220 of sorts and stick it in your mouth oh no kate what happened at the end i i'm fucked i heard 0.99

00:37:45.480 something what at the end it got a little sticky there yeah and that'll come off easy i mean 1.00

00:37:50.980 that'll come off easily honey fuck okay it feels fucking it's rolling off under my thumb and i 0.97

00:37:55.980 guess there is a strange or satisfaction actually tired of this sort of language of strange 0.99

00:38:01.340 satisfaction that has permeated the culture it's oddly satisfying it's true it's a strange

00:38:09.040 satisfaction how about it's satisfying oh i know i know language in the culture right now like

00:38:13.440 oddly satisfying videos strange it's strangely satisfying too it's just satisfying aren't we

00:38:19.720 familiar now you know what i mean like of course it's almost like when guilty pleasure went for a

00:38:24.700 while and had to be it's like it's almost weird that sex would feel good because it's so weird 0.81

00:38:30.380 and gross 0.90

00:38:30.980 therefore

00:38:33.220 even why does

00:38:34.000 no one say

00:38:34.520 oddly

00:38:35.080 like that's

00:38:35.960 been accepted

00:38:36.340 oddly I

00:38:36.960 this is weirdly

00:38:38.240 yeah

00:38:38.780 also when like

00:38:39.640 90% of the population

00:38:41.380 enjoys like

00:38:42.780 I don't know

00:38:43.840 like

00:38:44.200 it'd be like

00:38:45.100 petting a cat

00:38:45.960 you know

00:38:46.540 like they're like

00:38:47.020 it's oddly satisfying

00:38:48.400 like if that was

00:38:48.860 like a piece of

00:38:49.260 observational humor

00:38:50.460 in like

00:38:51.240 1820

00:38:52.520 they're like

00:38:53.680 prehistoric

00:38:54.320 drag your hand

00:38:54.880 across a cat

00:38:55.580 observational comedy

00:38:57.000 it's oddly

00:38:57.780 satisfying

00:38:59.020 do you think it's bold that i'm going to get a hydrofacial and then i'm going to have an event

00:39:04.060 a couple hours later i think it's very la i think a hydrofacial it's not like you're getting um no

00:39:11.380 it turns me no no no i'll send the picture it really makes me quite red but as i recall in the

00:39:17.180 past hour and a half later it's kind of gone i think you're yeah yeah i think you're fine

00:39:21.540 okay here's a quick product yeah house labs foundation yeah lady gaga's foundation company

00:39:27.640 i got my makeup done really unbelievable foundation okay it's whatever just check it out

00:39:37.580 people say it's about foundation they go they go oh it looks like skin do you know it's been

00:39:42.260 life-changing and i've done probably every day since i don't know the time the day i brought it

00:39:46.980 up what so i i move okay my cosrx snail hydrogel eye patches oh okay i moved them out of this

00:39:56.400 container that they come in. I've never used that. And place them in another jar. Okay? Okay.

00:40:00.440 Now, this is something I was telling you about. Your eyes are going down a lot. Is it your nails?

00:40:05.020 Yeah. Were you like, these aren't going to fly for the night? Hang nails.

00:40:08.420 Yeah, not hang nails, but just bad. Okay, keep going. 0.80

00:40:11.940 So, as I mentioned, I ordered online

00:40:15.580 cotton rounds, reusable cotton rounds. Yeah.

00:40:19.520 Double fabric. I poured into the jar, soaking

00:40:23.420 them. My Mugwort Essence from SoCo Glam. Incredible. Midday, in the morning, if I don't

00:40:31.300 want to do a wash in the morning because it's not always even recommended. Okay, I'll do one right

00:40:36.280 now. Oh, wow. Okay. Oh, my God. Look at you. And by the way, in the morning when you do it,

00:40:45.260 because I load up heavy on the products at night, it's not clean in the morning. It's as if I've

00:40:53.140 been like out dirt like i'm shocked like i like it'll be like does like i expect during the morning

00:41:01.940 yeah it'll be like dirty kind of so i wonder if the product's working at night like they've like

00:41:06.900 released and they've you know what i mean so i do this it's heavenly it feels great right yeah

00:41:13.760 watching you do that i want to do that okay and i and i'm really getting the mugwort essence now

00:41:18.560 Yes, there's some left in here that you could argue is like lost, but...

00:41:23.560 What isn't lost?

00:41:24.300 I don't think so.

00:41:25.300 I think I'm getting more, okay?

00:41:27.700 So I do this.

00:41:28.640 It's heaven.

00:41:29.160 It's heaven.

00:41:29.520 I toss it aside.

00:41:30.240 Now, I need a bigger jar or smaller rounds.

00:41:32.160 That's why that looks like that.

00:41:33.360 So it's not perfect, right?

00:41:35.280 But I do that.

00:41:35.940 Oh, on the neck.

00:41:37.020 Seems great.

00:41:38.660 Let me see it.

00:41:40.240 All right, but this won't be on the video.

00:41:42.260 Wait, actually.

00:41:43.000 No, that looks like very...

00:41:45.000 It looks warmer than it is because of the warm light. 0.85

00:41:48.560 Yeah, filthy.

00:41:50.500 And then what?

00:41:51.120 You're throwing that in the washing machine?

00:41:52.660 Yes.

00:41:53.080 So I throw them in a little mesh bag.

00:41:56.200 Eco-warrior.

00:41:58.400 I mean, it's about, though, like, you know, whatever.

00:42:02.700 So I do it once, sometimes twice a day.

00:42:06.520 And then, so I just wanted, I was really excited about that.

00:42:10.500 A couple other things I got.

00:42:11.520 I picked this up at Erewhon during the looking for drinks to enjoy other than Celsius.

00:42:16.080 Let me see.

00:42:16.600 I don't even know what this is.

00:42:17.440 Craft brewed sparkling tea, hop tonic, lemongrass jasmine.

00:42:22.500 Wait, let me see it.

00:42:23.380 Made with regenerative yopon tea and a hint of hops.

00:42:26.740 Now, hops, what are they?

00:42:29.400 I've heard about them in the context of beer.

00:42:30.480 Well, because they have that non-alcoholic beer called hop water.

00:42:33.280 It's like a seltzer.

00:42:34.780 I've enjoyed that at a function.

00:42:35.940 That's not this, hop tonic?

00:42:37.400 No.

00:42:37.900 No, believe it or not, no.

00:42:39.540 Carbonated water, organic jasmine tea, lemongrass, okay, hops, tea, organic certified, okay?

00:42:48.080 That's interesting.

00:42:50.180 Okay.

00:42:51.200 First time in my life,

00:42:52.800 May Lindstrom.

00:42:54.480 Blue cocoon in your hand?

00:42:56.200 Blue cocoon is in my hand,

00:42:57.420 but I have used,

00:42:58.400 I've been using the oil cleanser.

00:43:01.100 The instructions.

00:43:01.720 Smells amazing.

00:43:02.820 Yes.

00:43:03.240 Because there is essential oil in it,

00:43:05.020 which I remember the Aesop guy

00:43:07.540 that I ran into once at a hotel said,

00:43:10.460 how do you feel about essential oils in skincare?

00:43:13.220 Because not everyone is for it.

00:43:15.640 Aesop just sold for three bill 0.73

00:43:17.020 to l'oreal continue are you serious yep pigs next

00:43:20.800 so the lindstrom instructions okay are amazing they're like we invite you to use this oil

00:43:31.900 and they're they're like massage it on the dry face right this is like the magic potion

00:43:36.500 you know oil cleanser and i gotta say i don't care if essential oils and skincare aren't good 0.96

00:43:42.940 because it smells that good because the aromatherapy there it is bitch changing everything 1.00

00:43:49.460 that her products really do smell unbelievable she says turn then she says like when after a 0.98

00:43:56.000 while or whatever turn to turn into the stream of the water turn to face the stream of the water

00:44:01.000 and pray to god turn it okay and so now i experienced experience of turning okay into

00:44:07.740 the water. Emulsify, rinse. Next up, there's a heavy bottle that's way bigger than you'd think

00:44:15.240 it'd be for what's in it. The dry clay powder. I didn't get that. It's dry. Okay. You shake it in.

00:44:23.740 I didn't get that. She says, add a one to one ratio, I think, or maybe one to two. Water to

00:44:32.320 the powder create a mousse now no mousse has emerged okay when i've added water to this

00:44:37.240 this sand but i'm going old school manual exfoliation yeah honey and the clay and the

00:44:45.800 whole thing and i'm going i'm going i don't even care if you've returned to the earth so then she

00:44:51.860 says are you ready and she's are you finding this interesting because like i'm like i love it i love

00:44:56.040 it so with that she says put on the grains right do that after you rinse them off

00:45:01.560 after you rinse them off continue to massage the face because the skin will like continue

00:45:09.760 to exfoliate like you might experience further like as though just rubbing your face now just

00:45:15.940 completely washed like it's going to release more okay whoa so there's that whatever i've been doing

00:45:22.280 that um you know what i need a vat of what because i've been out for many months what and as we know

00:45:31.240 I think it was life-changing for me.

00:45:33.220 Whey leave-in conditioner. 1.00

00:45:35.580 Shit. 1.00

00:45:36.460 I've never used it. 1.00

00:45:37.700 Oh, the spritz.

00:45:39.280 The spritzing leave-in conditioner.

00:45:41.840 Really?

00:45:42.520 A vat is what I need.

00:45:44.820 Wait, I don't remember you talking about it.

00:45:45.540 I think my waves have suffered since.

00:45:48.600 No way.

00:45:49.760 I'm going to Goo today to get a trim.

00:45:51.100 No way.

00:45:52.000 Yeah.

00:45:54.020 Okay.

00:45:54.920 So then, oh yeah, Blue Cocoon.

00:45:56.880 Last night, well, actually, disaster did strike,

00:45:59.900 and I want to know your thoughts on this.

00:46:01.240 I left it on the windowsill.

00:46:02.800 It melted.

00:46:03.280 It warmed up and then it cooled.

00:46:04.640 That's fine.

00:46:05.880 Okay, but then today when I went to,

00:46:07.880 or last night when I went to put some on,

00:46:09.180 so now the texture has completely changed

00:46:11.020 from the smoothest thing you've ever felt in your life

00:46:14.360 to re-coagulated.

00:46:18.100 Now, like, now when I...

00:46:21.080 That looks fine.

00:46:23.180 But now when I...

00:46:24.620 But there's grit.

00:46:25.660 Now when I keep rubbing,

00:46:28.420 I feel like it dissolves,

00:46:29.500 but I'm just wondering if the essential...

00:46:30.820 I think I had that in the shower and I was gua sha-ing with it.

00:46:34.640 I was trying to use it as a final cocoon.

00:46:37.000 I got a gua sha today.

00:46:38.940 Enough is enough. 0.98

00:46:39.620 Okay.

00:46:39.880 So the Lindstrom is...

00:46:44.100 The blue cocoon smells unbelievable.

00:46:45.840 This is a different approach.

00:46:46.920 Okay.

00:46:47.420 It's not a medical approach.

00:46:50.260 No, I know.

00:46:50.920 It's holistic.

00:46:51.060 You know, which scares me.

00:46:52.140 You mean it's emotional.

00:46:53.920 It's emotional.

00:46:54.920 It's natural.

00:46:55.560 It's not like the Lima approach.

00:46:59.540 I'm not saying Lima is unnatural.

00:47:00.820 I just wanted to show this 0.99

00:47:03.520 we're not here to fuck around 0.99

00:47:05.420 soft services 0.98

00:47:06.480 love soft services

00:47:07.760 simultaneously this is their buffing bar

00:47:11.500 this is kind of fun for Christmas

00:47:12.920 because this is a great gift y'all

00:47:14.600 that's exactly what I brought it

00:47:16.640 the soft services buffing bar

00:47:17.940 with the little tray that they give you

00:47:20.120 and there's something I'm doing it wrong

00:47:22.060 but there was a way that they

00:47:23.240 that you can keep it

00:47:25.080 you keep it in the hat

00:47:27.140 you keep it with the roof over its head

00:47:29.080 put the blue bar flat slide it under thing what are you saying is upside down oh my god i've had

00:47:36.840 it wrong i've been doing it wrong the whole time should i go get have you been resting it on the

00:47:40.540 silver oh my god oh my god no you might be the big oh my god oh my god i'm in a way hold on

00:47:44.620 wait hold on you've been resting on that no babe i've been resting on the blue i'm putting the

00:47:49.120 silver over it like a hat wait no i think that might be it wait wait wait

00:47:54.840 no i think this is like storing that's what i do that's what i do and then you you pull it out

00:48:02.440 i always store it and then i'll just use it and put it back in the storage because it's not like

00:48:06.720 this is a sealed container no so i kind of feel like so me it's kind of just sitting out but the

00:48:12.420 to me it's the fact there's an option to me like it would almost be like in theory like

00:48:16.540 i don't know guests are coming over you don't the fact that it has two modes of

00:48:21.340 like it operates two ways.

00:48:24.620 It slides right in beautifully

00:48:26.120 and then up there

00:48:27.140 and then it's a ways.

00:48:28.400 This is going to be a gift.

00:48:29.340 This is a great gift option, folks.

00:48:31.080 I said that 18 times.

00:48:31.920 I really do.

00:48:33.280 I want to just,

00:48:34.400 yeah, I want to like.

00:48:35.780 Yeah, let's do some gifting.

00:48:37.120 Oh, Ronna Vought.

00:48:38.060 Oh yeah, they sent some gorgeous items.

00:48:41.760 Saffron oil.

00:48:42.600 This is just,

00:48:43.220 yeah, saffron serum.

00:48:44.060 By the way, my jaw pain

00:48:45.240 has come back full force

00:48:46.520 last couple of days.

00:48:47.300 It's time to clean your hand

00:48:49.040 and stick it in.

00:48:49.700 I might need to get Botox

00:48:50.760 of my jaw naturally i am compelled by this concept of shooting it into the upper traps for what i

00:48:57.720 think i saw this article about someone doing it with some of their like neck muscles because

00:49:01.740 they're like to then help correct their rounded you know rounded shoulders head forward i saw

00:49:09.960 can i use the term hunchback with love i saw i saw a serious hunchback i say that with love this is

00:49:18.380 the part you can't do by the way she was elderly yeah her head was truly floating like two feet in 0.95

00:49:24.800 front of her body yeah yeah and it was like really i was like poor fucking thing and then i was like 0.88

00:49:30.640 wait why what happened what what happened and then i was like well you and i talk about of course with 0.96

00:49:36.940 the phone right the spinal cord injury permanent from looking down on the phone all day that when

00:49:42.020 you look down your head becomes 40 pounds of pressure instead of 10 on the neck yeah spinal

00:49:46.180 cord snapped instantly or just gradually over time or the or the I won't talk about my elbow

00:49:50.880 yeah tell me I want you to assess my elbow bring it today I'm rushing around so it's back because

00:49:56.400 we all remember when we were in the car oh wait oh that was from working out though this is

00:50:02.400 something else same elbow yeah so listen to this this was very clear this is blunt force trauma

00:50:06.880 I'm rushing rushing late to get a coffee I'm running around I'm going to pull my hair back

00:50:14.000 to wash my face

00:50:14.840 with the full force of running

00:50:16.880 I hit my elbow

00:50:18.260 I left the elbow

00:50:18.980 into the doorway

00:50:19.860 like into the door frame

00:50:21.300 if you can imagine

00:50:22.980 and I was like

00:50:24.260 stunned by the pain

00:50:26.300 reverberation

00:50:26.980 what?

00:50:27.580 reverberation

00:50:28.060 radiating down the arm

00:50:29.200 radiating pain

00:50:31.300 so right now

00:50:32.640 if I touch it

00:50:34.060 it really hurts

00:50:35.320 I'm like

00:50:36.080 it didn't break anything

00:50:37.660 because I'd be on the floor

00:50:38.780 I would imagine

00:50:39.500 but I can't put any

00:50:40.760 like if I push down the table

00:50:42.100 neither did you fracture

00:50:43.420 I would suggest

00:50:44.160 because I immediately

00:50:44.720 went hairline fracture

00:50:45.680 it's hysterical

00:50:47.120 you see

00:50:47.420 this is

00:50:48.320 first of all

00:50:49.140 I had a hairline fracture

00:50:49.900 in your garden

00:50:50.600 and

00:50:51.600 and

00:50:52.380 I was very uncomfortable

00:50:53.560 with the attention

00:50:54.120 I received

00:50:54.640 in school about it

00:50:56.200 and I was basically

00:50:57.220 acting out

00:50:58.440 I had a hairline fracture

00:50:59.540 on my tailbone

00:51:00.160 they were shocked

00:51:01.200 because like

00:51:01.720 you know

00:51:02.100 I was a good girl

00:51:02.860 okay

00:51:03.440 oh they knew something was wrong

00:51:04.760 like she's changed

00:51:05.280 because I wasn't allowed

00:51:06.180 to go out to recess

00:51:06.900 I don't know

00:51:07.840 where was the fracture

00:51:08.620 they had someone help me

00:51:09.260 it was on my

00:51:11.600 tibia or something

00:51:12.780 No, that's in the leg.

00:51:14.280 Or is it that weird thing where it's like...

00:51:15.420 I'm thinking of going back to the chiropractor I went to,

00:51:16.860 who I was scared by because she was like my exact age.

00:51:19.800 And I was like, you're my age.

00:51:21.020 I'm putting my life in your hands to crack me.

00:51:24.860 You're my childhood friend.

00:51:26.380 Like, even though you're not, you could have been.

00:51:29.200 I just remember being like something... 1.00

00:51:30.820 And I know that those gals don't have it figured out. 1.00

00:51:33.180 So why would you? 1.00

00:51:33.720 Exactly.

00:51:34.440 I just remember we were talking and I just thought,

00:51:36.460 oh, you're older than me because look at you

00:51:38.200 in your doctor's office with your coat

00:51:39.880 and your chiropractor snapping people's spines

00:51:42.200 for cash

00:51:43.240 and somehow

00:51:45.200 something about

00:51:45.800 high school or something

00:51:46.860 came to learn

00:51:47.880 she was my age

00:51:48.540 maybe one year older

00:51:49.440 and I went

00:51:49.940 if not younger

00:51:51.200 uncomfortable feeling

00:51:53.120 or

00:51:54.080 is that who I should

00:51:55.220 trust the most?

00:51:55.680 Kaperland

00:51:56.240 Western medicine

00:51:57.480 I mean

00:51:57.980 that's not all you believe in

00:51:59.080 but fear based

00:52:00.740 I believe in fear based medicine

00:52:02.600 that you

00:52:03.680 would trust a chiropractor

00:52:05.500 with all of its

00:52:06.200 like you know

00:52:06.700 people's

00:52:07.180 people's

00:52:07.700 this

00:52:08.360 this was

00:52:08.920 respect for chiropractor

00:52:09.600 here's what it was

00:52:09.940 I was desperate

00:52:11.260 because I had been in pain

00:52:12.120 for months with my tailbone fracture

00:52:14.120 and a very trusted family

00:52:16.260 friend which to me is the gateway drug

00:52:18.120 a trusted family friend was like

00:52:20.120 this is the only chiropractor I'll go to

00:52:22.300 and she is 0.99

00:52:23.740 a major

00:52:25.880 major physical therapist 1.00

00:52:28.300 I want to protect her identity 1.00

00:52:30.280 but let's just say

00:52:31.240 don't name clients but

00:52:33.620 let's just say

00:52:34.560 she's out there

00:52:37.640 so I trust her

00:52:39.480 yeah

00:52:40.840 I'm not gonna say more

00:52:43.180 but

00:52:43.360 yeah

00:52:46.120 so she 1.00

00:52:48.260 she goes 0.95

00:52:49.340 go to her

00:52:49.780 I go

00:52:50.120 I'll do anything 1.00

00:52:50.860 I'll let this woman 1.00

00:52:51.400 perform surgery 1.00

00:52:52.480 on me with no anesthesia

00:52:53.420 who cares

00:52:53.920 let's go 1.00

00:52:54.440 have you

00:52:55.560 have you had an anesthesia

00:52:56.660 yeah

00:52:58.360 did you like it

00:52:59.300 yeah I had it for

00:53:00.400 I'm trying to think

00:53:01.080 what I would have had it for

00:53:02.100 maybe I haven't

00:53:03.280 no

00:53:04.100 there was something

00:53:04.880 I remember the

00:53:06.300 I remember it

00:53:07.640 you didn't have it doll

00:53:09.000 wait wait hold on

00:53:14.920 your elbow

00:53:15.340 have you ever gone to a doctor

00:53:16.280 have they lose your laps

00:53:17.300 it's happened to me

00:53:18.160 okay

00:53:18.420 I think hairline fractured

00:53:20.540 like when I like had that

00:53:22.280 it was like

00:53:22.880 a real

00:53:24.520 I was in

00:53:25.540 I was skating on a blanket

00:53:26.620 by the way

00:53:27.500 you were what

00:53:27.960 one toe goes on

00:53:29.460 like essentially my blankie

00:53:31.300 like a small blanket

00:53:32.180 so one toe

00:53:33.360 one toe is holding the blanket

00:53:35.340 between the floor

00:53:36.080 and my foot

00:53:36.740 and then

00:53:37.600 and then I'm holding the blanket

00:53:38.860 with my hands like so the blanket's like a scooter and i'm using it to slide across the

00:53:42.900 floor like a scooter and i went down on the forearm oh no and then i had not a cast sorry but

00:53:51.060 a metal cup a metal half cylinder weird arm rested in and then wrapped around that an ace

00:53:59.900 bandage with those little clips i feel like well i'll just say i had a hairline fracture on my

00:54:04.420 tailbone. I was in pain for nine months. I had to wear, I had to take a tailbone pillow onto the

00:54:09.260 airplane, which made it look like I was suffering from hemorrhoids because it is technically a

00:54:14.040 hemorrhoid pillow. Which, by the way, extremely common. Oh, wait. And again, as you know, not to

00:54:19.320 brag, I've never had a hemorrhoid. That is such an 80s solution to hemorrhoids. And it remains my crown jewel

00:54:22.400 is a lack of hemorrhoids. Well, it could be up there. It's not always external. Oh, God.

00:54:30.120 but I have no pain

00:54:32.340 nonetheless I'm just saying you're crown jewel

00:54:35.300 okay you can have painless 1.00

00:54:36.640 my asshole my prized possession 1.00

00:54:38.680 relatedly okay 1.00

00:54:39.820 can you put plastic wrap on a lima

00:54:42.860 and could you

00:54:44.820 one stick it in your mouth carefully

00:54:47.240 for what I mean definitely you could do that

00:54:49.380 what would happen

00:54:51.160 what would happen

00:54:53.160 yeah

00:54:54.320 in the other orifices I'm saying

00:54:56.120 could it heal

00:54:58.460 internal hemorrhoids?

00:55:01.260 Could it completely rejuvenate 0.85

00:55:03.500 the cervical tissue?

00:55:05.100 If you want to talk your lemma,

00:55:07.100 I will be...

00:55:08.380 You should reach out to a corporate

00:55:09.680 and ask if you can put saran wrap on it 1.00

00:55:12.160 and insert it deep into your rectum. 0.99

00:55:17.220 Because... 0.99

00:55:17.700 They're not going to like this.

00:55:19.000 Can't hurt.

00:55:20.600 Why?

00:55:21.300 Why wouldn't they like it?

00:55:22.340 I mean, it's literally,

00:55:23.220 it's a medical device.

00:55:24.300 The only reason they launched it to market

00:55:27.420 is because...

00:55:29.240 To save lives.

00:55:30.100 No, they put it on a guy's knee

00:55:31.580 to try to heal his knee,

00:55:33.100 one knee,

00:55:33.680 from his knee pain.

00:55:35.580 And he comes in

00:55:36.020 and they notice one knee

00:55:37.020 looks 50 years younger

00:55:38.620 than the other knee. 0.60

00:55:39.340 Stop. Stop. Stop. 0.64

00:55:40.660 The skin.

00:55:41.280 Yeah, it's on the website.

00:55:42.820 Oh my God, that rules.

00:55:44.620 Actually, I don't remember

00:55:45.300 if his knee is on the website,

00:55:46.880 but they've shown knees

00:55:48.480 on the website.

00:55:49.620 That is really cool.

00:55:51.320 I got it, Lima.

00:55:57.420 Hello, it's me, Anna Sinfield, from The Girlfriends,

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00:56:14.120 with some truly kick-ass women on The Girlfriends Spotlight. 1.00

00:56:19.040 I want to introduce you to Sylvia.

00:56:21.540 I'm going to climb this.

00:56:23.900 And then there's Vaisaka.

00:56:26.040 Let's see how we can stop killing and save lives.

00:56:30.140 Leila dared to ask the question.

00:56:32.640 Is badness hereditary?

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00:56:36.760 If it wasn't for the year where Ella lived,

00:56:39.600 she wouldn't have died on that fatal night.

00:56:42.520 You'll even get to meet my mum in that one,

00:56:44.240 who I can always count on to keep my feet on the ground.

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00:58:02.420 This is Ryder Strong,

00:58:03.560 and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather.

00:58:06.080 It was many and many a year ago

00:58:09.100 in a kingdom by the sea.

00:58:11.480 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor,

00:58:14.020 disappeared from a commune.

00:58:15.300 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:58:16.660 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:58:19.940 no i am not your guru and back then i lied to my parents i lied to police i lied to everybody

00:58:28.760 there were years right where i could not say your name i've decided to go back to my hometown in

00:58:33.620 northern california interview my friends family talk to police journalists whomever i can to try

00:58:38.720 to find out what actually happened isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies

00:58:43.240 in the woods and not the obvious boyfriend they have had this case for 30 years i'll teach you 0.99

00:58:49.000 Sons of bitches come around here and my wife. 1.00

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00:58:58.220 Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

00:59:02.400 The more you listen to your kids, the closer you'll be.

00:59:06.380 So we asked kids, what do you want your parents to hear?

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00:59:37.100 One of the things that I wanted, more than anything when we started this podcast, and it wasn't even invented yet.

00:59:44.320 What was it?

00:59:44.860 Okay, I mean, from them, they didn't have the offering.

00:59:47.040 the higher dose

00:59:48.060 PEMF

00:59:49.600 honey

00:59:50.440 and we got it

00:59:51.560 we got it

00:59:52.600 higher dose

00:59:53.700 has been good

00:59:54.360 ion therapy

00:59:54.820 from 20 pounds

00:59:57.000 of amethyst crystals

00:59:58.260 laying in there

00:59:58.780 you can see them

00:59:59.580 okay

01:00:00.240 beautiful

01:00:00.820 the rocks

01:00:01.360 okay

01:00:01.680 and so with the heat

01:00:03.520 the infrared heat

01:00:04.140 and that

01:00:04.400 it gives off the ions

01:00:05.500 and then

01:00:06.000 the PEMF

01:00:07.600 at four different frequencies

01:00:08.820 one for focus

01:00:09.920 and alertness

01:00:10.540 oh my god

01:00:11.040 one for deep sleep

01:00:12.560 delta, theta, alpha

01:00:13.800 and beta

01:00:14.380 oh my god 0.52

01:00:15.040 I need a bigger house

01:00:15.940 there's no room

01:00:16.900 put it on the couch god you're good live on it yeah live on it there you go they say that more

01:00:23.820 is more oh sleep on it no i i think so actually oh my god there's a 12 i have a huge thing i want

01:00:32.540 to beg for let's get this in the airwaves okay i am officially begging with all my full-throated

01:00:40.640 desire yeah for a new mattress mattress mattress mattress Christmas mattress new bed mattress I

01:00:48.400 need a mattress I need a mattress I need me a mattress are you serious it's mine isn't working

01:00:55.700 for me okay okay I wake up there's no support under the back I wake up in pain okay I'm sorry

01:01:01.940 I know like I'm fucking 460 years old like I've just slept on a plane okay so mattress okay okay 0.77

01:01:08.440 This is huge. 0.95

01:01:09.360 Now, here's the question.

01:01:09.960 We're putting out what?

01:01:11.740 What are you interested?

01:01:12.820 Because I heard some people.

01:01:14.660 Okay, let's go.

01:01:15.680 Talking about.

01:01:16.300 It hurts pounding.

01:01:17.180 I know.

01:01:17.820 Avocado brand?

01:01:18.380 Obviously, no, no.

01:01:19.980 Although there's an explosion in the marketplace, those brands, right?

01:01:23.860 In the last several years, this kind of feeling of wellness mattresses, right?

01:01:27.000 I wanted to say PediaSure.

01:01:27.720 What's the foam one? 0.61

01:01:29.720 Oh, it rules. 1.00

01:01:33.920 Fuck. 1.00

01:01:35.460 Thermoderm? 1.00

01:01:36.140 What's it called?

01:01:37.160 Actually, the Thermoderm is sent to us.

01:01:39.240 I used one of their radiance pads last night.

01:01:42.660 Literally.

01:01:44.220 Tempur-Pedic, Jesus Christ.

01:01:45.400 As if I wasn't born in 1987.

01:01:47.780 Yeah.

01:01:47.960 Okay.

01:01:48.480 Tempur-Pedic.

01:01:49.820 So looking at what I've heard.

01:01:51.560 So I get bored with the, is it avocado?

01:01:54.340 Is it nectar?

01:01:55.160 Is it, you know, all these-

01:01:56.380 Nectar?

01:01:56.460 I haven't even heard of that one.

01:01:57.960 I could be insane, but I'm pretty sure nectar.

01:02:00.000 Nectar has a 40% off Black Friday.

01:02:03.360 Oh, wait.

01:02:03.920 we finally started saying

01:02:05.980 to people we begged for

01:02:07.040 can we get a code

01:02:08.340 for the listeners?

01:02:09.420 Yeah.

01:02:09.700 Can we get a place

01:02:10.380 And I'm like terrified

01:02:11.180 to start saying code

01:02:12.180 like the word code

01:02:13.780 and like on our podcast

01:02:14.860 like it just seems

01:02:15.540 utterly crass.

01:02:16.940 I think we have to drop it

01:02:17.700 on Instagram, right?

01:02:18.940 Anyway.

01:02:19.640 I listen,

01:02:20.500 I just want to say that

01:02:21.080 I was sleeping on a Tempur-Pedic

01:02:22.220 at a friend's place.

01:02:23.680 Yeah.

01:02:24.160 Honey.

01:02:25.060 Tempur-Pedic brand.

01:02:26.240 Honey, yeah.

01:02:26.960 Because it's not the only people

01:02:27.880 that make that anymore.

01:02:28.940 Tempur-Pedic brand.

01:02:30.540 Unbelievable.

01:02:31.400 I'm looking here at the price.

01:02:32.300 we're starting at

01:02:34.120 the cheapest one is

01:02:35.280 2400 honey

01:02:36.420 they go up to 5k

01:02:37.580 wait I just want to

01:02:38.960 show you something

01:02:39.780 avocado brand

01:02:41.080 all organic

01:02:41.920 which I'm very intrigued by

01:02:43.020 talking about

01:02:44.460 can you imagine

01:02:44.980 if we got free Halstons

01:02:45.860 those are the ones

01:02:46.440 that are filled with horse hair

01:02:47.300 and they're around 40 grand

01:02:48.400 and are they the ones

01:02:48.780 that are gingham looking

01:02:50.000 they will yeah

01:02:50.620 the honey

01:02:51.420 they're not giving that away

01:02:52.440 that's what like

01:02:52.980 Oprah sleeps on

01:02:53.820 no I said gingham

01:02:54.760 yeah

01:02:55.920 are they the gingham

01:02:56.820 blue and white

01:02:57.440 yep

01:02:58.020 I'm sending you something

01:02:59.060 right now

01:02:59.880 okay

01:03:00.420 I mean who sleeps on them

01:03:02.480 Oprah?

01:03:03.220 Yeah.

01:03:04.040 Do you want to know the nicest thing I've ever bought myself?

01:03:06.480 What?

01:03:07.540 I'm trying to find you in here, okay?

01:03:09.740 The nicest thing, and I'm just sending you,

01:03:11.640 because this is the drop that I'm saying,

01:03:13.100 I've heard people talking about sleep number.

01:03:15.420 Oh, yeah.

01:03:17.200 No, Kate, before you.

01:03:20.480 Okay.

01:03:21.140 I don't like that with the electronic ones and they go.

01:03:23.740 It's not just about the electronics, okay?

01:03:26.700 It's not just about that.

01:03:27.740 It has something to do with,

01:03:29.800 like there's something with the tech.

01:03:31.520 and I don't know if it's this.

01:03:32.480 Let me check, okay?

01:03:33.400 But it does something

01:03:36.140 like around firmness or...

01:03:39.080 Oh, right.

01:03:39.640 I know what it does.

01:03:40.300 It also measures.

01:03:41.740 It measures.

01:03:43.180 It collects data on your sleeping, okay?

01:03:45.680 See, I don't...

01:03:46.480 You set a number.

01:03:47.760 I don't like the data.

01:03:49.100 Like the Oura Ring for me,

01:03:50.360 like I don't like collecting data like that.

01:03:52.800 I got to live.

01:03:54.300 I don't like it.

01:03:55.500 It does something to me.

01:03:56.520 How dare you call us data people?

01:03:58.500 Let me guess.

01:03:58.920 You don't take a photo 1.00

01:03:59.640 because you live in the fucking moment? 1.00

01:04:01.520 You bitch. 1.00

01:04:03.280 Listen, I'm trying to intrigue. 1.00

01:04:05.440 Hey, calling Tempur-Pedic Avocado, Casper, enter the mattress race.

01:04:10.840 Who will be the official POOG mattress for Christmas?

01:04:15.000 All I want is a new bed.

01:04:17.120 There is a mattress sponsor of this podcast.

01:04:20.540 Who you didn't mention.

01:04:21.920 Who?

01:04:22.060 Lisa.

01:04:25.540 We're going to get in trouble.

01:04:28.280 Well, great.

01:04:29.080 Maybe they should send one through. 0.99

01:04:30.240 What's their whole thing?

01:04:31.520 well um teach me teach me mama there's one that king size bed can you imagine me

01:04:41.040 yeah writhing in ecstasy yeah i can what a new mattress yeah by the way the bed frames alone

01:04:47.820 they're so expensive it's absolutely anywhere i was looking at i go west elm i go anthropology

01:04:53.900 i go potter oh yeah two grand we're starting oh i was gonna say the nicest thing i ever bought

01:04:58.900 myself you know what i bought though for a bed frame if you're curious i think there was an

01:05:03.160 elegance to it let's see i like a mattress on the floor bohemian style honestly i slept well in new

01:05:09.280 york i had to i mean ours was in a little like you know the loft where it's like four feet

01:05:14.660 and that was mattress on the floor and it was heaven um so it's strategy says about the best

01:05:19.540 mattress right now i do i am sort of seduced by the avocado the promise of the organic i think

01:05:24.800 that's kind of but the other ones have that too i mean you gotta really look wait wait wait so i

01:05:30.860 purchased at some point lisa's coming in the fuma fuma bed frame let me see if i can explain it to

01:05:40.120 you thoughtfully designed okay to elevate everybody tool free assembly well there it is

01:05:47.200 it's it's it's it has um i think i've talked about on poog it's like the technique of japanese

01:05:53.240 is joinery, where everything just fits into each other.

01:05:58.380 It's really, really nice.

01:05:59.620 But the nicest thing I think I've ever bought myself,

01:06:01.620 one of the things where you go, this is quality,

01:06:04.120 where you literally feel a difference.

01:06:06.100 You're not just telling yourself a story.

01:06:08.140 I bought, let me find it.

01:06:11.480 I believe it's called Cozy Earth.

01:06:13.620 Okay.

01:06:13.800 I think it was an Oprah favorite.

01:06:16.360 And it is a silk fiber filled comforter.

01:06:23.240 Or, you know, insert, whatever.

01:06:26.960 It looks and feels like a dollop of sour cream.

01:06:35.700 Heaven. 0.90

01:06:36.800 By the way, Lisa Wirecutter's Best Hybrid Mattress. 1.00

01:06:40.520 Yeah. 1.00

01:06:40.980 Yeah.

01:06:41.560 So there you go.

01:06:43.680 Got it.

01:06:44.080 We didn't get them to pay extra for this.

01:06:45.260 We just named every brand and then said that the best one was...

01:06:48.960 Best Hybrid Mattress.

01:06:49.880 Yeah, send that through to corporate.

01:06:51.420 Send it right to the corporate.

01:06:53.240 But yeah, there's one I've seen in their realms that is, well, technically speaking, I'm hiding this.

01:07:03.900 I actually have only some mattresses.

01:07:09.860 From when?

01:07:12.420 They offered the send, okay?

01:07:15.540 Stop.

01:07:16.400 I missed an email. 0.99

01:07:17.620 related to endorsement but you couldn't do it because you had done your mattress fucking 0.82

01:07:23.680 endorsement okay which by the way you might be in breach of right now i'm not i'm not the time 0.80

01:07:28.720 has passed i think but i i got a twin because i already had a mattress that i was pretty pumped

01:07:34.420 about or planning on being pumped about and i can't even remember what brand do you want me

01:07:37.920 to check what my mattress is i'm one of those brands like it's like nectar or something okay

01:07:41.760 you don't care i do care i care deeply no i mean now that you've locked in i'm the strategist i

01:07:47.280 If you're like, I'm a little locked in.

01:07:50.320 But anyway, I have a Lima twin.

01:07:52.460 Okay.

01:07:52.760 I have a Lima twin.

01:07:53.800 We're just thrown around in a random room.

01:07:56.080 Yeah.

01:07:56.560 Well, actually, it's been leaned up against the wall in our home.

01:07:59.520 In the living room when you enter.

01:08:01.180 Oh my God, Jacqueline.

01:08:02.340 Now, and yes, when they offered to send and I said, we'd recently bought a mattress, like

01:08:07.360 mirror, like six months before.

01:08:09.520 Right. 0.99

01:08:10.380 And I was like, fuck, I still need to get one. 0.99

01:08:12.860 The ultimate image of chaos is a raw mattress leaned up against. 0.99

01:08:17.780 Vertically too, by the way.

01:08:19.120 I would assume.

01:08:20.000 Vertical is like even more.

01:08:21.340 Even more like.

01:08:22.680 So.

01:08:23.340 Yeah.

01:08:23.760 Hanging on by a thread.

01:08:25.380 Yeah.

01:08:25.700 Okay.

01:08:26.560 And yes, my partner questioned whether this was a good purchase given that we live in total chaos.

01:08:33.380 I mean, total chaos.

01:08:35.300 Like our, quote, furniture.

01:08:36.660 Like it's just, I live stepping over things.

01:08:39.660 There's a trampoline in the middle of our, I call it a living room, but it's open space, okay, apartment.

01:08:45.180 You know what I mean?

01:08:46.080 Trampoline in the middle.

01:08:47.280 I step over.

01:08:48.080 That's where my backpack.

01:08:49.100 How often are you on the trampoline?

01:08:51.800 Months ago, probably.

01:08:54.820 It's been quite some time, okay?

01:08:56.400 But I had that leaned up against the wall too,

01:08:58.160 but I don't know.

01:08:59.460 So now I've laid this twin mattress down.

01:09:03.900 I was going to make it into a sort of day bed,

01:09:06.180 okay, in the living room.

01:09:07.440 There's no room for it,

01:09:08.160 but still I have my dreams.

01:09:09.360 It's a project, okay?

01:09:10.200 It's a project waiting to happen.

01:09:11.860 Now it's laying on the floor

01:09:13.060 and that's where I've been higher dosing.

01:09:16.200 Oh, hi.

01:09:16.740 So now it's a healing bed.

01:09:18.920 Okay.

01:09:20.780 So you bring it down to heal.

01:09:23.060 And then you re-put it up.

01:09:24.360 Well, right now it's permanent healing.

01:09:27.140 It's hospital bed in the living room.

01:09:29.040 I need photographs.

01:09:30.460 I'll send you.

01:09:31.340 I'll send you.

01:09:31.980 Promise me that you'll send.

01:09:34.100 What, they'll send you the photo?

01:09:34.760 Yeah.

01:09:36.080 Absolutely.

01:09:36.700 I sent you a photo of me on it.

01:09:38.600 Like, it was too close up to you.

01:09:40.540 I don't think I realized.

01:09:41.100 I'm showing you my settings.

01:09:41.640 I didn't realize, yeah.

01:09:43.580 Okay, we got to wrap up.

01:09:45.040 But I want to say, sorry to do an announcement like this,

01:09:47.400 or I'm not going to apologize for it,

01:09:48.640 but I do have to announce that tickets are on sale for Kate.

01:09:53.500 My one-woman show, my play, Kate,

01:09:55.520 is coming to the Pasadena Playhouse,

01:09:58.580 pasadenaplayhouse.org, January 17th until February 11th.

01:10:03.060 I wanted to prove that I knew the right dates.

01:10:04.560 Come see the beautiful Pasadena Playhouse,

01:10:06.640 which actually won the Tony this year

01:10:09.780 for Best Regional Playhouse,

01:10:11.880 Best Regional Theater in the States.

01:10:13.220 beautiful historic theater

01:10:15.540 make it a night

01:10:16.960 beautiful restaurant

01:10:18.000 next door

01:10:18.460 Bar Chaloo

01:10:19.060 make it a night

01:10:20.160 support theater

01:10:20.800 fly out

01:10:21.360 drive out

01:10:21.880 please

01:10:22.320 support theater

01:10:23.600 support me

01:10:25.040 limited

01:10:26.080 run

01:10:27.340 yeah they're coming

01:10:28.760 I mean

01:10:29.140 they're coming

01:10:30.240 and if for some reason

01:10:30.900 they missed the Insta

01:10:31.700 you can go to

01:10:32.360 kateberlant.com

01:10:33.460 or pasadenaplayhouse.org

01:10:35.060 as our friend likes to say

01:10:36.140 find the info

01:10:36.960 as we say

01:10:37.860 you have Google

01:10:38.720 yeah

01:10:39.200 you weren't born

01:10:40.920 25 minutes ago

01:10:42.140 and even then

01:10:42.680 at this rate

01:10:43.160 you'll probably be able to figure it out yeah please come please tell your family and friends

01:10:46.560 you don't live in LA I can't make it out please tell your cousins relatives the relatives of

01:10:51.540 your cousins that you've never met who are also your relatives tell everyone I need to always say

01:10:56.700 when I was promoting okay because I believe this it's a gorgeous gift oh that send someone

01:11:03.100 imagine sending someone to the theater okay to get get someone two tickets

01:11:09.040 unbelievable now it's challenging because you got to figure out the whole date thing yeah tough

01:11:14.740 but there's there are ways to make it happen and i think it just yeah you just yeah or you just say

01:11:20.040 here's what i'm i'm sending you to i'm like i'm sending you to kate on you know between the dates

01:11:28.260 of da da da and da da yeah yeah name your date name your date name your date great and then

01:11:33.140 Christmas present we should also

01:11:34.400 remind people that

01:11:36.300 the POOG tour we're gearing

01:11:39.220 up we are

01:11:40.160 Vancouver we need you

01:11:42.260 the

01:11:42.920 okay the

01:11:45.700 I also want to say I feel like we've said this but

01:11:49.140 the merch Chicago to cities that

01:11:51.140 we couldn't make it on this tour it's not

01:11:53.080 out of a lack of us wanting to to be clear

01:11:55.040 it was a last minute tour venues are booked

01:11:57.120 up I just want to make that clear it wasn't like we were

01:11:58.880 routing yeah this isn't us going

01:12:00.940 we don't care about those cities

01:12:02.400 this was a last minute tour

01:12:04.360 places aren't available

01:12:05.280 we want to come to every city on this earth

01:12:08.040 to reach the millions and millions

01:12:10.460 of followers and listeners

01:12:11.800 the millions and millions of eavesdroppers

01:12:14.200 that we have

01:12:15.000 and you know for the merch alone

01:12:17.880 oh honey the merch is going to be huge

01:12:20.820 imagine

01:12:21.840 it's coming

01:12:23.340 it's coming honey

01:12:24.180 okay well I got to go to my hydrofacial

01:12:27.840 and I guess bring the rocking chair in

01:12:31.240 Jesus.

01:12:32.040 To my...

01:12:33.240 Oh, because it's soaked through?

01:12:35.020 Oh, I thought you meant it to get fixed.

01:12:36.760 Maybe it just got washed.

01:12:37.400 Oh, it's still out there.

01:12:38.080 Maybe I should just see it as a wash.

01:12:39.580 But wood and rain don't go well.

01:12:41.960 You should...

01:12:43.040 I have a can of it from six years ago unopened

01:12:45.860 for something that's being semi-rained on.

01:12:49.840 You need to weatherproof it.

01:12:51.000 You need to paint this shellac on it.

01:12:53.100 Yeah, that'll happen.

01:12:54.520 Dry it out.

01:12:55.760 I know.

01:12:56.160 Can you imagine?

01:12:56.900 I would sooner do anything.

01:12:58.860 I know.

01:12:59.380 I've had my can for three years.

01:13:00.740 another great holiday gift

01:13:02.980 item I would recommend is the Aromatech

01:13:05.560 which I've really been enjoying

01:13:06.680 and the holiday scents

01:13:09.620 are on their way

01:13:10.380 this item is top shelf

01:13:12.920 this gift

01:13:13.480 you didn't have it or you didn't open it

01:13:16.860 I've been operating mine

01:13:19.060 I've been operating mine

01:13:20.020 yeah but last we spoke it was like you hadn't opened it

01:13:23.220 or something

01:13:23.420 it's really great

01:13:25.480 also I recommend the small bottles for testing out

01:13:27.920 get the collection

01:13:29.640 Get the collections test out.

01:13:30.780 Get the florals collection, whatever.

01:13:31.820 The little bottles.

01:13:33.020 It's not like it.

01:13:34.000 I mean, you get a good amount out of it.

01:13:36.000 You get a couple days out of it.

01:13:36.400 Particularly because like on a low setting.

01:13:37.700 I'm going to be requesting some specific scents because I need more and I'm ready to.

01:13:41.900 I'm fully convinced.

01:13:42.800 Oh, I went back for more.

01:13:43.760 I've got to go back for more.

01:13:44.680 Because I realized, well, I'm unclear on oud.

01:13:48.940 Yeah.

01:13:49.480 Yeah.

01:13:49.880 What is that?

01:13:50.880 I like an oud.

01:13:51.320 I mean, I looked it up, but I've forgotten.

01:13:53.100 Like, I don't know.

01:13:53.700 I veer oud.

01:13:54.840 I like an oud.

01:13:55.700 Yeah.

01:13:56.480 I veer, like, I don't know what I veer.

01:14:00.320 It depends.

01:14:01.760 Totally.

01:14:02.460 I hear you.

01:14:02.900 You know what I could use from Aromatech?

01:14:04.580 Huh?

01:14:05.240 Like six more of the plastic bottle inserts

01:14:07.960 because you have to clean the bottle insert

01:14:11.860 between changing scents if you want it to be.

01:14:13.720 I haven't done that.

01:14:14.960 Yeah.

01:14:15.280 If you don't want it to be, like, mixing.

01:14:17.900 And that's where I freeze up.

01:14:19.140 And you want the scent to be pure.

01:14:19.760 That's where I freeze up and I go, oh.

01:14:20.900 So I bought at the grocery store. 1.00

01:14:23.560 Shut up. 0.99

01:14:23.900 Like, hydrogen peroxide or whatever. 1.00

01:14:25.180 or no, no,

01:14:25.840 I'm sorry.

01:14:27.100 Isopropyl.

01:14:27.660 Okay.

01:14:29.240 And I shake it up

01:14:30.780 and the whole thing,

01:14:31.420 but I can still sort of smell it in there.

01:14:32.840 I'm trying to get it up through the tube.

01:14:34.340 If I could get like six bottles

01:14:36.940 once a year,

01:14:38.600 I wash them all,

01:14:39.280 but that would really help me.

01:14:40.760 That'd be cool.

01:14:41.940 I think I might just have to commit to a scent

01:14:43.360 for the rest of my life.

01:14:44.900 Yeah.

01:14:45.300 Because I don't see myself washing it.

01:14:46.960 Okay.

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