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00:02:36.040 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

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00:02:50.380 Today's topic, loosely speaking, Buffet Curtain.

00:02:53.720 thanksgiving walk helen

00:02:56.640 happy thanksgiving jacklyn hey it's me it's thanksgiving morning oh my god i'm so excited i

00:03:06.820 am i'm in a real state we have literally um the people are going to be here in 15 sorry the people

00:03:14.060 are going to be here in 55 minutes you know that feeling people yeah and they're all family

00:03:19.600 to be clear what bliss yeah nonetheless they're people aren't they i love when the people are

00:03:24.280 coming i'm having um well i'll look like shit as usual okay i was had a covet exposure i'm

00:03:32.460 isolated i'm alone on thanksgiving i am fine no i uh monday i had you actually prefer it this way

00:03:41.000 yeah it's actually actually it's exactly what should have happened right you already started

00:03:46.360 doing that last night oh completely well i almost cried this morning of the joy of um sovereignty

00:03:52.960 and being alone i i on monday i'll just give it to you it's thursday on monday a dear friend came

00:04:00.360 over and we were in my house for hours talking jesus i can't even imagine what you'd have to

00:04:05.160 talk about someone else she tested positive the day before yesterday and wow out of an abundance

00:04:12.360 of caution it's not even abundance of caution it's just the normal amount of caution i was

00:04:17.780 supposed to go home to my parents place just the three of us were gonna have a little thanksgiving

00:04:22.140 and yeah that's sad you know uh but i can't subject my my parents if i exactly killing my

00:04:30.120 parents is an ultimate fear yeah even though i just did a rapid and i'm negative and i feel okay

00:04:36.240 of course the creeping thing of oh i feel a little off i woke up at like 5 a.m wondering my eyes i

00:04:41.180 was like something's off did you not did they did your eyes not open like doll eyes and that's how

00:04:45.860 you knew yeah they weren't fluttering open but I'm well I'm really off social media so I'm reading

00:04:53.520 oh I'm reading and so I really wow looking forward to just staying in reading I got some

00:04:59.800 ravioli some rouse am I saying that right rouse it's it's been an ongoing discussion yeah it's

00:05:07.460 unclear okay well yeah i've got tomato sauce i got a hunk of parmesan and i'm just gonna do pasta

00:05:13.140 tomato sauce parmesan um very sweet friend sent me a pie when she heard of my misfortune

00:05:21.080 that's interesting i actually was going to send you something that's outrageously now and now 0.95

00:05:27.080 this friend is you know just beating me to the punch i guess um she did she beat everyone to

00:05:32.680 the punch yeah that's always an interesting you know any time where there's a scenario where it's

00:05:38.460 about getting there first i give up and i i go the opposite i'm like not gonna do it okay so i'm like

00:05:48.120 a perfect example is like um i don't know a buffet a line at a buffet you know like i'm like

00:05:55.460 like at a wedding or something right i've been to one i mean whatever but like i'm like the panic

00:06:01.320 Like, I'm not going to rush to get up there.

00:06:03.680 Whereas I'm always first.

00:06:05.880 I'm in the first five in line at Buffet always.

00:06:08.200 But I want to be.

00:06:10.320 Well, I might be too.

00:06:11.920 But what I'm saying is I want to be.

00:06:13.920 And that's why I have to give it up.

00:06:15.820 It's too stressful.

00:06:17.280 So I have to let go and say, they ordered enough food.

00:06:20.420 Now, I guess if I were at a wedding where that wasn't obvious,

00:06:23.240 then we'd be in a different scenario.

00:06:25.760 But traditionally, I feel like you could be at peace.

00:06:29.100 and then i mean here's oh my god okay well here's the other reason is there anything worse than

00:06:35.520 the existence of someone behind you on a buffet line oh no i know and you're forced to make sudden

00:06:42.360 gun is a gun to your head you have to make life-changing decisions instantly the spoon

00:06:47.880 the spoon goes into the horseradish but once then you go well i'd like to go back for more but

00:06:52.220 they're gonna think i'm some horseradish hog the rush the the indecision everything about it

00:06:58.980 I'd like to be last

00:07:00.600 and I have one more thing

00:07:01.300 I have an idea

00:07:01.900 I have a concept

00:07:02.460 but go on

00:07:02.940 I was going to say

00:07:03.480 there's an anxiety

00:07:04.140 because I'm often

00:07:04.760 I force my way to the front

00:07:06.380 I'm usually first

00:07:07.880 I've been

00:07:08.340 I have the number one

00:07:09.600 in line at buffet

00:07:10.880 okay

00:07:11.640 I have been

00:07:12.820 and I'm in the first 10 often

00:07:14.520 there's an anxiety of

00:07:16.500 because the food is so pristine

00:07:17.600 and gorgeous

00:07:18.080 you underserve yourself

00:07:20.140 I've gotten to the experience

00:07:21.420 where I'm underserving

00:07:22.240 because

00:07:22.620 what am I going to do

00:07:23.680 stack it so high

00:07:25.480 and then trot back to my table

00:07:27.700 you know

00:07:28.480 so i overly no exactly because it's the hunger of others that and then i'm then i want to go back

00:07:36.240 and then i've had it happen where i go back for seconds and some people are there for first

00:07:40.060 this line oh yeah and it's like listen but i took almost nothing so they're behind the

00:07:46.540 sound dressing yeah you're like you're like like someone's tong slips you're like that's

00:07:51.340 the slipperest tong in the bunch yeah i've been done this past oh god here's my idea for the

00:07:57.520 buffet this is huge are you ready this would change everything a buffet should come with a

00:08:03.300 series of sliding curtains it's almost like voting okay but the curtain so you step up in line

00:08:08.900 there's a curtain to your left it rides along with you so you move to the right you pull the

00:08:15.360 curtain along with you they can't see your move every single buffet person has a curtain to the

00:08:20.440 right and to the left them except for of course the first and last but actually no they deserve

00:08:25.180 it too they're gonna be onlookers from the side i used as a child be like where the hell and some

00:08:30.520 restaurants do have it like where the hell is the curtain a privacy curtain no for eating yeah

00:08:36.680 wait i have a question like i thought i was a genius just now but i think this exists yes two

00:08:42.680 entry points on the buffet that's classic right i thought i was inventing something you mean like

00:08:47.600 like the airplane like like when there's the you enter in the middle of the plane like there's two

00:08:51.500 entry points picture the table okay line on both sides so it's not lying on one and you're going

00:08:57.600 down right could you do a buffet line with two you're fighting lines you're snaking you mean

00:09:01.920 on the other side of the table right yeah yeah so or you didn't but now is that standard

00:09:07.900 well i did that's i don't think it's that standard and i i'm trying to picture it like

00:09:14.360 basically like you have a long table of food okay you have line step up line splits some people go

00:09:19.800 the left of it so it'll go to the right you know which direction yeah do they bottleneck in the

00:09:26.120 center oh no no you see i knew you weren't really hearing what i was saying because they yeah they

00:09:32.500 bottleneck that sounds like a nightmare the game of chicken that'd be hell oh that's what you mean

00:09:38.800 right i mean bottlenecking to get to the chicken no okay i want to draw it but i don't think i can

00:09:45.380 okay okay all i'm saying is you have a rectangle a long rectangle that has a table okay i mean

00:09:50.360 that's food okay lined up at the end over on the side you have people because they're long

00:09:55.960 rectangle person one goes bottom of the rectangle person two goes top of the oh i see what you're

00:10:02.280 saying yeah yeah that's what i thought you were pitching okay that's idea that from two sides

00:10:07.520 two lines are meeting that's okay is actually the definition of hell yeah okay you're right

00:10:13.000 Because at any moment, you're getting tossed.

00:10:15.760 You could get tossed.

00:10:17.000 No, no, you're right.

00:10:17.600 I don't know what I was thinking.

00:10:19.960 Okay.

00:10:20.980 Well, I mean, I was excited.

00:10:22.560 No, I'm excited by the innovation, of course.

00:10:26.020 There's something interesting.

00:10:26.920 So, sorry, now I'm just going to being alone on Thanksgiving.

00:10:29.520 And I'm not done talking about buffet.

00:10:31.320 I'm not done talking about buffet, but go on.

00:10:33.380 I was going to say because I'm actually fine.

00:10:37.380 First of all, Thanksgiving isn't a huge deal in my family.

00:10:40.000 It never has been.

00:10:40.560 And so there isn't so much sentimentality attached to it.

00:10:44.420 I would think on paper would make me somehow feel lonely,

00:10:48.120 but it's actually completely fine.

00:10:52.300 And I'm even taking a perverse joy.

00:10:56.760 It was Thanksgiving alone the whole time.

00:10:59.460 Yeah.

00:11:00.400 This is better because I'm reading, I'm writing, I'm journaling.

00:11:05.160 I wouldn't have it any other way.

00:11:06.320 But it's more that you get the sympathy from people of, oh, but I'm fine.

00:11:12.840 Right.

00:11:13.180 Sort of, um, by the way, I'll be fine.

00:11:14.940 If I actually have, if I actually have COVID, that will absolutely suck because I've, you

00:11:21.920 know, that would be terrible.

00:11:23.720 I do feel slightly off, but I think that might just be my mind.

00:11:27.140 You always do.

00:11:28.940 Feel off.

00:11:29.700 No, but here's what's so cruel.

00:11:31.120 And I texted my mother this.

00:11:32.120 I was like it just feels really cruel

00:11:34.020 Because I've been feeling really good

00:11:36.280 The last week

00:11:36.920 Health wise

00:11:39.540 It feels cruel to be cut down

00:11:42.380 It feels like

00:11:43.520 Except you're not yet

00:11:46.060 You don't yet know if you have it

00:11:47.860 Working with the drama

00:11:49.900 If I feel okay and test negative tomorrow

00:11:52.380 Then I think I'm

00:11:53.480 That's

00:11:55.900 Exposure Monday, Friday

00:11:57.880 Feeling good, I think I'm probably okay

00:11:59.440 But

00:12:00.440 But I also want to say, I've been talking about this.

00:12:05.720 My skin has never been this good and it's actually creating anxiety.

00:12:09.840 Oh, right.

00:12:10.580 Because it feels like, it feels, there's a two-pronged anxiety of why is it so good?

00:12:17.380 Can I maintain it?

00:12:18.560 And then hold for a sneeze.

00:12:20.360 Breathe out of your nose.

00:12:21.380 Breathe out of your nose.

00:12:22.580 Firmly breathe out of your nose.

00:12:23.720 Don't push anything out.

00:12:24.720 Just breathe.

00:12:25.680 I kind of want to sneeze.

00:12:26.700 You might not need to if you get a piece of dust out

00:12:29.480 Through a simple forced exhale

00:12:31.360 It's gone, it's really gone

00:12:32.980 So there's the anxiety of

00:12:34.420 Why

00:12:35.360 And then there's the anxiety of

00:12:39.940 Oh I'm alone on the couch

00:12:42.900 With the best skin of my life

00:12:44.080 And then I try to be like

00:12:45.520 Well it's for me, the skin is for me

00:12:47.940 Skin is not for me

00:12:49.300 I mean I guess it is

00:12:50.520 But you know in some ways

00:12:51.680 But yeah that's you pushing too hard

00:12:53.720 I'm looking in the mirror going oh my god

00:12:55.840 Actually, I, true stress, I guess, pimple under the lip, like right almost along the lip line. 0.71

00:13:03.600 Wow, yeah, it's a classic.

00:13:05.560 Now.

00:13:06.400 Well, I think Pug will, the listeners will remember, I was complaining of breaking out.

00:13:10.900 I've been breaking out for weeks and like a lot.

00:13:14.820 And then suddenly now, milky skin.

00:13:18.140 Well, are we going to talk about the different reasons that we think it could be?

00:13:21.560 Yeah.

00:13:21.780 Because there's three on the table, I know, from our chatter, our offline chatter.

00:13:25.540 I know there's three on the table

00:13:26.880 Should I say them?

00:13:29.260 I'm going to remove shame from this

00:13:31.240 Are you ready?

00:13:32.480 Colonic, Sturm Night Serum 0.94

00:13:34.700 or Gua Sha

00:13:36.160 These are the three things that have been floating right?

00:13:38.280 These are the three things

00:13:39.540 And they say I don't listen

00:13:43.340 I've never said you don't listen

00:13:45.440 No one has

00:13:46.680 But yeah it could be the 1.00

00:13:49.860 Colonic, really could be guys 0.99

00:13:51.800 Could be

00:13:52.720 so so then i i don't want that to be the truth that's like too much i kind of do the idea that

00:13:58.380 you gotta go downtown so the stern night drops it's called night serum or night drop something

00:14:05.420 like that night serum is what you told me because i looked it up on skin school trying to find a

00:14:08.960 chair i'm dupe if needed so stern gifted us some things it was shocking when stern stern caved and

00:14:14.480 sent us things i had these night drops in the in my hall closet rotting away i said you're using

00:14:19.840 them enough is enough yes i start using it kind of like plentifully not you know good for you

00:14:25.860 really putting it on every night for a few weeks now skin's never been better last night i look it

00:14:31.180 up go what is this stuff oh it's three hundred and ten dollars a bottle jacqueline that is yeah

00:14:37.520 there's a reason that we wanted stern the cave because there was no other way it was gonna happen

00:14:41.860 i know and i knew it was expensive but having it stare at me the three hundred and ten dollars i

00:14:46.740 like oh my god and on the bottle it says use a full dropper well you got that means you're going

00:14:52.820 through that stuff bam okay i have a couple things to say so i've been using it okay go on

00:14:56.800 by the way if this is the best skin of my life and it is due to the serum i'll see you for the

00:15:01.960 next 30 years you know it's fine you'll you'll find a way anything and we'll sub in classico

00:15:07.380 find a way but that's a really cruel that's a cruel price point so that's another option

00:15:13.560 But the thing that I feel

00:15:15.260 The tugging reality I have 1.00

00:15:17.320 The Gua Sha

00:15:19.420 Which I guess is actually pronounced Gua Sa 1.00

00:15:21.220 But I will be

00:15:23.580 Is that the case?

00:15:26.120 I think so

00:15:27.380 We'll have to look that up 0.76

00:15:28.260 This is early Pug

00:15:32.080 Early Pug days

00:15:33.260 Wilding Gua Sha sent us a kit

00:15:35.880 This is way back

00:15:36.800 Lovely kit

00:15:38.240 Listeners may recall

00:15:40.060 I dropped mine live

00:15:41.920 on an episode and it broke and it shattered didn't shatter but it broke yeah yeah so it's

00:15:47.820 an elegant sin i i didn't mean that as a negative i mean it you know it is negative crystal breaks

00:15:52.920 too yeah it's a fine item it uh no no i just know they're easy because it was made in plastic

00:15:58.120 they are easy um yeah and so nothing wrong with handling it tenderly i she thinks it's the gua

00:16:05.900 I just said, I'm going to try. So I have been doing it every day. Maybe I've skipped one or

00:16:12.100 two days for the last three weeks. Oh my God. At a particular time or when it occurs to you?

00:16:18.260 Morning. Mostly morning. Really? Three minutes. And by the way, you know what I also realized?

00:16:23.280 It's meditation. Yeah. I love when you realize things are meditation. It is meditation. It is

00:16:30.420 meditation. So I've been doing that starting at the back of the neck, doing the neck, doing the

00:16:35.880 thing i have been working on erasing a line from my face yes that's working really it's working

00:16:41.480 oh i believe it's working i swear i should have done a photo but i'm like it's going down it's

00:16:49.060 this little laugh line here it's going down yeah and i are filling in it's promoting circulation

00:16:54.180 glow all of this stuff and then i looked it up thinking well i can't imagine gouache was tied

00:16:59.320 to acne it is absolutely used yeah to diminish acne yeah you're moving fluid around your face

00:17:05.320 it helps it says it helps for hormonal acne for moving around so I am stunned and I am here to say

00:17:12.800 mornings could be huge style I think this could be my life now forever and I had of course

00:17:19.620 flashes of me in my 60s and still still going yeah I know the same wilding I wonder if they've

00:17:26.760 got any new um products because one obviously i need i need i do need a new stone um but two

00:17:32.820 i loved they're the ones that had the like royal oil or something like that they have really

00:17:38.940 delicious they send you a spray and an oil that was very nice yeah really nice nice the only thing

00:17:46.020 that's that's hard because by the way you can also use a serum or a lotion doesn't have to be an oil

00:17:50.700 you can use anything yeah right so because it's a little bit with timing because an oil feels really

00:17:56.120 nice but then what in the morning you're gonna wash the oil off and then do your whole you know

00:17:59.180 your whole process you know it's a little tough yeah that's my issue with um sometimes the zip

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00:20:31.420 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:20:32.760 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

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00:22:19.740 The more you listen to your kids, the closer you'll be.

00:22:23.580 So we asked kids, what do you want your parents to hear?

00:22:27.600 I feel sometimes that I'm not listened to.

00:22:29.940 I would just want you to listen to me more often

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00:22:56.240 So I got some interesting feedback.

00:22:58.460 so you know i've been i i send my mother i gift my mother um what you know quality serums right

00:23:05.020 she's funny she's like so i'm gonna tell you which serums i like okay this is today so i'm like okay

00:23:12.960 here we go and she starts like saying like i can see there's this anxiety and this this desire to

00:23:18.060 like get out like which ones she doesn't like you mean so from the ones she's telling you which

00:23:24.240 buy them again okay yes she's gonna give me i'm like what are you using what are you not i'm like

00:23:29.400 all right all right she's like the one i really like so and i'm like what color what color you're

00:23:33.440 like the bottle okay but i'm like all right fine we'll go down the hall okay i go in there guess 0.99

00:23:37.940 what she pulls out first of all she's like the one i really like fucking bought her oh fuck there it 0.98

00:23:43.180 is damn okay okay she's like and she's like an innocent she's just like this one i really like 0.99

00:23:49.940 Okay. First of all, then she goes, this one never again. Well, no, no. She goes, this one never 0.96

00:23:55.240 again. Okay. And I go, what? And it's the eighth day serum. Now, hold on folks. This isn't a

00:24:01.520 negative. The eighth day serum that I got her because I was on violet gray and I got very

00:24:06.040 excited about it last year. She goes, because of how expensive it is, you cannot get me that again.

00:24:11.840 Okay. And I'm like, how do you know? How do you know how much it costs? She goes, I don't know.

00:24:15.820 I, I, I knew. And then she goes, I mean, I probably looked it up. I'm like, sounds like

00:24:20.320 you looked it up. Okay. Okay. Cause how much is it? I can't even remember, but probably like three

00:24:26.880 something. Okay. And like, that's why it was a major gift to drop the new serum on her. And then

00:24:36.340 she goes, this one, no, she's like this one. I don't like it all. Are you ready? It was the

00:24:40.880 sterm uh vitamin c serum drops okay i look at it i go something's not right okay i grab it

00:24:49.340 this is so me first of all the the dropper is resting loosely it's not screwed on at all

00:24:55.560 respect for the product and i go mother this is vitamin c i go it oxidizes instantly okay no

00:25:02.460 wonder you don't like it i guess she goes it gets sticky around the rim that's because you didn't

00:25:06.060 okay but nonetheless whatever i made my point you should be going into that with a syringe

00:25:12.940 that's the thing that i just want to break in quickly to say for the biologique or cherish 0.78

00:25:18.080 serums are like the little vials well water like consistency serums i've seen goddamn what's her 0.88

00:25:23.520 name from zip melissa um yeah god damn it i'm forgetting her name clark that's not her name 1.00

00:25:29.460 okay she goes into her serums with a fucking syringe with a needle she doesn't open it because 0.98

00:25:37.360 it starts to oxygenate oxygenate and oh i see okay i was going so she likes she's at a doctor's 0.99

00:25:44.160 office however i will say something about that with a needle now that that you believe that's

00:25:50.300 good but here's the the one thing she's missing in that okay and i'm not saying she doesn't know

00:25:54.120 this as she sucks product through the syringe out of that thing what what's left behind i don't know

00:26:00.540 melanie simon that's her name it just occurred melanie simon i was like melissa clark i think

00:26:04.820 yeah it just occurred to me simultaneously somehow um anyway the point is i ordered these vacuum

00:26:12.200 based um containers online and they're the kind that as the product diminishes inside of it

00:26:21.580 a pump pushes all the way down so

00:26:23.780 it's never sitting half full with

00:26:25.960 air filling its own bottle. Okay, that's

00:26:28.240 the vacuum pump. Dennis Gross has been doing

00:26:30.220 that and I really like that. Yeah.

00:26:32.760 And so that's the next

00:26:34.200 level. Although the syringe, I mean,

00:26:36.300 but you see what I'm saying? I mean, it's

00:26:38.040 the syringe looks cooler, but is it

00:26:40.200 as good as it? No, I know what you mean.

00:26:41.820 Although if you have to decant,

00:26:43.800 if you have to decant to get it into the first

00:26:46.080 container, that's

00:26:48.200 where you go, syringe into the

00:26:50.100 the vacuum pump so so so she goes so i go and i first of all yeah are you ready so she goes yeah

00:26:55.540 she goes mother i go i've never said said this again as a gag you know i don't like say these

00:27:02.720 words like to my mother i go honey the vader's not cheap either yeah yeah okay yeah okay then she

00:27:09.600 like panicked no no i'm gonna buy the vader myself and i'm like that wasn't my point i was

00:27:13.360 just trying to be funny whatever yeah she gets uncomfortable with me spending any money right

00:27:17.220 like on her or whatever so the ion okay she's like i'm like what what the ion moisturizer i'm like so

00:27:25.920 what are you the moisture you're not into this yeah in a pot the ion in a pot in a jar no that's

00:27:31.780 the like i see that as like the night cream ion and there's like the day one that's more of like a

00:27:36.380 okay you know lotion kind of vibe moisture and i'm like so what's up with that why aren't you

00:27:41.240 using that like during the day or whatever and she's like because i prefer the butter i'm like

00:27:44.740 okay i was like well you could do the butter at night because i think i got her the rich cream

00:27:48.620 i'll have to check on that but i go what are you using at night nothing okay fine okay

00:27:55.180 she's like i don't like going to bed with the you know the stuff i get it okay but

00:28:01.240 whatever so i was in trouble i go mother it's not all about how it feels this isn't

00:28:07.640 1972 okay okay where it's like i just love this hand cream how it feels going on i'm like 0.98

00:28:14.580 yeah that's nice feels what are the act is sliding yeah on your ass yeah a lot of things feel good 0.97

00:28:19.980 okay so yeah paraffin wax will feel good i'll shave off a few years so i'm like the ion is 0.99

00:28:27.920 doing specific thing that you need so she needs to listen to me what happens next she goes and

00:28:34.880 then i've i've got she has okay one she has a cleanser that's appeared that was recommended

00:28:40.300 by no one it is a drying hell cleanser for teenagers okay it might as well be made by

00:28:47.560 you know clear clear as all okay yeah so i see that okay obviously that's gotta go we gotta

00:28:53.320 work through that she she's loving the squalane she's you know puts it in my hair put on my face 0.93

00:28:57.860 everything good got a big bottle that's gonna get re-upped um and then oh and then she pulls out 0.81

00:29:04.940 an eye cream out of nowhere and some other product and I go what is this and she goes the lady at the

00:29:11.960 store told me okay and I'm like excuse me okay the woman in the window yeah yeah okay I go and

00:29:22.240 I scream my father is like what walks into the room right as I'm not screaming okay and I did

00:29:27.860 it a little bit to be dramatic but I said did you tell her your daughter is a major skincare

00:29:33.240 influencer yeah okay like that she can't pull the wool over your eyes yeah yeah with these

00:29:40.220 curious brands that like she says are good for for under eye like i'm just like i don't know

00:29:48.740 i'm just like you're not allowed to make a purchase without me my friend by the way and i

00:29:54.000 tell you this so one of the friends that i i got her to get off their half of off of hand soap for

00:29:59.500 face right yeah I directed her she called me she called me I wish it was ivory you know it's

00:30:04.540 probably soft soap or whatever actually ivory I want to just chime in and say ivory bar soap

00:30:09.400 apparently has a very good EWG rating really it's good to know if only I knew what the EWG is you

00:30:16.540 know I forgot what it sounds I don't even need to know on this group maybe that's just what it is

00:30:20.620 yeah okay yeah what was he saying there was one remaining but you got your friend off hand soap

00:30:26.140 for the face oh right right so so she's at tj maxx or marshall's okay she's like there's tons

00:30:31.580 of skin here get get me on the phone okay we get on the phone she starts sending me photos whatever

00:30:35.740 i'm telling her what to get i first aid beauty i'm like that'll work get that cleanser that's

00:30:39.440 good nice foaming cleanser it's nice it has been discontinued and she is now in a panic okay

00:30:46.080 the first aid cleanser the specific one she had it was like there's there's still a foaming

00:30:52.120 cleanser there you know it's just and and now she's uh now you know now she's gone from from

00:30:57.800 the hand soap okay to to her first legitimate cleanser and now that cleanser has changed and 1.00

00:31:04.100 and she she you know can't live without it she's on she's on forums okay with other women complaining 1.00

00:31:09.700 but anyway i'm like i'm like i i'm like you need to try other cleansers this is a foaming

00:31:15.540 like water-based cleanser like there are so many but i'm really proud and happy cleanser they sent

00:31:22.080 does well i just used it the other day so the the mission for december is finish the products i will

00:31:31.040 not that is going to the new year can i tell you if it means putting it on the bottom of my feet

00:31:36.560 then it means putting it on the bottom of my feet i okay let's not hey careful but no i finished

00:31:43.480 and the satisfaction of finishing a bottle i finished and loved the dennis gross vitamin c 0.98

00:31:49.120 under eye brightening and i swear to god i see a difference okay i love that shit i'm sure you do 0.97

00:31:53.960 okay so i almost broke into because the stern sent eye cream and i thought oh i'm gonna break 0.89

00:31:58.360 into the stern are you gonna do the eye on yeah and then i went hold up you still have an unfinished

00:32:03.540 drunk elephant vitamin c under eye cream and a pump yes i know the one so i'm going through that

00:32:10.080 wonderful container work yeah i i've also accepted okay it's gorgeous packaging and i do trust the

00:32:18.460 product i mean i'll recommend them in a pinch and i i did anyway so a staple so god they sent us a

00:32:25.300 gorgeous kit if we can get an i'll never forget product that was we cackled into the night we

00:32:31.260 text each other we were like we facetimed each other i i wonder if we could ask for like a

00:32:36.220 christmas miracle when you open up the mail and there is a drunk elephant suitcase carry suitcase

00:32:43.580 filled with product you think i must have done something right in the past life yeah

00:32:48.320 I was I almost thought I must have done something wrong like this is unholy like

00:32:52.060 like I must have made a deal with the devil last night and I didn't know you know what I mean

00:32:55.860 like but yeah so the trouble of course with when they send the products and the desire to try is

00:33:02.500 that you open something up you use a little and you realize you have six things you've opened

00:33:06.180 and now they're all rotting okay I mean rotting half open with air in them yeah like I opened

00:33:12.560 like a eye cream that I hadn't used that I think was from Biosance and I opened it and it kind of

00:33:17.480 have this like scent where i was like is that the product or like like i started to doubt

00:33:21.920 but i would i but you know what i'm doing to help get through the product right now is using it the

00:33:27.860 neck full decolletage eye cream no no but i mean honestly i will if it comes down to that i need

00:33:35.160 okay but but i mean like neck yeah all the way down though like like doing the full tits well

00:33:41.900 yeah i guess i mean i mean but just i just mean not just the neck neck decollete decolletage

00:33:48.660 etc listeners know i struggle with which word it is top of the hands of also a classic oh top of

00:33:55.940 the hands well top of the hands you do every single time right i don't want to talk about

00:34:00.860 okay so when i slap on whatever during the day it's two slaps on the hands like this so i go

00:34:06.720 I go I go uh essence right face face face and then I go that's good then moisturizer

00:34:13.560 oh god okay everything lands there back of the hands so a couple things I have another quick

00:34:20.360 thing to say another thing that I think has made my skin really good is the is it the doy skin how

00:34:25.140 the hell do you say it help me do skin don't even know oh it's something we don't have I 0.99

00:34:30.080 no we

00:34:30.980 I have it 1.00

00:34:32.160 D-I-E-U-X 0.94

00:34:34.080 I think 0.99

00:34:34.480 yes

00:34:35.100 and then

00:34:35.400 they sent

00:34:36.420 instant angel

00:34:37.800 cream

00:34:38.440 okay

00:34:39.120 I haven't

00:34:40.200 I saw that cream

00:34:41.060 and I was excited about it

00:34:42.520 in the kind of like

00:34:43.340 one of those

00:34:44.200 almost toothpaste-y

00:34:45.280 like containers

00:34:45.840 the metal kind of

00:34:46.860 yeah the tube

00:34:47.300 like a medical

00:34:47.840 toothpaste tube

00:34:48.840 I love those

00:34:49.580 it goes on

00:34:50.460 it is

00:34:50.840 so creamy

00:34:52.360 fabulous

00:34:52.980 not too thick

00:34:53.820 and that with the stern 0.88

00:34:55.280 and the gua sha 0.50

00:34:56.440 and the colonic

00:34:57.800 and the joy

00:34:59.660 the community I think is all

00:35:02.100 you mentioned hormonal acne which I don't know

00:35:03.940 I don't know the thing but I was

00:35:06.000 reading I got in bed last night

00:35:08.120 because I'm at my parents house I get here and I

00:35:09.900 want to just like I just get under

00:35:11.940 the covers and I downloaded the glucose

00:35:13.860 goddesses book you know what I mean

00:35:15.400 and I'm reading and

00:35:16.980 skin 1.00

00:35:18.680 it's all like

00:35:21.780 I read like she broke down like how

00:35:23.700 life on earth came about

00:35:25.200 through glucose and then like

00:35:27.560 why it's relevant like and it really like it's you're not gonna it's i'm gonna be talking about

00:35:33.040 for a while but the benefits for everything the benefits but all i was gonna say is you know how

00:35:37.180 this stuff comes out all i was gonna say okay this stuff comes out they go they go you better

00:35:42.480 get your holiday delivery in okay they go they go last chance for holiday delivery by the 24th

00:35:47.860 etc right well i want to say to the brands out there and i want to tell the listeners maybe they

00:35:53.360 should go on instagram tag the brands that you want to see uh get their gifts into poog because

00:35:58.920 if they want a chance of christmas promotion that's good by us get in now get in now we need

00:36:04.420 to try those products if there's going to be a chance they're going to land on our instagram 0.96

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00:40:26.040 i think i'm gonna do today thanksgiving a little with myself today i'm gonna go get my favorite

00:40:38.000 bagel oh my god be nice it's 137 correct 47 50 oh my god it's so classic i have 10 minutes to get

00:40:45.600 ready i've never looked good at my family to be down there as soon as the as they as they arrive

00:40:50.860 well i'm tired of being it's like i'm still in the shower and people arrive it's like this rude

00:40:55.000 thing i float down it's all family but still you know my mother this is hearkening to so for years

00:41:01.960 and years and years my whole childhood adolescence my parents threw a huge christmas party every

00:41:06.360 year holiday was the event of the season so fun so cool trashed my god really fun it was kind of

00:41:15.420 a thing in the community anyway i bet um my mother the most elegant you know divine host 1.00

00:41:24.400 hostess elegant party thrower unbelievable she would every year disappear so so she gets the 0.64

00:41:32.560 party ready all of that disappears into the bedroom lets them enter and all night where's

00:41:37.740 helen where's helen where's helen it was always this thing of my mother oh you mean in the bathroom

00:41:42.720 getting ready oh she didn't have first of all she didn't have time of course i get it but then

00:41:49.500 it started to creep in my head a little bit it's not a criticism of my dear mother of course not

00:41:54.440 to creep in my head a little bit it's a little bit dramatic yes i thought you were saying she

00:42:00.840 does it on purpose okay but well now of course i wonder well i i'm kind of intrigued because my

00:42:06.540 mind was racing ahead and going oh this is interesting okay you set up the party okay

00:42:11.720 you sort of you let the first couple people in or you somehow set it up so that they're kind of

00:42:17.100 held at the door bottleneck so to speak then you you unlock it yeah you open it okay just enough

00:42:24.480 to get them to come in you dart away and you let the guests kind of find their way into the home

00:42:30.980 without without your help this is just i'm just playing playing this through the opposite of the

00:42:36.600 they welcome okay would there be some peace would there be some kind of unexpected comfort

00:42:43.680 and almost being like kind of finding it yourself like stumbling in oh where's the host and you and

00:42:50.240 the other guests kind of connect that is fun that's that's christmas that's very childlike

00:42:55.840 the wonderland that's been yes for you it's been set up and they're going what and they're all

00:42:59.100 relating as a group when before they were in their separate cars maybe there's something to that

00:43:03.180 and then once you hear it kind of cooking

00:43:05.220 then you pop out

00:43:07.000 I don't know it doesn't really work

00:43:09.760 but I'm interested

00:43:10.720 no I think that's an option

00:43:11.820 I mean there's always like a little note

00:43:15.340 there's that version

00:43:16.320 take a blah blah blah and join us on the porch

00:43:19.900 I don't know

00:43:20.480 well what do you think about

00:43:23.080 I just had a fantasy of my own

00:43:25.440 because I planned to throw parties like that

00:43:28.100 well into my 90s

00:43:29.600 and I just had a flash of

00:43:32.220 what would it be like to have a pre-made cocktail on a serving?

00:43:35.980 It's exactly what I was just saying.

00:43:37.700 Okay.

00:43:38.020 It's sitting there for them to take,

00:43:39.620 right?

00:43:40.300 No,

00:43:40.480 no,

00:43:40.580 no.

00:43:40.740 Sitting there.

00:43:41.060 I know what I'm saying.

00:43:41.720 I was imagining you're not in the bedroom.

00:43:43.600 You're actually standing there with them.

00:43:45.320 Yeah.

00:43:45.620 Almost like sometimes at a wedding.

00:43:48.040 Yeah,

00:43:48.200 of course.

00:43:48.840 Oh,

00:43:49.040 wow.

00:43:49.780 You know,

00:43:50.160 my mother does,

00:43:51.680 she does a thing. 0.93

00:43:53.180 I think it's called a door prize. 0.95

00:43:55.700 Okay.

00:43:56.180 Well,

00:43:56.340 there's a few things.

00:43:57.560 There's a present under one person's seat.

00:43:59.640 That's fun.

00:44:00.520 That's fun. 0.96

00:44:01.200 for a dinner party that's except then my mother also just just can't resist and then and then

00:44:09.060 um thanksgiving she does a little gift on on everyone's seat i'll have to show you it's very

00:44:16.460 really i'll send you a picture of her table do you think this is i'm laughing to myself

00:44:20.520 thinking because before the pandemic i myself took up the tradition i was throwing holiday parties

00:44:26.220 okay you remember actually you hadn't moved to LA yet huh did you ever come to one of my holiday

00:44:31.560 parties I just I don't know but I certainly wasn't there that's all you were in New York that's why

00:44:37.280 obviously well yeah I'm never I'm never I've never been in LA for um yeah no of course pandemic so

00:44:42.960 pre-pandemic I think I got three under my belt wow the last year no I'm sorry the last two years

00:44:48.360 and this is making me laugh i hired a host helper two years of my party

00:44:55.240 can you believe that i mean good for you because by the way the duties of the hostess are if you

00:45:03.600 are actually serious about throwing a party you are refilling you are it is so much work

00:45:08.460 still with pleasure but it's true you are not social you don't get to sit there you're social

00:45:12.820 balance it out the last two years you would think i owned a home me with my right with my help with

00:45:19.040 my hostess helper changed my life was incredible would never go back well that's the modern way

00:45:24.680 okay the modern way is to go for it on the luxury that you care about okay i feel like the the old

00:45:32.560 way was like there's a laddering of of first first well first we got to save and get a home

00:45:38.680 okay that's number one you know like that's the dream and then from there you know whatever that

00:45:43.540 it stacks up i feel like the modern way is more like you're renting in a crumbling apartment

00:45:49.660 however caviar yet you're you're applying your eighth day serum yeah well the apartment crumbles

00:45:56.200 around renting is i mean i think owning sounds miserable yeah yeah yeah hell on earth i'll never

00:46:04.700 do it even if you begged me i'd refuse i'll never forget i'm trying to quickly say this is why quick

00:46:10.300 not a story but that the um my my hostess helper austin who was wonderful oh same one every time

00:46:16.360 same one well i've only only had him twice first year i was like i'm gonna do it was so moved

00:46:21.480 brought him back the next he find love at your party there was a moment i remember that could

00:46:24.840 happen after a few years well by the way austin was like a gorgeous gay guy and i was like you're

00:46:29.460 at the right exactly that's what i was picturing and i knew it so yeah yeah but i there was a

00:46:35.240 moment and this is when i went wow there was a moment when somebody inevitably the guest dropped

00:46:40.820 a glass it shatters i looked down before i've even had a chance austin's on it the glass is gone it

00:46:49.460 is that the guest has a new drink in their hand wow no no that that's a thrill i i i was just

00:46:56.200 reminded of a thing of my grandmother

00:46:57.980 Grandma Joan who was very like

00:47:00.280 elegant and 0.99

00:47:01.580 it was a thing in her manners and 0.99

00:47:03.840 you know the whole thing being like 0.97

00:47:05.500 the one true manner is

00:47:07.800 like making people

00:47:10.020 feel comfortable right?

00:47:11.940 So if you're you know

00:47:13.780 so the whole thing is like they break

00:47:16.020 a glass you go oh I never liked that one anyway

00:47:17.980 It's a precious heirloom. You know or whatever

00:47:19.720 Oh absolutely. I don't know I love

00:47:21.800 I love that. Oh I saw it but this is

00:47:23.860 you're reminding me of something that I have to say

00:47:25.880 is that my mother was hosting and a friend of mine was there and my friend didn't break a glass but

00:47:33.300 knocked a glass over but it didn't break but my friend was visibly felt really uncomfortable and

00:47:37.380 like oh no like yes I did something my mother said don't worry my friend said no no just you

00:47:43.780 know this is so nice and and my mom took her glass and threw it I'm not kidding she was she had had a

00:47:49.760 couple yeah yeah not drunk which is perfect and it was like and I was a little bit like mother it

00:47:55.700 was like my mom was having fun she had had maybe two glasses of champagne so she was just like that

00:48:00.600 perfect but she did that she took the glass and threw it to make my friend more comfortable

00:48:05.660 incredible and that's helen okay no no that's incredible and i'll relate the my other grandmother 0.96

00:48:11.960 grandma mimi the uh rabbi's wife right she had a classic thing where um at the beginning i guess of 0.91

00:48:21.320 of these meals or certain meals or whatever um she would take like the wine she had tip it

00:48:27.840 literally spill it on the beginning of the thing and go now we can all relax

00:48:33.240 that's so cute and then are you ready for this my mother says that then in the kitchen 1.00

00:48:39.160 like five minutes later in the kitchen grandma would be like my tablecloth

00:48:43.740 that's amazing isn't that amazing all right maybe we'll do a beautiful story okay first

00:48:51.040 all i'll just say is guess what no i have no outfit you know why okay i've spent weeks and

00:48:55.340 weeks and weeks literally probably every day visiting the free people site trying to find

00:48:59.220 an item to request picturing this day picturing finally looking like something other than having

00:49:06.500 pulled you know a turtleneck from my mother's drawer and i am with nothing because indecision

00:49:11.480 continues to plague all right i got i gotta go uh let's just quickly because we're gonna report

00:49:16.960 back later tonight post thanksgiving which is very exciting so my so the kind of um will you

00:49:22.640 send me off on something because i'm alone give me an assignment well how about this updates

00:49:28.240 throughout the day like i'll connect with you throughout the day okay great so i'm gonna maybe

00:49:32.340 i'm gonna take myself on a thanksgiving walk i'm gonna i'm gonna do a nice walk i'm gonna try to

00:49:37.580 get my bagel. I need you to understand. I know you're clinging to these things. I might listen

00:49:42.400 to the Beatles and make a soup. It doesn't matter if you don't do any of them. Okay, thank you.

00:49:46.080 Maybe today is the day you watch Joy Luck Club, finally. Just an idea. By the way, I highly

00:49:51.340 recommend blasting. This morning, 8.15 a.m., I'm writing in my journal, I'm blasting the Beatles.

00:49:56.280 I'm going, the Beatles will always be there. They sure will. Always. Almost started crying.

00:50:01.480 and i went on my deathbed sun king comes in i go i'm home

00:50:07.520 okay wait on your deathbed what sun king oh got it yeah i just was like there's few so few things

00:50:16.260 in life that are consistent throughout claire writhing in bed what claire six feet under claire

00:50:22.940 writhing in bed at the end of six feet she doesn't rise she's still writhing in bed yeah i feel like

00:50:28.960 she's like like no she's not claire is still claire is still eye glassy eyes oh wait you are

00:50:38.140 remembering something like i can picture no that's ruth coughing i think ruth coughs in bed

00:50:43.220 in her room full of photographs what all right we'll revisit okay i have to go i have to put on

00:50:49.280 i don't think she's writhing but i know what you mean she is like her eyes i think you're thinking

00:50:54.020 of brenda being old and billy no that is a very different god it's a visual that is oh that's

00:50:59.400 that's that's laugh out loud that's laugh out loud and they did it about loud funny okay i have

00:51:05.820 10 minutes um okay i love you i'll see you tonight this is so exciting but all you have to go off

00:51:09.820 with this is thanksgiving part one whatever occurs whatever occurs you better show up drunk tonight

00:51:14.120 whatever occurs is good if i'm not i'm like sure whatever occurs is good and that's a huge one i'm

00:51:19.420 gonna go off you know what i'm gonna have apple cider with um cranberry okay it's heating on the

00:51:24.980 stove right now it's like hot apple cider with cranberry and cinnamon and then and then jack

00:51:31.500 daniels oh so you're gonna do a whiskey tonight heaven it's a whiskey night for you in in that

00:51:36.580 will you do wine as well i don't know where we'll be later okay tbd wine whatever happens is good

00:51:42.540 what was the line yeah whatever okay don't freak out if you don't lock in on this is my

00:51:49.020 thanksgiving soup okay yeah or oh god oh god alone like you don't have to have a uh you don't have

00:51:55.040 to curate a day that you can report on later tonight it sounds like something okay great

00:51:59.560 do you know what i'm talking about thank you i do oh don't i you don't have to come out of today

00:52:04.300 with a particular soup that you made a special walk okay okay thank you thank you because i

00:52:09.800 almost bullied myself and it's going on a hike that's a bit much do you really need me out there

00:52:14.300 no i'm not going on the hike you're not going on the hike falling down the ravine okay i love you

00:52:17.900 I'll see you later.

00:52:18.480 All right.

00:52:18.820 I'll check in throughout the day.

00:52:19.780 Okay, great.

00:52:20.280 And I'll see you in a few hours.

00:52:21.400 Okay, go have fun.

00:52:22.280 Five minutes to get ready.

00:52:22.580 Love y'all.

00:52:23.300 All right.

00:52:23.700 Talk soon.

00:52:23.960 Bye.

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00:52:36.180 Hey, I think we should record something

00:52:37.800 just so that we can say

00:52:39.100 that we didn't end up doing a part two

00:52:43.120 for the listeners.

00:52:45.500 So send me back a message.

00:52:46.620 hello to the community so we did not do a part two there's no easy way to say it it just didn't

00:52:52.360 happen like i personally think the listeners can handle us going should there be a part two

00:52:56.900 and then yeah we'll be back in a minute and then seeing you know there's only five minutes left of

00:53:02.580 the episode and there obviously isn't going to be a part two i think they're like hip and savvy

00:53:06.600 enough to follow that release any expectation for a full part two thanksgiving episode thank you

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The Terror of Good Skin

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