Under the Influence (with Jo Piazza) - January 23, 2024


Trad Wives, Trad Lives and Politics with Emily in Your Phone

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00:00:00.760 Hello, hello, hello. I love today's guest. Today's guest is always in my phone. She feels
00:00:09.920 like a friend because she lives in my pocket, like a little, like a little leprechaun. Or
00:00:14.840 who was that, who was that girl that was very tiny? Thumbelina. Thumbelina. I don't remember 0.97
00:00:21.920 the story, but I feel like it ended badly for Thumbelina. Today's episode is not about
00:00:27.140 It is about Emily in here phone. Emily Amick. Emily is a lawyer, a journalist, former counsel
00:00:36.260 to Senate Majority Leader Chuck Schumer. Maybe you've heard of him. And she is the lady behind
00:00:41.140 the viral political Instagram account. Emily is a must watch for me. She dissects political news.
00:00:47.300 She's an absolute genius at breaking down complicated and sometimes boring political 0.97
00:00:52.560 issues for everyday people right on social media. She is there. She is there where you are. And I
00:01:00.260 think that this is such an incredible lesson for old school media organizations who poo-poo social
00:01:06.960 media. Instagram and TikTok are where a lot of people want to get their news and they get bad
00:01:12.120 news. They get bad information most of the time because real journalists think they're too good
00:01:17.480 for these platforms. Emily does not. She knows that the social media train has left the station
00:01:22.940 and she is meeting you where you are. Now, here's a little thing about politics. I like to disclose
00:01:28.780 my own biases. I used to be a political reporter for a couple different places, but namely for
00:01:35.120 current TV. Do any of you remember that fun little progressive experiment with Al Gore
00:01:40.240 and Gavin Newsom? He of the really excellent hair. His hair looks that good in person.
00:01:45.380 and let me tell you something. It doesn't move. It doesn't. I covered a lot of campaigns,
00:01:51.800 covered a lot of elections. I was on the John Edwards bus in Iowa for the caucus one year.
00:01:57.660 That was weird. Also, John Cougar Mellencamp was there. I can tell you one thing. I would not be
00:02:04.340 a political reporter right now for fucking anything in the world. I wouldn't. I couldn't do it. In fact, 0.99
00:02:10.840 I have another friend who used to be a politics reporter and she also covered war zones and she
00:02:16.420 told me she'd rather go back to war than cover this year's election cycle. So anyone who can do
00:02:21.960 this, fucking kudos, man. Fucking kudos. Now, Emily in your phone also has a shared interest with me. 1.00
00:02:31.340 She also thinks a lot about trad wives, but not just trad wives. Emily thinks a lot and talks a
00:02:38.200 lot about how conservative forces are very, very good at social media and very, very good at
00:02:44.600 packaging things into beautiful images. We're going to get into all of it. I'm so excited to
00:02:49.920 have Emily on the podcast today. And also she just gave me her phone number. So now we text
00:02:54.780 and I put her on my phone as Emily in my phone. I'm that, yeah, cheesy as fuck. Cheesy as fuck, 0.99
00:03:03.320 people. Totally. So hi, thank you for being here today. Thank you so much for having me. 1.00
00:03:09.000 I'm very excited because usually, you know, as your name suggests, you're in my phone.
00:03:13.980 You know, and here I am in virtual real life. Virtual real life. You're in my computer now,
00:03:19.340 which is very exciting for me. For our audience who doesn't know you and what you do, can you
00:03:25.380 give me the quick and dirty about what Emily in Your Phone is? Sure. So I used to be a counsel to
00:03:33.520 Senate Majority Leader Chuck Schumer. And I, since that time, have been in private practice
00:03:38.840 and started Emily in Your Phone to really help people just get a better understanding about
00:03:43.020 what's going on in politics, to give my insider information to the people and sort of empower
00:03:48.140 people to make the political change that they want to see happen. And I love that. And I think you
00:03:54.560 And I probably know a thousand of the same people from me being at the Daily News for so long.
00:04:00.660 Yes.
00:04:01.380 Yeah.
00:04:01.880 So many people.
00:04:03.440 So many people.
00:04:04.040 And we also probably share a similar fixation, which is the conservative influencer universe.
00:04:11.300 And I am very, very, I have been obsessed with Instagram for a very, very long time.
00:04:16.860 It has been my hobby for like a decade plus.
00:04:19.500 And I have been watching the conservative influencer universe grow and change and mutate for all of these years. So I love the opportunity to talk about people, talk to people about my special interest ostensibly.
00:04:32.500 Well, I'm here to give you that opportunity. I'm just, you know, serving it up on a platter for you. I am. But before we do that, I do want to say, as a former newspaper reporter and reporter for a lot of different places, I think constantly about how people get news and how it's going to completely change every minute in the future.
00:04:55.240 And I love what you're doing to make to bring news to people where they are, to bring information to people where they are, which is staring at their phones.
00:05:04.720 Yeah. You know, and I started my career as a journalist. I went to journalism school. I worked at a newspaper, the Anniston Star and in Anniston, Alabama.
00:05:13.700 And, you know, even back then, I was having a lot of conversations. This was in 1894. And I was having lots of conversation about the future of news.
00:05:23.760 And the future of news is disaggregated.
00:05:25.980 People want to get news from someone they trust, and they want to get it in a way that
00:05:29.920 makes sense to them.
00:05:31.320 And I think that a lot of what we've seen from people is fighting against this.
00:05:34.840 People are very clinging to the version of news that they grew up with.
00:05:37.980 And I think it's sort of ridiculous to do that, right?
00:05:41.360 People want to consume things the way they want to consume them, and why shouldn't we
00:05:45.080 give it to them?
00:05:45.980 And give it to them in a way that's fact-based and helpful and productive and in an emotional
00:05:50.940 tone that works for the reader.
00:05:52.440 But it's certainly possible. And social media is the greatest information distributor that we've ever had. Right. Like it's phenomenally powerful. And what we've seen so far is like powerful forces that want to use it for evil and that want to use it to make money because capitalism be capitalism ising.
00:06:12.240 Capitalism will always be capitalism-ing.
00:06:14.700 Yeah.
00:06:15.140 And, you know, we've seen that so far.
00:06:17.100 But that doesn't mean it's not going away.
00:06:20.020 Like, I have the conversation a lot where I'm like, the train has left the station. 0.99
00:06:24.000 We can't unring this fucking bell. 0.98
00:06:25.940 Can I swear on this podcast? 1.00
00:06:27.180 You can swear so much on this podcast.
00:06:29.580 Yes.
00:06:30.120 I'd be sad.
00:06:30.800 I'd be sad if you didn't, to be honest.
00:06:32.720 I think that my Instagram audience may not know that real Emily has the mouth of a sailor.
00:06:39.720 um oh my gosh that reminds me of the time that i was like hanging out in hair and makeup with 1.00
00:06:45.380 katie korak she was in the hair and makeup chair next to me and she cursed like a fucking sailor 0.54
00:06:50.080 i have heard that wow i'm like i love you katie korak this made me love you more thank you thank 0.80
00:06:54.900 you for this um i'm a fan and uh and i don't remember what i was saying because i got distracted
00:06:59.760 with swear words um well that your audience doesn't know you curse like a sailor but yes
00:07:05.740 the train has left the station. Right. And also, I think that we need to be and you do such a great
00:07:11.580 job of this with with your side piece of talking about the conservative Instagrammers. We need to
00:07:18.660 be cultural critics of what is happening on social media, too. We have to call out power and we have
00:07:23.760 to call out influence in a way that I think largely gets ignored by mainstream, both media and
00:07:29.420 academia. Yeah. And I think one of the ways I approach and, you know, my Instagram is my hobby,
00:07:35.140 Right. Like this is something I do because it brings me joy. And I assume all of my followers are really fucking smart. And I assume that they are essentially my bestie and we are having a conversation. And sometimes when I see a lot of the work that's anti misinformation, it's like scolding. It's like you're so stupid. How did you not know this was real? It's like, shut up. Stop being such a jerk. Stop being a jerk. Totally.
00:08:01.260 You know, I want to have a conversation with my audience, but like what I see happening and have a conversation about like what is the big picture behind all this?
00:08:11.280 And because I have access to all of this political information and because I have essentially 20 years of doing this work, I've sort of seen it.
00:08:19.000 Because at the end of the day, it's just the same thing over and over and over and over again.
00:08:23.000 And you finally pick up on it.
00:08:25.180 And so I try to just have that conversation with my audience.
00:08:28.460 And I think part of this is also being willing to actually listen to what these people are saying, which sometimes we are not willing to do, CIE 2016 election.
00:08:41.040 But, you know, I think that there is it is really, really important to point and name exactly what the right is doing, especially online and where they are trying to take us, which is a very bad place.
00:08:55.480 It's a bad place.
00:08:57.040 So let's start with that. Talk to me a little bit about what you see of where the right is taking us online.
00:09:04.340 And I'll start this with the caveat that, like, the right is a big thing. It's obviously not a single thing. There's different people on the right who are, you know, big are Republicans, hold different perspectives. And the question, you know, when I talk about Republicans, what I'm talking about is Republican leadership and what I see as the controlling faction of the party and the controlling faction of the ideological movement. Right. Which at the moment is MAGA. It's Donald Trump. And it's all of his acolytes.
00:09:31.100 And what I see happening is that MAGA is but a step towards Christian nationalism, that the eventual goal is Christian nationalism. And I don't really say that to be hyperbolic. It's legitimately what I see happening.
00:09:47.060 And part of this has been because I'm in sort of not the true depths of like truly I am not on like truth social or anything like that. I'm just on Instagram and sometimes Twitter and threads. But what I see them talking about amongst themselves.
00:10:01.620 And it is this vision of an America in which men are men, women are women. True men hold complete and utter authority over their domains, which means the president's an authoritarian, right? And they use violence to maintain that authoritarianism. And women are women. And that means women don't have access to any reproductive choices.
00:10:22.840 There is none of the protections for people of color, you know, women, anything in the workplace, right? 1.00
00:10:29.540 Like all of those things are pushed to the wayside and may return to their idealized version of history once the Constitution was written in which the men in power have complete absolute power. 0.99
00:10:43.080 Yep. Yep. That is that's exactly the same thing I'm seeing. 0.54
00:10:46.140 Yeah. And, you know, and I think that, right, what we see, we see this information is not merely just from tweets from D.C. Drano. Right. Like this is we see this as part of their legal strategy that they've been working on for 50 years.
00:11:00.080 Right. Like we see this in who is becoming powerful in the Republican Party, who is ascending. Right. Like Speaker Johnson is not he's not no one. Right. Like the guy is Speaker of the House. They chose him. And we know what his history is. We know what his political perspective is. We know who his allies are who helped him get there.
00:11:18.200 Like there's different. We see what they're doing with their media empire and their disaggregated media empires. Right. Like we see what they're doing with churches. Turning Point USA has an entire faith based component of their programming that is growing bigger and bigger every day.
00:11:35.400 And frankly, like. The degree to which faith based organizations and specifically Christian evangelical organizations who have a very particular interpretation of what biblical conservatism is, you know, we see what that what they're trying to achieve.
00:11:50.180 And we're taking it's all these pieces of information that we are putting together in addition to the actual laws that they are trying to get passed in states across this country.
00:12:00.120 It's a dangerous place to have an electorate that doesn't know that, mostly because I think that our news media has become so fragmented. And that's why I think that the things you're doing are so important. Again, reaching people where they're at. So once again, thank you. Thank you for your service.
00:12:19.580 thank you thank you for seeing it yes i see you i do thank you um i want to talk a little bit about
00:12:25.900 the influences from influencers from and especially female influencers every time you post about
00:12:34.540 trad wives or some of these more far-right uh evangelical christian influencers my entire
00:12:43.200 audience sends me you're you're real every single time every so you then you were really in my phone
00:12:48.980 You were just up in my grill in my phone.
00:12:51.820 Dreams do come true.
00:12:53.660 Right?
00:12:54.260 Because everything you post about it is so smart. 0.97
00:12:56.860 So talk to me a little bit about what you've seen in the lay of the land of the trad wives. 0.89
00:13:02.300 So, look, I'm a middle-aged white woman. 0.58
00:13:05.300 I actually do live in a city, though everything about me says suburbia. 0.99
00:13:09.040 Like, I'm a bitch who loves Target. 0.99
00:13:11.740 Love a Target. 0.99
00:13:12.580 You know what else I love?
00:13:13.300 I love an Olive Garden.
00:13:14.320 Oh, I haven't been to Olive Garden in a while.
00:13:16.460 You should go because I went recently and the unlimited breadsticks are not nothing.
00:13:21.860 They are not nothing.
00:13:23.920 I have a strong theory that like you have to go to a suburban Olive Garden for it to be good.
00:13:28.580 Like a city-based Olive Garden is not a good Olive Garden. 0.99
00:13:30.960 No, that one in Times Square is bullshit. 0.99
00:13:32.940 Yeah. 0.92
00:13:33.660 So, yeah, you know, so my point of saying that is to say like I am being targeted by the same algorithm that a lot of my followers and your followers are being targeted by.
00:13:45.140 and i am feel like it has created the same emotional resonance in me that i'm hearing
00:13:50.400 from so many people and i think this is largely because what the right does so well is develop
00:13:55.820 talking points and ideologies that respond to vibes right and the vibes right now are like
00:14:01.900 i i cannot deal with this life that i have been assigned there is too much going on too much
00:14:08.680 cacophony i feel like this can't be how we should be living which is 100 true like we are not
00:14:14.140 intended to have this much information being thrown at us and have like living be this much
00:14:19.080 of a struggle um and you know the economic stratification in this country is all-time high
00:14:23.980 etc etc wages um it is a hard fucking life and they're like hey we have a solution for you and 0.74
00:14:30.560 let me just tell you it'll solve all your problems and it's you just like move to a homestead and 0.97
00:14:35.220 you give like your life over to this man and he will make excellent decisions because men are
00:14:39.740 renowned for making excellent decisions. And, you know, you'll just bake sourdough and take care of
00:14:45.960 your beautiful children who will never have any health problems, even though you don't provide
00:14:49.060 them any health care. And you'll live this wonderful life. Or vaccinate them. Right. And no masks,
00:14:56.280 right? Like in all this. And that is sort of the content that I started receiving. And I had been
00:15:03.880 following a lot of right-wing conservative homestead homeschool influencers for a while
00:15:10.880 and the difference that I saw was those people were always fringe and they had fringe audiences
00:15:16.160 and they have moved to mainstream and what I saw is a lot of those people when you really
00:15:22.860 follow down the pipeline they have some connection to either a religious cause or a Republican cause
00:15:30.220 that has helped move them along towards the way and helped proffer, you know, promote that,
00:15:35.240 whether that's because they get advertising revenue from specific companies that I know
00:15:39.220 are right wing companies, because that's something we've seen really, really big on the right is
00:15:42.940 that they've created their own, you know, shopping infrastructure. They're creating their own
00:15:48.020 Amazon. They have their own diaper brand. They have all of this stuff their own. And then those
00:15:51.260 people also, those companies pay Republican influence, conservative influencers, proud
00:15:56.560 wife influencers to post content, right? Like they've created their own ecosystem to get more
00:16:01.640 content out there. And this, in my mind, what I quickly connected it to was the legal and
00:16:09.020 political strategy that we've seen from the right and what they want to see happen with women. And
00:16:14.020 that is they want to see women not have access to the rights and resources that make it possible
00:16:22.400 to be a woman living in the 20 what are we in the 21st century now um 21st um you know and
00:16:29.620 and i don't think the goal of this is to get all women to agree that this is the way it's to just
00:16:37.320 get enough women enough women to vote via the terrible primary process we have in this country
00:16:44.580 via the terrible electoral college we have in this country right to get enough women to support 1.00
00:16:49.300 politicians who will then bring about this change in our country. And I think that's a distinction 0.99
00:16:53.760 that's sometimes hard to make. Like, I'm not arguing that they're trying to get everyone to
00:16:57.600 do it. They're just trying to get the point of the spear to do it, to believe that this is like
00:17:00.900 a good path and to be, you know, if you fundamentally believe all birth control is a toxic poison that
00:17:07.040 wants to destroy your body, you're like, fine, fine. You do you. I don't care. Your body, your
00:17:14.200 choice, man. Right. But, you know, they are they're setting the stage for a group of people
00:17:19.380 to fundamentally support this the ideology behind Christian nationalism.
00:17:26.900 Absolutely. Absolutely. And I think that that is what a lot of people don't see. See beautiful
00:17:32.320 pictures you see or, you know, I mean, I wouldn't even say they're beautiful. I have a hard time
00:17:36.680 saying that. But, you know, what we've been told to perceive as beautiful, you see these pictures
00:17:41.560 and these images of motherhood that is not as messy as what real motherhood is.
00:17:46.740 And it's attractive in the same way that a magazine is nice to thumb through on an airplane
00:17:51.280 or in the bathroom.
00:17:52.280 And you don't realize what you're being spoon fed on the back end.
00:17:56.880 And I think that's what's the most dangerous part of it.
00:17:59.920 Right.
00:18:00.440 I mean, look, this is like the same way that they don't want abortion to be legal.
00:18:04.920 And you're going to go to a crisis pregnancy center and they're going to tell you all the
00:18:08.040 horrible things that are going to happen if you get an abortion.
00:18:10.400 But then they're not going to do anything than provide you like one set of diapers. Right. The movement as a whole. And that's not everybody. That's not every church in the country. But as a whole, the movement is essentially saying like, we're not here to help you in the long run. We're just here to have you make the decision we want you to make. And that's the same as motherhood. Right. Like they just want you to choose motherhood. 0.92
00:18:31.260 They don't really care what happens along the way. Like they don't care if you have access to WIC to be able to feed your baby. They don't care if you have access to, you know, child care, affordable child care. Well, you're not working, so you don't need child care, I guess. But, you know, they don't care if you have access to parks and recreation in your community, because at the end of the day, you should be going to church. You shouldn't be going to a public park.
00:18:55.420 All of these things, right, that we as communities need.
00:18:58.340 They don't care if you're happy.
00:18:59.500 They don't care if your child's happy.
00:19:00.980 They don't even want your child attending public school.
00:19:02.780 So it doesn't matter if there's good public schools.
00:19:04.600 They want your child homeschooled or in a Christian, you know, private school that's funded through vouchers.
00:19:12.060 So I think that that's a big part of the equation.
00:19:15.100 And sometimes people think it's I get a lot of DMs that are like they're being hypocritical.
00:19:19.540 I'm like, no, this is what they mean.
00:19:21.860 They don't care.
00:19:22.820 What the right has done is for the past decade, invest in social media and it's disaggregated. It's not like it's not a single organization. Turning Point has really excelled at it, but it's not only them. There's lots and lots of groups that are doing this and they have invested in creating a lot of noise.
00:19:41.460 We are going to take a quick break here. And when we get back, we're going to talk about all that noise.
00:19:46.020 All the noise.
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00:24:27.540 that we sent you. And we're back. One of the things that I wanted to ask Emily is if this
00:24:38.140 has been strategic from the outset, or if people are just trying a lot of different things to see
00:24:44.340 what people like, to see what the algorithm likes, and then doing more and more and more of it.
00:24:50.980 Part of the thing I don't think people sort of realize about the internet is the degree to which
00:24:54.800 it's like spaghetti at the wall. It's just about creating massive amounts of content and getting
00:25:00.140 tons of people to each individually create tons and tons of content. And that starts things. And
00:25:05.080 then people go off on their own, right? Like the Tradwife thing has now reached far beyond the
00:25:10.460 tentacles of Turning Point USA. They are just starting it and keeping that political backbone
00:25:16.100 in play. And so I think part of what the left needs to do is produce more content that isn't
00:25:25.360 only focused on progressive activists. When people like political scientists do analysis
00:25:32.120 of the factions, like political factions, right? Like there's not, it's not merely the left and
00:25:37.740 the right. There's different ways you can categorize the groups and the left. You know,
00:25:42.500 we have progressive activists. We have the disengaged. We have baseline Democrats like
00:25:47.200 we have all these different groups of people. We have moderates who at this point vote for Democrat
00:25:51.640 and, you know, people who are moderate, people who are independent. There's all different ways
00:25:56.480 to define it. But I think one of the things we need to start doing is creating more content
00:26:01.100 that is directed towards all of these groups of people who are not progressive activists,
00:26:06.120 because the reality is different people want to consume different content, and that is okay.
00:26:10.620 We don't all need to be consuming the same content, but we on the left should be producing
00:26:15.280 more content. You have called Instagram a virtual public square, and posting on your Instagram is a
00:26:23.100 form of political action, and I love that because it's true. This is where we're at, right? This is
00:26:29.940 where we're having conversations. Talk to me a little more about that and how you think we can
00:26:35.400 all be influencers, which you've also said, we can all influence the people close to us
00:26:40.000 through these platforms.
00:26:41.180 Yeah.
00:26:41.400 I mean, you know, again, this is part of my the train has left the station ideology.
00:26:44.860 There has been this incredibly incredible dismissiveness of social media as this like
00:26:50.140 vacuous place where people only have ridiculous discussions about shoes, which is a whole
00:26:55.540 other conversation that you've had on this platform about how, you know, they're the
00:26:59.860 inherent misogyny that colors people's views of Instagram and the people who post on it.
00:27:05.400 But, you know, that is where people are going to see other people talk about issues that matter to them.
00:27:13.500 Right. Whether it's Instagram or TikTok or whatever platform that they use.
00:27:17.440 But the idea that like it's it's not important continues to baffle me.
00:27:22.660 And what is this? What is a public square?
00:27:25.420 It is a place where a bunch of people go and you listen to have to other people having conversations.
00:27:30.020 There's narrative setting. It's where you determine the values of your community.
00:27:33.700 it's where you help determine where your community is headed. And it's through having
00:27:37.760 constant and iterative conversations. And that's what we do on the internet. And of course, there's
00:27:43.940 factors that make it difficult, right? Like there's algorithms that make people louder than
00:27:50.560 they should be. It's not as if in the like olden times, there weren't certain actors who got a lot
00:27:57.400 more speaking time than others like we have a significant history of white men being totally
00:28:04.160 in charge of public squares right like it's yes yes it's it's not as if that sort of perversion 0.77
00:28:10.540 of the public square is anything new in the history of this country and so yes it is there
00:28:16.900 but there's also this incredible opportunity and I think Instagram in particular is one of the best
00:28:20.600 places to have these public square conversations because you are allowed you are able to cultivate
00:28:24.700 a specific community in a way that you aren't able to do on other platforms.
00:28:30.900 In political science and politics stuff, there is this really big focus on relational organizing,
00:28:35.940 the idea that like getting a cold call from a stranger isn't going to get you out to vote,
00:28:39.500 but getting a call from someone you know is going to get you out to vote.
00:28:43.180 And the reality is when you are posting on your Instagram, you're posting on your story
00:28:46.900 and your followers are saying that they are getting a call from you, right?
00:28:49.940 Like they are getting an outreach from you about what you think that they should do.
00:28:54.060 And it's also in a way to have a conversation. And the parasocial relationships, they are very real. And so whether it's someone you actually know or someone who you only have this Internet relationship with, it is incredibly meaningful and powerful. And I think something that we can harness. But it's only it only works if like lots of people who hold reasonable views are talking about them online and using the platform.
00:29:19.580 And again, like, it's not perfect. I am shadow banned constantly. Like, are you? I've started I've started to be shadow banned lately. Yeah. And I, you know, and it definitely like, again, I'm I'm in no way, shape or form like a defender of meta. But it is it's it's not as if it's like we're going to stop people from going on.
00:29:41.500 Like I'm certainly not going to stop as a consumer. Right. Like and I'm not going to start going to bowling league just no matter how many how much content I get that convinces me my life will be better if I do or it's not bowling league.
00:29:54.140 It's like going to a needlepoint night.
00:29:56.000 But, you know, I think that it's sort of like it's the current hand we are being dealt.
00:30:02.920 And it's not as if, right, like I get DMs every day about people who are like, your post on XYZ thing has caused me to make this change in my life.
00:30:12.560 It's not as if you I'm constantly being reinforced with the idea that posting on the Internet about politics does create positive change.
00:30:20.340 And it's not like big things most of the time.
00:30:23.360 It's small things.
00:30:24.140 But all of those small things really, really add up.
00:30:27.020 They really add up.
00:30:27.700 And I want to post an example that you have on your site.
00:30:30.900 Someone sent you a message, and I'm going to read it right now.
00:30:33.700 This is after you encouraged people to speak up on their Instagram.
00:30:37.400 And she said,
00:30:38.000 Hi, Emily, I have 200 followers on Instagram and was pretty doubtful that my posts about gun violence and political advocacy were reaching anyone.
00:30:46.000 Today at a playdate at the park, a fellow mom asked me about my posts and how she could get involved in advocating to protect our kids.
00:30:53.440 Because of you, I was fully confident to have this conversation.
00:30:57.080 A few hours later, she texted me about loving your phone calls, not flowers campaign.
00:31:03.160 Like, that's not nothing.
00:31:05.120 It's not nothing.
00:31:05.440 That is awesome.
00:31:06.960 And I get DMs like that pretty much every single day, which is absolutely wild.
00:31:12.260 And I don't quantify it in any meaningful way.
00:31:15.600 I probably should.
00:31:17.100 But I don't want to spend time doing that.
00:31:18.520 I like spending time doing things I love.
00:31:20.420 But, you know, the thing about political action is people really it has been drilled down to these like big issues, right?
00:31:30.480 Like it's about like who's going to win the presidential race.
00:31:32.620 There's nothing I can do that'll change who's going to win the presidential race.
00:31:35.500 But the reality is politics is much, much more than the president.
00:31:39.480 It's everyone down to your local city council member, your school board.
00:31:43.180 But like we've seen with all of the book banning how critical school boards and library boards are.
00:31:47.800 These are political, you know, institutions that largely went completely ignored until a couple of years ago. And to this day, there is still no there's nowhere that exists that has all the library boards like on a list. We don't even know how many library boards there are in this country, which is wild to me.
00:32:06.600 But I think that the goal is helping people to figure out a what is politically meaningful to them, right? Like I have my I have my own policy issues that I really care about. But my goal is always to give people the tools to say, like, these are the ones that I really care about. And here's what I can do to act on this in a way that's sustainable for me.
00:32:26.840 Like, if you have two jobs and you have to take care of three kids and your mother-in-law, you're not going to be volunteering two days a week on a campaign. 0.84
00:32:35.500 Like, that's ridiculous.
00:32:36.440 But you might be able to make a phone call every week, right? 0.86
00:32:38.320 Like, and that is meaningful.
00:32:40.380 You might be able to have conversations with people at your job about the issues that you care about and about the importance of voting and maybe give them some resources.
00:32:48.220 There's all of these small things that everybody can be doing.
00:32:51.380 And at the end of the day, we still have a democracy.
00:32:54.100 We should all be doing stuff to make sure that we keep that democracy in 2025.
00:32:59.460 But, you know, whilst we still have it, we can all move the country in the direction that we want. 0.97
00:33:04.740 It's not going to happen immediately, but it happens, you know, in small iterative steps only through people actually doing shit. 0.99
00:33:13.920 Through people actually doing shit. 0.98
00:33:14.900 And I have a personal example, too. During our recent mayor's race, I was I was supporting an awesome female candidate, Rebecca Reinhart. I loved her. And I volunteered for the campaign to do door knocking. 0.99
00:33:29.400 people hate it when you knock on their doors they just i've never felt so just i've never felt so
00:33:38.600 bad as when i i get doors slammed in my face of people that i know vote democrat of people that
00:33:43.380 i know actually probably would like to support our candidate because it it does feel like an
00:33:47.920 interruption of personal space so i stopped doing that and started posting on on my instagram and
00:33:53.960 said hey my dms are open i'm here ask me any question you have about rebecca let's chat and
00:34:00.600 that was so much more effective than any door knocking that i could have done it really was
00:34:06.960 yeah and you know the democratic elite if they exist right like the people who are running
00:34:12.820 um you know democratic clubs and institutions whatever they are in cities and in states um
00:34:19.640 across this country, they have the way that they have always done things. And the reality is it's
00:34:24.280 probably boomers who are the ones who are making these decisions and the people who are in charge 0.76
00:34:28.160 of the campaign are just doing what everyone has always done. And that doesn't mean we have to do 0.56
00:34:32.740 shit that way. Right. And we can change. And it is the reality is people want to hear from people 0.98
00:34:40.280 they have relationships with. They don't want to hear from a stranger, especially in today's
00:34:44.620 environment where things are so polarized in this country, it has become increasingly hard to have
00:34:50.700 conversations with people whom you do not have any trust with. And so, you know, you probably
00:34:56.940 changed a bunch of people's minds. And then if each one of those people changed a couple of
00:35:01.400 people's minds, right, like it's this is like classic chain letter theory just applied to
00:35:08.100 meaningful civic change. Exactly. Exactly. I have one last question for you. You started this
00:35:16.140 as a hobby, but now you have more than 100,000 followers. You're an influencer.
00:35:20.860 Do you consider yourself an influencer? Yeah, for sure. Absolutely. And it's a badge I hold
00:35:25.280 with pride. And, you know, I think that and again, I love Instagram and I think it's really
00:35:30.420 interesting how we've seen people move away from the term influencer to creator. And I think it's
00:35:34.500 like steeped in misogyny. But, you know, I definitely consider myself an influencer because
00:35:40.020 my goal every day is to influence and persuade people. And I think that there's everyone who has
00:35:46.920 this platform is also an influencer in their, you know, of the people that they they who follow
00:35:53.880 them, right, like of the people who are in their community. And that's might be online. That might
00:35:57.520 be their mother. A lot of women I know have changed their dad's voting patterns because of 1.00
00:36:04.260 conversations like they have that influence um you know i am very very proud to hold the badge 0.99
00:36:10.140 of an influencer and i too want a rothy's sponsorship because i love those fucking shoes
00:36:16.180 same i would really like rothy's to sponsor this podcast and i would also like def like 0.93
00:36:24.020 certain brands of period panties to sponsor this podcast i mean they're you know yeah hey you know
00:36:30.680 And I think that one of the interesting things that has happened on Instagram, right, is that it has become like everything, right?
00:36:38.240 Like it has it has become sort of disaggregated.
00:36:40.640 And I remember in like the early days of Instagram where it was just like cool girls and they were telling us what they bought and it was so exciting.
00:36:49.440 And then those cool girls needed to get paid.
00:36:51.480 And then they started telling us what stuff they liked, i.e. people who paid them to do it. 1.00
00:36:57.020 And I totally get that.
00:36:58.700 But I think that there's still lots of people like you can find people constantly focus on those influencers. Right. Like people with four million followers. But or one million, whatever. But there's also lots of people like me on the Internet who have like 100 to 200,000 followers. Right. Like are continually posting about actual things that they actually like and sharing their actual views. And there's people with more followers who are still doing that.
00:37:24.140 So I think that, you know, we the conversations about influencers have largely moved towards only focusing on sort of like the worst offenders.
00:37:33.760 But there are lots and lots of people doing really, really interesting things.
00:37:37.380 Lots of women of color who are speaking out about really, really important issues.
00:37:41.960 And we have the opportunity to listen to them through this incredible platform in a way that like I sitting in my house alone working day in, day out would never have had the opportunity to hear from these people.
00:37:51.820 And I get to while continuing to sit in my house.
00:37:56.960 I love that. And same, same here.
00:37:59.380 And also not just while sitting in my house, but while being way more present for three kids under the age of seven.
00:38:08.440 And I've been breeding for three years and have still had this opportunity through podcasts, through social media to have a platform that I would not have otherwise and still get to see my kids.
00:38:20.720 Let's connect it back to the beginning, which is, you know, what's incredibly important for people who want to have a dictatorial control over the political process in this country so that they can pollute rivers and pay less taxes is the people who would not vote for them to be disenfranchised.
00:38:37.420 And one of the key aspects of getting disenfranchised is having less access to information, right? Like the Republicans, like the Koch brothers would love nothing more than for women to not have access to political information that could radicalize them, to become politically active Democrats.
00:38:53.300 And I saw Charlie Kirk post. Charlie Kirk is a big Republican conservative MAGA influencer. He was the founder of Turning Point USA. And I saw him post something recently where he was like, we're going to outbreed them. We're all going to have tons and tons of kids. We're going to be like the Mormons. And how are they ever going to have any more Democrats if they aren't breeding like us?
00:39:18.560 And I was like, where do you think that all Democrats come from? 0.75
00:39:22.700 Like, do you think Democrats only come from Democrats?
00:39:25.380 But the thing is, it's not only about them breeding.
00:39:27.800 It's about them then limiting those kids access to information, right?
00:39:31.820 Making sure that they only go to schools where they're only presented the information.
00:39:35.240 And this is where we get into the book bans.
00:39:37.240 We get into the killing of public education in this country.
00:39:40.640 We get into their campaign against colleges because, of course, colleges and learning
00:39:45.040 things creates Democrats and all of this stuff.
00:39:48.260 So I think that one of the things that social media offers is the opportunity to get information out there to help raise consciousnesses in a way that is limitless.
00:40:00.780 And for busy moms who are busy raising children, which is a full-time fucking job, and then they probably still have to have a full-time job because it's hard to afford to live in this country right now, it's a way to make it really easy for them to get information in a way that's not overly taxing and can fit into their life.
00:40:18.260 i i can't put it any better that's that is perfect that is a perfect description
00:40:25.000 and we can we can end on that will you tell everyone where to find you in their phone
00:40:31.340 please follow me on instagram at emily in your phone and i also have a sub stack which every
00:40:35.520 single day i promise that i will restart and re-engage because i have lots and lots of things
00:40:39.900 that i think of that i want to tell everyone every single day but the question is can i find the time
00:40:44.060 to do it right i mean i i actually i do love substack and i love we i have a substack called
00:40:50.440 over the influence and it's been awesome and i will tell you i write most of them on my phone
00:40:56.920 while in transit or in the bathroom or like after my kids are when my kids are going to sleep and
00:41:04.500 they make me lay on the couch for 10 minutes and uh that is that is how i am finding the time to
00:41:09.060 write them yours should be joe from the toilet joe from the toilet joe you know what that would 0.98
00:41:13.680 go fucking viral. I already see the cover photo. You know what? Here's the thing on the internet. 0.96
00:41:20.180 There is no bad way, right? There is no bad way. No bad way. Will that sell books? Fine. I'll do it.
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