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00:02:35.460 Hi, I'm Kate Berlant.

00:02:36.920 I'm Jacqueline Novak.

00:02:38.020 And this is POOG, an ongoing conversation about wellness between two obsessive friends.

00:02:42.800 Two untamable intellects.

00:02:44.540 This is our hobby. 0.97

00:02:45.380 This is our hell.

00:02:46.240 This is our naked desire for free products.

00:02:48.520 This is POOG.

00:02:49.940 Today's topic, loosely speaking.

00:02:51.400 big chicken a tight ship objects alone

00:02:56.120 okay first of all the listeners weren't here for this but i started hysterically laughing

00:03:07.760 we logged on to the point of like where i reached the silent level of laughter where your mouth just

00:03:13.340 open and you're heaving in silence it felt so good it's the best feeling and it was a combination of

00:03:20.140 the joy of seeing you because we haven't recorded poog in weeks yeah and also me laying down

00:03:28.640 and us both looking like shit well we haven't seen each other in weeks we don't even really 0.57

00:03:33.960 greet each other it's like no it's just like i just come on and i just like stare at you and 0.98

00:03:38.380 it's funny because it's as if i'm looking into your eyes and it's as if you're looking to mine

00:03:41.520 but yet again yeah not because we're not looking at the camera yeah so it's this it's this new 0.88

00:03:46.700 holy shit this is huge I mean I you know I'm obsessed with the issue of staring into the eyes 0.90

00:03:51.140 versus the eye of the camera and that being the signifier of selfie and truth ultimately the one 0.98

00:03:57.740 is not staring at you they're staring at themselves but anyway it's it's strange because the eye

00:04:03.520 contact is not one-to-one right you and me right now but it's become a new kind of eye contact like

00:04:08.300 I can see that you're looking at me yeah I'm looking at you girl and you can see that I'm

00:04:14.160 looking at you and it's as if there's an eye contact but there's not you know what i'm saying

00:04:19.480 i mean there has to be some like remarkable book about this called yes the eyes we see

00:04:25.400 oh my god wait first of all i have to say okay just to oh god it's good to be back 0.54

00:04:32.600 really missed you miss poog there's a lot yeah there's a fucking lot by the way i ran into some 0.66

00:04:38.460 who um were sensational and they were like we went to elliot oh i was like i was and i was like 0.84

00:04:48.500 oh okay like i was like i don't know if it was a travel to elliot i mean no shame on elliot but

00:04:53.760 it was like i was like that place was like outside of kate's door and then they also said i'm sorry

00:04:59.180 okay but they also said we saw a basket of limes

00:05:03.220 they were like they were like shocked they were like we thought there was that's a callback

00:05:13.680 in case you're not clear to me being trying to find lemons in scotland immediately post brexit

00:05:19.500 wait so i gasped a second ago i said oh my god because i just remembered a friend of mine

00:05:25.740 this is huge was seated next to the head chef of jar oh okay right i think they reached out

00:05:36.000 suzanne tracked i believe i've never heard her name said but she's you know she's the chef of

00:05:42.340 jar and somehow it came up poog no i think my friend was like oh my friends are my friends

00:05:49.200 obsessed with jar whatever i panicked you said my friends yeah i was like oh thank god i was

00:05:54.780 included in this anecdote and then it was my friend apostrophes obsessed with jar no no but

00:06:01.000 the chef gave has released her personal cell what i have to text her i have her cell phone she was 0.61

00:06:08.480 like tell her to text me so we're fucking in oh so when i get when we when we're both in my god 0.86

00:06:13.340 well do they acknowledge that people come in and say yes they're yeah i think so okay good okay but 0.92

00:06:19.040 i have to just say so i'm in new york city which is heaven i really am you remember i'm having

00:06:27.060 sex in the city theme on a loop in my head everywhere i go i'm back and yeah it feels so

00:06:32.920 good beautiful really though and um last night i was having um a late drink at the bowery hotel

00:06:40.120 after my show and i'm sitting there with a group of friends

00:06:45.500 we're on our you know second round a server appears holding a gibson martini oh my god

00:06:53.860 and i look at it and i go oh a gibson i go who ordered a gibson oh yeah and it was like i didn't

00:07:01.220 even understand what's happening and then he goes from a poog hag no and hand it to me and it was

00:07:07.440 like i couldn't even believe it that it was happening did you look around the room i looked 0.92

00:07:11.980 around and did they point them out there no one was there it was like okay next level class next

00:07:17.700 level and i took one sip it was heaven it was heaven i mean i took more than one sip but i just

00:07:24.620 it was unbelievable and i could hardly even speak it was so sweet i forgot what a gibson is

00:07:30.040 so it's gin and who the hell knows what but it's three cocktail onions oh right right thing and

00:07:39.800 i popped one of those in my mouth electricity through the entire body yeah it was so good

00:07:45.520 she was forgotten in a second all right i'm just no lychee was honestly kind of gone next to this

00:07:52.000 no i don't want to say that it's not true but um but it was amazing and i'm currently hung over

00:07:57.340 again i had like two and a half drinks over the course of the whole night but i consumed

00:08:01.440 maybe seven ounces of water yesterday huge mistake yeah i still have the bottle i think

00:08:07.160 from a couple of weeks ago that we were, um, that I was working through. I mean, I, I drink no water.

00:08:13.820 I drink no water. I have a glass here. It's just too much to send that like cold fluid in even

00:08:22.320 room temperature. I don't know. I don't know. The instinct's not there. Oh my God. I have to

00:08:28.860 force the water today huge news on my end so as you know okay the food has been an issue

00:08:38.760 i've succumbed at least off of my dietary restrictions just to get a little pleasure

00:08:46.760 in this life so it's fish and chips now and meat pies for me yeah uh and an ice cream cone on the

00:08:53.220 way home each night oh yum and you mean like a store-bought cone or like is there a local truck

00:09:00.560 baskin and robbins no there's it's a baskin and robbins that i visited years ago when i was here

00:09:07.260 and of course harkens back to childhood in the suburbs and it's it's a little bit of sloppy

00:09:13.940 robbins okay what there's the hell does that mean oh like you're calling it sloppy robbins yeah

00:09:20.760 Yeah, it's like there'll be a little like centimeter or even, Derek, centimeter approaching an inch, a little bit of like blue sherbet lying in the center of the caramel that's next to it.

00:09:36.980 Oh no, oh no.

00:09:38.800 There's a lot of distinguishing.

00:09:41.040 Like one day the scoop is the size of a tennis ball, the next day it's the size of a grapefruit.

00:09:48.400 and the flavor selection is off now some might say that's due to

00:09:56.640 the flavor profiles of a given country okay so they're leaning more into caramels than anything

00:10:03.200 else there's six versions of caramel the only thing close to coffee you know one of my favorite

00:10:08.200 standbys right coffee flavored ice cream uh is an espresso caramel so i have to sort of

00:10:13.500 when i'm there for the coffee flavor i'm i don't actually want it offset with something sweet

00:10:20.140 unless of course it's heath bar from the early versions of ben and jerry's ice cream before

00:10:26.440 organic and ruined it ruined it destroyed it however i've done the unthinkable okay and i

00:10:36.260 I have booked a trip to Rome.

00:10:40.580 As you should.

00:10:42.820 Airbnb, baby.

00:10:44.420 Yes.

00:10:44.940 Okay, this is, it's a tiny little flat.

00:10:49.820 Okay, it's very, you know.

00:10:53.380 She's going, and I just want, I need everyone to understand the gravity of this,

00:10:56.680 because you've never been to Italy.

00:10:59.700 Never been to Rome, never been to Italy, never been to France.

00:11:02.240 You've only been to Russia.

00:11:03.380 Russia, Scotland, and now London as of the last year.

00:11:08.640 It's here we go.

00:11:09.920 So I was like, we got to go somewhere.

00:11:11.760 We're here.

00:11:12.260 We haven't booked a return ticket.

00:11:15.760 And brutalized myself into working in that context.

00:11:20.100 It's like this, whatever, it doesn't matter.

00:11:21.740 But, well, it's a whole thing.

00:11:24.800 This whole productivity thing, I've just started again in sheer desperation.

00:11:29.100 I'm back to my old tricks, the power hours, 50 minutes, 10 minutes, whatever.

00:11:33.960 We'll talk about it later, but involved a spreadsheet and it's color coded and I'm two days in.

00:11:38.580 Oh, wow.

00:11:39.220 The whole trip, by the way, I was thinking about it yesterday.

00:11:41.740 This whole month here has been, this is me now, continually proven to not be me now.

00:11:48.180 Yeah.

00:11:48.680 I walk in the park like two days.

00:11:50.980 I'm like, I will come here every day.

00:11:53.720 I've never been in a park this beautiful.

00:11:56.580 It's filled with ferries, the whole thing.

00:11:59.100 Somehow managed to get myself there maybe two more times.

00:12:02.760 Yeah, of course.

00:12:03.700 It's 100 yards out of the doorway.

00:12:07.020 Oh, well, I, upon coming to New York to do my show, I was back on Melissa Wood.

00:12:13.280 I was doing my 15-minute Pilates every day, really enjoying it, really feeling good.

00:12:16.900 I'm talking about maybe 20 minutes max a day, not a huge time commitment, okay?

00:12:20.960 And I was like, Kate, when you go to New York, you're doing this every day.

00:12:23.720 And by the way, and my belief was, of course, why would I ever not do this?

00:12:27.780 This is me now.

00:12:28.660 this is who i am i do it i haven't once right and it's just but we have to forgive ourselves too

00:12:35.940 i mean i've been i feel inspired so i'm doing this run inspired by your run truly because you

00:12:42.560 you i feel connected to you in doing this because it's my first time doing off broadway

00:12:48.000 and um it's heaven on earth and i'm actually was like i want to know because i know you were

00:12:55.640 really on brodo which is wonderful and i went to the brodo window once brodo broth yes and got a

00:13:02.380 and they do a smoothie too right i never went there i mean i never went i i did brodo every day

00:13:09.840 i've also completely succumbed new york city there's been a couple times where i've said

00:13:15.140 out loud god damn because things are so they run a tight ship here let me tell you something like

00:13:20.060 first of all i i so i hadn't had a manicure and i was like i need i had this like old gel it was 0.99

00:13:25.480 hell so i was like fuck and i only had i had 45 minutes like exactly and i was almost gonna go no 0.58

00:13:31.780 i can't went into this place in nolita and i was like oh hi i have to be out there's just people 0.98

00:13:38.440 waiting it's kind of a thing so you and i what what what is you're going in with your needs

00:13:44.360 okay with like this is crazy i've never done this before i was very i was perfectly polite

00:13:51.120 no but but i was like i was like i understand if this is i was like i understand if this is

00:13:55.020 impossible but i just have to be i would have to be at 45 minutes they're like yeah i proceed to

00:13:59.000 get one of the most i got a great manicure except for the fact that of course as always

00:14:03.260 i was cut and it was my last i'm not getting my cuticles ever cut again so the last time i'm done

00:14:09.080 well i told you last time i said push only push tell them no cut no cutting only push and you

00:14:15.380 were like none at all and i was like well take your risk where you'll take your risk i guess

00:14:19.980 well listen never again that's it because she was expert but it still happened so so i got the 0.99

00:14:26.100 manicure i looked down 44 minutes i was out at 44 minutes yeah and i went fuck that is a tight 0.99

00:14:34.020 chip i know it's not necessarily just but okay and then wait wait fuck what was my other new york 0.99

00:14:43.000 thing i don't know was it another example of tight shippery yeah it was just like being like 0.95

00:14:48.620 god they do it right here yeah no there's a there's a quality of service oh well okay there

00:14:58.300 is but i was talking about convenience so as you know in my normal life in la i really don't order

00:15:03.460 in food like i do some but it's not a habit of mine it's not something i do a lot you just throw

00:15:08.840 a yam in a pot and there you are i just don't like anyway so yeah doing the show i've completely

00:15:15.740 succumbed i'm like no i'm ordering i i haven't cooked i haven't fried an egg since i've been

00:15:19.460 here yeah it's been amazing so i'm getting delivery every day to the theater right yes

00:15:25.460 when before the show all day baby yeah well i've been you know i've been tech reversal and whatever

00:15:30.600 so it's like okay no but but in terms of my show right so you'll eat before a show um i don't like

00:15:36.860 to eat more than i give myself like two hours before a show ideally yeah yeah the can not i

00:15:42.700 know this makes me sound like i'm completely out of touch with modern convenience but i almost like

00:15:49.020 fall to my knees and gasp at the i cannot believe i'm ordering here and then within moments okay

00:15:54.000 they're approaching and there it is i just cannot believe it i cannot believe it the comfort it's

00:16:00.540 like astonishing astonishing i'm gonna do it well welcome i'm gonna do it this morning

00:16:07.400 welcome welcome no no because i've literally i've been living on the outside

00:16:13.460 i don't know how i've been living i don't either it's like i mean because it disturbs me well as

00:16:22.800 you know i've always felt your your digestive issues are due to not eating enough food there's

00:16:27.420 nothing to pass through the system which is not true and um but anyway i'm just like i'll just

00:16:33.420 say this like yeah i i'm just done delivery well now that you're in the world we can we can talk

00:16:39.480 about it it's sort of been something i haven't been able to talk about with you yeah at length

00:16:44.100 i mean we could talk about how it arrives the packaging you know questions around packaging

00:16:49.360 what works i have a question here's a here's a true question for a novice because i'm staying

00:16:54.420 at a friend's apartment yeah is it customary oh my god do they ride the elevator and bring it to

00:17:01.440 your actual door is it that seems so rude you go down and get it like is that part of it like they

00:17:06.780 come to the apartment door well there is honey it varies okay okay this one will probably shock you

00:17:13.520 because you you probably you probably you've never ordered delivery to a hotel room no something i've

00:17:20.000 done thousands of times i did once and it went to the lobby yeah yeah however some hotels i mean

00:17:27.460 It's some hotels will send it up.

00:17:29.620 Some hotels will bring it up.

00:17:32.480 It's kind of hard to say which is preferable.

00:17:34.720 I can't believe this is our podcast.

00:17:40.940 Well, I would refuse for it to do anything else, okay?

00:17:44.680 Because, you know, I have these moments where I fear the legacy,

00:17:48.680 as we've discussed, that, you know, I've put out hours of content

00:17:51.720 of just mere chatting.

00:17:53.440 no the the and and i know we say all the time but the whatever keep going i was just gonna be like

00:17:59.420 i love the hags it's like we know anyway thank you thank you and but chatting i just wrote the

00:18:07.100 word down chatting wait what are we just oh so delivery i don't know it really depends okay on

00:18:12.600 the building but this is why i mean when i go to a new place that i'm gonna be even for a couple 0.91

00:18:17.860 days at this point i mean i type in the address into the old app okay and fucking name it you go 0.92

00:18:23.980 who's doing that shit i'm like the ace hotel or whatever okay yeah yeah or whatever friend's 0.95

00:18:30.260 apartment address you lock it in so that because guess what you're gonna be back oh you think you 0.98

00:18:35.260 won't and then you have to type in the address again but wait wait wait i just want to give it

00:18:38.760 give it to you depends on the building okay okay it depends on the scenario if this is an elevator

00:18:43.860 building it sounds like yeah it sounds like a kind of fancy place with a doorman there's a doorman

00:18:49.080 yeah so you believe it if they know the deal and they believe that that doorman okay like i stayed

00:18:59.240 at a friend's apartment okay when i was doing my last summer run right and they the first couple

00:19:06.560 nights the doorman called up and said there's a delivery here for you is this real okay and i go

00:19:11.640 it's real they sent them up in the elevator okay door-to-door service a dream second night

00:19:18.800 a different doorman calls up i go yep it's me over the next couple nights every doorman is

00:19:25.540 covered they all know that i like to order delivery at 11 30 p.m okay yeah yeah so they 0.98

00:19:31.000 just start sending them up you little slut yeah okay and so i put in the notes they'll send you 0.92

00:19:38.340 up let them know it's for jacqueline i cannot believe this it really is and then there it is 0.99

00:19:45.620 at your god damn i mean you know as a child my dream i've brought it up before but i thought 0.63

00:19:51.580 if i could have anything in the world and it would be a little button in my bedroom on the wall i 0.99

00:19:57.040 press the button i open a little door and inside was like a mick chicken sandwich from mcdonald's

00:20:02.420 sweet i love you yes no it's it's here it's happened and we've done that now it's just

00:20:08.640 you know at a certain cost for sure but i i'm amazed

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00:22:21.080 This is Ryder Strong, and I have a new podcast called The Red Weather.

00:22:25.400 It was many and many a year ago in a kingdom by the sea.

00:22:30.340 In 1995, my neighbor, Anna Trainor, disappeared from a commune.

00:22:34.180 It was hard to wrap your head around.

00:22:35.520 It was nature and trees and praying and drugs.

00:22:39.160 So no, I am not your guru.

00:22:42.940 And back then, I lied to my parents.

00:22:45.560 I lied to police.

00:22:46.820 I lied to everybody.

00:22:47.820 There were years, Ryder, where I could not say your name.

00:22:50.600 I've decided to go back to my hometown in Northern California,

00:22:53.480 interview my friends, family, talk to police, journalists,

00:22:56.300 whomever I can to try to find out what actually happened.

00:22:59.640 Isn't it a little bit weird that they obsess over hippies in the woods

00:23:02.560 and not the obvious boyfriend?

00:23:04.240 They have had this case for 30 years. 0.98

00:23:07.160 I'll teach you sons of **** to come around here and my wife. 0.97

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00:23:21.260 The more you listen to your kids, the closer you'll be.

00:23:25.340 So we asked kids, what do you want your parents to hear?

00:23:29.280 I feel sometimes that I'm not listened to.

00:23:31.580 I would just want you to listen to me more often

00:23:33.540 and evaluate situations with me and lead me towards success.

00:23:38.360 Listening is a form of love.

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00:23:57.280 He is Chase Matthews.

00:23:58.760 Keith Urban helped make him a global sensation last year,

00:24:01.520 but it's his recent number one hit darling to put Chase on the map

00:24:04.540 and launched a fun and difficult conversation about lovers who cheat and lie.

00:24:09.780 That's why I'm scared to get married.

00:24:11.140 You're giving me trust issues, brother.

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00:24:20.460 the other thing i'm gonna say so i'm staying again the generosity of a friend i'm staying here

00:24:31.480 and your friend she has it's always a dear friend with caper land i love when you say that it's so

00:24:39.260 funny and i okay i she has a chemex and i'll just let that hang in the air um i always forget what

00:24:47.300 that is is that that is that that um that that triangle hanging in a circle it's that it's that

00:24:54.060 thing it's that woman shaped coffee thing oh right and like triangle we're hanging in a circle 0.93

00:25:00.560 interesting notion of feminine form and so i have and this is i understand kind of the height of

00:25:08.900 right like like oh this is like the best like it's fancy right like mx i have a friend who

00:25:14.960 coffee who did that i was always very like i always bristled at a no heat there's no heat

00:25:20.900 involved insulated it's just a glass oh it's a glass you better drink it which always really

00:25:26.380 surprised me and something about it what i'm trying to say is i love it okay so i'm trying

00:25:32.240 to say so i've used it a couple times and i'm like so do you drink it down before it's cooled

00:25:37.260 no it and it just but it could also be she has there's something about the the intimacy of when

00:25:44.420 you stay at someone else's place and these little like like i'm fast she has this really nice coffee

00:25:50.520 grinder and it's like i'm pushing the button on this grinder and i go because it's like this is

00:25:57.300 me now i'm like i'm like this no it's not that it's this other thing that's happening i don't

00:26:01.460 know what it is like i'm like i need this like i can't go back now from this and it's something

00:26:07.060 about these little windows into someone else's life and like i couldn't agree more no no i'm

00:26:18.900 pausing something but there's nothing well i i'm trying not to jump in because this is

00:26:22.940 jump in my favorite things this is one of my absolute sort of favorite things is

00:26:30.200 and feels like a place i've spent a lot of time in in my life like this kind of the guest okay

00:26:38.920 but but the guest the absent host guest so like you know hey can i stay at your house that weekend

00:26:46.960 whatever okay yeah and i'm there and airbnbs are another so i'm living it right now i'm living it

00:26:53.960 with a stranger okay i mean the thing which is also incredibly compelling because you imagine

00:26:59.800 with every detail i'm sort of every detail of little things within the home i'm adding they're

00:27:06.600 they're populating this image i have of her and what every single object means you know i mean

00:27:14.340 do you ever like like glance at your own things and go like someone would come in here to like

00:27:19.540 whatever like water the plants like what would they see you know what i mean like that's how i

00:27:23.900 felt leaving my place in la too because i'm gonna have a friend staying there for part of it but i

00:27:29.720 was like my neighbor who is my friend coming into water plants i was like almost arranging things

00:27:36.300 of course like this display of self what do you find unacceptable what do you find

00:27:42.380 yeah i can't like there's just objects alone in a room and just and silence silence and objects in

00:27:48.980 a room and just how much like is how much noise and and dialogue is helping objects alone in a

00:27:56.680 room will just slay the house down i mean they yeah they are they are not uh inert and

00:28:05.340 so like here with this woman one of the particular pleasures because i'm i'm here for a month

00:28:11.800 okay sorry what i i just got sloppy and i i thought for a second i had drizzled oh i can't

00:28:19.380 even say it coffee on the bed i didn't of course i didn't never never never never never okay keep

00:28:24.460 going so being here a month one is utilizing the washing machine it's a very strange washing

00:28:33.020 machine that claims to also be a dryer but then when googled online about this particular item

00:28:38.820 it reveals that like it will never get anything completely dry it only like dries it for different

00:28:43.500 levels of how much you're going to hang it on the clothesline out back it's very strange although

00:28:48.940 chris did successfully like burn his clothes to a crisp they like burned his hands when they took

00:28:54.340 them out and you know it's just like the adjustments you make like so like this yeah it's

00:28:59.320 like weird washing machine scenario but i'm like i'm like let me find her ladder because there's a

00:29:04.120 spider okay and it's like oh her ladder her ladder okay and i find it in there and i go in there

00:29:09.800 and i even see like what appear to be christmas decorations like tucked up above i mean her

00:29:15.080 storage closet the humanity yeah the plastic bag full of plastic bags is in there you know what i

00:29:22.480 mean like the plastic bags that you use talked away christmas ornaments and decoration i could

00:29:30.460 start crying well it's like impressive and also do no i mean to imagine well there's a care like

00:29:36.620 no exactly now my fake christmas tree my los angeles fake christmas tree okay is in three

00:29:42.780 parts because that's what it breaks down to two of which are wrapped in packing plastic that i

00:29:48.020 wrap to try to shrink its size down and stuffed into my main open shelving in my living room

00:29:53.540 really so they are hideously visible like yeah yeah like i there's no place for them right now

00:30:00.540 like it's like it's like it's like christmas is stored all over the house it's like which

00:30:07.280 is the nightmare because then it like you you know you shall not see them they should emerge

00:30:12.360 right when it's time anyway but yeah to see to see to i see it i see someone with a cyclical

00:30:19.080 kind of life where they're actually living with the seasons where they have their place that

00:30:22.700 they've stuffed their christmas and it's not perfect it's not pristine it's not martha you

00:30:27.580 know would do it it's it's haphazard yet working up on a shelf above the door i also immediately

00:30:35.720 thought okay i need a shelf above the door of a variety of scenarios been completely ignoring

00:30:41.820 that vertical space oh yeah i think of earthquake because i grew up in la so i'm just like i can't

00:30:47.440 have that above the door interesting fall off knock you on the head but i just want to say i'm

00:30:52.540 open to i will be almost in rome when this comes out and so and i'm looking for okay don't withhold

00:31:01.720 expensive recommendations i do want to know about them you know what i'm saying like don't withhold

00:31:06.820 the fancy restaurant however i'm also looking for this is cheap but it's fine it's it's it's 0.95

00:31:14.080 you know yeah i don't want to be a fool i don't want to be a fool who doesn't understand that 0.95

00:31:18.280 like you know you can get the good food you're gonna get good food and not have to pay a lot 0.90

00:31:22.620 that's you're gonna that's you can eat very well it's not like i have to find the one spot

00:31:28.900 i mean in theory on every corner it should just be

00:31:33.000 but can you believe it god you're gonna have a blast and you have to pass through new york

00:31:39.380 making it about myself instantly but please pass through i i again don't have a return ticket okay

00:31:47.060 there's a lot up in the air for me right now that's fine you're doing it right absolutely

00:31:51.360 yeah so we'll see but but i was gonna i was gonna say just to bring it back to the the

00:31:58.880 backstage area the the off-broadway lifestyle the beauty of it what did you so i have been

00:32:05.620 back on the occasional celsius i've been having some celsius there it is and by the way by the

00:32:14.000 way so i requested they gave me um like a big variety pack of celsius i was like oh boy there

00:32:23.040 was a cola one and i thought well that's that's i definitely don't want cola i got i'll try it

00:32:28.640 i don't even know that one like it tastes like soda astonishing it tastes like diet cola but

00:32:34.220 cola cola like i could not believe it cola coca cola okay and it's giving you celsius level

00:32:43.080 this is and there was one so i've been drinking not every day but i've been having them

00:32:47.960 and there was one day i drank one and i was through the roof like i was like kind of like

00:32:52.780 tweaking a little bit like i felt proceeded to have a great show you know and then i was like

00:32:57.460 it was the celsius that made the show great yeah of course and then there you are on celsius for 0.79

00:33:01.420 the rest of your goddamn life terrified and then that's that's well i'll say a couple things so 0.75

00:33:07.980 celsius you know i this is an energy drink for those who don't know i've leaned on it in the 0.99

00:33:15.100 road we yeah we launched a discussion around it around here um in this podcast back around when

00:33:20.960 Jonah Hill was quoted saying director's juice oh wow and I have taken to having to get the still

00:33:31.960 ones because I can't go on stage I can't pound a thing with bubbles in it and go on stage

00:33:38.420 you're gonna burp yeah or feel that okay carbonation used to be the spine of my day

00:33:47.140 and no longer i mean i used to drink so much seltzer yeah and then and then but but i'm

00:33:54.300 surprised you didn't experience you have no issue you just those bubbles just go right down i guess

00:33:58.760 but i've kind of stopped because i am realizing that it does it does there's a risk well yeah

00:34:02.960 there's a feeling of like the pause in the middle of a phrase oh you're like trying to like like 0.82

00:34:08.740 let a little air out of your fucking gullet okay yeah and trying to like make that happen smoothly 0.83

00:34:14.840 oh god it's just no so i so for shows i would get the still the still one which was like green tea 0.99

00:34:21.080 that's revolting to me i know i know and um but you know this is these are the backstage

00:34:28.180 requirements and then what's the other one well yeah what do you because i got um i got an oil

00:34:33.980 diffuser just so i would have like some fragrance back there you know yeah i guess my flowers didn't

00:34:39.660 bring much fragrance jacqueline sent me flowers for opening night of previews and i truly almost

00:34:45.960 cried it was one of the sweetest things it was just it was so sweet me bringing them up

00:34:50.440 i was like it's funny getting like well whatever flowers for you and like feeling like like what

00:34:58.640 whatever it's a whole thing but until you change that water and get rid of them when it's time

00:35:05.500 because this the scent of I did change flowers has become is the worst well that's what's oh

00:35:12.080 and by the way this is my question becomes the scent of the green room it will become the scent

00:35:16.820 of yeah yeah no I I meant to look this up and never did like what is the what is the assumed

00:35:24.080 lifespan of flowers like a bouquet of flowers a bouquet bouquet bouquet of flowers I say four days

00:35:32.180 well i think what you have to recognize is there is no answer there because think about it one

00:35:40.940 flower is a waxy you know thick petal it's inherently going to hold moisture longer others

00:35:46.420 so what i tend to do with a bouquet okay with a spray of a bouquet is i pluck out the early death

00:35:55.140 yeah yeah get those out freshen up okay leave whatever's remaining so basically if i did that

00:36:02.300 me a bouquet of different ones yeah a mix of flowers the ones that die first you get out so

00:36:08.060 that that's the best kind of version to me and then the death isn't spreading but then also

00:36:12.740 changing of the water trimming and the trimming it's a lot i think we talked about this it's a lot

00:36:18.320 yeah and and but if you don't change it the scent of those stems when you pull it out

00:36:23.200 One of the, I think, I mean, people speak of the scent of death.

00:36:27.320 That's it.

00:36:28.280 I say, have you ever changed a flower jar?

00:36:31.880 No, it's true.

00:36:33.380 And I.

00:36:34.920 But yeah, they go instantly often, Kate.

00:36:36.760 They're dead before you get them home.

00:36:38.800 I mean, it's like, you have no expectation there.

00:36:42.500 And.

00:36:42.840 But I, but I, they made me so happy. 0.81

00:36:45.100 And this is all to say, like, yes, they die.

00:36:47.860 Yes, it's brief, but it's better to have loved and lost.

00:36:51.940 I know.

00:36:53.200 it is in theory although loss loss hurts loss is sometimes you go tough is it oh is it better

00:37:02.880 right right well what about these people it's up for debate they see in movies and it's the

00:37:09.420 character in the first you know third of the movie before they've been changed by another

00:37:13.720 where they where they're closed off to life and love and because it hurts too much and then of

00:37:21.020 course the movie changes them yeah but the movie changes characters and movies don't get to

00:37:27.800 acknowledge that they're in the movie which is one of the things that used to always bother me

00:37:31.420 as a kid oh it's it's i'd never understood that collapse under it's like why don't the actors go

00:37:38.120 hi we know yeah well also also i mean once again remember we refused to get into artifice a couple

00:37:46.420 weeks ago and i think i have to refuse again remember artifice versus authenticity we were

00:37:51.160 too overwhelmed okay yeah there's too much to say well my my concern my my thing is like that

00:37:57.220 they're living in a world like i've probably said this on poop because it's like ongoing notion for

00:38:01.760 me but like you know like the sci-fi of like in a world where right and they set out the premise

00:38:08.440 it's like every average grounded realistic movie let's say star let's say that has julia roberts

00:38:15.900 in it right is technically in a world where Julia Roberts isn't an actress

00:38:22.040 see what I'm saying right yes if she's in it Erin Brockovich takes place in a world

00:38:28.040 where Julia Roberts does not exist where pretty woman isn't real yeah yeah and and so talk about

00:38:34.380 butterfly effect right there I would love to see Erin Brockovich Erin Brockovich going to a video 1.00

00:38:40.500 store right want and she wants to rent pretty woman right what do they say to her now sometimes

00:38:47.140 they do and not no no the only thing i'll say is that because aaron brockovich is a real person

00:38:52.040 this is based on a real person yeah sometimes i feel like they will do a little nod to moments

00:38:57.480 like that but in a true true fictional story you've invented a world where most likely they

00:39:04.020 don't exist now some would say maybe they do i would even argue maybe they do this woman just

00:39:09.140 looks a lot like her wow I don't know I don't know I'm breaking my own I'm breaking my own

00:39:15.180 premise I'm scared that I need reservations in Rome because because you know I've I've gotten

00:39:26.220 a few recs I've gone on a couple you just have to post on Instagram you're gonna get so many

00:39:30.920 recommendations no but the problem is no I'm not saying no I said reservations okay so I

00:39:39.000 started an italian to make them for you no like like some of the places that have been recommended

00:39:45.020 i look and they're like booked for weeks on end yeah but that's okay that's that's the good news

00:39:50.600 that you're going somewhere everywhere you eat is going to be amazing that has to be true right

00:39:53.980 that's what i've been believing yes yes i will not i'm not i'm in no mood okay to be doing

00:39:59.820 reservation hunting no i'd much rather just give over to strolling up to a place that's 0.55

00:40:06.320 fucking empty that's gonna be so fun that's gonna be so fun finding my place you know what

00:40:14.160 reminds me of my baby Jacqueline and where I've been going Sue Ann you've been going to Sue Ann 0.98

00:40:20.320 yeah East Village location the only location left I know for those who don't know Sue Ann is a

00:40:26.940 macrobiotic restaurant that Jacqueline I used to what does that mean it means a um it means a squash

00:40:33.440 is cut in half and it's hard shell remains only half softened you eat a macrobiotic plate you get

00:40:39.340 brown rice or you get the grain of the day remember the grain of the day the maize you get tahini

00:40:44.660 sauce and carrot dressing was always my move i like the tofu deal yeah oh right i forgot that

00:40:49.820 you like that i like the hijiki seaweed sometimes i'll sub that oh i'll take a hijiki seaweed

00:40:55.080 that's always in there yeah but the the yeah the grain black beans forbidden rice perhaps yeah 0.85

00:41:01.300 yeah and they are not chopped up they are they are it is the ultimate deconstruction i mean they

00:41:07.060 are big what's the thing about my macrobiotic too it's like nothing's cooked over whatever degree

00:41:11.220 some degree yeah i mean it approaches raw and i do find that that the staff and patronage often

00:41:19.360 look sallow weak and well the one that we used to go to at the beautiful suen location that's now

00:41:26.680 like it's devastating because it was everyone was yeah exactly to just repeat i mean which isn't

00:41:34.000 fair entirely because they could be at the macrobiotic restaurant to heal themselves

00:41:39.020 of that very pale fatigue yeah so how dare i say huh you don't look you don't look you know what

00:41:47.840 i mean yeah yeah that was a very we cackled we cackled at suen together it was one of the early

00:41:54.180 recognitions of just the next level they'd bring over the board of the specials to your table

00:41:59.480 that's something that's all that's going away

00:42:02.360 I also got cookie cha tea I think something like that oh yeah you always do that literal apple in

00:42:09.100 there and uh oh wait you have nothing to say about Italian food like like as I head to Rome have you

00:42:15.820 been I have never been to Rome Italy there it's out Italy yeah but I haven't been to Italy

00:42:24.160 in years years so you've been multiple times this is huge i've been actually i really haven't spent

00:42:31.440 much time in italy i've been as a kid and then as a what's funny is you almost sound like you're

00:42:37.700 trying to make like you're ashamed of not having been much when we know i've been zero like it's

00:42:43.580 almost like you're talking to someone who's like shaming you when it's like literally the opposite

00:42:46.820 you're like yeah no i actually haven't been in years no no no no i don't feel ashamed here's

00:42:52.860 what it was my voice my voice shut off because i became horrified i was like why can't i remember

00:42:58.400 like i became like kind of disturbed i sent something was a mess wait did i go i was like

00:43:04.380 wait i went as a like 14 year old with my parents and then i went to i went to sicily when i was 19

00:43:12.160 20 and then i started to become disturbed because i was like was that the last time and i think it

00:43:20.260 was.

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00:47:30.000 spend a lot of time on airbnb do you spend much time researching airbnbs i can't remember is that

00:47:37.140 a part of your life i mean i have of course several but hours whoa hours hours hours it's

00:47:46.200 such a particular feeling like whether it's shopping or airbnb or hotels flights any of it

00:47:54.740 like that feeling of filtering by cost you know like and like how you kind of have like what you

00:48:01.160 want to spend and then you kind of have this like feeling of like okay i guess like maybe i could

00:48:06.420 spend this and then like just beyond and it's like there's that sliding bar and like this negotiation

00:48:14.180 between options and price do you know what i mean where you're like like in anything like a like in

00:48:20.520 a store whatever like you're like let's just see what they have at blah blah blah and the slow

00:48:27.740 creeping oh you mean like just to see what the really expensive ones like how your budget expands

00:48:33.220 or like or like I feel like it creeps up like like ten dollars at a time so it's like it's

00:48:40.560 almost like I slide it up like ten bucks and I'm like boiling what if there's something I'm missing

00:48:45.200 at 10 bucks yeah exactly and then and then i'm like oh yeah i get a little distracted okay and

00:48:51.960 i sort of lose myself in this new margin and then it's like it starts to feel like like i've

00:48:57.760 adjusted to the idea of the number and then it starts to feel like that's the new budget and

00:49:01.740 then like the search the online hour hours search and the thrill of a couple hours going by when i

00:49:08.380 haven't looked and i get to go back to looking like when i used to look for an apartment like

00:49:11.660 in new york looking for an apartment like refresh refresh refresh i found all my apartments in new

00:49:18.340 york all of them all three of them that i lived over the course of eight years on craigslist me

00:49:23.680 too is that still i feel like at the time craigslist was is that still because now i used

00:49:31.460 to be on craigslist all the time and like yeah reading misconnections that's gone all of that

00:49:36.920 i forgot about that did you post one i once posted one it's wild kate for the fireman who

00:49:43.980 came to my house when i thought i was passing out but i wasn't and i called my one oh my god

00:49:51.400 you're like i feel like you could have just sent that message direct to the firehouse yeah like

00:49:57.840 slip it under the door like one of the women that called this week believing she was dying 0.60

00:50:03.620 and needed fire and rescue is interested if you know the one yeah then you know the one it's me 1.00

00:50:11.780 god misconnections oh but now i was gonna say craigslist

00:50:18.720 from what i it's just so many ads it's like bots replicating beyond beyond what we thought was

00:50:26.280 possible no but just that and i think there is a dopamine rush or something as you um

00:50:31.600 when every time every time you hit refresh and like the feeling of um like in craigslist it was

00:50:37.480 like the ones you've already read i think the links turn like purple or something it's a slot

00:50:40.880 machine thing it's it's internet addiction it's social media it's a slot machine thing yeah yeah

00:50:45.440 give me something give me give me juice give me yeah i could win next time i get no pleasure on

00:50:50.560 instagram for the most part and so that's why i actually don't go back to that will you know i

00:50:55.400 mean that's why i don't scroll yeah it's incredible or has i scroll pleasure are you are you getting

00:51:00.560 any pleasure in the scroll oh look at that oh yay what no i mean is that what you're thinking

00:51:08.680 is your acting was so good i got confused um it's a very good question is there pleasure there

00:51:14.420 pleasure no but it's something that simulates pleasure yeah it's like but is it the active

00:51:23.620 like minor pleasure of self wound is it the pleasure of giving in to an addiction yeah it's

00:51:31.300 it's that it's it's oof i've relapsed hard well you know what it might be i'm just thinking if

00:51:38.520 it's because i'm going okay once you're in the scroll it's like the sunk cost fallacy or whatever

00:51:42.780 but it's like or something but it's like once you're in the scroll you're you feel bad then

00:51:49.020 you decide to keep scrolling yeah something will lift you out yeah go in in order to be brought

00:51:54.120 down and then hope that that very thing will bring you back out it's like kids scrolling

00:51:58.620 baby scrolling i am like very aware baby scroll now i mean it's like these kids

00:52:05.520 they are they're different than us right like it's just that was actually you know

00:52:15.200 kids all of it you know oh yeah well i won't have whatever yeah it's like the other i've kind of

00:52:22.280 fallen into this new thing where like i actually don't one of the main arguments for me against

00:52:28.140 kids having kids right now is i don't know how to manage having a kid with the technology with

00:52:35.180 the current technology and i don't know if i want an internet baby well it's like do you

00:52:42.080 doing in terms of the performance of them or babies that know about the internet no no no

00:52:46.780 that neurologically they're right they're evolving like kids are babies like we're evolving into

00:52:52.580 something else because of social media yeah and everything and so i'm like i don't know because

00:52:59.200 what i think oh i'm going to be you know puritanical and i'm never going to let my kid

00:53:03.720 have a phone and i'm not going to use my phone in front of them and then your kid won't be able

00:53:07.360 to connect to the other children this has always been no yeah it's like and i don't know raise your

00:53:11.460 kid I don't know if I can do it I don't know created it feels the village by M. Night Shyamalan

00:53:17.000 you know yeah yeah which is due for a rewatch I agree and I want matzo ball soup I want to order 0.97

00:53:23.440 matzo ball soup and watch the village right now I could fucking love the village like fucking love 0.89

00:53:28.920 it and like you know I don't know I don't even want to say this but like some people try to 0.98

00:53:33.420 knock M. Night Shyamalan I feel like yeah losers what did you ever make I go show me what you did

00:53:40.880 yeah show me your twists tell me an interesting concept you had yeah yeah oh a twist is meaningless

00:53:47.020 literally produce one right now i dare you to surprise me yeah i mean it's astonishing

00:53:54.540 so yeah the village to me stunning remember remember the girl just crying over the like

00:54:00.080 crush who doesn't like her she's like wailing like on her sister's lap or something like that

00:54:04.240 remember it's wonderful it's just like i gotta go back yeah it's it's due it's due

00:54:09.760 an afternoon

00:54:12.460 an afternoon viewing

00:54:14.880 the rejection of the sun

00:54:16.720 I'll tell you one thing about New York

00:54:20.080 when I'm in New York

00:54:21.640 juice press is a huge part of my life

00:54:23.860 it has been for me

00:54:26.200 at different points in my life

00:54:28.380 they shuttered a lot of the locations

00:54:30.140 you know it used to be a thing

00:54:31.080 there was a juice press within five blocks

00:54:32.840 there were every five blocks of juice press

00:54:35.400 a lot of locations post pandemic

00:54:38.300 shuttered

00:54:39.540 I see you're drinking something orange.

00:54:42.200 Yeah, this is a spicy citrus, ginger, cayenne, grapefruit, lemon, orange.

00:54:46.320 And let me tell you, it's a little gift to give yourself

00:54:48.840 because this in the fridge today for hangover, wow.

00:54:52.780 Yeah, really?

00:54:54.000 It's doing something?

00:54:55.260 You don't buy into the, like, it's got to be fried food or whatever and an egg.

00:55:00.060 I prefer that model.

00:55:02.200 I prefer greasy spoon hangover model.

00:55:06.760 I mean.

00:55:07.320 I don't know.

00:55:09.540 i want broth but i always want well yeah yeah yeah well if you're gonna if you're gonna live

00:55:15.760 the life if you're gonna if you want to want to see how i do it you get the broth from brodo and

00:55:23.140 you get nearly every additive added now this is because that was like my meal because like

00:55:29.960 too nervous basically to to eat but now they have different flavors like it's like oh do

00:55:36.840 hearth maybe it's changed since you do hearth hearth is the combo of of uh chicken and beef

00:55:43.640 i believe if i have it right the combo then i would get the seasoning which was like something

00:55:49.820 um like like they might have called it like texan or something it was like that

00:55:54.640 realm and then i would literally full-on get egg yolk you heard me yum bone marrow you heard me

00:56:03.200 again whoa butter yep and i'm trying to think if there was a third thing but i i didn't do

00:56:09.800 coconut oil i don't want that i i have i have a line at bone marrow and i can't cross it it just

00:56:15.520 it's so it's i can't do it it's the very thing that bone broth is made of i think yes but it's

00:56:21.640 not gelatinous and yeah but but they whirl it they whip it's whirled and whipped oh they whip it in

00:56:29.080 okay i mean more than with they fully pulverize it in with a restaurant that has bone marrow

00:56:34.700 as an appetizer that you spread on toast heaven and to me that is it it's got we've gone it goes

00:56:41.880 too far it's to me it's we've got what how is going to the center too far it's the origin point

00:56:47.180 no i'm ashamed i know i know i just save me you need to just to to me that is like

00:56:54.200 i don't you know crack open the bones on just just anything okay but yeah i've i've eaten like

00:57:02.480 like where there's the bone marrow appetizer and it's partially yeah and you know that i think

00:57:07.440 you're getting kind of this absolute you know density it's like if you're if you're gonna eat

00:57:12.640 an animal oh yeah getting to the yeah i uh i actually sent it by me jesus if i want to call

00:57:20.640 out to to the to the POOG community that where do I get a facial in New York, lower Manhattan

00:57:26.600 downtown? Well, I think when I was doing a run, there was someone that reached out. I didn't I

00:57:33.280 wasn't able to do it, but I'm sure they'll reach out again. I will also say that I might want to

00:57:39.540 extend my trip in Rome. And if anyone has any idea for cheap stays, I repeat cheap stays. And

00:57:45.740 that doesn't mean i don't know okay give it to me baby okay if the if you've got a you know

00:57:54.360 crumbling apartment that you need someone to water a plant oh yeah i just i might just want to buy

00:58:01.360 time there i still don't have a bra it's a month later and i still don't have a bra

00:58:05.720 you don't have a single bra no all i have is like a sports bra and and a like a stretchy half

00:58:15.620 bralette it's not even a bralette i'm living in a way that you can't even imagine

00:58:22.780 i'm living with this sweater um what do you mean you're living with this sweater

00:58:28.860 like i'm just sort of wearing a i don't have a coat but i haven't purchased one

00:58:33.540 so i'm just wearing three sweaters nightly heading out three sweaters from tk max that's

00:58:40.200 what's called here tk max i just can't bring myself to buy something um temporary that i'm

00:58:49.240 not excited about yeah don't do it and so instead i'm wearing three sweaters i was thinking of you

00:58:55.540 because i might go on another ghost tour before i leave the vaults and this is a real classic

00:59:01.880 experience when kate and i were here many years ago i obviously was very excited to go on a ghost

00:59:09.820 tour through gray friars kirkyard and to the vaults the many passages beneath the city of

00:59:16.660 edinburgh where dark things occurred and the ghosts remain to tell the tale and obviously i

00:59:23.720 wanted to go at night but kate berlant begged kate berlant begged me please i can't go at night 0.96

00:59:30.840 my rest my rest can't you switch to another time and i said okay we'll go in the fucking morning 0.93

00:59:38.440 i can't believe under this will be underground so why should night matter right it's gonna be 0.96

00:59:44.900 dark down there look at the ghosts surely um we wait kate arrives she uh within minute five

00:59:52.740 is unimpressed with the tour guides you know cheeseball theatrics she's rolling her eyes 1.00

01:00:01.680 and then references that she has you know only a half of a fucking fruit bar okay in her 1.00

01:00:08.260 and that if she doesn't eat something a migraine will will be appearing i don't know if you 0.99

01:00:12.820 actually referenced migraine at the time off she goes folks no leaves the tour leaves the tour

01:00:19.220 wait is this real yes i first of all i do remember i can't believe

01:00:24.260 what ditches doesn't even see the vaults

01:00:29.180 doesn't even go underground to the underground city can you imagine i actually can't believe

01:00:35.440 that i do remember being in the sunshine i do remember now the hunger i have a vague memory

01:00:41.800 of yeah of hunger but you were like i can't you're like i like pointing at the the host woman you

01:00:48.520 were like i can't you're like this is and it's like and i i even was like well we are at the

01:00:55.600 morning showing so maybe that's not where they bring out their big guns i can't believe you 0.87

01:01:02.120 switch to the morning ghost tour for me and i bailed that's really fucked up i'm sorry it's 0.86

01:01:08.640 really funny now now and i love it because it's so funny and it's like the thing is like now like 0.88

01:01:14.680 being closer knowing you better whatever i would be like i'm not switching you know what i mean

01:01:21.460 like i'm going to the night or like i'll go again with you in the morning or whatever i would like

01:01:25.660 i would whatever but it was it was funny it was impressive i mean i'm always impressed by your 0.80

01:01:30.560 ability to state your own goddamn needs um and off you went and yeah I'm really dying to go down 0.83

01:01:40.480 there again I'm really dying to go down there again yeah I mean well it was just a blip for 0.98

01:01:46.480 you you know it was just um a sunshine blip in the morning off you went jetting off up the

01:01:53.280 cobblestone and away in your little boots prancing away I just love it I've been meaning to talk

01:02:00.540 I've been talking about it on POOG for a very long time.

01:02:03.040 That's very, that's a good thing to go out on.

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