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00:02:35.460 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:36.940 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:38.020 And this is POOG, an ongoing conversation about wellness between two obsessive friends.

00:02:42.800 Two untamable intellects.

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00:02:48.520 This is POOG.

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00:02:51.420 chili dinner unicorn horn ambition

00:02:55.260 this is a serious morning poop for me this is a serious morning poop i just took this is a serious 0.95

00:03:07.920 goddamn late in the work day just like i'm like a man like where's my whiskey yeah totally isn't 0.96

00:03:18.260 that interesting for us to meet that way well can you believe we texted last night like i was going 0.97

00:03:23.280 to bed you were waking up it's crazy man it's crazy i know it really is i have my little you

00:03:29.560 know it's morning poop when i have my little french darling french press at the desk oh i'm sorry

00:03:36.080 no no let it out it's important i once had a therapist tell me that

00:03:41.100 that like vocal toning go like uh go like no or go like uh well that's so interesting given 0.98

00:03:50.520 our conversation you know the other week about you letting those whimpers fly let me just try

00:03:55.460 yeah you know to try to find the unselfconscious the true sound what is it 1.00

00:04:03.360 what am I feeling really you know yeah I don't know yeah um sometimes it can help

00:04:11.020 the moths are basically gone okay oh my god really basically

00:04:15.500 i'll just say this yesterday i saw one which was a shock flying yeah so they're they're like gone

00:04:24.340 so the poison was real please take over but just the poison needs i just want to say the poison

00:04:28.920 needs to be real they're coming again all right you don't have to sign up for a subscription but

00:04:33.520 they're coming again i uh uh am leaving where i am most like i don't even want to talk about it

00:04:42.340 i i nearly cried at the cafe no that's not true i actually did cry okay um realizing it might be

00:04:48.580 my last day of course you're crying crying and you've literally relocated to italy and you're

00:04:53.460 leaving of course you're gonna cry you're gonna weep let that in i never i never thought i would

00:04:58.360 weep for a place honestly and now i'm crying other than like parents home okay uh yeah i realized

00:05:07.340 like i was like i can't even tell the guys at the banyo that okay not because they're gonna miss me

00:05:13.540 but they are i couldn't begin to speak of you know what it's obviously meant for me i go to

00:05:19.080 this place every day and heaven and so i just was like chris you have to pay okay and i stood there

00:05:24.820 like staring out in another direction and um oh it was shocking uh i'm leaving the restaurant my

00:05:32.860 favorite restaurant are you kidding leaving that restaurant i'm not sure if i'm going to be able to

00:05:37.580 like if i'm going to be able to have a last meal there or if the only path is to just just it's

00:05:43.160 done just not go back like just be like okay last night when we thought it was the second to last

00:05:48.260 meal there maybe it's um maybe that's the one i i is it walkable from your place yes and i will

00:05:55.920 follow this restaurateur to any establishment that he you know creates anywhere so there's that

00:06:03.860 you know can you leave him something got him locked down got him locked down in the uh

00:06:09.480 in the whatsapp and oh good that's great does he know you're a comedian well i followed

00:06:17.300 on instagram i mean i mean he may have clocked it but you know he doesn't seem to care let's hope

00:06:22.320 right the italian way but yeah i talk about bringing the bringing the you know hotel home 0.82

00:06:31.760 or whatever for me this is going to be bringing trying to bring home goddamn aqua patsa fish i

00:06:38.240 don't know if i mentioned this last time but this has become how i eat fish aqua patsa style okay 0.64

00:06:44.460 what's that what it's called it's i think it translates to something like crazy water or

00:06:50.980 something but it's at least when i googled it i saw some pig american article right but it's like

00:06:57.400 it's like a broth uh you know it's say no more you had me a broth it's sort of a broth it's it's

00:07:04.340 it's broth you know tomatoey sort of oily broth occurs okay with the fish and and these smashed

00:07:11.440 tomatoes on top of it and fresh parsley um great it's very simple you know and you're gonna get

00:07:18.180 you're gonna get upset but i have a dish that i make that sounds in this style and i'll make it

00:07:24.780 for you i'm excited i'm not upset why would i be upset i'm excited i of course have the urge and i

00:07:30.460 and i know you don't need me to do this but i have the urge to cushion your landing back in la with

00:07:34.180 first of all somebody has a birthday present waiting for them back in la oh my god who you

00:07:40.620 oh me actually that was crazy well i never like to assume i never like to assume i'm gonna force

00:07:51.560 you to my home and i'm gonna feed you that fish dish and we're gonna have a group we're gonna

00:07:56.220 have an afternoon at the mall we're gonna go to the grove it's gonna be great yes i do need an

00:08:01.260 overhaul uh i've been wearing the same you know set of suitcase of clothing since july

00:08:08.020 isn't that liberating it's interesting um and it's not like it's some capsule wardrobe either

00:08:16.780 i mean i guess it is in its own way it's become one but i uh

00:08:22.980 and you know the skincare you know like a capsule wardrobe like i think people will say like it's

00:08:29.520 like you know the like when you're living off of eight items oh and it's like oh right and you're

00:08:34.000 like these are the pants that transition from day to night this is the shoe that i yeah yeah yeah

00:08:38.100 the promise of magazines in the in the 90s in particular uh remember remember like they're

00:08:43.820 like save and splurge or they're like oh yeah they're they like show you two options or those

00:08:51.560 like they do those like collages where you know on the page and they'd be like you know this fall

00:08:57.240 it's all about like whatever golden you know golden lions and you know tigers and excess and

00:09:04.960 safari belted coats or whatever like it would be like this kind of like collage with these things

00:09:12.140 and then and then and then they'd be like you can create the look by and they'd be like four

00:09:17.360 thousand dollar whatever brand yeah or tj max yeah yeah or like a like a gap like i feel like

00:09:24.560 they'd be like a gap like just like basic like khaki they'd be like yeah like you know what I

00:09:30.400 mean like it would be like a suit by whoever and then like I recall this deeply okay but wait you

00:09:36.900 been living out of a suitcase yeah I've been living out of a suitcase there's nothing there's

00:09:40.400 not much there other than do you have the urge to get rid because I was living out of a suitcase for

00:09:45.160 two months and now that I'm back I want to get rid of so much it's still hard yes because I'm going

00:09:52.040 well i've lived without all that stuff that's sitting at home and at home it's uh collecting

00:09:57.660 dust and so yeah the fantasies and the fear of returning home and organizing and all that kind

00:10:02.900 of stuff and and you know it overwhelms the spirit of course um but but there are certain

00:10:09.440 comforts you know the plugs no you don't no converters that'll be a nice sold just to stick

00:10:15.420 something into the wall i suppose will be nice you know like the the international chargers

00:10:20.420 is this can i ask when you're coming it's it's still tbd because i finally start looking at

00:10:30.580 flights and it's like okay so it's like it's it's like a thousand dollars more if i fly in five days

00:10:41.780 versus if i fly in seven days and so it keeps it keeps becoming not stay longer and longer

00:10:48.220 you're so deeply in you're so deeply in that you're like like five days left or seven days

00:10:53.780 left that's for some people that's a whole Italian vacation you have a whole vacation left

00:10:57.660 well it's not necessarily um and well one I know you're working say what you will

00:11:05.080 I just mean if you have five days left no but here's what it is it's me like trying to

00:11:12.180 it's me trying to do it's me doing an a lot I spent all day one of the days you may you may

00:11:18.200 say doing a cost compare about six different ways of securing a flight plus airbnbs flights out of

00:11:25.280 different european cities oh my god it's like okay we'll go to paris for a couple days get you know

00:11:30.920 they got a million flights right and then and then like start looking at paris and it's like 3k

00:11:35.460 yeah for a main for economy main not even comfort plus and it's like what and then they're like the

00:11:41.740 price graph and it's like they're like you stay one week longer in paris it's 1200 less so then

00:11:47.140 you're like all right well if i can book an airbnb for like 88 a night in paris oh then i'm making

00:11:54.300 money if we stay longer you know that's the yeah discussions going on so it's like this intense

00:12:02.460 airbnb and flight math happening well when you get back i'm gonna treat you to some tomato fish

00:12:11.440 at my house with broth and it's gonna really help i'm i'm um i'm here i was just your facial

00:12:19.760 i'm gonna really sorry i'm just gonna really need a facial that i saw you getting

00:12:24.020 oh because the face has slipped i spoke i spoke on the last poog of it right just my

00:12:31.200 the hydrofacial and i have an i have a product that i'm really excited about folks and here's

00:12:36.120 the thing that we wonder about right so i was a little broken out i went away for three nights i

00:12:41.900 was out of my home foreign my skin's better right after three so here's always a question is it time

00:12:48.780 is it a new product right is it like like when i was gone for those three nights i wasn't doing as

00:12:54.360 much as i normally do right and that's the hell of and you go why care that's the hell of life is

00:13:03.280 is trying to trace the untraceable to know the unknowable there it is i was like i was like you

00:13:09.980 can land this i go can i know can i know what it is or is it just okay but oh but here's something

00:13:16.540 i want to say do you skin once you know do you say juice is it d-i-u-e-x you know this brand

00:13:23.880 dew skin oh i don't know so they have a my cousin had this face cream by them

00:13:31.820 heaven on earth i used it two nights i want it i want it did you wake up changed what did you

00:13:40.060 wake up with basically i woke up here's what it was with hydra here's what it also is i've been 0.52

00:13:45.760 such a little serum whore i've been over here with serums i've been over here that's it i forgot

00:13:50.780 about a white cream in a tube that i put on the final step i use a moisturizer but they've been 0.99

00:13:56.660 too thin i'm realizing now i mean i've been i've been a fool over here you have been a fool okay 0.97

00:14:02.180 i want to talk about this i want to talk about this for 10 minutes because it's it's it's gonna 0.98

00:14:05.580 lighten the air okay go on i have a lot to say about creams okay no no i know everyone's everyone's

00:14:10.840 shocked i want to say that of course i do moisturizer i'm not i'm not only going to be

00:14:14.640 with only serum on my face but the moisturizers the moisturizers i've been using are too thin

00:14:19.220 i'm realizing now okay i needed something thicker i needed something thicker anyway i love this stuff

00:14:26.100 and once i get back from kawaii and i'm going to email the hotel today begging for a free upgrade

00:14:32.520 in some regard transparently beg no lies yes good i'm going to get on the the retinol anyway

00:14:41.620 the retinoid but uh loving the juice skin right and that's the thing i can never remember oh

00:14:47.760 and you know who came in the mail one is stronger one's not who i arrived home from harper wild

00:14:54.460 thank you harper wild for bras really exciting stuff did you ever did you put together a list

00:15:01.320 yeah of course oh you just sent it separately oh i mean i've cc'd you because usually i mean

00:15:09.240 well you know i usually include you if if if asked to send a wish list because i see sometimes you

00:15:14.440 use mine as a cheat sheet i do use yours as a cheat sheet no okay so i go these look great you

00:15:19.900 go all the same yeah totally no i didn't i didn't see or i don't know but i i just want to say i

00:15:25.920 love the bras and it was really exciting because yesterday i had a moment i was running to a show

00:15:30.160 and i go where because there's a new bra that i bought from skims as i told the group i started

00:15:34.680 watching kim kardashian i started watching the kardashians right right next thing i know i'm

00:15:38.460 buying the skims bra love it couldn't find it really Harper wild box is there on the doorstep

00:15:44.740 rip open the Harper wild rip out take out a bra go to the show love it and people and I think

00:15:50.600 the way to you don't know it's a black mesh I'll tell you has what I love what I love about it is

00:15:55.800 that this really sounds like an ad what I love about it is but this is just coming from the

00:15:59.440 heart there's underwire black mesh sheer I don't like anything I saw that I hate when anything over

00:16:05.340 the boot over the boob is like creating you know that horrible just i don't like completely they

00:16:10.680 call it lined my tit and the they call it lined and yeah i'm not i'm not you know leading a church

00:16:17.580 group i don't need to like you don't need to lift i don't need that structure no i don't

00:16:23.940 padded tit anyway love it threw it on comfortable love it and i just and i want to say i think

00:16:30.660 people might consider because cup has really held the market in this have they i think

00:16:37.700 certainly in what in the mesh bra or just in like oh here's a convenient instagram bra i don't i

00:16:44.180 don't goddamn yeah i just want to say harper wild happy to give them the the airtime because i love

00:16:50.220 the bras and i've only even tried one i'll be looking for for a bit of that how long what i was 0.89

00:16:57.000 gonna say because you you read about this i remember reading this years ago and ignoring it

00:17:00.860 like underwear you're literally supposed to like throw away your underwear every year and get like

00:17:05.480 a new batch have you heard this that it's like bacteria filthy oh god well i think that problem

00:17:12.360 i mean i don't know how long you heard that i don't buy that there are sanitizing and there's

00:17:18.120 i forget about this because like sanitization refers to one thing like specifically clinically

00:17:23.120 versus um you know uh i can't think of another word for it you know but like but like the different

00:17:28.940 cleaning things it's like anyway i'm i feel like they there is laundry detergent that's like

00:17:34.380 antibacterial full-on kill i know i'm sure i mean isn't it like bleach doesn't bleach do all

00:17:40.020 ammonia no wait bleach i guess but you want almost all my underwear is black

00:17:45.200 so i don't want to bleach that anyway well may i respond to a few things please okay so one big of

00:17:54.300 you what you need it's not a moisturizer okay you need to get into the realm of the sleep pack

00:18:00.240 the what sleeping pack that's the term i first came across in yes in korean beauty okay and it's

00:18:10.020 this final step once you've layered on all the other things to keep it all in to keep from

00:18:15.580 evaporation happening oh my god okay so there's that the one that i really loved for a long time

00:18:21.780 that was quite life-changing call it was i think it was by benton um and it was called can't

00:18:28.200 remember but soko glam has a number of them and and you did i use it at turks and cacos

00:18:33.880 no i i i feel it was pre that i'm trying to oh i had something no i had a esop vitamin c

00:18:42.100 sleeping mask i believe okay something like that that's exciting yeah the final step lock it in

00:18:49.200 i need to lock it in and then um what was the other thing i was excited about

00:18:53.540 i ran out of my ion you know the ion that has the whole thing about removing iron from the skin

00:18:58.640 what have you been because ion sent us the line i've been using the ion cleanser and

00:19:03.360 because you don't shed iron what are you using well all i brought with me on the trip it's sort

00:19:09.820 of like okay i'm not gonna bring a whole line whatever but i brought with me i think like the

00:19:13.080 eye cream and like just to get to the end of a product you know it's such a thrill is so heroic

00:19:18.520 i guess what i broke into the other day because i thought no more saving because i've made the

00:19:23.180 error of saving hives oh oh bro got it got it the barbara stern night drops really yeah

00:19:33.360 So I'm just going to use up the bottle.

00:19:35.140 Sturm caved.

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00:20:45.680 It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

00:20:51.060 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor, disappeared from a commune.

00:20:54.880 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:20:56.240 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:20:59.880 No, I am not your guru.

00:21:03.660 And back then, I lied to my parents, I lied to police, I lied to everybody.

00:21:08.520 There were years right where I could not say your name.

00:21:11.500 I've decided to go back to my hometown in Northern California,

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00:23:44.800 oh you know what i heard today hot off of chris mentioning it while reading on his phone

00:23:52.840 he's like do you use dry shampoo i'm like not really he's like unilever just recalled

00:23:58.080 a bunch of dry shampoo because of like you know oh carcinogens like the powder you mean or the

00:24:04.980 spray well hard to say i don't okay because the answer is no i don't use it but i use text i use

00:24:11.920 like texturizing spray like the ori bay yeah i'm i'm guessing i mean not to be rude unilever it's

00:24:21.300 all poison i just the ori bay i'm i'm guessing isn't using the same like industrial uh stuff

00:24:28.860 that unilever's got oh well i'm looking at it there she is folks unilever's you know if you

00:24:36.700 buy normal products it's probably by them got it like everything they're in like the caress

00:24:43.980 they're like a huge one i just had never even heard well caresses inside of them is what i'm

00:24:49.480 saying exactly they have dove yeah read off read off it's kind of interesting they've got

00:24:53.760 it's exciting to look at these companies just to like think because you know what this reminds me

00:24:58.200 of it's in madmen when they're divvying up and they're like american airlines when they're like

00:25:03.380 whole okay listen to this unilever's got pg tips okay ponds slim fast yeah skippy

00:25:12.200 suave your whole life vaseline saint ives i mean those are the those are the big ones i'm seeing

00:25:20.220 they're the big yeah big and then and then so that's like a big one and then um thermosilk

00:25:26.140 procter and gamble's another huge one oh yeah so it's like and you think they're competitive you

00:25:32.960 You know, like, you know, like, you know, like you think you're looking at the shelf thinking like Garnier is competing with like Pantene. 0.55

00:25:41.200 You're like, oh, poor old Pantene, you know, like mom and pop shop Pantene is getting like buttressed by the same fucked by, you know, Garnier's whatever.

00:25:51.540 I mean, those might not be the same, but it's just, yeah, the law of the land as it plays out on the shelves, you know, isn't the story it seems to be.

00:25:59.280 the brand stability of dove well the story dove told us for years and keeps telling the original

00:26:07.340 one or the new one because or the new ones because boy have they gone for it they're like we are

00:26:14.620 warriors of justice they're like yeah on the ballot now but yes yeah yeah but it's still about

00:26:22.840 beauty make no mistake you know what i mean like oh make no mistake i'll never forget i saw early

00:26:28.960 pandemic i saw an ad and it was like they were you know it's like a nurse like her face is has

00:26:35.580 huge indentations from the intense mask from like the industrial 95 she's wearing yeah and it's like

00:26:43.140 dry skin or whatever and it's like her her face imprinted with the how dare they honestly her

00:26:50.140 service go to hell they were like we need to create for dove they were like we need to create

00:26:56.660 what uh you know the duck the duck the duck with the oil spill oh yeah yeah the the um don 0.56

00:27:05.580 exactly yeah don don on the duck genius yeah i would love it's not don but like don on the duck

00:27:14.140 okay don on the duck they were like what's don on the duck for dove right and they were like

00:27:19.140 woman they're like they're like a woman nurse nurse you know like suffering like yeah you know

00:27:26.320 a staple product i mean because like dove to me and then you know there's these classic you know 0.88

00:27:31.400 these products dove to me will always smell like my grandmother's bathroom you know because she

00:27:37.040 always had dove in there dove was really big for my mom you know dove bar soap yeah just and oh i

00:27:45.240 use dove oh i just use dove yeah it's uh boy have they held i mean i've i've talked about like the 0.91

00:27:52.800 olay journey how they had to like they're like poor poor bastards had to run from i mean just

00:27:57.220 from this is just my viewing as a shopper but how they had to run from their name oil of olay in the

00:28:02.900 90s when when everything was anti-comedogenic whatever oh they were like we're olay

00:28:09.480 they had to they had to they were like i felt bad for them i felt bad for them i was like 0.93

00:28:16.640 these poor bastards have like that word oil in them like god it must be a crisis over there and 0.97

00:28:22.480 then now then and then that's when they it's like and now we're back it's like doctor doctor that 0.99

00:28:28.540 dr seuss where all the little creatures get some of them have a little star on their chest and then

00:28:33.780 they um the other ones want it and then they the ones who don't want you sorry wait star on the

00:28:39.400 five o'clock i don't know what you're saying the creature dr seuss book and it's sort of like 0.50

00:28:46.080 some of the you know whatever the fucks you know have have a marking or something and then everyone

00:28:54.320 wants it so they add it but then it's not cool anymore oh well there it is okay so it is so do 0.96

00:29:00.720 you do you chop ole I mean do you like I like to fantasize of being like like in the um you know

00:29:08.660 I love to sit around and fantasize about if I were in the in the room just just that I would

00:29:12.520 have had the courage to say no we're oil of olay and we're not going to stop being oil of olay

00:29:17.440 because guess what oil oil is life and right it shall come back around double down yeah yeah yeah

00:29:28.940 courage do you have any interest in vampires because i've been going deep i've been watching

00:29:34.120 three vampire based series kind of at once no not not classically but once never taken right

00:29:40.760 I immediately become intrigued as you saying vampire.

00:29:44.880 Because what was the thing?

00:29:46.120 Yeah.

00:29:46.540 There was recently that clickbaity article going around of like vampire unearthed with

00:29:52.740 like a stake through its heart.

00:29:54.260 Oh. 0.67

00:29:54.800 They like found a vampire.

00:29:56.100 You would love this.

00:29:57.260 Oh, yeah.

00:29:57.580 You should.

00:29:58.160 You'll find it instantly.

00:29:59.260 Unearthed and yet not alive.

00:30:01.780 Oh, right.

00:30:02.160 Staked through the heart. 0.97

00:30:02.700 A mummified vampire with a stake through its heart. 0.90

00:30:05.160 Oh, right.

00:30:05.540 well you know what they elegantly said on true blood is that um in their the fictional world

00:30:12.080 of true blood they were like those those things about how to kill vampires or like these or these

00:30:17.280 like things like you can't see them in a mirror and all this stuff like those are created so that

00:30:21.040 actual vampires could prove that they're not a vampire oh like see you see there i am the mirror

00:30:27.860 right yeah yeah and then and then by the way season one true blood go go folks

00:30:35.760 That's all I'll say.

00:30:36.260 If you haven't.

00:30:37.120 Oh, that would be fun.

00:30:37.880 I've never saw it.

00:30:39.300 It's Alan Ball.

00:30:39.920 I mean, I enjoyed the whole series.

00:30:40.940 For Christ's sake.

00:30:41.480 It's Alan Ball at, I mean, just, I won't even, because whatever, but just season one.

00:30:46.480 Just enjoy season one.

00:30:48.160 Enjoy episode one. 0.89

00:30:49.740 It's un-fucking-believable. 0.89

00:30:50.860 It's our town. 0.97

00:30:51.760 Okay?

00:30:52.820 Okay, that sounds really exciting.

00:30:54.360 Jason Stackhouse, one of the most, I mean, have you seen it?

00:30:58.020 Because it's ecstasy.

00:31:00.680 It's absolute ecstasy.

00:31:01.900 This is cool.

00:31:02.740 Yeah, this is cool.

00:31:03.620 This is exciting.

00:31:04.240 i could use something like that but that's not even what i'm watching right now that's just

00:31:09.060 now i'm doing interview with a vampire and let the right one in simultaneous viewing very fun

00:31:15.640 and uh i've relapsed so hard on social media the last couple days just the scrolling particularly

00:31:22.300 when travel becomes exacerbated you know just in the terminal for no reason and i'm i have to delete

00:31:28.060 i have to even just take a two-day break i just can't look at all it's just i've become and who

00:31:33.840 cares but i'm gonna i got no i got it today i'm deleting it today yeah yeah i i basically i've

00:31:40.080 i've um yes okay okay because i just wanted to shout out to my cousin i met so i didn't meet i

00:31:48.400 saw my cousin in let's let's talk about this she's a junior in high school she doesn't have social

00:31:55.320 media okay okay she's like i don't do it explain and i was moved almost to tears she goes she's by

00:32:03.160 the way this 16 year old girl she's sitting there is this the is this a kid of a farmer though is

00:32:08.340 this dirty girl produce this kid or something okay actually a different farmer but yes she's 0.91

00:32:12.320 a frog hollow daughter but listen but she's she's and i'm talking to her and i'm going oh my god 1.00

00:32:18.660 this like vibrant wonderful 16 year old it comes up that she doesn't do instagram that she doesn't

00:32:24.840 do snapchat and i was like i was grilling her i was like do you have friends like this are there

00:32:28.980 others like she was like yes that's what i was wondering she was like no just her and she's

00:32:33.820 being she's sitting there at that table being unbelievable and i was talking to my cousin

00:32:37.280 later that night i went can you imagine that age 16 years old so self-assured so sweet like so just

00:32:42.700 like and my friend and my cousin goes well it's because she's not on social media and i was like

00:32:47.160 of course like i mean who knows there's also something that's just her but right the bravery

00:32:51.960 the courage can you imagine and she's and she was laughing she was like yeah people will say to me

00:32:55.780 like what's your snap and i'll be like i don't have one and they'll be like what's your instagram

00:32:59.040 handle and i'll be like i don't have one and they just kind of go like oh okay and like walk away

00:33:02.880 like by the way she's this is not so like nerd okay she's like yeah yeah oh my god gorgeous

00:33:09.520 i mean wonderful could not believe it right yeah you're like oops you're like giving her salvation

00:33:21.100 by explaining that she's gorgeous and then you're like the panic and wonderful well i'm throwing in

00:33:26.400 that she's gorgeous just to be like this is you know you would understand if she were someone who

00:33:31.620 was snapping we all know why you're throwing it is gorgeous exactly we don't it's an important

00:33:35.580 detail you know yeah exactly we don't i knew i i was moved practically to tears and then the bravery

00:33:42.800 knowing that she's that it's not like oh and her and her best friends are all doing this and she

00:33:46.940 said she was like yeah i had tiktok for a couple weeks and i was scrolling so much i just you know

00:33:51.220 i had to delete it unbelievable i i yeah i i accidentally happened on to uh instagram the

00:34:00.260 other day and it it led to a complete personal crisis like oh wow minutes you know what i mean

00:34:05.980 like about um my own reclusive nature you know what i mean i was like look at all these people

00:34:12.440 just having so much fun together yeah they just love it and like being like and like wondering why

00:34:18.600 I don't like I'm not called to that in the same I just why it's so hard for me to show up to a

00:34:23.880 yeah picnic yeah yeah why yeah why it's so hard yeah and then and then you know once I'm there

00:34:32.340 you know having a blast but then I don't know I mean then the other piece of this is can't we stop

00:34:39.520 asking ourselves why we are the way we are i know we gotta stop i know i know i've turned to

00:34:46.600 some of the most outrageous guided meditations available on the internet um like i run like

00:34:55.080 this this is a woman that i think her name is diana cooper it's like it's like meeting your

00:35:00.080 guardian angel it's like we've done that together no i think that was denise lin

00:35:04.800 okay we did a guided meditation together in the dark about 10 years this one yes that was

00:35:11.440 fantastic that was meeting that was walking with your spirit guides i believe oh yeah yeah the

00:35:15.920 flower in the garden yeah like yeah i'm just turning i'm turning to to like saccharine like

00:35:22.060 images like this this meditation the unicorn meditation in which you know she makes some

00:35:27.200 interesting claims that one you know unicorns um she's like they are they were horses okay

00:35:37.580 okay and they've transcended I believe now I have to remind you I was in a I was in a trance state

00:35:42.940 of course while she was passing along this information but of course what she's saying

00:35:46.180 is that they were horses they've transcended and now they have a ethereal the um the horns

00:35:52.300 must be kind of the pineal gland right there's something yeah third eye well it's third eye yeah

00:35:56.680 okay it's the absolute clarity of the third eye oh my god that by the way i've never cared about

00:36:03.240 unicorn i've never thought until now suddenly suddenly i'm like i need to integrate unicorn

00:36:08.080 imagery into my private life just as a personal totem no yes because well the way that unicorns

00:36:15.080 have been made into a gag you know um they've they've been stolen from us yes they've been

00:36:23.040 lisa frankified they've been they've been stolen i do enjoy lisa frank's work okay but but but

00:36:27.900 nonetheless okay but yeah there are worse kind of versions of it and so it's talking about unicorn

00:36:32.420 energy it's basically saying like mix and bold claims but it's uh it's like it's like unicorn

00:36:38.380 energy comes to those who uh you know are going to help others and and if you like

00:36:44.960 leadership and helping others this kind of thing and that they step in and and surround you and

00:36:51.720 we'll stay with you and I don't know it was uh it was compelling and and then you know I tried

00:36:58.580 yeah yes it's that one guardian angel one you know if they get to the meet too quick

00:37:03.320 like you need a long induction if there's not a long induction what's the point I mean yeah it's

00:37:12.020 like like when they're like okay you're gonna go on this journey and they're like you know 10 9 8

00:37:18.280 down some steps oh yeah and you're expected to just soar in then you know it's too fast um

00:37:27.540 and I'm like I'm not in yet I'm not in yet I want to get in the unicorn the unicorn stuff

00:37:32.040 you know what I'm okay I'm excited for your return because I miss you terribly and I'm

00:37:37.480 excited for let's do some let's do some what about honestly is horseback riding

00:37:41.640 on the agenda in any way because it's on my list it's absolutely on my list i of course fear being

00:37:50.120 bucked being thrown but i guess that's part of it i will do by the way i know of an excellent

00:37:57.260 horseback riding thing that we can do okay and it's a we will ride it and guess what's at the

00:38:03.740 you do it's a gorgeous meal a gorgeous meal i think chili and hot and um onion rings

00:38:09.820 holy shit and they're but they're apparently my friend who really knows about food says

00:38:14.740 they're the best onion rings in the world and you ride your horse to the top and they give you chili 0.99

00:38:19.440 dinner no we're doing god do you ride it back down yeah oh my god but by the way i've only

00:38:28.020 have been on a horse a couple times the spirituality of riding on the back of a horse

00:38:34.340 no I mean like I have like photographic memory of just looking at because from the top of horse a

00:38:39.240 tree looks different the ground looks different just that simple shift by the way it's not a

00:38:42.740 simple shift it's huge but there's something yeah when you're on the back of a horse the world just

00:38:47.940 does look different doesn't it it's a completely different town well yeah suddenly your head is

00:38:53.760 what four and a half feet higher and your own and it's pure archetype it's like pure archetype

00:38:59.720 visitation yeah well also you know the presence of horses just I remember while I was reading the

00:39:09.220 listening to the unicorn meditation that I was like oh yeah that period where I like drew horses

00:39:15.200 someone gave me a book how to draw a horse and it took me it took me for like for you know a couple

00:39:20.840 months as a child and I took some horseback riding lessons briefly as a as a kid and and I

00:39:26.420 really just enjoyed um going around around that little dirt patch it's fantastic oh I like I mean

00:39:36.020 I like the feeling of you put one foot on the saddle you know and you grab that thing and then

00:39:43.520 you know you hoist yourself up swing over and you're just that part I actually don't love

00:39:47.660 but yeah i just yeah i guess for me it's just being on top feeling your shoulders move

00:39:55.100 it's completely embodying the archetype of the cowboy wait oh you mean the being on top yeah

00:40:01.380 yeah there's something about getting like girl there's something about there's a that's how i ride

00:40:08.780 god you know those sexual positions really ruined like the tricks you could do on a

00:40:17.520 horse because now if someone like is riding backwards on a horse it's like it's got it's 0.98

00:40:24.280 got a vibe to it like she's trying too hard yeah well side saddle what about side saddle first of

00:40:30.120 all like that is what it's called yeah yeah we're we're we're i guess whatever method that was

00:40:36.820 called like so the so the long dresses yeah yeah but first of all i feel like the skirt could be

00:40:43.220 worn even straddling it imagine if you like straddle the horse and then you pull the skirt

00:40:49.480 down around the back of the horse that'd be great like can you picture it like pulling it down around

00:40:54.540 its butt kind of and then like yeah it would work if the skirt was voluminous enough it'd be really

00:41:00.140 cozy it'd be like you and the horse that's wearing a skirt together yeah yeah well it's 0.70

00:41:06.980 You're going to be in one of those those horse acts, you know, two women, one horse costume, you and me.

00:41:13.820 Oh, my God. That'd be great. We could do that for a POOG event.

00:41:17.400 Well, that would be a big deal. That's actually. Wow.

00:41:22.360 That's huge. There it is. There it is.

00:41:24.620 It is. We'll say no more because while I have choreography ideas immediately, I mean, I will not speak of them because you've you've already been told too much.

00:41:34.480 I'd almost demand a beep, but no.

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00:45:28.700 listen to the girlfriend spotlight on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your

00:45:36.400 podcasts so okay we're back i want to thank you for the you know the reminder of the importance

00:45:49.600 of unicorns and yeah um maybe send me that meditation i could use something like you know

00:45:55.840 I'm doing some casual Gua Sha with a stone I found in the ocean.

00:46:00.620 Just to be clear that this is, you know, you know, okay. You just go, Hey,

00:46:05.580 that's all you need. I was seduced by an ad on Instagram as we all are.

00:46:10.320 That was like, I know what you think I'm, you think I'm 25, right?

00:46:14.540 I'm actually 47 and it's like her whole thing is that she does like, you know,

00:46:19.860 massaging the face. I'm convinced you've been saying this since the beginning of

00:46:22.360 poog and i just want to thank you okay because i i am now it is all facial facial massage is the

00:46:28.180 answer and we know that now and exercise facial exercise that's what i mean yeah yeah yeah well

00:46:33.920 that i don't even understand that i have to start to work on well the cheek squats the bulking

00:46:38.640 the bulking to offset the fat uh the fat falling away you know you have to settle for a muscular

00:46:45.900 you have to settle for your muscular cheek sure you know in favor of a nice fatty uh youth youth

00:46:54.360 cheek it's like guess it'll be made of muscle now i need a bicep for a cheek but i'll you know i'll

00:47:01.360 take it and also you know i i um sorry words have failed me there's a lot but imagine this yeah

00:47:10.720 hi you and me a blue ribbon sushi at the grove having you locking it in again worried you're

00:47:17.840 still worried no no i'm not worried i'm excited an aperil spritz whatever you want doll oh my god

00:47:24.240 and there's crispy rice with spicy tuna on the way i go into this i go into this this i was

00:47:31.760 picturing us imagining us at the grove i uh i was in a little italian restaurant couldn't just

00:47:38.000 couldn't just enjoy myself had to ask the guy where's his cookbook where's his instagram okay

00:47:42.700 yeah yeah and and where's where's the branding where's his sauce and every we this was on the

00:47:48.860 fourth visit to be clear so this is not you know there was a relationship established and um and

00:47:54.760 i mean i was doing it in a whatever kind of way and and he goes like to chris she's ambitious

00:48:01.340 isn't she oh it's scary because it's scary it was like I was like I really saw myself

00:48:08.800 yeah yeah like I saw like like who I am like I just and I'm like one of these I'm like a pig 0.95

00:48:15.540 like a character in a movie an American really an American pig okay it was like yeah it was 0.82

00:48:20.660 literally like saying why isn't like we need to get your face they already had the branding of 0.90

00:48:26.260 his father procter gamble involved yeah yeah we need them now okay and you know and it was and

00:48:32.600 so he's like he's like he's like he's got his father's face like this sort of graphic of his

00:48:38.180 father's face that's on the menu so i'm like there's already branding happening here you know

00:48:41.600 what i mean so i'm like we just push this a little forward the four family fortune could be secured

00:48:47.320 and uh you know but but it was and he's like food is not like literally humiliating imagine

00:48:53.880 and me sitting there looking at food is not product it's yes it's art for us okay that's

00:49:00.240 not an accent but oh my god yeah and i was like and then of course like i'm bowing my head going 0.95

00:49:05.860 of course of course i mean of course yeah screaming i'm an american pig like tipping my head 0.55

00:49:10.140 so deeply like my chin nearly went inside of my chest you know what i mean like trying to 0.74

00:49:14.280 bow to what he bowed in honor to what he was saying a concave bow yeah yes and then

00:49:19.120 and then um I I had a great moment at another restaurant where I overheard some people I guess

00:49:27.300 bitching about how long the pasta or whatever was taking and and uh and the waiter just yeah I think

00:49:35.640 so and uh and the waiter went for it and said this is not McDonald's oh it was great yeah like

00:49:47.340 like it was bold it was bold i was like i was like could i take it i was like could i i mean

00:49:56.260 one i'd be humiliated you go over to the table you throw wine in her face this is not mcdonald's

00:50:02.680 that was really good and then um one of the most moving things ever happened at the restaurant uh

00:50:12.880 this other restaurant that i've been the one that i've gone to the most okay one of the most moving

00:50:17.520 things i've ever seen happen in a restaurant and i'm going to continue to tell you tales of this

00:50:20.980 restaurant okay yeah but but this is just the beginning because i can't even get into it but

00:50:24.760 i'll take years to reflect on probably at least weeks once i've left so so we go to this restaurant

00:50:31.660 so much it's it's the restaurant we go to and and and we're there one night and we've we start to

00:50:36.680 notice that we are not the only people who return okay every single person we see there basically

00:50:41.500 we end up seeing them another night because everybody comes back I hear them telling the

00:50:46.420 the restaurant owner like you know and and I hear him discussing oh we love when people come back

00:50:50.720 and I'm like another one there's another one oh there's the ladies from the other night okay

00:50:53.640 everyone gets a taste can't get enough and so this one night it's like it's like late or whatever

00:51:00.120 and we're outside it's like four tables are seated outside and like and I hear these Americans you

00:51:05.900 know next to us and i you know i'm suspicious of course um and but i hear them they sound like

00:51:11.680 they're really enjoying it and the whole thing and then a couple walks by and kind of glances

00:51:17.280 as if they were maybe considering the restaurant okay and they're kind of looking and the american

00:51:23.440 couple this this man heart of gold okay i just hear him like he goes you won't regret it okay

00:51:30.040 I love it okay and then a cacophony began no from every table okay including mine I have chills I

00:51:38.540 have chills right now including including ours praising the restaurant to this passerby like

00:51:44.180 like a cacophony of of like of like it's like we've come here four times me like I was like

00:51:49.220 it's our seventh and then I panicked and was like I think it's our 15th like I didn't even go hard

00:51:53.200 enough okay literally this little cacophony of voices like letting the people know this is this

00:51:58.320 is the place like this you absolutely do they come in yeah they're part of the family instantly

00:52:03.040 and they're subsumed into the whole it actually they walked a little way so it could act like it

00:52:07.780 was their decision and then they came back like 10 minutes later i respected it i understood but

00:52:11.800 it was i mean it was it was one of the most moving things to be a part of and i was like

00:52:19.860 impressed by because i've had i've been tempted before to do this very thing then i was emboldened

00:52:25.960 okay and last night unfortunately i was a little too emboldened and last night i sort of you got

00:52:30.880 a little excited i wanted it to happen again and so yeah so i saw a couple going by and i started

00:52:35.680 to scream out something you know not scream okay yeah of course but whatever i've never seen that

00:52:41.480 happen in a restaurant i've never heard of that happening no yeah and i'm starting to wonder if

00:52:46.660 it can be beat my experiences of this restaurant if if it can be beat and that's tough no don't

00:52:52.180 don't you wouldn't even want it to be i just mean like right but like you know it'll you know i'll

00:52:58.560 be chasing that way the rest of my life was that what we do we chase we chase that which has left

00:53:05.340 oh it was so it was just it was really uh now i'm also you know another part of my life is now i

00:53:10.820 probably mentioned this it's all about cocktails all the time did i probably mentioned but the

00:53:15.300 Amaro, Amari. You're on it. The Limoncello's, all the, those liqueurs and the little tiny glasses.

00:53:24.620 I do this now. Well, guess what? I'm excited for you because we have a, I'm really excited for you

00:53:29.240 and I think it's really marvelous and, um, never said marvelous. And my, we have a family friend

00:53:35.200 who's Italian and she makes her own Limoncello. I want to get you a bottle because damn, because 0.99

00:53:41.040 the stuff that you have i mean hers is it's that vibrant lemon it's lemon like it actually 0.98

00:53:45.300 you know i had never i think i ever really had the real thing well you know the one of the

00:53:51.220 restaurants i was at the one i was trying to get um him to go global you know i was like where's

00:53:56.460 the cookbook and he's like we are actually and then he pulled out this little cookbook

00:53:59.440 of like local recipes and there was a limoncello thing there's a series of them and they're it's

00:54:04.740 funny because like there's like the new thing it's like whatever they're constantly coming out

00:54:08.520 with with new ones it's like throw some throw a bunch of sugar something in like you know 100%

00:54:15.840 alcohol and let it let it work there was one thing that was at Earl Grey there was one thing 0.96

00:54:20.680 that I once had that was like fuck was it chamomile what was it it was so good it was like a chamomile 0.98

00:54:25.360 liqueur it was crazy because the flavor of chamomile is really lovely chamomile ice cream 0.97

00:54:30.980 I would love that let's go right yeah it's just because chamomile always is mild frankly it's why

00:54:37.820 I don't usually order it as a tea.

00:54:40.440 It's like, what happens if you steep it?

00:54:42.540 What happens if you crank up the chamomile?

00:54:45.920 Well, what happens when you have it in a liqueur that I did at some point,

00:54:48.600 or it's a hallucination from a past life?

00:54:50.840 Chamomile is what it's always been to me.

00:54:53.560 Oh.

00:54:57.140 While you think of something to say,

00:54:58.520 I'll tell the listeners about my other new liqueurs.

00:55:01.900 Paperna, rucola, okay?

00:55:04.180 Oh, rucola, I've heard. 1.00

00:55:05.520 Not rucola, rucoleta, shit. 0.96

00:55:07.820 rucculina it's called rucculina the ruccula is just rocket and my favorite restaurateur as a 0.95

00:55:14.840 gag last night when i ordered when i said i'll have one of the ruccula okay it's a little gag

00:55:20.300 and then i said rucculina you know you know because i keep calling it ruccula by mistake

00:55:23.680 he brought out he brought out like my tiny little glass with just with just a couple pieces of rocket

00:55:29.460 in it as a gag that's the cutest thing it was the best and this was earned after 15 meals there

00:55:35.860 or whatever okay this was not you have to tell them that i'm sorry but you have to go back for

00:55:40.520 a last meal you actually have to oh i am i am and you tell them night and i'm afraid and you and you

00:55:46.500 tell them you tell them when do you tell them that's the question when do you tell well the

00:55:52.060 last couple nights every you know over the last few days the times we've been in there it's sort

00:55:57.400 of like is this thing i think you're actually like guys it's time to go they're like they're

00:56:03.060 like because it's it's like we keep almost promising that we're leaving yeah not really

00:56:07.580 but we're we never have won but nothing's been sent over to be like goodbye oh no no there have

00:56:13.800 been some there have been some generosity treats oh i bet 15 times if you go back and back and

00:56:20.500 back and back they're gonna i mean next level stuff i i i i'm not even gonna talk about because

00:56:26.260 because i don't want to i don't know well i mean i'll have to tell you offline sometime i mean i

00:56:34.680 just i can't it's almost like saying like well this is my thing like the airbnbs people are

00:56:38.960 like thank you it was so sweet that you left us a free tart okay they say it in the review

00:56:42.520 a free tart and a bottle of champagne like it's so sweet of you to do that now and then because

00:56:47.400 that's in the reviews i feel like everyone who signs who signs up for that airbnb is like where's

00:56:52.060 my tart worth it yeah so you got to be careful anyway i just don't want people to go there

00:56:58.280 protecting the business yeah we had one tough moment where some grilled vegetables came out

00:57:04.280 and we hadn't ordered them uh and they're brought out and we're like oh and then we're like we

00:57:11.160 didn't order the like and and it became clear that it was not like a freebie yeah it was a mistake

00:57:17.140 and and we had to like like it was a whole thing to be like we actually didn't want them we're like

00:57:24.320 they were someone else's it was the mistake got it they were fully someone else's and we don't

00:57:28.520 want them and we were like we're too full and we're not sad that you made them that didn't

00:57:36.940 didn't like the embarrassment of thinking you've been given something for even a second you haven't

00:57:43.680 that's why you said birthday gift to me. And I go, you go, someone's got a birthday gift. I go

00:57:48.500 for who it's because the horror for me. And then, and then, Oh no, not for you. No. Even,

00:57:55.300 you know, like the most insane thing. Oh, I'm trying to think like that. You'd then be so

00:58:01.340 sad. No, like I'm, I'm still haunted by this, this moment backstage at Cherry Lane.

00:58:08.480 um when flowers came and i looked at the note and briefly thought it was someone on my own staff

00:58:17.580 who sent them okay and let's just say her name was suzy i go i go like suzy okay i'm like oh my god

00:58:25.940 you didn't have to do this okay and then you realized and then it's like and suzy didn't do

00:58:31.320 that yeah yeah of course she didn't and like Susie would have done that if that like Susie did a

00:58:39.140 million things that were beyond that of course Susie yeah flowers would be a crass it was it was

00:58:45.340 not but I just I was scared because she was in the room that if it was her I didn't want to not

00:58:51.320 have a big reaction right away so I had to take the risk it wakes me in the night like I think

00:58:55.640 about it probably once a week no like just like the horror of imagining her hearing my voice

00:59:01.120 Susie you know I called Susie you didn't have to do this and the worst is like I mean it would

00:59:10.440 have been a little weird if you did okay sorry one thing is hysterical you ready yeah the

00:59:16.800 cacophony of my own laugh sorry to say cacophony again okay no it's fine you can say it caused

00:59:22.000 zoom to ask if music was playing just now yeah zoom ask I didn't even know zoom asks that

00:59:29.260 i mean either did i until i let out the sound of the ages well there's no easy way to say this i

00:59:35.440 have to leave all right i'll talk to you soon so well hang on hang on um listen i know you're

00:59:44.180 leaving soon i still don't know when you don't know when but it's upon us and i say this without

00:59:50.840 fear without pressure i can't wait to greet you back in la and i can't wait to give you a birthday

00:59:55.760 present and um be laughing at the grove with you sounds to just know that that's there and i'll

01:00:02.860 make you the italian fish in my house thank you and guess what he'll go back it's not the last

01:00:09.880 time yes i mean you never know of course but yes you never know but we have to we have to believe

01:00:15.560 we'll go back or else how can we take another step absolutely i'll figure it out okay all right

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