Poog with Kate Berlant and Jacqueline Novak - The Eavesdroppers

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00:02:36.080 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:37.620 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:38.720 And this is POOG, an ongoing conversation about wellness between two obsessive friends.

00:02:43.440 Two untamable intellects.

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00:02:49.240 This is POOG.

00:02:50.620 Today's topic?

00:02:51.420 Loosely speaking.

00:02:52.960 Marginalia.

00:02:53.760 obviously some of this will be cut but some will be left for charm because i want to talk about

00:03:04.820 what you do so you're saying i'm a little too quiet right yeah all right hold on sorry everybody

00:03:10.000 am i louder yet did you do it because you're fine i can handle this you have to switch between

00:03:15.120 microphone and audio so so you went flying in i start to take you step by step and you go flying

00:03:20.860 you start making

00:03:21.480 interrupting me

00:03:22.720 okay I think I got it

00:03:23.760 okay

00:03:24.000 and then you didn't get it

00:03:26.400 I think they're louder

00:03:30.200 I just want you to look

00:03:31.360 for one second

00:03:32.120 at the microphone

00:03:33.460 okay

00:03:33.920 don't start

00:03:34.880 slamming your fingers across it

00:03:36.740 there's a little button

00:03:37.320 on the side

00:03:37.820 that shows

00:03:38.360 microphone

00:03:39.380 it allows you to switch

00:03:40.320 between orange and green

00:03:41.480 yeah I'm orange right now

00:03:42.820 oh no

00:03:43.620 okay this is

00:03:44.460 this is mic

00:03:45.220 this is headphones

00:03:46.180 okay I want to

00:03:46.900 I want to make an announcement

00:03:47.720 so up the headphones

00:03:48.620 slowing down

00:03:49.080 actually looking at it

00:03:49.760 I just learned something

00:03:50.860 Wow. This is unbelievable. I learned something and now my life's better. I swear to God.

00:03:55.800 I know. Because you were flying between solve it now without listening to how.

00:04:01.020 Yeah.

00:04:01.680 And I can live with it. See what I mean?

00:04:04.320 It's really, that was a huge lesson that I will carry.

00:04:07.560 And I will say the Shure microphones, volume slash mic gain button is an odd choice. They've

00:04:14.820 gone the way of the touch bar, which people hate on the Mac. It looks like the future.

00:04:19.360 I think it's gone now

00:04:21.080 But it feels like the past

00:04:22.420 It's like it's smoother and yet it doesn't work

00:04:24.840 I want notches

00:04:26.740 Yeah you want notches

00:04:27.980 I want a button on a notch

00:04:29.260 Wait set aside your phone

00:04:31.680 Because we're going now

00:04:33.620 It better be upside down

00:04:34.940 I don't look at my phone anymore

00:04:37.300 That was a year ago

00:04:39.460 There was a time

00:04:42.100 When was it 0.99

00:04:43.760 Early to mid poog 0.99

00:04:46.420 I was sick

00:04:48.880 in the head and I would look a couple things to say one did you even react to my video that I

00:04:57.440 sent you barely 10 minutes ago what I didn't see a video oh well I have something to say

00:05:03.880 I I haven't clicked press play yet because so I see a video I'm just take take the listeners

00:05:09.940 through my experience before I find out anything that's true okay okay video comes in I've been

00:05:17.000 busy last couple days okay on a final deadline there's been a lot you know traveling i see a

00:05:22.960 video come in i don't press play but i could i can see in the preview that this morning a video

00:05:26.700 this morning mere minutes ago yeah my stomach is still nuts about it okay i see what looks like a

00:05:32.440 coffee machine see what looks like a new coffee machine i see what looks like um some kind of

00:05:40.120 you know thing on the left and i see like a secondary thing to the right almost like two

00:05:45.820 spigots or two cups okay like i'm like oh what is that milk frother on the right and on the left

00:05:50.000 where the espresso comes out i'm going uh last week we didn't talk about cake getting that kind

00:05:56.660 of machine did we we talked about cake and a simple espresso and not out not out shining novak

00:06:03.180 yeah i said you need the simple one the simple one's better etc etc this is not even what this

00:06:09.200 about okay now i go okay there was a moment this past week where the dear friend i'll say it okay

00:06:16.200 am i am am i headed in the right direction because if i am i don't know a dear friend

00:06:21.180 offered offered a coffee oh oh okay i forgot that i told you yeah am i warm oh yeah you're hot as

00:06:27.820 hell okay so so i a dear friend texts me and kate after overhearing our conversation overhearing

00:06:35.040 listening to the podcast okay and hearing over which is of course the thesis of poog

00:06:42.440 someone was eavesdropping someone reached out after eavesdropping on main case conversation

00:06:49.080 oh my god okay no they listened to the episode and they said something like do either of you

00:06:56.240 want my you know delonghi nespresso machine because you know they just made the switch to

00:07:02.220 um you know real pull and stamp fans there yeah i get there too late what what you know oops

00:07:09.000 notifications are silenced okay you're kidding okay i try to you know maintain focus i i come

00:07:15.260 there what is it i don't know whether 10 seconds have passed or two hours but i see kate has

00:07:20.480 responded i'm interested yes and then um our friend says something like great and then i go

00:07:27.200 I'd let it go yeah okay I had to go okay I wasn't even in the market

00:07:33.980 well I'll also next thing I know a video comes I put it aside I let go next thing I know I see

00:07:40.960 a video coming in as if as if proud as if I'm going to take pleasure in my friend's coffee

00:07:45.160 machine okay that just it could have been mine no no what the difference is I would never I would

00:07:53.340 never are you ready and i'm not saying this is right or i'm superior okay i would never just go

00:07:59.840 i'll take it i'd go well i'm interested i'd go well like if i like if i'd gotten it i go i have

00:08:08.760 maybe i'm interested tell me about kate do you want it like i'd probably offer like be like

00:08:12.440 kate needs it it's the opportunity i got it you you went first yeah you you go you go first come

00:08:21.040 for a server around here, I guess.

00:08:22.580 Hang on.

00:08:23.400 It's amazing.

00:08:24.440 So first of all,

00:08:25.720 I think I,

00:08:27.820 and this is like,

00:08:29.140 and hey,

00:08:29.860 this could be a blind spot

00:08:30.820 because we all have them.

00:08:31.980 I genuinely

00:08:32.880 didn't even think

00:08:34.720 you would

00:08:36.180 just kidding.

00:08:37.020 be interested.

00:08:38.600 And I might not

00:08:39.480 even be interested.

00:08:41.080 No, no, no, exactly.

00:08:41.960 No, but the polite manner

00:08:42.860 should have been,

00:08:44.180 I'll take it, Jacqueline.

00:08:46.500 Right.

00:08:47.120 And then, right.

00:08:48.820 I'd even go further,

00:08:49.980 but if it's me,

00:08:51.040 I wouldn't even do an I'll take it.

00:08:52.620 Jacqueline, do you want to interrupt and rob my joy?

00:08:55.160 Okay.

00:08:56.700 I'd go, I'd go, I'd go, Kate.

00:08:59.540 I don't know.

00:09:00.380 I'd lead with the Kate part.

00:09:01.740 I don't know how Kate feels.

00:09:03.040 I'm interested.

00:09:03.820 Kate was actually talking about wanting to try out an espresso machine.

00:09:07.440 I'm not saying I would give it up immediately.

00:09:09.120 I'd just go, I'm interested.

00:09:10.200 No, no.

00:09:10.640 I guess I'd say I'm interested in Kate or whatever.

00:09:12.840 I'm not sure.

00:09:13.240 Go on.

00:09:14.220 I'm loving this.

00:09:14.740 So I did not even consider because, again, someone overheard our conversation.

00:09:21.040 in which I was talking about wanting to try an espresso machine.

00:09:24.740 I was curious having been in hotels recently where it was there

00:09:28.100 and I was shocked by the flavor and the convenience.

00:09:30.360 And I thought, whoa, am I over here trying to be someone?

00:09:35.020 Am I over here trying to...

00:09:36.440 Why do I somehow have disdain in my heart for that machine?

00:09:41.400 There are a few reasons that I understand.

00:09:42.620 But anyway, I didn't think you were even interested.

00:09:46.880 There's actually nothing else to say.

00:09:48.160 i just yeah i felt so entitled to it instantly no i know and and here's my here's my question

00:09:55.120 here's my question because i didn't care enough to even speak up yeah i was distracted i looked

00:10:00.000 at it i was like am i gonna right now be like i might also be interested uh send me specs you

00:10:05.980 know what i mean like free i'll free you from this even further you're out of town she's trying

00:10:10.000 to get this thing laid off her home in los angeles really what i mean really oh yeah it's

00:10:14.460 taken up a lot of space and I felt an urgency to go get it. I felt an urgency to go get it off

00:10:19.420 because she was like, I might just give this to the Goodwill. Like, I don't know. And it was like,

00:10:23.640 really, she was on her way to Goodwill and you saved the day. She said that. She said that they

00:10:27.900 were going to just give it to Goodwill. It's kind of a hunky piece of machinery. This is the long

00:10:32.680 key. Okay. So I'd run over there. I go, let me get off your hands. And then Kate and I will

00:10:36.200 decide who gets it. Oh, right. Right. Totally. Yeah. I'm joking. But it was actually very,

00:10:40.640 I was in the neighborhood. I did a classic. I'm in the neighborhood. Should I swing by?

00:10:43.460 Went and got it

00:10:44.200 It was manic

00:10:44.840 It was so

00:10:45.360 45 minutes

00:10:46.200 Yeah

00:10:46.680 I'm 45 minutes away

00:10:48.480 Should I swing by?

00:10:49.140 In the neighborhood

00:10:49.780 But I just want to say

00:10:51.740 That I turned it on

00:10:52.560 It does need to be descaled

00:10:54.620 Anyway

00:10:56.200 So I guess

00:10:56.980 I have to descale this thing

00:10:58.020 Well

00:10:58.760 And the other thing is

00:10:59.600 I

00:11:00.060 I would get so much pleasure

00:11:01.820 Out of the research

00:11:02.660 The deep dive

00:11:03.600 Okay

00:11:04.060 If I decided to

00:11:05.140 Upgrade

00:11:05.760 Or whatever

00:11:06.340 I would enjoy the deal hunting

00:11:07.700 The whole thing

00:11:08.360 Right

00:11:08.580 It's

00:11:08.820 I mean

00:11:09.640 It's the thrill of the hunt

00:11:10.220 The Black Friday deals

00:11:11.300 I'll be honest

00:11:11.840 That's what enticed me

00:11:12.700 20% off

00:11:13.440 I thought, well, not now when?

00:11:16.300 Well, I'm in a panic because I tried to quickly roll out a Novak's famous merch cart, Black Friday sale and the user interface.

00:11:30.040 It was a nightmare and I had to decide, OK, I guess it's going to be a holiday sale.

00:11:33.300 Yeah.

00:11:33.860 Couldn't hack it in time.

00:11:35.180 Can't imagine.

00:11:36.340 But I never had merch.

00:11:37.520 Did you make a single Black Friday purchase because indecision stopped me?

00:11:42.380 Yeah, it's really hard.

00:11:42.960 So I was in the bathtub and my friend texted me or I was like, what are you doing?

00:11:47.760 And she was like, I'm going crazy online buying things.

00:11:50.500 And I hadn't.

00:11:50.980 And I was like, because I also was frozen in the, you know what I did?

00:11:53.800 I went to MD Solar Science to buy it because I was out of my mineral tinted cream.

00:11:59.220 Yes.

00:11:59.820 Okay.

00:12:00.000 Got maybe $8 off or something.

00:12:02.680 She sends me and in the bathtub, I racked up.

00:12:06.620 She sends me, she said, I'm buying these cashmere slippers.

00:12:10.080 I'm laughing because it's like

00:12:12.680 at Christmas time or in the holidays

00:12:14.980 the gifting

00:12:15.520 two pairs of what?

00:12:17.520 two pairs of slippers?

00:12:18.880 one for my mother 1.00

00:12:19.680 she doesn't only listen to the podcast

00:12:21.340 so I'm hoping she doesn't hear this

00:12:22.880 not because she doesn't love me

00:12:25.280 I know you always clock

00:12:26.680 but for some other reason

00:12:27.960 I think we know your mother loves you

00:12:29.840 what?

00:12:30.860 I think we know your mother loves you

00:12:32.100 oh we know that

00:12:32.780 yeah

00:12:33.320 on this I mean on the podcast even

00:12:35.020 I think the listeners know

00:12:35.980 oh absolutely

00:12:37.100 as you've dropped words

00:12:38.720 yeah absolutely

00:12:39.480 And she does actually

00:12:40.680 Whatever

00:12:41.460 Mom if you're hearing this

00:12:43.060 I got to catch my slippers

00:12:44.640 Okay

00:12:44.940 I myself have been around the house

00:12:48.920 I have this fur lined 0.96

00:12:50.340 Sex in the city 1.00

00:12:51.220 With these shearling Birkenstocks 1.00

00:12:53.600 Sex in the city 1.00

00:12:54.140 You're talking about the woman in the deck

00:12:55.940 No I'm talking about Steve

00:12:57.140 You just sounded a little like him

00:12:59.280 Oh I didn't even consider

00:13:00.560 I have these

00:13:02.380 It's time by the way

00:13:03.120 It's time for me to go back to

00:13:04.120 I watched the whole series through

00:13:06.520 For a 400th time in pandemic

00:13:09.120 Like, woke up this morning and thought, maybe I rack it up again.

00:13:11.800 Maybe I go back for more.

00:13:12.640 I don't know what it is.

00:13:14.080 I'm never in the mood to, like, I'm never, like, dying to re-watch.

00:13:18.280 Isn't that interesting?

00:13:19.080 I think I might have to wait a few years just because I know every episode by heart.

00:13:24.540 Meanwhile, I'm about to start up again on a true crime, like, Discovery Channel series.

00:13:30.160 Like, you know what I mean?

00:13:31.040 Like, the most unre-watchable thing.

00:13:32.600 I want to re-watch because when I watched The Rescue, the Discovery, about the cave.

00:13:37.860 Oh, you're going to watch The Rescue again.

00:13:39.120 Right. You and John Early were so profoundly taken with the rescue.

00:13:43.280 I was so…

00:13:44.520 That it sent me in, like, with, like, almost too much.

00:13:48.520 You know what I mean?

00:13:49.240 Like, you guys were, like, rescue.

00:13:51.060 And I tried to do it to you on FOF. 1.00

00:13:54.100 Oh, fuck. I have to still do that. 1.00

00:13:55.560 But I actually, I've had to take a pause, and I have never in my life had to take a pause due to something disturbing me.

00:14:02.960 The rescue?

00:14:04.020 No. FOF, front of the family.

00:14:06.580 Oh, okay. That's really enticing.

00:14:08.180 I know I love the more you know the more disturbing the better true like like quite

00:14:13.380 literally like you know like is it murder um no interesting you wish you wish oh no um one of the

00:14:22.440 most I mean and also at a pitch that that crosses over into like here's what it's like it's like

00:14:28.780 crosses over into almost like a Todd Salant's dark humor except the story is true oh fabulous

00:14:35.820 And Jake Lacey

00:14:37.940 He's the star

00:14:39.940 To be dead clear

00:14:41.040 He's the star

00:14:41.760 And

00:14:42.220 Quite the career that young man has

00:14:43.840 Will you be able to

00:14:45.300 You know

00:14:46.180 Ever trend

00:14:46.880 It's like

00:14:47.340 You know about

00:14:48.560 Ned Beatty

00:14:50.320 From Deliverance

00:14:52.100 Let's take a minute with this

00:14:53.640 Have you seen Deliverance?

00:14:54.660 Yes

00:14:54.920 But not in years

00:14:55.920 Okay

00:14:56.080 Yeah

00:14:56.840 It's worth a rewatch

00:14:58.180 I mean I

00:14:59.100 Absolutely

00:14:59.680 I watched Deliverance

00:15:01.280 I'd never seen it

00:15:02.020 I watched it at like

00:15:02.880 Three in the morning

00:15:03.540 At my parents' house

00:15:05.380 many many many years ago i think i was living here i think it was during the depression period

00:15:08.900 yeah my dad gets up at like four right so i'm finishing deliverance my dad's getting up to

00:15:14.240 start the day and i come rolling in and i'm like this movie i mean i'm like i know like deliverance

00:15:20.140 everyone's like oh god you know and it's always referenced as like a you know backwoods right

00:15:25.340 like anytime you're like headed out to the country they're like i hope a deliverance doesn't happen

00:15:29.280 to you yeah yeah you know can we just take a second with the title deliverance yes

00:15:36.120 you mean the like spiritual like the intensity of it really good like it's like on the realm of

00:15:44.760 like resurrect or like you know atonement remember atonement like yeah deliverance way better yeah

00:15:51.940 so ned beaty i mean i i mean just to talk about spoiling deliverance is a little whatever

00:15:59.240 Or can you spoil something 40 years after it's making?

00:16:02.720 I think yes.

00:16:03.640 I think yes.

00:16:04.200 Absolutely.

00:16:05.380 Because like, oh, you should have seen it by now.

00:16:08.320 No, if I haven't.

00:16:09.420 And it's a classic that stood the test of time.

00:16:11.960 And why would you?

00:16:13.180 You know what I had spoiled for me?

00:16:15.080 The Iliad.

00:16:16.200 You and I, I was about to talk about,

00:16:18.040 I was about to do a don't spoil the Odyssey for me joke.

00:16:20.480 Oh, no, maybe it was the Odyssey.

00:16:21.580 And I held back.

00:16:22.460 What?

00:16:22.940 Maybe it was the Odyssey.

00:16:23.620 I literally can't remember.

00:16:24.660 Okay.

00:16:25.260 Here's what was spoiled for me.

00:16:26.100 I almost don't want to do it,

00:16:26.840 but I feel like the listeners can handle it.

00:16:28.080 so you know pause now if you don't want to hear it but my my friend spoiled for me she's like

00:16:33.620 hector he dies

00:16:35.060 everyone was like do you know hector he dies and i was like oh and then my teacher at the time was

00:16:42.820 like is that really real spoiling though because everyone knows that hector dies i'm like i don't

00:16:46.700 even know that hector is a character in this who's walking around talking about hector you know what

00:16:50.700 i mean i'll just quickly say that i've even said this on poog i won the marginalia award in high

00:16:56.580 school because of how in-depth my margin notes were on my copy of the Odyssey. So much so that

00:17:03.300 I drew a portrait of Agamemnon crying. And it's such a strong memory. I drew a little drawing

00:17:13.140 of Agamemnon crying and my teacher looked down and said, oh wow, he does cry, huh? My teacher

00:17:18.380 hadn't even noted the Agamemnon cries. And I was like, he's crying. A detail.

00:17:25.580 right the the detail brought into focus to the cracks of the other lines in the book

00:17:31.000 anyway one day i'm gonna i'm just remembering the pleasure of you didn't really have heating

00:17:38.740 i mean it was already warm in california but it was kind of sleepy pleasure of east coast winter

00:17:44.020 in a classroom okay to me they're always overheated there's a radiator so there's this

00:17:48.800 overheated carpeting feeling you're kind of like falling asleep but then like you're also like

00:17:53.320 maybe reading literature and like taking notes and like the interiority of your own notebook

00:17:58.340 and the fact you could do whatever you wanted inside of it like even while taking notes yeah

00:18:01.720 like taking notes I'll say it I miss it absolutely get us oh my god Kate get us in the lecture hall

00:18:11.480 now and I mean in the seats oh it's time imagine you and me are eyes racing in some continuing

00:18:19.840 education coursework, our eyes darting at each other, nodding wildly in excitement.

00:18:25.480 I actively was trying to audit classes at NYU when I was in New York. That's a little bit of

00:18:30.780 a stretch. You mean actively trying to take being thought about it? Googled once and talked to the

00:18:39.140 professor about it. They said it's much harder post-COVID. To do what? Audit. Oh, they don't

00:18:45.000 want any rogue characters floating in the campus has always you know those campuses are always on

00:18:50.520 lockdown but they're extra locked down because of covid yeah but just the overheating yeah they're

00:18:56.640 kind of overheated i can feel that and the elves in the heater deep inside oh right yeah tapping

00:19:03.880 yeah can you believe i'm going back to new york in a couple weeks i'm going to be back in new york

00:19:10.820 winter falling and i'll say this if you're in new york and you want to come see kate on christmas

00:19:16.080 eve christmas eve i know i cannot come on christmas eve because i know i know but i'm

00:19:21.000 just family party no no i know you're not talking to me you're talking to them yeah and i'll again

00:19:24.920 we really need to start pushing shows aggressively on here we need to we need to use the poog 0.98

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00:23:36.800 So my father is doing the athletic greens.

00:23:41.160 I'm really, really pleased.

00:23:43.180 Okay.

00:23:44.220 I'm like, good.

00:23:45.600 He's listening.

00:23:46.320 Okay.

00:23:46.740 Now I'm like really locked on glucose and I'm like, this is the answer to everything.

00:23:50.340 I'm like bullying.

00:23:52.540 Okay.

00:23:53.900 So just before we were going on Poog,

00:23:55.900 I almost was late because I was saying,

00:23:57.580 just please remain open.

00:23:58.680 Please remain open.

00:23:59.760 Next, we're going to talk about like the falsehoods

00:24:01.980 in the medical profession around cholesterol.

00:24:04.460 I've been reading up on this

00:24:05.580 and I will not have them getting,

00:24:09.020 you know, getting old information.

00:24:11.840 Right.

00:24:12.660 From their doctors. 1.00

00:24:13.500 Oh, my mom still like fills up a glass of whole milk 0.99

00:24:16.120 and she's like, good for my bones. 1.00

00:24:18.360 My mother like drinks milk.

00:24:20.020 I'm like, no, actually, I'm sorry.

00:24:21.880 The dairy industry,

00:24:22.680 like no no I know it's like my father's like I'm actually in pretty good shape like like you should

00:24:29.340 see me at the gym like for my age you know he's 73 and so and he'll do the research and he's pretty

00:24:33.020 open Greg is unbelievable so now he's like into Dr. Hyman but sometimes I feel like he's a little

00:24:37.120 too like he's like oh Dr. Hyman says to get the you know the um the cranberry the the pomegranate

00:24:43.600 like powder or whatever you know or something whatever my dad's like I drink the palm I'm like

00:24:48.080 no honey

00:24:49.380 palm

00:24:50.000 the bottle of palm

00:24:51.560 in the fridge

00:24:52.380 that's

00:24:53.060 tart

00:24:54.340 and

00:24:55.140 cane sugar

00:24:56.200 75,000 grams of sugar

00:24:58.120 by the way

00:24:58.900 I want to talk about

00:24:59.680 tart cherry juice

00:25:00.140 I lose my mind

00:25:01.220 he says he's off the palm

00:25:02.400 he's off the palm

00:25:03.760 thank God

00:25:04.320 we need to start doing

00:25:05.180 tart cherry juice

00:25:06.140 really?

00:25:07.220 yeah 1.00

00:25:07.480 like the pure shit 1.00

00:25:08.700 okay 0.99

00:25:09.400 but palm

00:25:10.320 I remember

00:25:11.160 I remember an article

00:25:12.840 in the New Yorker

00:25:13.480 I would love to

00:25:14.060 I would love to get this

00:25:14.980 from a million years ago

00:25:16.260 I read it on a flight

00:25:17.200 it was amazing

00:25:18.320 but it was about

00:25:18.840 the woman who like

00:25:19.780 founded Palm

00:25:20.540 and about her

00:25:21.640 bunker

00:25:22.560 like she had 0.99

00:25:24.200 she was so loaded

00:25:25.100 from Palm 0.96

00:25:25.860 oh that she had a

00:25:28.120 she had one of these

00:25:28.980 fear of the end bunker

00:25:29.880 crazy bunkers

00:25:30.880 and there was a detail

00:25:31.540 that I'll never forget

00:25:32.300 which is that

00:25:32.900 in her bunker

00:25:35.000 oh my god

00:25:36.680 I just got chills

00:25:37.140 up my spine

00:25:37.640 and the chills

00:25:39.280 are radiating

00:25:39.780 even further

00:25:40.240 okay

00:25:40.600 yeah I just got them

00:25:41.800 as a result of yours

00:25:42.760 without even knowing

00:25:43.420 what was coming

00:25:44.340 in her bunker

00:25:46.420 there were digitized windows that showed New York City streets and cabs whizzing by

00:25:54.120 and they would change with the seasons.

00:25:55.980 And where was your bunker located?

00:25:57.920 In like Santa Fe or somewhere psycho.

00:26:00.460 And the digitized windows were programmed to show the changing seasons of New York City.

00:26:05.660 So she was anticipating being underground for years.

00:26:08.060 And night and day. Was there night and day?

00:26:08.900 Correct. And seasons.

00:26:10.200 Brilliant.

00:26:10.580 Snowfall. Winter. Do you follow?

00:26:13.160 Amazing.

00:26:13.720 In the bunker.

00:26:14.300 yeah she is she is getting a talk about not having god well yeah i mean i mean there's a

00:26:21.420 few things okay because this is the mortality again okay because i had a moment where my mother

00:26:25.920 you know wielding this turkey slicer okay you know what i mean and i'm just like mother please

00:26:33.260 like just just just take it easy and then i was thinking about okay turkey i saw your mother with

00:26:37.920 a turkey slicer i saw the turkey slicer jacqueline made me feel very loved on thanksgiving as you

00:26:41.640 knew I was alone I was fine but Jacqueline sent me several videos and I really felt it really meant

00:26:47.900 a lot to me and one of just like long long like three minute ambient like like I was really taking

00:26:53.080 it in like I often wasn't talking and then there I see an electronic turkey slicer yes which I

00:26:59.060 only associate with Goyim and she's the daughter of a rabbi I know see but I I think it's Jewish 0.77

00:27:08.620 okay to figure out what works and do it i mean do you mean versus just um hacking it with a 0.70

00:27:15.860 with a with a knife a jewish knife the electronic yeah knife i always yeah no my mom's very like

00:27:21.840 with that so like she doesn't my mom's not precious about like like i was telling her to

00:27:26.540 not always have to tell everybody when they compliment something okay like this chili like

00:27:31.320 she's planning on making this chili for like around christmas eve like and she's like and

00:27:35.140 i can make an advance i can freeze it and i'm like and you don't have to when you're serving

00:27:38.080 every single bowl tell them that it's been frozen for six weeks you know what i mean like yeah like

00:27:44.860 it's always like oh it's been like you know like the food's great oh it's been rotting oh it's

00:27:48.660 nothing it's been yeah but but all i'll say is this so so i'm getting on my dad i'm like okay

00:27:52.900 he's on the athletic greens this opens the door to the next conversation glucose okay and i'm like 0.94

00:27:57.360 worried because he was off salt for like a real long time because salt makes him feel like shit 0.56

00:28:01.900 his words okay so he had completely reduced his sodium down he runs okay so he needs he needs 0.95

00:28:08.060 he needs the electrolytes

00:28:10.520 the LMNT

00:28:12.180 which they need to reach out

00:28:14.400 we need to get corporate involved

00:28:16.080 I'm like where the hell

00:28:18.180 I've purchased this stuff

00:28:19.740 I don't know four times

00:28:21.840 yeah well by the way that

00:28:24.280 and I want to talk about the aura ring

00:28:25.820 okay which you purchased

00:28:28.180 no okay I didn't even 0.91

00:28:30.260 fucking know it existed I don't know what happened 0.85

00:28:32.300 this is where you and I have a departure which is 0.96

00:28:34.260 celebrated tech

00:28:35.740 Yeah, because I have no interest in monitoring devices or tech, really, in that way.

00:28:42.080 Tech outside of facial devices.

00:28:43.700 Well, you know, my desire to see inside the body.

00:28:45.640 And I do want the closest you can get.

00:28:47.580 I want the pure lift.

00:28:48.520 To seeing inside the body.

00:28:49.960 But I think there are benefits that you can enjoy from...

00:28:52.720 Anyway, so I'm starting to be like, Dad, what's going on with that?

00:28:54.940 Because I know I hear he's back on a little bit of salt and da-da-da.

00:28:57.740 And they realized that maybe he was over-hydrating, literally.

00:29:00.780 There it is, folks.

00:29:01.560 You need salt for the hydration to clean.

00:29:03.140 over hydrating or not eating enough salt.

00:29:07.660 Yeah.

00:29:07.820 You need the salt.

00:29:08.940 Yeah.

00:29:09.160 But the problem was literally how much he was drinking.

00:29:10.880 He was drinking too much water.

00:29:13.360 Never heard of.

00:29:14.200 So they were like,

00:29:14.620 either you're not having any salt or you're drinking too much. 0.92

00:29:16.680 Block belt.

00:29:17.120 So I'm like,

00:29:17.500 okay.

00:29:17.700 I'm like,

00:29:18.040 well,

00:29:18.160 dad,

00:29:18.440 you know,

00:29:18.660 you could track it.

00:29:19.540 Okay.

00:29:19.640 I'm like,

00:29:19.860 you can get an app and track it.

00:29:20.860 You tap the thing.

00:29:21.700 I never do it,

00:29:22.280 but whatever.

00:29:23.440 And he's like,

00:29:24.420 oh,

00:29:24.680 I'm tracking it.

00:29:25.980 Okay.

00:29:26.740 He goes,

00:29:27.240 I've read,

00:29:27.520 I've read four studies.

00:29:29.200 I have Excel spreadsheets.

00:29:30.960 Stop.

00:29:32.040 Yes.

00:29:32.500 Okay.

00:29:32.740 we sell spreadsheets he goes and by the way and the water that i'm getting from food

00:29:36.520 he's being trash what he read the studies that you retain like 20 of the water in or 40 of the

00:29:43.500 water from a thing of coffee 20 from beer and so now he has he has something like he knows exactly 0.91

00:29:50.680 what he needs what's a hit yeah he is outrageous i love him and i'm just and then so my mother hears

00:29:56.340 me because I get on her I really put my hands around her neck yeah okay I'd say why aren't

00:30:02.540 you taking your athletic greens yeah and then but her whole thing is you're gonna die anyway

00:30:07.120 totally that's like my mom's approach a little bit yeah like it doesn't matter that he's making

00:30:11.560 all these health health efforts because in a second yeah well she's not wrong that's why uh

00:30:16.380 we got to read that book by Barbara Ehrenreich R.A.P. um I've never said that about someone in

00:30:22.440 my life, RIP. Well, I've always thought it's disrespectful. It's like, really? Yeah. In

00:30:30.900 their death, you don't have time to, to say out the, you're HBDing someone when they're dead.

00:30:38.520 Are you interested? Cause I am going to start the begging process for a very expensive juicer.

00:30:44.400 You had your nose up at juice. Do I beg for you or do I split off and just try to get one?

00:30:50.080 this is a high price ticket juicer right so you're going she doesn't want it anyway why am I

00:30:55.700 I'll beg for two why am I risking the over ass right right but but I will I will joyously beg

00:30:59.880 for two but I'm just like here's what you're gonna do you're gonna beg for two yeah okay

00:31:04.380 because technically for a we are podcast hosts okay for them to give two is is standard we're

00:31:11.000 two different people two different homes so if they're willing to give one I believe they're

00:31:14.320 willing to give two okay interesting okay okay i mean it would be it's one thing when i say can

00:31:20.400 our producer get one okay right you know you know what i mean it's like it would be weird to send to

00:31:25.940 one host you know it's not like you're like um you know johnny and and i'm the the band leader

00:31:33.640 you know what i mean and if i decide it's bullshit i don't want it or whatever we'll auction it off 0.95

00:31:38.440 to the poo community. 0.98

00:31:39.900 Oh, interesting. 1.00

00:31:41.000 We'll do a raffle.

00:31:42.580 All right.

00:31:42.860 I'm not running a raffle.

00:31:44.040 Forget it.

00:31:45.900 Okay.

00:31:46.360 Think about it.

00:31:47.260 Because I'm going for a high ticket,

00:31:49.020 slow masticating,

00:31:50.360 I believe it's called,

00:31:51.220 juicer,

00:31:52.240 cold press juicer.

00:31:53.040 That makes a lot of sense.

00:31:54.220 You see-

00:31:54.460 I watched the videos.

00:31:55.480 What?

00:31:55.700 It's false like lion jaws in there,

00:31:57.420 just slowly chewing on your juice?

00:32:00.320 Yeah.

00:32:00.600 So it goes slow,

00:32:01.460 it's quiet,

00:32:02.220 and it reduces everything

00:32:03.400 to a dry pulp.

00:32:05.980 And you throw,

00:32:06.780 it's not the thing

00:32:07.260 with a conventional juicer

00:32:08.360 where you have to like put the cucumber in,

00:32:11.180 tamper it down.

00:32:12.080 You just throw it all in a bucket.

00:32:13.680 You leave the room for Christ's sake.

00:32:15.600 And it slowly goes.

00:32:17.820 Maybe even more quiet than that.

00:32:20.960 Now, this is interesting.

00:32:22.000 Okay.

00:32:23.420 I just, what are you planning on juicing?

00:32:26.080 Green juices.

00:32:27.080 Green juices.

00:32:28.060 Perhaps beets as well.

00:32:29.220 Then do it in a smoothie.

00:32:31.780 Listen to me.

00:32:32.400 Listen to me.

00:32:32.860 Listen to me.

00:32:33.140 Listen to me.

00:32:33.660 That's better.

00:32:35.060 Ginger.

00:32:35.800 One word. 1.00

00:32:36.520 Ginger. 1.00

00:32:37.340 You can grind ginger up too.

00:32:39.300 Are you joking? 0.86

00:32:40.120 If you want a mouthful of hair.

00:32:41.120 I don't know. 0.99

00:32:41.500 If you want a ginger furball every day for the rest of your life. 1.00

00:32:44.940 Mouthful of hair. 0.99

00:32:45.940 What?

00:32:46.740 Well, first of all, mouthful of hair and perfect digestion, maybe.

00:32:50.620 Maybe that's what you need.

00:32:51.840 I'm swallowing some hair.

00:32:52.680 No, I think that I don't believe in juice baths.

00:32:55.620 I don't believe in-

00:32:56.280 You are a low transit motility, mobility of the GI tract.

00:33:01.260 You're not going to tell me.

00:33:01.900 You are not someone who removes fiber from a diet.

00:33:03.960 You're not going to tell me that that green juice isn't that if I do,

00:33:09.180 imagine this, collards, parsley, cilantro, lemon.

00:33:15.240 Yeah.

00:33:15.760 Welcome to a smoothie. 0.96

00:33:17.220 That's what I throw in a smoothie.

00:33:18.480 It's called a green smoothie.

00:33:19.980 Okay.

00:33:20.300 And it does a thousand things that are better for you.

00:33:22.320 You have to-

00:33:23.240 Okay.

00:33:23.520 No, I absolutely, I hear you.

00:33:27.540 Why must it be a juicer?

00:33:29.220 I think you're seduced by some kind of Hollywood juicer dream that you have a vision of

00:33:33.860 from the 90s I'm gonna look this up I do have a dream of oh look at that lemon in the juicer oh

00:33:39.720 a cucumber oh look yeah I put all that in the blender in the Vitamix and and then you really

00:33:46.220 know what you've just you've just done something why green smoothie are better than green no listen

00:33:52.420 I completely I'm never gonna sit here and debate with you the fiber situation the fiber situation

00:33:58.560 is real. And I'm not doing meal replacement here. Okay. This is like an additive.

00:34:04.640 Oh no. What?

00:34:05.580 Green juice can take, wait, hold on.

00:34:06.760 What are you saying? Here we go.

00:34:08.120 No, they're showing a benefit. I'm not pleased. All right. Hold on. Wait.

00:34:14.520 Oh, but you know, they're not, hold on. Do you hear me like prevaricating?

00:34:19.740 I'm like, oh no, well no. Hold on. Hold on.

00:34:23.740 Is it just about the fiber? Let's see what Carol Egan is saying. I don't know who she is, but

00:34:28.460 She's come up.

00:34:29.180 I mean, her search engine work is phenomenal.

00:34:31.980 Both offer benefits, but different benefits.

00:34:35.160 Okay, correct.

00:34:36.520 We know that.

00:34:37.660 Let's see.

00:34:41.780 Green juice is made by extracting the vegetable and fruit water from the whole foods used

00:34:45.360 and discarding the fiber, unlike with smoothies.

00:34:47.680 Okay.

00:34:49.040 This is what many do not understand.

00:34:50.720 Why would you separate the fiber?

00:34:51.820 Oh, no.

00:34:52.920 Why would you separate the fiber?

00:34:53.980 Many do not understand. 1.00

00:34:54.980 They've cast Novak as a common fool. 1.00

00:34:56.980 Yeah. 1.00

00:34:57.220 What do they say?

00:34:59.600 Oh, honestly, here it comes.

00:35:01.220 And this is not what you need.

00:35:02.180 Okay.

00:35:02.980 In a nutshell, when you drink juice, no digestive fire is required.

00:35:06.820 No work.

00:35:07.560 Okay.

00:35:07.960 No work.

00:35:08.380 It doesn't have to do anything to take in the nutrients.

00:35:11.540 It's like an IV.

00:35:13.720 Okay.

00:35:15.600 Now.

00:35:16.520 Interesting.

00:35:17.400 Now, however, Kate, you ready?

00:35:20.460 Yeah.

00:35:22.100 This is especially helpful for all of us who've lived.

00:35:24.420 I'm going to try to offend you now.

00:35:25.680 on some version of the standard American diet.

00:35:32.420 Do you count yourself one of those people?

00:35:35.000 No.

00:35:36.500 I'm Mediterranean.

00:35:38.260 I don't know. 0.98

00:35:39.020 I'm displeased.

00:35:40.020 Okay.

00:35:40.200 I'm just, I'm displeased.

00:35:41.220 I, I, I, cause I'm, I'm, I liked what I read, you know, I, you know, the green smoothie

00:35:47.080 revolution in 2015 and, and I was seduced and now I'm a zealot and I guess that's, I

00:35:53.760 have to investigate that.

00:35:54.820 We're going to talk about the juicers.

00:35:56.040 I've done the research.

00:35:56.860 You can get a really,

00:35:57.640 you can get a totally great juicer for $100.

00:36:00.060 I know what caused this.

00:36:01.620 I know what caused this.

00:36:03.060 But listen, what? 1.00

00:36:04.060 You got rid of your OcuTru, okay?

00:36:05.840 You got under counter filtration

00:36:07.680 and now you're going,

00:36:08.780 you're looking at that space and going,

00:36:10.260 something's got to go there.

00:36:11.660 That's funny.

00:36:12.760 Tell me it ain't true.

00:36:14.120 Now I have my Nespresso DeLonghi there,

00:36:17.220 which I have to descale.

00:36:19.060 You're furious that it arrived, scaled?

00:36:21.360 No.

00:36:22.380 I still had a cup of coffee this morning.

00:36:23.660 How could a friend give that to me?

00:36:24.820 No, it makes complete sense.

00:36:26.140 I mean, yeah, that's on the new person to de-scale, I'd say.

00:36:29.780 Completely.

00:36:30.600 I have zero anger.

00:36:31.820 And the AquaTrue, let's be honest, I lived with it.

00:36:34.940 It needed to be de-scaled.

00:36:36.140 You know what I did?

00:36:36.880 I shipped my AquaTrue to a dear friend.

00:36:40.300 Who was up to the task of cleaning it once a year?

00:36:43.140 It was so clean because I, whatever.

00:36:46.760 Who cares?

00:36:47.620 Well, we do.

00:36:48.900 But I want the juicer.

00:36:50.940 Wait, what are you looking up about juicer on your phone?

00:36:53.240 I'm looking up the juicer.

00:36:54.660 The juicer is called Nama.

00:36:55.840 Oh.

00:36:56.860 Please, Nama. 0.97

00:36:57.300 Well, I now want in because I haven't done the research and I can't risk getting out. 1.00

00:37:01.420 Sorry, bitch. 1.00

00:37:02.240 You're going to have to beg for two. 1.00

00:37:03.100 Okay.

00:37:03.280 We want two Namas.

00:37:05.120 Okay.

00:37:06.000 However, if I had one Christmas gift.

00:37:07.920 Yeah.

00:37:08.240 Okay.

00:37:08.540 That's fun.

00:37:09.860 I still yearn for like the healthy line mat or the PEMF, one of these PEMF.

00:37:16.540 You know, it's just, you know, all I want is a higher dose Sonomat, right?

00:37:20.620 I mean, the sleep-whip and gag.

00:37:22.800 Yeah.

00:37:23.000 You know, no, it will not become the thing folded up under my television.

00:37:26.380 You know what I mean?

00:37:27.320 And it became that.

00:37:28.540 And then it's folded up under the television, you know, covered in dust.

00:37:31.800 I know.

00:37:32.120 And if you don't, this is why, if you don't leave it out.

00:37:35.560 You won't use it.

00:37:36.940 Yeah.

00:37:37.160 You have to leave it out.

00:37:39.300 I think.

00:37:40.140 I want, okay.

00:37:40.720 But I want, you want, you want the PMF mat for Christmas?

00:37:43.340 I don't even know.

00:37:44.100 I don't know.

00:37:44.600 I'm not ready for Santa again.

00:37:46.000 This is like the free people thing. 1.00

00:37:47.300 I want Nama. 0.97

00:37:48.620 She, you know, you lock in. 0.97

00:37:50.740 Oh, I lock in hard. 1.00

00:37:52.420 Oh.

00:37:53.000 Oh, I got some recommendations actually from my sister.

00:37:55.160 I almost was going to buy and didn't.

00:37:56.500 You talked about Black Friday.

00:37:57.480 I was really interested in abyssal, cordless, wet vacuum.

00:38:04.120 Wet?

00:38:04.940 It like-

00:38:05.500 Oh no, okay, okay.

00:38:06.600 It mops, you're saying.

00:38:07.880 And it vacuums.

00:38:08.840 Because wet vacs are like you go outside

00:38:10.600 and your car is flooded

00:38:11.800 and you can actually vacuum water.

00:38:13.560 Oh, sorry, no.

00:38:13.880 What I mean is that it,

00:38:16.000 I don't know, but my friend who's really into cleaning

00:38:17.860 said that she loves it

00:38:18.840 and it delivers high powered.

00:38:20.940 if it's vacuuming and it's also, there's a wet element.

00:38:24.500 I didn't do the research, okay?

00:38:26.640 And we're not talking Swiffer wet jet here.

00:38:28.540 No.

00:38:29.660 Which by the way, I mean, no sneezing at them.

00:38:33.480 I mean, the Swiffer, it was a revolution.

00:38:35.840 Yeah, it was a very wasteful revolution.

00:38:45.340 I just, I remember one time like in Bed Bath & Beyond

00:38:50.180 or something like trying to sell someone on the swimmer like they'd like they weren't familiar 1.00

00:38:55.720 i was like well get ready yeah for your life to change yeah because the mopping always seemed

00:39:01.940 confusing like no they were like no that's like way below us you know what i mean like they were

00:39:07.500 like no like we actually want to do real cleaning like because because what is it i mean it's it's

00:39:12.020 a wet wipe on a stick is that now i don't and i don't believe i don't believe that actually okay

00:39:18.020 it is well that's what it is that's that's a that's what a hater wants to say you know what

00:39:23.000 i mean it's a wet paper towel on a stick which is by the way efficient which does something

00:39:27.160 exactly and that's why i'd rather get well you know i was we've talked about this infomercial

00:39:32.540 but i was absolutely seduced as a child by a smart mop what's that one is the one that squeezes and

00:39:37.400 spins okay yeah that was amazing i've watched those ads and it's it's almost like microfiber

00:39:42.980 However, tell me about the Bissell.

00:39:45.340 I'm interested.

00:39:45.960 Whatever.

00:39:46.400 I sent you, I just, this is, this is a huge markdown.

00:39:48.920 Okay.

00:39:49.160 I look here.

00:39:49.860 Okay.

00:39:50.240 Original price.

00:39:50.960 This is a sale.

00:39:51.620 It's hard, right?

00:39:52.480 Original price, 500.

00:39:54.760 Oh, okay.

00:39:55.500 Cause we're still above, let me guess.

00:39:57.380 We're still above 350.

00:39:59.640 319. 0.99

00:40:01.460 Oh shit. 0.99

00:40:02.460 Right. 1.00

00:40:02.800 They are riding the line.

00:40:04.120 They are riding that line.

00:40:05.100 They are making it.

00:40:06.960 Cause the Bissell Crossways.

00:40:08.180 So much of Black Friday is not as big enough sale.

00:40:12.300 This isn't?

00:40:12.860 You know what I mean?

00:40:13.580 Oh, very often.

00:40:14.080 So much of Black Friday isn't.

00:40:15.220 No.

00:40:16.140 You're like, oh, I can panic and buy this.

00:40:18.060 And yes, I could save $9.

00:40:20.280 I will go, what am I out of?

00:40:23.520 Like truly.

00:40:24.780 Yeah.

00:40:24.940 Oh, okay.

00:40:25.620 Well, I might as well do it this week.

00:40:27.760 Okay.

00:40:28.240 Do I want to get all of my SPF for the year?

00:40:30.900 Wow.

00:40:31.140 If it's like talking about 30% off and higher.

00:40:34.400 Yeah.

00:40:34.640 I might head over to at least SoCo Glam.

00:40:36.580 You know, you know what words I like?

00:40:39.180 Site-wide.

00:40:40.340 Site-wide.

00:40:42.160 Let me just take a minute with this.

00:40:44.060 What do I want?

00:40:44.680 I want unitards.

00:40:45.840 Oh, okay.

00:40:46.540 I want more unitards, okay?

00:40:48.700 I've been wearing my Where One's At unitards all year that they sent us.

00:40:53.200 Thank God.

00:40:53.720 I ordered more for myself.

00:40:55.060 Great.

00:40:55.340 I've been enjoying those, but I need more unitards.

00:40:58.080 I mean, if I'm working out every day, I got to like what I'm wearing.

00:41:02.060 Wow.

00:41:02.820 Now that I have a mirror, the Huvit, the Ikea Huvit, I've eyed for nine years.

00:41:07.260 The what?

00:41:07.600 Finally pulled the trigger.

00:41:08.160 I think it's like 180 bucks or something.

00:41:10.020 What is it?

00:41:10.520 A mirror?

00:41:11.120 Yeah, it's like a classic IKEA beloved mirror that, you know, really opens up the space.

00:41:15.400 Yeah.

00:41:15.760 It's like three yards tall.

00:41:17.140 Oh, yeah.

00:41:17.480 Well, as you know, I have a whole wall in my bedroom, which I love.

00:41:20.720 Yeah.

00:41:21.140 It's a luxury.

00:41:23.540 Yeah.

00:41:23.840 If I lived there, I would move my bed into the living room.

00:41:25.900 Floor to ceiling.

00:41:26.980 And that would be my Tracy cave.

00:41:29.080 Wow. 0.96

00:41:29.380 hello it's me anna sinfield from the girlfriends the number one hit true crime show that puts women

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00:42:20.280 You'll even get to meet my mum in that one,

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00:42:25.060 I'm not too intimidated by her.

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00:42:39.700 Ever feel like you're being chased by the marriage police?

00:42:43.720 Welcome to Boys and Girls, the podcast where dating isn't dating.

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00:43:42.080 called the red weather it was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea in 1995 my neighbor

00:43:50.840 and a trainer disappeared from a commune it was hard to wrap your head around it was nature and

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00:44:05.380 i lied to everybody there were years right where i could not say your name i've decided to go back

00:44:10.560 to my hometown in Northern California,

00:44:12.360 interview my friends, family,

00:44:13.760 talk to police, journalists,

00:44:15.180 whomever I can to try to find out

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00:44:18.520 Isn't it a little bit weird

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00:44:21.440 and not the obvious boyfriend?

00:44:23.100 They have had this case for 30 years.

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00:45:17.280 I want to talk about Thanksgiving because we didn't do the recap. And I just think we should

00:45:21.440 quickly. Because remember, we went off on our days and you were encouraging me to not force a day.

00:45:28.000 Oh, this is funny. Yeah.

00:45:30.160 Because I got a text from you saying, thank you for telling me I don't need to go on a

00:45:34.620 river walk or whatever.

00:45:36.480 Okay.

00:45:36.860 Thanksgiving river walk.

00:45:38.060 I didn't get a chance to respond to that one.

00:45:39.840 I missed that one.

00:45:40.640 I think you heard it.

00:45:41.420 Yeah.

00:45:41.580 When I come back, I see that message and then I see you on a walk.

00:45:44.840 Yeah.

00:45:45.380 I did it.

00:45:46.060 Guess what?

00:45:46.680 I'm glad I did.

00:45:47.660 I'm sure you are.

00:45:48.860 There was something about setting off on Thanksgiving.

00:45:51.360 The walk that I do a lot, deserted, empty.

00:45:53.700 No one's there.

00:45:55.020 And immediately I thought, someone's going to take me, right?

00:45:57.560 Take you away.

00:45:58.160 You know, a lonely woman out there on Thanksgiving, where's her family? 0.97

00:46:02.080 Doesn't she have anyone? 0.69

00:46:03.300 Perfect target. 1.00

00:46:04.280 They find to be taken. 1.00

00:46:04.940 There's one woman who's out there alone trying to have a nice, you know, trying to look inward.

00:46:10.120 You think this is a hot night for the kidnapping community? 0.96

00:46:16.460 Probably.

00:46:17.860 And so I'm on my walk though, and it's going to get dark kind of soon.

00:46:22.320 So I have a little pep in my step to really make the loop.

00:46:24.380 and i'm walking and i'm right i'm definitely doing a mushrooms the whole time speech in my

00:46:30.440 head it's like this is good this is good that i'm and i'm and i'm enjoying i am enjoying being

00:46:34.860 alone you know i'm like look at me you know wow how devastating look at this devastating

00:46:40.320 you know yeah and then i pass i pass a few people you know you're out to dinner every night i mean

00:46:49.780 your ear. Well, that's the thing. I mean, that's the joke. It's like, it's constantly, you know,

00:46:55.280 you're on your way out to dinner, hard out at five says Kate Berlant. Okay. No, this is the

00:47:01.500 first night in six years, you know, socializing. Just about, just about. And so I was, I was really

00:47:06.820 enjoying it. I'm walking, don't see anyone. And then I start to see this figure approach.

00:47:13.100 this older man in a bright orange sweatshirt passes me he smiles at me in this way that is

00:47:20.020 the most beautiful he's like probably in his 70s he flashes the smile at me and it was like

00:47:26.320 we looked at each other and it was like you and me you alone on thanksgiving kind of and it was

00:47:32.260 like yeah but it was like the joy he had like the joy of a thousand he had the thousand stars yeah

00:47:37.780 Yeah. He just was so, and it, it truly, when's the last, when's the last time someone's smile

00:47:42.640 changed your life. But like his smile truly imbued me with this. I was like, yeah. And

00:47:48.800 then I caught him on the other side of the loop. Wow. Now this time you gave him, I tried to give

00:47:53.900 him my biggest smile. I need to, wait, wait, picture it. He didn't exactly. Right. Cause

00:47:59.000 yours is effortful. Yours is all about, you've, you've, you've made a huge deal about what his

00:48:05.500 smile meant for you and how this whole day sold it. Oh, these people think they had a great time,

00:48:09.600 you know, seven hours with their family. I got what they were probably more than what they got

00:48:13.480 in one smile. One stranger's smile. Yeah, exactly. So then I, mine was effortful. I was thinking

00:48:19.600 how hot teeth. Yeah. So I gave him a really big one and he then gave me a more modest

00:48:26.800 acknowledgement of the smile. Cause he, he is effortless. Okay. This is what's interesting.

00:48:32.820 this is effortless grace

00:48:34.340 this person

00:48:34.900 okay

00:48:35.300 yeah

00:48:35.800 he is effortless grace

00:48:37.260 and therefore

00:48:37.920 and his

00:48:39.980 his meter

00:48:40.700 is so sensitively tuned

00:48:42.240 that he knows

00:48:44.260 that then when

00:48:44.880 this lady 1.00

00:48:45.380 that got a little 1.00

00:48:45.940 too much pleasure

00:48:46.820 out of his first smile

00:48:48.080 okay

00:48:49.280 he's now

00:48:49.740 he's now

00:48:50.200 been awoken

00:48:51.040 yeah

00:48:52.260 he knows he's got to temper it

00:48:53.760 or

00:48:54.300 or you might be like

00:48:55.520 following him home

00:48:56.400 you're like

00:49:00.240 you're like

00:49:00.800 no I almost said

00:49:01.980 hey

00:49:02.180 what's your name

00:49:02.760 come over

00:49:03.800 yeah yeah exactly

00:49:04.700 I've got an

00:49:05.420 I got an extra box

00:49:06.160 of pasta at home

00:49:06.880 come on

00:49:07.280 yeah yeah

00:49:09.560 it's like

00:49:10.340 I'm making some pasta

00:49:11.400 tonight

00:49:11.800 for myself

00:49:13.120 yeah can you imagine

00:49:14.000 um

00:49:15.220 I also want to say

00:49:18.040 that something

00:49:18.440 that I'm curious about

00:49:19.300 that we have not

00:49:19.820 talked about

00:49:20.300 is facial cupping 0.98

00:49:21.180 the little squeeze

00:49:21.940 the little squeeze

00:49:22.860 well I

00:49:23.420 you might have forgotten

00:49:25.040 because

00:49:25.560 I purchased

00:49:27.060 a set of cups

00:49:28.060 like last year

00:49:28.960 uh

00:49:30.040 they kind of have

00:49:30.560 the little rubberized

00:49:31.440 thing to make

00:49:32.200 like the

00:49:32.640 to make it suction yeah went too hard i had a bruise oh i do remember that i had like bruising

00:49:39.200 on the face i've heard you can't have you can't let it hover for more than like four seconds yeah

00:49:43.560 and you gotta like keep it moving keep moving and keep it light like let's um like i'm you know

00:49:48.380 what i would like a light facial yeah who's never sent us gustin spotter among many other brands

00:49:53.960 soft services i'm curious see this is what we need to do by the way thank you dr loretta for

00:49:59.640 hearing us and sending us a fresh kit yeah thank you dr loretta i will not be forgotten you will

00:50:06.060 not be forgotten also marie veronique i didn't get that wrong did i the natural retinol yeah

00:50:13.120 got a gorgeous set beautiful set gorgeous and you've started on one of them the retinol yeah

00:50:19.060 here it is i see it marie veronique beautiful kit was sent send the whole line if you're smart

00:50:27.160 god can you believe my mother with it okay so so let me just like here's what I want to know

00:50:32.180 because don't you kind of feel like what I'm disappointed in myself for and you okay is that

00:50:37.240 I don't I feel like we're not we're falling behind like why am I still talking about the

00:50:43.660 PEMF mat that was a that was a hot ticket holiday item last year yeah you know what I'm saying like

00:50:49.860 I'm like like I'm missing something oh I got a recommendation from my sister wait let me see

00:50:54.740 what it was. I can't remember if it was, it was Tatcha or Tata that she said, you know,

00:51:01.320 Tata Harper. Was it Tatcha? Oh, Tata Harper. But it was a priming. I wonder if when Tata came

00:51:05.520 along of Tata was like, fuck. But it was a primer that came in a compact. That's Tatcha. And I've, 0.99

00:51:11.180 and I've owned that. Really? It's not a fan. I purchased it. No, it is really good. It was

00:51:16.800 something that I got and I was like, this is life-changing. This is incredible. This is

00:51:22.120 what I will always use

00:51:23.460 until I die

00:51:24.100 and then naturally

00:51:25.080 I just stopped using it

00:51:25.940 let me look it up

00:51:26.420 wait it is Tatcha

00:51:27.320 it's Tatcha

00:51:28.380 it's in a circular thing

00:51:29.740 there it is

00:51:30.960 it's kind of a beautiful object

00:51:31.820 silk canvas

00:51:32.280 silk canvas

00:51:33.240 I'll try it tonight

00:51:34.380 okay

00:51:35.260 and then my mother

00:51:36.160 I was very proud of her

00:51:37.960 because she seemed

00:51:39.320 really excited about it

00:51:40.040 I had two Westman Atelier

00:51:41.360 little sticks

00:51:42.300 whoa

00:51:43.220 one was like a highlighter

00:51:44.120 and one was a

00:51:44.860 sort of a blush

00:51:45.820 I stand by the highlighter

00:51:46.640 yeah 0.96

00:51:46.920 although she kind of like

00:51:47.980 she's like

00:51:48.260 and I just do it here

00:51:48.820 she's very you know 1.00

00:51:49.580 she's very like casual 0.91

00:51:50.340 like she's like

00:51:51.480 a little here

00:51:51.880 Like she's, she's like an innocent, you know what I mean?

00:51:53.760 Like I was like, mother, mother, blend it, mother.

00:51:56.920 I was like, don't put the highlighter.

00:51:58.240 Like, I mean, you can't put it on your nose, but it was almost like, you know, it was like T-zone and I'm ready to go.

00:52:03.880 You know what I mean?

00:52:05.880 I made the mistake of, I had a friend gave me a NARS illuminating powder and I thought it was just powder.

00:52:14.000 Yeah, put it everywhere.

00:52:14.460 And I was about to leave the house and I, of course, put it over my entire face.

00:52:18.000 Which again, though.

00:52:19.420 No, I don't.

00:52:19.820 I already told you that thing.

00:52:20.600 I went, huh.

00:52:21.500 Well, like Tilbury, I do everywhere, but, but I remember a makeup artist in like, in like 2002 saying like about NARS, this was secondhand through my sister, but NARS, orgasm, blush.

00:52:35.080 They were like, I put it everywhere.

00:52:36.720 Unbelievable.

00:52:37.360 See, you and me just love a, a hard line, an extreme statement, right?

00:52:44.560 That's the thrill of it.

00:52:46.040 It was the, you know, oh, Thanksgiving was saved by the one smile.

00:52:50.580 it's like do you know what I mean it's like it's got to be one or the other it can't be somewhere

00:52:55.260 in the middle somewhere in the middle it's just like what are we even doing here I don't know it's

00:52:59.900 the same thing it's like but I'm I'm interested in what what we are wildly missing brand wise like

00:53:06.500 what because I feel like I feel frankly behind I'm humiliated I really feel I feel good with

00:53:11.980 bras we got Harper Wilde sent us those bras wait wait wait I'm livid what what

00:53:21.080 I didn't get no stinking bras. 1.00

00:53:23.020 Yeah, you did. 0.78

00:53:24.280 And I'm the one who needed them.

00:53:26.240 Yeah, you did.

00:53:26.740 Fans will recall.

00:53:28.240 You did.

00:53:28.920 No, I didn't.

00:53:30.320 The box is not in your home?

00:53:33.960 When did this happen?

00:53:34.980 Like a month ago?

00:53:36.420 No, then it was stolen.

00:53:37.820 Then it was stolen.

00:53:40.320 No.

00:53:41.520 This is horrifying.

00:53:43.160 I'm actually now vaguely recalling choosing some bras.

00:53:47.000 Yeah, Harper Wilde sent us some great stuff.

00:53:50.560 I'm like, I'm like, well, by the way, here's something that I, here's something that I

00:53:54.640 purchased. Cause as you know, I had to stop watching Kardashians because I, I did another

00:53:59.220 four hour block, um, about maybe two weeks ago. I bought sweatpants and two more bras.

00:54:04.920 Got some skims and got out of the program.

00:54:06.520 I'll probably finish out the season, but I got really, I can't really talk about it.

00:54:12.300 I started watching to get in the Christmas spirit. I mean, Chris started watching, um,

00:54:15.400 what was it called? Snowdom. The Snowdom Doc? Yeah. No. The Snowdom Disney Plus

00:54:24.000 snow carving competition. Wow. Oh, you know what? It's also time for the Great Christmas

00:54:30.520 Light Fight. Actually, this would be huge. Okay. I assume there's a new season. The Great

00:54:36.340 Christmas Light Fight. It's on like ABC or something. Okay. They go around to different

00:54:41.260 homes that are competing in their Christmas house lights, their Christmas lights, their house.

00:54:48.380 And it is an opportunity to discuss aesthetics and art and what it means to be. And I would love

00:54:56.280 to get you in on it because there are some houses that you go and it's, they've digitized. Okay. So

00:55:02.180 they basically, their entire house is made of pixels now. Okay. Flashed on the, on the screen

00:55:06.840 and the father or whatever is so proud

00:55:09.280 because he's programmed it to

00:55:11.160 flash with the tunes, okay?

00:55:13.340 So it's, you know,

00:55:15.180 jingle bells.

00:55:17.080 But it looks like,

00:55:19.120 doesn't look like a home. It looks like,

00:55:21.460 right, to me, I

00:55:23.140 prefer the homes that have the plastic,

00:55:25.080 the blow molds as they're called, okay?

00:55:27.280 Those who know me know I love a blow mold.

00:55:28.980 Yeah, you do. That's the plastic, like the

00:55:31.180 vintage plastic.

00:55:31.980 So I'm actually getting

00:55:35.100 two new ones this year

00:55:36.160 two vintage ones

00:55:37.400 two

00:55:37.720 Nutcracker Men

00:55:39.640 couple

00:55:40.880 whatevers

00:55:41.480 I want to quickly say

00:55:42.300 because this is huge

00:55:43.120 I have been

00:55:44.120 I have been texting

00:55:45.140 with Suzanne Tracht

00:55:46.360 the chef

00:55:47.260 of JAR

00:55:48.160 this will radiate 1.00

00:55:49.520 throughout the POOG community 1.00

00:55:50.600 they're

00:55:51.320 listening

00:55:52.060 the eavesdroppers

00:55:54.300 showing up

00:55:55.700 has now made it

00:55:56.900 so that Kate and I

00:55:57.940 the nosy eavesdroppers

00:56:03.900 of POOG

00:56:05.080 have shown up to JAR

00:56:06.240 and alerted them

00:56:07.320 that they're there

00:56:07.740 because of POOG enough

00:56:08.760 that now we have

00:56:11.240 the relationship we deserve.

00:56:13.040 Yes, it's true.

00:56:14.360 And I,

00:56:14.720 because my mother

00:56:15.260 has never been to JAR 0.95

00:56:16.240 and I was going to take her

00:56:18.380 and I couldn't get a reservation.

00:56:20.040 Little did I know

00:56:20.400 the restaurant was closed

00:56:21.320 that night due to Thanksgiving.

00:56:22.260 So that's why

00:56:22.700 you couldn't get a single res.

00:56:24.280 You were like,

00:56:24.880 not a table in the house.

00:56:25.840 I DM, I email,

00:56:27.160 I go everything

00:56:27.820 and then I go straight

00:56:28.560 to the source.

00:56:29.020 I text the woman.

00:56:30.320 She responds instantly.

00:56:31.420 So sweet, funny.

00:56:32.720 There's levity.

00:56:33.860 There's joy.

00:56:34.560 There's generosity.

00:56:35.780 Now, when it's time for us to go there,

00:56:38.020 I want to be included on this text thread.

00:56:39.880 Of course.

00:56:40.640 When it's us going, we're texting as a group.

00:56:42.420 We're coming in tonight.

00:56:43.000 That's what I'm saying.

00:56:43.740 Because I need that number.

00:56:45.060 I can't live feeling like I am...

00:56:46.840 Okay.

00:56:47.120 Well, listen to me.

00:56:48.120 I'm going to say this once.

00:56:48.840 I'm going to say this once. 1.00

00:56:50.300 An eavesdropper DM'd the Poog Instagram

00:56:53.920 and said that...

00:56:54.880 I can hardly even say it,

00:56:55.720 that the lichitini is no longer on the menu.

00:56:57.220 That's...

00:56:57.660 And I'm just not going to...

00:56:59.080 That's really funny.

00:56:59.400 But it's coming back.

00:57:02.060 Apparently so much tried to get one.

00:57:03.320 I just want to recall that I remembered that lychee tinnies are not my favorite drink.

00:57:07.660 I know.

00:57:07.980 No, you had a sip of mine? 0.94

00:57:09.280 I got my own because I'm not a bastard. 0.81

00:57:11.000 You know what I mean?

00:57:11.640 I can get in the spirit of anything.

00:57:13.000 If it were like, if it were your favorite glass of piss, okay, I could do it.

00:57:16.600 Like literally.

00:57:17.440 And I don't mean like a cheap beer.

00:57:19.120 I mean-

00:57:19.260 I will demand one.

00:57:21.380 Whatever it is, like I'll do it, you know, but I got a gorgeous cocktail there.

00:57:25.280 You'll recall, I think it was pale pink.

00:57:27.940 It was really beautiful.

00:57:28.820 Oh yeah.

00:57:29.440 It was beautiful.

00:57:30.140 But now, I don't know where I'm at with a cocktail right now.

00:57:34.180 I made an apple.

00:57:34.440 Well, let's just say I'm going there with my mother this week.

00:57:36.320 I'm going to get a steak.

00:57:38.780 Wow.

00:57:41.060 We're going to move off jar.

00:57:42.060 I'll just say quickly, do you remember that heirloom tomato salad with the onions?

00:57:45.320 That was one of the most spectacular things I had all year.

00:57:47.140 I'm going to move off.

00:57:47.840 Because we discussed that there was something about, I believe, the onion.

00:57:51.600 The onion was blanched, apparently.

00:57:53.820 So you're having raw onion.

00:57:55.400 All the joy of an onion without the steak.

00:57:57.120 We're having raw onion with all the raw onion taste.

00:57:59.400 the red the purple you know yeah sharpness of raw onion but we were going why is there something

00:58:05.160 that is softer about it you're but not so soft like this was not a cooked onion you're still

00:58:10.480 getting full raw crunchy and the flavor but it was not it was yeah it was not stinging it was

00:58:17.740 singing it was yeah it was not stinging it was singing and i all i want little black book

00:58:25.420 filled with nothing but restauranteurs restauranteurs because we god we have some

00:58:32.020 dinners ahead of us don't we oh we really do all right so we need to get serious thanksgiving is

00:58:37.100 over we need to get serious about prepping for for the holiday and thinking about what that's

00:58:41.640 going to mean for us what's that going to mean for the eavesdropper what's that going to mean

00:58:45.700 for brand relations no i know i know and yeah i gotta get my my solar lights i need new solar

00:58:52.300 lights this year i have to decide if i'm going to get ones my solar lights to be clear or not the

00:58:55.780 pro oh but the aesthetics i want you to watch christmas light but i want you to have opinions

00:58:59.800 okay we can assess okay okay you know i have i don't love when people mix in disney with non-disney

00:59:05.780 no no i'm like why is mickey mouse santa there and you have a regular santa i'll do mickey but 0.90

00:59:11.920 i guess no but disney but are they mixed sorry uh i'm not sure fuck that's fine terrible for them 0.70

00:59:20.700 pixar i don't know but i don't mind this is almost here i don't mind mickey alone i'm talking when 0.77

00:59:30.180 you've created a piece that is going to be judged by the great christmas light fight okay and you

00:59:35.740 have 40 uh human santas and then one mickey santa oh i see it's like what's going on here do you

00:59:43.660 know what i mean yeah yeah are we in cartoon world are we yeah there's a lack of uniformity

00:59:48.860 It's just interesting to see what people will do.

00:59:51.900 But anyway, the Christmas light fight, I'm pretty excited about.

00:59:54.260 So I'm hoping that can become a touchstone for the community.

00:59:58.080 All right, we got to go.

00:59:59.040 Well, I'm starving.

01:00:00.540 I'm going to go make some eggs and toast.

01:00:02.800 I have a nice hunk of Parmesan in there.

01:00:04.300 I'm going to grate that over the Friday.

01:00:05.700 I just had an egg, a couple of eggs with onions and lox, courtesy of my mother.

01:00:13.800 Please tell your parents that I love them.

01:00:15.840 Did I come up at all at Thanksgiving?

01:00:17.240 Yes.

01:00:17.520 Okay.

01:00:17.700 and and there's a lot of talk about you at the holidays and how to get you in and the whole

01:00:23.140 thing a lot of talk and my mother said even though that she was like oh but then i wonder

01:00:28.340 if kate's over here because she's you know she's because my mom listens to pook like like like do

01:00:32.620 you think like and she analyzes everything so like almost like i'd be nervous like would she be like

01:00:36.660 and i'm like no that's not i was like mom i'm on pook too and i'm like that i'm like the biggest

01:00:41.460 asshole in pook and i'm like i judge no one like i've never been like look at the towels here like

01:00:46.700 it's not never and she knew that but she was like you know it'd be like if like larry david or 0.91

01:00:51.100 something like you know what i mean like comes over you'd be thinking like yeah yeah totally it's

01:00:55.040 like because there's a anyway it doesn't matter but the point is she feels like she knows you

01:00:59.780 deeply and that she wanted to bust in the other day during the pool recording to say hi but didn't

01:01:03.480 oh i love her and i they love you i'm so glad i came up at thanksgiving

01:01:08.760 needing to hear it again continue to come up you continue to come up okay we're figuring it out

01:01:13.460 I'm going to get you in.

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Poog with Kate Berlant and Jacqueline Novak - December 06, 2022

The Eavesdroppers

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