There Are No Girls on the Internet - November 16, 2021


Travis Scott partnered with BetterHelp after the Astroworld tragedy. Therapy Den’s Jeff Guenther explains why it might not be a good thing.

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00:02:06.400 10 people died, including three children, and hundreds more were injured at rapper
00:02:13.740 Travis Scott's Astroworld Music Festival in Houston, Texas.
00:02:18.220 First-hand video footage on social media shows young people pleading with crew members to
00:02:23.080 stop the performance because people in the crowd were unresponsive.
00:02:26.140 But authorities say Travis Scott continued to perform for 37 minutes after Houston police
00:02:31.900 and firefighters were called to what had been deemed a mass casualty event.
00:02:36.040 Travis Scott even brought out rapper Drake for a guest appearance as many in the crowd screamed for help.
00:02:41.440 It's not clear if Travis Scott knew the severity of the situation.
00:02:45.080 But Scott does have a history of inciting crowds into dangerous behavior at his concerts.
00:02:49.340 He's even faced charges for it at past concerts.
00:02:51.920 And Live Nation, the company behind Astroworld, has a long history of safety violations.
00:02:57.660 Now, the footage coming out of the event is horrifying.
00:03:00.680 And because of Travis Scott's fan base, this was happening to very young people.
00:03:05.520 kids. I was getting winded. I was using all the energy I had left in me and I came to the point
00:03:11.360 where I was accepting my death. In a statement, Travis Scott says he didn't know people had died
00:03:16.320 until after he'd left the stage. He also announced what he called a partnership with the therapy app
00:03:21.300 BetterHelp to provide a free month of therapy to those impacted by the tragedy. Which on its face
00:03:26.800 may sound great, but BetterHelp has also been called out for its murky policies regarding how
00:03:31.380 they use the data of clients and how they treat mental health services in general. Now, to be
00:03:36.660 clear, I am not an expert on digital health services, but Dr. Michael Amato, our show's
00:03:42.220 producer and chief science officer, is. Michael is a psychologist who does research on digital
00:03:47.440 health interventions, and he leads a data team that supports digital products, which has helped
00:03:51.800 hundreds of thousands of people overcome addiction. Mike and I sat down with Jeff Gunther, a therapist
00:03:57.040 who runs Therapy Den, a resource to match people with diverse therapists who uses his platform on
00:04:02.700 TikTok to warn people that apps like BetterHelp might not be as good as they seem. I am Jeff
00:04:08.520 Gunther, licensed professional counselor. So Jeff, you run a resource called The Therapy Den.
00:04:14.700 How did this resource come to be? Yeah, so I've been a therapist, a practicing therapist since
00:04:21.440 2005. I started a local therapist directory in Portland. That's where I live. And the Portland
00:04:28.640 therapist directory grew and I learned about what therapists are wanting and what clients are
00:04:34.600 wanting when they're looking for a therapist. Then back like three or four years ago, I used
00:04:39.440 all that knowledge to launch therapyden.com. And it was sort of like meant to counter another huge
00:04:46.180 Therapist Directory Psychology Today. Psychology Today, you might be aware of like their magazine.
00:04:53.100 You'll find Psychology Today's magazines like in all of the therapist waiting rooms. One of the
00:04:58.600 things I don't like about their magazine is that basically over the like many, many decades that
00:05:05.580 they've been producing their magazine, they primarily only have very good looking people
00:05:11.260 on the cover very skinny women that are predominantly white so there's no 1.00
00:05:19.480 diversity on their magazine cover and that transfers over to their therapist 0.99
00:05:26.200 directory which is sort of like always rankings number one on Google so they
00:05:32.480 you can't go to psychology today and find a therapist that is competently
00:05:36.280 trained in racial justice, or that is competently trained in treating transgender people, or
00:05:45.780 for the longest time, you couldn't search therapists by gender, and they only had male
00:05:50.260 and female gender.
00:05:51.960 So there was like, I made Therapy Den directory to kind of like challenge them and force them 0.93
00:05:57.880 or encourage them to evolve.
00:06:01.140 And psychology today has been slowly kind of evolving.
00:06:05.260 I don't think that they totally meet the needs of modern clients, but they're doing something about it, and I'm happy about that.
00:06:11.720 So Therapy Done was sort of like, all right, I'm going to try to create this disruptive force in the therapist directory field, which isn't very big.
00:06:23.080 And so that was the main agenda.
00:06:25.860 And then we can get into it, but back in 2015, when BetterHelp and Talkspace started to become a thing,
00:06:34.060 I was like, oh, OK, like they're somebody I need to target as well.
00:06:39.100 I know when I was first looking for a therapist a few years ago, I knew that I wanted a Black
00:06:42.720 woman. And that's partially because I had heard from my Black girlfriends of these awful experiences 1.00
00:06:47.560 of having to spend their time in therapy, you know, educating their white therapist about
00:06:52.160 things like systemic racism. And I knew that I didn't want to do that. But finding a Black
00:06:56.660 woman therapist for me was incredibly difficult. It was like finding a needle in a haystack.
00:07:00.840 Yeah, exactly. That isn't how therapy should be. You should not be spending time that you're paying for to educate your client or educate your therapist on who you are, your culture, your background, the language that you use, where you're coming from, your religion, your ethnicity.
00:07:18.600 So that's why Therapy Den was created so that we can like create like a ton of filters so that you can like figure out how you can find a therapist that already matches with you in lots of different ways.
00:07:31.120 And also I've like taken a stance on like, here are a ton of different questions that clients should be asking their therapist in the first session. 0.52
00:07:40.480 And if you're Black and you're seeing a therapist that's white, you need to ask that therapist, 0.70
00:07:47.260 like, what makes you, how can you competently treat me? 0.94
00:07:49.900 What do you know about my ethnicity?
00:07:51.620 How do you feel if I'm going to, like, talk about how racist white people are?
00:07:55.280 Like, what do you think about, you know, Black Lives Matters and, like, all the protests?
00:08:01.540 And, like, there's just, like, hundreds of, like, questions that you could ask your therapist
00:08:05.980 to make sure that they're a good fit for you.
00:08:07.820 And I don't think that a lot of clients know that they can, like, interview their therapist on that first session and ask that therapist, tell me, like, the specific training that you've received.
00:08:18.100 Talk to me about, like, the supervisors and the consultation groups that you're in so that I know that you can competently treat me.
00:08:26.200 So that's a whole thing.
00:08:27.900 Yeah, I love that you're giving clients and just people, like, empowering them with a language and tools to advocate for themselves.
00:08:36.600 I love that.
00:08:37.820 So you talked about your relationship with these therapy apps that have really become ubiquitous in the last few years, things like BetterHelp and Talkspace.
00:08:46.960 You know, when I first heard about these apps, they did really seem like an accessible way for folks to access, like therapists.
00:08:54.360 But so many therapists I've heard from do not like these apps.
00:08:58.100 Can you tell me why that is?
00:09:00.520 Yeah, but let's start there.
00:09:02.440 Like, you're right.
00:09:03.600 the the accessibility that these apps have like tapped into it is so incredibly difficult and i
00:09:10.720 wish it wasn't it's a systemic issue but it's so incredibly difficult for somebody to just like
00:09:15.360 find a therapist it's a good match for them um there's a ton of searching that you have to do
00:09:20.320 there's confusing insurance that you have to like wade through um it can be expensive uh there's
00:09:26.160 like a ton of roadblocks so many therapists are booked especially because everybody in the 0.98
00:09:31.760 the fucking world decided to get therapy at the same goddamn time which is totally fine i get it 0.95
00:09:36.720 i understand i love that you're getting therapy um but therapists are so busy so you're just like 0.99
00:09:44.420 you even if you find a therapist who's a good match it's incredibly frustrating because they
00:09:49.040 might not have any openings but then better help talk space cerebral other apps like that have come
00:09:55.460 along and they're just like hey click a button we are the uber of therapy download the app click
00:10:01.540 this button, check the terms of service. Don't worry about reading it. It's confusing anyways.
00:10:05.880 And we will set you up with a therapist, just any therapist. Is it a good match? I don't know.
00:10:11.760 We hope so. Maybe. But they've tapped into the accessibility part where it's just like,
00:10:17.940 it's so understandable. People are getting so frustrated. So of course, they're going to go
00:10:22.720 to these apps, especially younger people that are used to doing that.
00:10:27.560 Yeah, that is an excellent point that they really did identify a true need that exists out there of it's difficult to find a therapist. And we talk a lot on this show about bad things that the Internet and tech bring to us.
00:10:43.680 But I was talking with Bridget the other day, and one of the things she mentioned was how her favorite stories are about the great things that the internet does to, like, bring people together or help somebody be seen or find whatever it is that they're looking for.
00:10:57.680 And it really seems like they sort of zeroed in on that.
00:11:01.360 And it is a real need that they've addressed.
00:11:05.080 It is.
00:11:05.840 It's a real need.
00:11:06.920 And on the platforms, there are actually amazing therapists.
00:11:11.380 Like, my beef is not with the therapists that are contracted to, like, provide therapy.
00:11:18.920 They are, like, trained and licensed, and they're great.
00:11:26.900 So, yeah, they tap into a need, and somebody needed to do it. 0.98
00:11:30.900 And it's because, like, therapists in private practice cannot all get their shit together. 0.95
00:11:37.320 We're all running our own little individual small businesses. 0.97
00:11:41.380 So we can't all come together and, like, figure out how to solve this problem.
00:11:46.120 It's not just therapists that need to come together.
00:11:48.420 It's just, like, so many layers of everything that needs to come together in order to fix this.
00:11:52.640 So these tech companies, which are super savvy, they're the ones that did it.
00:11:56.320 So bravo.
00:11:57.340 I hate you.
00:11:58.300 You compared these apps to Uber.
00:12:00.640 And, you know, it's one of those things, like, should getting a therapist, should starting the journey to, like, deal with your trauma, unpack your issues,
00:12:08.720 Should that look like an Uber business model that we know has so much exploitation, whether it's the exploitation of drivers, the exploitation of rider details and rider privacy?
00:12:20.120 Should that relationship mimic Uber?
00:12:23.440 And I would argue, no, it shouldn't.
00:12:25.340 That accessibility is good.
00:12:26.880 The idea of having a therapist at your fingertips sounds great.
00:12:30.420 But when you actually think about it harder, you're like, wait, should therapy be a similar kind of business framework as something like an Uber where you can get a ride at the push of a button and maybe this driver isn't being treated well and maybe they aren't being super careful with my data?
00:12:46.500 Who knows? I don't know. The answers might be buried in the third page of some, you know, murky privacy document somewhere.
00:12:52.180 Like, I'm not really sure. Should getting into a relationship with a therapist really be the same way that it is when you just like hail a taxi to your home?
00:13:00.420 Yeah, I mean, no, I think not at all. And because like, you know, if someone's driving you from the restaurant to your home, like, I don't know, I guess that person can kind of be anybody as long as they're like, good enough. You know, they're not going to bother you. They're going to like, be quiet, whatever. They'll do what they need to do to get you from like, point A to point B. But when you're looking for a therapist, it's not just like, are they good enough? Are they going to like, talk to you or listen?
00:13:28.600 It's like, are they actually qualified to treat you?
00:13:31.220 Do they understand your experience in a deep way?
00:13:35.520 And you need to shop around for therapists and talk to multiple therapists in order to find somebody who's a good enough match.
00:13:43.400 And instead of just being handed one, like Uber would do, or like Talkspace or BetterHelp does.
00:13:49.120 So, no, I don't think so.
00:13:50.660 But there are apps and tech companies that, like, understand that BetterHelp is not doing this well, and somebody else needs to do it better.
00:14:04.200 So there is, like, a newer app that I think is maybe just in, like, Florida or Georgia right now called Hurdle.
00:14:10.900 Have you ever heard of Hurdle?
00:14:12.200 No.
00:14:12.820 Yeah, I just heard about it, and they contacted me to, like, let me know about what they're doing.
00:14:19.180 And they contacted me because they were like,
00:14:21.000 hey, can you sponsor us on TikTok?
00:14:24.580 And I said, no.
00:14:26.480 But only because it sort of like conflicts with therapy then
00:14:30.480 where I'm trying to connect people.
00:14:32.120 So it's, anyways, I love them and what they're doing,
00:14:35.520 what they've started out doing,
00:14:36.580 where they're like paying therapists well.
00:14:38.340 We should talk about that with BetterHelp
00:14:39.960 because they're not.
00:14:42.440 And they're like making sure that all the therapists
00:14:44.900 on the platform are competently trained in racial justice and social justice, and they're 0.74
00:14:50.040 trans-competent and queer-competent, and they're continuously going through trainings. 0.94
00:14:55.680 And so they're doing it the right way. So there are apps and services out there that are starting
00:15:01.140 to do it the right way. But BetterHelp and Talkspace, they're like these first movers
00:15:06.660 that have amazing marketing, especially BetterHelp. And yeah, so it might be hard to
00:15:14.880 compete with them. It's interesting that you say that they have better marketing, you know,
00:15:23.100 because I've looked at your TikToks and I think one of the big criticisms is how they
00:15:29.480 harvest people's data and use it for marketing and advertising. And, you know, I clicked through,
00:15:37.360 I read their privacy form and yeah, they're just using all of your data, including your
00:15:42.300 communications with your counselor for third-party marketing and so it made me wonder like how much
00:15:49.160 of their business model is actual therapy delivery and how much are they an advertising company
00:15:55.160 exactly yes they get so much amazing personal data on your mental health information who you are
00:16:03.200 when was your you know are you suicidal when was your last suicide attempt how much money do you
00:16:08.000 make? Where do you live? What are your pronouns? What's your sexual orientation? What's your
00:16:16.200 gender? Like there's, they get the most detailed information about how much, how often you're
00:16:22.660 talking to your therapist, if you're meeting your therapist goal, if you're meeting your
00:16:25.580 counseling goals, like so much stuff. Incredibly valuable. I don't know like how much money they
00:16:32.500 make off of it or if they make any money off it, if they're making all of their money off of that.
00:16:36.360 But that information is incredibly valuable.
00:16:40.800 And they were a little bit more clear a few months ago when I made one of my first TikTok
00:16:48.040 videos about them and going through their privacy policy about all the information that
00:16:52.460 they collect.
00:16:53.680 Since I exposed them and it got over a million views of their privacy policy, they've changed
00:17:00.140 their privacy policy to make it so much more vague and so much more confusing and actually
00:17:07.520 gives them so much more leeway when it comes to like sharing your data they can share your data 0.99
00:17:12.840 with their corporate partners do you know who their corporate partners are fuck no who the 0.99
00:17:16.940 fuck knows i have no idea they don't list them they can share it with their ad network you know 0.99
00:17:21.300 who's in their ad network i have no fucking idea probably a ton of people um they can they can use 0.99
00:17:28.760 it for marketing purposes and whatever the hell they want to use it for. So we don't know what 0.75
00:17:34.640 they're using it for exactly. We don't know who they're sharing it with. We don't know how much
00:17:37.760 money they're making off of it. And the only way that you can use their app is if you check off
00:17:43.700 the terms of service, which allows them to use all this information. I would love it if they gave
00:17:51.360 you an option to not sell your data. On my HBO Max subscription, there's a little checkbox that
00:17:58.600 says, are we allowed? Can we use your third-party data? And I can just be like, nope, BetterHelp
00:18:03.180 doesn't do that. And why would they ever do it? Because they're probably making a ton of money.
00:18:07.080 Something else that I'd like to mention is that they're able to sell your information to third
00:18:13.240 parties. And so if they sold your information to a company like Facebook, Ben, you think about all
00:18:18.760 the different data that we know that Facebook is able to collect combined with whatever they have
00:18:23.780 from your relationship with your counselor
00:18:25.640 through BetterHelp, it becomes clearer.
00:18:28.460 Like, we're not talking about little bits
00:18:30.200 and pieces of data.
00:18:31.140 They really can mine and harvest
00:18:33.820 a real composite, like, portrait of who you are
00:18:37.080 and sell that for profit.
00:18:38.680 And I just fundamentally believe
00:18:41.900 that that is not how a relationship
00:18:44.480 with a mental health specialist should look.
00:18:46.200 And to me, there is not another word for that
00:18:48.960 other than, like, exploitation.
00:18:50.460 And, like, I guess I really see it
00:18:52.520 as this kind of capitalistic mining
00:18:57.140 of the most sensitive stuff about us
00:18:59.900 so that corporate interests can get fatter pockets.
00:19:03.660 And it's just so depressing and demoralizing.
00:19:06.180 Oh God, it is.
00:19:07.720 It really is.
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00:21:15.120 you get your podcasts see you between the pages when i was 14 years old i was kidnapped and held
00:21:22.500 captive for nine months i survived and i've spent my life exploring how other people survive what
00:21:28.980 should have destroyed them i'm elizabeth smart and these are the survivor files i just remember
00:21:35.320 this low taunting voice next to my ear saying shut up don't say anything every week i'm with
00:21:44.180 survivors who lived through the unthinkable. I knew if he woke up, without a doubt, he was going
00:21:51.020 to hurt me. I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed and I just started
00:21:57.700 screaming. They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced. But these aren't stories
00:22:04.440 about what's taken from them. They're stories about what it takes to make it out alive.
00:22:09.780 Listen to The Survivor Files with Elizabeth Smart on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
00:22:23.120 And we're back.
00:22:25.020 So you might be thinking, what about HIPAA?
00:22:28.100 The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act, a law that created national standards to protect patient health information from being disclosed without consent.
00:22:36.780 Doesn't HIPAA prevent our health information from being used to sell things?
00:22:40.440 In this case, the answer is not really.
00:22:43.040 Our producer Mike works with health information, and that means he spends a lot of time dealing with HIPAA.
00:22:48.200 Here's what he had to say.
00:22:49.640 I work within the constraints of HIPAA every day, and I think it's probably one of the most misunderstood laws in America.
00:22:55.560 People think HIPAA protects all of their health information all of the time, but it doesn't.
00:23:00.120 HIPAA only applies to a very narrow set of actors and circumstances.
00:23:04.440 Basically, it applies to healthcare providers and their contractors.
00:23:08.700 Better Health is neither of those things.
00:23:10.740 In a page on their website, convincingly titled Online Therapy Services, Are They Legit?
00:23:16.120 They repeatedly use phrases like HIPAA-compliant therapists.
00:23:19.920 What they don't say is that the therapists are bound by HIPAA because they're providing healthcare,
00:23:24.480 but Better Health the Platform is not because they aren't providing healthcare.
00:23:27.760 They're simply connecting you with the providers,
00:23:29.940 and so they are bound only by the terms of service you accept by creating an account.
00:23:35.640 HIPAA was signed into law in 1996, around the same time Bill Clinton was describing the internet as an information superhighway.
00:23:42.940 Its authors never imagined all the ways the internet would revolutionize how we access healthcare.
00:23:48.460 And so we've come to this place where most Americans believe their private health information is legally protected,
00:23:53.180 but that's just not always true.
00:23:55.420 In reality, many of the digital services we use have no greater legal obligation to protect
00:24:00.120 information about our health than information about what TV shows we like to watch or what
00:24:04.820 types of sneakers we want to buy.
00:24:06.680 So the question is, are we okay with for-profit tech companies like BetterHelp setting the
00:24:12.220 precedent around privacy and digital health services?
00:24:15.140 Because that's where we're at.
00:24:16.480 And one of the questions that I get all the time, because you're right, they know you
00:24:21.120 intimately, like so many things about you.
00:24:24.740 And the question I get is like, how is this not a HIPAA violation?
00:24:29.280 What is making this okay?
00:24:31.880 So if you are my client and you're seeing me in my private practice, I'm your therapist.
00:24:38.720 All the notes that I write on you is actually your property.
00:24:43.180 That's all yours.
00:24:43.980 You can go to your therapist.
00:24:45.220 You can be like, give me my notes.
00:24:47.340 And a therapist legally has to hand that over to you.
00:24:50.920 That's all of your medical information.
00:24:52.700 We need to give it.
00:24:53.860 So if my client came in and was like,
00:24:57.300 Jeff, give me all the notes you've been keeping on me,
00:24:59.680 and I give it over to them,
00:25:01.500 they could take all that mental health information
00:25:04.200 and they could sell it to an advertiser.
00:25:06.640 They can give it to Facebook.
00:25:08.320 As a client, you can do whatever you want
00:25:10.400 with your medical information.
00:25:12.400 And that's what's happening
00:25:13.460 when you sign up for BetterHelp.
00:25:14.840 You're saying, okay, all of the information
00:25:18.340 that I'm providing to this therapist is mine,
00:25:20.940 and now I'm giving it to you, BetterHelp,
00:25:23.380 You can do whatever you want with it. So that's another way that they're able to get around it. And so one of my big things was like, oh, you know, I can fuck over BetterHelp. If I can, like, go to the state licensing boards in all of the states, I'd start with like California and New York and be like, okay, y'all, therapists are seeing these clients, and they know that the client information that we like ethically legally have to keep confidential is
00:25:53.360 being given to BetterHelp and given to like advertisers. Should these therapists be allowed
00:25:59.520 to provide therapy on BetterHelp? Should these therapists be disciplined or have their license
00:26:03.660 taken away? Not that I want to get those licenses taken away, but maybe I can like put pressure on
00:26:08.400 BetterHelp. And the problem is, is that like what I just mentioned, it's the client information
00:26:15.760 and they can hand it over. There also is somebody, something in HIPAA where like HIPAA is just like
00:26:21.460 Everything has to stay confidential unless maybe it's used for marketing purposes and it's anonymized.
00:26:27.920 So like they also have that like gray area.
00:26:31.520 There's so many things that are protecting better health.
00:26:34.500 It seems, though, that like stepping back to harvest all of this personal information about somebody's mental health and then use it to make advertising revenue.
00:26:45.980 It just feels wrong, right?
00:26:47.540 Like, oh, there's that.
00:26:49.060 Yeah.
00:26:49.220 it just doesn't sit well it just doesn't feel okay um that shouldn't be happening obviously
00:26:56.980 like if i was your therapist now anonymizing your info and selling it to advertisers i would
00:27:01.760 lose my license uh and i should um that just shouldn't be a part of the therapy process but
00:27:07.240 uh we're in this like funky weird shitty capitalist whatever time we're like that's okay and they're
00:27:14.800 incredibly protected and they're going to probably continue to do that and better help is you know
00:27:20.120 they interacted with me a little bit by like leaving some comments on some of my tiktok videos
00:27:24.900 and now they have they're just ignoring me which is probably a very good business decision on their 0.52
00:27:30.500 end because like who the fuck am i i don't know i mean you did like your tiktoks had an impact when 0.96
00:27:37.760 you were describing how they changed their you know their privacy policy i for a hot second i 0.97
00:27:43.080 thought you were going to say they, you know, because of my TikToks, I got millions of views
00:27:46.600 and they changed their privacy policy for the better. But then it was like, oh, they just made
00:27:50.380 it even more vague. No, because of me, I made it worse for everybody. But like pointing this out,
00:27:57.860 they're just like, cool, we need to be real fucking shady now. So you're welcome, America. 0.93
00:28:02.920 When I saw the news out of Texas, it had a really deep impact on me in a way that I
00:28:08.840 almost can't even articulate why. There was something about the videos that were coming
00:28:13.680 out of it that just really hit me in a way that, you know, you think that you're desensitized to
00:28:20.120 tragedy and disaster, but something about those videos really stuck with me. And I think seeing
00:28:26.420 like the live stream with an Apple logo on it, where I knew that young people were facing
00:28:32.160 really scary circumstances. I really can't shake the deep, disturbed way that that,
00:28:42.520 how disturbing that was to me. Like, I don't know why I've not been able to sort of like
00:28:46.280 move past it, but I have not. And when I woke up again and saw that Travis Scott was partnering
00:28:52.840 with BetterHelp, that really, it just seemed like a cherry on top of this exploitation cake
00:28:59.460 where these young people had really been deeply exploited in the deepest, deepest ways for profit,
00:29:08.080 to make money for corporate interests, whether we're talking about Live Nation, Travis Scott,
00:29:12.560 the organizers, Apple, streaming platforms, whatever. And then in the aftermath of that
00:29:18.080 horrific, traumatic tragedy, what they were being offered was just another way to serve them up to
00:29:24.500 be further mined and exploited. And it was, it was like, it broke my brain. I couldn't even
00:29:29.700 conceptualize the depths to how broken so many systems are, where that's the thing they're being
00:29:35.760 offered. And even still one month of it. So it's like, it's already shitty what they're being
00:29:39.820 offered, but it's not even that long. Some of these kids probably have like complex PTSD. It
00:29:45.140 takes longer than a month to treat that. What were your thoughts on that partnership?
00:29:48.860 oh yeah uh garbage i thought it was a dumpster fire i thought it was like i felt the same way
00:29:55.820 that you felt so yeah it's like a bunch of you know corporations creating trauma and then sending
00:30:02.120 those traumatized kids to um better help where they're gonna like mine their data and make a ton
00:30:07.700 of money uh it's it was disturbing it was upsetting and it reminded me of when better help
00:30:14.020 used to, I still think they kind of do this, but back in like 2018, 2019, they were going to all
00:30:20.600 the therapist directories out there that attract, you know, the clients that are looking for
00:30:24.980 therapists. And they were just trying to like either buy them up or quote unquote partner with
00:30:30.220 them in order to like take all of their business and like direct those users into the BetterHelp
00:30:37.940 ecosystem. And so they approached me when I, like, launched Therapy Den, and they're like,
00:30:45.160 hey, can we go ahead and take, like, therapist profiles and add them to your directory so that
00:30:52.540 if any of the, like, people that are using your directory that, you know, they could, like, find
00:30:57.400 one of our BetterHelp therapists and then create services or create, you know, start therapy with
00:31:02.520 And every time somebody signs up for BetterHelp through Therapy Den, we'll pay you $300, which is a ton of money because they're like, you could potentially make $80,000 a month because we've had this deal, created this deal with other therapist directories that are the same size as yours.
00:31:25.420 And I know those therapist directories and I know the owners and some of them are buddies of mine.
00:31:29.720 And so I was like talking to them about like what went on and those therapist directories were like basically taken over and just used as like a funnel in order to like, you know, get even more people to sign up for better help.
00:31:42.960 So you don't really own your therapist director anymore.
00:31:45.860 They just sort of like take it over because they put thousands and thousands, 20,000 different like therapist profiles or something like on on your directory.
00:31:54.880 uh and it's also like therapy done is about like matching people with like a good competent
00:32:02.300 therapist that you know is a good fit and better help can't do that at all it's a therapy mill
00:32:06.620 um so it didn't feel okay it allowed like lose control like it just didn't feel like a good
00:32:13.320 match at all and i like started to that's when i started to like really learn about their privacy
00:32:17.280 policy and the data mining and shit like that and i would imagine that like all the marketing that
00:32:22.960 they do, that BetterHelp does on all the podcasts and NPR and shit like that, all of those companies
00:32:28.580 were probably getting a very nice kickback because BetterHelp was like, hey, on average,
00:32:33.640 we make $1,200. We bring in $1,200 when somebody signs up for BetterHelp. We are very much willing
00:32:41.300 to pay you $300 when we collect $1,200. Also, we're going to pay the therapist shit. So it's 0.99
00:32:48.540 not even like we have like too much of an overhead costs. You talk about how the therapists are just,
00:32:54.740 not only are they not paid what like, like a comparable amount that they can make in private
00:32:59.960 practice or elsewhere, but also, you know, they're, I learned from your TikToks, they're sometimes
00:33:04.280 paid by the word. And so once they hit their word count, they kind of have to decide if they want
00:33:08.900 to continue treating a client who very well may be in crisis, basically out of the goodness of
00:33:13.380 their heart because they care about this client for free. Clients can access their therapist 24
00:33:19.200 hours a day, seven days a week, which sounds really good in theory. But then you're like,
00:33:23.820 should you have access to a therapist 24 seven? I would say no, that maybe you should have some
00:33:29.240 boundaries around how you access your therapist. It's kind of stunning to hear about how much
00:33:34.600 money they must be taking in via how much money gets spent, gets given to their actual therapists
00:33:41.980 who are like doing the work of sustaining this platform yeah 100 i mean the therapists are
00:33:47.320 getting maybe around 30 a little less than 30 an hour um ideally if you're a therapist and you're
00:33:53.240 seeing clients you want to get at least 100 an hour that's what we're like aiming for if not more
00:33:57.620 if you live in like more expensive cities um but better help is like we will pay you up to 50
00:34:04.960 dollars an hour if you work more hours per week so if you work up to 50 hours a week 0.91
00:34:12.700 you'll get our top pay which is fucking bonkers i don't even understand why that's a pay scale 0.81
00:34:20.520 that exists like work 15 hours get 30 or less an hour work up to 50 hours a week more i don't know 0.98
00:34:27.620 that's a whole fucking thing i hate that uh and then it's they pay you based on word count so 0.80
00:34:32.940 You can't go over the word count that they, like, provide. 0.98
00:34:36.600 If you do start, like, providing more support,
00:34:39.500 if you start texting more support and going over the word count, 0.99
00:34:42.900 you're working for fucking free, therapist. 0.99
00:34:45.000 They're not going to pay you for it. 0.99
00:34:46.320 So maybe they're paying you $30 an hour,
00:34:48.660 but it's actually a lot less if you, like,
00:34:50.920 feel like you need to give even more support to that client.
00:34:55.180 And, of course, just like Uber and Lyft or whatever,
00:34:57.680 like, you're not getting benefits, you're a contract,
00:35:00.140 you're not, like, getting paid time off, you know,
00:35:02.820 like you have to provide all of your equipment and you know so it's just like it's a bunch of 0.95
00:35:07.860 bullshit uh that therapists are getting exploited and they're able to exploit these therapists 0.93
00:35:13.160 that are usually like fresh out of grad school or just looking for a little part-time work or 0.99
00:35:17.620 something and yeah 24-hour access to a therapist clinically no not okay that's not creating
00:35:23.960 self-reliance uh you need to be able to kind of like go and do your thing and then be able to
00:35:28.300 check back with your therapist. I understand why that's appealing though. But imagine,
00:35:32.600 understand that that therapist with a caseload of like 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 clients a week, 0.99
00:35:39.020 they're getting pinged all the fucking time. So there's no way that a therapist is able, 0.98
00:35:44.220 but like a therapist must pass to, it's in their contract that they have to respond within 24
00:35:49.300 hours, no matter what day or time it is, which is not very realistic. Plus there's
00:35:58.220 this like thing where like if there's if better help has like a flood of people signing up they're
00:36:02.320 like okay i know that you have a ton of clients but will you take these new clients we'll pay you
00:36:06.760 more for these new clients which sort of incentivizes therapists to drop their old clients
00:36:12.060 they're not getting paid enough for in the first place to then take the new clients it's such a 1.00
00:36:16.340 stupid fucked up system i hate it can you tell it's so fucked up and this is not how therapy 1.00
00:36:24.000 therapy is meant to be this is not how it should look to access mental health care and you know 1.00
00:36:28.620 in the wake of the astral world thing it's like it is a it's like an exploitation layer cake where
00:36:34.660 the clients the potential clients are going to be exploited the therapists running the site are
00:36:39.280 being exploited everybody's being exploited except for the tech overlords who like are possibly like
00:36:46.480 making money from the people that are being referred from this tragedy honestly talking
00:36:51.120 to you has helped me make sense of why it made me so deeply deeply angry and disgusted like i had
00:36:56.800 such a visceral reaction also just the use of the word partnership like you know using this tragedy
00:37:02.520 as a branding opportunity i really found it deeply deeply like just disgusting and i think talking to
00:37:10.680 you has really made it so clear that yeah that wasn't i that was i was almost about to say like 0.99
00:37:16.600 an irrational response that was a rational response because it is really fucked up and 0.98
00:37:20.320 is really disgusting yeah it's a very rational response to a very irrational thing that's 0.99
00:37:25.840 occurring totally you've described all these numbers of like caseloads of 40 or 50 patients
00:37:32.400 a week which like what a joke how can you be providing like high quality of care i haven't
00:37:37.280 heard you say anything about like the evaluation process or uh you know any sort of quality control
00:37:43.920 do you know if they do um like i just have to imagine that the quality of care that patients
00:37:49.760 are receiving is pretty low with a caseload like that. But is that something that they
00:37:54.200 look at or measure or talk about? Yeah, I don't know. It's a good question. I've never come across
00:38:00.140 any sort of like data or survey about the quality of care. So I don't know. And
00:38:06.840 I just feel I feel bad for everybody involved. I feel really bad for the therapists that are
00:38:12.480 getting burnt out that are kind of like forced to work longer or more hours. And this is I don't
00:38:18.720 know. I don't know if I can say this. So, well, whatever. Maybe we'll cut it out. But there's
00:38:26.500 how can you say this? If you want to, if you're somebody that's seeing a BetterHelp therapist and
00:38:35.220 you really like your therapist, because there's a ton of really great therapists on there,
00:38:39.060 and this conversation is upsetting or disturbing you, if you wanted to ask your BetterHelp
00:38:45.840 therapist if they have their own private practice and they are accepting clients then that's
00:38:54.240 something you can ask them and you can talk to them about the better help therapists obviously
00:38:58.900 are not allowed to be like i have a private practice if you want to see me there and you
00:39:04.240 know even pay me if you like pay that therapist the same amount that you're giving better help
00:39:09.120 then what their hourly rate has doubled or tripled, you know, by that time.
00:39:15.260 So, so, because I get a lot of like feedback, like, oh, but I love my BetterHelp therapist.
00:39:20.140 Well, stick with that BetterHelp therapist.
00:39:21.600 I'm so happy for you.
00:39:23.420 Also, maybe you can like see them in their private practice and get out of like BetterHelp if you want to.
00:39:28.620 I think I can say that.
00:39:29.800 I'm pretty sure.
00:39:30.220 Yeah, I think that's good advice because it sounds like you're being so clear that you're not trying to say
00:39:36.500 that BetterHelp doesn't have great kick-ass therapists on the platform, but that the platform
00:39:41.620 itself does not support these therapists for giving the best quality of care that they can.
00:39:46.740 And so there might be other ways to access that same therapist that you might love who is on
00:39:51.680 BetterHelp in a way where they're not being sort of set up to give you not as good of care as you
00:39:57.800 could be getting otherwise. Right, exactly. And your therapist in their private practice probably
00:40:04.580 won't sell all your personal mental health information to advertisers.
00:40:08.960 Most likely they are not going to do that.
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00:43:27.240 Let's get right back into it. Now, I'm not the only one who has a problem with BetterHelp's
00:43:32.180 partnership with Travis Scott in the wake of the Astroworld tragedy. The response has not been
00:43:37.380 good, and BetterHelp is working overtime to correct what they're calling misinformation
00:43:42.400 information about their platform. Now, it's worth noting that BetterHelp waited until the
00:43:47.340 partnership got negative reactions online to clarify pretty basic details about the
00:43:52.300 arrangement. Frankly, making patient protection seem like kind of an afterthought. They released
00:43:58.480 an FAQ where they say that people who use the free month of BetterHelp services will not be
00:44:03.400 billed after that month is up. And they say that Travis Scott isn't making any money from the
00:44:08.320 partnership. Now, I've heard a lot of tech company corporate doublespeak in my day, and I'd like the
00:44:14.460 company to clarify whether this also pertains to any business or philanthropic entities Travis Scott
00:44:19.720 might be affiliated with. They also answer the frequently asked question, is information members
00:44:25.060 enter on Better Health ever sold to advertising platforms or third parties? Now, they answer this
00:44:30.680 with an emphatic no, period. But that can't be the whole story because on their own privacy policy
00:44:36.720 In the section called purposes for which information is used, they say your information may be used to, quote, personalized website experience, including targeted offers and ads throughout our websites, third party sites and via email or text message.
00:44:51.380 They also say, quote, we may share your information with any subsidiaries or parent companies within our corporate group.
00:44:58.460 So who are these other companies in their corporate group and what products are being advertised?
00:45:02.920 Is Better Health using your personal mental information to buy ads or sell ads?
00:45:08.720 Why rely on such vague language when discussing something as important as our health and privacy?
00:45:14.480 I believe Better Health is intentionally exploiting vague language and gray areas in their privacy policies to mislead the public, which under normal circumstances is bad.
00:45:23.860 But it's especially egregious to do that after a tragedy.
00:45:27.920 Do you feel like the public is owed a little bit of transparency about this partnership?
00:45:32.340 I feel like especially given that the folks who were at that festival are like a lot of them are young people.
00:45:38.920 I feel like it is a public like a public good for BetterHelp and or Travis Scott to say, hey, we're doing this therapy, this therapy partnership for folks who were impacted by this tragedy.
00:45:50.240 Here's who's making money on it. Here's how your data is going to be used.
00:45:53.740 you know here like whether travis scott better help or both are making some sort of like cut
00:46:00.780 or kickback do you feel like it's in the public interest for us to have that like information in
00:46:06.460 a transparent way oh my god 100 yes and like in my most recent tiktok video that's on twitter and
00:46:13.420 everywhere else uh i'm saying that like what's going on like let's be clear here who's getting
00:46:20.020 paid? How do you continue care after that one month? How much is it going to cost in
00:46:27.340 order to continue? It's just all so murky. So yeah, I would love if there was more transparency
00:46:33.420 around it. But the way that BetterHelp operates is just like, they're very good at making
00:46:37.600 shit real vague. And unfortunately, whenever I push against them or anyone pushes up against 0.87
00:46:42.940 them, they just get even more vague and more vague and get into that gray area. So hopefully
00:46:47.600 this will like get more people to become concerned and ask them to be more transparent about what
00:46:53.040 they're doing and the deal that's being set up with Travis Scott. Yeah. I just feel like we're
00:46:57.500 in this age where things that technology that is meant to be like a wellness focused thing or a
00:47:04.280 mental health focused thing, we're in this weird gray area where everything feels kind of scammy
00:47:09.860 and like not really regulated. And so we have all of these apps that are sort of mental health
00:47:15.740 ish or like wellness ish or like medical care ish and you just have to act like are these
00:47:22.600 regulated are they safe am i actually getting good information from like a competent trained
00:47:27.700 medical health professional i wonder like do you feel the same way that we're in this sort of wild
00:47:32.400 west where there are so many tech platforms offering us wellness or you know medical care
00:47:39.680 but in this very gray area way where they can sort of avoid having to answer some of these
00:47:45.260 questions about you know the quality of care that you're actually getting oh yeah for sure and and
00:47:52.020 they're so savvy they're so slick they know exactly what they're doing so you just kind of
00:47:57.300 like give this like these ish services and it works well enough and also you know uh all these
00:48:05.120 like podcasts or mpr or whoever like it's such a good look for them like oh therapy you know like
00:48:12.560 It looks like it's so nice to, quote unquote, partner with them because it sort of like lifts their brand up, you know?
00:48:20.040 So it's just like this feel-good, lovely thing, but we don't know what's going on like right behind the scenes. 0.99
00:48:26.060 And NPR, fuck you, NPR. 0.99
00:48:28.700 I hate that NPR is like running ads all over the place. 1.00
00:48:34.380 I mean, it's all over Oregon with like NPR and OPB over here where they're just like constantly hearing better help.
00:48:40.120 And I'm emailing NPR and Oregon Public Broadcast.
00:48:43.440 I'm like letting them know, like, I want to be on your show.
00:48:45.820 This is not OK. 0.99
00:48:46.780 If you understood the values of this company, you would have a fucking aneurysm about it. 0.96
00:48:51.660 But like, oh, they're not responding to me and they're not doing anything about it. 0.90
00:48:56.960 So it's this weird like halo effect that happens when they do partner with these better help.
00:49:01.540 And like, yeah, no.
00:49:02.780 Yeah, I don't know.
00:49:03.500 I'm agreeing with everything that you're saying.
00:49:05.640 So, yeah.
00:49:06.220 Yeah.
00:49:06.720 And it's I mean, you've said a mouthful.
00:49:08.260 And I know in the podcast space specifically that BetterHelp has a, it's like one of those ubiquitous brands that you hear.
00:49:16.440 If you listen to podcasts, you've definitely heard a BetterHelp ad.
00:49:18.560 And I have, you know, friends and colleagues who I'm sure do BetterHelp ads.
00:49:22.800 And I'm not trying to like call anybody out, but I also feel like you have to take a little bit of responsibility for the, for like, not, so it's not just a financial arrangement where they pay you and you read the ad.
00:49:36.780 But if you sound like you're endorsing their values and endorsing their practices, and if you're using your like NPR voice to make this service seem really good and progressive and like a good idea, like I do think we have to step back and ask some hard questions of ourselves about whether or not we're allowing brands whose values do not align with our own to be kind of brand washed by our like, you know, slick podcaster voice.
00:50:06.780 Or, you know, or like the relationship that podcast listeners have with their hosts, right?
00:50:12.140 Like, I feel like it like it exploits the connection that listeners have with their favorite podcast host to make these to make brands that are not so good seem like they're actually aligned with their values, I guess.
00:50:28.020 You said it totally 100%.
00:50:30.660 I keep on saying it, but, like, BetterHelp has one of the best marketing teams I've ever seen.
00:50:36.920 They're so good.
00:50:37.740 And they know exactly when to turn off their comments on TikTok videos.
00:50:42.240 Are they off right now? 0.99
00:50:43.700 Oh, they're totally fucking off. 1.00
00:50:45.080 Because, like, all the TikTokers are just like, whoa, we don't like this. 1.00
00:50:49.500 This is, like, thank you, Jeff, for, like, being transparent and, like, explaining their privacy policy. 0.86
00:50:54.580 We're going to spam all their TikTok videos.
00:50:57.020 And you can't.
00:50:58.140 They block everybody. 0.99
00:50:59.320 like they know how to turn all that shit off um so yeah i think podcasters and everyone with their 0.98
00:51:06.700 npr voices like really need to think about and also like i fucking guarantee all these podcasters 0.97
00:51:12.900 are not getting their therapy through better help like no way are they actually doing that uh so 0.56
00:51:19.480 yeah you got me over held up i agree it's interesting you mentioned the you know the
00:51:25.160 halo effect there and it you know this moment that we're in where there are all these potentially
00:51:30.480 scammy ish mental health services and it's it's like mental health it's only sort of recently
00:51:39.340 become a thing that we all are talking about and acknowledging as like something that needs to be
00:51:45.100 dealt with but it's still like a very private personal thing uh and i wonder if that like
00:51:50.520 contributes to the the viability of scams like this what you know maybe it's a scam maybe it's
00:51:59.380 not but like when an actor is going to participate in delivering mental health services but not
00:52:06.900 respect that like privacy piece of it and just you know completely violate those norms in pursuit
00:52:13.300 of profit uh it's a pretty dangerous tech enabled place one of the good things is that it's sort
00:52:20.500 of like breaking, mental health stigma is like reducing.
00:52:26.680 So that's also one of the things that's like a good thing that's happening.
00:52:30.480 But at what cost?
00:52:33.500 Because there's like so much information and data sharing and like ads being directed more
00:52:38.920 towards you because of this.
00:52:40.260 So like yay for accessibility, yay for like destigmatization.
00:52:46.580 like this is like profiting these huge tech companies so much and it's so upsetting and
00:52:52.860 it's so disturbing and we need to talk even more about it well i mean so we we we don't 0.76
00:53:01.740 fuck with better health but as we know like it can be so hard to get access to a therapist so 0.69
00:53:07.600 like what are some alternatives to services like better health that might be a little less scammy 0.99
00:53:13.880 and exploitative if folks out there want to access mental health services but don't know where to
00:53:19.400 start? I mean, I'm biased, but I love TherapyDem.com. Start there. There's another therapist
00:53:28.000 directory that I am in love with, InclusiveTherapists.com. Same sort of vibe and mission
00:53:36.560 and values as TherapyDem.com, the thing is, is like, you kind of have to be okay or accepting
00:53:46.320 of the fact that like, this is going to be a journey for you. Finding a therapist is going
00:53:52.020 to take some time. And the reason it's going to take time is because you need to find somebody
00:53:56.040 who's a really good match and who can competently treat you. So you're going to have to like
00:54:01.320 interview three, four, five, 10 therapists possibly to find somebody who's a good match
00:54:06.680 for you. It's grueling and it sucks and I don't like it. But starting with therapyden.com, 0.98
00:54:11.580 inclusivetherapist.com, even just like Googling somebody, you know, like trying or going to
00:54:16.320 psychologytoday.com to like go through their therapist directory, find a therapist that's
00:54:22.320 and private practice, the quality of care is through the roof compared to the quality
00:54:31.640 of care that you get from BetterHelp, just because of the way the BetterHelp is set up.
00:54:38.160 So have some patience, really educate yourself, ask all of the questions that you want, like
00:54:44.960 how can you competently train you, what's your background?
00:54:47.960 But also, if you want, you can be like, are you married?
00:54:51.740 Do you have kids?
00:54:52.960 Are you from this city?
00:54:54.620 Where do you hang out?
00:54:58.080 What do you think about, who's your favorite sports team?
00:55:01.360 Do you garden? 1.00
00:55:02.360 Whatever the fuck you want. 1.00
00:55:05.140 Ask all the questions. 0.99
00:55:06.140 Therapists don't have to answer all these questions.
00:55:08.640 But I want you to ask all the questions that will make you feel more comfortable talking
00:55:13.120 to that therapist.
00:55:14.120 Ask them, do you diagnose?
00:55:15.640 What do you think my diagnosis might be?
00:55:17.780 What is treatment going to look like?
00:55:20.340 Are you cool?
00:55:21.940 Whatever you need to do.
00:55:23.980 So you need to start therapy.com, wherever the hell you want to start,
00:55:29.100 and then understand that you have to go on a journey.
00:55:31.660 Honestly, if it was not for your TikToks, I would not have known any of this.
00:55:36.140 Like, I don't think there's a lot of resources out there
00:55:39.420 to help people understand companies or platforms like Better Health.
00:55:43.780 And so I'm so I'm so glad that you're making the content that you are,
00:55:46.780 because I think that you're helping people take ownership over there or you're empowering people
00:55:51.820 to advocate for themselves and take ownership over how they access these services. And so I'm
00:55:57.440 so grateful for you. Where can folks keep up with you? Yeah. So you can look for Search for Therapy
00:56:04.140 Den on TikTok and Twitter and Instagram. I am also, I produce a podcast called Swoon,
00:56:13.420 love lessons with julie and gina so julie and gina are um sex therapists and experts and every
00:56:20.680 now and then i'll hop on and be on a podcast episode with them um so you can find me there
00:56:27.200 talking like giving love advice i'm an amazing at giving love advice
00:56:31.400 uh so so that's where you can find me um and you can personally email me at hello
00:56:38.300 at therapynet.com if you have any questions.
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